I GHOSTED My Girlfriend When She Put Our Lives In Danger r/Relationships

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[00:00:21] [SPEAKER_00]: Now today's first story comes from FewRelative4595 and says Am I the Arsehole Here For Ghosting

[00:00:27] [SPEAKER_00]: My Girlfriend After She Nearly Killed Both Of Us.

[00:00:32] [SPEAKER_00]: So my girlfriend 20FM and I 22M have been together for a little over 10 months now.

[00:00:38] [SPEAKER_00]: We haven't had any heated arguments or fights except for the fact that she keeps tickling

[00:00:43] [SPEAKER_00]: me randomly despite the fact that I've repeatedly told her to never do it again because I can

[00:00:48] [SPEAKER_00]: act strangely to it, something from my childhood which I won't delve into.

[00:00:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Now to get to the current situation. This week I've had my car returned from a paint

[00:00:58] [SPEAKER_00]: job and some major look changes and I was really satisfied with the results so I took

[00:01:03] [SPEAKER_00]: a day off from work and took my girlfriend on a short trip outside the city. We drove

[00:01:08] [SPEAKER_00]: to a lake, ate some food and relaxed for a couple of hours until it got pretty dark

[00:01:12] [SPEAKER_00]: and we decided to head back home to get some sleep as I had to go to work the next day

[00:01:17] [SPEAKER_00]: and she had an exam. On the way home I started talking about how happy I felt, how the paint

[00:01:23] [SPEAKER_00]: job turned out and out of nowhere she starts tickling me. I pushed her hand away and told

[00:01:29] [SPEAKER_00]: her to stop then she reached for my ribs with both hands and got me swerving off the road.

[00:01:35] [SPEAKER_00]: Thankfully nobody was hurt although my car got some pretty deep scratches but that doesn't

[00:01:40] [SPEAKER_00]: even matter anymore. As I already slowed down after her first attempt to tickle me I'll

[00:01:45] [SPEAKER_00]: admit that I told her what the fuck is wrong with you as soon as we stepped out of the

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_00]: car and she started crying but I couldn't care less as I felt as if my veins were about

[00:01:55] [SPEAKER_00]: to pop. When we got home I told her to pack her things and go to her best friend but she

[00:02:00] [SPEAKER_00]: threw a tantrum and begged me to forgive her for her little mistake. I didn't say a word

[00:02:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I simply stared in disgust and pointed to her luggage. After her friend picked her up

[00:02:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I tried to go to sleep but my mind was racing so I barely got any rest. This happened on

[00:02:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Tuesday and she'd been blowing up my phone ever since but I haven't answered any calls

[00:02:21] [SPEAKER_00]: or texts and just blocked her. This led to a friend coming to my house and telling me

[00:02:26] [SPEAKER_00]: to at least hear my girlfriend out but I told her to fuck off and leave me alone which made

[00:02:31] [SPEAKER_00]: her tell me that I'm more in love with the car than with my girlfriend. So am I the asshole

[00:02:36] [SPEAKER_00]: in this situation? Should I talk to my girlfriend? I already feel like I can't trust her after

[00:02:41] [SPEAKER_00]: what happened and that our relationship can't be fixed.

[00:03:11] [SPEAKER_00]: repeatedly never to do this because of something during your childhood and she's continued

[00:03:17] [SPEAKER_00]: to do it time and time again by the sounds of it. Absolutely not the asshole in any way

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_00]: shape or form. The question does go through my head is like why? Why the bloody hell would

[00:03:29] [SPEAKER_00]: you do this time and time again when you've been told no? But Pete Penguin says not the

[00:03:33] [SPEAKER_00]: asshole she's a fucking idiot. It wasn't just a little mistake. You don't mess with someone

[00:03:38] [SPEAKER_00]: while they're driving period. You've also told her time and time again not to tickle

[00:03:43] [SPEAKER_00]: you and she refuses to respect that boundary to the point of putting you and everyone on

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_00]: the road around you in danger. She can fuck right off in my opinion.

[00:03:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Finally damn says I am a 42 female married. My kids are 11 and 9. I've taught them that

[00:04:00] [SPEAKER_00]: they cannot argue and shout in the car to not distract the driver as all of our lives

[00:04:04] [SPEAKER_00]: could be put at risk. The kick of me was when she did it a second time after you told

[00:04:08] [SPEAKER_00]: her to stop. OP you may have many girlfriends over the years but you will only have one

[00:04:14] [SPEAKER_00]: life not the asshole my dude kick her ass to the curb.

[00:04:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Dawn Shack says not the asshole what your girlfriend did could have ended in manslaughter

[00:04:23] [SPEAKER_00]: and even before that her tickling you when you told her repeatedly that it disturbs you

[00:04:27] [SPEAKER_00]: was abusive and disrespectful. Her tickling you while you were driving was insanely cruel

[00:04:33] [SPEAKER_00]: and dangerous. I'm sorry but there is nothing to talk about here. She has shown you what

[00:04:37] [SPEAKER_00]: she is. Believe her and don't let her near you.

[00:04:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Amazing Cabinet replies that and says even without the childhood trauma tickling someone

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_00]: driving a hurtling missile going down the road is so incredibly stupid and dangerous

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_00]: that it shows the absolute immaturity of this girl. She needs to grow up before dating anyone

[00:04:55] [SPEAKER_00]: else. It has nothing to do with valuing your car more than your girl. It's valuing your

[00:04:59] [SPEAKER_00]: life more than your girl's petty feelings.

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_00]: One more comment from Slimfatboy who says the last sentence made me so fucking mad.

[00:05:08] [SPEAKER_00]: Not the asshole is she out of her mind? It wouldn't be a little mistake anymore if you

[00:05:13] [SPEAKER_00]: actually sent someone to the hospital or worse into the grave. This was so fucking dangerous

[00:05:18] [SPEAKER_00]: for everybody and she acts like an idiot about it. And what the hell is the friends deal?

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Does she have any rational thinking going on? You dodged a ballistic missile this woman

[00:05:29] [SPEAKER_00]: would have sent you into a coma and still would insist that she did nothing wrong. Take

[00:05:33] [SPEAKER_00]: care man and stay away from her. You did not overreact at all.

[00:05:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Toopi came in with an update and says the past couple of hours have been insane honestly.

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Before the actual update I just wanted to sort some things out. I've seen people talking

[00:05:49] [SPEAKER_00]: about this post being rage bait or fake. Honestly I wish it was but I actually needed to hear

[00:05:54] [SPEAKER_00]: some opinions on what happened. Some people talked about me having anger issues. This

[00:05:59] [SPEAKER_00]: is not true at all. I never snapped at her like this for tickling me, let alone hitting

[00:06:03] [SPEAKER_00]: her or anything like this. But in the rage of the moment I couldn't keep my mouth shut.

[00:06:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I might consider myself to be a calm person but that doesn't mean I will laugh and giggle

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_00]: through stupid stuff. The actual crash happened at a speed that could have killed us if I

[00:06:17] [SPEAKER_00]: swerved in the wrong direction. I was driving on a country road and could have frontally

[00:06:21] [SPEAKER_00]: hit a car coming from the other direction as the speed at which the crash happened was

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_00]: around 40mph-65kmh particularly in part on childhood trauma. I've mentioned that to

[00:06:32] [SPEAKER_00]: my now ex girlfriend around 3 months into our relationship but as many pointed the obvious

[00:06:38] [SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't dating the sharpest tool in the shed and it took me a while to realize it. So I

[00:06:42] [SPEAKER_00]: guess I might be a bit dumb as well. I think I might have misused the term ghosting in

[00:06:48] [SPEAKER_00]: my head. Telling her to get out of my house was a clear sign of our relationship status.

[00:06:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Now for the actual update. After reading nearly all the comments I took

[00:06:58] [SPEAKER_00]: the decision to send my ex a message where I told her we should meet face to face. Some

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_00]: people suggested that I should file for a lawsuit but my ex is still in uni and her

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_00]: parents can barely afford helping her. She obviously has done an insanely dumb stunt

[00:07:12] [SPEAKER_00]: but I don't want to punish her parents for it. The car is in the process of getting fixed

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_00]: and I can afford it without major financial issues. Still, I took screenshots of her messages

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_00]: in order for me to have some proof in case the situation escalates.

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_00]: So we met earlier at a coffee shop. She looked as if she'd been crying for a long time but

[00:07:32] [SPEAKER_00]: it didn't change my mind at all. What shocked me was the fact that she leaned in for a kiss

[00:07:37] [SPEAKER_00]: when she saw me as if nothing happened. I stopped her and told her that we need to have a serious

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_00]: conversation. I explained that what happened wasn't because of the car itself but because

[00:07:47] [SPEAKER_00]: of her disrespecting my boundaries and not thinking for a second about what might happen

[00:07:51] [SPEAKER_00]: if she did that thing. Besides that, I also felt disrespected by the fact that her best

[00:07:57] [SPEAKER_00]: friend came knocking at my door to demand things despite not having any rights to do

[00:08:01] [SPEAKER_00]: so which led me to ask my ex if she told her best friend the truth or if she lied about

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_00]: the situation. She said that she only told her friend that we had a small car crash and

[00:08:10] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm pissed at her. Hearing that made me feel disappointed as hell but I did my best to

[00:08:16] [SPEAKER_00]: remain calm. I told her to tell the real story to her friends and family and she raised

[00:08:21] [SPEAKER_00]: her voice and told me that I'm accusing her of being a liar, something that led to

[00:08:25] [SPEAKER_00]: a 15 minute discussion about how the crash was solely her fault and how she put our lives

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_00]: at risk. I asked her if everything's clear to her about our situation and her response

[00:08:35] [SPEAKER_00]: was yep 100% can we go home now. That honestly shocked me. I told her there's no way we

[00:08:41] [SPEAKER_00]: can get back together and I suggested she should be more careful and considerate with

[00:08:45] [SPEAKER_00]: her future partner. Her reaction was all tears, shaking, begging me to reconsider

[00:08:49] [SPEAKER_00]: my decision but I just can't look at her the same. I explained again that for me it

[00:08:54] [SPEAKER_00]: wasn't a small mistake she made, it was a full on stupid decision that shouldn't

[00:08:58] [SPEAKER_00]: be done by an adult as it could have resulted in something deadly. She just thinks I'm

[00:09:03] [SPEAKER_00]: exaggerating and this back and forth argument led to her asking if there's someone else

[00:09:08] [SPEAKER_00]: in my life and I'm just using the accident as an excuse. I denied and told her that she's

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_00]: too selfish to even realize that she broke my trust and disrespects me by saying this

[00:09:17] [SPEAKER_00]: crap. I left the coffee shop feeling like I've been talking to a wall but at least

[00:09:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't say that I didn't try to have a conversation. An hour ago her mum texted

[00:09:27] [SPEAKER_00]: me asking what happened and I told her everything. I said that I don't want any money from

[00:09:31] [SPEAKER_00]: them but the only thing I'm asking for is for my ex to keep her distance from me. She

[00:09:36] [SPEAKER_00]: apologized for what her daughter did and wished me all the best. As for her friend,

[00:09:40] [SPEAKER_00]: from my understanding she just came to my house without talking to my ex on whether

[00:09:43] [SPEAKER_00]: she should do it or not. So I guess she just tried to be the main character in this whole

[00:09:48] [SPEAKER_00]: story. Right now I'm preparing for work but my chest isn't heavy anymore. In case

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_00]: anything will happen in the future I'll keep everyone updated but I hope it won't

[00:09:57] [SPEAKER_00]: be the case lol.

[00:10:00] [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for helping me navigate this weird situation and thanks for all the kind messages.

[00:10:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Hope everyone stays safe.

[00:10:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Edit Sorry this wasn't the drama filled update

[00:10:09] [SPEAKER_00]: some people might have expected but I came here with a desire to get some perspective

[00:10:12] [SPEAKER_00]: on my situation and be as transparent as possible. I never intended to post this story

[00:10:17] [SPEAKER_00]: for votes or anything like that.

[00:10:19] [SPEAKER_00]: And again, absolutely you did the right thing in this situation. It sounds like from very

[00:10:24] [SPEAKER_00]: early on in your relationship that she doesn't respect much of your wishes. You told her

[00:10:30] [SPEAKER_00]: about the tickling thing several times, she continued to do it. When you met up after

[00:10:34] [SPEAKER_00]: all this happened she tried to kiss you immediately and thought your relationship was just going

[00:10:38] [SPEAKER_00]: to go back to normal. That's weird.

[00:10:42] [SPEAKER_00]: So yep, absolutely the right decision in my opinion and I hope you get your car repaired

[00:10:47] [SPEAKER_00]: soon. It sounds like you do like it a lot. But now I'm going to turn this one to you

[00:10:51] [SPEAKER_00]: guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Let me know your thoughts down in the comments

[00:10:55] [SPEAKER_00]: below and let's move on to another story.

[00:10:59] [SPEAKER_00]: Our next story comes from Hauntingwing8451 and says I'm either your arsehole for being

[00:11:04] [SPEAKER_00]: distant from friends over their daughter's name.

[00:11:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I, 35F, am long time friends with a married couple 40M and 42F. I've been distant since

[00:11:16] [SPEAKER_00]: the pandemic when their daughter was born and they just confronted me about it about

[00:11:20] [SPEAKER_00]: an hour ago. I started distancing when the husband started judging me for not making

[00:11:25] [SPEAKER_00]: my marriage work. There are extreme reasons I left that I never really broadcast for my

[00:11:30] [SPEAKER_00]: children's sake. Some was very public which I addressed but the rest I've kept quiet.

[00:11:35] [SPEAKER_00]: But the most recent issue is that I lost a child when I was 18. She was born alive but

[00:11:40] [SPEAKER_00]: survived only a few hours. I chose a name for her that I confided in them. That was very

[00:11:46] [SPEAKER_00]: special to me, a play on family names but appropriate for a very unexpected and traumatic

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_00]: loss. They used the name for their daughter. I had no issue with this but I found out in

[00:11:59] [SPEAKER_00]: the Facebook announcement which brought back some painful and traumatic memories. I didn't

[00:12:04] [SPEAKER_00]: say anything, I don't own the name but I felt very disrespected that they chose not

[00:12:09] [SPEAKER_00]: to even give me a heads up, especially as many in our friend circle know where they got

[00:12:14] [SPEAKER_00]: it and I was put on the spot as far as my reaction. So I just distanced myself from

[00:12:19] [SPEAKER_00]: them. Well about an hour ago I got a message from him that was very angrily worded. Apparently

[00:12:25] [SPEAKER_00]: he had been talking to a mutual friend about me and how I've shown no interest in their

[00:12:29] [SPEAKER_00]: daughter and he mentioned that them using the name without a heads up was very painful

[00:12:34] [SPEAKER_00]: for me and that it had put me on the spot because a lot of people had been asking for

[00:12:37] [SPEAKER_00]: my reaction. He called me selfish and an asshole for trying to sully their joy with my pain

[00:12:44] [SPEAKER_00]: and making everything about me and that I should just get over it. She passed years

[00:12:49] [SPEAKER_00]: ago. In my opinion losing a child is something you never truly get over and I was never rude,

[00:12:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I never spoke badly of them or to them, I won't talk about it with anyone. I've

[00:13:00] [SPEAKER_00]: just chosen to protect myself and remain distant. I wanted them to enjoy their daughter, they

[00:13:05] [SPEAKER_00]: struggled with infertility for years and I'm happy for them. It's just painful for me

[00:13:10] [SPEAKER_00]: and I feel very disrespected with how they handled it. I'm either the asshole, was

[00:13:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I wrong to create distance and a 20 year friendship over this or was my reaction reasonable?

[00:13:21] [SPEAKER_00]: Info, they used both the first and middle name down to the spelling, the only difference

[00:13:26] [SPEAKER_00]: is the last name. The name was a made up mix of my mom and grandpas names and the middle

[00:13:32] [SPEAKER_00]: name was my nickname from them as a child. My mom passed when I was a child and my grandpa

[00:13:36] [SPEAKER_00]: who raised me after my mom passed, passed 3 months before my daughter did.

[00:14:07] [SPEAKER_00]: minimum speaking to OP first and seeing how they feel about it in some kind of way but

[00:14:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I can only question what the fuck is going through their mind at the moment, that's

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_00]: just like, and especially the comment as well, you should just get over it, she passed years

[00:14:22] [SPEAKER_00]: ago. Gee whiz, that is no friend. Bingo bongo quotes the same point and says this person

[00:14:28] [SPEAKER_00]: is not your friend, time to distance yourself permanently, not the asshole. OP responds saying

[00:14:34] [SPEAKER_00]: I haven't responded to his email, I'm waiting until I'm calmer but I can't say I plan

[00:14:38] [SPEAKER_00]: to be kind. There will definitely be a clear boundary that they are never to contact me

[00:14:42] [SPEAKER_00]: again. I wish them well but they definitely do not continue to have any place in my life.

[00:14:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Badass Mel says not the asshole, that's just crazy honestly, people are so numb, the fact

[00:14:54] [SPEAKER_00]: that you distance yourself shows that you're not trying to make it about you and sully

[00:14:59] [SPEAKER_00]: their joy or whatever. Get rid of them, terrible people. I'm sorry that happened to you.

[00:15:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Enseha says did I read it right that someone told him how you felt and now a long time

[00:15:11] [SPEAKER_00]: friend has an attitude towards you though you never told this friend how you felt. You

[00:15:16] [SPEAKER_00]: actually distanced yourself about their judgement towards you and that you should let him know

[00:15:20] [SPEAKER_00]: that is the reason and it didn't help the situation about learning on facebook. OP says

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_00]: yeah you read that right, I never said anything to them, I didn't want to hurt them but I

[00:15:29] [SPEAKER_00]: did tell a couple of other friends how I felt when they checked on me. One of those friends

[00:15:33] [SPEAKER_00]: is who I told him why I've been distant. The judgement against me had me feeling some type

[00:15:38] [SPEAKER_00]: of way but I just ignored it for the most part. The way they named their daughter though

[00:15:42] [SPEAKER_00]: I couldn't ignore and I just stopped all contact.

[00:15:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Commenter replies satin says they can't argue that they had no idea how it would affect you.

[00:15:50] [SPEAKER_00]: You didn't go off on them or make some vague book post on it. He didn't like being called

[00:15:54] [SPEAKER_00]: for not giving you the courtesy of at least letting you know. It's one thing to run into

[00:15:59] [SPEAKER_00]: a child that you have no connection to but something completely different to see a child

[00:16:03] [SPEAKER_00]: in your social circle with the same name. It was wrong and they can't take the heat

[00:16:08] [SPEAKER_00]: of judgement.

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_00]: So OP put the update within the same post and says update but everyone's over at the house

[00:16:15] [SPEAKER_00]: and I mean everyone. Both of my friend groups came over. The friend D I sent the screenshot

[00:16:21] [SPEAKER_00]: to last night called everyone and they're all furious. The husband M called the former

[00:16:26] [SPEAKER_00]: friend A and let him know that everyone is cut in ties with him and that he has to leave

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_00]: me alone. Everyone was under the consensus that while the way they handled the name was

[00:16:35] [SPEAKER_00]: an issue it wasn't a deal breaker since I just chose to remove myself and let it go.

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_00]: However, since he chose to attack me unprovoked simply for keeping a healthy distance that's

[00:16:46] [SPEAKER_00]: unforgivable. This is entirely their own reaction. I did not demand they cut ties with him however

[00:16:52] [SPEAKER_00]: keep in mind that these are the people closest to me.

[00:16:55] [SPEAKER_00]: So when I called D last night I was simply reaching out for support and to calm down

[00:16:59] [SPEAKER_00]: because my knee jerk reaction was to say if you want to go low I'll go lower which is

[00:17:04] [SPEAKER_00]: very out of character for me. I made it very clear that I was not continuing any contact

[00:17:09] [SPEAKER_00]: with A and his wife but I was not going to dictate their friendships and love them whether

[00:17:14] [SPEAKER_00]: they stay friends with them or not.

[00:17:17] [SPEAKER_00]: And that was OP's only update on the post but now I'm going to turn this one to you

[00:17:21] [SPEAKER_00]: guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Let me know your thoughts down in the comments

[00:17:27] [SPEAKER_00]: below and let's move on to another story.

[00:17:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Now this story is from NoBlackberry3107 from the MIVRSource subreddit. No update as yet

[00:17:38] [SPEAKER_00]: and it says I'm either the asshole for disinviting a friend from an event after she gave my ticket

[00:17:43] [SPEAKER_00]: to her sister.

[00:17:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Back when MIVRS tour tickets were released my friend Sadie said she would grab us tickets

[00:17:49] [SPEAKER_00]: and I'd pay her back. We made concrete plans and I was excited. I've been a swifty for

[00:17:54] [SPEAKER_00]: years but haven't seen her live. Had to sell my rep stadium tour tickets back in 2010s

[00:18:00] [SPEAKER_00]: because my mom was dying and I needed the money to help pay medical bills. I booked

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_00]: the hotel.

[00:18:06] [SPEAKER_00]: This past weekend I was having a little get together for a bunch of friends and Sadie

[00:18:10] [SPEAKER_00]: was of course invited. At some point she pulled me aside and told me that she had news, she

[00:18:15] [SPEAKER_00]: is leaving in September. I was heartbroken. We've been friends for years and I love spending

[00:18:20] [SPEAKER_00]: time with her. I got weepy and hugged her a bunch and said that we need to get all of

[00:18:25] [SPEAKER_00]: our thrifting trips in over the summer and hang out as much as we could. Then she broke

[00:18:29] [SPEAKER_00]: the news that as a way to bond with her sister before she left, she was going to be taking

[00:18:34] [SPEAKER_00]: her to Eris tour instead. I didn't know how to react. She stood in front of me and then

[00:18:40] [SPEAKER_00]: mowed me my payment back. She was like, I know you understand. I said that this was

[00:18:46] [SPEAKER_00]: a sneaky move and honestly really shitty of her. I didn't understand how or why she would

[00:18:51] [SPEAKER_00]: do that to me. She got defensive and said that they were under her name and that she

[00:18:55] [SPEAKER_00]: didn't owe me anything. I was like yes they are your tickets, legally you can do whatever

[00:19:01] [SPEAKER_00]: you want but this is still a really shitty and sneaky thing to do to your friend knowing

[00:19:05] [SPEAKER_00]: that there is no way I'll be able to get my own tickets at this point. She just kinda

[00:19:09] [SPEAKER_00]: shrugged and said sorry but I figured you'd understand. I asked her to leave and told

[00:19:14] [SPEAKER_00]: her to please not come back for the 4th of July party next week. I said I needed to process

[00:19:19] [SPEAKER_00]: this and I'm really disappointed with her and how she's treated me. This is a girl who

[00:19:23] [SPEAKER_00]: I consult through breakups, job losses, pet losses etc. She looked shocked and asked if

[00:19:28] [SPEAKER_00]: I was serious. She ended up stomping off and leaving and texted me later to tell me that

[00:19:33] [SPEAKER_00]: she's around if I want to apologize for making her feel bad about taking her sister on a

[00:19:38] [SPEAKER_00]: bonding trip. I'm honestly heartbroken that I'm going to be watching my show on a grainy

[00:19:43] [SPEAKER_00]: live stream instead of being there in the stadium with everyone. I was looking forward

[00:19:48] [SPEAKER_00]: to this so much. I checked the resale sites and had a sad little cry about it. I'm wondering

[00:19:54] [SPEAKER_00]: if I'm completely wrong to have just uninvited her. Is that too far? If it was in say a month

[00:19:59] [SPEAKER_00]: or two, I don't think I would have. I just need time.

[00:20:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Hi everyone and thank you for your responses so far. I just wanted to follow up by saying

[00:20:08] [SPEAKER_00]: that I appreciate the sentiment but I'm not going to sue her over this. I don't really

[00:20:13] [SPEAKER_00]: think that is a normal reaction or something that I would enjoy doing. Please don't hate

[00:20:17] [SPEAKER_00]: me.

[00:20:17] [SPEAKER_00]: So, little petty me's coming out in this one straight away. I remember in the first

[00:20:23] [SPEAKER_00]: paragraph OP said that they booked the hotel. He he he. And look, this is a really shitty

[00:20:30] [SPEAKER_00]: thing to do and what she said to you is like I don't owe you anything. Just seems like

[00:20:35] [SPEAKER_00]: a real shitty thing to say to your friend. And in my opinion, that ticket was yours because

[00:20:40] [SPEAKER_00]: she Venmo'd you the payment back. You paid for that ticket. Again in the first paragraph

[00:20:45] [SPEAKER_00]: she said she would grab us tickets and I'd pay her back. You know, the plans were made.

[00:20:50] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm just going to read one comment from RonStoppable88 who says not the arsehole. You had an agreement.

[00:20:55] [SPEAKER_00]: She buys the ticket and you pay her. She bought the tickets. You paid her. She owes you a

[00:21:00] [SPEAKER_00]: ticket. Yes, she refunded you but you had been successful in small claims to sue for

[00:21:05] [SPEAKER_00]: breach of contract. The remedy would be to enforce the contract or award damages which

[00:21:10] [SPEAKER_00]: would be the difference in cost between what the original ticket was and what they are now.

[00:21:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Did you get a refund for the hotel? If not, then she straight up fucked you over.

[00:21:19] [SPEAKER_00]: You've been a really good friend to me. I know you're really excited for the concert.

[00:21:23] [SPEAKER_00]: I know you paid me and I know you booked the hotel. But here's your money back and I'm

[00:21:27] [SPEAKER_00]: giving the ticket to my sister. I know you'll be disappointed and I know you can't afford

[00:21:31] [SPEAKER_00]: the scout prices but I think you understand that I'm a terrible friend.

[00:21:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely. Imagine doing that to your friend. That's wild.

[00:21:41] [SPEAKER_00]: But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:21:48] [SPEAKER_00]: How should OP deal with it? Is there the possibility of small claims? As always, I'm

[00:21:53] [SPEAKER_00]: no legal expert. I don't know anything about that sort of stuff. Let us know your thoughts

[00:21:57] [SPEAKER_00]: down in the comments below.

[00:21:59] [SPEAKER_00]: Just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories.

[00:22:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me. So thank you

[00:22:07] [SPEAKER_00]: so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love.