I Found My Husband's SECRET Momento Box And I'm Shocked With What I Found r/Relationships

[00:00:03] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit stories. And if you do love a Reddit story, why not consider hitting that like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. And let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys.

[00:00:19] Now today's first story comes from FishingThink92 and says, I 26 female found out that my husband 27 male has been keeping a secret box of mementos on the top shelf of our closet. And I don't know what to do about it or if I should even bring it up.

[00:00:38] I 26 female found out that my husband 27 male has been keeping a secret box of mementos on the top shelf of our closet. And I don't know what to do about it or if I should bring it up. Honestly, don't know how the hell I'm supposed to talk about this. I genuinely am in disbelief.

[00:00:57] So backstory my husband, let's call him Lee and I have been together since our sophomore year in high school. We're each other's first everythings. And for the most part, I feel like we honestly have to be a good friend.

[00:01:08] We have a picturesque marriage. I'm currently five months pregnant with our first child and I've taken it upon myself to DIY the guest bedroom into a nursery. But to do that, I wanted to sort through the stuff in there and get rid of anything unnecessary. I think it's relevant to say that I'm pretty short.

[00:01:26] Five foot two, so I don't really store things up high since I can't reach. But my husband's a foot taller than me, so he doesn't have this tendency. Which is how I found the memento box on the top shelf.

[00:01:38] It was just a plain cardboard box, so I didn't think much of it at first. But since I didn't remember putting it up there, I wanted to see if it was something that needed to go into storage or if it was just junk.

[00:01:49] I don't know what I was expecting, but inside the box there was a photo album, a trash bag and a black leather bag. The album just had my name plus Lee's written on the cover.

[00:02:01] So I thought it'd be something sweet because Lee has a tendency to gift me sentimental things.

[00:02:08] But no. The album was full of nude pictures of myself, all of them marked with dates and a short journal-like entry.

[00:02:17] The first one was from our first time when we were teens, and the latest one was marked from the night I surprised him with my pregnancy announcement.

[00:02:25] Most of the pictures are poor quality, but some are clearly of me sleeping after the deed.

[00:02:32] These journal entries talk about how he ranks each experience in his favorite part of it, like some weird logbook.

[00:02:39] Inside the bags were some of my lingerie, and even some old razors and hairbrushes.

[00:02:45] I don't know why on earth he keeps them, but he has two bags full.

[00:02:49] I don't know how or what to do.

[00:02:52] I mean, is this normal behavior? Is this some twisted form of romance on his part?

[00:02:57] A part of me feels like I shouldn't feel as disgusted as I am.

[00:03:01] This violates my own boundaries since I explicitly told him in the past that I was against sending or giving him any nude photos.

[00:03:09] Reddit, what do I do?

[00:03:11] I love my husband, but I'm not sure how to confront him about this.

[00:03:15] Oh, deary me, this is not normal.

[00:03:18] Like you said, you was explicitly against him having about sending him or giving him any nude photos,

[00:03:25] but he's got nude photos of you.

[00:03:28] He's when you've explicitly told him no.

[00:03:31] He's taken them while you're asleep as well.

[00:03:34] I'd be also be concerned about possible, you know, cameras around the place, things like that.

[00:03:40] And then we get onto the hairbrushes and old razors as well.

[00:03:45] Nah, this is freaking me out.

[00:03:47] First commenter says to OP,

[00:03:49] No, this is not normal at all.

[00:03:52] This is also not romantic at all.

[00:03:55] The fact that he took pictures of you sleeping and has them in an album is incredibly concerning.

[00:04:00] Him ranking times you'll had sex is setting off more red flags.

[00:04:04] This is creepy and inappropriate behavior.

[00:04:06] I can't imagine my fiance taking pictures of me sleeping, let alone him keeping a log of our sex life.

[00:04:13] Girl, you have to show him the box and demand answers and don't go easy on him.

[00:04:17] None of this is okay or normal and you should really be concerned as to why he thinks any of that is okay.

[00:04:23] Five months later, OP comes in with an update and says,

[00:04:26] So I'm not sure if anyone cares.

[00:04:28] And while I didn't reply to any of the comments,

[00:04:30] I did end up talking with my husband about it just a few days ago.

[00:04:35] I'm not going to lie.

[00:04:36] I wanted to just act like I didn't see anything and go on with my happy life.

[00:04:40] But after giving birth to my baby girl about a month and a half ago,

[00:04:44] I guess the stress and everything added up and I let it slip in an argument.

[00:04:48] I don't remember all that was said,

[00:04:50] but I was exhausted and my husband,

[00:04:52] while he's been super helpful and took over the household chores for me

[00:04:55] and helps out with our baby girl,

[00:04:58] had just been getting on my nerves.

[00:05:00] I sort of exploded on him in a way I'm not proud of.

[00:05:03] Worst of all,

[00:05:04] he wasn't even doing anything.

[00:05:06] All he had been doing was reminiscing about

[00:05:08] how I used to make a Sims family of us when I was in uni

[00:05:11] and how creepy it was.

[00:05:13] He said it endearingly.

[00:05:15] I don't really know why I got so mad,

[00:05:17] but I basically said something along the lines of,

[00:05:19] He's the creepy one because he has a secret stash of stuff hidden from me.

[00:05:23] I felt really bad because he got all pale and went quiet.

[00:05:26] And then he sort of said he needed space.

[00:05:29] I went to blow off some steam at the shooting range,

[00:05:31] which he does a lot when he needs to think,

[00:05:34] so I didn't question it.

[00:05:35] He came back home around dinner and said he was ready to talk.

[00:05:39] I asked him about all of the things I found,

[00:05:42] especially the photos.

[00:05:43] I reminded him again that I never agreed to making nudes of any sort,

[00:05:48] and he apologized and agreed to burn them.

[00:05:50] Apparently,

[00:05:51] our history goes back further than even I knew,

[00:05:54] as he recounted that we actually met before high school.

[00:05:57] I had no idea,

[00:05:58] but his mom,

[00:05:59] who's a divorce attorney,

[00:06:00] was the very same one my mom used when she separated from her first husband.

[00:06:04] Not my dad.

[00:06:06] I called my mom after to confirm,

[00:06:08] and she told me it was true.

[00:06:10] But her and my mother-in-law never told me

[00:06:12] because my mom's divorce was messy,

[00:06:14] and she hates talking about it.

[00:06:16] Anyways,

[00:06:17] back to the first meeting thing.

[00:06:19] My mother-in-law,

[00:06:21] at the time,

[00:06:21] often had Lee hang out around her office after school.

[00:06:24] It was during one of these days that my mom

[00:06:26] had to take me with her to speak with mother-in-law in person.

[00:06:30] Lee was actually the boy that I played with in the waiting room.

[00:06:34] Can't believe he remembered that because I totally forgot it.

[00:06:38] So,

[00:06:39] according to him,

[00:06:40] that first meeting was the day he knew I was special.

[00:06:44] Lee told me that while he had tried to pass it off as a crush,

[00:06:47] as he got older,

[00:06:48] it never really went away,

[00:06:50] which led him to look into his mom's case files.

[00:06:53] And my state attorneys have to keep them for seven years.

[00:06:55] And he found my mom on Facebook.

[00:06:58] Then my dad and her friends list

[00:06:59] then managed to find my first and last name

[00:07:01] in order to find my Instagram.

[00:07:04] He had convinced his parents to let him transfer

[00:07:06] from his private K-12 school

[00:07:08] to my public high school,

[00:07:09] using the excuse that

[00:07:11] they had a better athletics program,

[00:07:13] which isn't actually far-fetched

[00:07:15] since my high school was one of the best in the state for that.

[00:07:18] Once he found out where I was going,

[00:07:20] thanks to my dumb self for putting it in my bio,

[00:07:23] I thought that us meeting was a sheer coincidence

[00:07:25] and we fell in love naturally,

[00:07:28] a classic sort of high school sweethearts.

[00:07:30] But no,

[00:07:31] Lee orchestrated it all.

[00:07:34] I took my daughter with me

[00:07:35] to stay with my mom and stepdad

[00:07:37] while Lee agreed to stay at home

[00:07:38] and let me think.

[00:07:40] I spoke to my mom

[00:07:41] as well as mother-in-law and father-in-law.

[00:07:43] Lee's parents are not happy with him in all honesty,

[00:07:46] and mother-in-law especially mad

[00:07:48] because of client confidentiality.

[00:07:51] My mom gave me some good advice,

[00:07:53] that being that I should reflect on it.

[00:07:54] Lee had displayed any other red flag behaviors.

[00:07:57] I can honestly say that no,

[00:07:59] he hadn't,

[00:08:00] but since I know I'm biased,

[00:08:02] I asked my friends

[00:08:02] and those close to me

[00:08:04] if they'd noticed anything.

[00:08:05] So far,

[00:08:06] everything else about Lee seems to check out.

[00:08:09] I've never felt endangered by him,

[00:08:11] even when I told him

[00:08:12] I needed some distance for a few days.

[00:08:14] I want to make this marriage work, Reddit,

[00:08:16] but is this something that therapy can fix?

[00:08:20] I hope he left a comment shortly after this

[00:08:22] that said,

[00:08:22] hi,

[00:08:23] this is really late for a reply.

[00:08:24] I'm sorry about that.

[00:08:26] I wasn't ready to acknowledge it for a long time.

[00:08:28] Lee told me that he didn't mean anything by it

[00:08:30] and wanted to just have

[00:08:32] a keepsake collection

[00:08:32] of some memorable moments we shared,

[00:08:34] but he did acknowledge

[00:08:36] that he knew it was wrong

[00:08:37] and apologized

[00:08:38] and promised me

[00:08:39] he'd get rid of the pictures

[00:08:40] by burning them.

[00:08:42] Major red flag.

[00:08:43] There's a small little update

[00:08:44] in a second as well,

[00:08:45] but major red flags from that as well.

[00:08:47] It wasn't just a keepsake collection.

[00:08:49] It was a book of nudes.

[00:08:51] But Opie comes in

[00:08:52] with a small little update

[00:08:53] and says,

[00:08:53] Lee and I have since been going

[00:08:55] to couples counseling

[00:08:56] and he's going to individual therapy.

[00:08:58] After the whole drama

[00:08:59] that happened a few months ago,

[00:09:00] he sort of had a

[00:09:01] come to Christ moment

[00:09:02] where he realized

[00:09:03] that the way he's been obsessing

[00:09:05] over the idea of me

[00:09:06] wasn't the same as healthy love.

[00:09:08] We spent a few weeks apart

[00:09:09] so he could work on himself

[00:09:10] and turned over his device passwords

[00:09:12] and accounts to me

[00:09:14] so I could go through

[00:09:15] and calm my worries

[00:09:15] because I was really anxious

[00:09:17] about the explicit photos.

[00:09:19] Since then though,

[00:09:20] we're back in our house

[00:09:21] and with our baby girl

[00:09:22] and our marriage is back on track

[00:09:24] and better for it.

[00:09:26] So the dude's been obsessive

[00:09:28] and stalky this whole time

[00:09:30] and she was just

[00:09:32] okay with it in the end.

[00:09:33] They're back on track.

[00:09:34] That, oh no, no, no, no, no.

[00:09:37] And I was getting really freaked out

[00:09:39] in the middle of the story

[00:09:39] and this might be just a Brit in me.

[00:09:41] You know,

[00:09:42] I can count the times on one hand

[00:09:43] that I've seen a gun

[00:09:44] in like real life.

[00:09:46] But after like a major revelation

[00:09:48] in their relationship,

[00:09:49] she revealed that she knew

[00:09:50] about this memento box.

[00:09:53] His first reaction is

[00:09:54] I need to go to the shooting range.

[00:09:56] I was like, what the fuck?

[00:09:57] When he can't control his feelings,

[00:09:59] he goes to the shooting range.

[00:10:00] That was fucking,

[00:10:01] that was a big nope for me,

[00:10:02] I'm afraid.

[00:10:03] I think the mum gave shitty advice as well.

[00:10:06] Mum should have been like,

[00:10:07] get your ass out of there.

[00:10:08] You're moving back home

[00:10:09] as into the parents' house.

[00:10:11] Not asking about any other red flags

[00:10:13] because there was plenty there already.

[00:10:15] And I'm sure underneath the surface

[00:10:17] there is more red flags

[00:10:19] along with this.

[00:10:20] I mean,

[00:10:21] that is just huge.

[00:10:22] But what do you guys make

[00:10:23] of this situation?

[00:10:24] Let us know your thoughts down

[00:10:26] in the comments below.

[00:10:28] Let's move on to another story.

[00:10:31] Now our next story comes from

[00:10:32] a throwaway account

[00:10:33] from the Am I the Arsehole

[00:10:35] subreddit

[00:10:36] and says,

[00:10:36] Am I the Arsehole

[00:10:37] for lying to my girlfriend

[00:10:38] in a video game

[00:10:39] about lying?

[00:10:41] With an update

[00:10:42] that came two years later

[00:10:44] and says,

[00:10:45] So this is a situation

[00:10:47] I'm quite surprised

[00:10:48] to find myself in.

[00:10:50] I would say it's actually

[00:10:51] a bit ridiculous

[00:10:52] if I wasn't stuck

[00:10:53] in the middle of it.

[00:10:54] A bit of background.

[00:10:56] My girlfriend,

[00:10:57] female 25,

[00:10:58] and I,

[00:10:58] male 27,

[00:10:59] have been together

[00:11:00] for about eight months.

[00:11:02] Before our relationship,

[00:11:03] my girlfriend spent

[00:11:04] nearly two years

[00:11:05] in a relationship

[00:11:05] with an absolute

[00:11:06] arsehole.

[00:11:07] Not only did he spend

[00:11:09] the entire time

[00:11:09] cheating on her,

[00:11:10] he also constantly

[00:11:12] gaslit her.

[00:11:13] Everything was her fault

[00:11:14] no matter what.

[00:11:16] I wish I had the space

[00:11:17] to describe just how

[00:11:17] fucking awful

[00:11:18] this man was to her.

[00:11:20] We met about six months

[00:11:21] after she finally escaped

[00:11:23] from that relationship.

[00:11:24] From the beginning,

[00:11:25] she has made it clear

[00:11:26] to me that any dishonesty

[00:11:27] is unacceptable to her

[00:11:29] from anyone she is dating,

[00:11:31] even white lies.

[00:11:34] I bring this up

[00:11:35] as it's pretty relevant

[00:11:36] to what this post is about.

[00:11:38] I was playing

[00:11:39] Among Us yesterday

[00:11:40] with a group of friends

[00:11:42] when she came over.

[00:11:43] She watched me play

[00:11:44] for a bit before

[00:11:45] I offered her

[00:11:45] a try herself.

[00:11:47] Has she already done

[00:11:48] a bit of gaming

[00:11:48] with my group?

[00:11:49] She really got into it.

[00:11:51] She really enjoyed it.

[00:11:52] So I pulled out

[00:11:53] my laptop,

[00:11:53] created a Steam account

[00:11:55] for her,

[00:11:55] and bought her the game

[00:11:56] so we could play it together.

[00:11:58] For those who don't know,

[00:11:59] Among Us

[00:12:00] is a social deduction game

[00:12:01] where a group of players

[00:12:02] try to figure out

[00:12:03] who are the imposters

[00:12:05] before the imposters

[00:12:06] succeed in killing them all.

[00:12:08] The imposters

[00:12:08] generally have to be good

[00:12:09] at lying to win.

[00:12:11] I'm sure you can see

[00:12:12] where this is going.

[00:12:14] Second game in,

[00:12:15] I'm an imposter

[00:12:16] and I kill somebody

[00:12:17] right as someone else

[00:12:18] walks into the room.

[00:12:19] They report the body.

[00:12:21] Now,

[00:12:21] there's only me,

[00:12:22] the guy who saw me,

[00:12:23] and my girlfriend left.

[00:12:25] He accuses me

[00:12:26] of being the imposter

[00:12:27] and I accuse him.

[00:12:28] My girlfriend

[00:12:29] is the deciding vote.

[00:12:31] She doesn't know

[00:12:31] what to do.

[00:12:32] I say,

[00:12:33] I swear I'm not lying.

[00:12:34] She votes for the other guy

[00:12:36] and I win the game.

[00:12:37] Girlfriend gets up

[00:12:38] and says she has to leave.

[00:12:40] I tried texting her a few times

[00:12:42] but she ignores me.

[00:12:43] I finally hear from her

[00:12:44] this morning,

[00:12:45] but she sends me a text

[00:12:46] saying that she feels like

[00:12:47] she can no longer trust me.

[00:12:49] Not only bothers her

[00:12:50] that I swore I wasn't lying

[00:12:51] to her when I was,

[00:12:52] it also really bothered her

[00:12:54] that she wasn't able

[00:12:55] to tell I was lying

[00:12:56] even though we're in the same room together

[00:12:58] and she could see my face.

[00:13:00] She understands

[00:13:01] that lying was a part of the game

[00:13:03] that she wanted to believe

[00:13:04] that if I swore something was true,

[00:13:06] she could believe it

[00:13:07] no matter what.

[00:13:08] Now she can't.

[00:13:09] She needs time to think about

[00:13:10] what this means

[00:13:11] for our relationship.

[00:13:13] I got very defensive

[00:13:14] at this point

[00:13:14] and told her

[00:13:15] I couldn't believe

[00:13:16] she was making a big deal

[00:13:17] out of a stupid game.

[00:13:18] I haven't heard back

[00:13:19] from her since.

[00:13:21] Am I the asshole?

[00:13:22] I don't think I am

[00:13:23] but I'm regretting

[00:13:24] ever buying her the game.

[00:13:26] Now this to me

[00:13:27] is screaming out

[00:13:28] there's an underlying issue

[00:13:30] to do with her past relationships

[00:13:32] that's affecting

[00:13:33] what's going on right now.

[00:13:34] If I was in OP's position

[00:13:36] I would have likely

[00:13:37] done the same.

[00:13:38] In fact,

[00:13:39] I would have done the same.

[00:13:40] I perhaps wouldn't have said

[00:13:41] I couldn't believe

[00:13:42] she was making a big deal

[00:13:43] out of a stupid game

[00:13:44] because let's face it

[00:13:46] it's not about that.

[00:13:47] It's about something

[00:13:47] that's underlying here.

[00:13:49] And I think whatever it is

[00:13:50] just needs to be confronted.

[00:13:52] But Rega Laser says

[00:13:53] okay

[00:13:53] not that I think

[00:13:54] it's going to affect my judgment

[00:13:55] but I have to ask.

[00:13:57] She knew that lying

[00:13:58] is a big part of the game

[00:13:59] before the game

[00:14:00] where you were an imposter.

[00:14:01] As in

[00:14:02] there had been

[00:14:03] there are two imposters

[00:14:04] who will try to kill us

[00:14:05] and you need to suss out

[00:14:06] who's lying

[00:14:07] conversation.

[00:14:08] OP says yes

[00:14:09] she knew

[00:14:09] and she knew

[00:14:10] it could be me.

[00:14:11] I actually lied to her

[00:14:12] before in that match.

[00:14:14] The only lie

[00:14:14] she really cared about

[00:14:15] is the

[00:14:16] I swear I'm not lying.

[00:14:18] That happened

[00:14:18] right at the end.

[00:14:20] Rega replies

[00:14:21] that saying

[00:14:21] edit

[00:14:22] no

[00:14:22] not the asshole

[00:14:23] very close to

[00:14:24] no one's an asshole here.

[00:14:25] She knew there was

[00:14:26] lying involved in the game

[00:14:27] and she chose not to play it.

[00:14:29] Was your choice of words

[00:14:30] perhaps somewhat unfortunate

[00:14:31] considering her history?

[00:14:32] Yes

[00:14:33] but again

[00:14:34] she knew lying

[00:14:35] was a part of the game.

[00:14:36] Not all positive

[00:14:37] says not the asshole.

[00:14:38] Your girlfriend needs therapy

[00:14:39] to deal with these issues.

[00:14:41] It's terrible

[00:14:41] what happened to her

[00:14:42] but it's also

[00:14:43] not realistic

[00:14:44] to expect you

[00:14:44] to never tell a lie

[00:14:46] to the point

[00:14:46] you can't even

[00:14:47] play a game together.

[00:14:49] OP says

[00:14:49] the only lie

[00:14:50] she took issue with

[00:14:51] was at the end

[00:14:52] where I swore

[00:14:53] I wasn't lying.

[00:14:54] She had no problem

[00:14:55] with the lies

[00:14:56] that took place

[00:14:57] before that.

[00:14:58] Someone says to OP

[00:14:59] did you write in game

[00:15:01] or say to her

[00:15:02] I swear I'm not lying.

[00:15:03] OP said

[00:15:04] I said it out loud

[00:15:05] over discord.

[00:15:06] We were also

[00:15:07] in the same room together

[00:15:08] screens facing away

[00:15:09] from each other of course

[00:15:10] and I was looking at her

[00:15:11] when I said it.

[00:15:13] OP comes in

[00:15:13] 18 months later

[00:15:15] and says

[00:15:15] wow

[00:15:15] it's been a long time

[00:15:17] since I posted

[00:15:17] that original thread.

[00:15:18] I actually forgot

[00:15:20] about it until

[00:15:20] just a few days ago

[00:15:21] so I thought

[00:15:22] I would give an update.

[00:15:23] First off

[00:15:24] my girlfriend and I

[00:15:25] are still together

[00:15:26] who have since

[00:15:27] moved in together.

[00:15:28] When I posted

[00:15:29] my original

[00:15:29] am I the arsehole thread

[00:15:30] the consensus

[00:15:31] seemed to be

[00:15:32] not the arsehole

[00:15:32] but looking back on it

[00:15:33] I think even when

[00:15:35] I was writing that out

[00:15:36] I was kind of an arsehole

[00:15:37] for what happened.

[00:15:38] I remember reading

[00:15:39] some of their replies

[00:15:40] regarding my girlfriend

[00:15:41] and how she needed

[00:15:42] to get over herself

[00:15:43] and just becoming

[00:15:44] more and more angry

[00:15:45] at those comments.

[00:15:46] It was at that point

[00:15:47] when I was getting

[00:15:48] angry and worried

[00:15:48] wanting to defend her

[00:15:49] that I realized

[00:15:50] yeah I was kind

[00:15:51] of the arsehole.

[00:15:52] I shouldn't have

[00:15:53] looked in her eyes

[00:15:54] while I swore

[00:15:55] I wasn't lying

[00:15:55] and I shouldn't

[00:15:56] have become overly

[00:15:57] defensive and minimized

[00:15:58] her feelings

[00:15:59] by saying it was

[00:15:59] only a game.

[00:16:01] I gave it a day

[00:16:02] or two

[00:16:02] before I was going

[00:16:03] to send an apology

[00:16:04] but she contacted

[00:16:06] me first to apologize

[00:16:07] for her behavior.

[00:16:08] I told her she had

[00:16:09] nothing to apologize

[00:16:10] for and that

[00:16:11] I completely understood

[00:16:12] and that I was sorry

[00:16:13] for how I reacted.

[00:16:14] Then there was a lot

[00:16:15] of both of us apologizing

[00:16:17] and trying to place

[00:16:17] all the blame

[00:16:18] on ourselves.

[00:16:19] She had gone over

[00:16:20] to stare at her

[00:16:20] sisters after what

[00:16:21] happened.

[00:16:22] At first apparently

[00:16:23] my girlfriend

[00:16:24] wouldn't really explain

[00:16:25] what happened to her

[00:16:25] besides that I lied

[00:16:26] to her face.

[00:16:27] But after a day or so

[00:16:28] she finally explained

[00:16:30] the event.

[00:16:30] And then her sister

[00:16:31] actually defended me

[00:16:32] saying that this would

[00:16:33] be a really stupid

[00:16:34] reason to end what

[00:16:35] seemed like a good

[00:16:36] relationship.

[00:16:37] This surprised me

[00:16:38] since I didn't

[00:16:39] actually think

[00:16:40] she liked me.

[00:16:41] It was after this talk

[00:16:42] with her sister

[00:16:43] that my girlfriend

[00:16:43] called me.

[00:16:44] We met up

[00:16:45] and after talking

[00:16:46] it was obvious

[00:16:47] to both of us

[00:16:48] that she still has

[00:16:49] a lot of issues

[00:16:49] from her asshole

[00:16:50] ex that she needs

[00:16:51] to work through

[00:16:52] and that we might

[00:16:53] have gotten together

[00:16:54] too soon.

[00:16:55] But we both

[00:16:56] really like each other

[00:16:57] and we didn't

[00:16:58] want to end

[00:16:58] the relationship

[00:16:59] so we decided

[00:17:00] to stay together

[00:17:01] and try to work

[00:17:02] things out.

[00:17:03] She started seeing

[00:17:04] a therapist

[00:17:04] which has done

[00:17:05] wonders.

[00:17:06] I don't think

[00:17:07] even after the event

[00:17:09] and after we made

[00:17:10] up just how much

[00:17:11] damage her asshole

[00:17:11] ex did to her.

[00:17:12] I swear sometimes

[00:17:14] I wish I could

[00:17:14] find that guy alone

[00:17:15] in a dark alley

[00:17:16] sometime.

[00:17:17] I'm so glad

[00:17:18] that our relationship

[00:17:19] survived that.

[00:17:20] She makes me happy

[00:17:21] than anyone else

[00:17:22] I've ever met.

[00:17:23] I couldn't imagine

[00:17:24] my life without her.

[00:17:25] And hey

[00:17:26] last month

[00:17:27] we actually played

[00:17:28] Among Us again.

[00:17:29] It was her idea

[00:17:29] and since I haven't

[00:17:30] played it at all

[00:17:31] since what happened

[00:17:32] we had a lot of fun

[00:17:33] together.

[00:17:34] Although I did insist

[00:17:35] we play in different

[00:17:36] rooms and I definitely

[00:17:37] stayed away from saying

[00:17:38] I swear

[00:17:39] which she told me

[00:17:40] she found kind of cute.

[00:17:42] Two years later

[00:17:43] Opie comes in

[00:17:44] with one more update

[00:17:45] and says so

[00:17:46] I was thinking about

[00:17:47] this incident a few

[00:17:48] days ago

[00:17:48] and logged into

[00:17:49] this account again.

[00:17:50] There was quite a few

[00:17:51] replies since the last

[00:17:52] time I did so.

[00:17:54] Apparently this got

[00:17:54] posted on TikTok

[00:17:55] a year or so ago

[00:17:56] and some people

[00:17:57] have problems

[00:17:58] with how this turned out.

[00:17:59] Figured I would

[00:18:00] make an update

[00:18:01] to respond to

[00:18:01] some of the concerns.

[00:18:03] I also made the

[00:18:04] mistake of finding

[00:18:05] the video and looking

[00:18:05] at the comments.

[00:18:07] Never check

[00:18:07] the comments.

[00:18:09] First off

[00:18:09] and I really cannot

[00:18:11] believe I have to

[00:18:11] say this.

[00:18:12] My girlfriend did

[00:18:13] not make up a story

[00:18:14] of me abusing her

[00:18:15] to her sister.

[00:18:16] She said I lied

[00:18:17] to her face

[00:18:18] which is technically

[00:18:18] the truth.

[00:18:19] I have no idea

[00:18:20] why some people

[00:18:21] are trying to make

[00:18:22] this worse than it

[00:18:22] is.

[00:18:23] Second my girlfriend

[00:18:24] is not abusive.

[00:18:25] She did not make

[00:18:27] her problems

[00:18:27] my problems.

[00:18:28] She did not blame

[00:18:29] me for her problems.

[00:18:30] I care about her

[00:18:31] problems because I

[00:18:32] care about her.

[00:18:33] I do not live in

[00:18:34] fear of setting

[00:18:35] her off.

[00:18:37] Third my girlfriend

[00:18:38] did not freak out

[00:18:39] as soon as she

[00:18:40] found out I lied

[00:18:41] to her in a game.

[00:18:42] She knew the game

[00:18:43] was all about lying.

[00:18:44] She had no problem

[00:18:45] with me lying within

[00:18:46] game.

[00:18:46] She only had a

[00:18:47] triggering event

[00:18:48] when I said I

[00:18:49] swear I'm not

[00:18:49] lying while looking

[00:18:50] her in the eyes.

[00:18:51] That's what freaked

[00:18:52] her out.

[00:18:53] Oh also what I

[00:18:54] did was technically

[00:18:55] cheating in the game

[00:18:56] because I used

[00:18:57] eye contact to

[00:18:58] lie more effectively

[00:18:58] when that's outside

[00:19:00] the scope of the

[00:19:00] game.

[00:19:01] Fourth yes I did

[00:19:02] ask am I the

[00:19:03] arsehole to see if

[00:19:04] well I was an

[00:19:05] arsehole.

[00:19:06] And then I had

[00:19:06] the temerity to

[00:19:07] disagree when they

[00:19:08] said I was in the

[00:19:09] clear.

[00:19:10] I took a good look

[00:19:11] at the people who

[00:19:12] said that and found

[00:19:13] I did not want to

[00:19:14] be like them.

[00:19:15] The reaction my

[00:19:15] post has garnered

[00:19:16] has done nothing

[00:19:17] to change my mind.

[00:19:19] If working things

[00:19:20] out with communication

[00:19:21] is me being a

[00:19:22] pussy then I'm

[00:19:23] perfectly fine with

[00:19:24] that.

[00:19:24] A lot of people are

[00:19:25] really hung up on.

[00:19:26] All he did was

[00:19:27] lie in a game all

[00:19:28] about lying.

[00:19:29] He did nothing

[00:19:30] wrong.

[00:19:30] He gaslit himself

[00:19:31] into thinking he

[00:19:32] was wrong.

[00:19:32] What a pussy.

[00:19:34] Besides the fact

[00:19:35] that as previously

[00:19:36] mentioned what I

[00:19:37] did was outside the

[00:19:38] scope of the game.

[00:19:38] What I did wrong had

[00:19:40] nothing to do with

[00:19:40] the actual lying in

[00:19:42] the game.

[00:19:42] The problem was

[00:19:43] what I said right

[00:19:44] after she tried to

[00:19:45] explain to me why

[00:19:46] she reacted the way

[00:19:47] she did.

[00:19:48] I immediately tried to

[00:19:49] dismiss it as it's

[00:19:50] not a big deal.

[00:19:51] Just because something

[00:19:52] is not a big deal to

[00:19:53] me does not mean it

[00:19:55] shouldn't be a big

[00:19:55] deal to her.

[00:19:56] I assure you I have

[00:19:58] my own quirks as

[00:19:59] well.

[00:19:59] As well that are a

[00:20:00] big deal to me that

[00:20:02] wouldn't be a big

[00:20:02] deal to someone

[00:20:03] else.

[00:20:04] As she has always

[00:20:05] taken care to

[00:20:05] respect those.

[00:20:06] I should have done

[00:20:07] the same without

[00:20:08] getting defensive.

[00:20:09] She had an emotional

[00:20:10] reaction to a

[00:20:11] triggering event and

[00:20:12] she did deserve my

[00:20:13] apology for trying

[00:20:14] to dismiss it.

[00:20:15] It's called

[00:20:16] empathy people.

[00:20:17] I know it's a

[00:20:18] difficult thing for

[00:20:19] some but I assure

[00:20:20] you that people tend

[00:20:21] to like you more

[00:20:22] when you use it.

[00:20:23] I swear some of

[00:20:24] you have the

[00:20:24] emotional maturity

[00:20:25] of a sack of

[00:20:26] bricks.

[00:20:28] As for the update.

[00:20:29] I'm sure to the

[00:20:30] disappointment of

[00:20:31] many we're still

[00:20:31] together quite

[00:20:32] happily.

[00:20:33] In fact my

[00:20:34] relationship with

[00:20:35] her is still the

[00:20:35] best I've ever

[00:20:36] had.

[00:20:36] She's the most

[00:20:37] amazing person I

[00:20:38] know.

[00:20:39] As cliche as this

[00:20:40] is she's my best

[00:20:41] friend.

[00:20:42] I'm quite convinced

[00:20:43] I want to spend

[00:20:43] the rest of my

[00:20:44] life with her.

[00:20:45] Therapy has done

[00:20:46] wonders for her

[00:20:47] and she has not

[00:20:48] had a triggering

[00:20:48] event in quite a

[00:20:49] while.

[00:20:50] We've stopped

[00:20:50] playing social

[00:20:51] deduction games but

[00:20:52] that's only because

[00:20:53] it's gotten to the

[00:20:54] point where

[00:20:54] she is scarily

[00:20:55] good at them.

[00:20:56] No marriage or

[00:20:57] children yet but

[00:20:58] we've talked enough

[00:20:59] to know it's what

[00:21:00] we both want.

[00:21:01] To all the people

[00:21:02] criticizing me for

[00:21:03] not immediately

[00:21:04] dumping her.

[00:21:05] I'm quite happy

[00:21:06] with my life.

[00:21:07] How many of you

[00:21:08] can say the

[00:21:09] same?

[00:21:10] Meh.

[00:21:11] I kind of like

[00:21:12] this.

[00:21:12] It's not like a

[00:21:13] perfect situation to

[00:21:14] begin with but they

[00:21:15] both grew throughout

[00:21:16] the story but I'm

[00:21:18] glad she got the

[00:21:19] therapy to help

[00:21:19] her understand the

[00:21:20] triggering events

[00:21:21] that was going on.

[00:21:22] I think from the

[00:21:23] very start it was

[00:21:24] obvious there was

[00:21:25] something underlying

[00:21:26] rather than just

[00:21:27] cheating in a game.

[00:21:28] It's not about that

[00:21:29] at all was it?

[00:21:30] So over time it's

[00:21:31] given them some

[00:21:31] understanding of where

[00:21:33] they are in their

[00:21:33] relationship and

[00:21:34] understanding each

[00:21:35] other's feelings which

[00:21:36] is super important and

[00:21:38] all I can do is wish

[00:21:39] them all the best for

[00:21:40] the future but now I'm

[00:21:42] going to turn this one

[00:21:43] to you guys.

[00:21:44] What do you guys make

[00:21:45] of this situation?

[00:21:47] Let us know your

[00:21:48] thoughts down in the

[00:21:49] comments below.

[00:21:49] Just a huge thank you

[00:21:51] from the bottom of my

[00:21:52] heart for getting

[00:21:52] involved in today's

[00:21:53] stories.

[00:21:54] Your love, your

[00:21:55] support, your time

[00:21:56] always means the

[00:21:56] absolute world to me so

[00:21:57] thank you so so much

[00:21:58] and hopefully I'll see

[00:22:00] you in the next one.

[00:22:01] Take care and much

[00:22:03] love.