I Exposed My Parents When They Forgot About Me r/Relationships

[00:00:02] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you're well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit Stories. And if you do love a Reddit Story, why not consider a like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. And let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys. Now, you may have heard other parts of this story elsewhere, but there's a new update to it, which is titled The Final Update as well. This one's from ForgottenChild9 from the Am I the Arsehole Here subreddit.

[00:00:30] And says, am I the arsehole here for exposing my parents after they forgot about me on their wedding? I know this seems like a weird situation, but I just feel so angry and depressed that I feel the need to vent, even if no one is listening. So I, 17 female, was recently forgotten about on the day of my parents' wedding. My parents have been together for about 25 years, but they never actually got married.

[00:00:55] That's why when my dad, 50 male, proposed to my mother, 49 female, on their anniversary, which they have always celebrated on the date my mother found out she was pregnant with my oldest sister, even though they were already together before. Everyone, including me, was elated and celebrated the occasion with great joy. This happened all the way back in February. They immediately jumped into wedding planning and decided very early on on a small event in Hawaii with just the closest family and friends for an intimate ceremony.

[00:01:25] Almost immediately, my mother asked my sister, 25 female, to be her maid of honor. My dad asked my brother, 22 male, to be his groomsman. I wasn't surprised or offended by this. My sister had always been a mummy's girl, and they both enjoyed spending time with each other, shopping and socializing, so they had a very close bond. And the same goes for my father and brother. They always played football together and messed around with cars. My father even trained my brother's team for a while in middle school.

[00:01:54] That always left me as the odd one out. I tried to insert myself on my family's hobbies and groups they had within our home, but was always rebuffed. Maybe they could sense that my interest on their activities wasn't all that genuine, or maybe they just didn't care. Either way, I was used to being the last and least important member of my family. Mom had sis and dad had bro.

[00:02:17] My parents had each other and my two siblings were close to each other than they ever were to me, leaving me very lonely and isolated in my own home. During the preparation for the wedding, initially it was just suggested that I be the flower girl, but my sister thought that role would be more appropriate for her daughter, three female, so that idea was quickly tossed away. Later on, my maternal grandmother suggested I might read a poem or do a little bit of a speech during the ceremony,

[00:02:43] but both my parents refused because they wanted the wedding to be low-key, and they didn't think a cheesy and sappy speech would fit their vision. Their literal words. I was still okay with all of this, even though it hurt to know. I would be the only member of the family to not actually be a part of the wedding party or have any role at all on the day. As the day approached, my parents and siblings got more and more caught up on all the wedding planning.

[00:03:07] I noticed my mum didn't invite me dress shopping and that whenever they would have discussions about the venue or the event, I was left out. So, I decided to see if they would realise that I wasn't being involved at all and kept quiet, waiting for them to ask me something, anything about the wedding. But that never happened. The wedding was set for three weeks ago, the end of August. The day before the departure, my mother casually asked if I had my luggage ready because we couldn't be late to the airport.

[00:03:36] I bluntly told her that I hadn't prepared anything. She got confused for a second and then snapped at me for not being prepared. I then asked her if I had a ticket and her face went pale. Yep, they hadn't even bought me a ticket and I'm not even sure if I had a room or any accommodations once there. Even though I was the only person in my family without a stable income. I work as a part-time babysitter. My parents had bought first-class tickets for my siblings and the other couple of friends that were attending the wedding, but had forgotten me.

[00:04:05] My mum told me not to make a big deal out of it and they can just find me a low-cost ticket last minute from a cheap airline. But I just replied by asking her. Then what? Do I even have a dress for the ceremony? She went with sister by hers and all the other female guests months ago. But I wasn't included. That's when my father came in and just told me to suck it up and that I've never been a girly girl so I could just wear whatever. I got mad at this because, even though I'm not the most feminine girl in the planet,

[00:04:32] I would have loved to be included in such an important part of my parents' wedding. And it was about the fact that I was excluded for literally everything that had been going on for months. We all got into a fight with them calling me entitled and accused me of making myself small intentionally so that they would forget me. Like that is a valid excuse for ignoring a child. They ended up telling me that if I was going to keep this attitude, I might as well skip the whole thing altogether. To which I responded with a defiant, fine, and went to my room. Next morning, they all left for Hawaii without me.

[00:05:03] The ceremony was really small, but they all posted loads of pictures on Insta and Facebook about how perfect and magical that whole week was being. People realized quickly that I wasn't in any of the photos and asked my parents why, to which they replied that unfortunately, I'd caught COVID before the trip and had to stay behind. My blood boiled at this. I don't know why this was the straw that broke the camel's back for me, but it was. I decided to take a COVID test and published a picture of myself holding the negative test and captioned it,

[00:05:33] not sick at all, just forgotten. I tagged everyone that had questioned my absence from the trip and in the wedding pictures, and for good measure, also every person invited to it. I also wrote in the comments about how my parents literally forgotten about anything to do with me until the day before parting, and how they actually uninvited me. Most people were on my side, and others couldn't believe it, and thought there must have been something more to the story than what I was saying. But one thing is for certain, I completely ruined my parents' wedding,

[00:06:03] and that day was overshadowed by my confession. At first, I felt quite satisfied with myself for standing up on my own, but after a barrage of messages from my family calling me every name in the book, and later, when they came back, them furiously attacking me for my immature actions and my spoiled behavior, my pride deflated quickly, and I began to feel awful. I hate my family, and I hate being in this house, but I'm a minor and can't leave just yet. I do feel like I could have handled the situation better though,

[00:06:33] and though I feel so depressed, that I'm second-guessing everything I did, from not speaking up before the way I exposed them. I also feel guilty for the lack of connection between all my family and me. Maybe I could have done more. So am I the arsehole for ruining my parents' wedding when they forgot about me? Front Rip says not the arsehole. Your parents fucked up. They know it. Your siblings also fucked up. They also know it. And you weren't making them look bad with your social media posts. You were correcting a lie.

[00:07:01] Hope you're able to qualify for a full-ride scholarship because something tells me you don't have much of a college fund, if any. Lulu says they spent the college fund on the first-class plane tickets for everyone but OP. Disastrous B says bald of you to assume there was ever a college fund in the first place. Abrina says not the arsehole. Can you move in with grandma? The history of rebuffing you whenever you try to participate with them says this wasn't a one-off. It's like they don't even consider you family. No judge is going to force you

[00:07:30] back at their house at 17. If you have a place to go, get your things and your documents and go. Comanter says, I have a similar family dynamic to OP, although I'm the oldest. I wasn't asked to go on family vacations. My birthday was always forgotten about. If my mom and younger siblings wanted to go out to eat for family dinner while I was at work, they would leave and not say a word to me. OP, not the arsehole. Don't let them make you feel guilty. As soon as I could, I moved out. Didn't say a word to anyone

[00:07:59] in my immediate family, just packed the bag and was gone. I'm no contact with everyone but my little sister and even she is on probation with regards to visits and hanging out. OP says, I'm sorry for you then that we're on the same boat. I want to move out but I have no place to go now. I had a summer job besides babysitting and I've been saving up money but I live in a very expensive city and I need another job before I can plan anything. The commenter replied to OP, he said, be strong. Don't let them get under your skin.

[00:08:28] Even if you have to get roommates or move in with a friend, leave as soon as you're comfortable with finances. There are Facebook groups and such looking for roommates especially in high cost of living areas. OP says, I know that's what I should be doing. I do have a friend that is moving to a studio apartment near our college but I didn't have a job at the moment and I don't want to be a burden to her. She and I are close so I'm sure she would offer for me to move in with her but I don't want to be a burden. Also, I didn't have a job at the moment so I couldn't pay rent so that's something else

[00:08:57] I need to do at the moment. OP came in with her first update four days after that one and said, hi everyone. I wanted to write an update earlier but I'm still kind of a mess at the moment. I figured since my post had such an overwhelming response and so many people commented and sent me messages that I should just write about the latest developments. First of all, let me start by thanking all that commented on my post and shared their own experiences or points of view on my situation. Thank you so much. A few days ago I could barely find the energy

[00:09:26] to get out of bed and my family's comments had made me really believe that I was guilty for all that had passed but after seeing the responses to my post and all the support you guys were giving me I felt somewhat reaffirmed in my actions and feelings towards my family. I'm still fighting the feelings of guilt and depression but whenever I start to spiral I think on how much this community of strangers has had my back and I try to calm myself down with your words. Thanks to your input and advice I finally decided to call my grandma

[00:09:55] and tell her the full story. Just to clarify a point before going on I said this in the comments but I still feel like I should put it here also. My grandma, 77 female did not attend the wedding. She lives several states away and has mobility issues so she doesn't travel anymore. We went to visit around Easter and that's when she commented that I might read a poem at the ceremony but that was the last time I saw her in person before all this. She's always been very loving to me and has called out my parents in the past for their favoritism

[00:10:25] but it's hard for her to play a more active role in my upbringing since she lives so far and I'm always worried about bothering her due to her age and health condition. She had a minor stroke a few years back and is now back to normal but I still worry. Anyway, I called her and laid out everything that happened with the wedding and how my parents didn't even buy me a ticket to go with them. She came to the same conclusion that most commenters did when I told her that that it was simply impossible that they had forgotten and that they did it on purpose.

[00:10:54] I cried on the phone with her laying out how I was feeling how this has been going on forever how I feel in the aftermath and most importantly about my need to get out. She was extremely sweet and comforting to me and told me that I had nothing else to worry about because she had my back 100% and told me to take it easy but make plans for my future and that she had helped me. After that conversation which lasted about 2 hours I felt better and I decided to listen to her and start moving to figure something out for the next school year.

[00:11:24] I have a friend who's going to Lisa's studio next to our future campus. She has a great relationship with her parents but she has 5 younger siblings and wants to be more independent so that's why she's decided to move out. I asked her if I could move in with her temporarily and that I would pay her rent as soon as I got a job. She immediately accepted and told me not to worry about rent or anything else until I was in a better position and we had a good cry together when I told her about my parents' wedding incident. So this all happened a couple of days ago and I was planning

[00:11:53] on doing the update then but my grandma called my parents and my siblings to lecture them about how they were treating me. My brother just sent me a text afterwards with a half-hearted apology saying he didn't know that I wasn't included and then I posted the pic to create drama. My sister on the other hand berated me and told me that I kept trying to make public my own problems and pinning them on my family when they are all innocent. It's been weird with my parents ever since they came back from the trip and at first

[00:12:22] they berated me and were furious with me and after that we've just been ignoring each other. After my grandma called them they came into my room telling me that if I wanted to put this whole issue to rest I should shut up about it and this could have already blown over if I only had kept my mouth shut. I just asked them to leave my room and then called my grandma again to tell her what had gone down. She then told me that she and my uncle had bought plane tickets to come down to see me. This was something that I was actually scared about because of my grandma's health is not the best

[00:12:52] and this kind of effort is a lot for her and I know how complicated it is for her to get on a plane so I tried to dissuade her from coming and told her everything would be okay but she wouldn't listen and told me that she was long overdue a conversation with my parents and that she wanted to see me. I'm stressed for her and I feel again like I forced her to take a long uncomfortable trip because of me and that maybe I should have just dealt with this myself. I do want to see her and I wish for nothing more than to hug her right now but I'm worried about her.

[00:13:21] At least my uncle mum's older brother is coming with her but I hope she doesn't exhaust herself or nothing happens to her because that would break me. They arrive tomorrow and have not informed my parents of their trip. My grandma asked me to keep it until she gets here. I hope she's able to make my parents see the mistake in their actions or at the very least help me break the news that I'm moving out very soon and I plan on being no contact with them. I don't know. I'm worried about her having to do so much for me and bothering her but I also appreciate

[00:13:50] and love her so much for doing all this for me. Ruby says, Wow, your grandma is amazing. It's so great that she has your back and is willing to stand up to your parents and don't worry about her making the trip. She sounds like a strong and determined woman. Plus, you deserve to have someone on your side who will fight for you. Keep us updated on how everything goes with your family and remember you have a whole community here to support you. Best of luck with your future plans. Ipupu says she should use her oxygen tank to beat some sense into them.

[00:14:20] Slut Goth says No, you're not the asshole. Your parents should never have forgotten about you on their special day and it's not your responsibility to cover for their mistake. Kudos to you for standing up for yourself. Up208 says Replace forgotten about with excluded. I'm sorry Opie's parents and siblings are pieces of shit but that won't change. Opie is on the right track. Move out, don't look back and live your best life moving forward. Opie comes in with a second update and says hello. Sorry for not having re-updated sooner

[00:14:50] or commented. As you can imagine if you see my last post, it's been a busy week to say the least. There's been a lot of people messaging me and commenting on their post and I haven't had time to answer to no one until today. I'm sorry for that. You all have been so helpful and caring for me and my story and it's been truly eye-opening and terrifying to see how many people have gone through similar stories of neglect and abuse and I just want to thank you all for taking the time out of your day to send some kind words to this internet stranger. This update will be long

[00:15:19] so sorry about that. I'm just going to continue where I left off. So my grandma called me to tell me she was coming here to see me and help me out. I was very stressed about it because my grandma has a very hard time traveling so for her to make this trip meant that she'd be under enormous stress and I felt responsible for her since I was the one that called her. She arrived early Monday morning with my uncle and I went to get her at the airport. Not gonna lie, it was a very intense and emotional moment and as soon as I saw her I ran into her arms

[00:15:48] and broke down sobbing. I don't even know if I was able to tell her anything at that moment because of how hard I was crying. I had so many things to say. Thank you for coming, for being so good to me, for having my back. I'm sorry to have made you make this trip. I feel awful at home. I don't know if my parents love me but I know you do. Am I an affair child? I truly was hit with all of this plus the guilt and the anxiety all at once when I saw her but she held me tight in her arms telling me everything was going to be okay. My uncle hugged us as well.

[00:16:18] I don't know how long we stayed like this but it must have been a while until my uncle told me we should get going. We grabbed a cab and went to the hotel. My grandma had teary eyes and I could feel her breathing heavily which scared me but she kept hugging me and smiling all the way. She had reserved a double room so I could stay with her for these days and once they were settled in and I was more calm we sat down and I poured everything out for them. The years of neglect and the emotional abuse how I was feeling miserable after the trip but also for years now

[00:16:47] how my parents have been trying to make me feel guilty for all this that has happened. How I was scared about my future but my number one priority at the moment was to move out of that house even at the expense of my school work. How I made arrangements to move in with my friend and I was looking for a job and I told them about this post and how some people thought I might be an affair child and that I was beginning to question that as well. It was a lot and I can tell they were both really affected by what I was saying but they kept comforting me and making me feel

[00:17:16] safe to open up to them. After I unloaded all my concerns with them my grandma reassured me that I had nothing to worry about anymore and that she'd be here for me always. First of all she reassured me that I was not an affair child and that both my parents were thrilled when my mother got pregnant with me and that she knew the ultimate deal breaker for my mum was cheating and she believed it was the same for my father. Apparently the favouritism began showing

[00:17:45] and they were bothered because they could take my older siblings to their stuff but not me. I was also very shy and a bit of a crybaby which they had no patience with and made me very different from my siblings. She told me that she knew my parents had saved more than enough for my college. They're really well off so that had never been a concern for me until now thinking they might pull the funds away from me for my education but that if they not tried to pay for my schooling she would take care of it and that she wouldn't let me drop out because of money concerns. She also told me she would help me with rent

[00:18:15] and allowance to move out. She was very generous and I thanked her for it all but I also told her that this experience had been eye-opening in the sense that I never realised how privileged I had been economically all my life. For all their faults my parents have pampered me money-wise all my life. I went to private school I have a rather large monthly allowance I had a card for years now and they have never objected to any of my expenses. Seeing the stories here I realise how good I've had it so far and how being dependable on them all my life

[00:18:44] made me so exposed to losing everything. I want to be independent now not just from my parents but from everyone. I feel like I need to learn to stand up on my own. Writing this having just read all the stories of people in truly awful situations makes me feel like I've been a spoiled brat all my life to be honest. She insisted on me accepting help until I don't need it anymore and I accepted that but I will look for a job and try to make it on my own. We relaxed for a while in the hotel because we were all exhausted from the morning

[00:19:14] but in the afternoon we grabbed a cab and went to my house. My parents were extremely surprised to see my grandma and uncle with me when I entered the door but before they could say anything my grandma told me to go pack all my essentials while they talked to them. I rushed upstairs and I could hear my grandma and uncle berating my parents for all that they had put me through. At first I also heard my parents trying to defend themselves but eventually they quieted down. When I came downstairs with two suitcases in my backpack full to the brim with everything important that I had in my room

[00:19:44] they were all in the living room. My father was beet red and my mother was sobbing like a child. When she saw me she extended her arms in my direction saying she was sorry but I just said save it with the coldest tone I could muster and my dad said that I didn't have to be a jerk to which both my uncle and grandma told him to shut up. I left the house at that moment and waited for the cab outside. In the hotel my grandma reassured me that I wouldn't have to go back to them and that they told her my college tuition was never in question for them and that they had planned to throw me

[00:20:14] an extravagant birthday party to make up for the wedding mess and were going to be giving me a car as an apology for everything. But my grandma was having none of that BS because it was pretty obvious to her that they were only trying to save face and they were coming up with things on the fly and that a party in a car would not make up for all that they have put me through. Apparently the moment that broke my mother was when she told her that I had even questioned my paternity and she started crying then but my grandma told her what else could they expect when they have excluded me repeatedly from all family events

[00:20:44] since I was a child. She told me that she should make sure that they made the payments to my school unless I prefer to completely cut ties with them and have her pay until I can pay myself and I asked her to do that. I felt bad because I feel like it's not her responsibility but I truly don't want anything else from my parents anymore and although my grandma is pretty well off herself she's not as wealthy as my parents but she reassured me that everything is alright and that everything going to me would be taken away from my mom's inheritance. So the next day we went with my friend.

[00:21:14] Her parents sent grandma to the studio where we were planning to move and immediately upon arriving my grandma said absolutely not. I knew from pictures that the studio was very very small and dirty but we saw water damage and mold in the bathroom and kitchenette and there was also rust in the little old appliances. I knew all of this beforehand but I figured I could live with that at least for a while but the thing that the adults pointed out that actually made me and my friend change our minds was the fact that this studio was street level in a bad neighborhood

[00:21:43] in a building that didn't seem particularly safe and had bullet holes on the walls which I didn't even know what those were until my friend's dad pointed it out. So my grandma and my friend's parents said they would look for an apartment for us in a better location and it helped cover the costs. Both my friend and I want to be independent but we realize that with our most likely minimum wage jobs in such a high demand area we won't be able to find anything better on our own. So the plan is we're going to look for a two bedroom apartment and me and my friend are going to pay

[00:22:12] what we had previously planned for the studio and her parents and my grandma will cover the difference. I know it's quite spoiled of me to expect that help from my grandma but after seeing the studio in person I truly wouldn't have felt safe there. My friend's parents who were somewhat aware of what I was going through told me that I could move in with them until we find a nice apartment to which I'm extremely grateful since grandma is going back in a couple of days and I've been staying in the hotel with her ever since. Apparently my friend her parents and my grandma spoke about this before coming

[00:22:42] to make sure I had some safe place to stay until we moved into the apartment which is still to be found. I teared up as a little as I thanked them seeing how people were rallying behind me to offer help. Since then I've been moving some of the stuff I had left at my parents and setting my space in my friends. My mom keeps crying and apologizing every time I go back and even father has said sorry but I remain distant and cold towards them. My sister called and said that our mother was a mess and that I was a dick for what I had done but before she could

[00:23:11] say anything else I hung up the phone and blocked her. I was going to block my brother as well when I saw that he had sent me a very long message apologizing again and again for all that he has done to me and for not realizing our parents were treating me so poorly. He says he's been doing a lot of self-reflection on the days since grandma called and realized that he's been in the wrong for assuming I wasn't on the trip because I wouldn't want to go and for just allowing my parents to exclude me for all those years. I sent a brief reply thanking him for his words but telling him I needed space

[00:23:41] and I was not ready to accept his apology. I feel like he might be genuine because he has never been nasty to me the way my sister has. He's just aloof towards me but I also feel like I need to keep him away for the moment. Also keeping a bridge up with my family feels like the right thing to do right now that everything is so fresh. Maybe in the future he will show me he's just as nasty as everyone else and I'd block him but as long as he respects my boundaries I feel better not cutting him off completely. I've also made an appointment with a therapist

[00:24:10] who specializes in neglected teens and I have my first preliminary visit next week again funded by my grandma which makes me feel even more eager to find a job ASAP to take the burden off of her even if she tells me time and time again she's happy to do all of this for me. That's where things stand right now. I don't know if I'll update again maybe when I start classes or move to the apartment but right now I'm just trying to enjoy some time with my grandma and my uncle and learn to grow and get rid of this feeling of guilt and depression that's been plaguing

[00:24:40] me for so long. I want to thank once again all this community for being so nice and helpful to me and all of you have messaged me with your own personal stories of getting kicked out or having to learn how to make it on your own at a too early age. You helped me feel a lot less alone and made me realize that things can get better if I work hard for it. I feel kind of spoiled for having such an amazing support system on my grandma uncles and my friend but you guys are alright. Reaching out has been the absolute best decision

[00:25:09] I could have taken and opening up about my feelings to those who love me and to all of you internet friends has absolutely saved me so thank you. Really I'm more grateful than words can ever tell and obviously all the comments after that one were praising grandma but six weeks later OP comes in with another update and says hello everybody it's been a while and I'm sorry I didn't respond to messages or updates sooner but I've been very busy and I'm trying to grow away from all that's happened to me. I'm back with an update on how things are going if anyone's interested to hear.

[00:25:39] To do a recap where I left I moved to my friend's house after my grandma visited me and were able to stand up against my neglectful parents. My grandma and uncle left just a couple of days after I published my last update and it was a very emotional moment for us both. For the first time in my life I felt protected and loved with someone of my family. I'm sure throughout my life there must have been moments where I didn't feel so down and alone but that week I spent with my grandma I truly felt like someone was in my corner unconditionally and I'll be forever grateful to her

[00:26:08] for being there for me. After she left back to her hometown I got settled in my friend's parents' home while we looked for an apartment. She was already working as a private tutor for young kids and she helped me get the same job as her so now we're also co-workers. The job is great and the salary is quite nice for a first job so I was over the moon to be hired. We also found an apartment. It's near campus has two bedrooms and a nice living area and kitchen. It's not big but it's clean and in the neighborhood that has primarily

[00:26:38] college students living in it so it's quite nice and there's plenty of cool spaces to hang out and meet people. We're actually just in the process of moving right now and I'm writing this update from my new bedroom. I celebrated my 18th birthday a couple of weeks ago and it was great. I went to a restaurant with a few friends and had a nice time. The only drama that's been so far with my parents since the whole debacle is that they showed up in my friend's home the day of my birthday asking to see me. I wasn't there at the time but my friend's dad was

[00:27:07] and told me that they were both very apologetic and asked me to get in contact with them. They left a letter with him which they basically acknowledged that they've been awful parents but they want to rectify their mistakes and begged me to talk to them. Maybe I'm cold for doing what I did next but I decided to not answer them in any way and asked my friend's dad to tell them to leave if they ever show up which he respected. A part of me wanted to go to them and try to mend our relationship but I also felt like it had taken all this effort for me just to show them I exist

[00:27:37] and how much they've hurt me through my life and if I go back now I'll be betraying myself and all the work I'm putting on growing and becoming an independent person. After my birthday I had a couple of weeks before we could start moving into the new apartment so I went to visit my grandma at her house. I showed her the many pictures I took of the new apartment told her all about my new job and the classes I'm about to start after New Year's and she was so happy for me. We had a family get together to celebrate my birthday too and my uncles and cousins came to grandma's

[00:28:06] we had a bit of a party. My brother also came. I've been slowly talking more and more with my brother. Of all my immediate family he is the only one that has never treated me badly and although he was neglectful towards me and enjoyed my parents' favoritism he never treated me bad and I feel like he was also a victim of the toxic environment that was our house. I don't trust him fully but he has apologized very sincerely and since he lives near me he wants me to feel like I can rely on him if I ever need something.

[00:28:36] I do feel safer knowing that I got at least one family member in my city that is worried about me and would help me if needed be. I asked him once how my parents were doing and he told me that ever since I left he himself has limited a lot of contact with them and he blames them for the whole situation whereas my sister insists that I'm being selfish and causing pain on my parents because I'm the problem. Not sure how that works. My parents also seem to be somewhat ostracized by many of their friends after news of what happened to me got out but according to my brother

[00:29:05] they are constantly asking for me and are now saying to anyone that might listen that they fucked up and don't blame me for my actions. They want to rectify their mistakes. I didn't know if I'd buy this act and I feel they know that now the best thing they can do for their reputation is try to put the ball in my court in regards to reconciliation so that they can look like they've done their part. I'm now more than ever focused on my future and I don't really want to think of them. I go to therapy and I'm trying to grow and embrace the love of my newfound support system

[00:29:35] my friend, her family, my grandma, my uncles and cousins and maybe my brother. I hope this will be my last update since I want to close this chapter of my life and if I'm ever back here it would probably mean something has happened but I wanted to share the good news with all of you because you truly saved my life in a desperate moment. I was so down those days after the wedding I felt like curling up on my bed and tried to disappear. You all helped me pull myself up and face the music and I'm now so much happier than I think I've been

[00:30:04] and I'm looking forward to all the wonderful things that are happening in my life so thanks to all of you. Busy Shrew says I also felt like it had taken all of this effort for me just to show them I exist and how much they've hurt me through my life and if I go back now I'll be betraying myself and all the work I'm putting on growing and becoming an independent person. Ben says I read this and almost cried with pride OP you are amazing and you deserve to love yourself first protect your own well-being and don't sacrifice your newfound gains on people

[00:30:33] who haven't shown they deserve it. May you continue to rebuild a new family that loves and supports you and congratulations on moving forward to a wonderful life. Thank you for the update. Beth says it's so good to see OP allowing themselves to be the most important person in their own life for a while. That's so healthy. Am I the asshole is full of people who start to slide back almost as soon as they're free. Have a wonderful life OP. And that's the way I felt like I'm absolutely

[00:31:01] beaming for OP here. It's like the growth in that last post saying no I don't want them back in my life you know after all they've put me through you're not going to make it up by just throwing a party or buying a car trying to buy their way back in basically. And it just kind of sounds like they're only doing it to save face still. It's not about love. It's not about supporting OP. It's just to save face because people around them are all turning against them. But OP talking about their new job and they said

[00:31:30] they got a new apartment and they're writing it from their bedroom and they said there's a lot of cool places to hang out and meet people. It's just all so positive for OP and I'm absolutely buzzing for them. 17 years old well 18 years old now and gone through so much shit already. You deserve happiness and positivity in your life going forward and I really wish you all the best. But what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and just a huge thank you

[00:32:00] for being here today getting involved in the stories, your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love. Yeah, man I remember being so naive when life was good weather and palm trees back in the day you were everything I need but then along came a time when you crushed my dreams oh yeah you played me like a fool when you made me believe that the line between love was ridiculous oh yeah you see we in the spare you you