I Don't Want My Engagement Ring Since I Found Out Where It Came From r/Relationships

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[00:00:19] Now today's first story comes from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit from ZNXNCB and says, Am I the Arsehole for telling my fiancee I don't want my Timu engagement ring. My 27 female fiance 29 male proposed to me a few weeks ago. It caught me completely by surprise, but we've been together for three years and things have been going great. So I was really excited and said yes. I really liked the ring when I first saw it and my friends and family also said yes.

[00:00:49] I think it's stunning. It's an oval cut with diamonds across the band. I asked where he got it and he wouldn't tell me where, but that he got a great deal on it. I didn't think anything of it until yesterday. We're in bed and I asked him if it was diamond or moissanite, mainly out of curiosity. I don't have a preference by the way. He said he didn't know and would have to look it up. When I glanced over at his phone, he was in the Timu app. I asked him if he got it from there and he didn't respond.

[00:01:19] So I asked again and he responded with something like, does it matter? And left the room and ended up sleeping on the couch. I spent all night so confused. Today, I decided to download the app and looked up my ring and found one that looks identical. I found the exact ring and it listed it at $38. I am mad.

[00:01:41] He makes good money. $200k a year and I feel like he could have shelled out some money for a ring better than one on Timu. Am I the arsehole for telling him I don't want it?

[00:01:52] Opie added a comment directly below that and said, okay, I'm not mad that the diamonds are not real, but I worry about the quality of the ring because I imagine my engagement ring to at least be sturdy.

[00:02:03] It's fine for now, but I have a hard time believing it'll last longer than a year if it's $38 on Timu.

[00:02:10] The commenter says not the arsehole because that thing might turn your finger green.

[00:02:14] He's lucky you don't have a sensitivity to fake metals like some do.

[00:02:18] He makes good money but bought a $38 ring.

[00:02:21] Is he cheap with other things where this discount shopping isn't a new thing for him and he's just an all-around penny pincher?

[00:02:27] My first thought was, did he not spend the money because he doesn't want or expect this to last?

[00:02:33] Opie says, yeah, let me provide some more context.

[00:02:37] Really, he's never been overly frugal.

[00:02:39] I'm probably more frugal than he is.

[00:02:42] Neither of us are huge spenders but we each make enough to not have to strictly budget or anything.

[00:02:47] We have our own accounts and split rent equally.

[00:02:49] I know he has at least $100k across his savings and investment accounts.

[00:02:53] We go out for drinks a few times a week and we'll go to concerts together and whatnot frequently.

[00:02:58] We travel a few times a year and stay in basic accommodations.

[00:03:02] Ugh, like our door dash the other night was $40.

[00:03:05] My ring costs less than door dashing dinner.

[00:03:08] The commenter says you are not the arsehole.

[00:03:11] But what we really want to know is whether or not you will still marry him if he replaces the ring.

[00:03:16] Opie says the responses to this have made me even more confused.

[00:03:19] People saying it could be a loyalty test, that he doesn't want me to be able to sell it if we divorce.

[00:03:24] Or that he doesn't plan to be with me for long.

[00:03:27] I have a pit in my stomach.

[00:03:29] I haven't considered breaking things off but that was before I wrote this here.

[00:03:33] I was thinking maybe he was just not thinking or rushed getting the ring.

[00:03:37] Or maybe he genuinely thought he was getting a great deal on a high quality ring.

[00:03:41] I plan to confront him when he gets back from work in a couple of hours.

[00:03:45] Then info about the ring itself.

[00:03:46] The response to this is just absolutely insane.

[00:03:50] Sorry, I'm having a hard time keeping up with responses.

[00:03:53] A few of y'all want to see the ring so here it is if you want to look it up.

[00:03:57] I'm still waiting for him to get home.

[00:03:59] And then provides the information for the ring.

[00:04:03] And here's a picture of the ring if you're on YouTube.

[00:04:06] Sorry if you're on the podcast, you obviously won't be able to see it.

[00:04:09] Oh, slutty Christmas tree.

[00:04:11] What a username.

[00:04:13] I love it.

[00:04:13] Says not the arsehole.

[00:04:15] I used to work in a jewelry store where we, obviously, sold jewelry.

[00:04:19] But also did a lot of cleanings and repairs.

[00:04:22] Let me tell you, it isn't just about the money.

[00:04:24] It's about longevity.

[00:04:26] I once had a woman come in with a 60-year-old diamond ring.

[00:04:30] She'd never had work done on it because she didn't know that you could repair jewelry.

[00:04:34] It was in relatively good shape but old and worn.

[00:04:38] We refurbished it and she sobbed.

[00:04:41] She couldn't believe it looked like the day her, now deceased, husband had given it to her.

[00:04:46] You'll never get that with a fake ring.

[00:04:48] And reputable jewelry stores, at least in my region anyway, sell bridal jewelry with a lifetime warranty.

[00:04:54] So normal wear and tear.

[00:04:56] And things like resizing should be free.

[00:04:58] Next commenter says not the arsehole.

[00:05:00] While I could say, obviously, that none of us should or even can put a price on anything meaningful.

[00:05:06] I think there is a reason to be upset about this situation.

[00:05:09] First, this is kind of a big deal gesture.

[00:05:12] Like maybe the biggest gesture in a romantic relationship.

[00:05:16] So the fact that he wanted to be so cheap is insulting.

[00:05:19] It's one thing if he had no money.

[00:05:21] It's another when he is privileged to have such a great income.

[00:05:24] Also, one must worry about the quality of something you are now expected to wear for the rest of your life.

[00:05:29] If its original cost was $38.

[00:05:32] So, materialistic as it may sound, I say not the arsehole.

[00:05:36] This was supposed to be a token of devotion and commitment.

[00:05:39] It's supposed to be an expenditure because it is supposed to last a lifetime.

[00:05:43] Best of luck communicating your needs and wants and why you feel insulted.

[00:05:47] Be clear and logical but also why you feel like he cheapened your engagement.

[00:05:51] And I guess that's kind of it really, isn't it?

[00:05:54] If you're getting something that's a symbol of your relationship and you want it to last for a long time.

[00:06:01] You want it to be quality.

[00:06:02] It doesn't matter about the stone or whatever.

[00:06:04] But you want the quality ring that's going to last on your finger for the rest of your relationship, I guess.

[00:06:10] Forever, potentially.

[00:06:12] And it kind of had me thinking in the middle of the story when, you know, she glanced over his phone and said,

[00:06:18] Is that where you got it from?

[00:06:19] And he responded with, Does it matter?

[00:06:21] And he was just trying to hide where he got it from, etc.

[00:06:24] He kind of knew what was going on, if you get what I mean.

[00:06:26] But OP came in with an update and said,

[00:06:29] After reading responses from my first post on the Am I the Arsehole subreddit, it got taken down.

[00:06:34] I was freaking out a bit.

[00:06:36] He came home while I was FaceTiming a friend about this.

[00:06:39] I hung up with her and then talked to him for an hour or so.

[00:06:42] He apologized for sleeping on the couch and that he needed time to think.

[00:06:46] He doesn't see eye to eye with me on my concerns about the ring and says he did research and that it was highly rated.

[00:06:52] He says if the ring breaks, he will replace it, but didn't say it'd be higher quality.

[00:06:57] I have people messaging me that the ring could be harmful to my health and that Timu has horrible standards for their jewelry and labor issues, so now I really don't want to wear it.

[00:07:07] He left, then went to his brother's house.

[00:07:09] Usually I go with him, but things are just tense.

[00:07:12] Am I the arsehole for telling him I still don't want it?

[00:07:15] The commenter says kind of tough because had you not found out it was from Timu, would you be upset?

[00:07:21] OP says to be honest, if I hadn't found out it was from Timu, I probably wouldn't be upset.

[00:07:25] But when it inevitably breaks or tarnishes, the truth would come out.

[00:07:29] Now that I know it has completely changed how I feel about the ring, even if it aesthetically doesn't look too bad.

[00:07:36] The commenter says, did this come as a shock or is he normally cheap and thoughtless?

[00:07:40] OP says he's not normally cheap or thoughtless.

[00:07:43] He's genuinely a great guy, which is making this harder to navigate.

[00:07:48] He started making me feel really guilty and materialistic today when we talked about this.

[00:07:53] I can see his point of view, but I'm just confused.

[00:07:56] It feels like Timu is the bottom of the barrel.

[00:07:58] I'd be happy with a cheap, decent quality ring from Etsy or anywhere else.

[00:08:02] I don't really care about the price itself.

[00:08:05] It's more about the quality and feeling like he doesn't really value me the way I thought he did.

[00:08:11] OP then addresses several commenters asking if he thinks she's a gold digger.

[00:08:15] OP says, I want to clear up these gold digger rumors because this isn't only about the cost of the ring.

[00:08:21] I only mention these things for context because I feel he owes me something in return.

[00:08:26] When I met him, I was making just over 100k and he was working part time and doing an internship bringing in significantly less than me.

[00:08:34] He told me it was his car early on in the relationship.

[00:08:36] I happily drove him to his work every morning on the way to my work when he didn't have a car.

[00:08:42] When his mom got sick and went on hospice, I immediately cancelled all of my travel plans and holiday plans with my family and sat with him visiting her every day for months.

[00:08:51] I helped with funeral arrangements.

[00:08:53] I helped plan his brother's wedding.

[00:08:55] I even loaned him money for a new car once he started his new job.

[00:08:58] He did pay me back by the way.

[00:09:00] He moved in with me recently and most everything in the home is mine that I paid for prior to the relationship.

[00:09:06] Furniture, etc.

[00:09:07] I have paid for so many plane tickets for our travels, concert tickets, etc.

[00:09:12] that I have never asked him to pay back and never will.

[00:09:14] That's what a relationship is.

[00:09:16] I genuinely care for him.

[00:09:18] He has done some similar gestures for me and is more than willing to spend money on dates.

[00:09:23] Believe it or not, I am not this greedy woman sitting here excited to get his money.

[00:09:27] I have my own.

[00:09:29] Someone says have they ever been ring shopping and OP says we never went ring shopping.

[00:09:33] The proposal was a surprise to me.

[00:09:34] We casually discussed getting married in the future for the past year or so.

[00:09:39] But he never asked me my taste in ring.

[00:09:41] So I was kind of thinking that it would have happened before the engagement.

[00:09:44] I actually like the style of the ring.

[00:09:46] But now that I know it's from Timu, I can't look at it the same way.

[00:09:50] OP comes in with another mini update and says I'm literally just sitting here refreshing your comments trying to figure out what to do next.

[00:09:57] He texts me to let me know he plans to stay at his brother's for the weekend and is taking Friday off.

[00:10:02] It's not crazy abnormal since he's been watching football over there.

[00:10:06] But I feel like he's avoiding me now.

[00:10:08] I'm trying not to be pushy about the situation and I'll give him some space but ugh.

[00:10:13] Now I'm just in my head about all of it and regretting my initial reaction.

[00:10:17] It's just a dumb ring.

[00:10:19] And maybe I've read into it too much.

[00:10:21] The only other time we've had an argument like this, it was resolved within a couple of hours.

[00:10:25] So I'm not used to this behavior from him.

[00:10:28] And the next day, OP says, he came home this morning while I was in a work from home meeting.

[00:10:34] These comments made my head spin all night.

[00:10:36] I got like three hours sleep so I admit I may be in the wrong for bringing up his finances but I did.

[00:10:42] Regarding the gold digger rumors.

[00:10:44] When we met, I was making more than him and often paying for his things.

[00:10:48] His high paying job is a recent development.

[00:10:50] I have my own money and don't need his.

[00:10:52] I asked him what was going on.

[00:10:54] If there was anything he needed to tell me.

[00:10:57] If he was testing me by doing this.

[00:10:59] Well, that really set him off.

[00:11:02] What kind of person do you think I am?

[00:11:04] You think I'm a cheapskate?

[00:11:05] A liar?

[00:11:06] You obviously think really poorly of me.

[00:11:09] But still, he never gave me a reason.

[00:11:12] So I asked why again he was deflecting every question to victimize himself.

[00:11:16] And to avoid my questions.

[00:11:18] He tried to leave again.

[00:11:20] So I tried de-escalating and told him.

[00:11:23] I see where he's coming from.

[00:11:24] But I need to know if he still loves me.

[00:11:26] He was immediately apologetic and still wants to get married.

[00:11:30] He said I can just pick my ring out and buy it with my own money.

[00:11:33] He said he's sick of talking about this and it's water under the bridge now.

[00:11:38] He's acting like his normal self again since this convo.

[00:11:41] I hear him out there skipping around and humming to himself all happily.

[00:11:44] And it's actually pissing me off.

[00:11:47] Maybe I'm being dramatic.

[00:11:48] But I don't think I can handle a marriage with someone like this.

[00:11:52] And look for me.

[00:11:53] The bailing out every time you have an argument is a huge red flag in itself.

[00:11:58] Like just conflict avoidant.

[00:12:00] And in all honesty I've got alarm bells going off in my head.

[00:12:03] That something else is going to go on here.

[00:12:05] Because it just feels...

[00:12:06] Like the turning around to you and saying that you can just pick out your own ring.

[00:12:10] And buy it with your own money.

[00:12:11] And then just saying like it's water under the bridge.

[00:12:13] And then carrying on as normal.

[00:12:15] Red flags all over the place for me.

[00:12:17] There's something going on in the background here for me.

[00:12:20] But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:12:23] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:12:26] And let's move on to another story.

[00:12:29] Now our next story comes from PristineAlfalfa619 from the I'm I the asshole subreddit.

[00:12:34] And says I'm I the asshole for not cooking all my parents meals while they're visiting me.

[00:12:40] For context I live with my fiancee in a different country than my family.

[00:12:44] I haven't seen them in over a year because my parents 61 female and 63 male offered to visit me.

[00:12:50] And I was beyond happy.

[00:12:52] I haven't seen them in over a year.

[00:12:54] So my parents 61 female and 63 male offered to visit me.

[00:12:59] And I was beyond happy.

[00:13:01] They have a very humble beginnings in a third world country.

[00:13:04] And this was their first time making an international trip.

[00:13:07] So I tried to make sure everything was perfect and as smooth as possible.

[00:13:12] They came and spent about a month in our house.

[00:13:14] They had their own bed, their own bathroom, arranged for all their necessities.

[00:13:19] And even though we're not rich.

[00:13:20] My fiancee and I tried to provide them with everything.

[00:13:23] So they wouldn't have to spend their money here.

[00:13:25] Where the currency is five times their own.

[00:13:28] About our eating habits.

[00:13:30] My fiancee and I have different schedules.

[00:13:32] Different diets etc.

[00:13:33] So we don't eat together.

[00:13:35] Whenever one of us is hungry.

[00:13:36] We go to the kitchen and make ourselves a plate of food.

[00:13:39] We work from home.

[00:13:40] I explained this to my parents.

[00:13:42] And I also said.

[00:13:43] The kitchen is yours.

[00:13:44] Grab whatever you want.

[00:13:45] And cook whenever you want.

[00:13:47] As time went on.

[00:13:48] We noticed my parents weren't eating much.

[00:13:50] So I asked them what they wanted from the grocery store.

[00:13:53] So I could buy it for them.

[00:13:54] They said everything was fine.

[00:13:56] That they were indeed eating while I was working.

[00:13:59] My mom is naturally peckish.

[00:14:01] So I thought that was just how she ate.

[00:14:03] I haven't lived with my parents in over 10 years.

[00:14:05] So I wouldn't know for sure.

[00:14:07] In any case.

[00:14:08] My fiancee brought my dad to the grocery store with him.

[00:14:11] And told my dad.

[00:14:12] Grab whatever you want.

[00:14:13] And he only grabbed a few items.

[00:14:15] Anyway.

[00:14:16] This went on for pretty much the whole month.

[00:14:18] And every time I asked.

[00:14:19] They said it was all fine.

[00:14:21] At some point.

[00:14:22] I started taking them out for dinner.

[00:14:24] Every day after work.

[00:14:25] Which quite literally broke the bank.

[00:14:27] But at least I could see them eating.

[00:14:29] They left a few days ago.

[00:14:31] Saying they loved their stay.

[00:14:33] And that they had a blast.

[00:14:34] So to my surprise.

[00:14:36] My sister.

[00:14:36] 40 female.

[00:14:37] Called me today.

[00:14:38] Ripping me a new arsehole.

[00:14:40] Saying that my parents told her.

[00:14:41] That they had no food to eat.

[00:14:43] That there was no food in the fridge.

[00:14:45] And they couldn't eat.

[00:14:46] Because it belonged to us.

[00:14:47] And that they had to keep making trips.

[00:14:48] At a convenience store.

[00:14:49] To buy food for themselves.

[00:14:51] And that they spent a lot of money.

[00:14:53] I couldn't believe my ears.

[00:14:55] I'm feeling totally blindsided by this.

[00:14:58] I thought they knew how to cook their own food.

[00:15:00] And if there was something missing.

[00:15:02] That they would have told me to buy.

[00:15:03] I took their word for it.

[00:15:05] When they said everything was fine.

[00:15:06] And that they were eating.

[00:15:08] My sister says I should have been more attentive to their needs.

[00:15:11] And that I acted like I didn't give a fuck.

[00:15:13] So now I'm feeling bad.

[00:15:15] Thinking my parents were miserable.

[00:15:17] And starving the whole time.

[00:15:18] While I thought they were fine.

[00:15:20] I don't want to bring this up to my fiance.

[00:15:23] He'll be devastated.

[00:15:24] He was genuinely trying the best he could.

[00:15:26] To make my parents happy.

[00:15:27] Am I the asshole?

[00:15:29] What more could I have done?

[00:15:30] My head is spinning right now.

[00:15:32] So sorry for the long text.

[00:15:34] A commenter says to the OP.

[00:15:36] Did you see them go to the grocery store?

[00:15:38] OP says thanks for reading this.

[00:15:39] Yes.

[00:15:40] The thing is my dad smoked.

[00:15:41] So I just thought he wanted to buy cigarettes.

[00:15:43] There's also a park nearby that my mum claimed she liked to go to for walks.

[00:15:47] So I just assumed that's what they were doing.

[00:15:50] A commenter says I think you need to talk to them ASAP.

[00:15:53] Saying exactly what your sister said and ask why.

[00:15:56] Tell them you asked them many times.

[00:15:58] OP says I tried but nobody answered my calls.

[00:16:00] So yeah feels like a very shitty place to be right now.

[00:16:04] A commenter says info.

[00:16:05] So you all never had a cooked meal together at home in a month.

[00:16:09] OP says yes.

[00:16:10] We did have cooked meals together a few times.

[00:16:12] Mostly on weekends when I had to make something more elaborate.

[00:16:15] The biggest issue was during work days.

[00:16:17] When there wasn't much time for me to cook.

[00:16:20] Especially lunch.

[00:16:21] Someone says info.

[00:16:23] This popped in my head.

[00:16:24] Because you say your parents are from another country.

[00:16:26] Is the food in your home drastically different?

[00:16:29] Is cookware different?

[00:16:30] The pots, pans, the oven, whatever.

[00:16:33] OP says no not at all.

[00:16:35] It's pretty similar and they did know how to use my range, microwave and I even taught them how to use the air fryer.

[00:16:41] A commenter says.

[00:16:42] Did you ask them if they were eating?

[00:16:43] OP says I did ask.

[00:16:45] They would guarantee me that they ate XYZ.

[00:16:47] Sandwich eggs, pasta.

[00:16:49] And then they said they cleaned the kitchen before I could see it.

[00:16:52] OP explains relationships dynamics to someone who was downvoted and says.

[00:16:56] I don't believe we're from the same culture.

[00:16:58] As the commenter.

[00:16:59] Based on some of your replies.

[00:17:01] If they weren't on the same page as me then it's not cultural.

[00:17:04] Where I'm from family is family and you can be yourself.

[00:17:07] There's no such thing as etiquette amongst parents and children.

[00:17:10] I mentioned I felt blindsided by my sister's call because I did feel everything was fine and they reassured me it was.

[00:17:16] So no.

[00:17:17] I don't know why they prefer junk food over the groceries in the fridge and pantry.

[00:17:21] And OP said the comment from Ms. Shea was the most helpful comment which said.

[00:17:26] My in-laws are like this.

[00:17:28] When they come to visit they are so out of source that even though we take them to the store and everything is the same.

[00:17:33] Cooking in our kitchen is complicated and they can't do it.

[00:17:37] They get sick from the air here.

[00:17:38] They are hungry but don't want to be a bother or mess with anything.

[00:17:42] The water is different.

[00:17:43] I got a family member like that.

[00:17:45] And upsets their stomach etc etc etc.

[00:17:48] My husband would beat himself up.

[00:17:50] Then would bend over backwards and now they are just at a breaking point because there are cultural barriers and age related barriers we can't seem to get through that have only increased with age.

[00:18:00] His sisters will call us when they are here and tell us the same things.

[00:18:04] We can take them to the store to get the exact coffee they drink at home and they will say no they like ours.

[00:18:10] Then calls his sister and say they're getting sick because of our coffee.

[00:18:14] This may be a challenge because they are so uncomfortable outside their norm.

[00:18:17] Whether it is out of the country, out of their home or their environment.

[00:18:21] That they lose the capacity to be self-sufficient.

[00:18:24] You could try and talk with them but keep in mind that they may have some barriers and walls built that they need to realize or can't realize.

[00:18:31] Especially if they are older and have not left their comfort zone most of their life.

[00:18:35] OP responds that saying oh my god thank you so much for this insight.

[00:18:39] I think you're absolutely correct.

[00:18:41] My dad has the terrible habit of complaining about everything.

[00:18:43] We took them to see literally one of the seven wonders of the world.

[00:18:47] Paid for a huge Airbnb and his first comment was.

[00:18:50] Oh the clock on the wall is broken.

[00:18:53] I feel like there's nothing that I could do that would be enough.

[00:18:56] He'll always have something bad to say.

[00:18:58] Yeah your comment helped me make sense of the situation so thanks again.

[00:19:03] And as I said I got a family member who often complains about the water down south.

[00:19:09] The water is different.

[00:19:10] Admittedly the water is different down south compared to up north.

[00:19:13] There's much harder water down here.

[00:19:14] Tastes different.

[00:19:16] But also like when they turn up like we get like a takeaway together or whatever and it's never good enough etc.

[00:19:22] It's never the same as where they're from.

[00:19:24] It's always like oh it's just draining.

[00:19:26] But Opie does update their post and says thank you so much for all the replies.

[00:19:30] I appreciate all insights.

[00:19:32] It was kind of funny to see how invested some of you got over my family drama.

[00:19:36] So that made me feel less down.

[00:19:38] Anyway so I got a hold of my mum who is the most level headed family member.

[00:19:42] And asked her what they said saying my sister had such a strong reaction.

[00:19:46] Some of you were correct.

[00:19:47] My sister did blow this out of proportion.

[00:19:49] But also my parents particularly my dad have a strong feeling of inadequacy.

[00:19:54] Which I knew of but never thought I would become the focus of it.

[00:19:57] Essentially she said my dad felt like he didn't deserve any of the things we were doing for them.

[00:20:02] Hence why he chose junk food over the quality food we provided.

[00:20:06] My dad had some self-hatred that was present my whole life.

[00:20:09] He's very overweight.

[00:20:10] He smokes and also a functional alcoholic.

[00:20:14] Me and my partner are fitness orientated people.

[00:20:16] So we paid for a monthly gym subscription for both of them so we could all go together.

[00:20:21] They both said they wanted it but my dad went a few times only.

[00:20:25] I did notice he was smoking a lot more than I remember and he was also buying beers every week.

[00:20:30] But I guess it was his way of coping with whatever feelings that were triggered by his first international trip.

[00:20:36] Apparently he never thought he would go anywhere.

[00:20:39] My sister heard all of this and thought that I did something that made my dad feel this way.

[00:20:43] That I mistreated him or that I somehow caused this.

[00:20:46] I don't know.

[00:20:48] None of this is true.

[00:20:49] I was super happy to have my parents here and I'm not ashamed of them whatsoever.

[00:20:52] I was proud to introduce my family to my American friends and everyone went above and beyond to make them feel welcomed.

[00:20:59] I did everything I could possibly think of.

[00:21:01] I'm not rich but I'm prudent with my money so I do have a comfortable life.

[00:21:06] This doesn't mean I can stop working tomorrow.

[00:21:08] I'm not a millionaire.

[00:21:09] But the issue is not with me.

[00:21:11] It's with how my parents feel inside.

[00:21:14] It's almost like I'm being punished for leaving poverty behind and somehow they chose to distance themselves.

[00:21:19] Like I'm an outsider.

[00:21:20] So it wasn't about the food.

[00:21:22] It was about my dad and his extreme inferiority complex.

[00:21:26] That stopped him from enjoying his time and connecting with me.

[00:21:29] My partner in my house and my new reality.

[00:21:32] My mum did apologize on behalf of my sister.

[00:21:35] Said she planned on talking to me and regretted that she didn't.

[00:21:38] Because of how my sister brought the issue to me.

[00:21:40] I don't know how to digest all of this but yeah.

[00:21:43] I guess I have some therapy sessions ahead of me.

[00:21:46] Anyway, thanks for reading.

[00:21:48] I just love the top comment on this one from Captain Delicious Pants who says,

[00:21:52] The sister needs to start a business and mind it.

[00:21:56] There's no money in drama like this.

[00:21:59] And OP was pretty much in between a rock and a hard place through this whole story.

[00:22:03] Asking them did they want anything.

[00:22:05] Taking them to the shops.

[00:22:06] And you know, they kept saying no, no.

[00:22:08] They're eating.

[00:22:09] They're cleaning.

[00:22:10] They're doing everything.

[00:22:11] And then complaining when they get back home.

[00:22:13] I mean, he was really just thrown under the bus.

[00:22:15] And then sister starts to stir up some drama with it as well.

[00:22:18] Well, holy moly.

[00:22:20] It just sounds like an exhausting situation.

[00:22:22] I'm glad that you did get through it in the end.

[00:22:24] And you got the truth out of what was going on.

[00:22:27] And hopefully you and your partner are not blaming yourselves in any way for this.

[00:22:31] Because this is their responsibility.

[00:22:33] They are adults.

[00:22:34] They can speak up.

[00:22:35] And you did your best to give them exactly what they needed or wanted at those moments.

[00:22:40] And they refused it and then complained when they got home.

[00:22:42] I mean, it's that simple really.

[00:22:43] But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:22:47] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:22:50] Now, just a huge thank you for being here today.

[00:22:52] Getting involved in the stories.

[00:22:53] Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me.

[00:22:57] So thank you so, so much.

[00:22:58] And hopefully I'll see you in the next one.

[00:23:00] Take care and much love.