I DITCHED The Rest Of The Backpacking Group When I Was Their Only Ride r/Relationships

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[00:00:20] Now today's first story comes from Colton 011000 and says, am I the asshole for ditching the rest of the backpacking group when I was their only ride?

[00:00:31] So hear me out. I, 22 male, and my friend from college, 27 male, were invited on a backpacking trip that was being organized by a friend of his, who he had met while backpacking in Colorado the year before.

[00:00:44] The old Kaylee, 25 female, who organized the trip, had booked an Airbnb for us to all stay the night after we got off the trail from a three day trek.

[00:00:54] There was room enough for two people each to the two beds, and then room enough for two on the pullout couch.

[00:01:00] We all paid evenly for the Airbnb. Of course, we thought Kaylee should have priority to her bed since she had done all the planning.

[00:01:08] And there was a boyfriend and girlfriend couple as part of the six of us planning to stay in the Airbnb.

[00:01:14] So naturally, my friend and I felt we should take the pullout couch. And this is how it was settled before ever commencing the trip.

[00:01:22] However, midway through the trek, the couple had to turn around and head home.

[00:01:27] So now there would only be four people to the Airbnb. And naturally, so we thought, my friend and I assumed we would now sleep on the real bed.

[00:01:35] Along with a couple back and outs, my friend and I became the only ride for Kaylee and the other guy, Tyler, to get back to the airport in Denver.

[00:01:45] And my friend and I would have a 14 hour drive back after dropping them off.

[00:01:49] Tyler is a relatively passive character in this saga, as he didn't speak up much for either side, and was designated to be sharing the bed, platonically with Kaylee anyway.

[00:02:00] So you won't hear much mention of him. So such was the case when we landed at the Airbnb, that my friend and I said our things next to the real bed that Kaylee hadn't taken, and took a catnap on the bed.

[00:02:12] Hinter, Chris Fisher.

[00:02:15] Kaylee had invited her friend Chris Fisher to come hang out for the night.

[00:02:19] Chris lived in Colorado only a couple of hours away from where we were, and apparently was a celebrity of sorts in a circle.

[00:02:27] So Chris had come in and said hi to Kaylee and Tyler, and was briefly introduced to me and my friend, saying a simple what's up in response to the introduction.

[00:02:36] Chris then was shooting the breeze with Kay and T, and my friend and I went into the room to organize our luggage.

[00:02:43] Then we hear Chris say, I need a shower, and comes into the room, without a word to us, and plops his stuff onto the foot of our bed, and rummages for his toiletries, and hops in the shower.

[00:02:55] After Chris is out of the shower, the group is talking like they're going to go out for the evening for beers, but I know that we have a 14 hour drive ahead of us the next day, after dropping Kay and T off at the airport.

[00:03:06] So I tell them all I'm going to hang back and go to sleep for the night.

[00:03:10] Chris left his bag on the bed, so I moved it to the counter in the living room so he wouldn't forget it.

[00:03:15] From here, according to my friend, he spent an entire evening out in Grand Lake, the hugest douche he'd ever encountered in his life.

[00:03:24] Fisher could not stop talking about these obscure world records he had broken and slash or set in the world-renowned sport of ridge running,

[00:03:32] and his records for most elevation gain in a day by repeatedly going up and down some particular mountain.

[00:03:38] Kaylee was apparently eating it up as if she was utterly starstruck.

[00:03:42] If you've seen the movie The Other Guys and recall the attitude that everyone had when encountering The Rock and Sam Jackson's characters,

[00:03:50] this was, according to my friend, exactly Kaylee's demeanor.

[00:03:54] After returning from a soul-sucking outing, my friend was more than ready to bid Mr. Fisher adieu and proceed to never see his face again.

[00:04:03] That, unfortunately, was not what happened.

[00:04:06] Kaylee was beyond upset that I was still in the bed.

[00:04:09] She wanted Chris to have the bed.

[00:04:10] She invoked the fact that my friend and I were designated for the pull-out couch from the jump.

[00:04:15] My friend was sticking up for us, though, saying that not only did it only make sense that we take the real bed after it opened up,

[00:04:22] but that Fisher had pitched in nothing for this trip,

[00:04:25] that we weren't even made aware until the last minute that he was coming by,

[00:04:29] and most importantly, that I was already asleep in the bed.

[00:04:33] Kaylee apparently was absolutely refusing to have it any other way and would not stop hammering the issue.

[00:04:39] Finally, Tyler came and woke me up for me to come sleep on the pull-out.

[00:04:43] It was around midnight now and we needed to be out by 6am.

[00:04:48] I came in the kitchenette in a sleepy stupor.

[00:04:51] Here is where I got the real estate of the douche that is Chris Fisher.

[00:04:55] For two hours in the kitchenette, eight feet away from the couch Kaylee had insisted we sleep on,

[00:05:01] my friend and I sat there and listened to Kaylee and Fisher drag on and on about all their outdoor adventure prowess.

[00:05:08] Talking about how great they were at skiing, at snowboarding, at setting FKTs on trails.

[00:05:13] I did not know until this point that vacation activities could be such a flex,

[00:05:18] but here they are proved to me that one can make them one's entire personality

[00:05:22] and the culmination of an entire life accomplishment.

[00:05:26] Looking back now, I should have piped up about how I went to Europe and hiked on the Matterhorn,

[00:05:31] but they surely would have retorted with how they'd gone to Europe too, but even harder.

[00:05:37] Here is where my friend and I may be the arseholes.

[00:05:40] My friend was staring at me and seething.

[00:05:43] He hated the fact that they had woken me up,

[00:05:46] hated the fact that they kicked us out of our bed,

[00:05:48] and hated the insult to injury of having the audacity to shoot the shit for another two hours

[00:05:52] right by where my friend and I needed to be sleeping.

[00:05:56] About one and a half hours in, as he seethes,

[00:05:59] he subtly gestures at me to look at my phone.

[00:06:02] I open my phone and read,

[00:06:03] Let's ditch these arseholes.

[00:06:05] And as soon as they finally head to bed,

[00:06:07] we promptly agree that Chris Fisher is taking our place in our bed,

[00:06:11] unwittingly took his place as their writer Denver.

[00:06:15] Grab our packs by the door and set out back to Oklahoma at 3am on the dot.

[00:06:20] And I hope he gives their first little update briefly in the first post and says,

[00:06:24] I honestly never heard of these people,

[00:06:26] besides of course my friend, until a week before that trip.

[00:06:29] I've never heard of or from them since we rode off into the proverbial sunset.

[00:06:34] So really, my update is that this is a chapter closed for good.

[00:06:40] On the back of this as well,

[00:06:42] OP also shared a video that,

[00:06:44] because some people were saying that OP might be exaggerating his ego.

[00:06:48] So she shared a video of this guy about his records and his accomplishments and stuff like that.

[00:06:55] And apparently Chris turned up in the comments and says,

[00:06:58] This is pretty funny.

[00:07:00] Especially for the part where you actually still drove them to the airport.

[00:07:03] You did an excellent job manipulating this story, Tanner.

[00:07:07] Chris.

[00:07:09] Cotton Bean replied to Chris saying,

[00:07:11] Bro, with how much you love yourself, why haven't you put a ring on it?

[00:07:15] You seem like you could be pretty chill,

[00:07:17] but damn, you seem to let your personal achievements rule your personality.

[00:07:21] Do you have any other hobbies like fishing or kayaking?

[00:07:24] Are you a snowmobiler or volunteer for anything?

[00:07:27] Does hiking just envelop your life?

[00:07:30] I have a close friend who sounds a lot like you,

[00:07:32] where literally every day I talk to him,

[00:07:34] he has to update me on his personal best cycling time and distance.

[00:07:38] It's cool, you love what you do,

[00:07:40] but why do you have a personal website listing off all these weird achievements?

[00:07:44] Are you going to do something in the Olympics someday?

[00:07:47] Sorry for the verbal diarrhea.

[00:07:49] I'm genuinely curious.

[00:07:50] Chris replied saying,

[00:07:52] Since you're curious,

[00:07:53] I do love myself like you should yourself.

[00:07:55] And I'm a paid professional mountain athlete,

[00:07:58] so it's literally my job to post the things that I do in the mountains.

[00:08:01] Personally, I hate social media and wish I wasn't on it,

[00:08:05] but again, it's literally my job and I love climbing, skiing and running around the mountains.

[00:08:10] So I continue to do my thing.

[00:08:11] People that actually know me would speak much differently than this OP.

[00:08:15] It's honestly pretty hilarious that he came up with this whole story.

[00:08:19] Anyways, hope I have answered your question.

[00:08:22] Have a great evening.

[00:08:24] Boss Garbo says,

[00:08:25] Did you ever pay anything for the room or did you just mooch like an asshole?

[00:08:29] Chris replied saying,

[00:08:30] Being invited to stay the night by the person who paid for the Airbnb isn't mooching.

[00:08:36] But I offered to sleep in my truck many of the times as I had a sleeping setup in the truck.

[00:08:41] The original OP then comes in with an update.

[00:08:44] They start with an edit and saying,

[00:08:46] So there was indeed some embellishment.

[00:08:48] They said,

[00:08:49] Chris asked for this.

[00:08:51] So no one try and blame me for making him and Kay look even worse.

[00:08:55] Everything in this story is true except the part about us actually leaving.

[00:09:00] My friend tried to talk me into it, but I said it was too mean to do even in response to what they had done to us.

[00:09:06] I couldn't bear leaving someone hours away from where they needed to be.

[00:09:11] Though my friend did insist Fisher would surely be a reliable ride to the airport.

[00:09:16] In reality, we had told them upon agreeing to be their ride to the airport

[00:09:20] that this would necessitate us leaving very early that morning

[00:09:23] because my friend and I were going to be cutting it close and try to make it back to Oklahoma all in one stretch.

[00:09:29] So he could make it to his 6pm central time class that evening.

[00:09:34] So even after being treated like dirt,

[00:09:36] even after them sleeping in and lollygagging all morning

[00:09:39] and causing us not to hit the road until about two hours after we needed to be on the road,

[00:09:44] we still drove an hour out of our way that morning to take Kay and T to the airport,

[00:09:48] which overall ended up making us too late for his class.

[00:09:53] We called friends and fam all day to pick their brains about if we would have been,

[00:09:57] as I maintained, wrong to leave them or if we should have,

[00:10:00] as my friend insisted, left them, Kay and T high and dry.

[00:10:05] We got mixed reviews from that.

[00:10:07] We'd completely forgotten about the scenario until today

[00:10:10] when we were driving on our way to another new adventure

[00:10:13] and reading Am I the Asshole posts,

[00:10:15] as we loved to do on our car rides

[00:10:17] and realized that this story would be perfect for this forum.

[00:10:21] Of course, we were not posting into a forum called

[00:10:23] Would I hypothetically have been an asshole

[00:10:26] if I had done the thing I thought to do but was too nice to have done?

[00:10:30] So we had to add to the story the alternate ending

[00:10:32] that we've always wondered about.

[00:10:35] So sorry for embellishing, Chris,

[00:10:36] but I'm not sure how the reality here paints you in any better of a light.

[00:10:41] The truth sets us free, I suppose.

[00:10:44] Cractal Maze said to that one,

[00:10:45] still not the asshole,

[00:10:47] and you were still kind enough to take them to the airport,

[00:10:50] and they delayed your trip by two hours.

[00:10:52] You're better than me.

[00:10:54] I would have left them after 30 minutes.

[00:10:57] What Say says,

[00:10:58] so after all that and them oversleeping,

[00:11:00] Chris didn't even offer to take them to the airport.

[00:11:02] He should have kept his mouth shut,

[00:11:04] not the asshole.

[00:11:06] Chris replies saying,

[00:11:08] mouth shut about what?

[00:11:09] I didn't say a word to anybody.

[00:11:11] I didn't kick anybody out,

[00:11:12] and I didn't stay up until 3am talking.

[00:11:14] Nobody overslept,

[00:11:15] nobody was late for anything,

[00:11:17] and we all had a wonderful breakfast the next morning.

[00:11:20] Plenty Anywhere says,

[00:11:21] I think Chris may have gained some respect here

[00:11:23] by piping up like a gentleman,

[00:11:25] or just a decent human being actually.

[00:11:27] It seems like he stood idly by like a snake,

[00:11:30] watching Kaylee be the one to make the fuss,

[00:11:32] when all he had to do was say,

[00:11:34] he'd take the pull out.

[00:11:36] This whole us sleep in my truck BS

[00:11:37] was just false piety intended

[00:11:39] to make Kaylee feel bad for him.

[00:11:41] The whole situation is just a bit weird for me.

[00:11:44] If I was like in that Chris's position,

[00:11:46] I would have insisted on not taking that bed

[00:11:48] in the slightest,

[00:11:49] or make anyone take a pull out bed

[00:11:52] when, you know,

[00:11:52] I was just invited randomly,

[00:11:55] and they've all paid for it.

[00:11:57] And obviously,

[00:11:58] this post is over the best of Reddit updates,

[00:12:01] Boro,

[00:12:01] all kinds of places now,

[00:12:02] but if you ever do come across a video,

[00:12:04] or you go looking for it,

[00:12:05] don't brigade please.

[00:12:06] But now,

[00:12:08] I'm gonna turn this one to you guys.

[00:12:10] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:12:13] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below,

[00:12:16] and let's move on to another story,

[00:12:19] which comes from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit,

[00:12:21] and says,

[00:12:21] Am I the Arsehole for not allowing my fiance's best friend

[00:12:25] to come to our wedding?

[00:12:27] My fiance and I have been together just under six years,

[00:12:31] dated three,

[00:12:32] engaged two and a half,

[00:12:33] great relationship relatively,

[00:12:35] our friends and family all get along well

[00:12:37] with the other person,

[00:12:39] no issues at all,

[00:12:40] except for one of my partner's best friends.

[00:12:43] Said best friend has never liked me,

[00:12:46] and seemingly had it out for me the entire time.

[00:12:48] She basically ignores my existence,

[00:12:51] refuses to speak to me,

[00:12:53] or be cordial to me.

[00:12:54] But as soon as she sees my partner,

[00:12:56] she's yelling and hugging him,

[00:12:58] talking about,

[00:12:59] hey best friend,

[00:13:00] while ignoring me,

[00:13:01] even though I'm right next to him.

[00:13:03] I told him about it,

[00:13:04] and how it made me feel.

[00:13:06] And at first,

[00:13:07] it went unaddressed two to three more times,

[00:13:10] because he needed proof,

[00:13:11] to make sure there wasn't an issue.

[00:13:13] After said proof was present,

[00:13:15] he spoke to her about it,

[00:13:17] and she got a little better.

[00:13:18] But only around groups of people,

[00:13:20] and like twice.

[00:13:21] She indicated she doesn't have a problem with me,

[00:13:24] so he felt I'm the only one having an issue,

[00:13:27] and I just need to approach her and talk it out.

[00:13:29] I told him I'm not doing that,

[00:13:31] because she isn't my friend,

[00:13:33] and he needs to do so.

[00:13:35] A couple of weeks ago,

[00:13:36] we attended a mutual friends party.

[00:13:38] I attempted to make eye contact,

[00:13:40] and say hello two to three times,

[00:13:42] but she avoided me,

[00:13:43] and refused to look at me the whole time.

[00:13:46] My fiance noticed,

[00:13:47] because it was so blatant.

[00:13:49] I don't want her respect,

[00:13:51] don't need her to like me,

[00:13:52] don't honestly want her around at all.

[00:13:54] I just want her to have basic human decency.

[00:13:57] This situation has caused me to rethink my relationship,

[00:14:01] and ending it,

[00:14:01] because I feel like my fiance is in the wrong,

[00:14:04] for engaging with her,

[00:14:05] after seeing how she completely disregards me.

[00:14:08] I think now,

[00:14:09] but mostly after marriage,

[00:14:10] we're supposed to be a unit,

[00:14:11] and I wouldn't allow this behavior from a friend.

[00:14:14] I've been feeling like an asshole,

[00:14:16] because we spent the better half,

[00:14:17] half of a nice drunken evening,

[00:14:18] arguing about this.

[00:14:19] And I told him,

[00:14:20] she can't come to our wedding,

[00:14:22] as I won't have someone,

[00:14:23] who can't seem to stand me near there.

[00:14:25] I'm the asshole,

[00:14:27] but telling my fiance,

[00:14:28] she can't come to our wedding.

[00:14:30] But the question itself,

[00:14:32] absolutely not the asshole,

[00:14:33] of course.

[00:14:34] Why would,

[00:14:34] like you said,

[00:14:35] why would you want someone,

[00:14:37] doesn't like you in any way,

[00:14:39] I'm not sure what the background is.

[00:14:41] Automatically,

[00:14:41] my head goes to that,

[00:14:42] you know,

[00:14:43] the jealous best friend,

[00:14:44] she wants him kind of thing.

[00:14:46] Why would you want anyone,

[00:14:47] that dislikes you at your wedding?

[00:14:49] You just simply wouldn't.

[00:14:50] And the fact that he's not backing you up in this,

[00:14:52] you know,

[00:14:53] it's red flags for me at the moment.

[00:14:55] But,

[00:14:56] first commenter says,

[00:14:57] not the asshole,

[00:14:58] but I'm surprised that you decided,

[00:14:59] to marry someone,

[00:15:00] who allows such behavior towards you.

[00:15:02] Hopey responded saying,

[00:15:04] I don't want to ruin,

[00:15:04] what has otherwise been,

[00:15:06] the healthiest and best relationship in my life,

[00:15:08] but I've been thinking on it hard.

[00:15:10] Because,

[00:15:10] where are the boundaries?

[00:15:12] Choice Poole says,

[00:15:13] lady,

[00:15:14] if this was the healthiest relationship in your life,

[00:15:16] I feel you might want to take a break from dating,

[00:15:18] and focus on therapy,

[00:15:20] because you are certainly going for the very low end,

[00:15:22] of the dating pool.

[00:15:23] But,

[00:15:24] if you really want to salvage this relationship,

[00:15:25] and proceed with marriage,

[00:15:27] you need to put your foot down,

[00:15:28] and establish that you will not allow yourself,

[00:15:30] to be trampled on.

[00:15:31] Forget about not inviting her to your wedding.

[00:15:34] If your fiance wants to have a wedding,

[00:15:35] to begin with,

[00:15:36] his friend needs to be cut off,

[00:15:37] from his life permanently,

[00:15:38] and without butts,

[00:15:39] or compromises.

[00:15:41] Hopey says lol,

[00:15:43] aside from this issue,

[00:15:44] and minor spats,

[00:15:45] yes,

[00:15:45] I understand what you are saying,

[00:15:47] and I'm not endorsing his behavior,

[00:15:49] but there are far worse fates in relationships.

[00:15:52] Through experience and not.

[00:15:54] He definitely isn't the low end of the dating pool,

[00:15:56] he's the upper end,

[00:15:58] which is part of the problem.

[00:15:59] You brought up valid points,

[00:16:01] which I appreciated.

[00:16:02] There can't be a compromise with this at all.

[00:16:04] An intelligent lemon says girl,

[00:16:06] a man who doesn't put you first,

[00:16:08] is the low end of the dating pool.

[00:16:10] So,

[00:16:11] Hopey comes in,

[00:16:12] a month later with an update,

[00:16:14] and says,

[00:16:15] Original bluff,

[00:16:16] I told my fiancee,

[00:16:17] and his best friend can't come to our wedding.

[00:16:19] She pretends I don't exist,

[00:16:20] and he does nothing to address it.

[00:16:22] The comments on my original post,

[00:16:24] opened my eyes,

[00:16:25] and made me realize,

[00:16:26] that despite this being,

[00:16:27] the healthiest relationship I've been in,

[00:16:28] it doesn't mean it's actually healthy.

[00:16:31] We've had a couple of conversations,

[00:16:32] surrounding the issue,

[00:16:33] which mostly consisted of me saying,

[00:16:35] it bothered me,

[00:16:36] and him saying,

[00:16:37] I was the only one who cared.

[00:16:39] A couple of things helped me realize my breaking point.

[00:16:42] One,

[00:16:43] I asked him if he'd be okay,

[00:16:45] with our daughter's future partner,

[00:16:46] treating them like this,

[00:16:47] to which he got flustered,

[00:16:49] shut down,

[00:16:49] and said he didn't want to talk about it.

[00:16:51] I left it alone.

[00:16:53] Two,

[00:16:53] he said he didn't want to end his friendship,

[00:16:55] or do anything to jeopardize it,

[00:16:57] because,

[00:16:57] what if we break up?

[00:16:59] This made me realize,

[00:17:01] he would not protect me as his wife,

[00:17:03] since he didn't as his girlfriend.

[00:17:04] The final straw,

[00:17:06] was when I expressed,

[00:17:07] how much it bothered me,

[00:17:07] that he wanted me,

[00:17:09] to blow this off,

[00:17:09] since we,

[00:17:10] as in me,

[00:17:11] and the best friend,

[00:17:12] only see each other,

[00:17:13] four to six times a year.

[00:17:14] And he said,

[00:17:15] directly quoted,

[00:17:16] because,

[00:17:17] this is burned into my brain,

[00:17:19] I know the way she treats you,

[00:17:20] is garbage,

[00:17:20] but you're allowing one person,

[00:17:22] to dictate our relationship.

[00:17:24] It could be worse,

[00:17:25] she could be more active.

[00:17:27] There are worse ways,

[00:17:28] to meddle,

[00:17:29] people text and lie,

[00:17:30] and all that,

[00:17:31] to break relationships up.

[00:17:33] The first line broke my heart,

[00:17:34] and told me all I needed to know.

[00:17:36] After trucked through,

[00:17:37] a couple more months,

[00:17:38] of pre-planned,

[00:17:39] and paid for social engagements.

[00:17:40] But,

[00:17:41] I closed the curtain,

[00:17:42] on any chance,

[00:17:43] of healing this relationship,

[00:17:45] the moment those words,

[00:17:46] left his mouth.

[00:17:47] Thank you for everyone,

[00:17:48] for the advice,

[00:17:49] common sense,

[00:17:49] knocking me upside the head,

[00:17:51] and similar related experiences,

[00:17:52] and outcomes.

[00:17:54] I'm going to go to therapy,

[00:17:55] and redefine,

[00:17:56] what a healthy,

[00:17:56] balanced,

[00:17:57] and a communicative relationship.

[00:17:59] Edit,

[00:18:00] the pre-planned events,

[00:18:01] aren't the wedding,

[00:18:01] and engagement related.

[00:18:03] We share a home,

[00:18:04] need to divide assets,

[00:18:05] pets,

[00:18:05] a custody schedule.

[00:18:07] Additionally,

[00:18:07] we have vacations,

[00:18:08] and with a mutually shared friend group.

[00:18:11] Boyfriend not a part of that group.

[00:18:13] I appreciate the concerns,

[00:18:14] but I need to plan things out,

[00:18:15] a little more.

[00:18:16] There will be no second chance.

[00:18:18] To those who keep saying,

[00:18:20] they're fucking,

[00:18:21] probably.

[00:18:22] When I first brought this up,

[00:18:23] he became stressed,

[00:18:24] and kept emphasizing,

[00:18:25] how I thought he was fucking his best friend,

[00:18:27] and he didn't address the issue,

[00:18:28] that was brought up.

[00:18:29] I don't care to know,

[00:18:31] or confirm.

[00:18:32] Edit two,

[00:18:33] we are not getting married,

[00:18:35] continuing our relationship.

[00:18:36] For those thinking,

[00:18:37] I'm using the pre-planned events,

[00:18:39] to justify holding out good.

[00:18:41] Absolutely fucking not.

[00:18:42] Our relationship was dead,

[00:18:44] the moment he admitted,

[00:18:45] she treated me like garbage,

[00:18:46] and basically shrugged it off.

[00:18:48] As a note,

[00:18:49] I never asked him,

[00:18:50] to cut anyone off,

[00:18:51] out of his life.

[00:18:52] I simply asked for basic greetings,

[00:18:54] and acknowledgement,

[00:18:55] during the rare encounters,

[00:18:56] with his BFF.

[00:18:57] This hasn't happened,

[00:18:59] aside from a couple of,

[00:19:00] begrudging times.

[00:19:02] So,

[00:19:02] Opie came in,

[00:19:03] with another update,

[00:19:04] three months later,

[00:19:06] and said,

[00:19:07] my ex-fiancee,

[00:19:08] did begin to make an effort,

[00:19:09] to include me,

[00:19:10] and make sure I was addressed,

[00:19:11] during group events,

[00:19:13] even though we'd already separated.

[00:19:15] Throughout the summer,

[00:19:15] we had many conversations,

[00:19:17] not in hopes of reconciling,

[00:19:19] but mostly to make sure,

[00:19:20] he truly understood,

[00:19:21] the cause of our breakup.

[00:19:23] While drunk,

[00:19:23] he apologized for his messy,

[00:19:25] and toxic friends.

[00:19:26] Said he needed to re-evaluate,

[00:19:28] his friendships,

[00:19:29] and apologized for,

[00:19:30] bringing them into my life.

[00:19:31] He changed his tune,

[00:19:33] and later sober convos.

[00:19:34] I was met with,

[00:19:35] continued excuses,

[00:19:37] and my point of view feelings,

[00:19:38] being brushed off.

[00:19:39] This isn't that big of a deal,

[00:19:41] I don't want to talk about it anymore.

[00:19:43] I have friends,

[00:19:43] that have done worse.

[00:19:45] The explanation,

[00:19:46] and insight I received,

[00:19:47] is that the best friend,

[00:19:48] was a side piece,

[00:19:50] knowingly,

[00:19:50] for like seven to ten years.

[00:19:52] Guy had a baby,

[00:19:53] and brought his baby mother,

[00:19:54] a house,

[00:19:55] car,

[00:19:55] and basically got married,

[00:19:57] all while stringing,

[00:19:58] the friend along.

[00:19:59] As a result,

[00:20:00] the BFF,

[00:20:00] has always asserted herself,

[00:20:02] as being the,

[00:20:03] most important woman,

[00:20:04] in her male friend's lives.

[00:20:06] All in all,

[00:20:07] just going to go to therapy,

[00:20:08] heal some shit,

[00:20:09] move on.

[00:20:10] I'm starting piano lessons soon,

[00:20:12] and taking a language class,

[00:20:14] to pass my free time.

[00:20:15] Also focusing on cooking again,

[00:20:17] and moving my body.

[00:20:18] I'm going to lose about 40 to 50 pounds.

[00:20:21] Thanks everyone for commenting,

[00:20:23] offering solutions,

[00:20:24] and an alternative point of view,

[00:20:26] including those who felt,

[00:20:28] I was making a big deal out of nothing,

[00:20:29] and that I was trying to make,

[00:20:30] or be friends with me.

[00:20:31] Never wanted that.

[00:20:33] I felt crazy for a while,

[00:20:34] but I'm thankful for random strangers on Reddit,

[00:20:37] confirming,

[00:20:38] I'm not.

[00:20:40] And just a comment from the top,

[00:20:41] on that one,

[00:20:42] who said,

[00:20:42] I kept up with your post,

[00:20:43] and that man's an idiot.

[00:20:45] Threw everything away,

[00:20:47] for a friend like that.

[00:20:48] To me,

[00:20:49] there's more than what he's saying,

[00:20:51] and I wouldn't be surprised,

[00:20:52] if they end up together.

[00:20:53] But it's done now.

[00:20:54] He's not your problem.

[00:20:55] He's hers.

[00:20:56] Onward,

[00:20:57] upward,

[00:20:57] and upward.

[00:20:59] That comment,

[00:21:00] where he said to her,

[00:21:01] I know she treats you like garbage,

[00:21:03] but you're allowing one person,

[00:21:05] to dictate our relationship.

[00:21:06] I thought,

[00:21:06] well,

[00:21:07] that's ironic,

[00:21:08] because he's the one,

[00:21:09] that's allowing this to happen.

[00:21:11] OP was just trying to stop her,

[00:21:12] from doing it.

[00:21:13] Absolute madness.

[00:21:14] But,

[00:21:15] what do you guys make,

[00:21:16] of this situation?

[00:21:18] Let us know your thoughts,

[00:21:20] down in the comments below.

[00:21:21] Now,

[00:21:22] just a huge thank you,

[00:21:22] from the bottom of my heart,

[00:21:23] for getting involved,

[00:21:24] in today's stories.

[00:21:25] Your love,

[00:21:26] your support,

[00:21:26] your time,

[00:21:26] always means the absolute world to me.

[00:21:28] So,

[00:21:28] thank you so,

[00:21:29] so much,

[00:21:29] and hopefully,

[00:21:30] I'll see you,

[00:21:31] in the next one.

[00:21:32] Take care,

[00:21:33] and much love.