I Discovered My Wife's Secret Google Account And I'm Sick To My Stomach r/Relationships

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[00:00:20] Now today's first story comes from the truth of my chess subreddit from my last stock 6055 and says

[00:00:27] I found my wife's secret Google account and I'm sick to my stomach

[00:00:31] A obligatory story for mobile formatting

[00:00:33] I mail 36 met my wife Bailey, the mail 33, nine years ago through mutual coworkers and we hit it off

[00:00:42] Immediately

[00:00:42] I felt absolutely head over heels with this woman

[00:00:46] She was everything I was looking for

[00:00:48] I'd gotten out of a toxic, there I say, abusive, long-term relationship

[00:00:53] Right before that, with a woman Bailey had been acquainted with

[00:00:56] But not friends with

[00:00:58] I had a blocked on everything and had no contact with her since breaking up

[00:01:02] We got married right after the tail ended up pandemic

[00:01:05] Or at our first house together, they started trying to conceive

[00:01:08] This was difficult because Bailey has a PCOS

[00:01:13] Polycystic over-sindrome

[00:01:15] But last year she finally gave birth to our first daughter

[00:01:19] And I'm having a blast being a dad. It's kind of a dream come true

[00:01:23] I finally got my happy life with my perfect wife

[00:01:26] My perfect wife

[00:01:29] Until last Monday

[00:01:30] My laptop's battery's shit the bed so I opened up Bailey's work padlet

[00:01:35] Wasn't a touch keyboard

[00:01:36] You can set it up like a monitor, the check on some tax stuff

[00:01:40] She wasn't home, it was just me and the baby but we never asked permission to use each other's devices

[00:01:45] We've always been open like that. There's nothing for us to hide

[00:01:48] And that's what I thought

[00:01:50] When I opened up the internet, I noticed she had the incognito tab open

[00:01:54] Never in a million years did I expect to discover what I did

[00:01:58] My wife has a secret google account the photo album saved called ex-ex

[00:02:04] So I clicked on it, did I discover enough air, nudes, nope

[00:02:08] In this google album were over 300 photos

[00:02:12] 348 actually with my ex

[00:02:15] Woman I was with right before I met Bailey

[00:02:18] Woman who tormented me and made me feel worthless

[00:02:22] The album said it was started back right around the time Bailey and I started dating

[00:02:27] And was updated as recently as two weeks ago

[00:02:30] A photo's range from candid shots with family to pictures that are work functions

[00:02:35] There were even pictures from her yearbook

[00:02:37] I don't know how Bailey could have found her high school yearbook photos

[00:02:41] Photos from vacation

[00:02:42] ID photos from work

[00:02:44] Pictures of her in crowds

[00:02:46] Screen shots of videos

[00:02:48] And screen recordings of videos

[00:02:50] Just her

[00:02:51] The other people in the photos would be scribbled out or the photo would be cropped and zoomed in

[00:02:56] Just on my ex

[00:02:58] There were other disturbing things I found too

[00:03:00] There was another album with just zoomed up pictures of my ex's hair

[00:03:04] I'm to think of it, Bailey had recently started wearing her hair different and

[00:03:09] My ex had a very identifiable hair type

[00:03:12] There was another album with screenshots of

[00:03:14] Comments on social media

[00:03:16] Of course I can't find them because I have a bloc

[00:03:19] Like Facebook group she's in and public posts

[00:03:22] My ex is very low key on social media

[00:03:25] I can't imagine the links Bailey went to find them

[00:03:28] My ex literally lives in another country now

[00:03:31] There were also different links to the exact outfits she was wearing

[00:03:34] Like very specific blouses and trousers

[00:03:37] You'd have to really go looking to find

[00:03:39] A specific water bottle I remember their purchasing

[00:03:42] And identical hiking boots and sandals

[00:03:45] So basically my partner of almost a decade has been single white female in my ex girlfriend

[00:03:50] I secretly stalked her to the point of buying her exact clothes and changing her hair

[00:03:54] Now I'm starting to realize Bailey's new interest over the years with just my ex's

[00:04:00] Bailey has turned herself into my ex

[00:04:02] Everything feels like a lie

[00:04:04] I love feels like a lie

[00:04:07] Things we share feel like a lie

[00:04:09] I threw up and had a panic attack

[00:04:12] I looked at our daughter and felt betrayed

[00:04:14] I haven't confronted her yet

[00:04:16] I don't know if I want to

[00:04:17] Want to run away with our daughter

[00:04:19] Want to print out all her pictures

[00:04:21] Leave them on the table and disappear

[00:04:24] I don't know what to do

[00:04:25] I just want to throw up

[00:04:28] And that's a pretty scary

[00:04:30] Or to stumble upon this folder and find

[00:04:34] Hundreds of photos of your ex like

[00:04:36] Stalking level behaviour

[00:04:38] And the only thing I can think of is like for myself as long as you know

[00:04:43] You feel comfortable and safe of course to do this

[00:04:46] It's come front to about it and say what the hell is this

[00:04:50] Whatever it is it sounds super unhealthy and I would have to know for myself the reason why like I said as long

[00:04:57] You feel safe doing so because the behaviour in itself is out there

[00:05:03] So Miss Chape Six says I'm so sorry this sounds like something out of creepy past

[00:05:09] Hope you're a player, I'm actually surprised with the amount it's a port of god-non here in the last hour

[00:05:14] Leave it or not there are no other red flags in our marriage now. I don't know what else I've missed

[00:05:19] Glad beef punch replies that saying first off. I'm sorry you're in abusive relationship

[00:05:24] Second and fortunately as hard as this will be

[00:05:27] The only option here is to sit her down and ask what the hell is going on

[00:05:31] And let her bog you down by bringing up that you snoot

[00:05:35] You did don't deny it, but that doesn't compare to her cyber stalking your abusive ex

[00:05:40] And imitating her look is creepy like I even begin to imagine why she would

[00:05:45] Your wife is the one you married and your relationship with this other woman was horrible

[00:05:50] You're clearly not pining for the bad old days so I've got no theories

[00:05:55] Which my says holy cow that is definitely alarming the best thing to do is address it now to see

[00:06:01] What a change if she no longer has someone to replicate

[00:06:04] Talks excited me would slowly start mentioning things like you know

[00:06:08] You really do remind me of someone how I'll shantly bite into an apple and walk away

[00:06:13] Hope he says

[00:06:15] I feel like what's worse is that she suddenly made these changes over time and the might nose

[00:06:20] So my ex has a specific career and Bailey didn't express interest in switching careers

[00:06:24] The exact same thing until after I had mentioned what my ex did

[00:06:28] Didn't notice at the time, but I remember telling her ex went to school for that

[00:06:33] There was more reason yeah, if it's an object slow you over time

[00:06:38] Interests, I'm not sure how much she stole in personality white from my ex and what she actually likes

[00:06:44] Tawling incredibly exhausting and confusing

[00:06:46] Fiber a warrior replies then says you mentioned your ex a lot or did you at the study or relationship

[00:06:53] It maybe that she feels insecure and like you're thinking of your ex

[00:06:57] Either way, she needs therapy and you need to address this ASAP

[00:07:01] Set some boundaries like no more stalking

[00:07:04] Maybe go shopping and help her pick out some clothes that aren't like your exes and that your wife actually likes

[00:07:09] Good luck

[00:07:12] Wonder a says there are some really strange people out there around a year and a half ago

[00:07:16] I went to attend my now former best friends thesis defense in another town

[00:07:21] And I stayed at her in a new boyfriend's place for two nights

[00:07:24] But with my first time meeting a new boyfriend, but she told me a lot about him and it was a first healthy relationship

[00:07:31] She was my best friend of 10 years

[00:07:33] While I was there it was pretty much clear she completely copied my whole life

[00:07:37] My experiences, my interests, food and drinks I like

[00:07:41] My traumas, my opinions, the way I talk

[00:07:44] She'd even talked to me in front of her boyfriend about something I told her as if it happened to her

[00:07:48] And was just so stupidified that I couldn't say anything to that just laughed awkwardly

[00:07:53] Even a boyfriend would comment how weird it is that we're so similar

[00:07:57] And it came out pretty accusing as if I was copying her or something

[00:08:01] That is until I saw one cup in the store, but an hour to one painter that I like

[00:08:06] And my friend said oh my god, I need to buy it

[00:08:08] Like she didn't even know who the painter is

[00:08:11] Then later on she referred to my university major as her thing

[00:08:15] We attended different universities and I completely different majors

[00:08:18] Those was programming and I studied one language

[00:08:21] Language that she absolutely can't speak by the way

[00:08:25] Nor was interested in during our friendship

[00:08:27] She's to cop me a little before but never to this extent

[00:08:31] I talked to her about it several times

[00:08:34] You'd always say she copies things I like unconsciously and we try to stop

[00:08:38] But copy of my experiences and traumas

[00:08:40] Word by word and later denying it or saying she doesn't remember me telling it to her

[00:08:45] And it's what happened to her

[00:08:46] Was really too far

[00:08:49] Opia had one more comment that says why I talked about my ex

[00:08:52] Most of the things I told my wife about when negative and painter in not such a good light

[00:08:57] My wife knows these things and know they were traumatic

[00:09:01] Of course, I've mentioned things like what she does for a living and things she used to do

[00:09:05] I think everything else she found she got through intense cyber stalking through my ex

[00:09:10] His friends and family the yearbook photos have no idea

[00:09:14] Then OP came in with her update and said I'm pretty sure I accidentally got my original post removed just now

[00:09:21] Because I tried to update it with a link to my update

[00:09:23] Whoops anyway, I'm the guy who found the Google Drive full of pictures of my ex

[00:09:28] Though I was not expecting my original post to go viral on youtube and TikTok and

[00:09:34] Have so many responses

[00:09:36] Yikes and I'm overwhelmed by the support

[00:09:39] I'm humbled by the number of people who have been through this experience on both sides

[00:09:43] I have an update but it's probably not as exciting in as juicy as you want

[00:09:47] It's not bad though first let me clear things up

[00:09:51] People think this post is fake because it doesn't make sense or what are trying to conceive time line is short

[00:09:57] All the way I worded things make it look like a teenager or woman wrote it

[00:10:01] Continue to think that because the means are successfully been vagueness and worded things to not accidentally dox myself

[00:10:08] Leave this as a creating writing exercise, so I don't embarrass myself

[00:10:12] Real no, I didn't actually throw up I was in the middle of a panic attack

[00:10:18] Private browsing tabs were open to the websites for closing an objects another tab was signed into google photos

[00:10:25] When I exited the google photo tab

[00:10:27] Look at other websites with closing and came back it was already signed out and I couldn't get back in

[00:10:32] A lot of the clothing I recognized wasn't because I remembered my ex-wear in them

[00:10:37] There were more recent pictures of her in the file wearing them

[00:10:40] I remember the day Bailey bought the water bottle that also happened to be in the folder

[00:10:44] But here Bailey and my ex are the same race in my ex-wear braid in a particular way

[00:10:50] Also particular that's exclusive to my ex because Bailey is also one different braids

[00:10:55] But seeing pictures of her made me put two and two together

[00:10:58] Is there any way Bailey could have bottom with me in attempt to get to my ex?

[00:11:02] Was Bailey possibly obsessed with my ex before she met me?

[00:11:06] Probably not because Bailey grew up here in my ex originally moved here

[00:11:11] And while you can drive across the border it's not that easy and I don't think Bailey was going back and forth to stalk her in person

[00:11:18] Also the reason why my ex and I broke up has nothing to do with Bailey

[00:11:21] She could not have had any involvement

[00:11:25] Puh by the telecon gives the latest Xiaomi 14th impression of an idol

[00:11:30] Cool! With Leica camera for tall photos, too, by night

[00:11:33] That's why I also said that

[00:11:34] Why not with the plus card in Spain where you all sit down?

[00:11:38] And the card also

[00:11:39] Oh, the card or the kinder of friends or family

[00:11:42] Yeah, more is said that you're going to have a chance

[00:11:44] With the Magenta mobile and the two gifts yet to 600 Euro cashpacks

[00:11:49] No by the telecom

[00:11:55] On to the actual update

[00:11:57] The next day when I had calm down I called several social workers in therapist

[00:12:01] Was planning to come front of there

[00:12:04] Unfortunately the only places I could take our insurance did not have an opening for another couple of weeks

[00:12:09] So despite what a lot of you think

[00:12:11] I've known my wife for nearly a decade and even while I was confusing up set and doubting things

[00:12:17] I didn't think she'd be a danger to me

[00:12:19] We took baby to grandma's and I asked her to go for a walk with me

[00:12:24] I did not beat her around the bush and straight up told her

[00:12:27] I found the folder

[00:12:28] The face got very red and she was frozen

[00:12:31] But also tried to play dumb at first

[00:12:34] I was persistent and she started crying and begged me not to leave her

[00:12:38] This is what I uncovered

[00:12:40] Aily first started looking at my ex-editary arcity

[00:12:43] I keep tabs I guess

[00:12:45] But over time it became more pathological

[00:12:48] It's like she got addicted to it, but she also wanted to please me

[00:12:53] Okay, they guy talked about my ex a lot more than I thought and they only wanted to emulate the good part

[00:12:58] It told me she really doesn't know who she is and my ex's image was something she latched onto because she had me first

[00:13:06] Finding information about her became a game

[00:13:08] Finding the clothing and objects became a game

[00:13:11] I searched in things like

[00:13:13] Bluewater bottle green stripe until she could compare the product to a photo and find the exact one

[00:13:19] Reason why couldn't find the post wasn't because I had blocked my ex

[00:13:23] But because my ex had made a new Facebook under a different name

[00:13:27] Aily found her profile by searching up a family member

[00:13:31] She made a fake social media and added enough mutual friends and

[00:13:34] She could see my ex is post and to a private Instagram accepted her

[00:13:39] She weaseled away into her ex-size Facebook group where the videos were posted and searched their school on a year

[00:13:45] But website the funny year but pictures

[00:13:47] Over time she just collected the images and would get excited to find something new

[00:13:53] Despite the fact that my ex is extremely private on social media

[00:13:57] I've all had originally been called

[00:13:59] The ex the ex in case I discovered it

[00:14:02] He was going to make the excuse of saving the pictures put a hex on her

[00:14:07] When she made a burner google account, she deleted the old folder and then the new one ex ex

[00:14:12] Then she got sloppy and comfortable and that's right around the time. I just happened to open the work tablet

[00:14:17] We took a break. It was a while we made it to couples counseling and Bailey and I also began seeing separate therapists

[00:14:24] She still not had an assessment of psychiatrists

[00:14:27] But dison the list. She promised to stop and deleted the album in front of me

[00:14:32] Slowly certain clothing items began to disappear from the closet

[00:14:35] I still do not entirely trust her and that's for me to work on

[00:14:40] I'm afraid she has another secret account somewhere like a backup

[00:14:43] The physical mimicking is actually stopping though

[00:14:46] Including the hair change we're still not okay. I want us to be okay

[00:14:51] And it's okay if that takes time

[00:14:53] If we end up not being okay then that's something I have to deal with

[00:14:56] What I do know is that my wife is incredibly insecure

[00:14:59] Probably mentally ill and is misled

[00:15:03] I don't really want to walk away from that

[00:15:05] Although this probably isn't the most exciting update. I appreciate the private messages

[00:15:10] I just couldn't get back to credit cares and the links to resources

[00:15:14] I'm not sure how I feel about social media YouTube and TikTok picking up on my story though

[00:15:19] That's wild. Until next time if I give another update

[00:15:23] I hope it's a good one

[00:15:25] This get brown says to repeat the outcome does not look positive

[00:15:29] Why stay in a one-sided relationship?

[00:15:32] At least put a plan together that runs concurrently so your prepared should it not work out

[00:15:37] Seek legal advice prepare evidence and don't do anything stupid

[00:15:41] At least then you'll be in a better place either way

[00:15:44] Who he says a plan is sewing I'm still having trouble coming up with and it's been a couple of months

[00:15:49] I think I'm afraid to make a plan

[00:15:52] Does that make sense

[00:15:54] And there was many other comments saying you know this is not a positive outcome

[00:15:58] Other people saying

[00:15:59] You know p really talk about his ex a lot more than he's letting on in this situation to cause this kind of insecurity

[00:16:07] Maybe he didn't but that was what some of the comments were saying and other people talking about

[00:16:13] themselves being in a similar situation with you know

[00:16:17] Ex partners who got obsessed with theirs and you know was cyber stalking in some form

[00:16:23] People mentioning BPD and some people mentioning that they look

[00:16:28] Uppitchers of

[00:16:29] Partners exes

[00:16:31] They say not in a stalky way, but just a rabbit hole that sometimes that they fall into

[00:16:36] But what do you guys make of this situation? Do you think there is a positive outcome to come from this or not?

[00:16:45] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story

[00:16:51] Now, our next story comes from a throwware account from the relationship advice

[00:16:56] Sobred it doesn't have an update and there won't be one coming anytime soon

[00:17:00] But it's one of those titles that you know

[00:17:02] Happy intrigue and I have to get involved

[00:17:04] It's titled my 24 female husband 26 male

[00:17:08] Forks to his teddy bears more than me

[00:17:11] He only recently started buying them online

[00:17:13] We've been happily married for just over seven months now

[00:17:16] What are first home and we're talking about having kids?

[00:17:19] Everyone sees us as the perfect couple. This was until recently

[00:17:25] Since lockdown started, it was that time period. My husband we call him Phil has been acting strange

[00:17:32] This is only a recent thing. He has taken a liking to stuff animals in a disturbing way

[00:17:38] Bill had been given me a few titties from past Valentine's which was stored away when we moved into our house

[00:17:44] Last month I went into our bedroom and he had them all laid out on the bed

[00:17:48] Three of them said he wanted to sleep with them

[00:17:52] What any animals is a small panda which he likes the most? He named him Kyle. I didn't think much of it then

[00:17:58] I just thought that was a bit odd and he was probably joking

[00:18:02] Amongst later, he's ordered countless teddy bears online

[00:18:05] We must have about 20 at this stage

[00:18:07] He brings some downstairs when we have dinner and pretends to feed them

[00:18:11] It has me not to be so rude to them but I don't respond to their questions

[00:18:15] Last week I seen him in the bedroom having a full blown conversation with Kyle and others about

[00:18:21] The effects of COVID will have on the country

[00:18:23] One time we went to go to bed and I shoved them off the bed and he screamed

[00:18:27] Yes, screamed and a complete serious tone

[00:18:31] He said you could have hurt them

[00:18:33] I've asked him countless times of what's going on and I've fucked a strange obsession come from

[00:18:38] But he says there's nothing strange about it

[00:18:41] He just likes them to stop questioning him about it

[00:18:44] Words part is he has completely stopped talking to me since the strange behavior started

[00:18:49] I mean there's nothing wrong with a grown man having a sentimental teddy bear

[00:18:54] But these have become like his kids in a way

[00:18:57] I know it sounds bizarre

[00:18:59] Honestly, I can even want to post this as it's so embarrassing but I need advice

[00:19:04] What the hell is going on?

[00:19:06] I feel like I've lost my partner and he's gone completely mad

[00:19:09] He's an intelligent well-respected man in his field of work

[00:19:12] And he has always matured beyond his age

[00:19:14] I'm typing this in bed and my husband has sleeping next to me

[00:19:18] Except instead of me he's cutling Kyle

[00:19:21] Please help

[00:19:23] Frosted Oreo asked the OP they said please don't fault me for asking but

[00:19:27] Does your husband have any previous psych diagnosis?

[00:19:31] Who says nope not they he's told me anyway

[00:19:33] Hosting him could be some sort of depression, COVID mechanism

[00:19:36] But he's never talked about having it

[00:19:38] Frosted Oreo then came back into this one and said

[00:19:41] I'm not a psychiatrist but I am in the medical field and this screams to me like an acutely psychotic episode

[00:19:47] I imagine you have a hard time getting into seek help as he's pretty committed to his delusion

[00:19:51] And I imagine he's very paranoid that we're come between him and the bears

[00:19:55] Another question when he gets mad at you for not answering their questions

[00:19:59] Is he speaking for the bears or does he hear them talking to him?

[00:20:03] This is a really tough situation

[00:20:05] I'm sorry that you're dealing with this

[00:20:08] emotos says okay, I also have my doubts about this post but I'm going to give OP the benefit of a doubt after reading through the comment

[00:20:15] I was 19 I rented a room from a couple

[00:20:19] I had met the wife in college and they were a very nice well adjusted couple

[00:20:23] A couple of months after I moved in I realized something wasn't right

[00:20:27] husband was start talking nonsense to me and hell a lot of delusional thinking

[00:20:32] Long story short it developed skits of frania at 27 years old

[00:20:36] wife had to divorce him after he became abusive and refused to take his meds

[00:20:41] He's imprisoned now for attacking two customers at his job

[00:20:44] Please get help from now all his parents were back up if you have to you need to psych evaluation

[00:20:51] ASAP one more comment which says hi there. I'm a physician

[00:20:55] Please reach out to his primary care physician privately to come up with a game plan

[00:20:59] Maybe you can get him in for a checkup and bring Kyle

[00:21:03] The husband is in serious need of medical intervention of some kind and the primary care provider is there to fill that role

[00:21:09] Should be able to at least call him over the phone if he doesn't have a primary care physician

[00:21:15] Now's the time to get one right now. I think it's important that you kind of go with the flow

[00:21:20] When to who speak to a professional and try to avoid rattling his reality intentionally

[00:21:26] Unfortunately, but as the only medical advice I can give you without knowing more details

[00:21:30] He's getting to a physician who can assess him and please communicate with the physician privately for the visit

[00:21:37] Can't imagine what O.P would be going through in that moment to see

[00:21:43] Your husband changing that way and how to deal with it and obviously all I'm going is with the comments on this one

[00:21:50] It sounds like there's something mentally mentally going on that he needs a assistance with

[00:21:56] There was other people mentioning like possible brain tumour etc

[00:22:00] You know we've seen that in stories in the past as well and it's always surprising they amount of people that

[00:22:06] Relate to these stories and been stuff like this must happen all over the world daily you know

[00:22:11] So it's not surprising you see people relating to these stories like that, but it's incredible when you think about it

[00:22:18] The amount of people that's dealing with that sort of thing in heart breaking at the same time

[00:22:22] But what do you guys make of this situation let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:22:30] And just a huge thank you for being here today for getting involved in the stories you'll love your support your time

[00:22:36] Always means you absolutely will to me so thank you so so much for being involved and hopefully I'll see you in the next one take care

[00:22:43] and much love