I Discovered My Wife's "Go-Bag" And I'm Going To Divorce Her Because Of It r/Relationships

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[00:00:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Now today's first story comes from Sad Husband Ryu says, I'm either our Sawyer or wanting to leave my wife

[00:00:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Because she had a go-bag. By wife and I've been together for five years now

[00:00:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Have a two-year old and with planning to expand our family. I decided to tidy up my wife's closet

[00:00:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Because there was a mold problem in the garage and I decided to inspect the whole house

[00:00:42] [SPEAKER_00]: There I found a gym bag with clothes, some dry fruits, and tampons and like $1000

[00:00:48] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked my wife about it, and her face suddenly lost its colour

[00:00:52] [SPEAKER_00]: A first she told me that it was just an emergency bag in case we hit by an earthquake or something

[00:00:57] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked her why did she hide it from me then? After a bit of back and forth,

[00:01:02] [SPEAKER_00]: She sheepishly confessed that it's a go-bag

[00:01:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Basically women who need to flee their abusers are told to keep a go-bag with all essential

[00:01:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Supplies like money and clothes and stuff

[00:01:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked her why exactly that she ever feel the need to do this

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_00]: I've never even talked to her in a loud voice

[00:01:19] [SPEAKER_00]: We barely have arguments

[00:01:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Like as she think I'm gonna become an abuser

[00:01:23] [SPEAKER_00]: She said, she's not saying I am an abuser

[00:01:26] [SPEAKER_00]: She just wanted to do it for the piece of a mind

[00:01:29] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't buy her excuse

[00:01:30] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't think she trust me

[00:01:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Otherwise she wouldn't have to go so far

[00:01:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I think some days, mother-lover, that come to the conclusion

[00:01:39] [SPEAKER_00]: That can't be with a woman who can't trust me

[00:01:42] [SPEAKER_00]: See me as an abuser

[00:01:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked her for separation and told her that I can't be with a woman who does not trust me

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I believe that trust is the foundation of a relationship and she doesn't trust me

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_00]: And is better we part ways

[00:01:54] [SPEAKER_00]: Now she's making excuses that she read too many

[00:01:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Mommy forums and let us help influence by them

[00:02:01] [SPEAKER_00]: She showed me the forums where he discussed

[00:02:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Go bags and how every woman should have one

[00:02:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I get the logic but I can't stay with a woman who does not trust me to know

[00:02:10] [SPEAKER_00]: That she never needed to do such a thing

[00:02:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I agreed to take more time to think about it

[00:02:15] [SPEAKER_00]: But I think divorce will let a find a man she trusts

[00:02:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Not to be an abuser

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Because she does not trust me

[00:02:21] [SPEAKER_00]: I, the asshole here

[00:02:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Edits

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm taking a break, we'll read and reply to good faith comments later

[00:02:29] [SPEAKER_00]: Would like to address some common things here

[00:02:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Statistics should not be applied to individual cases

[00:02:35] [SPEAKER_00]: This kind of thinking leads to racial profiting of African Americans by unfair law enforcement

[00:02:40] [SPEAKER_00]: Statistics does not dictate individuals and I believe that

[00:02:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Every individual has the right not to be seen as part of a group and has statistics applied to them blindly

[00:02:49] [SPEAKER_00]: No, he does not have a history of abusive relationships

[00:02:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Sounds like he is not carb-lined to accuse anyone of anything

[00:02:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Think of it, my baby woman was also convicted because she sounded like a murderer

[00:03:01] [SPEAKER_00]: That's a shame that you guys feel so at ease of doing something so disgusting

[00:03:05] [SPEAKER_00]: A relationship without trust is no relationship

[00:03:10] [SPEAKER_00]: In the comments, Harsh duality says I actively encourage my wife to keep her own bank account when we got together

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to have her own money

[00:03:18] [SPEAKER_00]: If you wanted to keep a go bag, I would probably embrace the life goal

[00:03:21] [SPEAKER_00]: Of making sure she never needed to use it

[00:03:24] [SPEAKER_00]: No lefty says, hope he should consider a less drastic course of action

[00:03:28] [SPEAKER_00]: Marred counseling certainly

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_00]: I get his reaction, loss of trust but because there's a small child involved going nuclear is going too far

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_00]: The girl says I was with my wife for almost 10 years before she let go of all of her escape plans

[00:03:43] [SPEAKER_00]: I never took it personally

[00:03:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Some women take a long time to feel safe

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Me it's understandable

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Women in general are more vulnerable to physical violence

[00:03:52] [SPEAKER_00]: But Berela says don't forget that he, who I'm 90% sure is white

[00:03:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Kind of pull the race card by liking his situation to how racism negatively affects POCs over and over again

[00:04:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Like wholly tone deaf fuck

[00:04:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Feelable elephant says she's getting advice from mum forums

[00:04:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Why should she listen to them instead of trust in me?

[00:04:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Anyways, let me see what red it has to say about this

[00:04:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Finding gems says I can't believe she thinks I'd hurt her

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm gonna hurt her

[00:04:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Where he ad says that anyone who needs context on the OP's question

[00:04:26] [SPEAKER_00]: He posted on amy the asshole here and didn't like people telling him he is the asshole

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_00]: He came to find this board to try and find people to tell him he is right

[00:04:35] [SPEAKER_00]: On the other board he described his wonderful marriage

[00:04:38] [SPEAKER_00]: He found a go bag in his wife's closet and then decided he was going to divorce her over it

[00:04:43] [SPEAKER_00]: When people didn't immediately jump to his defense

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_00]: became rude and cursed out other commenters

[00:04:48] [SPEAKER_00]: His behavior basically showed exactly why his wife needed a go bag

[00:04:53] [SPEAKER_00]: But OP came into the post three months later and said I made a post three months ago

[00:04:57] [SPEAKER_00]: But it was removed before I deleted my account

[00:05:00] [SPEAKER_00]: There's been crossposted literally everywhere that I think you guys will have no problem finding it if you're interested

[00:05:06] [SPEAKER_00]: After I made my first post I decided to officially ask for divorce

[00:05:10] [SPEAKER_00]: She did not take it well

[00:05:12] [SPEAKER_00]: She cried and refused to eat food for two days until I filled the house with candy bars

[00:05:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Chessent pulled that kind of stunned after that thankfully

[00:05:20] [SPEAKER_00]: But past three months I have to endure her crying begging me to change my mind

[00:05:25] [SPEAKER_00]: She promised to never make a go bag again

[00:05:28] [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, the previous post has been eye-opening to me

[00:05:32] [SPEAKER_00]: People here called me an abuser. I never did anything abusive

[00:05:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I read every comment posted here on other subreddit

[00:05:39] [SPEAKER_00]: It seems like people will call me an abuser no matter what

[00:05:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Some people even made up stories to paint me in bad light

[00:05:46] [SPEAKER_00]: It seems that general sentiment is that it's okay to mistrust men because statistics and if you can

[00:05:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Plains about it is potentially an abuser

[00:05:54] [SPEAKER_00]: Why is it wrong to want to be trusted by your own wife? I made a get rid of her go bag

[00:05:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm as good as an abuser in all of your eyes

[00:06:02] [SPEAKER_00]: It seems like I will be painted as an abuser unless proven otherwise

[00:06:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I just don't know how to prove a negative

[00:06:08] [SPEAKER_00]: It's not like I can wear a camera all the time

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Initially my feelings were very hurt but now I'm realizing the gravity of the situation I'm in

[00:06:17] [SPEAKER_00]: I just can't risk my future on a wife who does not trust me because a mere act of making a go bag was used by people here

[00:06:24] [SPEAKER_00]: The paint me has an abuser

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_00]: They said that she must have a reason to make a go bag

[00:06:29] [SPEAKER_00]: How was it my fault that she read some blogs and decided to do it?

[00:06:33] [SPEAKER_00]: And if did anything and yet people are just gonna accuse me even if I didn't do anything

[00:06:38] [SPEAKER_00]: You guys don't care what the truth is, so what am I even supposed to do?

[00:06:43] [SPEAKER_00]: My only choice is to leave

[00:06:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I finally moved out yesterday. I'm pushing forward with divorce

[00:06:48] [SPEAKER_00]: I'd like things to be amicable but my wife is still hell bent on stopping the divorce

[00:06:53] [SPEAKER_00]: But that is a pipe dream for now

[00:06:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm hoping that when divorce becomes real she will accept reality

[00:07:01] [SPEAKER_00]: The first comment on that one said I'm not sure basing the divorce on Reddit opinions is the best life choice

[00:07:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Other comments says what do you mean?

[00:07:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Reddit lets you become a lawyer after scrolling for five hours or getting a comment with five

[00:07:13] [SPEAKER_00]: hundred plus likes

[00:07:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Lower comment to says it doesn't matter if you're right or wrong

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_00]: If you personally feel like you can't be with someone any longer for any reason and that there is no changing your mind

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Best thing to do for both parties for you is for you to end it

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_00]: But if and when you decide you made a mistake

[00:07:29] [SPEAKER_00]: Then expect the other party to owe you their time and attention

[00:07:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Make up a name says in my husband spoke about the original post

[00:07:37] [SPEAKER_00]: I told him I had one for me and our daughter

[00:07:39] [SPEAKER_00]: He just asked can I help him repair one?

[00:07:43] [SPEAKER_00]: A few weeks later a house court fired down in our town and those people had go bags

[00:07:47] [SPEAKER_00]: He grabbed them on the way out so it wasn't left as destitute

[00:07:51] [SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot of reasons why having a go bag is handy

[00:07:54] [SPEAKER_00]: I thought everyone had one until I spoke to my husband and read the comments in the first post

[00:07:59] [SPEAKER_00]: Cypher says men should have go bags as well

[00:08:02] [SPEAKER_00]: This isn't something that's exclusive to one sex

[00:08:04] [SPEAKER_00]: A go bag should be viewed as an emergency bag

[00:08:07] [SPEAKER_00]: If you live in an area prone to acts of God

[00:08:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Loading tornadoes hurricanes should have one tailored to each person in the household

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_00]: written a go bag for any reason

[00:08:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Then after me and you lack trust in your partner

[00:08:19] [SPEAKER_00]: It is literally a bag designed to aid in an emergency

[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Man or woman being physically mentally or emotionally abused is an emergency

[00:08:28] [SPEAKER_00]: It is quite literally that simple

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Individuals and relationships are wholly unique and personal

[00:08:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Often due his stories of people's partners flipping like a switch

[00:08:37] [SPEAKER_00]: He'd been to a relationship

[00:08:38] [SPEAKER_00]: It happens all the time

[00:08:40] [SPEAKER_00]: And people with experiences firsthand should absolutely be able to have a little emergency bag

[00:08:45] [SPEAKER_00]: People are complex, grey creatures

[00:08:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Creating the emergency bag and having an inherent trust in your partner

[00:08:51] [SPEAKER_00]: And if you yourself can be mutually exclusive for some

[00:08:54] [SPEAKER_00]: They can't be for others

[00:08:55] [SPEAKER_00]: We each experience life differently

[00:08:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Relationships requires two votes

[00:09:00] [SPEAKER_00]: The punn doesn't agree with another making a go bag

[00:09:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Find it by a strained and it causes an issue as a single solution

[00:09:07] [SPEAKER_00]: You aren't compatible

[00:09:08] [SPEAKER_00]: That's it

[00:09:10] [SPEAKER_00]: And when final comment from digital who says

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Law blaming us for going forward with your divorce is some wild or shit love

[00:09:18] [SPEAKER_00]: If you want to divorce her just a vorsa, then blame random internet strangers for your choices

[00:09:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Go bags a common thing. I know that comment has said that it doesn't seem like they are but do you have your self

[00:09:31] [SPEAKER_00]: A go bag for emergencies situations like that

[00:09:34] [SPEAKER_00]: The only sort of thing I've ever had a go bag is like for pregnancy like when going into labor

[00:09:38] [SPEAKER_00]: You grab your go bag and off you go to the hospital kind of thing

[00:09:42] [SPEAKER_00]: But I've never heard it for any other situation

[00:09:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Which I guess it makes sense, but what do you guys make if you got yourself a go bag?

[00:09:49] [SPEAKER_00]: Let us know down in the comments below and let's move on to another

[00:09:54] [SPEAKER_00]: Now our next story comes from mental platypus 5193 from the MI wrong subreddit and says

[00:10:01] [SPEAKER_00]: My son felt harassment charges against me in my husband because we were making him go to college

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_00]: Me and my son moved to the US last year. I was a single mum for 16 years before I met and then married my husband

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I saved up money so he can go to college

[00:10:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Right came from college is very important

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_00]: We moved to a small town and my son found new friends

[00:10:24] [SPEAKER_00]: His friends in my opinion were not a good influence. I'm used to polite academically oriented kids back home

[00:10:31] [SPEAKER_00]: His new friends of his make fun of his books and his plans of going to college

[00:10:35] [SPEAKER_00]: For as high school graduation, me and my husband took him to several unis in the state so he could get a

[00:10:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Feel for which one he would like to go to

[00:10:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Then after he graduated from high school, I told him I have about 20k saved up for college

[00:10:48] [SPEAKER_00]: He said it's not going to fit because tuition is pretty expensive nowadays

[00:10:53] [SPEAKER_00]: I said yes, he could just go to community college 20 minutes away and they were home to save money

[00:10:58] [SPEAKER_00]: He agreed and I gave him access to the fund

[00:11:01] [SPEAKER_00]: Doin to count

[00:11:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Long story short, he did not enrol himself and instead started partying a lot and used a money on

[00:11:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Spensive dates with his girlfriend. He moved out and stopped walking to me

[00:11:14] [SPEAKER_00]: I worked hard to save that up for more than a decade

[00:11:16] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm upset that he wasted it in less than a year

[00:11:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Me and my husband went to his place and asked that he pay me back since specifically for college and not fun money

[00:11:26] [SPEAKER_00]: He called the police and filed harassment charges

[00:11:29] [SPEAKER_00]: I told the police to review the CCTV footage because the whole time was talking to him through his ring camp

[00:11:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I was calm and reasonable and my husband was just standing behind me not saying anything

[00:11:40] [SPEAKER_00]: What's outside the door talking? Never even opened a door to talk to me face to face

[00:11:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Please said there's nothing we can do if my son and his girlfriend felt harassed

[00:11:50] [SPEAKER_00]: You can file a restraining order if you want to

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_00]: At home, this is unforgivable to treat your parents like this

[00:11:56] [SPEAKER_00]: But here in the US I was treated almost like a criminal

[00:12:00] [SPEAKER_00]: My sister in law says it's my own fault for confronting him and that the money is his to spend

[00:12:05] [SPEAKER_00]: I made a major in the count owner

[00:12:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Am I wrong?

[00:12:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Relip pronunciation on my son's face

[00:12:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Be clear, I've never laid hands on my flip-flops on him ever

[00:12:46] [SPEAKER_00]: But after what he did my intrusive thoughts on me to throw it but of course I won't

[00:12:51] [SPEAKER_00]: It caught a cop's on me just because I want to talk to him

[00:12:53] [SPEAKER_00]: But more if I threw my flip-flops on his face

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_00]: His relationship with me before moving to the US was fine

[00:12:59] [SPEAKER_00]: He knew my struggle as a single mom and it always tries to help me around the house

[00:13:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Was not strict at all

[00:13:05] [SPEAKER_00]: It was free to go out with his friends anytime

[00:13:07] [SPEAKER_00]: It was even thrilled to have a father figure and my husband always tries to make him feeling included in everything

[00:13:15] [SPEAKER_00]: Unfortunately now I don't know legal side of things. This is just from other stories we read

[00:13:20] [SPEAKER_00]: But it sounds like you made him like a legal joint account owner the money's gone

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_00]: I think that's it the money's gone and there's not much you can do about that now

[00:13:29] [SPEAKER_00]: And I think with that as well your son seems to be burning every single relationship around him at the same time and I think you've done all you can

[00:13:36] [SPEAKER_00]: And I think he's going to make choices that's gonna fuck his own life up at the waste caron

[00:13:41] [SPEAKER_00]: At the moment I can only imagine how painful it is for you your son who was seemingly happy and you've got a long

[00:13:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Fine before to have this the sudden switch

[00:13:50] [SPEAKER_00]: I imagine that's got to be pretty devastating

[00:13:54] [SPEAKER_00]: Manufacturer and he says less and learned never give someone acts as the money unless you're okay with him running away with it

[00:14:00] [SPEAKER_00]: Hope he says he was a good boy before moving here

[00:14:03] [SPEAKER_00]: I thought he knew my struggles and how much I sacrificed to save money

[00:14:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I just thought he would never betray me like this

[00:14:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Ding Dong says honestly, I think a lot of parents don't realize the depth of their children

[00:14:15] [SPEAKER_00]: And forget that just because you think of them as one way doesn't mean that they don't have other layers that can make them a different person

[00:14:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Sadly your son has found some less than savory friends surround himself with

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Now he has to live with the decision he made

[00:14:28] [SPEAKER_00]: I honestly wouldn't offer help for university again and would leave communication up to him

[00:14:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Also has there been any questions or discussion of potential drug use

[00:14:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Worker goes says money is gone and since he was a joint account holder in a legal adult there's nothing to be done

[00:14:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Except refuse to help him financially anymore

[00:14:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Let him figure out on a zone from now on

[00:14:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Friends he had will likely drift away now that he had no longer as a fat bank account the funder their party lifestyle

[00:14:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Tricle Moon says a biggest fault is waiting till it was all gone to do something about it

[00:15:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Join access she got a step in the long before now and try to deal with it

[00:15:08] [SPEAKER_00]: Who did all to later unfortunately?

[00:15:11] [SPEAKER_00]: So OP comes in where they're out there and says I still have not heard from my son and I don't expect them to reach out

[00:15:17] [SPEAKER_00]: But his girlfriends mother has called me asking if my house is to load them to him

[00:15:21] [SPEAKER_00]: Asked a why

[00:15:22] [SPEAKER_00]: It turns out he hasn't paid his share for the last month's rent and his girlfriend had to pay it for him

[00:15:28] [SPEAKER_00]: I said it's not my problem and he's not welcome here anymore in my house since he's an adult

[00:15:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Girlfriend's mum said what kind of mother would not extend help to his teenage son

[00:15:38] [SPEAKER_00]: She further insulted me and said now she knows why you left me

[00:15:43] [SPEAKER_00]: At this point I really don't care anymore

[00:15:45] [SPEAKER_00]: I tried to help him get a good start in life but he wasted it

[00:15:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Aside from the 20k we lived rent free in the house refood free phone car gas money

[00:15:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I pay all utilities in this house insurance

[00:15:58] [SPEAKER_00]: All I asked is that he focus on his studies

[00:16:01] [SPEAKER_00]: In his shirt leased an associate's degree so he can get a decent job and be fully independent from me

[00:16:06] [SPEAKER_00]: ASAP

[00:16:08] [SPEAKER_00]: Some who ask by college is so important to me

[00:16:11] [SPEAKER_00]: As an immigrant we are held under certain standards

[00:16:14] [SPEAKER_00]: After proof to USCIS that will not become a public charge

[00:16:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Meaning we weren't rely on government aid

[00:16:21] [SPEAKER_00]: I want him to be able to be a good immigrant and become productive

[00:16:24] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't even know if he can become a citizen if he makes below poverty income

[00:16:29] [SPEAKER_00]: I was just trying to make sure he gets to live a good life

[00:16:32] [SPEAKER_00]: The man you asked if he even wanted to go to college

[00:16:35] [SPEAKER_00]: Act when we were in our home country he begged me to please send into college no matter what

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_00]: PS the harassment charge was closed for lack of evidence or harassment

[00:16:44] [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of ways said were lies

[00:16:46] [SPEAKER_00]: Edit another thing that gave me chills was when he moved out was in the middle of the night

[00:16:51] [SPEAKER_00]: To me in my husband were both asleep

[00:16:53] [SPEAKER_00]: I suddenly left front door hanging open

[00:16:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I saw it in the camera

[00:16:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Living a small town but there's a lot of crime in our area

[00:17:00] [SPEAKER_00]: And we could have gone in and done something bad

[00:17:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Lou Dreamer says on the back of this some people just have to learn the hard way

[00:17:08] [SPEAKER_00]: He's going from probably at a good time with him spending his college fund

[00:17:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Out of the scorn the fun is over

[00:17:13] [SPEAKER_00]: So comes the reality

[00:17:15] [SPEAKER_00]: Like Canadians says so

[00:17:17] [SPEAKER_00]: You're saying this is the find out stage that follows the fuck around stage

[00:17:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Sharp says yep

[00:17:22] [SPEAKER_00]: And snooze replacing his girlfriend has no right to bitch you out

[00:17:27] [SPEAKER_00]: You'll son left and his college fund and now has to figure out how to adult

[00:17:31] [SPEAKER_00]: You do not owe him anything at this point

[00:17:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Lady says she's just calling her out because she's realising she knows that take care of this bomb

[00:17:40] [SPEAKER_00]: But a flight guard and say yep she too is on the find out stage

[00:17:44] [SPEAKER_00]: But now I'm gonna turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:17:49] [SPEAKER_00]: Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Let's move on to another story now

[00:17:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm next story from the MI the hour source so read it. It does never not think it is yet

[00:17:59] [SPEAKER_00]: But I saw shopping cart and I thought oh a little bit of supermarket drama. I love a bit of that

[00:18:03] [SPEAKER_00]: And it says I the hour soul for refusing to give someone an item out of my shopping cart

[00:18:09] [SPEAKER_00]: I wife and I were shopping for some plants for our backyard

[00:18:12] [SPEAKER_00]: We picked out a tree and

[00:18:14] [SPEAKER_00]: We picked out a tree and put it in our cart along with our other items

[00:18:19] [SPEAKER_00]: About ten minutes later a woman walked up to me and she said she'd just purchase that tree

[00:18:25] [SPEAKER_00]: But one in my cart. She said she wanted that specific one. Be clear

[00:18:30] [SPEAKER_00]: There were two trees left so she had other options

[00:18:33] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked her why she didn't take it with her when she decided that she wanted it

[00:18:37] [SPEAKER_00]: She said she removed the tag

[00:18:39] [SPEAKER_00]: He'd read and intended on coming back to the garden section to pick it up

[00:18:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Be clear, it was not off the side nor was there any indication that it was reserved in any way

[00:18:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I told her that similarly my wife and I had picked this one out and I pointed out that there's another tree

[00:18:56] [SPEAKER_00]: She could just go grab that one

[00:18:58] [SPEAKER_00]: She said seriously

[00:19:00] [SPEAKER_00]: I said I could say the same thing

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Seriously

[00:19:03] [SPEAKER_00]: You're asking another customer give you an item out of their cart

[00:19:07] [SPEAKER_00]: them eye the asshole

[00:19:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Edit additional info edit store was Walmart

[00:19:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Tree was a Japanese maple about three to four feet tall probably about 15 pounds

[00:19:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Tree was missing the tag she did not show me the receipt nor did I think to ask for it

[00:19:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, there was an open register in the garden section about 40 feet away

[00:19:28] [SPEAKER_00]: This is my first to buy the asshole

[00:19:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Hope I'm not breaking the rules but I think it's important to share my reaction when she approached me which was

[00:19:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't believe she's asking me to handle something that my wife and I just picked out together and is in my cart

[00:19:42] [SPEAKER_00]: No names left sir on this one not the asshole you either take the plant to the till and pay for it

[00:19:48] [SPEAKER_00]: What you can't character a member of staff to do so and minutes is too long a period you snooze you should lose

[00:19:54] [SPEAKER_00]: Agreed if not set the decide or anything it's not your mistake it's hers

[00:19:59] [SPEAKER_00]: The story is true I can understand she would be annoyed but it's her fault not yours

[00:20:03] [SPEAKER_00]: A quite regularly by plants and until it's on my cart slash trolley except it isn't mine yet

[00:20:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Vox says to be fair I bought some bare root trees a couple of months ago and the store clerk told me to do exactly what the lady did

[00:20:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Take the tag off and go in and have it scanned and not drag trees through the entry doors get them all torn up or break the branches

[00:20:24] [SPEAKER_00]: That's usually what they want you to do

[00:20:27] [SPEAKER_00]: cultivating magic says soft jewelry asshole more known to an asshole here I haven't worked in numerous

[00:20:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Nurseries over my career it's exactly how you buy trees

[00:20:36] [SPEAKER_00]: One month doesn't want you to carry a tree in your cart through the store

[00:20:39] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know why you would think otherwise especially since they can weigh up woods of

[00:20:43] [SPEAKER_00]: 60 to 80 pounds parts aren't exactly made for that

[00:20:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Employees would have stepped in the underpaid employee didn't care I wonder why

[00:20:53] [SPEAKER_00]: But also both of you had good points you don't want to carry a tree through the store

[00:20:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Sounds like you were only after the tree but it's easier for you to grab it and dip out through the nursery checkout

[00:21:04] [SPEAKER_00]: I've personally bought a tree from a nursery before you may have seen it on my twitter or x

[00:21:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Everyone call it these days a dwarf apple tree it's still fairly big you know

[00:21:14] [SPEAKER_00]: It's probably over six foot now at least and I remember when buying it

[00:21:18] [SPEAKER_00]: I said how do I deal with this? I've never bought a tree before and they get a van to take it back home, et cetera

[00:21:24] [SPEAKER_00]: And they said exactly the same thing as this just take the tag to the till pay for it and then they're helped

[00:21:29] [SPEAKER_00]: Bring it round to the van

[00:21:31] [SPEAKER_00]: For me I can I kind of on the fence on this one really

[00:21:33] [SPEAKER_00]: I think if I'm trying to put myself in OP's position

[00:21:37] [SPEAKER_00]: You know I picked up this tree the person comes up to me as long as they weren't rude or obnoxious to me or anything like that

[00:21:43] [SPEAKER_00]: I'd probably be like yeah fair enough. There you go

[00:21:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Don't worry about it. I think I've got time for that kind of drama in my life, you know

[00:21:48] [SPEAKER_00]: I kind of feel like the tree thing can work both ways just grab a different one if there's the same or whatever

[00:21:54] [SPEAKER_00]: You know what's the issue here?

[00:21:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe she's found something really special about that tree to her again. You might have found the same as well

[00:22:02] [SPEAKER_00]: So you know

[00:22:02] [SPEAKER_00]: I just don't think myself. I would have been that bothered about it. I'd have been like yeah

[00:22:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, no problem like I said if as long as the person wouldn't a complete asshole to me or something like that

[00:22:13] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna be really interested to hear your opinions on this one

[00:22:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

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