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Now today's first [00:52.400 --> 00:58.800] story comes from delicious tax 5060 from the true off my chest subreddit and says, I discovered [00:58.800 --> 01:05.200] that my boyfriend is cheating after buying him an expensive Christmas gift. I female 25 [01:05.200 --> 01:11.000] discovered that my ex boyfriend male 26 have been cheating on me for five months. I was [01:11.000 --> 01:16.800] really devastated and felt a lot of rage inside me, especially after buying him a new PlayStation [01:16.800 --> 01:22.000] 5 since he wanted one but couldn't afford it. I was saving up a lot of money to buy him the [01:22.000 --> 01:26.960] console with some games. We've been dating for three years and living together for a year [01:26.960 --> 01:32.240] and a half. I immediately kicked him out after seeing his side girl message me, apologizing [01:32.240 --> 01:37.200] not knowing that he had a girlfriend. I didn't believe her because I trusted my boyfriend a lot, [01:37.200 --> 01:42.000] but she came with receipts. There are a lot of messages where he flirted with her and sent [01:42.000 --> 01:49.520] nudes was disgusted, really disgusted. The worst part is when I confronted him. He didn't [01:49.520 --> 01:55.680] even tried to deny it and called me boring, insulted me a lot saying I was no fun and he deserves [01:55.680 --> 02:02.320] better. I was really enraged for the first time. I slapped him. He was shocked and so was I. [02:02.880 --> 02:08.000] Because I was never violent with him and always tried to solve things quietly but he made my blood [02:08.000 --> 02:13.600] boil. I started screaming at him that he doesn't do anything around here and he never paid rent [02:13.600 --> 02:18.400] because he's a lazy jobless piece of shit who can't even be bothered looking for a decent job. [02:19.120 --> 02:24.400] At one point I mentioned how he will never get the PS5 and I bought him and returned it to the store. [02:24.960 --> 02:32.080] He looked like a deer in headlights. At fast, he immediately changed his attitude and acted sorry. [02:32.080 --> 02:37.760] Started apologizing and crying saying he never meant to cheat and promised he would make it up to me. [02:37.760 --> 02:42.960] He's a disgusting pig. He never cared for my feelings. He only cared when I mentioned something [02:42.960 --> 02:50.080] he wanted. Such hypocrisy. I wasted no time and kicked him out. He's still sending me a lot of [02:50.080 --> 02:56.160] text filled with apologies and an ugly photo of him crying. I told him to not waste his time [02:56.160 --> 03:04.000] because he won't get the PS5. We're done. And then I blocked him. I won't take the PS5. I [03:04.000 --> 03:08.240] already have one but I remembered that my parents were planning on buying it for my little brother. [03:08.240 --> 03:12.400] The plan was going to be them buying the PS5 and I will buy the games for it with an extra [03:12.400 --> 03:17.280] PS store gift card but looks like I will give my parents a call and tell them there's a change [03:17.280 --> 03:21.120] in our plans for my brother's gift. Tangled up in blue says let me guess. [03:21.120 --> 03:25.520] When you previously asked him to get a job and contribute to the household he called you a gold [03:25.520 --> 03:31.040] digger. Good for you for not taking his gaslighting and BS any longer. I'm sure you figured it out by [03:31.040 --> 03:35.600] now that he was never going to contribute and intended to use you for a free ride while he had [03:35.600 --> 03:40.800] his fun. He was so well rid of him. Best Christmas gift you could give yourself. [03:40.800 --> 03:46.320] Opie says he actually called me controlling. We thought a lot about it but this was my first time [03:46.320 --> 03:48.720] showing a serious reaction to it. [03:49.520 --> 03:53.680] Isaiah 96 says good on you for not falling for his BS. [03:53.680 --> 03:57.520] Had you kept him and given him the PS5 you would likely continue to love bombers [03:57.520 --> 04:02.240] and thank you for the game system. However once he feels you're comfortable again he had just [04:02.240 --> 04:07.200] gone back to his old cheating ways and not do anything to help you then gaslight you blaming [04:07.200 --> 04:11.920] you for being boring and whatever else you can come up with to make you feel bad. [04:11.920 --> 04:15.120] The little brother is going to love his gift thanks to your ex. [04:16.480 --> 04:22.320] BW RCA says the slapping was understandable but could have cost you. The kicking to the curb [04:22.320 --> 04:29.040] and I support 100%. Even if say he didn't cheat he's still a lazy bum who needs that dose of reality. [04:30.800 --> 04:35.840] Big says he's wrong and you were wrong to choose violence. That is never okay. [04:36.720 --> 04:44.080] But now Opie does give us their update which came on Christmas Day and says hello everyone [04:44.080 --> 04:48.400] I'm back with an update. First I wanted to thank all the people who commented and shared [04:48.400 --> 04:53.840] some of their experiences with me. I really appreciated. Today was amazing. [04:53.840 --> 04:59.120] I celebrated Christmas with my family my parents and little brother. My parents cooked the best [04:59.120 --> 05:03.360] food so I ate well after not having an appetite for a few days. It was wonderful. [05:04.080 --> 05:08.880] As for my parents agreement about the gift we agreed on something. I'll gift the PS5 [05:08.880 --> 05:14.320] and games to my brother. My parents bought an Oculus My Brother's new PS5 and other accessories [05:14.320 --> 05:19.360] for the console. When the time came for the presents I was shocked to learn that my brother got me [05:19.360 --> 05:26.400] an expensive gift. He got me some makeup from Sephora and a gift card. My parents then informed me that [05:26.400 --> 05:31.920] my brother was saving for my gift since the beginning of the year. I cried. I literally started [05:31.920 --> 05:38.000] balling my eyes out then I gave him a big hug. My baby. I thanked him a lot for the gift and said [05:38.000 --> 05:43.120] that I loved it. When he opened my parents present he was really confused and stated that he doesn't [05:43.120 --> 05:49.280] have a PS5 for this Oculus. I then told him to open my gift. When he opened it he started crying [05:49.280 --> 05:55.760] and immediately hugged me. I don't know what came over me. I started crying with him. I really [05:56.160 --> 06:01.520] loved my brother. He's a sweet little boy and a good behaved kid. He's 12 by the way. [06:02.160 --> 06:08.160] That's why he deserved every gift he got. It was expensive yes but it was worth every penny to see [06:08.160 --> 06:13.520] him happy. After we all opened our gifts I helped him set up the PS5 in his room and played some [06:13.520 --> 06:18.400] games together. Suddenly he tells me that he loves me and I'm the best big sister in the world. [06:19.040 --> 06:23.760] For the third time I started crying. Probably because I'm on my period and my hormones are [06:23.760 --> 06:29.520] not making it any better. So yeah there you have it. I had the best Christmas with my family [06:29.520 --> 06:34.000] and said my brother so happy was worth the heartbreak I went through. As for my garbage [06:34.000 --> 06:39.280] ex he's still making new accounts on Instagram to apologise. I've told him to fuck off and [06:39.280 --> 06:44.160] I know that he's only apologizing because he wants the PS5 not because he feels guilty. [06:44.800 --> 06:48.880] I mentioned that I gave it to someone who deserves it way more than he does. He started [06:48.880 --> 06:53.360] cussing at me and I said if he didn't leave me alone I'll report him to the police for harassment. [06:53.840 --> 06:56.960] He stopped after that and I never heard from him ever since. [06:57.600 --> 07:00.720] That's all for the update. Happy holidays everyone. [07:01.600 --> 07:06.720] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? [07:06.720 --> 07:11.680] How would you deal with it if it was you? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. [07:11.680 --> 07:17.040] Let's move on to another story from the M.I. The Arsenal subreddit does have an update from [07:17.040 --> 07:24.240] illustrious dear 748 and says am I the Arsenal for not letting my father give my son an iPad. [07:25.120 --> 07:30.720] I 30 female have two kids, Arthur, four male and Lucy seven months. [07:31.440 --> 07:38.000] When my son was a baby my husband 32 male and I decided we wouldn't give our children any gadgets, [07:38.000 --> 07:44.320] phones, tablets or computers until they were at least nine years old. I worked as a babysitter in [07:44.320 --> 07:50.400] my early 20s and many of the kids I take care of were glued to iPads. Most of them had no social [07:50.400 --> 07:54.880] skills, refused to go out and were absolutely nightmares to be around when they didn't have a [07:54.880 --> 08:01.040] gadget with them. I don't like judging other parents and I get how overwhelming children can be [08:01.040 --> 08:07.840] but I refuse to raise mine like that. My dad 63 male is dating Shelly 37 female. [08:08.400 --> 08:13.760] His sister had a third child earlier this year and gave her older kids an iPad to distract them [08:13.760 --> 08:19.040] while she focused on the baby. My father and Shelly both thought that was a great idea. [08:19.840 --> 08:24.960] Since Lucy was born my father has been trying to convince me to get Arthur an iPad. He says that [08:24.960 --> 08:30.080] this would be a great way to keep him busy while I take care of the baby and to make parenting [08:30.080 --> 08:36.000] less of a struggle for me and my husband. We are not struggling. Things aren't perfect but we're [08:36.000 --> 08:42.400] happy and healthy without iPads. Whenever I try to express that to my dad he ignores me. [08:42.480 --> 08:47.840] I've been declining his advice all year. He finally stopped bringing it up about a month ago and I [08:47.840 --> 08:53.600] thought it was over. Last week in Shelly got back from a trip abroad. I went to their place to pick [08:53.600 --> 08:58.240] up some things I'd asked them to get when I noticed an iPad box in one of their suitcases. [08:58.800 --> 09:04.080] Shelly confirmed that I got it as a Christmas gift for Arthur. When my father tried to deny that [09:04.080 --> 09:08.960] it became clear that they planned on giving it to him behind my back. As calmly as I could I [09:08.960 --> 09:13.040] said I didn't care who they gave the iPad to but it wouldn't be Arthur. [09:13.840 --> 09:19.200] We ended up having a huge fight and I told them my family wouldn't be attending Christmas. [09:19.200 --> 09:22.880] My aunt is hosting unless they promised not to give Arthur the iPad. [09:23.520 --> 09:28.720] Both my father and Shelly are furious. They call me ungrateful and insist they're only [09:28.720 --> 09:32.640] trying to help me and my husband and would see that if we weren't so stubborn. [09:33.280 --> 09:37.680] My father is also angry that I'm denying Arthur an expensive gift that many people [09:37.680 --> 09:43.760] don't have access to. Me and my husband aren't budging but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel [09:43.760 --> 09:48.880] like I'm overreacting. I also don't want to spend Lucy's first Christmas without the rest of the [09:48.880 --> 09:55.360] family and when I think about that this feels like an awful hill to die on. Am I the asshole? [09:57.280 --> 10:03.440] And we're starting the comments with spare article 396 who says no no no not the asshole. [10:03.520 --> 10:07.040] First of all I'm in complete agreement regarding devices. [10:07.040 --> 10:11.200] My credit given my 6 year old an iPad as the worst decision I ever made, [10:11.200 --> 10:16.320] 7 years ago. It is a constant struggle with tech and trying to find a balance between him [10:16.320 --> 10:21.360] fitting in with his peers, their ability to communicate after school etc and having a kid not [10:21.360 --> 10:27.040] reliant on tech. That being said whether you're actually right or not is not even the point. [10:27.040 --> 10:32.640] You'll appear and you decide how your son gets raised. You don't want him to have an iPad period. [10:32.720 --> 10:38.400] End of discussion is literally that simple. Your dead skill friend is massively overstepping [10:38.400 --> 10:42.960] by basically stating I know what's best for your kid so I'm going to do it anyway. [10:42.960 --> 10:47.680] And once that iPad gets unwrapped it's going to make you the asshole to your kid if you say no. [10:49.200 --> 10:54.160] And that comment pretty much said it all to me like regardless of your thoughts around [10:54.160 --> 10:59.200] tech and children, iPads, play stations, computers, whatever they're going to be [10:59.200 --> 11:04.480] assholes for undermining your parenting decisions. And I can to understand you being upset that [11:04.480 --> 11:08.640] they're trying to definitely try to do it behind your back at the same time. Because again like [11:08.640 --> 11:12.800] that last comment said as soon as they hand that over here and wraps it you know if you used to [11:12.800 --> 11:16.080] take it away it's going to make you look like the asshole so yeah I get where you're coming from [11:16.080 --> 11:21.760] there but CKP says not the asshole but your dad and Shelley are. I agree once your kid gets an iPad [11:21.760 --> 11:26.480] there's no going back and they are being very disrespectful of your parenting views. [11:26.480 --> 11:30.240] Christmas or not I'll be closely monitoring anytime you let your dad [11:30.240 --> 11:34.400] end with Arthur because it's clear he doesn't respect your boundaries and is determined to [11:34.400 --> 11:39.680] give him the iPad. Spirited move says speech language pathologist here. [11:40.320 --> 11:45.040] Tablets are the bane of my professional existence and the majority of my caseload is made up of [11:45.040 --> 11:50.320] early intervention kids or iPad babies. They have massive speech and language delays throw [11:50.320 --> 11:55.280] fits when toys don't interact by a finger tap and don't know how to engage in imaginary play. [11:55.840 --> 12:00.080] This is absolutely a worthy hill to die on. Not the asshole. [12:01.440 --> 12:06.080] And one more comment from international fee who says not the asshole you told them no. [12:06.080 --> 12:11.120] That's simple enough to understand. I'm due my baby very soon. I already know my sister and [12:11.120 --> 12:15.280] Lauren her husband will be pulling this crap with my children but I have no problem telling them [12:15.280 --> 12:20.400] that we won't accept electronic gifts like this. Aside from your personal experience a little bit [12:20.400 --> 12:24.880] of research will tell you how damaging it is for children to be stuck to those devices for long [12:24.880 --> 12:30.240] periods. They affect sleep, attention, social skills, etc. There's hardly an aspect of childhood [12:30.240 --> 12:36.480] that isn't negatively impacted. As parents you get to decide if this is unacceptable to you or not. [12:36.480 --> 12:39.520] The dad and his girlfriend shouldn't be trying to go against you on this. [12:42.960 --> 12:48.720] Welcome to your 2023 work recap. This year you've been to 127 sync meetings. [12:48.720 --> 12:53.520] You spent 56 minutes searching for files and almost missed eight deadlines. Yipe. [12:54.480 --> 13:00.240] 2024 can and should sound different. With monday.com you can work together easily, [13:00.240 --> 13:05.760] collaborate and share data, files and updates. So all work happens in one place and everyone's [13:05.760 --> 13:09.520] on the same page. Go to monday.com or tap the banner to learn more. [13:12.880 --> 13:17.840] Ryan Reynolds here for mid mobile with a message for everyone paying big wireless way too much. [13:17.840 --> 13:22.160] Please for the love everything good in this world. Stop. With mint you can get premium [13:22.160 --> 13:27.040] wireless for just $15 a month. Of course if you enjoy overpaying no judgments but that's weird. [13:27.840 --> 13:35.680] Okay one judgment. Anyway give it a try at mintmobile.com slash switch. Up front payment of $45 [13:35.680 --> 13:39.280] for three months required new subscribers only renew for 12 months to lock in savings. [13:39.280 --> 13:42.240] Additional taxes fees and restrictions apply see mintmobile.com. [13:42.240 --> 13:50.320] The OP does come in with an update and says thank you all for reassuring me. Since my post [13:50.320 --> 13:54.960] last week a few things happened. Including Christmas of course. Some people in the comments [13:54.960 --> 14:00.240] suggested accepting the iPad but hiding it away until Arthur was old enough to use it. I really [14:00.240 --> 14:04.800] didn't want to do that at first but after talking to my husband we decided we could try to make it [14:04.800 --> 14:10.000] work. I told my father would come to my aunt's place for Christmas and accept the iPad on the [14:10.000 --> 14:14.560] condition that he didn't let Arthur see it. Our plan was to tell him that grandpa had gotten [14:14.560 --> 14:20.240] a gift but when he got bigger he said he wanted a Hot Wheels track for Christmas a while ago. [14:20.240 --> 14:24.960] My husband and I had bought it for him so we offered to have my dad gift it to him instead. [14:25.840 --> 14:31.600] I expected my father to agree. Instead he accused me and my husband of not trusting him in Shelley [14:31.600 --> 14:36.240] as well as denying Arthur something he'd spend so much money on. He also denied our [14:36.240 --> 14:40.640] racetrack idea saying that he had the right to decide but he'd get for his own grandson. [14:41.280 --> 14:44.880] I hung up on him and called my aunt to tell her we weren't coming for Christmas. [14:45.440 --> 14:48.720] She asked me about it and I ended up explaining the situation to her. [14:49.360 --> 14:54.480] But it turns out that mine and my kids' presences were more important to her than my cousins than my [14:54.480 --> 14:59.440] father's. My aunt threatened to ban him and Shelley from her place if they gave after the iPad. [15:00.240 --> 15:05.920] After a small fight in crying fit from Shelley I'm not exaggerating all over the phone my [15:05.920 --> 15:08.960] father apologized and asked what else you'd get my son for Christmas. [15:09.520 --> 15:12.880] I gave him ideas of toys, books and art kits that Arthur would like. [15:13.600 --> 15:18.880] He ignored them and got a pair of socks. Whatever Arthur still liked it. [15:19.600 --> 15:24.640] My father and Shelley gave the iPad to her sister's kids. They now have two. [15:24.640 --> 15:29.120] I know that because Shelley made a point of telling Arthur in front of me that a nephew's got the [15:29.120 --> 15:32.720] best gift ever and that she was sorry he couldn't have the same thing. [15:33.360 --> 15:38.320] Arthur just kept playing with his new Lego set. He either didn't listen or didn't care. [15:38.320 --> 15:41.440] I still made sure to keep her away from him throughout the night. [15:41.440 --> 15:45.680] My dad saw that and I think he finally realized my kid wouldn't care about the iPad. [15:46.240 --> 15:50.080] He called me yesterday and apologized more sincerely this time. [15:50.800 --> 15:53.360] All that said I think you guys are right about him. [15:53.360 --> 15:57.520] His whole incident has made it clear that he doesn't really respect me as a parent or [15:57.520 --> 16:02.560] care about my boundaries for my children. All closely monitored the time he spends with Arthur [16:02.560 --> 16:06.480] and Lucy in the future. Thank you all and happy holidays. [16:07.600 --> 16:13.680] Sincere apology or not at the end there. That was an awful thing to do. It's felt like really [16:13.680 --> 16:19.120] passive aggressive to gift him the socks and then make the comment about like oh they got [16:19.120 --> 16:23.920] the best gift ever where it's like you just got a pair of socks and to do this to a kid is just [16:23.920 --> 16:29.600] absolute shitty behavior. Someone else commented something similar and Opie says there are only [16:29.600 --> 16:32.640] four kids in the family for him to get gifts to include in mine. [16:33.280 --> 16:37.920] My daughter got a stuffed animal and the other two my cousins daughters age nine and two got [16:37.920 --> 16:42.880] Barbie dolls. The only two reasons I'm not completely cutting off my dad our one he's [16:42.880 --> 16:48.400] apologized and two he is generally a good grandfather and my son loves spending time with him. [16:49.040 --> 16:53.760] Shelly is on time out though. I have no interest in taking my kids to his place if she's there. [16:53.760 --> 16:57.520] The only reason I didn't make a scene that she said to my son was because I had to keep my [16:57.520 --> 17:04.720] husband from doing the same. But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys [17:04.720 --> 17:10.240] make of this situation? How would you deal with it if it was you? Let us know your thoughts down [17:10.240 --> 17:15.840] in the comments below and let's move on to another story. Another one from the M.I. The [17:15.840 --> 17:21.440] Arsel subreddit doesn't have an update to yet but Christmas related of course from okay analyst [17:21.440 --> 17:28.000] 7297 and says am I the Arsel for opening a fake gift during a family Christmas party. [17:28.880 --> 17:34.960] Every year my family does Christmas at my mom's and she insists that we open all presents together. [17:34.960 --> 17:41.200] Even gifts between spouses etc. It's normally an okay tradition but sometimes it can spark jealousy [17:41.200 --> 17:46.800] or comparisons between families. This year my husband saved up and bought me my dream designer [17:46.800 --> 17:52.000] handbag for Christmas. I know some people aren't into that but it's something that I truly love. [17:52.560 --> 17:58.000] We're not well off but we're not doing poorly either. I knew that the handbag would cause a lot [17:58.000 --> 18:03.120] of discussion amongst my siblings and parents. I just didn't want their opinions and criticisms [18:03.120 --> 18:10.240] to ruin a special gift my husband worked hard to get for me. So this year my husband got me an [18:10.240 --> 18:15.920] extra gift that wasn't the real gift. It was a moderately priced skincare set. [18:16.000 --> 18:20.640] Christmas came and went without drama but I recently posted a picture of my husband and [18:20.640 --> 18:26.240] our kids at dinner and my handbag could be seen hanging off the back of my chair. One of my friends [18:26.240 --> 18:31.920] commented underneath about how gorgeous my Christmas gift was as well. Long story short [18:31.920 --> 18:38.080] word got back to my family and they totally blew up. Some were annoyed that I opened a private gift [18:38.080 --> 18:43.360] separately from the family. Others were criticizing the price of the gift. My siblings are now [18:43.360 --> 18:49.520] calling me disingenuous for harboring a secret gift and they said that I did it because I think [18:49.520 --> 18:54.640] I'm better than them. I didn't open it with them because I didn't want their opinions but now I'm [18:54.640 --> 19:00.720] starting to feel like an asshole for keeping it a secret. I know either way they'd all criticized [19:00.720 --> 19:06.880] me though since it was so much more expensive than all the other gifts. So I don't know whether [19:06.880 --> 19:13.280] or not I'm wrong. I think like pretty much the only reply you need to give to them is [19:13.280 --> 19:18.320] that you've proved exactly why we did this in the first place. I mean what the hell are they doing? [19:19.040 --> 19:25.360] Oh dear dear. Grilty says not the asshole and honestly it's time you'd be 100% bluntly honest [19:25.360 --> 19:29.600] with them. Screencap all their snarky comments and send a group chat with them stating, [19:30.240 --> 19:36.160] if you all want to know so badly why I harbored a secret gift as you call it. These types of comments [19:36.160 --> 19:40.880] are exactly why. This bag is something I thought I'd never have as we're not well off enough. [19:40.880 --> 19:46.640] Make purchases similar in cost to this bag but my husband worked his ass off and saved up to get [19:46.640 --> 19:52.320] it for me and instead of being happy for us you talk shit. You call it a waste of money or claim [19:52.320 --> 19:57.120] that I think I'm better than you. A behaviour of all of you have around Christmas gifts sucks [19:57.120 --> 20:01.360] that you're out of even getting something like this and had I opened it up mom's house in front [20:01.360 --> 20:06.720] of all of you I wouldn't even have been able to be happy about it because I knew you'd all react [20:06.720 --> 20:11.920] exactly as you did. Honestly I'm not sure if my family and I will be continuing to take part in [20:11.920 --> 20:16.000] this tradition because we are tired of the jealousy and comparisons in the competition. [20:16.720 --> 20:22.640] It's tiring. It makes it hard to be happy with the gifts we get. Even if we would be ecstatic to get [20:22.640 --> 20:28.640] them as I was with this bag when he gave it to me. Or something similar. Basically just point [20:28.640 --> 20:33.680] blank put your feelings out there. Call out the jealousy, the criticism, the comparisons and [20:33.680 --> 20:39.760] the competition. If you can give specific examples of such things so they can't go oh that's in [20:39.760 --> 20:45.120] your head. They cop to it and say they are fine with it. Tell them that's fine but that you are not. [20:45.120 --> 20:49.200] And honestly after their reaction to the bag I will tell them that you and your family are [20:49.200 --> 20:55.120] considering stepping back from the tradition due to how tiring it's become. And I don't think [20:55.120 --> 21:01.200] we need to cover any other comments. After that particular one I think it pretty much said it all. [21:01.200 --> 21:07.440] It sounds absolutely tiring to attend a tradition like that where you know you're going to be looked [21:07.440 --> 21:15.040] at with jealousy and competition. You're unable to enjoy your day, enjoy your gifts because you know [21:15.040 --> 21:21.360] you'll be looked at in a certain way. It's incredibly sad and like that comment said well you know you [21:21.360 --> 21:26.960] don't have to put up with that. You don't have to go at all or you can simply say look we're opening [21:26.960 --> 21:32.080] our gifts at home before we come to you this year. That's what we're going to do. Simple as that. [21:32.960 --> 21:38.720] Or not attend the tour. Totally up to you. But what would you do in this situation? I've heard [21:38.720 --> 21:42.480] of this before. I've heard of this situation about everyone opening gifts together and it [21:42.480 --> 21:47.040] causing jealousy and tension etc. etc. Have you ever been through something similar before? [21:47.040 --> 21:52.240] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Now just a huge thank you from the bottom [21:52.240 --> 21:56.480] of my heart for getting involved in today's stories. Your love, your support, your time [21:56.480 --> 22:01.040] always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so so much for being involved and hopefully [22:01.040 --> 22:08.160] I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love. [22:22.240 --> 22:31.200] you Transcription results written to '/home/forge/transcribe2.sonicengage.com/releases/20240210005726' directory