I Discovered My Little Brother Is Actually MY FIANCE'S Kid r/Relationship

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[00:00:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Much love guys now today's first story comes from throwaway knock call one from the true off my chest subreddit and says my little brother

[00:00:26] [SPEAKER_00]: free mail is actually my fiance's 25 mail kid

[00:00:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, the title is fucked up. I'm aware

[00:00:35] [SPEAKER_00]: My fiance 25 mail and myself 24 female have been together since we were 17 or 18 years old

[00:00:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, he was always kind handsome funny and everyone used to say I was lucky to have the whole package

[00:00:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I felt so lucky too

[00:00:51] [SPEAKER_00]: He always treated me with love and respect, so this makes everything just so shocking for me

[00:00:57] [SPEAKER_00]: I've always had a good relationship with my mom

[00:01:00] [SPEAKER_00]: It has always been her and I against the world my dad died in accident when I was little

[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_00]: He always joked that we are the real life, Rory and Laura life from Gilmore girls

[00:01:10] [SPEAKER_00]: My mom dated guys on and off and they were usually cool, but nothing really passed the early stages

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Around four years ago my mom told me she was pregnant which was a huge surprise

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_00]: My mom was around 42 years old and although she was sort of dating someone recently

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_00]: Didn't meet the guy but knew she went on dates. It was still a big shock

[00:01:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Do you never thought she could be pregnant at her age?

[00:01:35] [SPEAKER_00]: She had me when she was super young and oopsie and I can tell she was stressed and worried

[00:01:40] [SPEAKER_00]: I decided to support her since she has always supported me and tried to reassure her

[00:01:46] [SPEAKER_00]: She then had my brother who is now three years old

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I have a close relationship with my brother. I've helped taking care of him since he was born and I just loved a little guy

[00:01:56] [SPEAKER_00]: My fiance was also always helpful with my brother who would take him out for ice cream playground

[00:02:02] [SPEAKER_00]: All-time during summer, etc

[00:02:04] [SPEAKER_00]: But nothing was weird. He was just then my boyfriend spending time with my brother and I

[00:02:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Now to how I found out

[00:02:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I feel I live together since we finished college

[00:02:15] [SPEAKER_00]: My fiance was not at home since he was hanging out with friends because I was home because I didn't feel like going out

[00:02:21] [SPEAKER_00]: And just wanted to chill on my sofa

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_00]: At some point during binge watching his series on Netflix my laptop died and I was too lazy to go get my charger

[00:02:29] [SPEAKER_00]: But just took my fiance's iPad

[00:02:31] [SPEAKER_00]: I know the password but honestly never used it before

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I padlogged in and got a bunch of messages pinging. I guess he hasn't used it in a while too

[00:02:40] [SPEAKER_00]: Anyways, this got my attention and I went to check it out and of course I found everything

[00:02:45] [SPEAKER_00]: My mum's number wasn't under her name, but I recognized the number verified it with my phone

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_00]: She was telling him she felt guilty and that I should know

[00:02:53] [SPEAKER_00]: He said he also felt guilty, but couldn't lose me and they fucked it up

[00:02:58] [SPEAKER_00]: She said it was unfair for my brother to never not know his dad

[00:03:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Now if he could live having his son around not behaving like a dad, but a brother-in-law

[00:03:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I broke down what the actual fuck

[00:03:10] [SPEAKER_00]: There was a lot of all the messages just some photo stored of my brother as a newborn

[00:03:14] [SPEAKER_00]: My mum pregnant and more photos of my brother growing up in an album

[00:03:19] [SPEAKER_00]: I couldn't anymore

[00:03:20] [SPEAKER_00]: I cried for what seemed ages and I waited for my boyfriend to come back home

[00:03:24] [SPEAKER_00]: I wish I was one of those woman that can pretend and get over things before confronting the cheetah, but I can't

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_00]: He came back later that night around 11 30 p.m. and I just gave him the iPad with a conversation opened and

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Thoris faced completely go pale. I asked for an explanation

[00:03:41] [SPEAKER_00]: when how why and he didn't want to at first, but he knew he had to

[00:03:46] [SPEAKER_00]: Apparently a few years back while I was traveling with some friends

[00:03:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Girl's trip my fiance and mum had dinner together

[00:03:53] [SPEAKER_00]: This isn't strange as he'd been part of the family for so long

[00:03:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes a moment fiance would eat together in our place even if I was busy with sports around

[00:04:02] [SPEAKER_00]: I did the same with his parents

[00:04:05] [SPEAKER_00]: Somehow, I'm clear how since he couldn't explain it well one thing led to another and they ended up sleeping together

[00:04:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Without guilty, but apparently not guilty enough because they slept together two to three more times

[00:04:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Using the excuse of meeting up to discuss how to tell me

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Apparently when my mum got pregnant, they stopped sleeping together and decided to not tell me

[00:04:25] [SPEAKER_00]: It's my fiance loved me and couldn't lose me and my mum didn't want to lose her daughter

[00:04:30] [SPEAKER_00]: So here we are now with two of the most disgusting humans

[00:04:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I obviously broke the engagement on my mum to never talk to me again and moved in with my friend

[00:04:40] [SPEAKER_00]: I feel bad for my brother since I really love him, but I can't be around him now. I just can't

[00:04:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like it would remind me of all those times we talked about having kids

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_00]: I would be his baby mama only baby mama

[00:04:54] [SPEAKER_00]: We talked about this future since we were 17 years old

[00:04:57] [SPEAKER_00]: So I want to puke every time I think how was actually taking care of his child with someone else

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_00]: What's still having those dreams? I want a puke

[00:05:07] [SPEAKER_00]: That is so incredibly disgusting. I can't imagine how you felt in those moments the two people that you should be able to trust most in the world

[00:05:18] [SPEAKER_00]: We're getting betrayed by

[00:05:19] [SPEAKER_00]: But aggravating secrets as old honey, I am so sorry so absolutely sorry

[00:05:25] [SPEAKER_00]: More so furious at your mother, but my opinion of her isn't going to help you

[00:05:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Please right now take care of yourself

[00:05:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Eat, drink some water, get some rest, lean on your friends and let them take care of you

[00:05:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Don't unblock your fiance and your mother a

[00:05:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Some point people might start pressuring you to forgive and forget and that's bullshit

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Some things are unforgivable

[00:05:46] [SPEAKER_00]: If you choose to go that route do it at your speed

[00:05:49] [SPEAKER_00]: But right now leave them blocked that your work know that you've got family problems and ask if there's any way for someone to walk you to and from your car

[00:05:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Or ask a word buddy

[00:05:58] [SPEAKER_00]: This is the hard part. You're going to have to keep going

[00:06:02] [SPEAKER_00]: I cannot imagine the pain you are feeling but just keep going day by day

[00:06:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I wouldn't get better this month or even this year, but it will get better if you got health insurance

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Looking to get in the therapist or a counselor if you find yourself in need of a mother

[00:06:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Because I'm old enough to be yours or just someone to talk to

[00:06:19] [SPEAKER_00]: lead rich out and DM me. I'll be happy to talk with you

[00:06:23] [SPEAKER_00]: No, the commenter says fuck them both but people cheat all the time although this took the cheating price

[00:06:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Your mother on the other hand the lowest of the low despicable piece of tick shit

[00:06:34] [SPEAKER_00]: They did it repeatedly. She's prepared to let her daughter marry a cheetah and a liar

[00:06:39] [SPEAKER_00]: All the best wishes and support to you made a future save you from meeting more shitty people

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Another commenter says I would leave them behind and never look back

[00:06:48] [SPEAKER_00]: He says there's so much better and you will find better

[00:06:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Don't waste another minute of your own time on them

[00:06:54] [SPEAKER_00]: And when your little brother gets older, I'll explain to him exactly why you walked away because he also deserves to know what kind of parents

[00:06:59] [SPEAKER_00]: He has and while you had no choice but to abandon him for the time being

[00:07:04] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm sure he don't understand. I'm sorry that your mum betrayed you this way

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I hope that you have a really good support citizen to have you get through the awful time

[00:07:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Bad enough when a friend does something like this, but I can't imagine when it's your own mother

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_00]: To OP came in with our first update and said first I just want to thank everyone for the nice messages and comments

[00:07:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I was not expecting so much support

[00:07:25] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm still a mess not gonna lie, but after reading comments

[00:07:28] [SPEAKER_00]: I felt better like a therapy mini session so again, thank you all

[00:07:33] [SPEAKER_00]: 3 update as I was afraid I was indeed confronted near my office this week

[00:07:37] [SPEAKER_00]: I knew this was coming, but thought maybe I had more time

[00:07:40] [SPEAKER_00]: My ex was the person to come find me

[00:07:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Yesterday when's day after finishing work and walking to where my car was parked

[00:07:47] [SPEAKER_00]: My ex was sort of lingering waiting around

[00:07:50] [SPEAKER_00]: I thought about running, not gonna lie but I guess in the moment I felt strong enough to get it over with

[00:07:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Instead of having that hangin above my head waiting to be approached again

[00:08:00] [SPEAKER_00]: He asked if we could talk and I said yes, but I didn't feel like having that conversation over coffee like we're old friends

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_00]: If I were ridiculous so I told him to talk right there

[00:08:09] [SPEAKER_00]: We were in the streets, but somehow it wasn't crowded, but also not completely lonely if I write

[00:08:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Basically said sorry a hundred times and that I deserved better. I agreed

[00:08:20] [SPEAKER_00]: He said he did love me, and he still does but you would understand why wouldn't want anything to do with him

[00:08:25] [SPEAKER_00]: He said that if I did in fact consider giving him a chance that he would go to therapy alone altogether or both

[00:08:31] [SPEAKER_00]: And that he would work hard with my trust back. I told him it wasn't possible

[00:08:35] [SPEAKER_00]: It was too much damage

[00:08:37] [SPEAKER_00]: It sounds calm when I type it, but in the moment things came out more the louder tone and harsh awards

[00:08:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Anyways, he said that is in the or will be was a bit of a blur process of getting custody

[00:08:48] [SPEAKER_00]: partly my brother and that he in fact does want to be a dad to him

[00:08:54] [SPEAKER_00]: He says he does not want to be together with my mom, but it was a stupid mistake

[00:08:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Sure because four to five times mistake is just a random thing

[00:09:02] [SPEAKER_00]: He couldn't explain why he did it in the first place. I think he doesn't even know himself

[00:09:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked if he cheated with someone else before and he said no

[00:09:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Not sure if I believe it, but he sounded honest

[00:09:14] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked why he didn't complain and he said that after he did the deed

[00:09:18] [SPEAKER_00]: He always felt panic and it hit him that he could lose me and he just didn't want to

[00:09:23] [SPEAKER_00]: I told him it was meant to be found out that was his plan

[00:09:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Had my brother around and ignore their relationship forever

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_00]: He said he didn't think far enough and that he was basically going with the idea one day at a time type of survival

[00:09:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked him if he felt that my mom seduced him

[00:09:38] [SPEAKER_00]: He said it was mutual, which made me want to puke again

[00:09:41] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked if he had any contact with my mom since I found out

[00:09:45] [SPEAKER_00]: He said yes, but mostly about my brother

[00:09:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Didn't elaborate more and I didn't press for more info on that

[00:09:50] [SPEAKER_00]: He said he told his parents the day before or the day before that's not sure Monday or Tuesday

[00:09:56] [SPEAKER_00]: About everything the parents were not happy, but they're glad to start building now a relationship with my brother

[00:10:03] [SPEAKER_00]: They're grandkids

[00:10:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, all of this felt like a punch in my stomach. I don't know why

[00:10:07] [SPEAKER_00]: The parents wanted to contact me, but he told them to wait until he approached me first and

[00:10:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Sweat he was here

[00:10:14] [SPEAKER_00]: I said if he started or thought about the custody before I found out and he said no

[00:10:18] [SPEAKER_00]: When I found out was like the pushy needed great seems I helped them get his shit together

[00:10:25] [SPEAKER_00]: And this past week he was arranging all of that mess. That's why he hasn't tried to see me before

[00:10:30] [SPEAKER_00]: He sounded and looked defeated but the whole thing made me beside sad

[00:10:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Angry I was mainly depressed before but now I'm furious

[00:10:39] [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like he is still in an okay place and he isn't paying for his actions

[00:10:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Beyond me leaving him who will have my brother his parents and others and move on with his life

[00:10:49] [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I lost everything

[00:10:52] [SPEAKER_00]: He Tim

[00:10:52] [SPEAKER_00]: We parted ways not in a happy note and I told him to never get near me again. I was done

[00:10:58] [SPEAKER_00]: It asked me to see my brother still

[00:11:00] [SPEAKER_00]: That was important to him and try to guilt trip me and it worked

[00:11:04] [SPEAKER_00]: I still think I can't

[00:11:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know much about my mom and really hope she doesn't come to find me anytime soon

[00:11:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Because I'm fuming right now and won't be able to handle it

[00:11:14] [SPEAKER_00]: I'd be contacted my family and friends and finally doing the blasting today

[00:11:18] [SPEAKER_00]: I think it is about time and after my talk with him, I got the extra push I needed

[00:11:24] [SPEAKER_00]: So then OP came in with another update and said everyone again

[00:11:28] [SPEAKER_00]: I want to say thanks for all the support on my last update

[00:11:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly like I said in my previous post, it really helped me a lot emotionally

[00:11:35] [SPEAKER_00]: or your comments and also all the advice I got

[00:11:38] [SPEAKER_00]: About moving abroad or what to say when I do the blast

[00:11:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you

[00:11:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Updates? A lot has happened

[00:11:46] [SPEAKER_00]: I did the blasting and this is how it went down

[00:11:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I first posted on my family's Facebook group with share

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_00]: This is from my mum's family side

[00:11:54] [SPEAKER_00]: I used inspiration of what you all suggested in my last post and it's something around the lines of

[00:11:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I want to communicate to you all that my wedding with eggs has been permanently cancelled

[00:12:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Since I found out that my mum, name and my ex, name

[00:12:07] [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't the last few years as sexual relationship

[00:12:10] [SPEAKER_00]: which resulted in the birth of my little brother

[00:12:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Name

[00:12:14] [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't know clue of any of this and I found out about it last week

[00:12:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Or what have moving forward a relationship with mum or ex for obvious reasons

[00:12:22] [SPEAKER_00]: What have appreciate your understanding and

[00:12:25] [SPEAKER_00]: I felt it was only fair to let you know of the situation

[00:12:27] [SPEAKER_00]: As I value transparency and honesty above all

[00:12:31] [SPEAKER_00]: I've also included a screenshot of my mother's message

[00:12:34] [SPEAKER_00]: I said to her once I found out and message she managed to write back before I blocked her

[00:12:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Didn't open the message till before the blasting

[00:12:41] [SPEAKER_00]: It didn't want to hear her and be persuaded

[00:12:44] [SPEAKER_00]: It exploded, had family reaching out via text and calling the whole day after the blasting

[00:12:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Or say most were very supportive and I could tell they would just shocked

[00:12:54] [SPEAKER_00]: There were a few neutral and some suspicious that it wasn't the whole story

[00:12:58] [SPEAKER_00]: And maybe I misunderstood

[00:12:59] [SPEAKER_00]: My grandparents Rindi, maybe you misunderstood category

[00:13:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Which it wasn't surprising since my mum is super close to my grandparents

[00:13:06] [SPEAKER_00]: And like I said before, my mum was always a good mum

[00:13:09] [SPEAKER_00]: So no red flags

[00:13:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll be moving with my cousin that is more like assisted to me

[00:13:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I haven't reached out to her previously because I knew once she knows everyone would

[00:13:19] [SPEAKER_00]: That's why I went to my friends place

[00:13:21] [SPEAKER_00]: My cousin is devastated on my behalf and offered I live with her

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_00]: And her two kids until I can get my feet on the ground

[00:13:28] [SPEAKER_00]: I accept that it will be moving next week

[00:13:31] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm a bit afraid this will give my mum easier access to me

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_00]: But the cast that my friends place forever

[00:13:36] [SPEAKER_00]: And then proceeded quickly to post a similar message for my

[00:13:40] [SPEAKER_00]: We share most of our friends in high school, local university, friends on Instagram

[00:13:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I created a close friend's story and tag most of them too

[00:13:48] [SPEAKER_00]: This went sort of viral in our friend group

[00:13:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Actually one of my friends sent me my reddit post in our surface was me

[00:13:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I confirmed they were also shocked and speechless

[00:13:58] [SPEAKER_00]: And ever thought my ex would even remotely do anything like this

[00:14:01] [SPEAKER_00]: He said it was crazy about you

[00:14:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Oh well apparently he went overboard on the crazy part

[00:14:07] [SPEAKER_00]: The group of friends is divided at the moment

[00:14:10] [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm a completely on my side and some are thinking it isn't the whole truth

[00:14:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I told everyone that reached out that if they don't believe me do ask their friend if he is asking for custody of my little brother

[00:14:21] [SPEAKER_00]: That kind of shut them up for now

[00:14:23] [SPEAKER_00]: My ex deleted his social media apparently

[00:14:27] [SPEAKER_00]: Also my ex's parents called me like I guess they would

[00:14:30] [SPEAKER_00]: It would kind to me and we're very sorry about everything

[00:14:33] [SPEAKER_00]: I've got the feeling they were also overwhelmed and very disappointed

[00:14:36] [SPEAKER_00]: However, it was clear they will be supporting their son

[00:14:40] [SPEAKER_00]: They're very upset at my mother and they want anything to do with her

[00:14:43] [SPEAKER_00]: But not sure how that will work with my little brother and everything else

[00:14:46] [SPEAKER_00]: They tried to give me info about the custody and what my ex is up to now

[00:14:51] [SPEAKER_00]: But I shut that down quickly and told them I don't want any info

[00:14:54] [SPEAKER_00]: I want to move on

[00:14:56] [SPEAKER_00]: I also told them to not reach out in a near future

[00:14:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I needed distance

[00:15:00] [SPEAKER_00]: Specifically if they were still supporting my ex

[00:15:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Is living with his parents at the moment

[00:15:05] [SPEAKER_00]: Also my ex and my mother after the blast were going nuts trying to reach out to me

[00:15:10] [SPEAKER_00]: It tried calling my friend who she blocked them and reaching out from different numbers

[00:15:15] [SPEAKER_00]: That's my phone on silent and ignore everyone

[00:15:18] [SPEAKER_00]: However, my mother sent me a long text from another number that was a weird text

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_00]: She said that I was being cruel and that she didn't think she raised me that way

[00:15:29] [SPEAKER_00]: She keep bastard

[00:15:31] [SPEAKER_00]: She said that she thought we had a better relationship than me blasting out laundry like that without talking to her first

[00:15:38] [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't have the whole picture

[00:15:39] [SPEAKER_00]: She did mention something that confused me

[00:15:42] [SPEAKER_00]: She said in a long-ass text that the reason she slept with my ex is because he reminded him of my dad

[00:15:48] [SPEAKER_00]: It was grief

[00:15:49] [SPEAKER_00]: That she didn't mean to use him to heal her pain

[00:15:52] [SPEAKER_00]: But she wasn't strong enough

[00:15:54] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't even know what that means

[00:15:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Like did she think that my ex looks physically like my dad or personality or what?

[00:16:00] [SPEAKER_00]: I've seen photos of my dad and well, yeah, my ex isn't super different

[00:16:04] [SPEAKER_00]: But also not super alike

[00:16:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I mean they share browns-dirty blonde hair, blue eyes, white skin

[00:16:10] [SPEAKER_00]: But that's not so uncommon

[00:16:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't see what else

[00:16:13] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know

[00:16:14] [SPEAKER_00]: That threw me for a loop and honestly makes me want to confront my mum just to know what the hell

[00:16:19] [SPEAKER_00]: From all the things she could say, I was not expecting that

[00:16:24] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm holding on better

[00:16:25] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't cry every hour or one a murder then but I'm still sad and upset and it just feels like it isn't my life

[00:16:32] [SPEAKER_00]: That is a big joke or a bad dream and I will wake up to my normal life

[00:16:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I also need to really start planning my future

[00:16:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Instead of playing for jobs in other cities or maybe check the possibilities of broad more seriously

[00:16:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I might ask for two to three days off work to really get my thoughts together and do some research

[00:16:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm terrified to be honest

[00:16:51] [SPEAKER_00]: I feel frozen

[00:16:52] [SPEAKER_00]: But I know I need to start moving

[00:16:55] [SPEAKER_00]: Someone asked OP in this story, they said how the fuck are people not on your side

[00:16:59] [SPEAKER_00]: A bit your mum is spinning this, make her look innocent

[00:17:02] [SPEAKER_00]: But how?

[00:17:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Had a fucking affair not a one night stand

[00:17:05] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm glad you set boundaries with your ex in laws

[00:17:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I know that was hard

[00:17:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Stay strong OP

[00:17:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Neither of them deserve your kindness nor relationship with them

[00:17:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Edit by the way, what would your ex reaching you for?

[00:17:18] [SPEAKER_00]: OP says, I heard this might be rumours

[00:17:20] [SPEAKER_00]: That's why I didn't add it in the post

[00:17:21] [SPEAKER_00]: As she said that it was a mistake

[00:17:23] [SPEAKER_00]: And that my ex was the initiator

[00:17:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Then it was a period during the time my ex and I broke up

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_00]: But that's lies

[00:17:30] [SPEAKER_00]: My ex and I never broke up

[00:17:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, we had fights but we never broke up or took a break or anything around those lines

[00:17:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Some family members are believing that and apparently are giving her the benefit of the doubt

[00:17:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Try to reply sentences so that gives her the right to sleep with your ex

[00:17:45] [SPEAKER_00]: People are giving her the benefit of the doubt to the most evil people in disguise

[00:17:49] [SPEAKER_00]: What does the ex saying to this?

[00:17:52] [SPEAKER_00]: OP says again rumours but

[00:17:54] [SPEAKER_00]: A friend of a friend who was in touch with my ex said that he was groomed basically

[00:17:58] [SPEAKER_00]: That he is not obligated to be a dad even though he never wanted that at such a young age

[00:18:03] [SPEAKER_00]: He will step up and do the right thing

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_00]: I guess I shouldn't be surprised but close of friends to me haven't heard anything from him

[00:18:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Do not sure how true it is

[00:18:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Try to reply is again saying groomed means their fair was going on for longer than two to three years

[00:18:18] [SPEAKER_00]: I want to do the right thing because everything is out in the open

[00:18:21] [SPEAKER_00]: But this means you will have a relationship with your mum

[00:18:24] [SPEAKER_00]: And people who are siding with him in any capacity never talk to them

[00:18:28] [SPEAKER_00]: At least you know the truth before getting married and having kids with him because

[00:18:31] [SPEAKER_00]: There was a famous reddit post where the wife got to know mothers affair with husband

[00:18:35] [SPEAKER_00]: After 20 plus years of marriage and mother had kids alongside daughter

[00:18:39] [SPEAKER_00]: And hated daughters kids because of competition

[00:18:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Loopy replied saying

[00:18:43] [SPEAKER_00]: I think by the right thing he meant being a dad to my little brother

[00:18:47] [SPEAKER_00]: No idea about their relationship

[00:18:49] [SPEAKER_00]: Mum and ex and I don't want to know

[00:18:52] [SPEAKER_00]: I think if they had together it would make me feel 100,000 times worse

[00:18:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Opera flex on their thoughts and replying to someone who says that they'd be better off now

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_00]: And Opera says I will for sure and things could be worse with me marrying my ex and potential even having kids

[00:19:08] [SPEAKER_00]: But still feels like it wasn't really dodging a bomb

[00:19:11] [SPEAKER_00]: I feel so alone and I'm grateful for some friends in my cousin and some arms but size that

[00:19:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Everything is gone

[00:19:18] [SPEAKER_00]: I also don't know how the hell I'll ever be able to trust another partner again

[00:19:21] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll be one of these paranoid psycho girlfriends

[00:19:24] [SPEAKER_00]: I dislike myself and be miserable

[00:19:27] [SPEAKER_00]: And there was many people suggested into Opera on the back of this maybe you know just stay single for a while

[00:19:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Live your life a bit and try to get things back together

[00:19:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Other people saying you know things will improve from here

[00:19:40] [SPEAKER_00]: It will take time of course but things will get better in time

[00:19:45] [SPEAKER_00]: And of course people suggesting therapy at the same time to help Opera navigate this situation

[00:19:52] [SPEAKER_00]: I know we see a lot of bad parents in these stories but imagine your parent who who was seemingly

[00:19:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Loving before all of this and then you find out this it like it's from one day

[00:20:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Everything's normal you're in a relationship, you know your mum's okay you got a little brother

[00:20:08] [SPEAKER_00]: The next day everything comes crashing down in an instant

[00:20:12] [SPEAKER_00]: That is horrific isn't it

[00:20:15] [SPEAKER_00]: But now I'm gonna turn this one to you guys what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:20:21] [SPEAKER_00]: What would you suggest the OP?

[00:20:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:20:27] [SPEAKER_00]: And now just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved into

[00:20:30] [SPEAKER_00]: A story you'll love your support your time always means the absolute world to me

[00:20:35] [SPEAKER_00]: So thank you so so much and hopefully we'll see you in the next one take care

[00:20:40] [SPEAKER_00]: And much love