I Defended A Bride Who Left Her Husband At The Altar Now Everyone Turned On Me r/Relationships

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[00:00:21] Now today's first story comes from the MIV asshole here subreddit and says MIV asshole for defending a bride

[00:00:29] Left her husband at the altar

[00:00:32] Okay, so boom me my husband attended a wedding

[00:00:36] It was kinda his cousin slash nieces wedding

[00:00:39] I'm not sure how to describe the relationship but they were closed growing up

[00:00:44] The wedding was a bit unique. There was a brunch before the actual ceremony with bride and groom

[00:00:50] Then for an hour the wedding party left to get ready well all the guests were still a brunch

[00:00:55] Then the actual ceremony and the real reception were supposed to happen after

[00:00:59] I thought everything was normal. At the brunch the couple looked happy and excited and a little nervous maybe

[00:01:06] My husband had told me there had been a little drama leading up to the wedding because the

[00:01:10] groom's family insisted that the groom's egg should attend the wedding because they have a good relationship

[00:01:17] The ex is an EMT and she apparently saved mother-in-law's life once

[00:01:21] The bride didn't want the ex to attend but she caved in

[00:01:26] At the actual ceremony, as she might have guessed from the title the bride never showed

[00:01:31] After a few minutes of awkward silence with a music playing as we waited for the bride

[00:01:36] The bride's father came and told everyone she left

[00:01:39] Room was crying mother-in-law was screaming it was a huge mess

[00:01:44] At the reception they basically just told people to take to go boxes of food so it didn't go to waste

[00:01:52] Since a lot of family was in town for the wedding,

[00:01:55] Righte-side of the family was hosting a reunion

[00:01:57] At the reunion the bride said the reason she left

[00:02:00] Room at the altar was because that brunch the ex told her that she slept with a

[00:02:05] groom. Apparently showed the bride a sex tape she made with a groom

[00:02:08] Ride was destroyed and left because she didn't want to marry a cheater

[00:02:13] Room side of the family was slandering the bride on every social media platform possible

[00:02:18] So bride-side decided to fire back and they were publicly accusing the groom with cheating on her

[00:02:24] There was just a big shit stall

[00:02:26] Room comes to bride's house to tranquil things up

[00:02:29] So the groom didn't actually cheat on the bride the sex tape was from years and years ago

[00:02:35] The groom's appearance just hadn't changed that much so

[00:02:38] Ride believed the ex when she said it was recent

[00:02:41] The ex was just trying to break them up the ex confessed to it too

[00:02:45] The my surprise instead of everyone being angry at the ex

[00:02:48] Everyone turned on the bride. A family was pissed at her for wasting money being

[00:02:53] Gollable not letting the groom defend himself first

[00:02:56] Everyone was yelling at her I thought it was crazy so I spoke up in her defense

[00:03:01] What have believed it too if there was video evidence plus the fact that she was practically

[00:03:06] Force into the ex attending their wedding

[00:03:10] Now the whole family is against me and the bride and it's so awkward in everyone acting cold

[00:03:15] My husband is upset because now feels like if someone accused him of cheating on me

[00:03:20] I just take their word for it, but I feel that's completely unfair

[00:03:24] In the comments ghost pepper says sounds like the groom's family still likes his ex more and wanted it

[00:03:30] At the wedding for that purpose otherwise they wouldn't be acting so stupid and putting the blame all in the

[00:03:35] Right to be

[00:03:37] Except all pop says this is exactly it

[00:03:39] I will 200% end the wedding if someone told me my wife's ex was basically being forced on me to show up

[00:03:45] Mother and Lord knows she fucked up and everyone knows it's not the brides fault

[00:03:50] But as easier to gang up on the bride than actually deal with their BS

[00:03:53] That says sounds like the groom has been having an affair and threatened to cut off egg

[00:03:57] She didn't say it was a lie

[00:03:59] He put in my columbuh hat on to look at them better data for that tape

[00:04:03] This sounds like husband is now seeing the cranks in the story so at that old here

[00:04:07] Let it go with their clothes

[00:04:08] Whether it was sure or not that wedding was not happening as soon as ex stepped in

[00:04:14] No one was getting married that day when she said it even if the groom refuted it immediately

[00:04:20] Lou Ferris says so what's going to happen?

[00:04:23] Are they going to get married or is she walking away?

[00:04:26] I don't know how I would deal with in laws like that

[00:04:29] Opie says I'm in my hotel room right now and I feel a bit awkward

[00:04:32] Texan are about it being nosy

[00:04:34] I'm a way too things calm down a bit or I just asked my husband when he comes back

[00:04:39] Library mouse says the fault lies with the mother in law for insisting on the ex coming

[00:04:44] And the ex for lying to break them up

[00:04:46] Mother in law was probably behind the lie as well and got what she wanted

[00:04:50] Which was for them to split

[00:04:52] Anyone defending the mother in law or ex should be ashamed

[00:04:56] Ex isn't EMT I should go to a job and report her behavior

[00:05:00] Or she did as nothing to do with a job but it shows bad character

[00:05:04] Right should also sue the ex for the cost of the wedding she intentionally caused the problem that ended the wedding so she should pay for it

[00:05:12] Outrage pineapple says not the asshole. I don't understand at all how she's getting blamed when the ex

[00:05:19] All-custrated this whole thing admitted to it and shouldn't have been there at all

[00:05:24] The bride asked for her not to be there but they steamed rolled her

[00:05:27] Which would have been enough for me to cancel the whole thing and decided that she needed to be there anyway

[00:05:33] Then when the ex lies in causes all this chaos they're blaming the bride not her and not the mother in law for the

[00:05:39] Manning that the ex be there

[00:05:41] Trying to redirect their own guilt and it's pathetic

[00:05:44] I hope she doesn't take fiance back and cut ties with all these idiots blaming her because she deserves better

[00:05:50] And I hope the ex and mother in law rot

[00:05:54] One more comment from okay minimum who says I mean this is all a bit suspicious still

[00:05:59] If I was the bride I still wouldn't rush into marriage with him

[00:06:03] I want to see the dates on that video as proof which I'm sure you'll be able to do on a fur

[00:06:08] Which I'm assuming this was taken on also if I'd just been shown a sex tape of my soon to be husband

[00:06:13] Not still need time to recover from that before marrying him

[00:06:17] He knew she didn't only exit the wedding but allowed mother and lort a bullier into it

[00:06:21] I need boundaries put in place there the fact that everyone is attacking her and it feels like he's not doing enough to throw them off a back

[00:06:28] Yeah, he's getting a glimpse into a future

[00:06:31] She's not just marrying him but his family and I'm not liking what I'm seeing

[00:06:36] Either way she's made the right choice not to marry him today

[00:06:39] serious change needs to happen before she makes that commitment

[00:06:44] Yeah, and you know all the way I was thinking about this is like my mother in law for one

[00:06:49] She sounds like a right piece of work and one of those nightmare

[00:06:52] M-I-Ls that we see in these stories that that potentially has a son wrapped around her little finger

[00:07:00] Also fiancee in this while he may be innocent in the fact that you know, he this is an old sex tape or whatever

[00:07:08] Not putting your foot down about your ex not being there when your fiancee's uncomfortable with it

[00:07:13] Wild in itself

[00:07:15] But opiads their first mini update within the same post and says okay, so my hubby came back to the hotel room and I showed in the post

[00:07:23] Because he knows I like using Reddit. I mentioned a specific comment to him where one reddit or asked me

[00:07:28] Are we sure the tape was old and the grooming eggs aren't just covering up their affair by lying and saying it's old

[00:07:35] I told my husband and at first he laughed but started to think about the whole situation I guess

[00:07:41] What hubby was still at the brigh house trying to help with the situation after I left

[00:07:45] The environment was getting too much from me so I went back to the hotel

[00:07:49] The room had been groveling to the brigh

[00:07:52] Even though he was exonerated by ex admitting it was fake

[00:07:56] We're still being very apologetic which through my husband off of it like even though he maintained he didn't cheat

[00:08:02] Instead of husband being angry about being left at the altar and publicly humiliated

[00:08:07] He seemed to just want his wife to forgive him

[00:08:10] I thought this would be normal because room probably feels horrible about allowing the ex to ruin the day and hurt the wife like that

[00:08:17] But my husband said it was unusual behavior for the groom

[00:08:21] Apparently the groom is the high horse type and he would never apologize for a mistake that wasn't his

[00:08:27] husband knows the groom better than me so my husband thinks it's plausible that the groom did cheat by the way

[00:08:33] He's acting but he's not gonna bring it up because of how high tensions are and it might just make things worse

[00:08:38] I was to explain how when why I felt like my husband was being unfair to me by saying he thinks I'd believe anyone who accused him of cheating on me

[00:08:47] He apologized and told me he was just stressed out earlier. He feels like we wasted money on this trip

[00:08:53] And went and maybe not seen our kids for days over this wedding that got blown up over a lie

[00:09:00] Bride text me thanking me for defending her most of the slandering social media posts were taken down

[00:09:05] The ex posted on social media plan victim. Well, not really but she's posting like heartbreak stuff and those fucking depressed

[00:09:13] Bart Simpson means at her big age the groom's mother pulled up to the bright house after I left and was threatening to burn the place down

[00:09:21] Because she was mad the bride humiliated her son over a lie because it was such a huge wedding

[00:09:27] He had many of his coworkers and stuff there

[00:09:29] I feel like I'm missing something but I'm tired and it's been a long last day

[00:09:35] Edits plus question a few people are saying I should show this post to the bride but I'm a bit scared

[00:09:40] She won't react well to me putting her business online because I don't know about that well

[00:09:45] But at the same time I feel like she might have appreciate most people are on her side

[00:09:50] But also I don't really want her to see my conspiracy theory about how the husband actually cheated on her because there's no actual proof

[00:10:00] Should I

[00:10:01] Op then comes in with their second update says okay, so I decided to send this to the bride

[00:10:06] They also told my mother-in-law who I'm super close with what was going on

[00:10:10] I'll start with a bright first

[00:10:12] So as I predict it she was a little mad. I put her business online

[00:10:16] I called her and we made small talk for a couple of minutes avoiding the elephant

[00:10:20] But then I told her I posted about this on Reddit. I sent her the link while we were in court

[00:10:25] She didn't yell or anything but she told me I shouldn't have done that

[00:10:28] I assured her I didn't use any names or defining descriptions and she hung up the phone

[00:10:33] A few minutes later she called me back and told me she scrolled through the comments and stuff and it made her feel better

[00:10:39] And she apologized for snapping at me but I don't feel like she did

[00:10:44] She told me that she felt like a lot of the comments were lowing things out of proportion

[00:10:48] And it comes to how you guys speak of the mother-in-law and groom

[00:10:52] She said mother-in-law isn't evil like the post-made her out to be

[00:10:56] But

[00:10:58] Returning to burn the house down

[00:11:00] Anyway, she also said she understands one mother-in-law insisted on

[00:11:04] Expearing at the wedding and that when mother-in-law threatened to burn the house down

[00:11:08] She wasn't being serious and it was taken out of context

[00:11:11] When our stuff like how you still gonna get married to grooms you just kept saying I didn't know

[00:11:15] She sounded sad so I dropped it

[00:11:19] She also told me she doesn't think groomed she did on her and that my husband just had a bad perception of groom because

[00:11:24] Yeah, say hard-sheld to crack

[00:11:26] After we hung up me and my husband called his mother to update her on what was happening because she couldn't make it to the wedding

[00:11:34] My husband's mother told us that the eggs never really saved mother-in-law's life

[00:11:38] Basically all she did was inject there was an epipen from mild allergy

[00:11:43] My mother-in-law feels like saying she saved her life was just for dramatic to guilt the bride into

[00:11:48] Leading X attend the wedding a mother-in-law also feels like the bride to mother-in-law

[00:11:53] Had nothing to do with the ex-sabotage in the wedding

[00:11:56] She said that the bride to mother-in-law isn't an idiot and even as she did love the ex that much

[00:12:01] She would never purposely ruin her son's wedding because she's one of those boy moms

[00:12:06] Oh, no shit

[00:12:09] I feel for the bride in there. She's trying to excuse this behavior

[00:12:15] Like it's it she's normally not like that

[00:12:19] Isn't evil

[00:12:22] Regardless if you're taking it that threatened to burn the house down wasn't serious if not a normal thing to say

[00:12:31] To me the whole story just felt like mother-in-law prefers the ex over OP. I'm sorry to say that OP

[00:12:37] But it just feels like that in the story and previous stories that we've read it usually comes down to that

[00:12:43] And there's something going on in the background between mother-in-law and ex to potentially break them up like that

[00:12:49] But to do that on a wedding day wow to do it any day is madness, but to do it on the wedding day

[00:12:54] Lady says after that out day not they are so that poor bride is

[00:12:58] Untfined and excused to not believe that mother-in-law is evil

[00:13:02] I feel so bad for her

[00:13:04] Away understanding says oh the groom should have been the one to put his foot down on not inviting the ex

[00:13:10] In fact that he didn't unattails me he wants the ex around

[00:13:14] I think mother-in-law picked up on that and might be trying to get them back together

[00:13:18] This bride needs to run for the hills

[00:13:21] Other commenters as all of that poor bride is going to stay with that guy live a life of misery

[00:13:28] Creative color says injecting someone with an epipair is saving their life

[00:13:32] There's literally no such thing as a mild allergy, but either allergic or you are not

[00:13:38] You may be desensitized making reactions less severe for the most part

[00:13:42] The severity of the reaction has a lot to do with what's going on with your immune system at the time

[00:13:46] People need to educate themselves and what anaphylaxis is because it's not just a breathing thing

[00:13:52] The definition has changed

[00:13:54] May you never have a child or partner for yourself develop analogy

[00:13:57] Wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy

[00:14:00] And the final comment said y'all the asshole busy body inserting yourself in other people's drama from the start

[00:14:06] On your own shit to do and leave these people alone

[00:14:10] If I let such a weird take, you know, you're on your amy the asshole

[00:14:14] So read it reading about other people stuff that's going on in their lives, which you know generally because of the the nature of the post

[00:14:21] Is dramatic in nature

[00:14:23] You're saying

[00:14:28] Madness

[00:14:29] But now I'm gonna turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:14:35] Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:14:39] Let's move on to another story

[00:14:42] Our next story does come with an update as well as from fancy yard 802 who says amy the asshole here

[00:14:48] Floughing when my aunt told my stepmom that being depressive doesn't make you sleep with a married man

[00:14:55] Sorry for the long title. I really had no idea what title to explain the situation

[00:15:00] My first language is Spanish

[00:15:03] Long story short two years ago my father left my mother to go with his mistress whom I will call Anna

[00:15:09] Common name

[00:15:10] My mother never had any idea about the infidelity

[00:15:14] Anna knew that my father was married. She even went to the house with him to take his things

[00:15:19] One day he simply told my mother that he is no longer in love with her and wants to be happy with Anna

[00:15:25] I was there when everything happened Anna was depressed

[00:15:28] She has many scars on her legs and arms

[00:15:31] I don't go to my father's house. It makes me uncomfortable to be around them for obvious reasons

[00:15:36] Anna is overly nice and it's really uncomfortable

[00:15:40] A few days ago, it was my grandfather's birthday and the whole family was together

[00:15:45] Including Anna

[00:15:47] Have an aunt who suffers from depression and other more heavy things like schizophrenia

[00:15:52] She has tried to hurt herself many times at one point in the night

[00:15:57] There was only my father my aunt Anna and another aunt and I in the living room

[00:16:02] Some reason my aunt and Anna were talking about some serious things and at one point Anna began to say that the

[00:16:08] Prussian made her do many things that trying to feel fulfilled

[00:16:12] That she could only overcome depression when she met my father and he saved her

[00:16:16] And meeting him was like the key to overcome her depression

[00:16:19] And though she's finally happy thanks to him

[00:16:22] I know about that because Anna often tried to bond with me by telling me how much she suffered in her life

[00:16:28] And how my father saved her

[00:16:30] She's always justified herself that she was depressed and was in a hard place in her life before my father saved her

[00:16:36] That always makes me feel uncomfortable and I don't feel empathy for her no matter how sweet she is

[00:16:42] Talking about how many times you try to kill yourself and run to my eight-year-old sister is not something normal

[00:16:49] Anna has always tried to paint her relationship with my father as a fairy tale that began in a different way

[00:16:54] But she doesn't regret anything because her world is perfect now

[00:16:59] At that moment my aunt said something like

[00:17:01] I tried to save myself by going to a psychologist not by jumping on the dick of a married man

[00:17:06] And then she began to say that the Prussian made her want to jump off a bridge but not ruin a family

[00:17:12] I just laughed it was funny. I aren't may have had a mind elsewhere all day

[00:17:16] But it was crazy to see her make such a slight comment

[00:17:19] But when my father was taking me home and I was crying and he scolded me for laughing at what my aunt said

[00:17:26] Saying that no one knows everything that Anna suffered

[00:17:29] I know she always talks about that

[00:17:31] I didn't apologize but now I think

[00:17:34] Was I really wrong to laugh from my point of view my aunt was right

[00:17:40] At someone myself who's gone

[00:17:43] I was gonna say gone through depression, you know

[00:17:46] Never I never want to say gone through because I always feel like it's always there on the edges

[00:17:51] You know but went to the doctor's dealing with it. That's literally no that's all the stuff

[00:17:55] That's I'm pretty dark thoughts in my time

[00:17:57] Lo moods completely stop gaming at one point because I just didn't feel like doing it

[00:18:03] And sometimes just didn't want to do anything at all and of course

[00:18:07] I feel for anyone who's going through that and self harm etc etc

[00:18:12] But it truly does feel that Anna's just trying to justify what she did here

[00:18:17] There's no talking about the family that she and the husband broke up

[00:18:21] There's no talk about the mother in this situation

[00:18:24] And what her mental health is right now again

[00:18:27] I don't know the four wins in outs, but your husband to just leave you for someone like that

[00:18:31] It's gotta be it's going to be painful when who knows what that mother's going through mentally

[00:18:35] She might just put mental issues on to someone else

[00:18:39] And the way OP explained it just says she talks a lot of me me me stuff again trying to justify it

[00:18:45] And if I'm being completely honest if I heard the answer that I would have pissed myself laughing

[00:18:50] Roodle possibly, but you know I'm only human but it made me chuckle

[00:18:56] As we always say mental health or whatever it is isn't an excuse being asked all

[00:19:01] Parts and kitty says not the answer your arm was 100% right and pretty much any person on the planet would have laughed

[00:19:09] You should have asked them if they have any clue how much their selfish choice is called you and your mom to suffer

[00:19:15] Hope you're sponsoring honestly in the past I've argued with them about it, but Anna always cries and my father says

[00:19:22] It's called to tell her that this point I prefer to ignore them

[00:19:27] Okay patient says not the answer you don't just get better from a depression because you get into a relationship

[00:19:33] And if it's contingent on a relationship, then you need serious help

[00:19:37] You knew your father was married and had a family, she truly didn't know saying those things together

[00:19:42] A weird look considering how their relationships started

[00:19:45] Either way, it didn't something Anna should be attempting to connect with a repair partner slash now husband is child with

[00:19:52] Anna suffered but so did the rest of the family from your father's betrayal

[00:19:56] Did they care about that? No Anna played a stupid game and surprised a prize she got a stupid prize your father

[00:20:06] Spicy yeah, I'm on the back of that comment as well

[00:20:09] You know when I said about the mother and what she's going through mentally and you know what oh he's going through mentally and other members of the family as well

[00:20:16] That other Anna destroyed

[00:20:20] Finding fits as not the answer she's just trying to use it as an excuse to make it feel like it was a valid reason to get into a relationship with a married man

[00:20:29] Oject trash man says absolutely it's the sort of behavior has nothing to do with depression as

[00:20:34] Evidence by myself and many other people on here who suffer from chronic mental health issues, but have not slept with someone married

[00:20:40] Let alone someone married with kids

[00:20:42] If she weren't depressed should be using something else to justify this behavior because the type of person who does this

[00:20:49] Selfish and we'll do it no matter what a feelings are the only feelings that matter

[00:20:54] In a few years the dad will be full of deep regret

[00:20:58] And a final comment from where he scientists who says not the answer you aren't didn't say anything and true

[00:21:04] While I've certainly done stupid stuff as a result of trauma and severe depression

[00:21:09] I don't go around just to find my choices because there is no mistake in that they were my choices

[00:21:15] The depression made me want to stay in bed all day or run my car into oncoming traffic

[00:21:20] Promenade made me choose to do stupid things so at least I was in control of what was happening

[00:21:25] Either way none of it was okay. That would never try to justify it

[00:21:30] Especially if I hurt people with those actions

[00:21:32] Anna chose to break a family apart and now wants people to feel bad for her about it

[00:21:38] Don't OP comes in with her up there and says hello some things happened over the weekend

[00:21:43] My aunt came home. I live with my mother and told my mom what happened

[00:21:47] My mother hates my dad for obvious reasons but still she's been really nice to him and tried to keep us out of all those problems

[00:21:54] They have my mother is honestly a saint

[00:21:57] My sister isn't eight-year-old girl and she really hates Anna

[00:22:01] Anna wants to try to get along with my sister and told her about the times

[00:22:05] She wanted to commit suicide and how my dad saved her

[00:22:08] After that my sister came home asking my mother if she had ever thought about committing suicide

[00:22:14] It's not a question an eight-year-old girl should ask and my sister even asked me questions about suicide after that

[00:22:21] I don't really know what exactly Anna said to her but it definitely affected her as a little girl

[00:22:26] It's not even something you should talk about with a girl of that age

[00:22:29] My mother was furious and since that day she forbids my father to have my younger sister near-ranna

[00:22:35] She considers her a dangerous and unstable person around children

[00:22:39] Since that day things have been really tense between my father and mother

[00:22:43] My sister doesn't want to visit our father so just fine with this

[00:22:47] My aunt told my mother that Anna talked about it again the this time in front of me

[00:22:53] Apparently my father and Anna were totally forbidden to talk about these things in front of me too

[00:22:58] I'm not a little kid but apparently that was the arrangement my mother made with my father when she said boundaries for them

[00:23:05] I aren't told what happened that day and I confessed to my mother that Anna and my father talk a lot about those two

[00:23:10] Excited tens in front of me which is something I should have talked about before but at that moment

[00:23:15] I didn't want problems and decided to just ignore them. I told my mum for that reason not going to my father's house anymore

[00:23:23] My mother got very upset with him the next day she went to talk to my father

[00:23:28] I don't know what they talked about she just came back saying that Anna can't get close to us anymore

[00:23:33] He told me that she can't forbid me from being near my father and that's my decision

[00:23:38] But Anna is extremely forbidden to set foot in the same place where I am a sister of

[00:23:44] My paternal grandparents agreed in my aunt's too

[00:23:47] They knew about the situation with my younger sister

[00:23:50] Haven't spoken to my father but my cousin told me that my father argued with my grandfather

[00:23:56] He often says that Anna is a good person and we don't understand the pain she suffered

[00:24:00] By guess he's upset with all of us now. I've got a great lack of empathy as he always says

[00:24:06] I don't know at least now. I won't see them for a while

[00:24:09] It was a boring update but that's what happened

[00:24:13] Not a boring update at all. That's life and you know fair play to your mum for stepping in and and protecting you in your sister

[00:24:21] It sounds like your dad just wants to be this kind of hero

[00:24:26] In some ways

[00:24:27] But in doing so he's enabling the behavior so I think what your mum is doing in this situation is absolutely the right thing to be doing

[00:24:35] But now I'm gonna turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:24:41] Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:24:44] I just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories

[00:24:48] You'll love your support your time always means the absolute world to me

[00:24:52] So thank you so so much and hopefully

[00:24:54] I'll see you in the next one. Take care

[00:24:57] I'm much love