I Broke Up With My Fiancee When She Attended Her Ex's Birthday Party r/Relationships

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[00:00:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Am I the asshole here? We're breaking up with my fiancee because she went to her ex's birthday party

[00:00:33] [SPEAKER_01]: I 20's have a male have been in a relationship with my girlfriend 26 female for six years

[00:00:40] [SPEAKER_01]: And we officially got engaged last month

[00:00:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Our relationship was pretty great, but the only argument that Kaging had was a friendship with her ex when she's ever male

[00:00:49] [SPEAKER_01]: They were friends from childhood and they even dated for a few years

[00:00:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Or never comfortable how close they were and she even considered him her best friend

[00:00:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Which was really irritating because I was a boyfriend and I was supposed to be her best friend

[00:01:03] [SPEAKER_01]: But I did not want to be controlling or control her friendships, so I never got it in a way

[00:01:08] [SPEAKER_01]: But I did voice my dysplasia

[00:01:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Rex's birthday was a couple of weeks ago and he only invited her and not me

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_01]: And she really wanted to go

[00:01:19] [SPEAKER_01]: I was extremely unhappy and even voice my concerns about it

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_01]: But she told me she really wanted to be there at the party

[00:01:25] [SPEAKER_01]: And promised me that she would treat me when she came back home

[00:01:29] [SPEAKER_01]: She promised me that this was the last time she was ever going to hang out with him at a respect for my relationship

[00:01:35] [SPEAKER_01]: And especially since we were engaged

[00:01:37] [SPEAKER_01]: She promised she would slowly cut off friendship after that night

[00:01:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Well, at this point I was extremely deflated and told her sure but to come back home early

[00:01:47] [SPEAKER_01]: She was extremely happy when she came back home from the party

[00:01:51] [SPEAKER_01]: From the birthday party a few hours later

[00:01:54] [SPEAKER_01]: And even initiated sex but I rejected it because I wasn't feeling great

[00:01:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Over the next week we barely spoke

[00:02:01] [SPEAKER_01]: Even though my fiance made a lot of attempts to communicate and apologize

[00:02:04] [SPEAKER_01]: She promised me she would no longer be friends with him

[00:02:07] [SPEAKER_01]: And she apologized for going to the birthday party

[00:02:10] [SPEAKER_01]: By Sunday, I had made my decision after consulting with one of my close friends

[00:02:14] [SPEAKER_01]: 26 male

[00:02:16] [SPEAKER_01]: And my two sisters 25 female 29 female

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_01]: All three of them said she'd disrespected me way too much

[00:02:22] [SPEAKER_01]: And I had to call off before I actually married her

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I informed my fiance of my decision and she immediately broke down tears and kept apologizing

[00:02:31] [SPEAKER_01]: It did hurt me a lot when I saw a crying like that

[00:02:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her the truth that I hadn't felt respected in the relationship

[00:02:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I could just not see myself marrying a person with this respect to me so much throughout my entire relationship

[00:02:45] [SPEAKER_01]: My the asshole here, but breaking up with my fiance

[00:02:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Because she went to her ex's birthday party

[00:02:51] [SPEAKER_01]: So, someone asked a question in the comments they said it sounds like there is some backstory missing

[00:02:56] [SPEAKER_01]: If you've been together for six years, ask five or six birthday parties a BFF has had

[00:03:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Were you invited to them and not this one?

[00:03:05] [SPEAKER_01]: It's she always goes to his birthday parties by herself

[00:03:08] [SPEAKER_01]: What was your relationship with a BFF like?

[00:03:11] [SPEAKER_01]: When did they date because the timeline sounds like they possibly date in high school?

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_01]: But he says yes, I was invited to all his previous birthday parties except this one

[00:03:21] [SPEAKER_01]: My relationship with a BFF was fine until a year ago

[00:03:24] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not sure what happened

[00:03:26] [SPEAKER_01]: My sister's guest is that my ex fiance was probably just running her mouth to him

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_01]: A dated in high school

[00:03:32] [SPEAKER_01]: The scene has returned replies that saying

[00:03:35] [SPEAKER_01]: So instead of asking her what is going on, you just talked your sister and she took her guess

[00:03:39] [SPEAKER_01]: And you just agreed with it

[00:03:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Your sister accused your fiance of running her mouth to the ex

[00:03:44] [SPEAKER_01]: Isn't that exactly what you were doing when you went to them to complain

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Isn't your sister's view also clouded by your complaint about your fiance?

[00:03:53] [SPEAKER_01]: You're the asshole because you sent your fiance mixed messages

[00:03:56] [SPEAKER_01]: You told her to go because in your words don't want to be controlling

[00:04:00] [SPEAKER_01]: And even gave her the conditions on when to be back

[00:04:03] [SPEAKER_01]: She followed that and you still punished her for it

[00:04:06] [SPEAKER_01]: And instead of talking to her who is in your words supposed to be your best friend

[00:04:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Who unloaded on your friend and your two sisters

[00:04:13] [SPEAKER_01]: People on here are saying that she isn't ready for marriage

[00:04:16] [SPEAKER_01]: But guess what?

[00:04:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Take it from someone who's been married almost 30 years

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_01]: You aren't ready either

[00:04:22] [SPEAKER_01]: You didn't have to properly communicate

[00:04:23] [SPEAKER_01]: You sought for a week and talked to others instead of the person who you had an issue with

[00:04:29] [SPEAKER_01]: You came to a conclusion about why the ex was treating you differently

[00:04:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Instead of asking him letting her know if he can't respect the relationship he can't be around

[00:04:38] [SPEAKER_01]: He allowed her to go with conditions which she met

[00:04:41] [SPEAKER_01]: And then pouted like a child because she couldn't read your mind

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_01]: Last friend says totally confused here

[00:04:47] [SPEAKER_01]: She did exactly as you asked and then you went and ignored her for a week

[00:04:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Despite her making lots of attempts to communicate and apologize

[00:04:54] [SPEAKER_01]: But you continued sucking your thumb like a baby and refused to engage

[00:04:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Then off the back of that silent treatment you speak your two sisters in a friend

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_01]: You may all dislike your fiance anyway

[00:05:06] [SPEAKER_01]: And decide you know that really and without speaking to your fiance

[00:05:09] [SPEAKER_01]: The relationship is over

[00:05:11] [SPEAKER_01]: And your fiance had a lucky escape

[00:05:13] [SPEAKER_01]: And she's too upset to realise it at the moment

[00:05:16] [SPEAKER_01]: When she looks back she'll see an insecure partner

[00:05:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Who's through in the towel because she has a childhood friend

[00:05:21] [SPEAKER_01]: They couldn't get past that friendship

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_01]: She'll see that she went with his agreement

[00:05:26] [SPEAKER_01]: That friend's party ended everything he asked of her in relation to it

[00:05:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Despite that, his feelings were hurt

[00:05:32] [SPEAKER_01]: And here if you used to communicate with her

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_01]: And resolve it like an adult

[00:05:35] [SPEAKER_01]: He then went full-scorched earth

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_01]: An ended in engagement and a six year relationship

[00:05:40] [SPEAKER_01]: For a reason I have absolutely no clue about

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_01]: And one more comment from of least concern who says

[00:05:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I need more information because a lot of y'all's behaviour is weird to me

[00:05:51] [SPEAKER_01]: You were that other way she was disrespectful to you and your relationship

[00:05:55] [SPEAKER_01]: And how?

[00:05:57] [SPEAKER_01]: But her?

[00:05:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Why start cutting off the friendship slowly?

[00:06:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Why cut it off at all?

[00:06:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Kindness would understand wanting to attend the party

[00:06:04] [SPEAKER_01]: The form of closure before immediately cut off

[00:06:07] [SPEAKER_01]: But the concept still is foreign to me

[00:06:10] [SPEAKER_01]: And like the comment said, there's clearly a huge lag of communication

[00:06:14] [SPEAKER_01]: In there but I also found that the friendship thing really weird as well

[00:06:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Like I wish she decided to slowly start cutting off the friendship from that particular night

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Going to the party and cutting off the friendship

[00:06:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I know the last comment said it's like a

[00:06:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Like a form of closure

[00:06:31] [SPEAKER_01]: But I found that really strange as well

[00:06:33] [SPEAKER_01]: What do you guys think about that one?

[00:06:35] [SPEAKER_01]: To open came in with their first update and says

[00:06:38] [SPEAKER_01]: There's been a week since I broke up with my fiance

[00:06:41] [SPEAKER_01]: After I informed her of my decision

[00:06:43] [SPEAKER_01]: She packed everything up and moved out the next day

[00:06:46] [SPEAKER_01]: A few people in the comments were curious about what she was up to

[00:06:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I reached out to one of our mutual friends

[00:06:51] [SPEAKER_01]: And asked her what she was up to

[00:06:53] [SPEAKER_01]: And if she was doing fine

[00:06:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Though unfortunately she is not doing so great

[00:06:58] [SPEAKER_01]: She moved back in with her parents and her parents are blaming her

[00:07:01] [SPEAKER_01]: For everything that happened

[00:07:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Because they really liked me

[00:07:04] [SPEAKER_01]: And she has also been a complete shell of herself

[00:07:07] [SPEAKER_01]: That's what my mutual friend said

[00:07:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Then I am feeling extremely guilty

[00:07:11] [SPEAKER_01]: This is not what I intended to happen when I broke up with her

[00:07:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I asked a mutual friend if I sit down with my ex

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Would be beneficial to her

[00:07:19] [SPEAKER_01]: And the mutual friend said that would really help my ex

[00:07:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I've called my ex his mom and told her

[00:07:24] [SPEAKER_01]: It's not her daughter's fault

[00:07:26] [SPEAKER_01]: And that I was going through some internal things

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_01]: And I wasn't ready for marriage

[00:07:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I later called my ex and asked her if she wanted to meet up this weekend

[00:07:33] [SPEAKER_01]: And she was really happy about it

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Or ever a voice sounded really horse

[00:07:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I did not feel too great about it

[00:07:40] [SPEAKER_01]: Though we're going to meet up this weekend

[00:07:41] [SPEAKER_01]: And I'm going to explain to her

[00:07:43] [SPEAKER_01]: That it wasn't her fault

[00:07:45] [SPEAKER_01]: Had I was going through some internal demons

[00:07:47] [SPEAKER_01]: And that we just weren't meant to be together

[00:07:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to explain to her that she had no fault in this

[00:07:53] [SPEAKER_01]: What's her ever

[00:07:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I hope that relieves her of a guilt

[00:07:56] [SPEAKER_01]: And that she goes back to normal soon

[00:07:59] [SPEAKER_01]: And OP comes in with what they title their final update

[00:08:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Says, so this is my final update in all likelihood

[00:08:07] [SPEAKER_01]: I met up with my ex yesterday at a coffee shop

[00:08:09] [SPEAKER_01]: And we talked for a long time

[00:08:11] [SPEAKER_01]: I wanted to meet her yesterday rather than the weekend

[00:08:14] [SPEAKER_01]: And she wanted to too

[00:08:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Explain to her why a relationship fell apart

[00:08:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Explain to her as my insecurities which were my demons

[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_01]: And that she deserved someone better than me

[00:08:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Explain to her that she had nothing wrong in our relationship

[00:08:28] [SPEAKER_01]: She did not disrespect me at all

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_01]: And at the breakup was my fault

[00:08:32] [SPEAKER_01]: And to please not be so hard on herself

[00:08:35] [SPEAKER_01]: She asked if we could still remain friends or get back together after some time

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_01]: She said even if we would not get back together in the future as partners

[00:08:42] [SPEAKER_01]: She really valued my friendship

[00:08:45] [SPEAKER_01]: And still wanted to remain friends with me

[00:08:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I did not expect that to ask me that

[00:08:50] [SPEAKER_01]: And at this point I realized that I had handled this entire thing horribly

[00:08:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her at front that it was better to just cut off contact and make a clean break

[00:08:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Rather than let feelings fester

[00:09:00] [SPEAKER_01]: She cried again really badly after that and I was feeling horrible

[00:09:05] [SPEAKER_01]: This was affecting her mental health and I was really worried about her

[00:09:09] [SPEAKER_01]: By backtracked and told her sure we could remain friends

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_01]: And I really valued her friendship too

[00:09:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Just misunderstood what she'd asked

[00:09:17] [SPEAKER_01]: She's really happy about that but asked if she was pressureing me to keep the friendship

[00:09:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her no

[00:09:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I genuinely valued her friendship

[00:09:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her that she did not pressure me at all

[00:09:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I also told her that she had cut contact with her best friend to please not do so

[00:09:32] [SPEAKER_01]: And be friends with him again

[00:09:33] [SPEAKER_01]: Because she did not deserve to lose her best friend

[00:09:36] [SPEAKER_01]: But she said she was cutting off her friendship with him

[00:09:39] [SPEAKER_01]: And nothing to do with this

[00:09:41] [SPEAKER_01]: That they were in different phases of life and as she no longer needed to be friends with him

[00:09:46] [SPEAKER_01]: We spoke for an hour or so after that

[00:09:48] [SPEAKER_01]: She seemed in really positive spirit

[00:09:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I felt really good after that

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_01]: My plan is now to be friends with her to learn mental health is back to normal

[00:09:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Then gradually cut off my friendship with her

[00:10:00] [SPEAKER_01]: But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys what do you guys make of this situation

[00:10:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:10:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Let's move on to another story which comes from my final attempt

[00:10:14] [SPEAKER_01]: And before we do get into the story it does talk about homelessness

[00:10:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Beside ideation, death of a parent and alcoholism too

[00:10:21] [SPEAKER_01]: So do want to skip the story please feel free to do so times them

[00:10:24] [SPEAKER_01]: Always down in the description, no longer timeline below. Thank you

[00:10:29] [SPEAKER_01]: It's titled, going homeless in a month and here I am on Reddit

[00:10:33] [SPEAKER_01]: I heard the internet does wonders and that's what I'm hoping for

[00:10:37] [SPEAKER_01]: And then it has a four year update as well

[00:10:40] [SPEAKER_01]: First off let me start by saying I do not know what I'm typing

[00:10:43] [SPEAKER_01]: I do not know what I'm thinking

[00:10:46] [SPEAKER_01]: I've never felt like this before

[00:10:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Not mad, not sad, not angry, not happy

[00:10:51] [SPEAKER_01]: I've never felt such nothingness before

[00:10:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, I've the rest of this month and the next month in my current home

[00:10:58] [SPEAKER_01]: After there's I'm going homeless

[00:11:00] [SPEAKER_01]: All I have is a car and a few assets that can get a few bucks

[00:11:04] [SPEAKER_01]: But not much to my name

[00:11:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know if I'm allowed to talk about suicide

[00:11:08] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to be honest in my post

[00:11:10] [SPEAKER_01]: If the time comes and I haven't found any hope or even a step one

[00:11:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to kill myself

[00:11:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't want to die

[00:11:18] [SPEAKER_01]: But I don't want to live this life

[00:11:20] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not the prayer store anxious or whatever

[00:11:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Good in the head but recent events have taken their toll on me

[00:11:26] [SPEAKER_01]: I've got to mention the important details

[00:11:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm 19 just finished my first semester in computer science and university

[00:11:33] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm probably my last semester

[00:11:35] [SPEAKER_01]: And I do not work, 11 Lebanon

[00:11:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I do not have a passport to another country

[00:11:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I do not have anyone that can support me

[00:11:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm completely alone and have a bit of money

[00:11:45] [SPEAKER_01]: One to two k ish left

[00:11:47] [SPEAKER_01]: If I sell my car in all I own

[00:11:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I guess the advice I'm asking for here is

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_01]: What should I do?

[00:11:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Is there any hope?

[00:11:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Also please note I live in Lebanon

[00:11:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Basically shit internet, shit electricity

[00:11:59] [SPEAKER_01]: No social benefits or whatever

[00:12:01] [SPEAKER_01]: No nothing

[00:12:02] [SPEAKER_01]: This country is worse than a third world

[00:12:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I've probably missed a lot of important details

[00:12:07] [SPEAKER_01]: But I'm struggling to think straight

[00:12:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Feel free to ask me anything

[00:12:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Doesn't matter if it's personal

[00:12:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Related to the matter

[00:12:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you for reading my Reddit post and have a good day

[00:12:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Edit

[00:12:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't begin to explain how I feel

[00:12:21] [SPEAKER_01]: I never thought anyone would care this much

[00:12:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not good with expressing myself

[00:12:25] [SPEAKER_01]: But thank you to each and every one who replied

[00:12:28] [SPEAKER_01]: It really is helping way more than you think

[00:12:31] [SPEAKER_01]: This is going to be a ramble but here it goes

[00:12:33] [SPEAKER_01]: As the everyone asking me not to give up

[00:12:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Hope I don't

[00:12:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I want to figure this out

[00:12:38] [SPEAKER_01]: And the on top I really do

[00:12:40] [SPEAKER_01]: We'll try my best

[00:12:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I hope one day in the future I can come back and update you guys with a happy ending

[00:12:46] [SPEAKER_01]: I haven't cried in a long time and you guys have brought emotions

[00:12:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I thought were long gone

[00:12:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you for that

[00:12:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm trying to reply to every single reply but so many are coming in so fast

[00:12:57] [SPEAKER_01]: So for those that I miss

[00:12:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm very sorry

[00:13:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Eventually I will get to it and I thank you in advance

[00:13:03] [SPEAKER_01]: So for those who are interested

[00:13:04] [SPEAKER_01]: I've concluded from all the replies a general plan that would like to share for some criticism

[00:13:09] [SPEAKER_01]: First thing I should do is find a job which I'm trying my best to do

[00:13:13] [SPEAKER_01]: After I find the job I will try to find the cheapest, best rent I can

[00:13:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Live on a bare minimum whilst saving up as much as I can

[00:13:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Now here is where I get a little lost

[00:13:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I know I should get a certain amount of money before considering immigration

[00:13:27] [SPEAKER_01]: But I have no idea what estimate that consists of

[00:13:30] [SPEAKER_01]: I hope I won't be amazing

[00:13:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Next I will contact embassies

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Canada and Sweden have been good suggestions so far

[00:13:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I hope regarding immigration or student visa

[00:13:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Also any help regarding immigration would be amazing as I have no clue how that works

[00:13:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Adam typing that I feel like I'm asking for too much

[00:13:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I really didn't deserve the support you guys have given me today

[00:13:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't thank you enough

[00:13:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, that is the general plan and there's no for a fact

[00:13:58] [SPEAKER_01]: That once I land in a country better than 11 and I will thrive

[00:14:01] [SPEAKER_01]: I know I can

[00:14:02] [SPEAKER_01]: All I need is a half decent government behind me that won't steal my money

[00:14:06] [SPEAKER_01]: That's it

[00:14:07] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't want rights, I don't want jack shit

[00:14:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I just want my hard earned money

[00:14:12] [SPEAKER_01]: But yeah this is probably the worst paragraph of words to read

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_01]: So for those of you did thank you

[00:14:18] [SPEAKER_01]: My brain is barely functioning I feel like now

[00:14:20] [SPEAKER_01]: So this took a lot of energy to type

[00:14:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you yet again to each and every single one of you

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_01]: I mean it

[00:14:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I hope to update you guys soon on what happens

[00:14:29] [SPEAKER_01]: And it too

[00:14:31] [SPEAKER_01]: I think I've finally replied to every single comment I got

[00:14:33] [SPEAKER_01]: If I get more replies during the night I will answer them tomorrow

[00:14:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I want to say thank you again everyone for everything you did

[00:14:40] [SPEAKER_01]: Also that everyone asked in 2008

[00:14:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Please go donate that money to a charity of your choice

[00:14:45] [SPEAKER_01]: I'll be going the bed now on on the emphasise how much this all means to me

[00:14:49] [SPEAKER_01]: You guys changed me today

[00:14:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you again

[00:14:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I cannot say that enough

[00:14:53] [SPEAKER_01]: But when they'll be posting an update with a happy ending

[00:14:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you for your best wishes

[00:14:58] [SPEAKER_01]: And hope to talk to you again soon read it

[00:15:01] [SPEAKER_01]: I did it three

[00:15:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Hello everyone, I just woke up and got a shower and hopped on the computer

[00:15:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm selling shock with everyone support and I still can't thank you enough

[00:15:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm reading through all the comments but I'm afraid I do not have enough time to reply to all of them

[00:15:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I just want you guys to know that I'm reading your comments and I appreciate it way more than you think

[00:15:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Today is a big day for me

[00:15:21] [SPEAKER_01]: We'll be roaming around looking for jobs

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_01]: Need to set up some emergency foods and such

[00:15:26] [SPEAKER_01]: Lots to do today

[00:15:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Your support is giving me strength beyond what I thought I had

[00:15:31] [SPEAKER_01]: You guys have proven that people still care

[00:15:33] [SPEAKER_01]: There is hope

[00:15:34] [SPEAKER_01]: We'll be updating you whenever I can

[00:15:37] [SPEAKER_01]: As I now consider you guys my friends

[00:15:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Also don't forget I'm reading your replies and I really appreciate it very much

[00:15:44] [SPEAKER_01]: Regarding looking for jobs online

[00:15:46] [SPEAKER_01]: We'll try to make up a decent resume of source when I get back home and see what I can find

[00:15:51] [SPEAKER_01]: I really shouldn't be asking for more help from you guys

[00:15:53] [SPEAKER_01]: You guys have done way more than enough

[00:15:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I thought I'd ask

[00:15:57] [SPEAKER_01]: I said I have a few bucks remaining in my paper

[00:15:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Nothing worse, cashing out though

[00:16:01] [SPEAKER_01]: I was wondering if maybe I can invest or gamble it or the sort

[00:16:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm obviously not counting on it

[00:16:07] [SPEAKER_01]: Neither am I a gambler

[00:16:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Just trying to give an example

[00:16:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Just a thing I can try my luck to say for help

[00:16:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Again, thank you to each and every one of you

[00:16:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I keep repeating myself but as I keep saying

[00:16:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm bad at expressing myself

[00:16:20] [SPEAKER_01]: I guess what you guys know, I really appreciate everything

[00:16:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Look that you soon, have a good day everyone

[00:16:26] [SPEAKER_01]: So, OP had some additional information

[00:16:28] [SPEAKER_01]: They said also just thought I'd add that

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm willing to do anything if possible

[00:16:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I think includes moving to another country or whatever

[00:16:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Don't hold back anything

[00:16:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I feel like anything would really help me in my case

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, no one will probably see this

[00:16:42] [SPEAKER_01]: So when and if they see this in the future

[00:16:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I've figured shit out

[00:16:46] [SPEAKER_01]: It would look like me

[00:16:47] [SPEAKER_01]: OP gives some information on what led to the current living situation

[00:16:51] [SPEAKER_01]: And if he's got any family or friends

[00:16:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Oops as wow, I did not expect to reply

[00:16:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to help

[00:17:00] [SPEAKER_01]: That's the how I got here

[00:17:01] [SPEAKER_01]: I never had a dad and my mother recently passed away in a car accident

[00:17:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't have family other than that than no friends

[00:17:09] [SPEAKER_01]: A house would be taken by the bank or whatever

[00:17:11] [SPEAKER_01]: And my mother didn't have much at all

[00:17:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Let me say even if it's very insignificant

[00:17:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Think about how you just typed out a plan

[00:17:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Give me a sliver of hope

[00:17:20] [SPEAKER_01]: It's nearly impossible to find a job

[00:17:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Let's go with that and say I find a job

[00:17:24] [SPEAKER_01]: How much money should I accumulate before I can come to Canada

[00:17:27] [SPEAKER_01]: And I was always in the back of my mind

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I love the country and everything about it

[00:17:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes think I was misplaced

[00:17:33] [SPEAKER_01]: And I should have been in Canada

[00:17:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, we got nothing else to do

[00:17:38] [SPEAKER_01]: If you want to talk and check out how fuck my life is

[00:17:41] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm down

[00:17:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Also, I've always been smart

[00:17:43] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't have good grades because of the events

[00:17:46] [SPEAKER_01]: That took place in my life in the past few years

[00:17:49] [SPEAKER_01]: What I'm meant by smart is that give me a book

[00:17:51] [SPEAKER_01]: A dead line and I'll be damned if I don't know

[00:17:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Every single letter by heart

[00:17:55] [SPEAKER_01]: So I guess if there's some miracle test I can take

[00:17:58] [SPEAKER_01]: That if I get a good grade on

[00:17:59] [SPEAKER_01]: I can get some good out of from down

[00:18:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, this reply was probably all over the place

[00:18:04] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm very sorry

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you again though for the reply

[00:18:07] [SPEAKER_01]: Who also says it's weird

[00:18:09] [SPEAKER_01]: And I used to think that how someone would end their life

[00:18:12] [SPEAKER_01]: So dark and I've pussy move

[00:18:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know though

[00:18:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Not sad or worried about it

[00:18:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I just don't care anymore

[00:18:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I really didn't know

[00:18:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Though I'm trying not to give up

[00:18:22] [SPEAKER_01]: But convince myself of one more solid attempt

[00:18:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I give it my all

[00:18:26] [SPEAKER_01]: And to why I'm here I guess

[00:18:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Most will call me an idiot for referring to social media

[00:18:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Website for help but I don't know

[00:18:33] [SPEAKER_01]: What much options left I guess

[00:18:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you for your reply though

[00:18:36] [SPEAKER_01]: It means a lot

[00:18:38] [SPEAKER_01]: Someone questions OP on student loans

[00:18:41] [SPEAKER_01]: So we can continue with studies

[00:18:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Or if he's able to stay in the house that his mother had

[00:18:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Prior to her passing away

[00:18:48] [SPEAKER_01]: OPC says hello

[00:18:49] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you very much for applying

[00:18:51] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm a Christian on paper but personally I don't believe in God and all that

[00:18:55] [SPEAKER_01]: But if anyone says anyone who does though

[00:18:56] [SPEAKER_01]: I find it respectable actually

[00:18:58] [SPEAKER_01]: If I'm peace and a greater being

[00:19:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Fash thing or whatever you want to call it

[00:19:03] [SPEAKER_01]: I try to everything

[00:19:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Though public services are available unfortunately

[00:19:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Lebanon is currently going through an economic crisis

[00:19:10] [SPEAKER_01]: No US dollar in the country

[00:19:12] [SPEAKER_01]: And the Lebanese Lera is quickly becoming one of the worst currencies in the world

[00:19:17] [SPEAKER_01]: And I do not know why can do regard in the bank

[00:19:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Not sure if it's the bank though

[00:19:21] [SPEAKER_01]: I've got a phone call explaining that the house was being paid by my mother

[00:19:25] [SPEAKER_01]: And there was no insurance and it was the mortgage

[00:19:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Not sure that's what it's called

[00:19:29] [SPEAKER_01]: But yeah nothing I can do

[00:19:31] [SPEAKER_01]: I do not qualify to transfer the payment

[00:19:33] [SPEAKER_01]: Also not sure what it's called

[00:19:35] [SPEAKER_01]: But the house do me

[00:19:36] [SPEAKER_01]: As I do not work nor do I have a bank account

[00:19:39] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm pretty sure the house is gone

[00:19:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I know I'm young and I have a lot ahead of me

[00:19:43] [SPEAKER_01]: But why does all happen in to me at this young age

[00:19:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Not everyone dies of all age

[00:19:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Number 3 down the statistic

[00:19:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, thank you very much

[00:19:51] [SPEAKER_01]: If you've been including me in your future prayers

[00:19:53] [SPEAKER_01]: That's what I could ask

[00:19:54] [SPEAKER_01]: If there's an afterlife I hope I get the good side

[00:19:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you again and have a good day

[00:20:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Then, Opie on the University providing housing

[00:20:03] [SPEAKER_01]: So he can continue his studies

[00:20:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Opie says

[00:20:05] [SPEAKER_01]: University has no dorms

[00:20:07] [SPEAKER_01]: Job's a unicorn seal

[00:20:09] [SPEAKER_01]: No government aid

[00:20:10] [SPEAKER_01]: An employment and all those

[00:20:12] [SPEAKER_01]: whatsoever

[00:20:12] [SPEAKER_01]: But yeah

[00:20:14] [SPEAKER_01]: It's fucked wherever I turn

[00:20:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not giving up

[00:20:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm choosing what will make me feel better

[00:20:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you very much for your reply

[00:20:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Have you ever good day

[00:20:24] [SPEAKER_01]: To Opie comes in

[00:20:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Or

[00:20:26] [SPEAKER_01]: Years

[00:20:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Later

[00:20:28] [SPEAKER_01]: That says trigger warning

[00:20:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Some passes up

[00:20:30] [SPEAKER_01]: They might contain sensitive topics

[00:20:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I highly doubt

[00:20:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Someone remembers my post from around four years ago

[00:20:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I just remembered my red of the accounts

[00:20:38] [SPEAKER_01]: And saw people were still sending me messages

[00:20:40] [SPEAKER_01]: In 2024 checking out for me

[00:20:43] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't show my appreciation

[00:20:44] [SPEAKER_01]: Enough by the way

[00:20:45] [SPEAKER_01]: I thought I'd make this update for a few who remember me

[00:20:49] [SPEAKER_01]: As well as the possibility I hope for posts

[00:20:51] [SPEAKER_01]: The someone who might be going through shitty times

[00:20:53] [SPEAKER_01]: In any case

[00:20:55] [SPEAKER_01]: After my last post they got very dark in my life

[00:20:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Now if I got a red it was hugely appreciated

[00:21:00] [SPEAKER_01]: And then to a lot mentally

[00:21:02] [SPEAKER_01]: But in reality my situation hadn't changed

[00:21:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I was ready to call it quits

[00:21:07] [SPEAKER_01]: Around them day maybe a week after my post

[00:21:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I saw a stray kitten that came up to me

[00:21:12] [SPEAKER_01]: And I started petting it and crying

[00:21:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I loved thinking that was my guardian angel

[00:21:17] [SPEAKER_01]: But to be honest

[00:21:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I guess I just had a little more fight in me

[00:21:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Then and there I decided to actually go through

[00:21:23] [SPEAKER_01]: The last attempt

[00:21:24] [SPEAKER_01]: I mentioned in my previous post and try my best

[00:21:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I started going to every close restaurant

[00:21:29] [SPEAKER_01]: And asking if they needed any servers or anything

[00:21:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Surprisingly not too long after

[00:21:34] [SPEAKER_01]: The landed my very mediocre job

[00:21:37] [SPEAKER_01]: But it was barely enough to afford rent

[00:21:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Renters in living in one tiny room

[00:21:41] [SPEAKER_01]: And I afford university and eat

[00:21:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Throughout the next two years it was hell

[00:21:46] [SPEAKER_01]: I was alive but not living

[00:21:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Alcohol became my best friend

[00:21:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Which even though it might sound bad

[00:21:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Was lucky enough to be a functioning addict

[00:21:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Like to avoid thinking what it is done to my health though

[00:21:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Recent blood tests look horrible

[00:22:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Unfortunately got into a weird and bad habit of enjoying being sad

[00:22:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I get drunk and watch sad stuff or whatever

[00:22:08] [SPEAKER_01]: And enjoy feeling sad and crying

[00:22:09] [SPEAKER_01]: There's very toxic

[00:22:11] [SPEAKER_01]: I also picked up the habit of cutting

[00:22:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Which unfortunately left a couple of scars

[00:22:16] [SPEAKER_01]: They do not care though

[00:22:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Since the alive and no one can say anything to me

[00:22:20] [SPEAKER_01]: About silly scars

[00:22:21] [SPEAKER_01]: I can even remotely affect me after what I've been through

[00:22:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Another thing to mention that happened throughout these two years

[00:22:29] [SPEAKER_01]: As a lot so I'm trying to remember main post

[00:22:31] [SPEAKER_01]: And keep it relatively short

[00:22:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Is that food and weight became a big hurdle

[00:22:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I was walking to work every day

[00:22:39] [SPEAKER_01]: And it wasn't too far but my calerific intake was very little

[00:22:43] [SPEAKER_01]: So I was struggling to maintain a healthy weight

[00:22:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Tip for someone in a similar situation

[00:22:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Is that canned foods like beans or a good scent

[00:22:51] [SPEAKER_01]: After that some bread and you'll go down calories for very cheap

[00:22:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Anyways long story short

[00:22:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Hell, hept on going

[00:22:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I managed to finish my bachelor's with a 3.3 GPA

[00:23:02] [SPEAKER_01]: For my last semester even ended

[00:23:04] [SPEAKER_01]: I started applying left and right to every known university on planet earth

[00:23:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Long story short

[00:23:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm now in France doing my masters

[00:23:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Working part time as well as some online freelancing and living

[00:23:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Not just a life

[00:23:18] [SPEAKER_01]: And for many I'm currently living as laughable

[00:23:21] [SPEAKER_01]: But to me

[00:23:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Being able to eat a burger at a restaurant

[00:23:24] [SPEAKER_01]: And not worried to make about it is heavenly right now

[00:23:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm even able to save money and spend some every month on vanity items

[00:23:31] [SPEAKER_01]: There's a lot that I wish I could spend hours and hours talking about

[00:23:34] [SPEAKER_01]: But for now

[00:23:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I just want to keep it as little update

[00:23:37] [SPEAKER_01]: The curious very kind souls

[00:23:39] [SPEAKER_01]: That are still message in me

[00:23:41] [SPEAKER_01]: As well as a very minor message to the desperate people out there

[00:23:44] [SPEAKER_01]: You can truly make it

[00:23:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Everyone always sees these you can do it too

[00:23:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't never feel genuine

[00:23:52] [SPEAKER_01]: You can always see this one difference that they go over

[00:23:55] [SPEAKER_01]: That is actually the game changer

[00:23:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Toyo, you look at my previous post

[00:24:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Look at what my situation was

[00:24:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Country, family, financials, mental health

[00:24:05] [SPEAKER_01]: And tell me is it impossible for you to make it as well

[00:24:08] [SPEAKER_01]: I know means am I saying I'm a superhero or that

[00:24:11] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm the exception or luckier special

[00:24:13] [SPEAKER_01]: A genuinely had no luck going through this

[00:24:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Just work

[00:24:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I wanted to type hard work

[00:24:18] [SPEAKER_01]: But hard work implies I was doing better than the average person

[00:24:22] [SPEAKER_01]: When I was not

[00:24:23] [SPEAKER_01]: My hard work, I'd rather it mean

[00:24:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Working while I barely have any mental capacity

[00:24:27] [SPEAKER_01]: The world to live

[00:24:29] [SPEAKER_01]: In any case, that's enough for me for now

[00:24:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm probably getting around to the questions

[00:24:33] [SPEAKER_01]: If any, I get on this

[00:24:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I hope you shared more light over some gaps of these past four years in my situation

[00:24:40] [SPEAKER_01]: Feel free to ask anything

[00:24:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Or random stranger, love your stranger

[00:24:45] [SPEAKER_01]: Yes, even four years later

[00:24:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I still got a thank enough for the kind souls that are applied to my last post

[00:24:50] [SPEAKER_01]: So if any of you are here, thank you so much

[00:24:54] [SPEAKER_01]: And the top comment with a reply from OP

[00:24:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Who says this was so heartwarming to read

[00:24:59] [SPEAKER_01]: We're also incredibly proud of you man

[00:25:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Know that you're loved and appreciated

[00:25:04] [SPEAKER_01]: But see another update in a year's time to hear how well you're doing

[00:25:08] [SPEAKER_01]: We'll drop a follow

[00:25:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Hope he says it feels good thinking about the future now

[00:25:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Hopefully I'll be able to make a good update at a couple of years later

[00:25:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you so so much for your kind words

[00:25:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm sure with a kind soul like yourself

[00:25:20] [SPEAKER_01]: You're very loved and appreciated

[00:25:24] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh dear, that'd be welling up I have to say

[00:25:29] [SPEAKER_01]: But I always feel like it sounds patronising when I say this

[00:25:33] [SPEAKER_01]: And I don't mean it in that way

[00:25:35] [SPEAKER_01]: But I'm so incredibly proud of OP in this story

[00:25:38] [SPEAKER_01]: But what they've done, how they've got themselves to where they are today

[00:25:42] [SPEAKER_01]: And I can only wish that they truly thrive

[00:25:46] [SPEAKER_01]: OP has been through a hell of a time

[00:25:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't imagine the thoughts that they were going through

[00:25:51] [SPEAKER_01]: It must be absolutely overwhelming and feeling helpless at the same time

[00:25:57] [SPEAKER_01]: As well as having to deal with the addiction issues at the same time

[00:26:00] [SPEAKER_01]: All in mully

[00:26:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Well done to those Reddit users who did guide OP on the right path as well

[00:26:08] [SPEAKER_01]: I know some people take the piss that I read it for some people's comments

[00:26:11] [SPEAKER_01]: But there is some truly wonderful people out there

[00:26:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Who genuinely do help people in these situations

[00:26:18] [SPEAKER_01]: And I think is absolutely fantastic

[00:26:20] [SPEAKER_01]: But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys

[00:26:23] [SPEAKER_01]: What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:26:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:26:30] [SPEAKER_01]: I just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart

[00:26:32] [SPEAKER_01]: For getting involved in today's stories

[00:26:34] [SPEAKER_01]: You'll love your support your time always means the absolute world to me

[00:26:37] [SPEAKER_01]: So thank you so so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one

[00:26:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Take care and much love

[00:27:12] [SPEAKER_00]: You know that you're a fan of your favorite shirt

[00:27:16] [SPEAKER_00]: And you're a fan of a black and black

[00:27:19] [SPEAKER_00]: No panic, a personal disc with your own eyes

[00:27:23] [SPEAKER_00]: With your own shape, you'll see the hard-nac-y flak for a deep rain

[00:27:28] [SPEAKER_00]: Just like the disc in the dream and the rest

[00:27:31] [SPEAKER_00]: That's what you do because you always have your best

[00:27:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Try the best disc from a passive

[00:27:37] [SPEAKER_00]: And you'll be able to get out of the way