I Asked The Flavour Of The Wedding Cake And It Kicked Off! r/Relationships

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[00:00:28] This story is titled am I the arsehole for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is Story about cake you know that gets me excited. I 22 female am in the wedding party of my friends We will call M 25 female and row 25 male

[00:00:46] Who will be getting married in about two months? I've been really excited for the wedding since it'd be an opportunity for all the friends from college to get together

[00:00:55] The first time in two years not to mention M and row are my best friends or at least I thought they were We have a discord for all the wedding staff and they have a channel about food

[00:01:07] They've been really good about being open about the food they intend to have at the reception Including vegan vegetarian gluten-free options for everyone and answering questions So I didn't think there would be any contention if I asked a question

[00:01:21] Anyway, about four days ago. I posted a message in the discord asking hey What flavor is the cake gonna be or want to mentally prepare myself long? I think looking back my choice of extra words is what caused all this

[00:01:35] But I meant it in the sense that I have a long documented dislike of chocolate flavored foods like cake or ice cream But added it in the event the cake was chocolate

[00:01:44] I received a private message back that the cake would be chocolate and if I had a problem with it And I could shove it because it was their wedding not mine and I felt really taken aback by this response

[00:01:56] Never did I mention that I would have been upset and I certainly wouldn't have put it up a stink about it It's exactly like M has said. It's their wedding Explained as much and tried to apologize for any offending

[00:02:10] I did but she got even more defensive and started basically Blasting me for implying that she was offended. I was just left overall very confused I gave it two days before I tried apologizing again and smoothed it over Figuring she may have just been having a bad day

[00:02:26] But I got shut down again telling me she didn't need my apology because nothing was wrong I needed time stop trying to make it seem like shit was wrong between us and to just drop it

[00:02:36] I text row to see if I could gauge what was wrong since he and I have always had an open dialogue about things like this But he basically just told me he couldn't talk to me right now I have to imagine is because M told him not to

[00:02:49] It's been two days since then and I'm just really confused This whole thing has made me want to drop out of the wedding party and honestly not go at all I wish row would talk to me and M would be honest

[00:03:01] I can't help but think maybe I just don't get how stressful planning a wedding is and like maybe they've gotten pushback from other people on Other things and somehow it's being taken out on me

[00:03:10] Was it really a big no-no to ask stuff like this? I don't know. This is the first wedding. I'll ever gone to so am I Yeah, so So we're not gonna read any of the comments just yet because that's where the basically the update comes in

[00:03:25] It kicks off in the comments. It gets real juicy But I'll just say my piece for now and without considering the fact that I know something's going to happen in the comments I don't know exactly what said at the moment

[00:03:36] But I kind of feel like because of that and the way the story read, you know There's missing info to this as well. There's more going on in the background I mean, I never understand why people post their stories and they don't give the full information

[00:03:50] Because why wouldn't you because you're just lying for your own benefit then? I found the comment itself really weird at the same time as well that you need to mentally prepare yourself to eat

[00:04:02] Someone else's wedding cake. I think if someone told me that I'd be telling me yeah, well, don't fucking eat it then So in the comments row appears and said hey Izzy Not surprised you didn't share the whole story You never do just like last year's surprise party TLDR

[00:04:20] Izzy here spoiled a surprise and tried to claim my present was hers. I'm row the groom to be I didn't do reddit but my best man does and Frequences thread he saw this post and it was so obvious. It's you The whole cake thing did happen

[00:04:36] But it's not the whole story and did not go the way Izzy claims First off cake was not her only complaint You refuse to have a joint bachelor slash bachelorette dinner cuz I have poor taste

[00:04:49] You said my soup was tacky because I wanted white and not traditional black You wind about the bridesmaid's dress is being purple cuz you wanted ivory Any decision we've made there's always complain and M has done nothing but be patient and try and find common ground

[00:05:06] She should not have to change your wedding choices for you Second we never told you to shove it I'm only message you privately because she was tired of having to argue in the group chat

[00:05:17] Everyone else is tired of your bullshit, too. So we didn't want to bother them with it It's a cake eat it or don't you've hated me ever since I joined the friend group and that's fine

[00:05:28] But you will not ruin M's day because of your pettiness if you care about her then honor her decisions Of course M is different because she grew the fuck up all of us did except you my god

[00:05:40] You're fucking 22 not acting like a spoiled teenager chocolate cake will not kill you by the way asshole I'm 26 not 25 pay attention Wasn't angry about this until you decided to go to the internet for pity. It's pathetic and immature for the record

[00:05:57] M double-checked my response. She signed off on it get it together The OP responded to this they said it's pathetic and immature to would normally post asking for advice on reddit

[00:06:07] But you come in here starting shit and posting my real name isn't okay Marcus since we're not hiding anymore How does it feel to have your shit aired for real? Here's how I know M didn't sign off because she never would have agreed to using my real name

[00:06:22] You're just trying to get me upset at her too. She's my best friend and I should have known you do this You always try to manipulate us into being mad at each other

[00:06:31] Case in point when I planned this really awesome dinner for just her and I and you had to plan her a surprise party for the same day I just wanted alone time with my best friend, but you couldn't wait one day for the party

[00:06:43] M has known me far longer than you and no offense I'm sure I know her better than you do But I kept my mouth shut because I love her and just want her to be happy. I

[00:06:54] Complain about everything and how come I've never said anything about the hundreds of times You've made M cancelled plans with me to go hang out with you I just wanted my BFF to spend a little time with me

[00:07:05] But not allowed to have sleepovers anymore because it makes you uncomfortable or take a girl's trip for the weekend because Too expensive Sorry, you can't take care of her like I can some of us can afford rent clearly

[00:07:17] This was never about the cake and more so about you hating me I was fine when you joined the friend group, but you clearly weren't fine with mine and M's relationship

[00:07:26] You've been the same towards some of her other friends. Well, I'm sure would agree get a life Marcus Stop trying to take mine So Roe comes back in or Marcus and says she was fine using your name

[00:07:39] You brought this to the internet not us if you didn't want this attention Don't post the plan was for you to distract her while we set up the party by taking her to a movie

[00:07:49] Not going to the movies then taking her to dinner and telling her of the party We waited hours expecting you all to be back. I've never once made him cancel She always did that on her own and not frequently at all

[00:08:02] You've had plenty of time alone with her just because she spends time with me too doesn't mean I'm forcing her to and Yes, a trip to multiple countries across Europe is very much too expensive

[00:08:13] Really live paycheck to paycheck which you know, I know money isn't a concern for you But it very much is for us. Not all of us have apartments paid for by dad Nobody else seems to think the same things about me and if I'm wrong

[00:08:26] I will gladly listen and change but that requires communication directly not an anonymous reddit post You may have known her longer But you clearly don't know M. Well, you failed to see how miserable your comments and attitude have made her these past few months

[00:08:40] For her sake knock it off The OP comes back into it and says paid by daddy real mature arsehole You know I work hard like everyone else It's not my fault my parents made better decisions than yours and can actually help their kids

[00:08:55] And of course I wasn't just gonna take her to the movies on her birthday a ruse or not It was still her birthday and she's my friend and I love her and wanted her to have an actual decent meal other than the shitty pizza You bought for her

[00:09:08] Also, yeah, maybe you didn't tell em to cancel but knowingly asking for the plans we had Then is basically the same thing before you she was fine She had everything she needed for all the comments saying I have a crush or want to fuck em

[00:09:22] You're delusional and you know nothing about me. We're best friends. I love her. She loves me Not my fault that we have a natural chemistry that everyone over the internet can feel but it's not like that Marcus You're an asshole. You've been an asshole since day one

[00:09:36] Just admit you're not the guy who can give her what she needs and move the fuck on and leave us alone So people were curious obviously down in the comments below the commenter said hey Get of love which is the OP

[00:09:51] Did you really make a fuss because you wanted to brice may stress to be ivory instead of purple? They also ask row or Marcus a question and says did you really make your fiance cancel sleepovers because it made you uncomfortable?

[00:10:03] Row or Marcus says no, I never made em cancel anything. I'm fine with her having sleepovers Izzy wanted to do it at our apartment and kept begging em to have me sleep on the couch

[00:10:14] So I wouldn't ruin girls night for the record em shut it down not me She's capable of making her own decisions I trust her to set up boundaries if I came off as uncomfortable is he never mentioned it till now

[00:10:27] Commenter says does em even still want Izzy there because Izzy sounding more and more unhinged How did she try to steal your birthday present to Izzy? Marcus reply saying em still wants Izzy there. They've been friends for years I won't make her kick her out

[00:10:43] But I'm starting to reach a point where I wanted and no she didn't steal it She claims she purchased the gift because I was too poor to afford it was a rather expensive purse

[00:10:53] M-I'd ones while shopping but couldn't get at the time I saved for it and a final comment from Marcus who says You're proofing my point. I'm not gonna argue over reddit anymore over this

[00:11:04] Especially if you're gonna talk about my parents like that when you know full well why they aren't rich Either messages in private or drop it all together. This is how you really feel don't bother coming to the wedding

[00:11:16] And obviously there's always people that skeptical about these kind of posts when there's back and forth between people in the comments But I'm gonna say I'm for it

[00:11:25] Now gotta agree with that that comment where it said EOP sounds like they're becoming more and more unhinged with their comments You know getting married and she's saying won't just move on and leave us the fuck alone

[00:11:36] Like you just go alright then and talking about their connection and all this kind of stuff Marcus or row said that M still wants Izzy there because they've been friends for years If someone's been talking about you in this way in this post

[00:11:50] Why would you want this person at your wedding as well? It just sounds like you're inviting drama into your wedding there It sounds like such a bad idea But what do you guys make of this situation? What do you make of it?

[00:12:04] What would you do if you was in their position would you still you know Just carry on as normal with your wedding or not and it's all started with cake. I love cake But what I said that

[00:12:15] Anyway, what do you guys make of this one? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below And let's move on to another story So our next story does have an update as well as from the am I the asshole here subreddit

[00:12:29] I saw in the title neighbors and I was like hell. Yeah, I'm in there It's titled am I the asshole because I told my neighbor's kid to fuck off

[00:12:36] I live on the top floor of a house. It's a one-bedroom and my boyfriend and I chop and change at where we decide to stay for some weekends

[00:12:45] He has a seven year old daughter, but she doesn't stay at mine because of the size and the solid fact that we're not related Unless it's an emergency and she has nowhere else to go. She's visited. We've been together for four years downstairs is an

[00:13:00] Unassuming family a father police officer a mother profession unknown and a toddler They're fairly quiet in utilize the space at the back for the child to run and play will I typically use and maintain the front yard?

[00:13:13] I'm not a child person and have refused their arse to babysit But do say hello to the adults when I see them. I wave to the child too The toddler is inquisitive. He tries to open my packages despite my saying how deeply inappropriate

[00:13:26] I find it just bring it in put it by the stairs and tell the kid to leave it alone And most recently he has left some tacky toys on the stairs and there hasn't been cleanup

[00:13:36] I've asked the parents to make their child tidy up because if I fall my insurance won't be the ones paying I have a joint condition and injuries at least so I don't need the extra worry of some idiotic toy cars everywhere

[00:13:48] The child also has been constantly asking to go into my apartment to his mother and she says oh my sweet baby We can ask I've said no, I don't like children. I don't want one in my space running their sticky hands over my things

[00:14:02] I don't believe I owe them an explanation as to why I don't want their child stinking my place up I don't believe I'm a teaching moment for their kid to learn boundaries And how isn't entitled to go wherever he wants to I shouted at him

[00:14:14] Not only did he try to open yet another package this one was a care package from my sister as I live abroad and She screeched and cried mine mine the which I turned and said no it isn't yours

[00:14:27] It is mine go away and find your parents before trying to ignore this pathetic tantrum and went inside Only to be followed with him trying to hit and bite I turned around and said fuck off you annoying little brat cry to someone who gives a fuck

[00:14:43] I then tripped on one of his stupid little toy cars and dislocated my knee The toy was destroyed as it became dented and scratched because I stepped on it Of course the parents were horrified, but I have thus far refused to engage

[00:14:56] I've also had my packages rerouted to my boyfriends, but he lives on ally and I live in Queens So it's inconvenient. They called the landlord who reminded them that opening of mail not addressed to them is a felony

[00:15:09] I'm sick and tired of parents who think their bratty children are entitled to go wherever they want Do whatever they want and touch whatever they want with their pinworm Stands just want to know for my insanity though. Am I the asshole? Get it

[00:15:25] I wish I hadn't shouted at this child But my limit of asking the stairs to be clear my packages to be left alone and my right to space respected were constantly

[00:15:34] Violated I don't want to be bitten and hit by a toddler because he can't get his own way I also said I wasn't a kid person not that I hated them Not particularly enjoying the company of toddlers doesn't mean my boyfriend picked an absolute monster

[00:15:48] A seven year old isn't a toddler she has some respect for my space and isn't a brat Edits I may have asked for judgment on the situation, but I didn't ask for judgment on my relationship Jiggle you titties and flap this concern of vagina lips elsewhere

[00:16:03] The only person able to pass judgment on that is my boyfriend. Womp womp ladies The library mouse says why haven't you thrown away the toys left on the stairs or floor due to injury yourself on? Or purposely and carefully stepped on the toys to break them

[00:16:18] He would learn eventually and everyone open packages should be reported as theft Opie says I mean I wanted to be as empathetic as possible Even if I'm not fond of toddlers. I get that they need reminders, but I don't want to be a teaching moment

[00:16:32] It's not my responsibility I've shoved this shit to decide or right outside their door if it continues. I'll be binning them Eucalypta says father of three here. I totally understand you parents nowadays seem to

[00:16:45] Always pick the easy way not realizing that it leads for way more work and stress down the road Also is frustrating for parents who do set limits dealing with questions like

[00:16:55] Why are all the other kids allowed to run around with sticks in a random people's cars and we are not so unfair Not the arson One more comment which says not the arsehole. I don't like children either, but I can be cordial around them

[00:17:09] However having to deal with that level of child would have me fall into a mental breakdown And you know why I don't like children in the first place because communicating with them is so fucking hard And I already struggle with other adults

[00:17:20] There was not much else you could do since the parents are so unbelievably entitled Their kid is not your kid not your boyfriend's kid And therefore none of your fucking stuff or days or whatever should be ruined because mr. Prince from the first floor wants it

[00:17:34] So opi comes in with her update and says so I posted my experience with my downstairs neighbor and their child Don't see that post for the full picture and shares the link

[00:17:43] I've since returned home from being cared for by my boyfriend and the issue is somewhat though not quite resolved When I got back the first thing I saw was the child or male playing on the steps up to my apartment with his toys

[00:17:56] Curiously my boyfriend knocks on the door and tells the mother to stop this nonsense And if we see any of the toys on the steps again, they will be thrown out

[00:18:04] The child is removed kicking in the screaming when we got back. We brought with us a lockbox for my parcels We had a conversation with our landlord who issued the family with a warning

[00:18:13] His points of egress need to be kept clear and that allowing a child to fully open my packages is indeed illegal They're hardly able to be punished Accidents do happen. I'm aware but they didn't happen more than three times

[00:18:25] I also passed on my insurance bill to them because I refused to pay for being in an accident that was whole It was wholly preventable by them I'm also in physical therapy for my knee and back and not paying for that either

[00:18:38] The door leading to the stairs of my upstairs apartment has been fixed so the child cannot play there This is upset the mother in particular who fully said I want to teach my child that everyone loves and accepts him

[00:18:50] I don't love your child. I replied something to this effect He doesn't mean anything to me beyond the fact that he is the child of my neighbors You don't love me, do you?

[00:18:59] You didn't even listen when I expressed concern about toys on the steps or your child throwing tantrums when I take my packages from him I honestly couldn't believe the entitlement. My father was not happy with our responses to each other but didn't speak up

[00:19:12] We left it at that and later like a few days I'm sitting outside with my boyfriend and his child seven female as they played with a frisbee Downstairs child comes over trying to play Boyfriend's child says no there

[00:19:25] She just wanted to play with her dad alone and he is told to go back inside Because we're not responsible for some random four-year-old The kid pitches the fit so my boyfriend goes to knock on the door to ask the mother to come get him

[00:19:38] She insists we play with him. We insist we're not obligated to do so The child has already hit my boyfriend's kid and she angrily shoved him over Gave him a slap back and screamed to go away and he ruined their game

[00:19:51] Immediately my boyfriend goes over to his child and tells the other one to go to his mom We point blank refused to entertain this child and told him to leave us alone If boyfriend's child was okay playing with the child downstairs neither of us would have intervened

[00:20:05] Still didn't know She also shouldn't be forced to play with an aggressive and quite frankly vile little boy I'm glad she slapped him actually since then the child has left us alone Now I was wondering before this if I was the asshole but quite honestly

[00:20:20] I know for a fact no one would blame my boyfriend's child for lack of emotional control So why blame a child-free adult who has reached a limit? The situation as explained in my original post was weeks in the making

[00:20:33] I've also read a few other posts about parents screaming at their children and it's all You're a beautiful mama bear. Don't beat yourself up. We parents are not perfect So then why is a child-free adult suddenly a monster not offering some random brat endless patience?

[00:20:48] Your bitchy baby isn't entitled to anything from others let alone free care endless patience when you can't even offer that Attention and love that's on you Thank you to those who actually could read between the lines and didn't think I was a psycho for not enjoying childish behavior

[00:21:04] Or losing it with him I'm going to watch my boyfriend's child draw some flowers in the front yard now That's such a weird thing to try and teach your children that everyone loves you And you know that they keep leaving this four-year-old to just go wander out

[00:21:21] The hell I'm probably the opposite of op and you know kids in my family. They bring me a lot of joy love being around them messing around playing games, you know Brings me back to my childhood But having someone else's child constantly shoved in your face like that

[00:21:37] I can imagine that you know There was a tipping point like within this story and op basically had had enough But what do you guys make of this story? Many people agreeing with the op some people saying that op went too far with a language etc etc

[00:21:52] Some people saying that yeah op just hit their limit and that was the straw that broke the camel's back But what do you guys make of this situation? Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:22:02] Just a huge thank you for the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories Your love your support your time always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love