I Allowed My Ex's Mom Into My Book Club Causing HUGE Drama r/Relationships

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[00:00:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I 28 Female Dated Jim 29 Male Fake Name When I was 24 We separated when I was 25 and I

[00:00:44] [SPEAKER_00]: haven't talked to him much after that but I still sometimes speak to his parents, especially

[00:00:49] [SPEAKER_00]: his mom whom I have even introduced my father in law too as they both love gardening. Now

[00:00:54] [SPEAKER_00]: I've been running a small book club from my uni days with just a couple of lovely women

[00:00:59] [SPEAKER_00]: and we gather in my home library and talk about books on witchy or historical fiction.

[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_00]: We also talk about gardening and old folk tales and I just consider it a very fulfilling

[00:01:10] [SPEAKER_00]: hobby. Jim's mom, let's call her Amy asked me last month if she could join my book

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_00]: club as my father in law had mentioned it to her when they were chatting at the

[00:01:19] [SPEAKER_00]: nursery. She thought it sounded great and I said yes and I didn't think Jim would mind,

[00:01:25] [SPEAKER_00]: also it wasn't his business. Amy then joined one session and gushed about it to her husband

[00:01:31] [SPEAKER_00]: who mentioned it to Jim.

[00:01:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Now the problem started there. I later learned that Jim's parents are not fond of his fiance

[00:01:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Beatrice 30 Female. Jim's dad thinks Beatrice has nothing in common with their family.

[00:01:45] [SPEAKER_00]: The three of them are huge readers and thinks Beatrice is shallow as she works with make up

[00:01:50] [SPEAKER_00]: and clothes. She is a boutique buyer. Plus the reason I interacted less with Jim and his parents

[00:01:55] [SPEAKER_00]: following our break up is that Jim dumped me for Beatrice and even though I'm married

[00:02:00] [SPEAKER_00]: and they are somewhat friends with my father in law, Jim's parents think Beatrice is

[00:02:05] [SPEAKER_00]: not right for their intellectual son.

[00:02:08] [SPEAKER_00]: Apparently at some family dinner Jim's parents kept on speaking over Beatrice and mentioning

[00:02:13] [SPEAKER_00]: how well he had been doing. Amy had been talking about what books the book club had recommended

[00:02:17] [SPEAKER_00]: and I guess Jim's dad had made a comment on how he wished he had a daughter to talk about

[00:02:22] [SPEAKER_00]: books to and that had hurt Beatrice. Jim later called me and told me about all of this

[00:02:28] [SPEAKER_00]: and that me letting his mum in my club and only giving his parents more ammo to hurt

[00:02:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Beatrice. I apologized as I knew none of this. I later asked Amy to not talk about

[00:02:37] [SPEAKER_00]: anything book club related outside. I made her lie about how we pretend to be a covner

[00:02:42] [SPEAKER_00]: and can't discuss these things with the outside world. Even though it felt awkward and childish.

[00:02:48] [SPEAKER_00]: I thought that would be it.

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Except Beatrice and one of her friends had made scathing posts on Facebook and Instagram

[00:02:55] [SPEAKER_00]: and even tagged my father in law on one of them. On how snobbish and mean-minded bookish

[00:03:00] [SPEAKER_00]: women try to make other women's men because they can only read and act smart. Jim then

[00:03:05] [SPEAKER_00]: again called me and said that Jim's mum had started a huge fight over it and she

[00:03:10] [SPEAKER_00]: had taken back the jewellery she had given to Beatrice for the wedding. I was a bit shocked

[00:03:14] [SPEAKER_00]: as I rarely spoke to Jim after our break up and only interacted with his parents when I

[00:03:19] [SPEAKER_00]: ran into them. We live in a small town but he sounded and acted like I was the reason

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_00]: his family was going through a spat. My husband and father and Laura were saying that Beatrice

[00:03:28] [SPEAKER_00]: was lucky I didn't think of retaliating and that I was not in the wrong but I'm

[00:03:33] [SPEAKER_00]: starting to feel guilty and I need a second opinion.

[00:03:35] [SPEAKER_00]: From I the asshole here.

[00:03:38] [SPEAKER_00]: Eddits many people are asking so yes Jim did sort of cheat on me with Beatrice

[00:03:43] [SPEAKER_00]: admitted to having an emotional affair with Beatrice and dumped me.

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I later heard that his parents did not take it well.

[00:03:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Unless I was misreading this somehow this just feels like such a non-issue for OP you know

[00:03:55] [SPEAKER_00]: this is everyone else around her arguing with each other and there's nothing really to do with

[00:03:59] [SPEAKER_00]: you this is down to them and the first part of the story I was actually feeling a bit sorry

[00:04:04] [SPEAKER_00]: for Beatrice for the way that she was being treated by Jim's parents they seem like assholes to me.

[00:04:09] [SPEAKER_00]: She's not right for their intellectual son because she does make up and clothes oh god

[00:04:14] [SPEAKER_00]: but then she tiptoed into the asshole section as well by making the scathing post about you

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_00]: block Jim and mother-in-law continues to bring drama into your life

[00:04:24] [SPEAKER_00]: have her out the book club at the same time as well in my opinion but

[00:04:27] [SPEAKER_00]: ginger prince says not the asshole Jim's parents have been assholes and Beatrice's

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_00]: reaction is pathetic but none of this is because of you just stay completely out of it and tell Jim

[00:04:37] [SPEAKER_00]: to deal with his parents and relationship without involving you turn the line says not the asshole

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_00]: to be honest to such a degree there shouldn't even be an issue for you at all Jim's parents don't

[00:04:47] [SPEAKER_00]: like Jim's fiance sounds like a them problem like not even a gym problem nothing here even

[00:04:53] [SPEAKER_00]: indicates there's anything wrong with Jim and Beatrice relationship other than his parents to

[00:04:57] [SPEAKER_00]: be honest they need to grow up i'd be contemplating kicking her out of the book club just because of

[00:05:02] [SPEAKER_00]: the unwanted drama but that's about it i smell boogers says not the asshole stay out of their drama

[00:05:11] [SPEAKER_00]: not your circus not your monkeys you can be friends with his mother it sounds like she

[00:05:16] [SPEAKER_00]: enjoys you and your book club Jim is projecting his issues with Beatrice onto you there's

[00:05:21] [SPEAKER_00]: nothing to do with you she made an immature attack failed post against his own mother's

[00:05:25] [SPEAKER_00]: interest tagged her future father-in-law and created her own drama her actions caused mother-in-law to

[00:05:31] [SPEAKER_00]: take her jewelry back and good for her i give jewelry and your blessing to a petty bitch who likes to

[00:05:36] [SPEAKER_00]: manufacture drama and force people into it i would block Jim he can have his prize Beatrice and

[00:05:42] [SPEAKER_00]: you can continue to have a relationship with his mom who values and appreciates you

[00:05:46] [SPEAKER_00]: yeah she could have gushed about you less to spare Beatrice but Beatrice's behavior

[00:05:50] [SPEAKER_00]: caused this whole situation and Jim defending her and blaming you shows they're meant for each other

[00:05:55] [SPEAKER_00]: perpetual victims shift in blame to others instead of owning their own feelings and behaviors

[00:06:01] [SPEAKER_00]: or consider that relationship lucky you've got the best part of it mother-in-law's friendship

[00:06:06] [SPEAKER_00]: not the asshole block Jim let Beatrice alienate herself from a future in laws with her own

[00:06:11] [SPEAKER_00]: actions seems she wants the drama posting her rants publicly and tagging people ridiculous

[00:06:17] [SPEAKER_00]: so op comes back in to update the post and says well not much has happened but i thought i'd give an

[00:06:23] [SPEAKER_00]: update firstly to all the people telling me why i'd let my ex's mom to my book club well it

[00:06:29] [SPEAKER_00]: has been three years i hardly ever spoke to Jim and have no feelings about him or his life

[00:06:34] [SPEAKER_00]: he also seemed to feel the same way after the breakup plus it's a small town

[00:06:39] [SPEAKER_00]: his parents were also very nice to me and because they share some of the same hobbies

[00:06:43] [SPEAKER_00]: as my father-in-law i have to interact sometimes with them when i run into

[00:06:47] [SPEAKER_00]: them at the bookstore and nursery or the restaurant my father-in-law runs

[00:06:51] [SPEAKER_00]: i honestly didn't think that Amy just asking to be in my club twice a month would make things

[00:06:56] [SPEAKER_00]: awkward as we wouldn't be interacting outside the book club or becoming friends

[00:07:00] [SPEAKER_00]: as for my husband well he's mad about how Jim's parents have used my club

[00:07:05] [SPEAKER_00]: to take a dump on his fiance he is mad about how Beatrice took a dig at me

[00:07:10] [SPEAKER_00]: when she didn't even know the situation i later apologized to father-in-law for dragging

[00:07:15] [SPEAKER_00]: him into this and he said that he decided to end his friendship with Amy

[00:07:19] [SPEAKER_00]: i later apologized to father-in-law for dragging him into this and he said that he decided to

[00:07:24] [SPEAKER_00]: end his friendship with Amy i also decided to ask her to leave my book club as this was not worth

[00:07:30] [SPEAKER_00]: the drama she was bringing to my life i called Jim up told him blaming me for his family's behavior

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_00]: was not acceptable and said i would not communicate with him further about this

[00:07:39] [SPEAKER_00]: i've been more than gracious and honestly some of the comments were right to ask me

[00:07:43] [SPEAKER_00]: why i was still taking his calls i guess i need a wake-up call to stop being polite to my ex and

[00:07:48] [SPEAKER_00]: his family Jim surprisingly apologized for blaming me and passed the phone to Beatrice

[00:07:54] [SPEAKER_00]: she surprised me more as she started by apologizing to me for the post and admitted that was uncalled

[00:08:00] [SPEAKER_00]: for also i got my husband on board for the call too and he asked her why she was taking digs at

[00:08:05] [SPEAKER_00]: me when she didn't even know me Beatrice didn't reply to that and Jim took over the phone

[00:08:11] [SPEAKER_00]: apologized to both of us i then cut the call and blocked him i also wanted to get this over with

[00:08:17] [SPEAKER_00]: in one setting i called amian told that it might be in her best interest to not come to my book

[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_00]: club as it was causing problems in her family albeit very politely sorry the asian in me

[00:08:28] [SPEAKER_00]: cannot bring herself to be rude to elders no matter what Amy took it in stride and admitted

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_00]: that dragging me into this was not acceptable she said she would miss my friendship but

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_00]: she understood if i didn't want to be dragged into her family affairs she then started to rant

[00:08:43] [SPEAKER_00]: about how shallower son's choice of women was and whatnot and try to explain the situation that

[00:08:48] [SPEAKER_00]: happened but i was done with it so i excused myself and cut the call father-in-law then

[00:08:53] [SPEAKER_00]: told me that Beatrice had taken down the post but he was pissed so my father-in-law had already

[00:08:58] [SPEAKER_00]: made another post tagging Jim and his family and how they didn't know how to keep it in the

[00:09:02] [SPEAKER_00]: how to keep it in the family and was certainly not as classy as they seem to be

[00:09:07] [SPEAKER_00]: if they were slandering other people on facebook needless to say it was a tiring event i guess that

[00:09:14] [SPEAKER_00]: would be it from what little i gathered from amy's rance Beatrice was insecure as when they got

[00:09:19] [SPEAKER_00]: together most people in jim's circle thought of her as the affair partner and did not respect her

[00:09:24] [SPEAKER_00]: but she was always self-conscious that jim was well more red than her i guess

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_00]: amy mentioning me triggered some old insecurity in her but then again i was that my fault

[00:09:35] [SPEAKER_00]: i didn't know her then and i don't know her now i'm very happily married and i haven't really thought

[00:09:41] [SPEAKER_00]: about them in these years before all this drama hopefully this is the end of it so i won't be

[00:09:46] [SPEAKER_00]: updating anymore and i don't blame opi at all for just being done with that whole side of things

[00:09:52] [SPEAKER_00]: they all just sound like drama to me Beatrice and jim you know they had an emotional affair

[00:09:59] [SPEAKER_00]: automatically makes them arseholes jim's parents looking down on Beatrice because of her job

[00:10:05] [SPEAKER_00]: look i'm not defending her but looking down on someone because of their job like that

[00:10:09] [SPEAKER_00]: makes them arseholes in my opinion but when the mum phoned you to talk this out and you told her

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_00]: you know basically out of the book club kind of thing she still went on to moan about Beatrice

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_00]: like take the fucking hint op doesn't want no more of your drama but anyway op

[00:10:29] [SPEAKER_00]: enjoy your drama free life from now on enjoy your book club it sounds like a good time but

[00:10:35] [SPEAKER_00]: what do you guys make of this situation one book club lots of drama let us know your

[00:10:41] [SPEAKER_00]: thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story i see now i do need

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[00:11:05] [SPEAKER_00]: in the relationship subreddit and says my husband keeps telling other people about my periods i31

[00:11:12] [SPEAKER_00]: female and married to my wonderful husband 35 male we have also recently become first

[00:11:18] [SPEAKER_00]: time parents to our beautiful baby my husband is pretty much perfect in every single way except for

[00:11:25] [SPEAKER_00]: one recurrent issue he keeps telling other people very sensitive information about my gynecological

[00:11:31] [SPEAKER_00]: health examples of this include telling his mother details about my menstrual cycle telling his

[00:11:38] [SPEAKER_00]: male boss when i was diagnosed with uterine fibroids specifying exactly what kind of doctor's

[00:11:43] [SPEAKER_00]: appointment we are going to iud insertion when asking his mother to babysit for us i've told him

[00:11:50] [SPEAKER_00]: that him sharing this kind of sensitive information about what is going on in my pants bothers me

[00:11:55] [SPEAKER_00]: and he has apologized every time this morning though he did it again at a very severe first

[00:12:02] [SPEAKER_00]: postpartum period last night so bad that the health line nurse recommended we call 911

[00:12:07] [SPEAKER_00]: was so bad i almost fainting from blood loss i refuse to go to the hospital but my husband

[00:12:13] [SPEAKER_00]: took the day off work to stay home and look after me and the baby today i'm still feeling weak and

[00:12:18] [SPEAKER_00]: dizzy today so i appreciated this however this morning over breakfast my husband mentioned

[00:12:24] [SPEAKER_00]: that he had explained why he wasn't at work to a male co-worker over text as in he described

[00:12:30] [SPEAKER_00]: exactly what was going on with me my fibroid issue the bleeding everything bear in mind

[00:12:37] [SPEAKER_00]: that i have never even met this male co-worker and certainly wouldn't have shared this kind

[00:12:41] [SPEAKER_00]: of information with him of my own volition i got upset my husband apologized familiar scenario

[00:12:49] [SPEAKER_00]: yet again i get it it feels good commiserating about my admittedly very stressful and difficult to

[00:12:55] [SPEAKER_00]: manage lady problems with his married co-worker and his mom it helps him cope especially after

[00:13:02] [SPEAKER_00]: a night trying to decide whether i need to be rushed to the emergency room still i am not

[00:13:07] [SPEAKER_00]: comfortable with strangers or his mother knowing the details of what's currently

[00:13:12] [SPEAKER_00]: happening in my poor malfunctioning uterus though am i justified and getting increasingly more

[00:13:18] [SPEAKER_00]: irritated and upset with my husband every time i find out that he's been discussing

[00:13:21] [SPEAKER_00]: my gyno issues with other people even though he says it helps him decompress and explain

[00:13:27] [SPEAKER_00]: absences from work how should i handle this situation edit my husband is not autistic nor

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_00]: does he have ADHD normally he is quite good about not sharing something once i tell him the

[00:13:40] [SPEAKER_00]: subject is off limits for some reason he just doesn't seem to be able to get on board with the idea that

[00:13:45] [SPEAKER_00]: anyone should find this kind of information embarrassing or invasive opi gets into a discussion

[00:13:51] [SPEAKER_00]: with one of the commenters below that called madame waste who says jesus these comments if

[00:13:57] [SPEAKER_00]: he needs to talk to someone so badly he should see a therapist your medical information

[00:14:01] [SPEAKER_00]: is literally that yours it's a breach of trust to talk about it without your permission if this was

[00:14:07] [SPEAKER_00]: opposed to about a wife constantly talking to a female co-worker and father about a husband's

[00:14:12] [SPEAKER_00]: quick ejaculation or impotence i'm sure people will be defending him father-in-law casually bringing

[00:14:17] [SPEAKER_00]: up his medical issues hey champ i heard you're having a little problem downstairs don't worry

[00:14:22] [SPEAKER_00]: my plumbing and what it used to be yeah i'm sure that seems totally okay opi says that

[00:14:28] [SPEAKER_00]: exactly what it feels like my mother-in-law has literally tried to bring up the volume of

[00:14:32] [SPEAKER_00]: my period flow and make recommendations regarding it after my husband overshared with her to say this

[00:14:39] [SPEAKER_00]: made me uncomfortable is the understatement of the year and the thought of his male co-workers

[00:14:43] [SPEAKER_00]: knowing similar details makes me want to crawl into a hole and grow moss madam then says

[00:14:49] [SPEAKER_00]: i would never be able to go to a work event if my husband told his co-workers about my vagina

[00:14:53] [SPEAKER_00]: in any way i'm not a very prudish person at all i just feel like your personal health issues are

[00:14:59] [SPEAKER_00]: your own unless you choose to disclose them that's literally why hippa hip a law exists in the first

[00:15:06] [SPEAKER_00]: place opi says that's what i told my husband this morning and i'm officially never going to

[00:15:12] [SPEAKER_00]: any of his work events if this information about gynecological health has been shared

[00:15:16] [SPEAKER_00]: around his office he seems startled but also kind of like it was starting to click just

[00:15:21] [SPEAKER_00]: i'm unhappy i was that his co-workers are privy to my personal info madam replies again saying i

[00:15:27] [SPEAKER_00]: totally get it i would feel prejudged and so exposed like a specimen on a table in a room full

[00:15:33] [SPEAKER_00]: of strangers who know intimate details about my genitals that's some horror movie shit honestly

[00:15:39] [SPEAKER_00]: long opi says yes this exactly this jumping and waving and pointing at this comment this is

[00:15:47] [SPEAKER_00]: exactly how i feel and i just wish there was some way for my husband to vent and processes

[00:15:52] [SPEAKER_00]: feelings without spilling the scariest and most vulnerable moments of my intimate health to

[00:15:57] [SPEAKER_00]: total strangers slash my lacking in boundaries mother-in-law and we'll check out the update

[00:16:02] [SPEAKER_00]: in a moment but some of the comments were wild and saying like opi was hiding behind shame and

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_00]: trying to drag her husband behind it as well like not talking about sort of like menstrual

[00:16:15] [SPEAKER_00]: health etc etc the opi came in with an update a couple of days later and says okay wow my

[00:16:22] [SPEAKER_00]: original post evolved into a mess of something so first of all a few extra things to clarify

[00:16:28] [SPEAKER_00]: yes i understand that refusing medical advice to go to the hospital carries risks but we live

[00:16:33] [SPEAKER_00]: though unless you're literally on death's doorstep you will wait 12 plus hours in an eard to be

[00:16:39] [SPEAKER_00]: triaged sitting in a growing pool of my own blood with our baby in a crowded waiting room

[00:16:43] [SPEAKER_00]: did not sound like a helpful place to be especially since i already know what's

[00:16:48] [SPEAKER_00]: wrong with me i'm three months postpartum with large symptomatic uterine fibroids and no

[00:16:54] [SPEAKER_00]: i'm not open to the possibility of a hysterectomy at this time i want more kids no my husband is

[00:17:00] [SPEAKER_00]: not autistic narcissistic or in any other way developmentally or emotionally limited neither

[00:17:06] [SPEAKER_00]: is he abusive jesus people now i'm offended for my husband no my own family does not live nearby

[00:17:13] [SPEAKER_00]: during the fallouts of my traumatic labor and emergency c-section my mother and law and father

[00:17:19] [SPEAKER_00]: and law were literally the only family support that we had on scene my mother in law definitely has a

[00:17:24] [SPEAKER_00]: habit of being a chronic oversharer with much fewer personal boundaries than me but she 100%

[00:17:30] [SPEAKER_00]: means well even though it makes me a little embarrassed when she does things like send over

[00:17:34] [SPEAKER_00]: various herbs and teas with father-in-law along with detailed instructions on how to use them

[00:17:40] [SPEAKER_00]: for menstrual problems i also get that she's doing it from a place of caring yes husband and

[00:17:47] [SPEAKER_00]: mother-in-law are chronically up to their eyeballs in each other's lives always have been always will

[00:17:52] [SPEAKER_00]: be he's an only child and she was a single teenage mother when he was born plus mothers

[00:17:58] [SPEAKER_00]: being super involved in their adult children's lives is a bit cultural for them i sometimes

[00:18:03] [SPEAKER_00]: wish she would share less about our married life with her heck yeah is that a hill i can and

[00:18:08] [SPEAKER_00]: will die on nope i knew this about my husband when i married him so the suggestions on my original

[00:18:15] [SPEAKER_00]: post range from helpful clarify boundaries seek support see the issue from both perspectives

[00:18:20] [SPEAKER_00]: to frankly toxic and abusive spread his personal medical information around publicly berate him

[00:18:27] [SPEAKER_00]: insult him leave him in the dark about my health status and my personal favorite

[00:18:31] [SPEAKER_00]: threaten to leave him your this man literally does everything and more for me he helped me through

[00:18:37] [SPEAKER_00]: serious prenatal and postpartum depression drove me back and forth across the city to seek help from

[00:18:43] [SPEAKER_00]: my issues sits up with me at midnight on the bathroom floor to ensure that my bleeding eventually stops

[00:18:48] [SPEAKER_00]: during an episode stays home with me when i'm anemic to watch over both me and our baby

[00:18:53] [SPEAKER_00]: changes diapers cooks me food lets me dictate the pace of our postpartum sex life checks

[00:18:59] [SPEAKER_00]: that i'm taking my meds there's all the heavy lifting housework tells me he loves me reassures

[00:19:04] [SPEAKER_00]: me and comforts me does this give him a free pass to discuss my gynecological issues in public

[00:19:10] [SPEAKER_00]: no so here i sat down yesterday and established clear rules it officially has my permission to

[00:19:16] [SPEAKER_00]: discuss my lady problems with one other lady of importance in his life his mom it helps him

[00:19:22] [SPEAKER_00]: process after a scary episode admitted to crying out of fear for my safety after i finally fell

[00:19:28] [SPEAKER_00]: asleep following the latest blood bath and his mom is our biggest support as for work

[00:19:33] [SPEAKER_00]: is to say that my wife is struggling with postpartum medical issues no less no more if his

[00:19:39] [SPEAKER_00]: boss needs further info we will have my midwife drop a doctor's note my husband agreed to this

[00:19:45] [SPEAKER_00]: apologize we kissed and made up i also promised to remember to take my own pills because anemia

[00:19:51] [SPEAKER_00]: as for me i learned a valuable lesson here be careful soliciting advice from the internet

[00:19:57] [SPEAKER_00]: because everyone will bring their own baggage to the issue it's a little concerning how quickly

[00:20:01] [SPEAKER_00]: so many people will figuratively advocate for flogging a loving husband in the public square

[00:20:06] [SPEAKER_00]: just because he's not handling a single issue perfectly thank you to everyone who gave constructive

[00:20:12] [SPEAKER_00]: thoughtful advice grumpy g asks op saying didn't you mention that you did all of that before

[00:20:19] [SPEAKER_00]: and then he again ignored your wishes op says while i'd grumbled and expressed that i didn't

[00:20:24] [SPEAKER_00]: like other people knowing about my gyno issues and actually laid down a clear yes and no boundaries

[00:20:29] [SPEAKER_00]: and established a script that my husband could use now my husband knows exactly who he can

[00:20:34] [SPEAKER_00]: and cannot discuss my issues with and what to say to people whom he cannot elaborate with

[00:20:40] [SPEAKER_00]: grumpy says good let's hope he understands this time i stand with my advice to not tell

[00:20:44] [SPEAKER_00]: him anything till he learns but also tell him that you would do the same to him and to see

[00:20:49] [SPEAKER_00]: it

[00:20:50] [SPEAKER_00]: you should really tell people about his problems cartoonist says i'm glad you found a solution

[00:20:56] [SPEAKER_00]: you are happy with but please talk to your doctor about iron infusions supplements are

[00:21:00] [SPEAKER_00]: fine for normal anemia offer people with chronic bleeding conditions like this

[00:21:04] [SPEAKER_00]: op says thanks for the reminder actually did get a series of iv iron infusions in the

[00:21:10] [SPEAKER_00]: final weeks of my pregnancy because my anemic fainting was to the point where my husband

[00:21:14] [SPEAKER_00]: couldn't leave me unsupervised might be time to go in for another infusion

[00:21:19] [SPEAKER_00]: now what do you guys make of this situation have you ever dealt with a similar situation before

[00:21:26] [SPEAKER_00]: how did you deal with it what do you make of this one let us know your thoughts down

[00:21:31] [SPEAKER_00]: in the comments below just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting

[00:21:35] [SPEAKER_00]: involved in today's stories your love your support your time always means the absolute

[00:21:39] [SPEAKER_00]: world to me so thank you so so much for being involved and hopefully i'll see you in the next one

[00:21:45] [SPEAKER_00]: take care and much love