Husband Helped A Woman In Need And Now She's Obsessed With Him r/Relationsihps

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[00:01:05] Relationship Advice Subreddit

[00:01:08] My husband's new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick.

[00:01:13] And I'm questioning her intentions. Am I being silly?

[00:01:17] So, I'll start by saying that I'm generally quite a secure person.

[00:01:22] And I've never felt like I had any issues around this until I read a message sent to my husband yesterday.

[00:01:28] And I'm kinda spiraling. Sorry, this might be long.

[00:01:32] For some backstory, my husband goes downhill biking.

[00:01:35] Has done since he was very young. Knows his stuff. He's out there every day.

[00:01:40] Generally rides with the same group of guys, but they mostly stick to weekends.

[00:01:44] Her husband goes out every day of the week, luckily because his job allows him to.

[00:01:49] If he's on his own, generally weekdays and the dogs are free, he'll take the dogs. They love it.

[00:01:55] So, around six months ago he was out in the morning with the dogs and ended up coming home earlier than usual.

[00:02:01] While he was out, he found this girl who fell off and badly injured her arm slash wrist.

[00:02:06] As you can imagine, he's done the same numerous times.

[00:02:09] Knows exactly what to do and where to go to get seen quicker.

[00:02:13] He got her to the car park, packed the dogs and bikes up and took her to the GP who referred her to hospital.

[00:02:19] And he came home. All good.

[00:02:21] Around a week after this, one of the guys he rides with sent him a screenshot of a post in a Facebook group

[00:02:26] that was made for people specifically who build and maintain the bike trails.

[00:02:30] It went something like,

[00:02:32] I'm looking for someone called, insert husband's name here, who helped me last week when I fell and got me to the hospital.

[00:02:38] He drove a husband's truck and had three dogs, then listed our dog's names.

[00:02:43] She'd posted in a few groups before being linked to the group for the trail builders,

[00:02:48] who my husband goes out there with.

[00:02:50] My husband isn't on social media, so he said he could send her his number.

[00:02:55] She texts him to double check she had the right person.

[00:02:58] He said it was and that he was glad she was feeling better and he was happy to help.

[00:03:03] She offered him money or to take him for lunch, which he declined and they just said again that he was happy to help.

[00:03:09] They text back and forth every now and then and her initiating and it's mostly hey how are you, hope you're well etc.

[00:03:16] Until she starts getting better and can ride again.

[00:03:19] It turns to hey we should hit the trail sometime.

[00:03:22] Now, without tooting his horn for him, he's very good.

[00:03:26] He used to ride competitively when he was younger, same with much of the guys he rides with.

[00:03:31] Most people at the park know who they are and generally if they hear them coming, they will just get to the side and watch them pass.

[00:03:38] He tries to decline her offer in a way not to offend her, but there's no way she can keep up with them.

[00:03:43] There's a section that's just big jumps to practice on.

[00:03:46] He says maybe next time he's on those he'll give her a shout and they can meet up there.

[00:03:51] Eventually that happens and he gives her a few tips, which turns into her texting him more often about biking,

[00:03:57] asking for him to tutor her and just general stuff.

[00:04:01] This goes on for the next couple of months.

[00:04:04] There seems to be a friendship starting.

[00:04:06] I've never once had any concerns about this and was quite happy for him to continue, and they do.

[00:04:12] So yesterday, Monday, he went out with the dog and bumped into her.

[00:04:17] He said they spoke for a while and went on a cycle with the dogs to wind down before he came home.

[00:04:22] She started texting him when he got home and I can see the messages coming through the iPad as I was using it.

[00:04:28] To be clear, he's not hiding the text.

[00:04:31] He openly leaves his phone lying around, no passcode.

[00:04:34] Let's our daughter play on it.

[00:04:36] Happy for me to use it.

[00:04:38] Doesn't get weird or secretive about it in the slightest.

[00:04:41] He knows the iPad and laptop are linked to his phone and it can all be seen by anyone using them.

[00:04:46] This never gave me cause for concern.

[00:04:48] It's her intentions I'm not too sure on at this point.

[00:04:52] But anyway, the dogs, we have three working gun dogs used in the fields regularly

[00:04:57] and while they can look like they're running right down these trails,

[00:05:01] they're extremely well trained and tuned into whatever my husband is doing,

[00:05:05] which becomes more apparent when he's not on the trails as they're following and watching his every move.

[00:05:11] These texts started on about the dogs for a bit when she sent a text which ended in the following.

[00:05:16] Like a slave looking to please their master.

[00:05:19] The little cheeky grin emoji.

[00:05:21] Admittedly, I don't care for emojis and the texting garb people use nowadays.

[00:05:26] I don't even know what the little face, what is that face called?

[00:05:30] I think it's like a flirting face, a suggestive face maybe.

[00:05:35] I hope he doesn't know what that means frankly.

[00:05:37] But something about this made me feel icky

[00:05:40] and I feel like there's an undertone going on here.

[00:05:43] He replied but seemed to ignore that last comment.

[00:05:46] However, this caused me to think and look back on her communication

[00:05:49] and feel like I've noticed a few red flags.

[00:05:54] 1. She always initiates.

[00:05:57] 2. If she doesn't get a reply, she seems to keep sending messages until he replies.

[00:06:02] 3. Not once has she ever referenced or acknowledged the fact that he's married or has a family.

[00:06:07] 4. Even when he mentioned that he's been away for my birthday or that he's going to our daughter's dancing show,

[00:06:12] she had changed the subject that she's pretending we don't exist or to close down any mention of us.

[00:06:18] 5. She often makes excuses for them to meet up one on one.

[00:06:22] I'm sure there's more but I don't want to scour through every message

[00:06:26] and feed into this more than I already have in case it's nothing.

[00:06:29] But am I crazy for thinking there may be something going on with her?

[00:06:33] I don't want to bring it up in case it is nothing and I look like I'm being paranoid.

[00:06:37] It just isn't sitting right.

[00:06:39] I'm also pregnant and the hormones are doing their thing.

[00:06:43] Should I say something or leave it and monitor this more closely for a bit?

[00:06:47] Or is this the effect of a 30-something pregnant mom whose husband seems to be aging like a fine wine

[00:06:53] and any female he meets doing what he loves, being in amazing shape due to the hobby?

[00:07:03] Part of me as I was reading through this story said,

[00:07:06] the husband told her that he's married and he has kids etc.

[00:07:10] But it obviously came out that there's obviously been some chat about it in the background.

[00:07:15] And this might be a bad take from my behalf but it just kind of feels like

[00:07:19] he's a bit oblivious to what's going on in this situation.

[00:07:22] I think that she is flirting with him.

[00:07:26] I think her behavior is escalating while this dude's just enjoying his hobby.

[00:07:32] I don't think you're wrong to express your feelings to your husband about how you're feeling about this situation

[00:07:37] and see what he says.

[00:07:39] I can imagine he would just say,

[00:07:40] what? I didn't see it that way at all.

[00:07:42] But usually Wright says,

[00:07:44] I'm kind of like your husband.

[00:07:46] I do a lot of helping people in a different vein though.

[00:07:48] And there are a lot of rather lonely and awkward people out there

[00:07:52] who just keep messaging once they have my contact info.

[00:07:54] Men and women.

[00:07:56] I think you've handled this with grace but I think it's totally reasonable for you to have a convo with hubby

[00:08:01] and just say,

[00:08:03] Dude, she's pretty pushy and you're not doing anything wrong but I'd appreciate it if you shut her down.

[00:08:07] Just tell her you're not in a position to be a coach and your ride time is focused so you can't help her.

[00:08:13] She sounds a little starstruck and needy

[00:08:15] but he's not doing anything wrong here so I wouldn't make it a big hairy deal.

[00:08:19] I hope he says thank you.

[00:08:21] I don't want to be the pregger wife who's demanding he blocks women because I'm making up things in my head.

[00:08:27] Ms. Scarlet the harlot says,

[00:08:29] You are not and from the way he's responding slash not responding I'm fairly certain

[00:08:33] he's also not terribly comfortable with how she's coming across either.

[00:08:37] It sounds like you're both on the same page with this

[00:08:39] and if anything your husband might appreciate confirmation that she's acting weird

[00:08:43] and he's doing a good job trying to handle it.

[00:08:45] She's pulling the same shroding as creep-act men pull

[00:08:49] pushing the line but never overstepping it overtly

[00:08:51] so that if he does call her out

[00:08:53] she'll turn it around on him seeing flirtation when there was none

[00:08:57] and being the problem.

[00:08:59] That can be far easier to address her directly

[00:09:01] if you already know the other people are seeing exactly what you're seeing

[00:09:05] and your SO is on the same page as you

[00:09:07] on how to plan to deal with it

[00:09:09] so there is no chance of it blowing up in your face.

[00:09:12] From what you've shared she sounds like a creep

[00:09:15] but he sounds like a happily married man

[00:09:17] who has no interest in whatever she's doing

[00:09:20] and really wishes she'd leave him alone or behave normally.

[00:09:23] I don't think you have anything to worry about

[00:09:27] but that doesn't mean you won't feel better hearing that from him.

[00:09:32] So OP did update the post and said it escalated quickly

[00:09:37] so my last post got a lot more responses than I thought it would get.

[00:09:41] I wasn't going to post an update but I feel like I owe it to all the people telling me to trust my gut.

[00:09:45] For those asking why my husband hadn't been more abrupt with her

[00:09:49] in a nutshell he always tries to keep the peace.

[00:09:52] I downplayed how well known he is in our town

[00:09:55] he comes from a well known family in our area

[00:09:58] and was a downhill rider in the UCI

[00:10:00] and features in various YouTube channels.

[00:10:02] People come here specifically for the bike trails

[00:10:05] and typically wherever he goes

[00:10:07] there's usually a handful of people who recognize him

[00:10:09] and want to say hello.

[00:10:11] It's not a huge town, everyone knows everyone kind of place

[00:10:14] and like anyone you would never want people to come away

[00:10:17] from any interaction with him with a sour taste in their mouth.

[00:10:21] After our daughter was in bed I spoke with my husband

[00:10:24] told him my thoughts and he agreed she was being inappropriate

[00:10:27] and that he in no way would have done or said anything

[00:10:30] that would indicate he was alright with it.

[00:10:32] He hoped by ignoring it she would get the hint and leave him be.

[00:10:35] He didn't want to make things awkward or embarrass anyone

[00:10:38] and admitted he probably should have said something.

[00:10:41] So after reading everyone's comments

[00:10:43] there were loads of amazing ways people suggested shutting her down

[00:10:46] which in hindsight would have been an amazing way to stop her in her tracks.

[00:10:50] However, he didn't want to ruffle feathers

[00:10:53] so he went with a we're starting to get ready for the baby

[00:10:56] and have lots to do and prepare

[00:10:58] and simply don't have the time or energy to be spent on bikes or meetups

[00:11:01] and it'd be unavailable to her for the foreseeable suggestions.

[00:11:05] He typed it up and handed it to me for my approval

[00:11:08] and I hit send.

[00:11:10] Minutes later his phone pings

[00:11:12] I'm in the kitchen, he's in the living room

[00:11:14] and I see his eyebrows raised and he just looks at me.

[00:11:17] I go over and he just hands me the phone.

[00:11:19] The fucking neck on this girl astounds me.

[00:11:22] She replied,

[00:11:23] Okay, do you think we can meet up quickly tomorrow?

[00:11:26] My heart sank and I knew exactly what that meant.

[00:11:29] I burst into tears.

[00:11:31] In my head this was the start of my world crumbling.

[00:11:34] My husband tried calming me down

[00:11:37] and asked me what I'd like him to do.

[00:11:39] Block her there and then or ask what she wants to see him for.

[00:11:42] I wish I'd just told him to block her but for some reason

[00:11:45] I wanted to know more.

[00:11:47] He replied asking what meeting up would achieve.

[00:11:50] She just says the stuff she would like to talk to him about face to face.

[00:11:54] I felt like I was literally being punched in the chest

[00:11:57] and being winded at this point.

[00:11:59] He eventually gets the point across that he is not going to meet with her

[00:12:02] and drags it out of her.

[00:12:04] She tells him that at some point feelings started,

[00:12:07] that turned into fantasies and that basically

[00:12:09] he could do whatever he wanted to her

[00:12:11] but I didn't need to know about it

[00:12:13] and she'd be happy to keep it that way.

[00:12:15] As she put it, our thing.

[00:12:18] It was more graphic than I'm willing to type.

[00:12:20] I felt like I was still keeping a level head on it

[00:12:23] until the point I lashed out.

[00:12:25] Got very, very angry.

[00:12:27] Started crying uncontrollably.

[00:12:29] My body was vibrating with anger.

[00:12:31] I barely slept, woke up crying,

[00:12:34] felt like absolute shit all day today.

[00:12:36] I've already got in touch with our friends

[00:12:38] who run these Facebook groups she joined

[00:12:40] and asked them to remove her

[00:12:42] and make sure she doesn't join again.

[00:12:44] My husband replied last night

[00:12:46] and told me it's sorted

[00:12:48] and I don't have to worry about her.

[00:12:50] I didn't see the text he sent

[00:12:52] but it's there on the iPad

[00:12:54] but I can't bring myself to even open the iMessage app

[00:12:56] after seeing what I saw.

[00:12:58] It's not fair that someone thinks

[00:13:00] that they can just do something like that

[00:13:02] regardless of how it's going to impact an entire family.

[00:13:04] Currently, I don't want him leaving the house.

[00:13:06] I don't want him to ever go back to the trails.

[00:13:08] I don't want the dogs even going up there.

[00:13:10] The fact that she has even touched my dogs

[00:13:12] makes me sick.

[00:13:14] So there we are.

[00:13:16] I still feel like my life is slipping away from me.

[00:13:18] Like someone's trying to steal it.

[00:13:20] My confidence is shattered.

[00:13:22] My eyes sting.

[00:13:24] My head hurts from crying.

[00:13:26] I don't feel like eating.

[00:13:28] I don't think I've ever felt as low as I do just now.

[00:13:30] My husband is trying his best to comfort me

[00:13:32] but it will take a while I guess.

[00:13:34] He's feeling very guilty

[00:13:36] despite me telling him he's done nothing wrong.

[00:13:38] I can't believe how quickly my life just changed

[00:13:40] with a stupid dog.

[00:13:42] So thank you to everyone telling me to believe my gut

[00:13:44] and everyone else who took the time to comment.

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[00:14:40] Edit. I just want to add

[00:14:42] I'm not controlling my husband.

[00:14:44] I'm not holding him hostage.

[00:14:46] I had to take them out today.

[00:14:48] The bike park is almost in our back garden.

[00:14:50] I'm describing how I feel just now

[00:14:52] like it's a personal attack on me and my family.

[00:14:54] And I know this happens all over the world.

[00:14:56] My eyes were never open to it.

[00:14:58] This man's baby is about to burst out of my body.

[00:15:00] I don't feel attractive

[00:15:02] in any sense of the word right now.

[00:15:04] I feel like I'm well within my rights

[00:15:06] to be a little distraught

[00:15:08] after seeing a text from

[00:15:10] a much younger, much fitter girl

[00:15:13] describing in graphic detail

[00:15:15] the things she wants my husband to do to her.

[00:15:17] In a couple of the top comments from that one,

[00:15:19] Brief Horror says,

[00:15:21] You'll be alright and honestly take comfort

[00:15:23] that this is probably a lot of pregnancy hormones

[00:15:25] and your husband loves the absolute soul out of you.

[00:15:27] He handled it well, so public figure or not,

[00:15:29] and he's by your side.

[00:15:31] He's been transparent and upfront

[00:15:33] and kind.

[00:15:35] She tried to crash the party and failed miserably.

[00:15:37] He's all yours and he wants it to stay that way.

[00:15:39] Hope you feel better and can do some

[00:15:41] rationalizing in the meantime.

[00:15:43] Opie says, I'm trying. Thank you.

[00:15:45] Puzzleheadedbig says,

[00:15:47] You cannot keep the whole world from seeing your husband.

[00:15:49] You also cannot keep other people

[00:15:51] from finding him attractive and making a move.

[00:15:53] But, sweetie,

[00:15:55] he has done everything right

[00:15:57] and treated you honestly,

[00:15:59] including you, and shown zero signs

[00:16:01] of being interested in this other woman.

[00:16:03] That is exactly what you should want

[00:16:05] in a partner. Keep your chin up.

[00:16:07] Go spend time with him.

[00:16:09] Asoda says,

[00:16:11] This right here. Back before I

[00:16:13] got married, sometimes my husband would get jealous

[00:16:15] if he thought another guy was flirting

[00:16:17] with me. I would tell him,

[00:16:19] they may be flirting with me, but

[00:16:21] I'm not flirting with them, and nothing

[00:16:23] is going to happen. They aren't

[00:16:25] going to make me do anything.

[00:16:27] This girl can't make your husband do anything.

[00:16:29] And that certainly sounds like he's

[00:16:31] just a friendly person who never expected

[00:16:33] or wanted to go in that direction.

[00:16:35] It might be a good idea to get

[00:16:37] a couple's therapy, or even just therapy

[00:16:39] to help you work through this.

[00:16:41] Those comments pretty much said it all for me,

[00:16:43] didn't they? It was like, he has been

[00:16:45] open with the messages, he has been

[00:16:47] transparent. And I wonder if, like one of those

[00:16:49] comments said, that some kind of counselling

[00:16:51] would sort of help, because it sounds like she's going

[00:16:53] for a time at the moment.

[00:16:55] I don't know whether it's the pregnancy hormones

[00:16:57] contributing towards that or not.

[00:16:59] I obviously can't comment on that, never

[00:17:01] been through that. But obviously, I've heard

[00:17:03] how they can do such a number on you.

[00:17:05] Some people are just absolutely

[00:17:07] awful, aren't they? This woman

[00:17:09] knew that OP, the husband,

[00:17:11] they had a family, they had a marriage together.

[00:17:13] And she's willing to

[00:17:15] potentially destroy everything

[00:17:17] for them by having this

[00:17:19] thing in the background. And we already know

[00:17:21] that it always comes out in the end

[00:17:23] and it would have ruined their relationship.

[00:17:25] And she's quite happy with that

[00:17:27] and it's just sickening, isn't it really?

[00:17:29] But now, I'm going to turn this

[00:17:31] one to you guys. What do you guys make

[00:17:33] of this situation?

[00:17:35] Let me know your thoughts down in the comments

[00:17:37] below. And let's move on to

[00:17:39] another story.

[00:17:41] And our next story is going to come from the

[00:17:43] Am I the Arsehole subreddit, doesn't have an

[00:17:45] update as yet, but it's from throwaway

[00:17:47] stepsistress and says

[00:17:49] Am I the arsehole for not wearing the wedding

[00:17:51] dress my stepsister handmade

[00:17:53] for me? I, 25

[00:17:55] female, got married two weeks

[00:17:57] ago. My now husband,

[00:17:59] 27 male, and I paid

[00:18:01] for most of the wedding, but my father

[00:18:03] covered a few costs for us.

[00:18:05] My father's girlfriend, Stella, has

[00:18:07] a daughter, Zoe, 21

[00:18:09] female, who's finishing her degree

[00:18:11] in fashion. She wants to get

[00:18:13] into the wedding dress industry once she

[00:18:15] graduates. When I started planning my

[00:18:17] wedding, she offered to design

[00:18:19] and make my dress.

[00:18:21] I was hesitant at first as

[00:18:23] I'd been excited about picking out my own dress.

[00:18:25] I agreed because I didn't

[00:18:27] know Zoe well. My father

[00:18:29] had only been dating her mother for two years

[00:18:31] and I thought this could be a nice opportunity

[00:18:33] to bond. Also,

[00:18:35] I've seen some of her work.

[00:18:37] She made a couple of ball gowns in

[00:18:39] college and she seemed honestly good.

[00:18:41] We met up a few times to discuss

[00:18:43] our ideas. During those, I

[00:18:45] realized our styles were drastically

[00:18:47] different, but we still managed

[00:18:49] to agree on a design. I gave

[00:18:51] Zoe my measurements and asked her

[00:18:53] to update me. She didn't.

[00:18:55] Whenever I asked her how she was doing,

[00:18:57] she'd say she would send me some progress pictures

[00:18:59] when she got home. She never

[00:19:01] did. It took her longer than expected

[00:19:03] to finish it and I didn't get the dress

[00:19:05] until a month before my wedding.

[00:19:07] It looked nothing like the

[00:19:09] design we agreed on. It was the wrong

[00:19:11] color, the wrong style,

[00:19:13] everything. It looked exactly

[00:19:15] the type of dress Zoe would want to wear.

[00:19:17] But I knew I'd never

[00:19:19] wear anything like it. I really

[00:19:21] did not like that dress.

[00:19:23] When I tried it on, I found out it was also

[00:19:25] about three sizes too big.

[00:19:27] Though I knew I could probably have it altered.

[00:19:29] I truly did not want to wear

[00:19:31] that dress on my wedding day.

[00:19:33] I called Zoe and told her I wouldn't

[00:19:35] wear the dress. I said it looked lovely

[00:19:37] but not the style we'd agreed on

[00:19:39] and I thought it'd be best for me

[00:19:41] to find a different dress. I offered

[00:19:43] to pay her for her work. She'd made

[00:19:45] the dress for free, but she declined

[00:19:47] and hung up on me.

[00:19:49] I went to a retail bride store with my maid of honor

[00:19:51] and we found a beautiful gown that

[00:19:54] didn't need much altering. It looked exactly

[00:19:56] like I wanted.

[00:19:58] Fast forward to my wedding.

[00:20:00] I walked down the aisle in the dress I bought.

[00:20:02] Zoe seemed to be on the verge

[00:20:04] of tears during the ceremony and Stella

[00:20:06] gave me dirty looks throughout the reception.

[00:20:08] When I approached them a while

[00:20:10] later, they were both short with me.

[00:20:12] My father, Stella,

[00:20:14] and Zoe left less than an hour

[00:20:16] into the reception. My father

[00:20:18] and Stella called me the next day and

[00:20:20] told me off for how I'd treated Zoe.

[00:20:22] This has been her first time making a

[00:20:24] wedding dress and had been excited

[00:20:26] to see me wearing it.

[00:20:28] They said it was insulting of me not to wear

[00:20:30] the dress she put so much effort into.

[00:20:32] I tried to explain why

[00:20:34] I hadn't worn the dress, but they're both

[00:20:36] insisting that the dress was beautiful

[00:20:38] and I could have sucked it up.

[00:20:40] My husband and my younger sister

[00:20:42] not Zoe are on my side.

[00:20:44] I've been feeling guilty about this since

[00:20:46] I decided not to wear the dress.

[00:20:48] I'm I, the arsehole.

[00:20:50] Absolutely

[00:20:52] not the arsehole in this situation

[00:20:54] at all. I mean, this is your wedding day

[00:20:56] you met up, you discussed what you

[00:20:58] wanted and you got absolutely

[00:21:00] none of that by the sounds of it.

[00:21:02] It was even the wrong size after you handed over

[00:21:04] the measurements and when you did request

[00:21:06] like progress pictures which you

[00:21:08] could have called this out a lot earlier, she never

[00:21:10] sent them to you. And I think this is gonna be

[00:21:12] well, it should be

[00:21:14] a learning lesson for Zoe that

[00:21:16] if she's going into this industry, she's going

[00:21:18] to have to listen to people when they

[00:21:20] request certain things from her.

[00:21:22] You can't just make up what you want and expect

[00:21:24] your clients to be cool with it. But

[00:21:26] popular Jaguar says not the arsehole.

[00:21:28] Zoe disrespected you by ignoring

[00:21:30] your wants. As a designer

[00:21:32] she needs to listen to her clients.

[00:21:34] Plus her making the dress way too big means

[00:21:36] she isn't that great at it.

[00:21:38] Give the dress back to Zoe and let her know

[00:21:40] that you appreciated the effort.

[00:21:42] But this was not the dress you wanted and

[00:21:44] the two of you agreed to.

[00:21:46] That you were sure she would find someone

[00:21:48] to appreciate the dress.

[00:21:50] As for a mum and dad

[00:21:52] let them know that Zoe needs to listen to her

[00:21:54] clients and that though you appreciate Zoe's

[00:21:56] efforts, it's not what you wanted

[00:21:58] and that as a client you don't need

[00:22:00] to suck it up. And that they should have learned

[00:22:02] to accept that people have a right to make their own

[00:22:04] choices, especially regarding

[00:22:06] wedding dresses. Honestly

[00:22:08] wondering if Zoe did this on purpose to get

[00:22:10] attention during your wedding.

[00:22:12] Opie says I don't think she did

[00:22:14] this for attention. I think she got carried away

[00:22:16] and made the dress she wanted

[00:22:18] instead of the one we agreed on.

[00:22:20] Popular Jaguar then replies to

[00:22:22] Opie saying sorry but look at it how

[00:22:24] we see it. She knew that you

[00:22:26] would not be wearing the dress because

[00:22:28] you told her a month before and explained why.

[00:22:30] She had time to accept this

[00:22:32] and she knew. You walk down

[00:22:34] the aisle and she tears up.

[00:22:36] She, her mum asks why. She then

[00:22:38] tells her mum that you did not wear the dress

[00:22:40] she made for you and whatever else she

[00:22:42] wanted to throw in. Now her mum

[00:22:44] is pissed at you because her mum would have been

[00:22:46] offended. They would have never showed up

[00:22:48] at your wedding or addressed the issue before

[00:22:50] the wedding. You were played.

[00:22:52] And I think

[00:22:54] it's fair to say the majority of

[00:22:56] the comments on this one were not

[00:22:58] the arsehole but maybe you have a different

[00:23:00] take on the matter.

[00:23:02] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments

[00:23:04] below. And just a huge thank

[00:23:06] you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's

[00:23:08] stories. Your love, your support, your

[00:23:10] time always means the absolute world to me. So thank

[00:23:12] you so, so much and hopefully I'll

[00:23:14] see you in the next one. Take care

[00:23:16] and much love.