Girlfriend Is Obsessed With Her Stuffed Toys And It's RUINING Our Relationship r/Relationships

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[00:00:56] May 29, male, fiance, 29 female, likes cuddling with her stuffed animals more than me.

[00:01:05] And before we get into the story, I did see that it can either be pronounced Kathulu or Kathulu.

[00:01:10] I'm going to go with Kathulu so I apologize if you pronounce it the other way.

[00:01:15] Anyway, throw away for obvious reasons. This is going to seem strange but please read because I

[00:01:21] really do need some advice on this. I've been with my fiance for three and a half years and

[00:01:26] would be getting married in the next few months. We honestly have never had any issues worth mentioning

[00:01:32] until last September. When we took a trip to a sci-fi slash fantasy convention,

[00:01:37] then ended up coming back with a gigantic, pink large beach ball size Kathulu plushie.

[00:01:43] At first we thought it was funny and cute. We even named it Kevin if you're curious

[00:01:49] and made up a funny voice that it would use. Over the course of the next few weeks however,

[00:01:54] she began to take it all much farther. She started coming up with a backstory for it.

[00:02:00] She would hide it throughout the apartment to try and freak me out.

[00:02:04] Over time she started to refer to it in the way you'd talk about your pet or something.

[00:02:09] Even to the point of scolding it for various mischiefs that she had accused of.

[00:02:13] She's now started to do the same with other gigantic stuffed animals,

[00:02:17] a manatee named Horace, a duck named Anthony. Initially I thought this was just some silliness

[00:02:24] but I'm worried that she's taking it too far. I've mentioned in passing many many times how strange

[00:02:30] it is that we are treating stuffed animals like people but I'm only met with silence,

[00:02:34] followed by insistence that they are little people. A couple of weeks ago this all came to

[00:02:40] her head when I started to have nightmares about these things. My most vivid one involved the

[00:02:46] because Thulu's taking over people's minds and forcing them to paint their worst fears.

[00:02:51] I woke up in a cold sweat and I was so confused that I actually googled the doll to make sure

[00:02:56] there wasn't anything weird about it. Anyway, I told her about it. Again, in the context of how

[00:03:02] dumb it all was and she got mad that I would accuse Kevin of doing such a thing.

[00:03:08] I think that she's actually got mad enough that she's shutting me out. When she lies down on the

[00:03:12] couch for a nap, she grabs the doll but pushes me away when I try to lie down with her. Things are

[00:03:18] fine when we're out and about but when we come home, he's always going back to the damned doll.

[00:03:23] I thought about throwing it away but I honestly don't think she'd ever forgive me. I just wish

[00:03:28] she could see that this damned thing is doing to us when we're at home together. Does anyone have

[00:03:33] any ideas on what to do? I'm probably going to get absolutely ripped apart from this but

[00:03:38] I don't know what the Thulu is. I've heard of it, of course and I've heard of H.P. Lovecraft

[00:03:44] and things like that but I've never actually looked it up and I just did a quick google image of

[00:03:48] it and looks terrifying. He looks like a gigantic version of Davy Jones from Pirates of the Caribbean.

[00:03:56] Sorry if that's going to offend some people. But in the comments, a user called

[00:04:02] Mejdu Reed penis, you did indeed says Lol your girlfriend is awesome or crazy or both.

[00:04:09] I take shit like this too far too. My dog has his own voice and backstory. He's a pomegranian

[00:04:16] chihuahua, the cheap exploitative experiment of Nazi Germany gone wrong. Turns out the free

[00:04:21] labour wasn't free and most of his Mexican brethren cost too much to feed compared to their actual

[00:04:27] work ever. He was rejected for being too cuddly and special. He was not the perfect soldier dog

[00:04:32] they were looking for and buried the experiment. He dropped me in their California shelter with a

[00:04:37] white memory and a runny nose. Anyway, I don't know what advice to give but other than don't worry

[00:04:43] about it. Your girlfriend just had a great sense of creepy humour. My wife loves Toby in the back

[00:04:48] story as part of what she loves for him now. Now when my wife and I go to bed she has a good night

[00:04:54] and if I don't answer back in his voice she says it louder in case I missed it. One time I

[00:04:59] jokingly told her that if we divorced her dog would never speak again and she started hysterical crying.

[00:05:06] So I didn't joke about that anymore but I was thinking I was reading that I think that's mad

[00:05:11] and then I forgot poppy's got our own little backstory. I won't go too much into it but I always

[00:05:17] imagine her with a little monocle and sort of like just living the high life because she's so sassy

[00:05:23] and her rather name is poppy dobbler's the third. Why am I admitted this to the world?

[00:05:31] Another user says hi opi in many ways I'm like your girlfriend years down the road.

[00:05:35] Have a stuffed friend kingdom with more stuffed animals than I can count. The kingdom even has a

[00:05:40] government dating relationships friends with degrees and careers is far more complex in my real

[00:05:46] life and probably sounds crazy to anyone but my partner and my closest friends who are now in on it too.

[00:05:52] For me it's a place to be imaginative explore things without consequence and feel comforted.

[00:05:57] I can't imagine living my life without my stuffed friends because it adds meaning to my life

[00:06:02] so what does this mean to your fiance? Why is it important but how can you be incorporated

[00:06:08] into this instead of being excluded? I would advise you to explore this with her because trying

[00:06:13] to get rid of it won't work. Packbracker says wedding stress like others commented

[00:06:19] you need to have a serious talk with her set up some boundaries like no stuffed animals in bed

[00:06:24] or something otherwise our slash no sleep is this way. Here kitty says has she had any trauma or bad

[00:06:32] news lately anything that would cause people to not react so well sometimes when people have

[00:06:37] bad things happen to them they can revert back to being childlike as a way to cope with what happened

[00:06:42] to them she could also be showing signs of late on set mental illness or best case scenario she

[00:06:47] just doesn't realise that she's taken this thing way too far and needs a proverbial swift kick

[00:06:52] in the ass. And there was a few more people mentioning the whole wedding stress and all this kind of

[00:06:58] thing so I hope you can remember the update and said I posted this a few months ago and I've

[00:07:03] finally built up the courage for an update. I confronted her about the doll trying to find out if

[00:07:08] it was a sign of something else going on at work or at home she admitted she had been really

[00:07:14] stressed out and the cathodian thing was a fun fantasy she could dive into. She agreed she would

[00:07:19] try to cut down and focus more of her attention on me and she did for about a month. As a Christmas

[00:07:26] gift to me I ended up getting a smaller version of Kevin she named it Kyle and said it would be a

[00:07:32] chance for Kevin and I to bond over something. She even started to develop political for soon as

[00:07:38] for these things. Kevin is a Donald Trump fan and Kyle is a bleeding heart, a Bernie voter.

[00:07:44] If you can believe it that wasn't the end though she bought one of those Disney things with

[00:07:49] the long body and stubby legs for Boba Fett. I was like okay I like Star Wars this is a cute thing

[00:07:56] and all but then it all came back to Kevin she would have Boba Fett fly around the apartment

[00:08:02] and hunt Kevin. Though in her mind he'll never succeed because Kevin is just too smart.

[00:08:09] The most extreme angle she's taken so far is that she has now bought a tiny shrimp cat toy as

[00:08:14] Kevin's pet. Those keep in track that has a pet for a stuff to fool you door. I still love her

[00:08:21] to death and the relationship is otherwise going great she still cuddles Kevin but gives more time

[00:08:26] to me. I've resigned myself to the fact that while I will never understand why she creates these

[00:08:31] elaborate fantasies. If I want to stay with her I'll just have to adjust. I've started to pitch

[00:08:37] in more and more to the storylines but even grab Kevin and have him hop up and down when the news

[00:08:43] is playing something or another about Donald Trump. I'm not sure how things got to this point in

[00:08:47] my life but she's worth it. I comment on what the fuck did I just read? When I reply to him

[00:08:54] OPsSO is projecting some deeply repressed shit onto a stuffed animal but the sex is good enough that

[00:09:00] OPs are putting up with the girls declining mental health. I think that's what we just read anyways.

[00:09:06] Mr. Shining a diamond replies to those and says everyone fantasises is a normal and natural

[00:09:11] thing to do. However when fantasising becomes disruptive of your everyday life becomes a full

[00:09:17] balloon problem as in you should talk to a doctor problem. This may be towingly you should talk to

[00:09:24] a doctor lying. If you're interested go online and do some research if you can. Alternatively

[00:09:29] make an appointment with a therapist and go yourself. Tell them what your fiance is doing and ask

[00:09:34] for their opinion on it. They may have some insight. I know you're okay with her oddity and you're

[00:09:39] just adjusting to it but can you honestly see yourself playing along for the rest of your life?

[00:09:45] It's just something to think about. Regardless, I wish you all the best.

[00:09:50] OPs are responding at the end of the day she still admits that this is not reality even though

[00:09:54] it's strange it's not psychosis per se. Also if it's not affecting her own quality of life

[00:10:00] or really mine anymore then what would therapy solve? It's weird, I'm willing to live with this

[00:10:05] kind of weird for her. And a final comment on that one which says could be carbon monoxide poisoning

[00:10:11] or a slow descent into eldritch terror. Either way therapy wouldn't hurt.

[00:10:17] And there was a bit of a mix of comments after this one. Some people saying that they got their

[00:10:22] own stuffed animals with their own names, back stories and things like that. Other people saying

[00:10:27] therapy is definitely needed here and there's something repressed going on. Other people saying

[00:10:32] you know it's their life and they can do what they want with it. As long as it's healthy in some

[00:10:37] way and that there is nothing going on then what's the harm? But what do you guys make of this

[00:10:44] situation? How would you deal with it if it was you? Do you have your own stuffed animals with

[00:10:49] their own names and personalities etc etc? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:10:55] and let's move on to another story.

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[00:11:33] And our next story comes from a throwaway account from the relationship advice subreddit and says

[00:11:39] I have 28 female lost weight and now I want to divorce my husband 29 male.

[00:11:46] Sorry for the long post we've been married for 5 years and together for 7 years

[00:11:51] we also have a 3 year old kid. After having the baby I struggled a lot with losing the baby

[00:11:57] weight and adjusted to being a parent. I also had the baby blues at first which was tough.

[00:12:04] I wasn't really focused on my appearance and instead was trying to figure out our new routine

[00:12:09] and way of life. But then my husband started making these little comments about my body and

[00:12:14] how I should start working out and wearing makeup again. It made me feel really awful

[00:12:19] and I worried that he might start looking elsewhere because we weren't being intimate anymore.

[00:12:24] He even suggested hiring a nanny so I could have more time to myself but I wanted to be there for

[00:12:30] our baby full time so I turned down the offer. That made him angry and he started acting cold towards

[00:12:37] me. Months went by without any hugs, kisses, romance or any kind of affection.

[00:12:43] My self esteem hit rock bottom. Every time I looked in the mirror all I saw were the flaws that my

[00:12:49] husband pointed out. By this point our son was already 2 years old and I desperately wanted to win

[00:12:55] my husband back. I thought that if I got in shape he would show me love and affection and our

[00:13:01] marriage would be saved. I craved his attention so much and it hurt to see how things had changed

[00:13:07] but you can't force someone to be affectionate. I took matters into my own hands and hired some help.

[00:13:14] With more free time I started going to the gym taking swimming classes which are amazing for your

[00:13:19] back by the way. Getting my hair and lashes done regularly and eating healthier. Guess what?

[00:13:25] I had lost a ton of weight and I feel amazing. Suddenly my husband started touching me, kissing me.

[00:13:33] I am if flowers and treated me like the complete opposite of how he treated me before.

[00:13:37] You'd think that would make me feel better but for some reason it made me feel worse.

[00:13:43] What I could think about were the hurtful things he said to me when I was at my lowest

[00:13:47] and how cold he was towards me. I get that you can't force attraction but why couldn't he just hug

[00:13:53] me or give me a kiss on the cheek even when I was overweight. Why couldn't he love me as a human

[00:13:59] being and the mother of his child? When my self-esteem came back I got really angry at myself

[00:14:04] for putting up with his behavior for so long. A few days ago I told him I wanted a divorce because

[00:14:10] I don't think I can move past how badly he treated me. He apologized and promised to change

[00:14:16] prove that he can be better. But honestly I'm not sure if I can trust him again.

[00:14:21] What if I gain weight again or have to deal with health issues? Will he treat me like garbage again?

[00:14:26] I've talked to some friends and family about the whole situation and some say I should give

[00:14:30] them another chance, what others say I should leave him. So I'm turning to read it for some advice.

[00:14:37] Am I justified in being upset over this? Do you think it's possible for my husband to change his

[00:14:42] behavior for the long term? Or is it a divorce to right move here?

[00:14:47] So in the comments OP was providing some more information. First they talked about how they felt.

[00:14:53] They said it was really awful. There were days when he didn't want to look at me or watch a movie

[00:14:58] together. It was like we were just roommates and whenever I tried to get my hug or a kiss

[00:15:03] he would roll his eyes. I cried myself to sleep so many nights. Someone says so he offered to get

[00:15:10] you help and you said no. OP says between him offering help and me hiring help it was a big gap

[00:15:16] of several months. We were still getting used to our new routine and our baby had a super sensitive

[00:15:22] stomach so it was really tough at that time. Plus I wanted to be there for my child as a mum

[00:15:27] in fact like it was way too early to bring in outside help. Going to the gym was honestly

[00:15:31] the last thing on my mind. Then later on when things calmed down and we got into a better routine

[00:15:37] I could finally take some time off and focus on myself too. So even though you're right

[00:15:42] you offered the same help that I eventually received the circumstances were different.

[00:15:49] We start in the comments with Dinky Doge Whisperu says this is the type of man who will leave you

[00:15:54] if you get cancer or a deliberating illness. His attraction determines his love and respect

[00:15:59] which means neither is permanent or guaranteed. He's shown you that. Don't forget it.

[00:16:06] Making burrito says gosh I'm so sorry this is truly awful. You were 28 years old. I'm a year

[00:16:13] older than you. I'm almost 30 and I'm telling you that there's so much more out there for you.

[00:16:19] My daughter is 6 now and when I left her father I thought my life was over. Used to complain about

[00:16:25] everything how I dress the music I listen to the TV shows I watched. I realised after my daughter

[00:16:32] was born I would never want her to deal with the treatment I was accepting for myself.

[00:16:36] Move on. If you gain weight or heaven forbid gets sick in some way this is not the man you want by

[00:16:42] your side. Those men are out there and you are so young you can find someone who will love you

[00:16:48] with no strings attached. Okay Tarot says yes you are justified. I've had huge weight swings

[00:16:55] in my marriage and my husband never treated me like shit when I was heavier based on what is he

[00:16:59] going to change. Thank you well is meaningless. Frank Leigh wouldn't want to be with someone who

[00:17:04] treated strangers like that let alone me I really treat your kid if they are overweight.

[00:17:10] And when Michelle says remember the marriage vows he should have been there through the highs

[00:17:15] on the lows and sickness and in health but he didn't those words didn't mean anything to him. His

[00:17:22] love was conditional and for fuck sake the negative changes you have because you were bearing a child

[00:17:28] of his. He felt to see that and instead of being the man to support you he went cold when you

[00:17:33] needed him. Girl don't allow anyone to treat you like an option because you are not.

[00:17:37] dump this trash into the trash can and walk away. You know that the answer already when you made

[00:17:43] this post. How do you for realising your worth? What OP does come back into the post with an update

[00:17:50] and says thanks a lot for all the advice you gave me after my last post. It was really tough to make

[00:17:55] a decision especially considering our son. So I sat down with my husband and had a conversation

[00:18:01] about what happened. He kept saying sorry but I asked him if he actually understood why his

[00:18:06] behaviour was hurtful. He just kept saying he was being a jerk but I felt like he didn't really

[00:18:11] grasp why it was a problem. So I broke it down for him. I told him that saying I still look pregnant

[00:18:17] three months after giving birth or calling me a mess because of my dark circles rolling his

[00:18:23] eyes when I wanted to show affection. Not talking to me for days without any reason and not wanting

[00:18:28] to spend time together were all really hurtful. On top of that he didn't offer the help so I could

[00:18:34] take care of my mental health. Instead he wanted me to go to the gym and get in shape.

[00:18:39] When I reminded him of all this, he couldn't even look me in the eye and didn't say a word.

[00:18:44] The silence in the room was so thick you could cut it with a knife.

[00:18:48] I just don't think he fully understands how badly he treated me. No amount of extra weight can

[00:18:54] justify that kind of behaviour. I want to treat a stranger like that little alone someone I love

[00:19:00] but for the sake of our son I still offered him couples counselling. And guess what? He refused.

[00:19:06] He said he was afraid that the therapist and I would team up against him and make things worse.

[00:19:13] Who went round and round in circles and after almost three hours of talking I finally had

[00:19:17] enough and told him I wanted a divorce. He tried to convince me that he could prove he could change but

[00:19:23] when I asked him how, he just said I had to have faith in him and see it for myself down the line.

[00:19:29] That's just not good enough for me. I told him I was taking our son to my mum's place for the

[00:19:34] weekend and that we would discuss everything before finalising the divorce on Monday. He said okay

[00:19:40] and we left. But now he won't stop blowing up my phone begging for a second chance and telling me

[00:19:46] how much he loves me and how he made a mistake. It's really disheartening to see how much he changed

[00:19:51] after we had our son. All I ever wanted from him was love, loyalty and respect but he didn't give

[00:19:57] me any of that in the past few years. I still wanted to give him a chance but he doesn't want to put

[00:20:02] in the work to make things better. If it comes to that I'll be able to raise our son on my own as

[00:20:08] I'm financially independent and secure. They also have a lot of help so it'll be okay.

[00:20:14] I still want him to be a part of our son's life and he's the best daddy he can be but I can't

[00:20:19] be with someone who doesn't love or respect me. I wanted to thank you all again for all of your

[00:20:24] support and the advice you gave me. I thought my husband was the person I would grow old with but

[00:20:30] the universe has other plans for me. It will be really hard to let him go but I'm hoping it's for

[00:20:36] the better. After the first part of the post I was like how would you look at someone,

[00:20:43] how do you forgive someone and look at them in the way that you used to after all these things

[00:20:48] that's been said in this post like saying that you still look three months pregnant after

[00:20:52] giving birth and calling you a mess, a dark circles, rolling his eyes etc. That's not a mistake

[00:20:59] that's just fucking awful man and I can't blame OP for their decision on this but now

[00:21:06] I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Put yourself in

[00:21:12] OP's position. What would you do if you found yourself there? Let us know your thoughts down

[00:21:18] in the comments below. Now just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved

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