Girlfriend Accused Me Of Cheating On Her With My Friend, She Was Wrong r/Relationships

[00:00:03] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit stories and if you do love a Reddit story why not consider hitting that like subscribe maybe that notification bell too. Well let's crack on with today's first

[00:00:17] story. Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from a deleted user from the Am I the Arsehole Here subreddit and says, My ex-girlfriend broke up with me. Thought I cheated with my lesbian friend and now after a few months wanted me back after discovering she was

[00:00:33] wrong and I declined. I, 20 male and my girlfriend 25 female have been dating since I was 18. I felt a connection with her and she was my first ever girlfriend, my first time and first everything. Our sex life was amazing and I wouldn't have traded

[00:00:50] her for anything. But a few months ago I went to this birthday party for a friend. She was just turning 22 and my girlfriend was busy and she couldn't make it but somehow an image

[00:01:00] of me hugging the birthday girl, mind you my friend is a lesbian just like my girlfriend forgot and videos of me giving her a piggyback ride to her cake made its way to my girlfriend.

[00:01:11] When I got home she immediately confronted me and asked if I did anything. I said no and practically told her what I did and pointed out I text her throughout the night, the night

[00:01:20] I was out and the fact that my friend is a lesbian but it still wasn't enough and she left me. To say the least I was heartbroken and smoked some Zaza and hung out with a few buddies of mine to cheer myself up and it worked a

[00:01:33] little but two months later she contacted me and realized she was wrong and wanted to get back together but I declined. She's calling me a bunch of names saying it was a mistake and has also confessed that she slept with someone the next night after breaking it off

[00:01:49] with me and offered to even give me a free pass to sleep with someone else and that she's sorry. And now I'm sitting and wondering if I'm the asshole for not taking her back.

[00:02:00] Edit forgive my spelling it was almost 3am when I made this and I needed some advice. Now there's many reasons not to get back with her in this situation, it certainly felt to

[00:02:11] me that she was already in contact with this guy she slept with the next night after breaking it off with you and who knows what else she was up to in the meantime. And she started

[00:02:26] calling you a bunch of names, that's the person she is, you're not the asshole in this situation and I certainly wouldn't be getting back together with that person but fragrant reserve says

[00:02:36] she left to fuck that other guy. Her reasoning was BS and she knew it. Now the new guy doesn't want her, now she wants to come back to a safe guy. Don't take her back she is not good

[00:02:46] for you, the name she's calling you of because she feels entitled to you, your support and help. She deserves what she has now, nothing and no one. Let her rebuild her life alone

[00:02:57] while you move on to bigger and better things. Pride of Cape Town replies that and says this you're the backup guy my dude and you deserve better, not the asshole and don't take her

[00:03:08] back. She'll probably just pick another meaningless fight and break up with you once she gets the wets for another guy. Ram says lol don't you get it, she did that because she was

[00:03:17] already cheating on you and just waiting for an opportunity to break up with you and fuck him. How do you think he was ready and waiting the very next day? Is this the type of woman

[00:03:26] you want to give a second chance, let alone have any contact with? She will drag you down and destroy you, run. Warden fairy says don't, she started this drama by accusing you of

[00:03:38] cheating, she escalated this drama by breaking up then she capped it off by having sex with someone else. Now she's regretting her mistakes. What happened once is more likely to happen

[00:03:48] again. Move on with your life, not the asshole. Ok map says she showed you who she is, believe her. She doesn't need evidence to find you guilty of betrayal and she showed your relationship

[00:04:00] wasn't that important to her by jumping straight to a rebound hookup. This red flag behavior can be confined to one incident or even to just suspicion around your fidelity. Not the asshole, leave her in the past where she belongs. She might have been the older one

[00:04:14] in your relationship but it sounds like you have her beat for emotional intelligence. And one more comment which says she was almost certainly already talking to the other guy that she slept with, if not already sleeping with him when she broke up with you. She likely wanted to

[00:04:28] pursue a relationship with him and stop hiding her attraction to him and thus used an exceedingly flimsy excuse to end the relationship with you. Odds are Mr. Sidepiece slash prospective boyfriend simply used your now ex like a cheap piece of meat and had no intention of a relationship.

[00:04:44] Given the obvious imbalance in experience and age, she likely figured you were a safe bet to beg forgiveness and reconciliation from so that she could rewrap you around her finger and at least have a consolation prize. You'd only be the asshole if you got back with her

[00:05:00] and it would be being an asshole to yourself. So OP did come in to update their post and says it's been about 7 whole hours since I made that post. I haven't been able to sleep because reddit

[00:05:11] was practically blowing up my phone with notifications and my ex is still trying to win me back. I got a few messages asking when me and her met and even blaming me and accusing me

[00:05:21] of not saying the full story or giving her a reason to think I was. So I'm here to clear the air a bit. Just a few hours ago after my reddit post, my now ex girlfriend has also confessed to

[00:05:32] me she's been texting this guy since I was 19 but the day after she broke up with me they instantly got to fucking and got together. I actually know the guy pretty well and to be honest he is an

[00:05:43] ass. He used to bully me as a freshman in high school and he was a senior. Mostly made insults about my weight. I was a fat kid in high school but slimmed down quickly after. He reached out

[00:05:54] to her and they got to talking but then he cheated on her with another girl and admitted he sent those photos to her just to stir up some shit and get her to break up with me. Not gonna lie

[00:06:05] finding this out I wanted to beat this guy's ass but I decided to be the bigger person. She's been begging for hours and I've just gotten around to blocking her giving me a moment of peace

[00:06:15] regarding how me and my girlfriend met. I might have or might have not snuck into a party where alcohol was present. She approached me first and I was honest about my age at the time 17 but we

[00:06:27] still chatted became friends and eventually started dating a few months after I turned 18 because she and I had common interests and was cute so I shot my shot. We started effing on the

[00:06:37] third date and the rest is history after that but during our dating period I've never hit on another girl nor cheated and even shared my social media passwords with my girlfriend to further prove my

[00:06:48] loyalty like she wanted and I got to see hers but I never really looked because I trusted her but now that I blocked her I'm going to continue to heal and maybe later use that free pass like

[00:06:59] the comment suggested with unlimited usage. Thanks for all your advice. I might update this but if I don't thank you all for your advice. So the top couple of comments on this one Silly Southerner

[00:07:11] says so let me get this straight. She was entertaining this other guy for an extended period of time while you were together. She accused you of cheating with someone she knew was a lesbian and broke up with you for it. She basically left you and immediately got together

[00:07:24] with him and fucked him and would likely still be with him if he hadn't cheated on her with someone else. This other guy is an asshole you strongly dislike. Any one of these would be reason enough

[00:07:33] to cut her off. Fucking slash dating someone you know is a scumbag is enough reason to cut her off. Dumping you especially over such a stupid and obviously fake reason. She was looking for an

[00:07:43] excuse to go jump on his dig is a reason to cut her off. Her spending so much time obviously setting up her next guy while she was with you is reason to cut her off. I'm not saying any reason to take

[00:07:54] her back though. No reason to fight this guy over her either. She's clearly not worth it. You're better off without her in your life. The PitsmeHD says the classic cheater behavior. Cheat, hide it

[00:08:06] and accuse partner of cheating all to try and hide what the cheater did and then afterwards give them the free pass. Why did they do that? It's like, like that's gonna fix anything and all the awfulness

[00:08:17] in this story as well. She went with like OP's ex-bully at the same time it just felt like another kick in the nuts to me but a fair play for OP being out of that situation not going back into

[00:08:29] it. Live your life, enjoy your life and don't let her drag you back into that drama again. Holy moly. Now I'm gonna turn this one to you guys. What did you guys make of this situation? Let me know your

[00:08:41] thoughts down in the comments below. Let's move on to another story. This one's from I'm a better man and says my ex has a restraining order against me and now she lives in the same apartment as me.

[00:08:56] My ex-wife and I had a rocky marriage. My alcoholism didn't help. She pushed for a divorce. We lived together during this divorce and one day I found out she was dating another man.

[00:09:06] I snapped and hit her pretty hard. I was charged with assault, spent three months in jail, went to anger management and I was also issued a three-year restraining order. This was two years ago. I've since sobered up, met a wonderful woman then moved to a completely different apartment

[00:09:23] complex in a completely different part of the city. I never had any further contact with my ex-wife. I admit what I did was wrong. I paid the price and I've since re-established myself. My current woman who I've been in a relationship with for two years

[00:09:38] is aware of this background story which makes things slightly easier. Well, unknown to me my ex moved into my apartment complex about five months ago with her now new husband who had always lived here. I did not know this. I saw her in the lobby

[00:09:53] just before New Year's. She greeted me. I turned shocked and said hello. She asked me what I was doing in the lobby. I said I was just coming in from work and she told me that the restraining

[00:10:04] order is still in effect and I need to move out. I tried to reason with her and told her I'd be happy to stay clear of her. I know we don't live on the same floor. I don't even know what floor

[00:10:14] she lives on. I don't care to know. I told her if I saw her on an elevator I wouldn't get in and would just wait for the next one. She told me she was going to enforce the restraining order against

[00:10:24] me. My partner and I literally just signed a brand new two-year lease six months ago. We love the place we live in and wouldn't want to move. It feels unjust having to move slash incur financial hardship because the person I had a restraining order against

[00:10:39] moved into my apartment complex. The reason why I'm bringing this up is because late last night building management was informed of the restraining order and told us we need to figure this out.

[00:10:49] Would she really be able to force me out of my home even though I lived here before her? As long as I do my best to avoid any contact with her, which I'm perfectly fine doing,

[00:10:59] shouldn't that be sufficient? I work a really early schedule and the fact that she was dating this guy and coming over to his apartment complex for this entire time I've been here. I'm around cross paths

[00:11:09] and she's been living here full-time for five months and just recently crossed paths. Not sure what to do. For your information, this is in New York City. The restraining order etc etc but OP came in with her update and said the public defender that

[00:11:28] represented me was no longer practicing in the New York City area. I retained a lawyer who was a friend of a friend who had experience in this area. My lawyer got references from my PO, employer

[00:11:41] and AA sponsor. Our goal was to get the restraining order modified to a simple no-contact order with no distance requirements so I could continue living with my partner. I spoke to the judge,

[00:11:53] told him my story, what I had done to correct my past transgressions. He reviewed my record, we submitted our references. During this time period I was crashing on a friend's couch as to

[00:12:03] not violate my protective order. PO said I had paid my fines, followed all the rules and never once had to remind me of my restrictions and so forth and said he was impressed with my turnaround.

[00:12:15] My employer said that I was always early, never seemed to be under the influence or hung over from anything and even at our company functions was very open and honest about my sobriety

[00:12:25] and didn't partake in drinking. My AA sponsor said good things about me too, I was impressed with my maturity and openness on my alcoholism and addiction. Then the judge asked my ex-wife

[00:12:36] to speak. My ex-wife said she was shocked by my turnaround. She said that it seemed unfair to her to require me to move because she moved into my building unknowingly and that she no longer felt

[00:12:47] threatened by me. This was a shock to both my lawyer and I as I expected my ex to want to keep the protective order in place. The judge said that he wouldn't modify the protective order but lift

[00:12:58] it entirely because he felt it had served its purpose and that was based upon my references, my testimony and most importantly the testimony of my ex that he didn't see how keeping it in

[00:13:08] place was benefiting anymore. He did tell my ex that if she ever felt threatened or in danger because of something I said or did she could contact the police. The judge then told me his

[00:13:19] main reason for lifting the order was to allow me to live in my current apartment but advised it was a good idea to avoid contact with my ex to avoid any potential complications down the road. It

[00:13:29] reminded me of my past, it wouldn't take much to get another protective order put in place. I told the judge I had no intention of talking or contacting my ex and I was thrilled that I don't

[00:13:39] have to move and get to stay with my current girlfriend. So over the course of this weekend I moved back into my apartment with my girlfriend, I'm glad this was resolved. What do you guys make of this situation? Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:14:22] Our next story comes from the am I the arsehole subreddit that doesn't have an update as yet but it's from double schedule 3160. It says, I'm I the arsehole for letting someone skip my bachelorette

[00:14:34] party not telling them new details that would have changed their mind. Apologies in advance as I had a hard time writing the situation in a single sentence. My brother has been trying to push me to

[00:14:46] get closer to his girlfriend Mary together 3 months. I've done my best to get to know her, initiating dinners, trying her hobbies with her etc but we honestly don't really get along. I personally think she's a snob. She complimented my designer bag but took the compliment back when

[00:15:03] she found out it was thrifted. As in literally said yike I take that back. While she thinks I lack culture and sophistication. Also something she's mentioned when trying to convince me to do a

[00:15:14] makeover with her. The issue is that I'm getting married this year and my brother has been really trying to get her involved. I put my foot down with the bridal party since they've only been

[00:15:25] dating for 3 months and I don't know her but he insisted that I invite her to the bachelorette. It was originally supposed to be super low key and local. Mary tried to push for something more

[00:15:35] extravagant but it really wasn't in my budget. When I wouldn't budge she told us something came up that weekend and she couldn't go. I was later surprised by my friends who had come together

[00:15:46] to organize a lavish weekend through favors and points. I.e one of my friends aunts works for a spa and she was able to get discounted packages, another used her travel points to book a suite

[00:15:56] etc. I was not told about this and was truly happily surprised. The issue is that Mary found out when we posted pictures and she was pissed. My brother is now saying that I deliberately left

[00:16:10] her out but she told me she was busy. Mary said that if she had known what the weekend was like though she would have rearranged her schedule. I feel conflicted because I suspect that my friends

[00:16:22] didn't tell Mary on purpose but they're claiming they made these plans after Mary bowed out and didn't reach back out since she was busy. My brother still says I should have double checked

[00:16:32] and made more of an effort to let Mary know my plans. I figured I'd ask the internet for their thoughts. Hell no not the arsehole in this situation, Mary sounds like a right knob.

[00:16:43] And when you discovered about the surprise and stuff I was thinking please post pictures on social media so Mary can see it. I was feeling petty and quite frankly like you said she told

[00:16:54] you she was busy that day so why would you tell her? Why would you then say oh Mary but there's a change of plans now come along someone that you don't really get along with anyway. You know what

[00:17:04] your brother can do op? Go kick sand or kick a rock. Ah damn it I forgot, kick something. How did I forget that? It's one of my favorite sayings. And I have to also ask the question is Mary going to be going

[00:17:18] to your wedding at all? Can you imagine what someone like that will be like walking around your wedding all snooty about it? But peonypony says not the arsehole, your brother needs to back off.

[00:17:30] You don't need to be his snooty girlfriend's bestie. You extended an invitation to your bachelorette. She declined the invitation feigning she had other plans. Your friend surprised you with a spa weekend. In quotes the issue is that Mary found out when we posted pictures and she was pissed.

[00:17:46] My brother is now saying that I deliberately left her out but she told me she was busy. Mary said that if she had known what the weekend was like though she would have rearranged her schedule.

[00:17:56] Then says this situation falls into the category of not your problem. If Mrs snooty patooties schedule was too busy for a night at Dave and Buster's she's still too busy for a spa weekend. Your brother is delusional if he thinks his girlfriend matters to anyone but him.

[00:18:17] Tabby Abby says not the arsehole. Why does Mary get off claiming that you deliberately left her out after she told you she was busy? If she's busy she's busy and wouldn't be able to attend.

[00:18:28] If she really wasn't busy she lied. Either way she hasn't got a leg to stand on here. She is a snob which she proved when she complimented your handbag but took it back when she found out it came second hand. It's the same bag Mary, the same bag.

[00:18:45] This woman has her priorities wrong. You can only hope your brother wakes up to her nonsense soon and leaves her behind. I'm extremely hurt that your girlfriend flat out said that she wasn't interested in coming

[00:18:58] to my bachelorette for me and your takeaway is that I should have enticed her with cooler activities. It is not my job to entertain your girlfriend. I only invited her because you wanted

[00:19:08] me to therefore her initial invitation was a favor to you and it was certainly not my responsibility to second guess whether she was lying to me about the fact that she claimed to be unavailable.

[00:19:19] But it's time to move past that and I think now it's perfectly clear that Mary literally does not care about me and that's okay if she makes you happy that's what matters.

[00:19:27] She and I don't need to be best friends but I will not be extending any more invitations to her other than those where she is your plus one. Commenter says not the arsehole actually consider

[00:19:37] your brother to be the biggest arsehole in this situation since he used his family connection to pressure you to include her and then hypocritically blamed you for the fact that she chose not to

[00:19:47] attend when he shouldn't have asked you to invite her unless he was sure she would want to go. Her arsehole-ishness is more impersonal and limited to the fact that she's exhibiting entitled

[00:19:57] and snobbish behavior. I was sort of wondering how much did the brother know in the background as like when she initially declined that first invitation to the bachelorette because she had other plans. Her boyfriend I reckon he must have known something about that as well.

[00:20:17] Anyway what do you guys make of this situation? Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below. Now just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved with today's

[00:20:28] stories. Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me so thank you so