Fiance Proposed To Me But Turns Out The Ring Is FAKE And He Told Everyone r/Relationships

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[00:00:54] I know a cheap ass who says, my 25 female fiance proposed to me but it turns out the ring is fake. He bought a name brand box off of eBay. Hey guys, so my fiance, Mark, 30 male and I have been together for two years.

[00:01:17] Two months ago he asked me to marry him and gave me a beautiful Cartier engagement ring. I was really excited and of course, I said yes. It was a beautiful ring and I was excited to be marrying the man I love.

[00:01:30] The other day, Mark and I worked together, I ever heard two co-workers talk about Mark. Someone mentioned that Mark makes so much money but he didn't even give his girlfriend a real ring.

[00:01:42] The person asked for clarification, he turns out that Mark bought a Cartier box off of eBay and then bought a CZ ring to put in the box.

[00:01:51] Which from a quick Google is Chubix Zakonia? Don't quote me on that though. I didn't want to believe it. Then I took my ring to a jeweler to get it checked. My ring is essentially worthless. It isn't anywhere near a diamond.

[00:02:07] Mark is on business right now. I'm so upset, I haven't answered any of his calls or texts. I didn't know what to say and am I wrong for being this upset.

[00:02:18] I'm honestly starting to think this is a deal breaker. He's so cheap and stingy with his money but at least I thought it by me a good ring when I know he can afford it. What should I do?

[00:02:29] One of the things that jumped out to me in this story is that co-workers in your workplace are talking about this. He must have told them I'm guessing at some point that I've got a Cubix Zakonia ring and just replaced the box.

[00:02:46] I just feel like it's not about the ring, it's about the deception that's at play here.

[00:02:53] But in the comments Big B says, you should say, Mark, let's go get the ring appraised for insurance purposes. It's so beautiful. I want to make sure it's protected.

[00:03:05] Then watch as his world burns around him. What says my SO after I read in the post? Barry says, hold up. He's bragging about tricking you to people at work.

[00:03:15] Lord have mercy. Is this full stupid? He must be because anyone that works in an office knows that shit spreads like wildfire. Not only is he stupid, he's a scammer with zero respect for your intelligence. I didn't love.

[00:03:29] He's seriously 30 damn years old. Bitch this loser, him worth it. When he asks you why tell him you want someone that I take you seriously, not a fucking clown.

[00:03:40] The user applies that and says right. A cheap ring is not a deal breaker in itself.

[00:03:45] Personally very much believe in setting a budget and picking it out together. Tricking her and then bragging about it is a hallmark of someone who does not respect your at all.

[00:03:55] Absolutely not. How cruel to make a fool of her to others and how perfectly manipulative. If she brings it up she's a gold digger since she couldn't tell the difference.

[00:04:05] Ugh no, just no. Everything about this is wrong. Another user says I'd be less concerned about the actual value of the ring itself and more about the fact that Mark seems to think you're a person he can scam into complacency.

[00:04:19] This is not the first time he's likely Paul stunts like this and his shirt is shit won't be the last. Strongly consider ending this relationship.

[00:04:27] Of three's reply that saying yeah, that's what got me. Fuck the ring is what it represents. Not only did he have himself a fine little joke at her expense but he laughed about it to people behind her back.

[00:04:40] All the while she's walking around thinking she's sporting a Cartier diamond ring. He made a fool of her three times over bringing other people into it and apparently thinks it's hilarious and awesome. I'm appalled. I normally find the whole engagement ring silly but this is a symptom of much deeper problems with this guy.

[00:04:59] I'd be side-eying the hills considering making a run for them. Purple as a fruit says my friends parents got married young and couldn't afford an engagement ring. A mom always really wanted one.

[00:05:10] One day her husband just up and gave a one. She was so excited she was showing everyone and so proud of it. After a few months she figures out it's a fake. Her husband laughs about it like it's a funny joke. A friend's mom was crushed.

[00:05:25] A few years later she cheats on him and they get a divorce. Jane says this same thing happened to the sister of a friend. She decided to go get the ring appraised on a whim to put under insurance and found out it was worthless.

[00:05:39] He now ex had made many overtures about how pricey the ring was. He couldn't afford other basic shared expenses due to it etc. He may be paid $80 on QVC.

[00:05:51] There's a fundamental breakdown in trust. This one thing to decide is a couple to just go with a cheaper ring. I personally would not be able to trust my partner when they were willing to start the next phase of our life with a giant lie and then make a fall of you until other people. Please make in your ex.

[00:06:09] So OP did come in with her update and said asked update here so shout out to a couple of users who read the comments out too.

[00:06:18] I appreciated all your feedback but these two had the best comments especially the latter. I put her plan into motion. Also if you message me death threats and abuse please jump off a building. Thanks.

[00:06:31] I'm not a selfish or materialistic person. I expect honesty from my future spouse nothing more nothing less. I haven't taken a dime from Mark. Everything nice that I have was paid for by me.

[00:06:44] I don't need to be with him for his money because I have my own. But I do want his consideration and thoughtfulness from my partner. Not lies.

[00:06:53] If you had even gotten me something that was made from silver with my birthstone I would have accepted it because at least it came from the heart and showed thought behind it.

[00:07:03] I did not in any way shape or form demand a brand name ring or any sort of ridiculously expensive ring.

[00:07:11] Anyway long story short I finally answered Mark's calls and kept it as calm as I could. I told him I wanted to take an insurance policy out on the ring because it was very valuable and I was taking it to an appraiser.

[00:07:24] Mark immediately shut up and told me that I shouldn't do that until he got back but he already had a warranty in place at the Joula. But I shouldn't make big decisions without him.

[00:07:34] After he stopped spouting off reasons I told him that it was too late. I already took the ring to a Joula and knew that not only it was a worthless piece of glass but also silver plated.

[00:07:45] A bastard stammer than the only intelligent thing that came out of his mouth was you took it to a real Joula.

[00:07:52] Huge fight over finances selfishness and lying ensued. It accused me of being a gold digger and I refuted this by asking him to try and remember the last time I ever made him pay for anything or buy me anything. He had no answer.

[00:08:06] I said I wanted no part of something based on a lie and hung up. Switch to Facebook status from Engage to Single.

[00:08:13] Oh and changed our locked my apartment and gave our dog to my sister to make sure he doesn't try to keep him. I paid for the dog in all of his shots.

[00:08:21] They have a fun time trying to get in when he comes back from his travel.

[00:08:25] Edit. Realize that I need to give this idiot written letter that he has her 30 days to vacate. I'm giving him the letter the second he walks in.

[00:08:33] We'll give him a spare key if he insists on staying.

[00:08:36] Yarn.

[00:08:38] I know a couple of comments with bits of info from OP so a user says on one hand it seems silly to leave someone over a ring.

[00:08:45] But on the other, this is about much more than the ring. It's about as manipulating and lying to you. That's unacceptable.

[00:08:52] I'm glad you found a solution that you are comfortable with.

[00:08:56] OP responds to an exactly. The ring just bought all the other issues to a head. I'm too angry right now to be sad but there's no worse feeling when a man that claims to love you takes joy in manipulating you and bragging about what he did to people that know us both personally and in a professional place.

[00:09:13] An OP's final comment said, I did love him very much so.

[00:09:19] But there comes a point where enough is enough. Especially when it comes to something he knew I took very seriously.

[00:09:26] I can't be disrespected anymore. Some put in my foot down and making sure my decision sticks.

[00:09:34] And you know, I did see a few of those gold digging comments on there but like the comment said, it's much more about the ring itself.

[00:09:43] Starting their engagement on a huge lie like that, going to the point of buying a fake box on eBay and putting the ring in it telling your friends and almost making a joke about it at the same time is absolute madness.

[00:09:56] I think you're ever going to get away with that. We're spreading it around at work. Come on now especially when you work in the same place as well.

[00:10:05] Gee whiz, what do you guys make of this situation? Put yourself in OP shoes. How would you deal with it? Is that break up worthy for you or not? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story.

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[00:11:27] And our next story comes from honey bee 123321 it does come with an update as well titled 27 female I'm engaged to 44 male and my best friend of three years 39 male just told me he loves me.

[00:11:44] This is the throw away as I do not want it associated with my primary account also I know that this sub has a huge issue with large age gap so I'd like to point out that the age gap between my fiance and I is not the center of this post and I would appreciate if you kept your opinions about that to your sales please.

[00:12:02] Now some backstory I met my best friend Trevor 39 male and my fiance Burke 44 male almost five years ago when I was 22.

[00:12:13] And they were 40 and 34 they both work together and for privacy reasons I'm keeping their occupation a secret.

[00:12:20] But time at Burke first and we became good friends and then I met Trevor next was immediately infatuated with Trevor when I spoke quite a bit he went out on a few dates and I thought he felt the same way about me.

[00:12:34] But one day he dropped a bomb on me very basically told me he never felt anything for me other than the friendship and doesn't want to lead me on anymore.

[00:12:43] I played it call and pretended that I too only wanted friendship I laughed and said great bad were on the same page.

[00:12:50] I was bitter and spiteful at first but eventually I got over it and Trevor and I became best friends.

[00:12:57] Instead of avoiding him and cutting him out my pride got in the way and I didn't want to appear but hurt so I carried on like nothing happened.

[00:13:04] I have zero feelings for Trevor now but much better off being friends than lovers anyway.

[00:13:09] Before I only ever saw Burke when he was at work make a rhyme every time him and I had a running joke where I owed him a date.

[00:13:18] He gave me a lift home one day because it was raining and he said now you owe me dinner.

[00:13:23] After joking around about it for a few years one day I said heck with it Burke let's go get dinner.

[00:13:29] So we went out as friends and had a good time and we kept hanging out afterwards going out for call fee and dinner and to the beach then after a few months of hanging out I developed feelings for him.

[00:13:40] Apparently he also had feelings for me.

[00:13:42] One evening after a game of friends marathon we ended up having sex.

[00:13:46] Burke and I slept together for a few months and we weren't sure if our feelings were because of the sex or if we really did like one another.

[00:13:54] And we stopped with the sex and the feelings never left so we just decided to start dating.

[00:13:59] It's been pretty great ever since.

[00:14:01] We have had minimal problems and the ones we have had were easily resolved.

[00:14:06] Burke and I have been together for two and a half years, living together for one and a half years and engaged for almost a year.

[00:14:12] We're getting married in a month.

[00:14:15] Burke and Trevor have grown a bit closer since Burke and I got together and Trevor is even going to be one of Burke's groomsman in the wedding.

[00:14:21] I thought everything was perfect and we're all one big happy family.

[00:14:26] Now for my problem.

[00:14:28] Trevor and I went out for a walk last night and before we parted ways he told me he's in love with me.

[00:14:35] He told me that back then when we first met he didn't feel it at the time but as I've gotten older and matured and whatever, he suddenly realized that he made a mistake and thinks we are compatible and that I became the kind of woman he wants to date.

[00:14:49] But when he realized this Burke and I announced our relationship to the world.

[00:14:53] I told Trevor that this was the worst timing.

[00:14:56] I can't believe he did this to me.

[00:14:58] I'm getting married in a month and that this is totally messed up.

[00:15:02] I told me sorry but he had to let his feelings be known now before I get married.

[00:15:07] He said he also hopes that some part of me still wants him and then told me to take some time to process this and let him know my decision later on in the week.

[00:15:16] My decision.

[00:15:18] I still love Burke.

[00:15:19] He's the man I'm going to marry.

[00:15:21] All my feelings for Trevor left years ago as soon as I realized he was leading me on and never felt anything for me.

[00:15:27] I don't know what I'm going to do.

[00:15:29] This is going to change everything.

[00:15:31] Trevor and I will no longer be friends and our wedding is going to be one man short.

[00:15:35] Not to mention Burke and Trevor still work together and they have to interact with one another quite a bit at work and this is going to be such a mess.

[00:15:43] Part of me also feels like this is Trevor continuing to mess around with my head.

[00:15:48] He didn't want me back then so I moved on and now I'm getting married he wants what he can't have.

[00:15:54] I have no idea.

[00:15:56] I have to tell my soon to be husband but I don't know when or how.

[00:16:01] Like when he comes home from work do I just blur it out?

[00:16:04] Do I do it over supper?

[00:16:06] Do I do it before bed?

[00:16:07] I know that this is going to cause a pretty big awkward mess and I want to sort this out with minimal casualties as possible.

[00:16:14] Burke worked late last night so when he came home I already finished boiling my eyes out and I was fast asleep

[00:16:21] and when he woke up this morning I had a really left for work.

[00:16:25] It's 12pm here where I live and Burke will be home at 7pm.

[00:16:30] That gives me 7 hours to work this out in my head.

[00:16:33] I'm so upset right now, I just lost my best friend there's no way Trevor and I can continue hanging out anymore.

[00:16:39] Once I tell Burke he's most likely not going to like me continuing to talk to Trevor which is understandable.

[00:16:45] Sorry if this post is long and all over the place I'm just so stressed out.

[00:16:51] There was a couple of comments after that post so you know immediately regardless of what OP says people get to go on to the age gap.

[00:16:57] So OP does leave a comment about it says because an older man dating such a younger girl is seen as either A he has something wrong with him.

[00:17:06] B she has daddy issues or C a combination of both and the older guy wants to control the younger girl.

[00:17:12] It's foolish really.

[00:17:13] I'm glad my relationship gives you hope girl.

[00:17:16] I'm a bit of an old soul and I have to mature faster than most girls.

[00:17:20] So one of my friends were 18 and 19 drinking and having fun with their boyfriends I was living alone working full time to support myself while going to college.

[00:17:28] Guys my age just don't cut it for me anymore.

[00:17:31] The way I see it if you're both happier over the age of 19.

[00:17:35] Age is just a number.

[00:17:37] Someone mentioned about cutting off Trevor is best and OP says already planned on cutting Trevor out.

[00:17:42] This whole situation just breaks my heart because I didn't see it coming at all.

[00:17:46] And now I have to adjust to life without having my best friend around.

[00:17:50] And Burke has to deal with working next to a guy who try to steal his fiance.

[00:17:56] And in between you know people covering the age gap other people were saying that you just need to tell Burke right away because otherwise you know there's potential to damage your own relationship here.

[00:18:07] But OP does come in with an update and says so.

[00:18:10] I didn't get a crazy amount of attention on my last post but I still decided it deserved an update nonetheless.

[00:18:15] I'd like to thank you all for your comments they really helped.

[00:18:19] First I spoke to Burke that night.

[00:18:21] Came home from work and before we got too comfy I told him we needed to talk and then we sat down and spoke.

[00:18:28] I started telling him about the start of mine and Trevor's relationship because he didn't know how our friendship began.

[00:18:34] I then told him about how he confessed to be in love with me and how I have zero feelings for him.

[00:18:40] I love Burke and only Burke and he's the man I'm going to marry.

[00:18:44] But he didn't look too surprised.

[00:18:46] He said he had a feeling that something like this was going to happen because every time Trevor, Burke and I are in the same general area, Trevor always had this look on his face and seems annoyed and agitated in general.

[00:18:58] He always assumed Trevor was salty about our relationship together.

[00:19:01] Apparently it's common gossip around the workplace that Trevor wants a piece of Burke's woman.

[00:19:07] Burke also told me that he's kind of glad this happened in a way because part of him always worried that I had feelings for Trevor,

[00:19:13] always going to leave him for Trevor because Trevor is a bit closer to my age than he is.

[00:19:18] A message Trevor and told him that there was no choice and that I love Burke and I'm getting married to him next month.

[00:19:24] Trevor left me on red and removed me from Facebook almost immediately afterwards.

[00:19:29] I've seen him out in public a few times here and there but we never spoke, he wouldn't even look at me.

[00:19:35] After about a week or two he texted me and told me that he's sorry things had come to this.

[00:19:39] He was almost 100% certain that I still had feelings for him and that this was going to have a different ending.

[00:19:45] He told me he's kicking himself in the ass for dicking me around in the past and missing out on his chance with me.

[00:19:51] He told me if I changed my mind, I know how to contact him.

[00:19:55] I never applied.

[00:19:56] I feel closer to my fiance more than ever and we both decided to try for a baby.

[00:20:02] I've been thinking of asking Burke about starting a family for a while but I wanted to wait until after the wedding so I wasn't trying to squeeze my pregnant belly into a wedding dress.

[00:20:10] Not apparently who's having the same thoughts as I was.

[00:20:14] I took my last BCP on Saturday and we both been really busy putting in some last minute wedding plans and trying to make a baby.

[00:20:21] Thanks for your help Reddit, a piece of me still feels hollow because I just lost my best friend of five years and part of me wishes there was a different outcome.

[00:20:29] I could have both my man and my bestie in my life and things could go back to the way they used to be but I know that's impossible.

[00:20:36] But I'll be okay in the end.

[00:20:38] I wish I could invite you all to the wedding but sadly we're already full.

[00:20:42] After this one sharks for Park says I know a guy who did this with every woman he ever met but he didn't love them.

[00:20:48] Just the idea being in love with them.

[00:20:51] Oopie says I'm kind of negating the I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you vibes from Trevor to be honest.

[00:20:57] When I was single or secretly dating Burke he was just my good old buddy Trev.

[00:21:02] But as soon as we became open about our relationship we kept it in the dark pretty much right until we moved in together because of the fear of backlash over our age differences.

[00:21:10] Trevor started to get weird.

[00:21:12] Oopie comes in talking about the age gap again and says I was 22 and stewing college when I met Burke and I graduated since then obviously and I'm working full time now but still law.

[00:21:22] I get where most people are coming from with a whole age difference thing but for me age is just a number.

[00:21:28] Alongs you love each other and have a connection and one of you isn't taking advantage of the other and age doesn't matter.

[00:21:34] Hence the 17 age gap between my soon to be husband and I law.

[00:21:38] I was 25 and he was 42 when we started pursuing one another.

[00:21:42] Also I was the one who went after him not the other way around.

[00:21:46] When I was wrong with this sub law, large age gaps don't always equal that both parties involved have something wrong with them.

[00:21:52] Another comment saying we met when we were 22 and 39.

[00:21:56] We didn't start doing anything until I was 25 and he was 42.

[00:22:00] I instigated it because I liked him.

[00:22:02] He wasn't like a whole damn young woman to take advantage of and abuse.

[00:22:06] Let's hop on to that.

[00:22:07] No he was hesitant about being more than friends with benefits at first because of the age gap.

[00:22:13] And then stayed in the dark for a while afterwards but eventually got tired of hiding it and said the hell with it.

[00:22:18] Literally no one in our life had a problem with it.

[00:22:21] My parents are 5-8 years older than Burke and they welcomed him with open arms.

[00:22:26] Someone talking about on if she wasted her 20s and she said,

[00:22:30] I was never bored though.

[00:22:32] That's just how I chose to live.

[00:22:34] My friends used to give me a hard time about it, call me Grandma Dan or old lady Danielle.

[00:22:40] But didn't bother me really.

[00:22:42] While they spent their weekends hungover, I spent them reading a book or rock climbing.

[00:22:46] And I chose to experiment and have fun in my 20s by doing things that were exciting.

[00:22:51] I mean I guess I lied when I said I never drank.

[00:22:54] I drank like twice and I've been drunk once.

[00:22:57] I hated every minute of it.

[00:22:59] I chose to experiment and have fun by bungee jumping, flying a plane, hiking, exploring roadtripping camping, cliff diving, things like that.

[00:23:06] I don't think I'm gonna look back at my life and think I wasted any bit of it.

[00:23:10] I think I had a pretty good life.

[00:23:12] And that was OP's last comment on the account and last activity on the account in general.

[00:23:20] But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:23:23] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:23:27] And just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories,

[00:23:31] your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me.

[00:23:35] So thank you so much for being involved and hopefully I'll see you in the next one.

[00:23:40] Take care and much love!

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