Crazy Co-Worker Is Upset I Didn't Bring My Wallet To Pay For HER FOOD! r/Relationships

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[00:00:51] Much love guys. Now today I spotted this little bit of co-worker drama and I thought,

[00:00:55] oh, it's a bit different from what we're used to. So I thought we'd get involved.

[00:00:59] AccomplishedCod1527

[00:01:02] Crazy co-worker expects me to pay for her food.

[00:01:10] My co-worker basically had to leave the restaurant and go get her wallet,

[00:01:15] go back to the restaurant and pay because I lied and told her I didn't have my wallet.

[00:01:20] For some context, this co-worker makes less than I do, but not a lot less.

[00:01:25] Every time we go to breakfast or lunch, she left her wallet somewhere new. I have paid before and

[00:01:31] then I'll have to send her a Venmo request, which she sends back days or weeks later.

[00:01:36] Sometimes I've forgotten and she's always gotten away with it.

[00:01:40] I started to notice this and today she asked me if I wanted to go get breakfast with her.

[00:01:45] I told her I'd go with her, but had already had breakfast.

[00:01:49] Of course, when we sit down, she says, oh my God, I forgot my wallet.

[00:01:53] I said, oh my God, me too. LOL.

[00:01:56] I tell her to go get it from the car and she says she'll try Apple Pay.

[00:02:01] She eats and when time to pay comes, she asks if they use Apple Pay and they don't.

[00:02:07] I'm a very overprepared person and was embarrassed that she waited till she ate

[00:02:12] to ask that and we could have quickly walked to a car and gotten the wallet.

[00:02:16] Anyway, she asked me again if I'm sure I don't have my wallet, which

[00:02:20] I thought was weird and I said yes.

[00:02:23] The place let her come back a little later to pay since we showed them where we worked on the block.

[00:02:29] The whole way back to work, she went on about how embarrassing that was and said to me,

[00:02:33] you never have your wallet when I need it, which I was so confused.

[00:02:38] The sheer audacity.

[00:02:40] I said, excuse me? I always have my wallet or a form of payment, which is why we have been here

[00:02:47] and I've paid for you.

[00:02:48] That's crazy to say that to me when you never have your wallet and when I didn't eat.

[00:02:53] And she just looked like a deer in headlights.

[00:02:55] I was appalled.

[00:02:57] I genuinely think this woman may be cray after this.

[00:03:00] How can she, after eating on her own and not being able to foot her own bill,

[00:03:05] then turn around and tell me I never have my wallet?

[00:03:08] Edit.

[00:03:09] I didn't expect this to go semi-viral.

[00:03:12] Thanks for all the comments and advice.

[00:03:13] Just want to add a couple of points that I think are important.

[00:03:17] One, we're the only two women at the office.

[00:03:19] Our boss is rarely here and all other employees are remote.

[00:03:23] We basically just make sure the satellite office doesn't fall apart and

[00:03:26] get whatever our boss needs, like the mail, etc.

[00:03:30] So we have a lot of downtime.

[00:03:32] We don't even have to answer phones.

[00:03:34] We go to breakfast at a cafe nearby often since it takes us 20 to 30 minutes to eat

[00:03:39] and our boss encourages it.

[00:03:41] After these comments, I'll definitely be either eating alone or not going with her.

[00:03:46] Two, she may be this way with everyone because on her birthday,

[00:03:49] she posted a Venmo on Facebook and asked people to send gifts through there.

[00:04:11] Fairly cheap stuff, you know.

[00:04:13] But basically on there, you can order through the app.

[00:04:15] You can order all your food and stuff and table number.

[00:04:17] And I remember someone putting on Facebook once saying,

[00:04:20] oh, I'm at this restaurant and it's my birthday and I can only afford one drink.

[00:04:25] So if any of my friends or family would like to show their love and treat me,

[00:04:31] I'm at this table so like they could order for her and then pay through the app.

[00:04:35] Apparently she had like a bit of a history of doing this kind of thing as well.

[00:04:39] I just couldn't bring myself to do that, man.

[00:04:41] Holy moly.

[00:04:42] And like Opie said in this, the fact that, you know, she knew she didn't have a wallet

[00:04:47] but still was going to eat first and then I might try this other form of payment to see if it works.

[00:04:54] And ask if they do Apple Pay.

[00:04:55] Surely you'd confirm that before.

[00:04:57] Doesn't just sound shady as hell, don't they?

[00:05:01] But good bunch says, hmm, either you are way too nice or this is some kind of

[00:05:05] codependent relationship.

[00:05:07] You supported this behavior well beyond reason.

[00:05:09] How come?

[00:05:11] Opie says definitely both.

[00:05:13] I'm way too nice and there aren't a lot of people at this job so we just use each

[00:05:16] other for some small talk here and there so we don't go insane in the silence all day.

[00:05:21] Definitely not going to eat with her again.

[00:05:23] And after these comments, I may just mention to her that I think she's mooching next time

[00:05:27] she asked me to go eat with her anywhere.

[00:05:30] She's also one of those people who is always going through something.

[00:05:33] Though it took me a while to notice she's blatantly mooching off me.

[00:05:37] She knows I'm just lucky to have inherited my apartment from an uncle with no kids and

[00:05:41] I don't pay rent.

[00:05:42] Which makes me feel like she may have excused it to herself as she has more than enough money.

[00:05:47] But hey, I'm trying to save too and was born piss poor.

[00:05:51] My only asset is where I live.

[00:05:53] It's a one bedroom in a bad area.

[00:05:55] Also realizing as I type this that there was no reason I should have ever shared that with her.

[00:06:01] Left Click says I agree with this.

[00:06:03] Was a girl I went to junior high with who ended up going to the same college as me.

[00:06:07] It was nice to see a familiar face so I didn't think anything of it when we started meeting

[00:06:11] up in the lunch room.

[00:06:12] One day she asked me if I knew how much an energy drink was and I told her.

[00:06:17] She asked if I had an extra dollar so I gave it to her.

[00:06:20] Little did I know that dollar was like the gateway to the numerous times thereafter

[00:06:24] that she would ask me for money.

[00:06:26] She promised to pay the dollar back but that never happened.

[00:06:29] The most I gave her was $3 and her promises to pay back remained unfulfilled.

[00:06:34] I was more annoyed that seeing each other was about her asking me for money

[00:06:38] than a move towards genuine friendship.

[00:06:41] I started avoiding the area and either accepting invitations to eat off campus or

[00:06:45] eat somewhere else away from the vicinity of the lunch room.

[00:06:49] I did this for a while until one day I ran into her on the way to the student office.

[00:06:53] She stopped me and told me she hadn't seen me in a bit but she was short on money to

[00:06:57] use the vending machine.

[00:06:58] I don't know whether I was in a good mood or what came over me but I froze and said

[00:07:03] sorry I only brought enough money for myself, ask someone else.

[00:07:07] She had the nerve to press me and I told her I was sorry but I already told her I

[00:07:12] couldn't help her.

[00:07:13] The last image of her that I continued on my way was her just standing there with her

[00:07:17] mouth half open in disbelief.

[00:07:19] I'm not sure if she dropped out or switched schools because I never ran into her again.

[00:07:24] Opie says she has done this too.

[00:07:26] I keep my energy drinks in the office fridge and she'll ask for one and says she'll

[00:07:30] pay me and she doesn't.

[00:07:32] Thankfully it happened once and the second time I said no.

[00:07:35] Left click replies that and says good gracious.

[00:07:39] I love a good gracious, you've got a full blown mooch that you're associated with.

[00:07:45] I've seen suggestions in other threads about locked cooler lunch boxes.

[00:07:49] You can't trust this person around any of your stuff.

[00:07:52] Opie did come in with her update and starts off pretty intense.

[00:07:56] Says she got fired over the weekend because she sent an email to the wrong client enclosing

[00:08:01] a bunch of confidential agreements.

[00:08:03] This is not the first time she's gotten reprimanded before so I was not surprised

[00:08:07] since she and I both knew she was on thin ice with my boss.

[00:08:11] The most shocking part to me was that she immediately blocked me on all social media

[00:08:15] and text as soon as she left.

[00:08:18] Even though I stayed cordial with her since the last time we went to eat and wrote the

[00:08:22] post.

[00:08:23] So I definitely feel like even more of an idiot than I felt after the wallet comment.

[00:08:28] Can't believe I trusted someone for 4 years who was waiting for any second to remove me

[00:08:32] from my life.

[00:08:34] Let this be a reminder that co-workers are not friends.

[00:08:38] And the top comment on that one from shoot says maybe she knew you were talking shit

[00:08:42] on reddit.

[00:08:43] Opie says can't say that didn't cross my mind lol.

[00:08:48] And I kind of find that sad that someone's tainted that for Opie that co-workers can't

[00:08:52] be friends.

[00:08:53] And I imagine a few people will agree with Opie on that one but some of my best friends

[00:08:58] to this day were ex-co-workers actually thinking about it.

[00:09:02] The majority of them are.

[00:09:04] And I just kind of find it a bit sad that like I said it's been tainted for Opie.

[00:09:09] Maybe not, maybe Opie is just gonna be a bit more cautious which isn't a bad thing at

[00:09:13] the same time.

[00:09:14] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:09:18] Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:09:21] Have you ever had yourself a crazy co-worker story?

[00:09:24] Don't forget r slash mark narrations, share your little bit of drama right there, I'm

[00:09:28] all for it, give me that tea.

[00:09:30] And let's move on to another story.

[00:09:33] And our next story does have a couple of updates as well.

[00:09:37] It's from feelingworselda who says I25 male have a hard time finding girls to date because

[00:09:43] I want them to like the Legend of Zelda.

[00:09:47] And I'm sure the majority of people know the Legend of Zelda but just in case it's

[00:09:52] an action adventure video game you can see the majority of you now looking at me like

[00:09:55] we all know what that is but just in case, just in case, calm down alright.

[00:10:01] Hi everyone, this might seem like deja vu to you but that's because I made a thread about

[00:10:06] a month ago here that was very similar to this but I forgot what the throwaway account

[00:10:10] I used was.

[00:10:11] But basically I'm creating this thread because things have gone for the worse and I really

[00:10:15] badly need advice.

[00:10:17] So basically I seem to only be attracted to girls who are obsessed with the Legend of

[00:10:22] Zelda like me.

[00:10:23] A few weeks ago I met this girl in my class who is very sweet and quite honestly I feel

[00:10:28] like I might have a shot with her if I put in some effort.

[00:10:31] At first I felt like going for it however my brain came to its senses and figured she

[00:10:36] doesn't like Zelda then she's no good.

[00:10:39] And honestly I'm really sad by this.

[00:10:41] I know I make a big deal out of mentioning Zelda but I think that in general there is

[00:10:46] a bigger underlying problem.

[00:10:48] I'm part of a minority since my parents are immigrants in this country and for a few years

[00:10:52] I've gone for girls who were culturally similar to me.

[00:10:55] As in girls who grew up with the same culture and traditions as me, this was a big deal

[00:10:59] to me and I refuse to date outside of my culture.

[00:11:03] This was by the way completely my desire, my parents never pressured me into this.

[00:11:08] I feel it was part of my identity crisis that many immigrant kids go through growing up.

[00:11:14] Well I dated a few girls who were culturally compatible with me however things turned bad

[00:11:19] and in general I stopped caring for my parents culture so I decided that I no longer wanted

[00:11:24] to date girls from my parents culture.

[00:11:26] However without noticing it I must have replaced the cultural requirement with a gaming requirement.

[00:11:32] Now the girl had to share the same passion for Zelda as me since that gaming series meant

[00:11:36] a lot to me growing up.

[00:11:38] Basically what I think this is, is me being attracted to girls that have things in common

[00:11:42] with and not just any things, there has to be things that mean a lot to me.

[00:11:47] But if these requirements have meant that my dating pool is extremely small and honestly

[00:11:52] I wish I could stop thinking like this but I can't.

[00:11:55] For instance the girl I met in my class since we didn't have Zelda in common, the fear

[00:11:59] of later meeting a girl who does like Zelda will result in me getting really jealous and

[00:12:04] feel like I settled and could have gotten my dream girl, somebody with the same passion

[00:12:09] in common.

[00:12:10] I honestly don't know how to deal with this, it's not just something I can switch off,

[00:12:15] all I can think about is just meeting a girl who shares the same love for Zelda as me and

[00:12:19] I feel like that's the only way to get over this.

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[00:13:08] And

[00:13:29] obviously I don't want to diagnose or anything like that but it does sound pretty unhealthy

[00:13:33] the way that you described it in this particular post.

[00:13:36] But Dolomite says, have you talked to a counsellor about this?

[00:14:00] You mentioned going to class and many universities have free on-campus counselling.

[00:14:05] Maybe this is something for you to look into.

[00:14:07] On a more direct note, you will learn more from someone you differ from than you would

[00:14:12] from someone with the same life experience as you.

[00:14:14] You should embrace differences, not shun them.

[00:14:17] It can only serve to broaden your outlook.

[00:14:20] Opie says I guess that's true but I've come to believe that it's different strokes

[00:14:24] for different folks.

[00:14:26] Some people might see the appeal in others who are different from them but I can't.

[00:14:30] In fact, I'd rather stay single than be in a relationship with somebody who is different

[00:14:34] from me.

[00:14:35] It's just what appeals to me I guess.

[00:14:38] Kornberg says this is beyond Reddit's paygrade.

[00:14:41] If you want to stop obsessing over this and it's harming your ability to live a full

[00:14:45] life, it's time to see a professional counsellor or therapist.

[00:14:49] On the scale of the weird shit they've seen, I promise that you're nowhere close to someone

[00:14:53] who would freak them out.

[00:14:55] They're not crazy, you don't need to be committed to a hospital and you probably

[00:14:58] don't even need medication.

[00:15:00] What you're going through is much more common than you think.

[00:15:03] From what you've said, you're likely experiencing anxiety about dating or getting close to someone

[00:15:09] and are using your extremely specific partner requirements to avoid the risk.

[00:15:13] I used World of Warcraft to avoid confronting my depression and anxiety over dating after

[00:15:19] my boyfriend broke up with me in a very cruel way.

[00:15:21] It's not an uncommon response to complicated and scary situations.

[00:15:26] Talking to a professional help will help you figure out strategies that will help you cope

[00:15:30] with those emotions and will allow you to move past this problem.

[00:15:33] There's nothing wrong with preferring to date someone with common interests, but you're

[00:15:37] taking this preference too far and it's creating a wall between you and relationships with other

[00:15:42] people.

[00:15:42] And I gotta say, that's one of the things I absolutely love about Reddit.

[00:15:47] There's someone going through a similar situation or pretty much the same situation as OP in

[00:15:52] this in the comments.

[00:15:54] I find that incredible.

[00:15:55] But OP says, well, about using my requirements as an excuse.

[00:15:59] I did date a girl in the past who were into Zelda as well, and we were together for a

[00:16:03] year and was very happy in that relationship.

[00:16:06] We broke up because she ended up cheating on me.

[00:16:09] If I had to guess, I'd say I'm more than ready to be in a relationship.

[00:16:13] However, the thought of dating someone with nothing in common just seems unappealing to

[00:16:17] me.

[00:16:19] So OP comes in with her first update and says, a lot has changed since I made that update.

[00:16:23] Actually, I can't believe it has only been a week since I posted that.

[00:16:27] It feels like much longer.

[00:16:29] I started using Tinder.

[00:16:31] I figured I'd just see what it's like.

[00:16:33] Earlier today, I matched with this girl that I thought was cute.

[00:16:37] I know the chances of her liking Zelda is too slim to zero, but I'm trying so hard to

[00:16:41] push myself to send her a message.

[00:16:43] I read all your comments in my last post and I thought long and hard about them.

[00:16:47] I honestly didn't know what to say to most of them.

[00:16:50] I've considered all the advice I've received heavily.

[00:16:52] I'm just honestly feeling like having a panic attack.

[00:16:55] Maybe that's an exaggeration, but I'm scared of jumping into something that I will regret.

[00:17:00] What if I send her a message and we hit it off and she doesn't like Zelda?

[00:17:03] We have nothing in common.

[00:17:05] The thought freaks me out and I just don't know.

[00:17:09] On top of that, I keep thinking to myself that maybe if I wait it out,

[00:17:13] one girl who likes Zelda as well will come along.

[00:17:15] But if I settle for somebody else now, then I will never end up with a girlfriend who

[00:17:20] also likes Zelda.

[00:17:22] It's so stupid.

[00:17:24] All the things I just wrote are so stupid.

[00:17:26] I know it makes no sense at all, but I'm just literally freaking out

[00:17:30] and feel like I'm having a mental breakdown.

[00:17:32] Want to send this girl on Tinder a message or just meet any girl who doesn't necessarily

[00:17:37] like Zelda, but this is all freaking me out so much.

[00:17:41] Update 2.

[00:17:42] This will probably be my final update because at this point I don't feel like there's anything

[00:17:46] left to do or say.

[00:17:47] I can't imagine anyone giving any sort of advice to help me on my situation.

[00:17:51] So if anything, this is just more like closure for me.

[00:17:54] So to pick up where I left off earlier this week, I sent a message to the girl on Tinder.

[00:17:59] I tried to make a short and clever joke, but it backfired since she never replied back.

[00:18:04] So that was that.

[00:18:05] I know that 95% of all posts have told me to go to therapy.

[00:18:09] I finally made the call.

[00:18:11] Unfortunately, they told me there was a waiting list and that the earliest appointment I could

[00:18:15] get was in February.

[00:18:16] Please note, I don't live in America, so we don't really have fast therapists here.

[00:18:20] Or maybe I just haven't called the right people yet.

[00:18:23] Perhaps there are some therapists I'm supposed to call, but the organization that I was told

[00:18:27] to call told me that all therapists were completely booked.

[00:18:30] So that was that.

[00:18:31] I've come to the conclusion that there isn't much to do about this.

[00:18:35] I've joined a bunch of Facebook groups dedicated to Zelda and I'm trying to make friends there,

[00:18:40] both genders.

[00:18:41] If I ended up liking a girl there, then that's great.

[00:18:44] And I'd even be willing to do an online relationship and eventually move her to a place if it gets

[00:18:49] so far.

[00:18:50] My career is very flexible, so I can find jobs many places in the world.

[00:18:55] I don't know what else there is to say.

[00:18:57] I'm sorry for letting everyone down.

[00:19:00] So Opie comes in with what is the final update and says, guys, I think I'm cured.

[00:19:05] It was a strange event, but what the heck?

[00:19:07] It made me realize something.

[00:19:09] I was studying late at night in my room a few days ago.

[00:19:11] I have this shelf in my room with a bunch of Zelda collectibles and a really expensive Zelda

[00:19:16] figurine underneath it.

[00:19:17] 400 plus dollars.

[00:19:19] But guess what?

[00:19:20] As my luck would have it, Ikea shelf gave in.

[00:19:23] All my collectibles fell to the ground and the shelf knocked down my figure and destroyed

[00:19:27] it.

[00:19:28] Obviously a distressing moment for me, but it was also at that time I realized I need

[00:19:32] to perhaps chill with this hobby and that the hobby can still be mine without having

[00:19:36] to necessarily share it with a significant other.

[00:19:39] Of course, I would prefer it if she liked Zelda too, and it would definitely be a huge plus

[00:19:43] in my book.

[00:19:44] But if I fall in love with a girl who isn't into Zelda, I guess that's just how it's

[00:19:48] going to be.

[00:19:49] I'm honestly not going to worry too much about this to be honest.

[00:19:52] Have enough on my plate with studies as it is.

[00:19:55] Plus, gotta take some extra shifts at work so I can replace my broken statue and collectibles.

[00:20:01] Unfortunately, some of them can't be bought anymore, but oh well, such is life.

[00:20:05] Thanks everyone for reaching out to me and helping me.

[00:20:08] This has been an eye opener for me.

[00:20:11] I'm more than willing to date a girl who doesn't care about Zelda because honestly,

[00:20:14] if she's just there for me and makes me happy, I feel that is all I can ask

[00:20:19] However, if she happens to like Zelda too, then that's great.

[00:20:23] Not a requirement, just a plus.

[00:20:26] And there was a comment which Opie replied to about asking if this whole thing is real

[00:20:30] and Opie says

[00:20:32] So if I take pictures of the damage done to my collection and screwed up wall all with

[00:20:37] timestamps, is that going to prove anything?

[00:20:39] I find it funny how there's news about a Saudi prince who's been arrested in SoCal

[00:20:44] Forcing women to watch him have a guy fart in his face, yet me wanting a girlfriend who's

[00:20:49] into Zelda as well is apparently a lot more strange, so it has to be fake and a troll.

[00:20:55] But what?

[00:20:57] I really do hope for the best for this dude, but in the end, it didn't convince me that

[00:21:01] he's moved past whatever he's going through.

[00:21:04] It still felt like it was in there in the background, you know,

[00:21:06] he's still gonna buy Zelda figurines, he's still gonna be a part of these groups and

[00:21:10] it almost felt like to me anyway, like he was trying to convince himself.

[00:21:14] But whatever, I still hope that at some point in the future, he does get this professional help

[00:21:22] or find someone that isn't so busy so we can get some sort of professional help.

[00:21:27] But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:21:30] Bit of a different one there.

[00:21:31] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:21:34] And just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's

[00:21:38] stories, your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me.

[00:21:42] So thank you so, so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one.

[00:21:45] Take care and much love.

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