Bride Used OUR Bachelorette Money For Other Expenses r/Relationships

[00:00:00] Hey, hey, waffle gang, I do have your well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out

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[00:00:19] first story? Which comes from Dork Vader 23, and says,

[00:00:24] Ride made a profit on the Bachelor Etrip, Sister and Lord Drama, an OPs title straight

[00:00:31] away. I'm not gonna like it, I'm a little bit excited, it said so much tea. I'm glad

[00:00:37] I can spill to my Reddit community because I can't gossip about it to my family. So,

[00:00:43] about 6 months ago, the Bride Plander Destination Bachelor Etrip charged each of the 11 girls

[00:00:49] $650 for the Airbnb. I was salty about the high cost, but it's my sister and Lord, so I sucked

[00:00:57] it up and paid her. I was also suspicious about the high as fun price, so I did crosscheck

[00:01:03] the Airbnb listing and checked it out. Yes, this bee wanted a $2,300 a night each front house.

[00:01:12] Well, today I'm chatting about wedding stuff with my brother, who is marrying future sister and

[00:01:18] Lord. He said something along the lines of, what are relief her dad paid for the Airbnb because

[00:01:23] that would have been so expensive for your group. I about choked. He said, hey, are you sure

[00:01:29] about that? Because all 11 girls paid $650 for the house alone. Maybe run it by her?

[00:01:36] His face turned purple, so I take it he had no idea. Do add to the greed going on here?

[00:01:42] When I got married, I flew her out, paid for her accommodations, paid her hair and makeup,

[00:01:48] paid for a bridesmaid's dress, and paid transportation because she was going through a hard time.

[00:01:53] Now, she has the balls to steal from me. I get that weddings are expensive, but don't have one

[00:02:00] if it requires stealing from your bridesmaid. Assuming I'm the only bridesmaid who is aware of what's

[00:02:05] going on here, I'm not sure if I should spill to the group or just let it go. There's a chance

[00:02:10] her dad stepped in and paid for it after the fact, and she just chose not to refund us.

[00:02:15] I'm not clear on the exact situation, I want to avoid embarrassing my brother.

[00:02:21] Opie added the updates within the same post, so I don't want to mix up the comments in update,

[00:02:27] so we'll go straight to update 1 which says, thanks for all the advice and support.

[00:02:30] Yes, I agree with most of you who are saying I'm morally obligated to spill the beans because

[00:02:35] $650 is not child's play. This is what I'm going to do. First, I'm going to talk to my brother and

[00:02:42] give him a chance to clear it up with sister-in-law. Before I make a scene I want to understand

[00:02:47] what's really going on. For example, did daddy pay for the trip, but sister-in-law decided

[00:02:52] to put that towards a different wedding expense, things like that. That'll answer all

[00:02:57] determined when and how I'll tell the rest of the bridesmaid. I'm going to give my brother

[00:03:01] only one to two days because this trip is literally next week. Stay tuned for update 2.

[00:03:07] Update 2. Alright, so I regrouped with my brother. My mum also stepped in, bypassed my brother,

[00:03:13] and got some more info directly from her dad. Here's the tea. I love it when people say that.

[00:03:21] Future sister-in-law's dad did not offer to cover the cost into the few months after we all paid

[00:03:26] for the trip. This was after he found out the cost and was pissed that she chose a $2,300

[00:03:33] night house and asked us to pay. Apparently he threatened not to pay for the wedding if she

[00:03:38] added more expenses onto the wedding party. Turns out she originally wanted out of the moldeaves

[00:03:43] and he forbid her. According to my mum who chatted with him directly, he felt embarrassed when

[00:03:48] he heard about the Airbnb price and wanted to save face with my side of the family. So he gave

[00:03:54] sister-in-law about 7k to cover the cost of the house. She was supposed to refund this but obviously

[00:03:59] that never happened. This is where it gets good. So my mum went total FBI and learned that in addition

[00:04:07] to not paying us, sister-in-law didn't put the money towards a different wedding expense either.

[00:04:12] She doesn't have it. So where did it go? What did she spend it on? There was currently a full

[00:04:19] blown investigation going down between our two families right now. I've been asked by my mum not

[00:04:24] to learn the price-based just yet until we get the last bits of info and come to a resolution with

[00:04:30] both sister-in-law and her dad. But we'll tell them ASAP one way or another. We'll come back tomorrow

[00:04:37] with another update. Wow, crazy! Update 3. A plot thickens.

[00:04:46] OPs introduction, man. So as this drama is all unfolding,

[00:04:50] the maid of honor who doesn't they was going on yet is continuing her duties.

[00:04:55] We all get a four paragraph text from her outlining the dress code for each night of the

[00:04:59] Bachelor at. Further brides orders. Keep in mind the bride is asking us all to go out and buy new

[00:05:05] outfits for each night of the trip and the themes are wild. Animal print Thursday,

[00:05:11] faux fur Friday, sparkle dress Saturday and Barbie brunch Sunday. As if we're all going to go out

[00:05:17] and buy that shit one week before the trip or at all. Thankfully the brides may seem to be waking up

[00:05:23] to the BS. Several of them wrote back saying they won't be able to pull together those outfits in

[00:05:29] time and one flat out said it's just not going to happen. That's just a side story to the absolute

[00:05:35] shit show that is unfolding. My mum is very involved now and she's paid a decent chunk of this

[00:05:40] wedding as well and does not like that the bride is thrown around thousands of dollars from her dad

[00:05:45] as well as lying to the bridal party. She set up a meeting directly with sister-in-law to cut the BS

[00:05:52] and explain what's going on. She told sister-in-law she's going to inform the bridesmaid herself

[00:05:57] unless she gets a valid answer. At this point I'm just shoveling down popcorn with...

[00:06:03] ...waiting for the events to unfold. I will be back tonight with hopefully the final update.

[00:06:10] I think it's OP's excitement that Scott me really hyped up in this story. It's like here's the tea.

[00:06:16] Update 4, a Swan Ice sculpture. She used a 7k to book a Swan shaped ice sculpture and be

[00:06:24] displayed at the reception and didn't tell anyone. Turns out her dad banned her from adding any more

[00:06:30] extras to the wedding design because it was already so expensive and unnecessary.

[00:06:34] When he then moved her for the Airbnb, she thought she was being sneaky and kept it instead.

[00:06:40] She didn't even tell my brother this. He only found out that her dad decided to cover the Airbnb

[00:06:45] because those two went out for cigars one night and it came up. So that mystery is solved thanks

[00:06:50] to my mini FBI crew. Now the real questions remain. Whether fuck is my $650 and how to break the news

[00:06:58] to the other bridesmaids. How does the kindness of a soul? My mum is giving sister in law 24

[00:07:04] hours to confess to the bridesmaids and figure out how to pay us back our money because you know what

[00:07:09] I did not spend $650 on some damn ice. Have kids to feed, have builds to pay.

[00:07:16] It's taking everything in me not to text a bridesmaid group right now but my mum is trying

[00:07:20] to give sister in law one opportunity to do the right thing. This has been a roller coaster.

[00:07:26] I don't know if anyone here is still interested but let me know if I should post a final outcome

[00:07:30] with my bridesmaids in one last update. Lord have mercy. Update 5. Okay as promised,

[00:07:38] here's the latest tea served boiling hot. This is a long update and I'm going to try and get

[00:07:45] everything in. First, let's start with a bride's explanation to her family, myself, my mum,

[00:07:51] my brother, her fiance and her dad. She broke down crying saying that wedding planning has

[00:07:56] been getting into her head and she has been crushed under the pressure to have the perfect wedding

[00:08:02] which she felt couldn't go on without the alleged ice swan. I didn't buy her sob story.

[00:08:08] After this whole incident I think she is delusional controlling attention starving bridezilla

[00:08:13] who is using the wedding as a way to compete with other girls on Instagram. By the way her job

[00:08:19] is influencer if I didn't mention that yet. My brother took the bait, to be honest I don't even

[00:08:25] blame him. This says his future wife and he said he wants to help her with her mental health and

[00:08:31] get her back to a good place. He's disturbed by the situation but will continue to support her.

[00:08:36] The wedding is on for those who are curious. Next let's get into the matter of the missing 7k

[00:08:44] and whether we're getting our money back. The sad gut wrenching answer, probably not.

[00:08:49] But dad said he already paid the Airbnb cost once and he will not do it again. He said his daughter

[00:08:55] is 31 and needs to get herself out of her own mess and figure out how to make it right.

[00:09:00] She chained in that 7k is gone and asked how she would possibly pay us back. My brother refused

[00:09:06] to pay for her screw up. While I love that everyone is finally forcing this b to be an adult

[00:09:12] I would like my money back more. Unfortunately we're not going to get it unless she magically wins

[00:09:17] a lottery or gets a real job. For those that asked there is nothing we can do legally. We are

[00:09:23] willingly paid a fixed amount and we would have to move mountains and spend more cash to suit.

[00:09:28] Plus why she was incredibly shady and a terrible friend. She technically didn't do anything wrong

[00:09:34] that we could prove. Now on to the bridesmaid. After some threats from my mum sister and all

[00:09:39] finally broke down and contacted the bridesmaid in our group chat. She sent a text that made my skin

[00:09:45] crawl. It read, hey ladies you're my bridesquad so I feel compelled to share that my dad recently

[00:09:51] offered to pay for a bachelor at accommodations. However being that the wedding is so expensive

[00:09:56] I've decided to put his donation towards a wedding expense. I hope you all understand

[00:10:01] and I can't wait to party with you all next week. Opie continues, oh hell no. I immediately

[00:10:08] replied back making sure everyone knew the expense was an ice sculpture, an ice swung.

[00:10:14] Come on people. Many of them replied and expressed how they would have loved to use that 650

[00:10:20] for something more important. But ultimately no one is backed out. One of the girls started

[00:10:25] a side chat without the bride and asked if there is any chance of getting our cash back if we force

[00:10:30] sister and daughter cancel the reservation. Unfortunately since we're only a week out

[00:10:35] we aren't eligible for a refund. I decided to go through with the bachelor's

[00:10:39] or else it would be a literal waste of 650 dollars. As for myself, I'm in the same boat. I'd rather run

[00:10:47] myself over than go on this trip but 650 dollars is not a small amount and I can't fathom just throw

[00:10:53] and get down the drain. I haven't made my final decision yet if I do go who will solely be to

[00:11:00] avoid eating the 650 plus my airfare. I will not be doing any of the planned events or outfist

[00:11:05] or contributing even one dollar more. I have my own mini vacation as best as I can. I'm really

[00:11:11] upset that it seems like this crazy person is going to get away after all. Opie adds a mini

[00:11:18] update and says there are so many curious comments coming in so I want to keep you in the loop.

[00:11:22] More drama is unfolded among the bridesmaids. A side text without the bride popped off and we

[00:11:28] have all agreed to do the following. One, we'll be going on the trip but it is no longer a

[00:11:33] bachelor at trip. We will be taking personal vacations with our hubbies and significant

[00:11:37] others or staying at the property. We are forced into this beachfront mansion plus airfare so we're

[00:11:43] going to make the most of it. Two, we've all backed out of hosting and paying for the bridal shower.

[00:11:48] The bride will need to find another way to move forward if she wants to have it.

[00:11:53] We will attend this guest if she has it and we will not be gifting anything.

[00:11:57] Mother of the bride is absolutely furious. More on this later. Three, for letting the bride know

[00:12:04] she needs to cancel the ice swan. Trademarked and give us our money back.

[00:12:09] After some more research we doubt all of the 7k went towards the alleged swan because it doesn't

[00:12:14] seem likely they cost that much. I won't be back for a while because I want to save my next update

[00:12:20] for after the trip. Stay tuned. Holy moly as OPs says that tea is steaming it's boiling

[00:12:29] over at this point. I know there's a strarmer in someone else's life and I shouldn't be excited

[00:12:35] for it but if I'm being completely honest I can't wait to see what happens here. It sent me off

[00:12:40] investigating Airbnb prices, ice sculpture prices, bloody 100 cent of me by 50 by 25 can cost

[00:12:47] anywhere like 430 pounds. How big is this bloody swan?

[00:12:51] Or like OPs said it's not all going towards a swan maybe. What's going to happen in between

[00:12:56] are they just going to turn up to this Airbnb and then not greet her, not have any communication

[00:13:00] with her. Oh man I think this is going to get real spicy. I will certainly be keeping a look out

[00:13:07] for that update but what do you guys make of this situation? Holy tea let us know your thoughts

[00:13:14] in the comments below and let's move on.

[00:13:19] And our next story does have an update as well it's from vast fruit 7116 from the true off my

[00:13:26] chest subreddit. Before we do get into the story I want to give you a couple of warnings in case

[00:13:30] you want to skip it there probably would be the last story of this video but timestamps always

[00:13:34] down in the description anyway and along the timeline below. It does contain body shaming, body

[00:13:40] dysmorphia and mentions of eating this order as well. Titled I heard the nicest person I've ever met.

[00:13:49] This is a throw away as all people involved are avid redditors. I need to tell someone what I did.

[00:13:55] I feel guilty every single day for what I said 4 months ago and I do not know what to do in order

[00:14:00] to be able to move on and focus on my life. So I came here hoping that I can find my peace after

[00:14:06] writing this for complete strangers. I 30 male have a friend since childhood,

[00:14:11] walked 26 male. Clark married July 24 female two years ago. This summer Clark and July invited

[00:14:19] some of their friends including me to their new house in the mountains. They have a pool,

[00:14:24] a jacuzzi and a room for games in which there are some arcade games. We spent there one weekend it

[00:14:30] was amazing. In the first day I was talking to Clark and I told him I wish I would confident enough

[00:14:36] to go swimming. I was obese for my entire life but in the last year I managed to lose over 60

[00:14:41] kilograms. I went every day to the gym, I kept the strict diet and it was worth it. However now I

[00:14:47] have a lot of loose skin all around my belly. I told all of these to Clark and July ever heard us.

[00:14:54] She was very nice and said that my loose skin is the result of a very impressive journey so I should

[00:14:59] not feel ashamed of it. She encouraged me to go swimming if I wanted to and assured me that nobody

[00:15:05] is perfect. She even joked at a stretch mark that was more visible than my loose skin.

[00:15:10] The next day in the morning, Julie was the only one at the pool. She has extremely light skin and

[00:15:16] she only stays in the sun during early morning hours and late afternoon hours. I wanted to go swimming

[00:15:21] but I was reluctant to do this while she was there. She was again very supportive and even said

[00:15:27] she can go back inside if I wanted to be alone. I appreciated this but it did not seem fair so

[00:15:33] I just sat on the edge of the pool and talked to her. It was the first time I've ever been alone

[00:15:37] with her and I realized she must be one of the nicest people I know. During that week,

[00:15:42] every morning I woke up very early hoping that Julie would not be at the pool so I can go swimming

[00:15:48] and every morning she was there. At some point I just got rid of my T-shirt and started swimming

[00:15:52] in front of her. Her reaction was so nice. Not once she looked at my loose skin and she talked to me

[00:15:59] nothing happened. When she went back inside, she said in a very serious tone that I was right to

[00:16:04] be concerned and not want to be seen without my T-shirt. She said all the single girls would probably

[00:16:09] pass out if they saw me swimming. I laughed and thanked her for her support and kindness.

[00:16:15] During the last day, I was talking to Julie and thanked her again. She said she felt concerned

[00:16:20] and anxious about her body for many years but Clark helped her and now she feels more confident

[00:16:26] than ever. I looked at her and just saw all her flaws. She was overweight,

[00:16:30] hailed like a vampire and not a single feature was beautiful or appealing. She looked so common

[00:16:35] like a background character in a very underwhelming movie. In that moment my big stupid mouth

[00:16:40] just said to her what my brain thought without any filter. I figured that if you're confident enough

[00:16:46] to wear a swimsuit I should also feel confident. I mean you did not even go to the gym and you're

[00:16:51] not on any diet but you're having fun no matter what people think about you.

[00:16:56] I saw a smile fading away and she suddenly looked so sad. She said I was right and walked away.

[00:17:03] Immediately, I felt so stupid for what I said. She was nice and kind and in return I told her

[00:17:09] she should not be so confident in her body. She showed me a lot of support and I hurt her.

[00:17:15] I apologise that day many times but each time she just said it was okay.

[00:17:20] She never told Clark anything as he acted the same towards me which is even worse because it

[00:17:25] means she's even nicer than I thought. Since that day I saw Julie in a few times and each time

[00:17:31] I apologise. However, she is still cold with me and doesn't speak with me at all if we are alone.

[00:17:37] Tomorrow, I will meet her again for Christmas. I bought her a present. A book she really wanted but

[00:17:43] could not find it anywhere. I just hope after I give her the present she will forgive me. Or at

[00:17:48] least she will see how much I regret my words. This one literally had me go what the fuck in the

[00:17:54] middle when you said you've met like the kindest person you've ever met someone who's treating you

[00:18:00] with compassion, kindness, you know trying to boost you and then you came out with that comment

[00:18:06] about seeing all her flaws and that is just I didn't know what to make of that. I was like what the

[00:18:14] fuck. I just can't get how words like that can slip out of your mouth and I'm talking about

[00:18:18] where he says I figured if you're confident enough to wear a swimsuit, I should feel confident.

[00:18:24] I mean, and I just don't think there's any coming back from that.

[00:18:28] I mean you'll be extremely lucky if she does turn around and start talking but the keep chasing it

[00:18:32] now it just feels like you're doing it for your own sort of benefit if you like. But OP did update

[00:18:37] the post. A lot of comments said pretty much the same thing here. Some people even saying that you know

[00:18:43] he knew what he was saying from the very start. OP said I do not know exactly how to link my previous

[00:18:49] post but I heard a nice, in-kind woman. Julie with a very rude and unnecessary comment about her

[00:18:55] appearance. I said sorry multiple times and for Christmas I bought her a book that she really wanted

[00:19:00] but could not find anywhere. This brings me to the events that took place at Christmas dinner.

[00:19:05] First I want to say that I cannot cut contact with Julie as many suggested in my previous post

[00:19:10] because our husband Clark is my childhood best friend. So we had our annual Christmas dinner.

[00:19:16] We were 16 friends and we gathered at one of our common friends house. I said hi to Julie and Clark

[00:19:22] and we started talking. Julie was still cold so I asked if I can talk a bit to her. She was

[00:19:27] reluctant but Clark who doesn't know about what I said to Julie in the summer excused himself

[00:19:32] and left us alone. I gave her the book and I told her I regret what I said and I understand that

[00:19:37] she never wants to talk to me again but I cannot cut contact with them as Clark is still my friend.

[00:19:43] I said that I was and I still am struggling with my own image and self hatred. I'm currently in

[00:19:48] contact with a therapist and will start therapy sessions in January. In order not to hurt other people.

[00:19:55] I apologized again and I said I never want to hurt her as she is the nicest person I've ever met.

[00:20:01] Checked except in my gift but told me that my words not only hurt her deeply but also made her

[00:20:05] struggle again with an eating disorder. When I said those things to her she was actually having a good

[00:20:10] relation with food and she was going to the gym. When I told her she did not look like having a diet

[00:20:16] or doing sport she relapsed and could not eat properly for a few weeks, losing a lot of weight.

[00:20:22] She told me she always thought highly of me because of all the things Clark had said to her.

[00:20:27] This is why my words affected her so much. She said she was happy to know that

[00:20:32] I will address my problems with a specialist and insisted that our next discussion should be after

[00:20:37] at least five sessions. She ended by telling me that she wants our relation to be as before but I

[00:20:42] need help and she needs time to figure out how not to be mad at me. We did not talk much after this

[00:20:48] but when I was leaving she said goodbye and even shook my hand. I think we're on the right path

[00:20:54] and I may be having her back as my friend. Wow. Now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:21:01] What do you guys make of this situation? Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:21:08] Now just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories,

[00:21:11] your love, your support, your time. Always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much

[00:21:17] and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love.