Best Mans Girlfriend Is Making Him Choose Between Our Wedding And A Dog r/Relationships

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[00:00:55] Now today's first story comes from disastrous day three seven five one from the am I the asshole subreddit and is titled

[00:01:01] Am I the asshole for being mad at the best man's girlfriend for making him choose between a dog an hour wedding?

[00:01:09] And it says my fiance male 29 and I female 26 got engaged last October after six years together and planned to marry this October.

[00:01:20] We both have a very complicated family so we thought a lot about our wedding and decided that we just want peace and don't want to worry about all the family drama.

[00:01:30] So we plan to get married in Italy with only our best man and made of honor.

[00:01:35] There's only a four hour drive to a small city we once discovered on a road trip.

[00:01:40] We invited my maid of honor slash his best man to the wedding.

[00:01:44] Call him Mike, male 29 and told him that they could bring their significant other also.

[00:01:50] The trip would be fully paid and Mike is my fiance's best friend since kindergarten.

[00:01:55] Mike's girlfriend let's call her Courtney female 28 and him are together for three years.

[00:02:01] We were very welcoming towards her and I befriended her also.

[00:02:05] We did a lot of things together out the move and build their home.

[00:02:09] Mike and Courtney are getting a dog hopefully in September.

[00:02:13] Don't Mike told us he needed a different hotel because the one we chose is not dog friendly and at the time of our wedding October they would probably have the dog.

[00:02:23] We apologized and looked for another hotel.

[00:02:26] Any text that Courtney thinks the dog wouldn't make the long drive which we understood.

[00:02:31] We said that there are probably a lot of friends and family who could take the dog but Courtney doesn't want that.

[00:02:37] Mike told us that Courtney would probably stay home with the dog and he would travel alone.

[00:02:43] Here comes the drama.

[00:02:44] The following day Mike wrote us that he will not come to our wedding because Courtney doesn't want to be alone with the dog for the weekend

[00:02:51] and she also would like to attend the wedding.

[00:02:54] Courtney wrote to me that we could change our wedding month or the place.

[00:02:58] Maybe just a wedding in our hometown so that they would come.

[00:03:03] I said no.

[00:03:04] If we married in our hometown the families would want to attend and all the drama between parents and siblings stress us out.

[00:03:11] My fiance asked Mike again if he couldn't come alone and he finally told us that Courtney threatened to end their relationship

[00:03:18] if he doesn't stay with her and the dog.

[00:03:21] My fiance was absolutely sad and disappointed told Mike his feelings.

[00:03:26] He's normally not over emotional but that was hard for him.

[00:03:30] Courtney wrote me the following day as if nothing has happened and I told her that I'm absolutely disappointed in her

[00:03:36] and can't understand her behavior and how she puts this dog who is in absolutely no danger or need to have two people dog sitting in.

[00:03:45] Over our wedding and kind of expected her to apologize for all the stress she put us through.

[00:03:50] She called me insensitive and an offensive person, a bridezilla who wants her wedding above everything

[00:03:57] and said she couldn't accept my behavior even if I apologized.

[00:04:00] I just can't comprehend why I should apologize.

[00:04:04] I feel like I can express to friends if I'm disappointed and I absolutely didn't write anything offensive.

[00:04:11] Open their mentions that English is not their first language or apologies for any of the mistakes

[00:04:15] and then says edit to, to clarify there is no dog yet.

[00:04:19] They talked to a breeder.

[00:04:20] He said that if his dog mama gets pregnant and has more than three babies they would get one in September.

[00:04:27] Now this is one of those stories that made me instantly think I wonder what's going on in the

[00:04:32] background in that relationship that she's threatening to end the relationship if he doesn't stay with her

[00:04:39] and the dog yet the dog isn't even there yet the dog isn't even in this world yet it's all a

[00:04:45] hypothetical situation and it's one of those situations I wouldn't be bowing down to any of

[00:04:52] those demands from her etc. You know you can't attend that's up to you but at the same time I

[00:04:57] feel like I think I'd be saying to Mike in some kind of subtle way is everything okay and of

[00:05:03] course I don't think OP has to do that but it's I think it's something that I would do

[00:05:08] that's a couple of relevant comments someone says Courtney is out of line and not worth knowing

[00:05:12] OP says okay thanks I really couldn't understand her either and started doubting myself

[00:05:17] my birthday is in two weeks and I wrote Mike that I don't want her to attend because

[00:05:21] I'm too mad about all that and he wrote me back that she said she doesn't want to see me or my

[00:05:27] fiance for the next months even if I apologize so I guess not seeing her will be an easy thing

[00:05:34] someone says what I can't they just postponed getting the dog for a month

[00:05:38] OP says they want to get the dog from a breeder who says it's mandatory to get the dog after 12

[00:05:43] weeks or someone else would get the dog so when I'll say his weight so the dog isn't even pregnant yet

[00:05:50] and they don't know how many puppies she'll have OP says yes you are absolutely right maybe

[00:05:55] I should have made that more clearer a the dog is not even pregnant and b they don't know if there

[00:06:01] are enough babies for them to get one their priority for that's why I wrote they will hopefully

[00:06:07] get one in September because it's not even clear if it's happening

[00:06:11] yes they talk to a breeder and he put them on the list the dog is not even pregnant but if she

[00:06:16] gets pregnant and if she has more than three babies they would get a dog in September a lot of ifs

[00:06:22] and think is about money everything will be fully paid by us and I really don't think we gave

[00:06:27] her any reason to hate us but I don't know someone says this just makes a argument even worse

[00:06:34] OP says yes if I wouldn't feel so sorry for my fiance and a little bit for Mike would find

[00:06:40] it absolutely justified and funny if they don't get a dog maybe Mike would wake up about this shitty

[00:06:45] choice if he missed our wedding and didn't get a dog so he just have to sit at home alone with

[00:06:50] Courtney while we're having a blast in Italy some info on Mike and Courtney OP says yes

[00:06:57] we did tell Mike that we are not changing anything now he told us that he won't come to our wedding

[00:07:02] he's sad about it but doesn't want to break up with Courtney they recently built a house together

[00:07:07] and she talks all the time about children so it's pretty serious between them

[00:07:12] my fiance and I don't even know what to feel about all that

[00:07:18] and little side comment there but that when it was talking about children as far as I thought

[00:07:22] bloody out now I absolutely love dogs I absolutely love poppy but you know it's responsibility

[00:07:28] dogs and children at the same time that sounds like taking on a hell of a lot of responsibility

[00:07:33] all at the same time I know people do it all the time but holy moly couple in the top comments from

[00:07:39] the post who Boba saw Ranch says well what the fuck that girl is way out of line that's some

[00:07:45] crazy behavior there is zero valid reason Mike can't attend he's pretty spineless to himself to

[00:07:51] allow her to dictate his plans like this Courtney is the kind of person not worth knowing

[00:07:56] I begin to exclude her from everything but continue to invite Mike to things eventually he will

[00:08:01] realize that she is preventing him from doing things not the arsehole youth in age 63 says oh dear god

[00:08:10] opi tell mucking Courtney you'll be getting married as planned and staying at your chosen

[00:08:13] motel as planned and if Mike would like to have a free getaway and stand up for his long time best

[00:08:19] friend he would love for him to come but if he can't he will be replaced

[00:08:24] you don't have to care if Courtney comes Mike seems to like her but she sounds unreasonable and

[00:08:30] angry I wouldn't be upset at all if she didn't come you're trying to have an easy wedding

[00:08:35] this is almost an elotement if Mike and Courtney can't get on board with your plans you can move

[00:08:40] forward without them your wedding isn't about their more the dog they might have adopted by your

[00:08:46] wedding date and how the dog can't be left with a caretaker for a couple of days because the girl

[00:08:50] for an of your fiance's best friend can't bear to do that I roll my eyes not the arsehole death

[00:08:57] and taxes says not the arsehole and I feel a bit sorry for Mike to be honest I didn't even have a

[00:09:02] dog yet I think even looking for another hotel so that their currently nonexistent dog could travel

[00:09:07] with them was incredibly accommodating of you there are several solutions available to them waiting

[00:09:13] get a dog after the wedding have a family member dogs it put the dog into kennels I've

[00:09:18] Courtney stay home with the dog but the only solutions Courtney feels acceptable would be for

[00:09:22] Mike to miss his best friend's wedding where he has to be best man offer you to completely change

[00:09:27] your wedding dates or venue to accommodate their currently nonexistent dog you have nothing to

[00:09:32] apologize for there is something else going on with Courtney I really hope that Mike does go

[00:09:37] to the wedding because I think you will regret it later if he doesn't and a commenter says I

[00:09:41] don't feel sorry for Mike he can choose like everyone right now Courtney forces into an ultimatum

[00:09:47] he has to figure out where he stands so Opie comes in with an update and says we discuss sending

[00:09:54] this thread to Mike but decided ultimately against it as he first wanted to talk to Mike himself

[00:10:01] before revealing that I posted this whole thing on the internet they met in secret

[00:10:05] Courtney was a work and Mike broke down crying it's been super stressful for him

[00:10:11] he asked his family especially his mum to dog sit but Courtney declined

[00:10:16] his mother was furious that he would miss my fiance's wedding she loves him but Courtney told her

[00:10:21] that she had changed her mind and decided to let Mike go but then I wrote her an offensive

[00:10:27] and mean message so they decided against it Mike lost it at that and told his family that

[00:10:32] she had never allowed him and that my message wasn't mean at all he really told her that he wants

[00:10:38] to go and she should just live with that she cried a lot and he felt bad my fiance told him that

[00:10:44] he asked another friend of them who has a little child to come and he said yes

[00:10:49] his wife even asked us if we wanted her and the baby to come you would understand if that's too much

[00:10:55] but we're happy to also invite them Mike cried after hearing this and realized that

[00:11:00] he will not attend our wedding now because of Courtney they Mike wrote my husband that

[00:11:05] courtly told him that she was overreacted him because she had the feeling he wouldn't value the dog

[00:11:10] and that it's a good practicing for a baby she doesn't want to apologize to us but would accept

[00:11:16] if he goes to the wedding I think Mike's family made it very clear that they think she's crazy

[00:11:22] for this and she wants to be viewed as a good person my fiance said that he won't change that

[00:11:27] back and that Mike sadly will miss the wedding because we can't be sure that there is no more drama

[00:11:32] with Courtney I know that this is hard for my fiance but he hopes that Mike realizes now what

[00:11:38] Courtney will cost him now and the future thanks for all the good wishes I'm hoping to be married in

[00:11:44] Italy this October without Courtney and one of the top comments on this was like that they feel

[00:11:51] so afraid for OP that they didn't want any wedding drama with their family so they was only having

[00:11:56] like two attendees to go and then there's a bunch of drama over a hypothetical dog

[00:12:03] and I think they made absolutely the right choice to go ahead with the wedding without them

[00:12:07] because you know you just don't know what's going to happen in the future and you might get involved

[00:12:11] in more drama and you just don't need that for your wedding I still stand by the fact that

[00:12:17] you know the door if they themselves are open to it of course leaving the door open for Mike

[00:12:21] and hoping that one day he realizes what he is going through what he is losing by being with Courtney

[00:12:28] because for me in this there's some serious manipulation at play here and we've seen it in a lot

[00:12:34] of relationship stories where abusive people isolate people from their families and their loved ones

[00:12:41] obviously I don't know the four ends and outs of the relationships but you know it certainly

[00:12:45] felt that way to me so whenever I see comments like you know much a grower spine etc etc I always

[00:12:50] think it's very easy to say like when we're reading a story like that you know everything's not

[00:12:55] that simple is it you know we don't know the full ends and outs of what Mike is going through

[00:12:59] in the background we don't know what's normalized for him which I know some folks might disagree

[00:13:05] with me on but I really do hope at the same time that you know they have a great wedding but I also

[00:13:11] hope that Mike gets some kind of support that he truly needs but what do you guys make of this

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[00:14:29] and our next story comes from pizza throw away from the amideasal subreddit does have an update

[00:14:35] and says amideasal for making my niece eat leftovers while others had pizza my 39 male sister-in-law

[00:14:42] 31 female had a bachelor at party on saturday i volunteered to babysitter daughter Tami

[00:14:49] late name nine female my wife's cousins kids nine male and seven female at my place while my wife

[00:14:56] 37 female her sister and their cousin went to the party also present were my own kids 11 male

[00:15:03] seven female and two female you keep it up for dinner we decided to have pizza i made the order

[00:15:11] now i still don't really get what happened but the order was taking forever and i wasn't able to

[00:15:16] contact the delivery guy the pizza place wasn't helping either after waiting for 90 minutes i decided

[00:15:23] to cancel the order and pick a different restaurant the reason i'd waited so long to cancel was because

[00:15:29] this was both my daughters and Tami's favorite pizza place i managed to get my daughter to support

[00:15:34] the new restaurant by telling her they put ketchup on the pizza don't kill me but Tami was insistent

[00:15:41] in the first one she had a crying fit while we're placing the new order even after she calmed down

[00:15:47] she was still grumpy and short with the rest of us at first me and the kids made the efforts to

[00:15:52] cheer her up but then she started telling us to shut up or leave her alone whenever we tried

[00:15:59] throughout the way to remind Tami and the other kids that if they didn't behave

[00:16:03] they wouldn't eat the pizza she's still complaining about the new restaurant multiple times

[00:16:08] when the pizza finally arrived Tami opened the box and said i'm not eating that shit

[00:16:14] pulling more like she said that in front of the younger three at that i put left over chicken

[00:16:19] pastor in the microwave and told her that was their dinner she started crying saying she wanted

[00:16:25] the pizza and would behave herself but i held my ground Tami didn't eat any of the pizza but

[00:16:30] all the others did my sister and Laura's calling me unfair and cruel for forcing Tami to have

[00:16:35] leftovers were the other kids ate pizza she's also accusing me of favoring my wife's cousins kids

[00:16:42] and my own and then insisting that there were better punishments that didn't involve excluding Tami

[00:16:47] my wife's completely on my side her cousin is on the fence and i the arson edit to clarify the

[00:16:55] pizza arrived at 830 the kids had snacks at 6 and a large group of lunch before that so none of

[00:17:03] them were hungry edit to some people seem to think that this party slashed social gathering for

[00:17:08] the kids it wasn't i was babysitting i was the only adult responsible for them also Tami is

[00:17:15] neurotypical and once she told us to leave her alone we did just that so there was a comment about

[00:17:21] Tami's language you know he says from what i gather Tami knows what words like that mean

[00:17:27] and that she's not supposed to say them i think that was the nail in the coffin for me someone says

[00:17:32] what did others say was a more reasonable punishment hope he says my sister-in-law suggested that

[00:17:37] i could have told her about it after she picked up Tami and she would have figured something out

[00:17:42] yes sister-in-law wanted me to give the pizza and let her deal with Tami later knowing my sister-in-law

[00:17:47] i'm not sure that would have actually happened someone says it's Tami close to her mom soon to be

[00:17:52] spouse which should be upset about something else hope he says i have no way of knowing for sure

[00:17:58] but i really don't think that's the case he's very excited about the wedding a behavior on saturday

[00:18:04] wasn't completely had a character but it was a severe escalation my sister-in-law's fiancé has been

[00:18:10] in tami's life since she was three is the only paternal figure she has and there was a lot of people

[00:18:15] confused about the ketchup and think that Tami didn't want ketchup if he says you do realize

[00:18:21] there's nothing to do with my question right i know for a fact the kids like ketchup on pizza but

[00:18:26] the only reason i told my daughter that was to get her excited about the new pizza that the kids

[00:18:31] this wouldn't have been a bad thing and even if i thought my daughter might tell the other kids

[00:18:35] i was with them at all times i know she didn't and then there were some grumpy downvoted people

[00:18:41] trying to blame OP for things here's some of his answers to those hope he says okay

[00:18:46] your comment was the latest one so let me take this opportunity to make some things clear

[00:18:51] the kids did have access to food and drinks while waiting if they were hungry they could eat but no

[00:18:56] one was hungry i did have planned activities we watched movies we played ball games the younger girls

[00:19:02] even did my hair the kids had fun the only thing that went wrong was the pizza delivery i don't

[00:19:08] expect praise for babysitting they barely even consider it that after them at my own kids i said

[00:19:15] it wasn't a party slash social gathering because it wasn't and the idea it might be could lead to

[00:19:20] someone to look at the situation differently you're i can imagine the shock when a nine-year-old turns

[00:19:25] around and says that and when this pizza turns up holy moly i don't know if i feel like i'm

[00:19:31] wrong in saying it but i don't think that was an unreasonable punishment you know she said it

[00:19:36] shit so don't have it it's not like you starved her you made us something else she's just

[00:19:40] not getting the treat that you bought for everyone and i just don't think it's the harshest

[00:19:45] punishment in the world you know you're gonna say it shit fine don't have it and there was a bunch

[00:19:50] of other youngsters there at the same time which you know just isn't great behavior in front of them

[00:19:57] so OP kindly comes in with an update around two weeks later and says hey reddit

[00:20:02] has been almost two weeks since i posted i can now say that the situation has been resolved

[00:20:08] first of all i want to state that i always knew this was a parenting problem we love my wife sister

[00:20:14] but she's not a great person she's loud abrasive and occasionally selfish sister and all

[00:20:20] also have the mouth of a say there she shares that last trait with both my wife and their mother

[00:20:24] but unlike them she can't control herself in inappropriate settings she doesn't swear around young

[00:20:30] children unless taught Tammy that swearing is bad but doesn't punish or berator for doing so

[00:20:36] sister and Laura's part of the kids plus swearing equals comedy squad so she usually just laughs

[00:20:42] well also an honouring member of that squad there's a time and place for that which is why i was appalled

[00:20:48] at those who said Tammy's actions were normal behavior for a nine-year-old it's not

[00:20:53] at part i already knew was rude my question was whether i was right to deny a pizza over it

[00:20:59] but after reading your comments i've concluded i did the right thing

[00:21:02] some of you advised me to refuse the babysit Tammy from now on i decided i wanted to give sister and

[00:21:08] Laura and Tammy an opportunity to apologize first my wife called her sister and told her that neither

[00:21:13] me or her would agree to babysit Tammy again without an apology sister and all didn't think they had

[00:21:19] anything to apologize for it had a long discussion over the phone it stopped when sister and

[00:21:25] law called their mother who took my and my wife's side mother and law agreed that we had every right

[00:21:30] to refuse to host someone who didn't respect us in our home as when sister and law finally

[00:21:35] apologized to us Tammy doing the same soon after i have no interest in blowing things out of

[00:21:41] proportion so both apologies have been accepted sister and law's wedding is later this month and

[00:21:47] we're all attending i don't want people to think that my niece and sister and Laura bad people

[00:21:52] they can be difficult at times but we love them both so both me and my wife have agreed to

[00:21:58] continue babysitting Tammy on occasion with history repeats itself or it has a thight to nip this in the

[00:22:04] bud the main piece of advice i'm following from your comments is two while babysitting free everyone

[00:22:10] the same but how will everyone to the same standards as my own kids this what i did with a pizza fiasco

[00:22:17] and i continue to do it in the future on a lighter note we live in latin america and the overwhelming

[00:22:23] surprise at some details i shared in my post including military time and ketchup on pizza yes i know

[00:22:29] it's awful but it's popular with some kids around here who is definitely interesting

[00:22:35] someone called opiate i said that you'll say and sister and law isn't a great person just because

[00:22:39] she swears opiate says i say sister and law isn't a great person because she selfish abrasive and

[00:22:46] i have no problem with her swearing that much again my wife does too but i do have a problem with doing

[00:22:51] so in an impolite or rude manner i don't call the food shit and still expect to have it

[00:22:57] an opiate about the ketchup again then my daughter's godmother is italian pretty sure she wants to

[00:23:03] murder me whenever she sees my kid putting ketchup on pizza i got to make a confession to you guys as

[00:23:12] well i've done that once as well i put ketchup on a pizza it was only because i went to the local

[00:23:16] shop and i was so hungry and i bought like the quad cheese pizza and it was just too much cheese man

[00:23:22] i couldn't get down needed some ketchup where that wasn't too bad to be fair but now i'm going

[00:23:27] to turn this one to you guys what do you guys make of this situation what do you think about ketchup

[00:23:33] on pizza oh dear hide from the comments let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

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