Best Friend Spilled Red Wine On My Wife's Wedding Dress r/Relationships

[00:00:00] Hey, what's up, I'm Mark Narrations.

[00:00:08] And today we're checking out some more Reddit stories.

[00:00:19] This is a story, much love guys.

[00:00:21] Now today's first story comes from a throw away account from the relationship advice

[00:00:26] subreddit and says, my wife, female 32 recently had wine spilled on her by my best friend,

[00:00:33] email 31 during hour wedding.

[00:00:36] Now she's demanding that I, mail 33 cut ties.

[00:00:41] Me and Ali met through a mutual friend in 2012 during a pub quiz at university.

[00:00:47] I was quite attracted to her and actually told us so at the end of the evening,

[00:00:52] but she told me she had a boyfriend even though she was flattered all the same.

[00:00:57] Passed forward three years later, I met Eliza at the Edinburgh Fringe which is a performance

[00:01:03] arts festival and we just clicked immediately.

[00:01:06] Politics, music, cinema, whatever the subject approached, it was a spark that I'd never felt

[00:01:11] with anyone else.

[00:01:13] Like she just made sense with me.

[00:01:16] That personality was just vivid.

[00:01:18] It's hard to describe, but I'll try.

[00:01:21] On first impression she was so knowledgeable and enthusiastic.

[00:01:24] I was taken aback by her intensity.

[00:01:27] From that point onwards we were inseparable and I was dead certain of our future together

[00:01:32] long before we got engaged.

[00:01:34] Enter Ali again.

[00:01:36] I started a new job at an advertising firm with a position in web design and she was

[00:01:40] one of the only people I knew.

[00:01:43] At first it was a little awkward given our history, especially considering that she was

[00:01:47] now married to the boyfriend she was dating back then.

[00:01:51] But there was no one else I knew at the firm and we both had partners at this point so it

[00:01:55] couldn't hurt to be friends right.

[00:01:57] And to be honest, I'm glad because I feel like our chemistry as friends superseded any

[00:02:02] potential we might have had as a couple.

[00:02:05] She's clever and has a bit of a cheeky personality.

[00:02:07] I'm quite dry and sarcastic myself so I reckon we have a pretty fun dynamic.

[00:02:12] Eliza doesn't seem to feel that way though.

[00:02:16] Sometimes when it's been the three of us she has expressed a feeling of being left out

[00:02:20] all that Ali has been making fun of her.

[00:02:23] And see it, it is just our dynamic but there have been a couple of nights where Eliza

[00:02:28] has been in tears because of something that Ali has said.

[00:02:32] One time Eliza got out of her seat and Ali sat down where she was sitting to show me

[00:02:35] a video on YouTube.

[00:02:37] When Eliza came back in she saw Ali leading next to me and was upset for the rest of

[00:02:42] her night.

[00:02:43] Sometimes there have been times where Ali has said something that Eliza has read as a

[00:02:48] come on.

[00:02:49] Like when I said I miss swimming because I felt out of shape.

[00:02:52] Ali said the two of us should go together with a playful punch.

[00:02:55] Eliza didn't say anything at the time but her discomfort was visible.

[00:03:00] Things really came to a head though on our wedding and I think the stress of it really

[00:03:04] got to Eliza.

[00:03:06] During the reception, Ali bumped into her and red wine spilled all over her dress.

[00:03:11] She was bawling the entire evening.

[00:03:14] When now on our honeymoon and Eliza said she hopes for a fresh start but she feels like

[00:03:19] Ali might have spilled her wine on purpose.

[00:03:22] She suggested that I cut ties with her, if I am honest I am not sure I want to.

[00:03:27] Where do I go from here?

[00:03:28] Now it feels like just one of those typical revenge things to do to spill wine on someone

[00:03:33] that you see in all the time and it just makes me think that there is more to this and

[00:03:38] I have to give the disclaimer straight away that I may have read one too many reddit stories.

[00:03:44] It may be warping my sense of reality these days because the story and the background

[00:03:49] made me think this has got to be on purpose.

[00:03:53] You said it's just your dynamic but you said yourself there has been a couple of nights

[00:03:58] where Eliza has been in tears and she has taken her seat when Eliza gets out of it.

[00:04:03] It just feels intentional to me but you know there is every chance it might not be the

[00:04:08] case.

[00:04:10] Accidents do happen etc etc but StarValience says so someone who had a habit of accidentally

[00:04:15] saying or doing things that make your wife cry accidentally also managed to spill red wine

[00:04:21] over a white dress on the biggest day of her life and you don't think that's a tall

[00:04:25] suspicious.

[00:04:26] If you knew, then imagine here that you somehow knew for certain that she had done it

[00:04:30] on purpose.

[00:04:32] What would your reaction be?

[00:04:33] Would it change how you thought about her?

[00:04:36] Give it some thought.

[00:04:38] No year thanks says the number of times I've bumped into someone and spilt my drink on

[00:04:42] them is exactly once in my entire life and that was a shit face teenager.

[00:04:46] You're either astoundedly naive or alien, somehow the unluckyest woman in the world

[00:04:52] to accidentally spill red wine on the bride on a wedding day.

[00:04:55] I think you know which one is more likely.

[00:04:58] Your wife won't be staying your wife much longer unless you start actually listening

[00:05:02] to her and stop dismissing all of her fears as baseless in securities.

[00:05:07] StarRider says your friend spilled red wine on your wife's wedding dress.

[00:05:11] That's awful.

[00:05:12] It's your friend inherently clumsy, but she spills things all the time.

[00:05:17] Probably not right.

[00:05:18] Have a feeling your wife is right, your friend is not a nice person to your wife, your

[00:05:22] friend makes your wife uncomfortable who should cut contact with her.

[00:05:26] It shouldn't be a hard decision on your part.

[00:05:30] Roode Royal says why did you even get married if you're not going to take your now wife's

[00:05:34] feelings and perspective into consideration?

[00:05:37] She has told you more than once that she is uncomfortable.

[00:05:40] She had given you examples for why.

[00:05:42] This woman spilled red wine on her wedding day and all you can think about is you don't

[00:05:46] want to end your friendship.

[00:05:47] Your wife a favour and a nuller marriage so she can find a man who's going to put her

[00:05:51] feelings as a priority and not be second fiddle to another married woman who rejected you,

[00:05:56] and that'll flirt with you because she feels she can and you allow it.

[00:06:00] And a final comment from Call of Limit 192 who says, I'll say it to you straight.

[00:06:05] I guess step back and look at your post in comments objectively.

[00:06:08] See a pattern, you're constantly defending alien regard to your wife.

[00:06:13] Why is that?

[00:06:14] Your wife is upset because of the jokes that alien makes.

[00:06:17] Why haven't you asked alien to tone it down?

[00:06:19] To not make them to a liser.

[00:06:22] You seem to be under the oppression that a liser should suck it up or not be so sensitive.

[00:06:27] Just because you aren't bothered by those jokes doesn't mean a liser isn't.

[00:06:30] As alien apologised for spilling wine.

[00:06:33] If it came down to it and you had to choose, who would you pick?

[00:06:36] This issue is because your lack of attention towards the whole thing.

[00:06:40] You've known that your wife has had problems for years now with alien and you've seriously

[00:06:44] done nothing.

[00:06:45] I'm sorry but you even want to be married to your wife.

[00:06:48] From your post in your comments, it sounds like you and Ali are in denial.

[00:06:52] Your wife is saying something to you.

[00:06:54] Are you not listening because you don't believe her?

[00:06:56] Or is it because you don't want to lose Ali?

[00:06:59] OPM's a bit of information about what actually happened so.

[00:07:03] OPM says, Ali was getting a drink from the bar.

[00:07:06] A liser had taken off part of their gown for dining and dancing purposes and was leaving

[00:07:11] our bedroom to return to our table.

[00:07:13] They bumped into each other and a liser had a huge red stain over a dress.

[00:07:17] Ali made an off hand joke and fled and a liser ran up to me in bits and pieces.

[00:07:22] It sounded really bad when a liser told me and she was in bits about the wine spilling

[00:07:26] all over her dress.

[00:07:27] I went to alien asked her what the hell she was up to.

[00:07:30] Ali was so mortified and told me she wanted to sink into a hole.

[00:07:34] She's dispraxing, and I struggled with falling and I then prompt you moments.

[00:07:38] I actually witnessed it happening before.

[00:07:40] There was a meeting at work and she gets our colleagues coffee.

[00:07:44] The moment she came in, she tripped and fell.

[00:07:46] Coffee flying everywhere.

[00:07:49] Someone commented on her making a joke and sort of fleeing.

[00:07:53] And OPM said she's a really awkward person and doesn't know how to interact with people

[00:07:57] sometimes.

[00:07:58] There have been times I've been upset with her because of how the lib she's been about

[00:08:01] personal issues.

[00:08:02] On the back of the comments saying that about her doing it on purpose, OPM says, I'd be

[00:08:07] really hurt if Ali was doing it on purpose.

[00:08:10] I love a liser and want us to be happy and I can see that I've really fucked up here

[00:08:14] multiple times.

[00:08:16] Ali is a good friend but if she's deliberately being a wind up merchant and harming my marriage

[00:08:20] then I have to cut the cord and stop churning up to her so much.

[00:08:23] A liser sometimes says to me that she can injure people's opinions and feelings within

[00:08:27] minutes of meeting them.

[00:08:29] I've never been like that.

[00:08:30] My folks have always said that I'm terrible with picking up on basic things.

[00:08:33] I was a nance house when I was a kid.

[00:08:36] Walking her ear off and she said, oh it's getting late multiple times.

[00:08:39] It was only until my mom dragged me out that I picked up on that she wanted me to leave.

[00:08:45] On the back of someone saying that you know your wife is upset and yet you invited her

[00:08:49] to the wedding after all this stuff had gone on previously OPM says, you've got really

[00:08:52] upset one time during banter because me and Ali liked to roast each other regularly

[00:08:57] and Ali roasted her a little too hard I guess.

[00:08:59] We were singling out things to insult each other on and a subject went to a liser and

[00:09:04] a liser mentioned that she had webbed feet.

[00:09:06] Since then Ali's called a leapfrog when I say it, a liser takes it in good stride but

[00:09:11] when Ali says it's the massive problem and get it.

[00:09:15] A liser had suggested that Ali's being serious when she says it opposed to what I do but

[00:09:19] she roasts me the same way too.

[00:09:22] She said I looked like a juggerloose poodle that day because I was wearing baggy metal clothes

[00:09:27] and hadn't styled my hair so it was frizzing all over the place.

[00:09:31] In the final comment from OPM, someone saying why haven't you stuck up for your wife

[00:09:35] all these times that Ali hurt her and OPM says I guess because I didn't know that I needed

[00:09:40] to.

[00:09:41] It seems like it's a perspective thing.

[00:09:43] A liser is a passionate person who cries at the lux puppy adverts and the intensity is

[00:09:48] great for a partner but it can cause problems with friendships.

[00:09:51] She reads a lot into things her friends do thinking it's intentional and when she talks

[00:09:56] to them and what they did, they will become completely shocked and unaware that they

[00:10:00] hurt her.

[00:10:01] Ali is a very sarcastic person in general who rolls with punches and to me it reads like

[00:10:06] he struggled to gel rather than intentional cruelty on Ali's part but for what it's

[00:10:11] worth, Ali has told me that she was really keen on a liser and thinks she's a top girl.

[00:10:17] So with the additional bits of information out of the way OPM comes in with their update

[00:10:21] and says you know I posted here recently looking for guidance on how to deal with my wife's

[00:10:27] anxiety and hurt revolving around my friend and it seems like I got read the riot act

[00:10:32] and probably rightly so.

[00:10:34] I've been completely inconsiderate of a liser's feelings and how she feels about these

[00:10:38] roastings and you alerted me to the possibility that Ali is doing this just to be a little shit.

[00:10:44] I sat down with a liser and we had an in depth conversation about the wedding incident.

[00:10:48] I got her to describe the event step by step in her own words.

[00:10:52] She said, I was leaving the lobby into the dining venue and Ali was a little tipsy at

[00:10:57] this point and already stumbling from the bar.

[00:11:00] She was initially walking slower but seemed to speed up when she saw me we collided

[00:11:05] into each other and she pulled an ashamed face and made a joke about me looking like Rosman

[00:11:10] Piking Gone Girl before scaring away.

[00:11:12] She seemed embarrassed in the moment but she didn't apologise to me.

[00:11:16] I heard from the other people that she was appalled about what happened but I never heard

[00:11:20] anything from her directly.

[00:11:21] It just paint a picture of habitual microaggressions from her that has festered into this ugly anxiety

[00:11:27] whenever she's around.

[00:11:28] I pretty much predict whenever I'm in her vicinity.

[00:11:32] There will be weird behaviour or uncomfortable comments and I don't want to continue being

[00:11:36] in a situation where my husband brings someone into my home who resents me simply for existing.

[00:11:42] That was a real gut punch to me.

[00:11:44] For me, I always felt like it was just insecurity about me fancying Ali.

[00:11:49] The 10 minutes yonks ago but Aliza is really torn up about this.

[00:11:54] She said that the honeymoon has been miserable because the memory has been swirling around

[00:11:58] in her mind and she feels like I'm going to downplay or dismiss it.

[00:12:02] No one should feel like they can't just be themselves, especially not at home.

[00:12:07] I didn't realise what a shit had had been and where I apologise profusely to Aliza and

[00:12:12] decided to phone up Ali to confront her about the wedding incident.

[00:12:15] So I did and it didn't go well.

[00:12:19] Basically I told that Aliza was really hurt by the wedding dress incident and she had

[00:12:23] been hurt by her behaviour for a long time and that if she can't bring herself to apologise

[00:12:27] to Aliza's face, at least she should pay towards getting the stain removed and if she

[00:12:32] couldn't bring herself to even do that then our friendship had to stop.

[00:12:35] I say that Ali was taken aback would be an understatement.

[00:12:40] She was completely blindsided asking what was wrong with her interactions that made me

[00:12:44] want to go to such extremes.

[00:12:46] I mentioned the leap frog comment and she went, but even you call her that, dating that

[00:12:51] Aliza called her Garfield because of her weight in bright orange hair.

[00:12:55] What I mentioned that she ran towards Aliza and didn't apologise for spilling wine on

[00:12:59] her.

[00:13:00] She got really upset and started shouting that she wasn't running at her to her whiner

[00:13:04] of the dress.

[00:13:05] She was running from her because she didn't want to talk at that moment because she feels

[00:13:09] like Aliza hates her and she doesn't know how to go about it.

[00:13:13] She started pointing out times when Aliza had been funny to Walter and I basically said

[00:13:18] right but this isn't about when Aliza has hurt you.

[00:13:21] This is about when you've heard Aliza and it's got so bad that it needs to be talked

[00:13:25] about and she started laughing.

[00:13:27] It was really uncomfortable.

[00:13:29] I know she does this when she's anxious about something.

[00:13:33] Aliza asked me if things were okay from the other room and then 80 demanded if this

[00:13:37] was set up and when I tried to explain myself, she hung up.

[00:13:41] Her husband even phoned me, insisting that he would pay for the damage if it was less

[00:13:47] stressful for me.

[00:13:48] I told you and husband that I appreciated that but I needed to know where Aliza stood regarding

[00:13:54] what I just said.

[00:13:55] You told me that Alie makes jokes whenever she's anxious or uncomfortable and that they

[00:13:59] rout about it in the past but the wedding dress incident is a major issue and that he wants

[00:14:04] to smooth things over as much as I do.

[00:14:07] For him and Alie will pay towards dry cleaning while a condolences hamper is sent to Aliza.

[00:14:12] Aliza was relieved that you and Musa were understanding but she wasn't thrilled about

[00:14:16] Alie's reaction.

[00:14:17] Basically said that the Garfield comment was always about her hair and never about her

[00:14:22] weight and that she was deliberately trying to make it seem like the bad behaviour went

[00:14:25] both ways.

[00:14:26] I don't think it went both ways either because I've never noticed Aliza roasting Alie in

[00:14:31] any real way.

[00:14:32] Aliza are suggested we try marriage counselling.

[00:14:35] It was a bit shocked at first because we've only been married a month lol.

[00:14:39] I've decided maybe that's the way forward because if Aliza reckons that we need counselling

[00:14:44] for it and it's certainly a problem.

[00:14:47] So yeah, me and Aliza are going to try marriage counselling and my future with Alie is uncertain.

[00:14:53] Alie's behaviour still doesn't sit right with me you know she said she was trying to run

[00:14:57] away yet ran straight towards her speeding up.

[00:15:00] Obviously I don't know the layout of the floor plan so maybe she couldn't get away in

[00:15:06] any other way.

[00:15:07] Maybe she was cornered.

[00:15:08] But that's a big maybe but still after all of this there's still no apology.

[00:15:13] There's no sorry that I spilled this wine on your dress.

[00:15:17] I mean if I was to do something like that I'd be so apologetic trying to fix it in any

[00:15:21] way I possibly could.

[00:15:23] I mean I wouldn't even go near a bride or anyone dressed smartly with red wine anyway,

[00:15:28] it just sounds like a disaster.

[00:15:30] Never go near a white dress with something in your hand.

[00:15:33] It's good go wrong but what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:15:39] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story.

[00:15:45] And our next story comes from the entitled People So Reddit titled entitled neighbour doesn't

[00:15:51] want me to make any noise in my own home and it does come with an update as well.

[00:15:56] Apparently a new person moved in below me sometime in December.

[00:16:01] I 23 female was gone for most of December so I had no idea until I got back home from

[00:16:06] celebrating the holidays.

[00:16:08] My first night back had a friend spending their night, I'll call her Clara.

[00:16:13] We weren't being too loud but we were chatting and catching up.

[00:16:16] We went to her car to grab something and an old man stopped to talk to her.

[00:16:21] I call him Richard.

[00:16:23] He asked if we were throwing a party.

[00:16:26] She said no, he then said he kept hearing loud banging sounds and that we needed to be

[00:16:30] more mindful of the people living below us.

[00:16:33] Okay.

[00:16:34] Clara got back and told me what happened and asked if I'd spoken to Richard before.

[00:16:39] I told her I hadn't.

[00:16:41] Do now afterwards he knocked on the door.

[00:16:44] So as I'm context I'm nearly divergent and I'm mad I don't know knocking repeatedly

[00:16:48] on my door late at night really freaked me out.

[00:16:52] I was also wearing pajamas because of this Clara agreed to talk to him for me which I

[00:16:57] was thankful for.

[00:16:58] He went off on her, he said he'd been hearing banging sound for weeks since he moved

[00:17:02] in.

[00:17:03] He keeps hearing weights dropping, I don't lift weights, he hears things drop at midnight

[00:17:07] and 2 am.

[00:17:09] It even said that he could hear whenever I flush the toilet.

[00:17:13] Preepy.

[00:17:14] Also I hadn't been home in weeks.

[00:17:17] At one point during the conversation my cat tried to escape and had to run over and grab

[00:17:21] him.

[00:17:22] This will be important later.

[00:17:24] Richard has left me alone for the past 2 weeks, though sometimes at night while in bed

[00:17:29] would head banging on the walls or floor.

[00:17:31] Unfortunately he came back tonight.

[00:17:33] I decided I was going to tell him once and for all that I wasn't making noise.

[00:17:38] It didn't go well.

[00:17:39] I tried telling him that I'm not the one making noise.

[00:17:42] He said yes you are, I hear sound and I see you leaving in the morning and I hear sound

[00:17:47] again when you come home.

[00:17:48] You drive, I prefer car and colour.

[00:17:51] Right?

[00:17:52] What the fuck?

[00:17:53] Ok, he's now admitted to watching me and he knows which car is mine.

[00:17:57] And I honestly don't know what the fuck he is hearing in the morning other than me walking

[00:18:01] and putting on shoes.

[00:18:02] I'm not an early riser.

[00:18:04] I sleep as late as I can then wake up, get dressed and leave.

[00:18:07] I'm not doing morning workouts.

[00:18:09] He's also trying to catch me in a gotcha moment.

[00:18:13] He said last time I was here your lady friend said you couldn't come to the door because

[00:18:17] you weren't dressed.

[00:18:18] But I saw you come grab your cat.

[00:18:20] Yes sir, she was correct.

[00:18:22] I was wearing pajamas not clothing I wanted you to see me in.

[00:18:26] He kept going on about constant banging then he needed to be awake at 4am for dialysis

[00:18:31] and that he needed sleep.

[00:18:33] Then he finally left after saying he's not trying to be a jerk.

[00:18:38] I'm out of loss.

[00:18:39] I don't know what banging sounds he's talking about other than me walking and complaining

[00:18:43] about me flushing the toilet.

[00:18:46] Seriously.

[00:18:47] My cat is 18 pounds.

[00:18:49] Null obese, just the massive frame and he runs and jumps around when he gets zoomies.

[00:18:54] So I wonder if he's hearing him.

[00:18:56] Regardless, the apartment allows pets and under is an ESA, emotional support animal.

[00:19:02] I should be allowed to walk around in my own apartment and flush my own damn toilet without

[00:19:06] worrying about pissing someone off.

[00:19:08] I will no longer answer the door if he shows up but unfortunately he's admitted to

[00:19:12] watching me so he knows my schedule.

[00:19:14] If you don't want to put up with footsteps, animals and toilet flushing, you should not

[00:19:18] move into a pet friendly apartment complex.

[00:19:21] We've covered a few stories like apartment complexes in the past and generally there is

[00:19:25] some noise and it doesn't sound like you're doing anything that's not normal.

[00:19:29] You're not jumping around, banging on the floor.

[00:19:32] You're not doing anything like that.

[00:19:33] So I just sort of wonder what he's actually hearing as well and I didn't know.

[00:19:38] I've never stayed in the apartment complex before but sometimes I've in previous stories

[00:19:42] I've heard of an office that you can go to to talk about it and just raise this with

[00:19:47] them and say that you know, you've got some knocking on your door here.

[00:19:51] Watching you come in and going, knowing your schedule.

[00:19:54] That's how much they're watching you.

[00:19:56] And that you're pretty concerned about that and just letting them know because I wonder

[00:19:59] if there's been previous people saying about this guy as well.

[00:20:02] You might not be the only one.

[00:20:04] So there was a commenter asking if OP hears the same noises as the neighbour claim to

[00:20:08] hear and OP says yeah, try telling him.

[00:20:11] He wasn't me in that I'm not even home during some of his complaining but he just says

[00:20:15] he knows it's me because he hears noise and then sees me leave.

[00:20:19] Sometimes the neighbours dogs hear me leave and bark.

[00:20:22] I don't know.

[00:20:23] I'm about to flush the toilet, I hope he doesn't call the cops.

[00:20:27] The neighbours next to me are sometimes loud but it is an extreme.

[00:20:30] Dude hasn't absurdly loud laugh and I'm not about to complain about how someone expresses

[00:20:35] joy in their own home.

[00:20:36] I also hear people above me walking.

[00:20:38] It's an apartment, I tune out.

[00:20:41] Stere says is there a landlord or office you can report the complaint to?

[00:20:45] I'm sure he will approach you again and be not trying to be a jerk comment makes me think

[00:20:50] he will be next time.

[00:20:52] You might want to cover your butt about his claims and protect yourself.

[00:20:55] All people can get some wild ideas in their heads.

[00:20:58] OP says I did contact the police non-emergency line and they have a record now if you

[00:21:03] try to call the cops and that he's been unreasonable with me in the past.

[00:21:07] The cops agreed it was fucking insane to complain about my toilet flushing.

[00:21:11] Also yes they have a noisy 18 pound cat.

[00:21:14] Several neighbours have 50 pound dogs, he's lucky to be below me.

[00:21:18] He can try explaining to thunder to be quieter if he wants but I've tried.

[00:21:23] So OP came in with an update for their neighbour drama and said hi everyone.

[00:21:28] I appreciated all the support I got on my last post about my neighbour, Richard.

[00:21:32] I wanted to give you all an update but it might be a little disappointing unfortunately.

[00:21:37] A call the office and told them about the situation and they told me they were going to call

[00:21:41] him and tell him not to interact with me and to make any complaints through them.

[00:21:46] This seemed to improve things at first but he unfortunately decided to start banging

[00:21:50] on the ceiling when every felt like I was being too loud.

[00:21:53] At first it wasn't that bad.

[00:21:55] One or two smacks ran themaly.

[00:21:57] Easy enough to ignore.

[00:21:58] I can't the first post several smacks occurred when I was laying in bed.

[00:22:02] Last night he escalated it.

[00:22:04] There's around 10 to 11pm.

[00:22:06] I was walking around my apartment a little.

[00:22:08] I had a bad cord and was trying to find a different cord to replace it.

[00:22:12] He started smacking again.

[00:22:14] I ignored it but he kept doing it and was slowly getting more aggressive.

[00:22:18] It was starting to freak me out a bit.

[00:22:20] At this point I wasn't even moving anymore.

[00:22:23] I was just sitting at my desk.

[00:22:26] Then he got pissed and full force punched the ceiling.

[00:22:30] I think I counted 7 times in a row.

[00:22:32] It was bad enough to make the play shake.

[00:22:35] I was really scared at this point so I did what my mum and most reddit told me to do.

[00:22:39] I called the police.

[00:22:41] Unfortunately they weren't very helpful.

[00:22:44] Here is how the conversation went.

[00:22:46] The cop says as he threatened you in any way.

[00:22:49] Opie says no, not directly.

[00:22:51] He's been told to knock on my door and now he's being really aggressive with hitting the ceiling.

[00:22:55] Cop says that they can't do anything if a crime has not been committed.

[00:23:00] Opie says the ceiling hitting is really scaring me and he's admitted to watching me leave

[00:23:05] and come back before.

[00:23:07] Cop says things like this are part of apartment living.

[00:23:10] In watching you was likely just him trying to figure out the source of the noise.

[00:23:14] I can talk to him if you want but at that point he will know you called the police and

[00:23:19] that might make things worse off for you.

[00:23:21] I'm not saying you were making noise but I've had to speak to my upstairs neighbours before

[00:23:25] too.

[00:23:26] You don't live below anyone so it can be hard to understand.

[00:23:29] Opie says I do live below someone too and I hear noises sometimes and he says so then

[00:23:35] you know what it's like.

[00:23:36] Opie says no, they make sound but it isn't bad and I just ignore it.

[00:23:40] Cop says like I said I've had to speak to my neighbours before too.

[00:23:45] Opie says yeah but your neighbours were probably actually making noise.

[00:23:49] At this point I started to cry.

[00:23:51] Unfortunately it just happens to be sometimes when I'm really stressed.

[00:23:54] I was just trying as hard as I could to keep it together to be able to speak.

[00:23:58] Cop says I know things like this can be frustrating, I can talk to him if you want.

[00:24:02] I said no, he just told me to be a bad idea.

[00:24:05] He said I never said that.

[00:24:07] At that point I just wanted the cop to go away.

[00:24:10] I told him to leave but asked him to let the record show that I found out and safe in my

[00:24:14] own home.

[00:24:15] This morning I contacted the office again, had a very interesting conversation.

[00:24:20] He told me they had spoke to him and I had indeed told him to make any complaints

[00:24:24] through them and not talk to me.

[00:24:26] He also said that him watching me leave wasn't meant to make me feel threatened and I

[00:24:30] never intended to follow me.

[00:24:32] It was an observation he brought up when I had tried to tell him I wasn't home when

[00:24:36] he was complaining about sound.

[00:24:38] I told the office that he had been complaining about sound from when I wasn't there, that

[00:24:43] I had been gone for at least half a month of December.

[00:24:46] But apparently he told them that I had a friend over and she had likely been making noise

[00:24:50] when I was gone.

[00:24:51] Are you fucking kidding me?

[00:24:54] Clara was there for a single night.

[00:24:56] His legit making up stories in his head now to make things make sense.

[00:25:00] The office is trying to be a middle man in this situation which I guess I understand

[00:25:05] but it is aggravating since I know I'm not making loud banging sounds.

[00:25:09] I told the office about my current theory that the loud banging sounds are the heating

[00:25:13] system coming on.

[00:25:14] It would make sense for the heat to be more likely to come on when I enter the building

[00:25:19] and let in the cold air.

[00:25:20] Correlation does not equal causation.

[00:25:23] The good news is that he is not allowed to be banging on the ceiling like he's been doing.

[00:25:27] The office will be telling him to stop and if he does it again, I will report him every

[00:25:31] single time.

[00:25:32] I'll be keeping a log of everything.

[00:25:34] Sorry though this update probably isn't very satisfying.

[00:25:37] I'm very tired and shaken up and the police department isn't helpful.

[00:25:41] It's a very lonely feeling.

[00:25:43] I understand everyone trying to be impartial but it just makes me feel so defeated like

[00:25:47] nobody believes me.

[00:25:49] Updates, I wrote this all out yesterday and in the time it took me to write it he

[00:25:54] banged on the ceiling again despite the landlord telling him that he isn't allowed.

[00:25:58] I called him again and they said they would do something.

[00:26:01] Not sure what though.

[00:26:03] A commenter says keep reporting it every time he's harassing you.

[00:26:08] OP said the police said it isn't harassment.

[00:26:11] And Guy Boo says I would strongly recommend ringing a local solicitor for advice.

[00:26:16] The first consultation is always free.

[00:26:18] OP says I work for university but I take classes at it too.

[00:26:22] I see if I can use their legal counselling services.

[00:26:24] I'm not sure if part-time students get access.

[00:26:27] The show and the seat says, have you thought about buying some carpet?

[00:26:31] I assume you have bare floors and wear shoes all the time at home.

[00:26:34] OP says home is fully carpeted but I don't wear shoes inside.

[00:26:38] Who would think that though with everything going on?

[00:26:41] And G whiz, that is just so fucking annoying for OP.

[00:26:47] The fact that you can't just live your life in your own home.

[00:26:50] You know like it said in this post and I said before that OP isn't doing anything weird

[00:26:55] they're just walking around trying to find a cord in their house and then they're

[00:26:59] going to be bangin' on the roof.

[00:27:02] And then not being listened to as well by authorities when you're reporting it being told

[00:27:05] that basically that you might be the problem.

[00:27:09] There's bullshit.

[00:27:10] I just keep recording this every time he bangs.

[00:27:13] I'd be trying to record it either on like your phone or what so you can show that you

[00:27:17] know you're stood there and he's just bangin' away.

[00:27:21] Definitely be recording those interactions if you can't get out of that place sooner

[00:27:24] rather than later.

[00:27:25] Not that you should have to anyway because that's annoying in itself.

[00:27:28] But you deserve to live in peace and the way that you are without having to like tip

[00:27:33] toe around your house just to walk around.

[00:27:36] That's absolutely ridiculous.

[00:27:37] It's winding me right up.

[00:27:39] What a get.

[00:27:41] Anyway, what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:27:45] I know we've had many comments in the past regarding apartment type stories and apartment

[00:27:51] living if you like but let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:27:56] Just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories,

[00:27:59] your love, your support, your time.

[00:28:01] Always means the absolute world to me.

[00:28:03] So thank you so, so much for being involved and hopefully I'll see you in the next one.

[00:28:08] Take care and much love.