AITA For Not Letting My Fiancee's Best Friend Be Her "Maid Of Honor" r/Relationships

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[00:01:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Proposed to my 24 female girlfriend for six years last month.

[00:01:09] [SPEAKER_00]: She obviously said yes, and we've been working on wedding details.

[00:01:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Examples saves the date, invitations, venue, caterer etc. since.

[00:01:18] [SPEAKER_00]: We got to talk about who we want in our wedding because she wanted to do a special proposal,

[00:01:24] [SPEAKER_00]: the her side of the wedding court, and she said she wanted to have a best friend since

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_00]: childhood be her maid of honour.

[00:01:31] [SPEAKER_00]: The thing is, her childhood best friend is a guy, 24 male.

[00:01:36] [SPEAKER_00]: They lived on the same street when they were kids and have been friends since.

[00:01:40] [SPEAKER_00]: I fiancee and I met in college and her friend was there too, so I've known him for as long

[00:01:45] [SPEAKER_00]: as I've known her. At first I didn't really like him because he was always hanging around her.

[00:01:50] [SPEAKER_00]: But after she and I started dating and I was forced to be around him more. I kind of started

[00:01:55] [SPEAKER_00]: to tolerate him. He and my fiancee saw each other a lot, but here now I have never really hung

[00:02:01] [SPEAKER_00]: out one on one before. One time when we were left alone together, he tried to get all tough

[00:02:06] [SPEAKER_00]: and did the if you ever break her heart, I swear, poor and he threat talk. He's a small dude

[00:02:12] [SPEAKER_00]: to it made me laugh more than intimidate me. After that I got the feeling this was a situation

[00:02:17] [SPEAKER_00]: where he liked her, but she didn't know. I asked my fiancee if she and him ever had feelings for each

[00:02:24] [SPEAKER_00]: and she said no. Then he let me know he was gay. I'm not home of phobic or anything, so it's

[00:02:30] [SPEAKER_00]: not like I don't want him in the wedding because of that. It's just that I think it would be better

[00:02:35] [SPEAKER_00]: if her side of the party was all girls. She and him already did everything together, but include

[00:02:40] [SPEAKER_00]: in him in our wedding wouldn't hurt their friendship. I told her that and she got defensive,

[00:02:46] [SPEAKER_00]: saying that if I could have a girl in my side of the party, the girl being my older sister who

[00:02:51] [SPEAKER_00]: practically raised me, she could have a guy. I said that it was a different circumstance and

[00:02:57] [SPEAKER_00]: that I wouldn't allow her best friend to be a man of honour. She got really mad and said it was

[00:03:02] [SPEAKER_00]: her wedding too and stormed out. I got a text from her sister a few hours later saying she

[00:03:07] [SPEAKER_00]: gone to a parent's house and told them what I had said. They thought I was being an asshole because

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_00]: I never liked their friend and threatened by him. I've tried to talk to my fiancee since

[00:03:18] [SPEAKER_00]: left, but she hasn't returned my calls or texts. I really love her and I don't want to lose her.

[00:03:24] [SPEAKER_00]: I just don't want her best friend to be a part of our day. I'm I, yeah I saw.

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Bid it, it's come to my attention in a previous comment I made. I've created the world

[00:03:34] [SPEAKER_00]: thinest argument. I said that my fiancee was unwilling to compromise on things such as the

[00:03:39] [SPEAKER_00]: grooms and neck pieces and blazes and as such was in the right to be unwilling to compromise

[00:03:44] [SPEAKER_00]: a best friend. I stated in a few other posts that there were other things she didn't want to compromise

[00:03:49] [SPEAKER_00]: on and someone suggested I make a list so here it is. One, when we're deciding our wedding date

[00:03:56] [SPEAKER_00]: in location she wanted to do it in spring in an open field. I wasn't on board with this as I

[00:04:02] [SPEAKER_00]: have terrible allergies and spring is when it's at worst. She shot down any alternative I gave her.

[00:04:08] [SPEAKER_00]: Alternatives being things closer to summer or in summer and she said it's spring or nothing.

[00:04:14] [SPEAKER_00]: So we went with spring. Two, instead of going with a DJ like I suggested we could play a mix

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_00]: of a favorite my favorite in general up the dance music. She said that she really wanted a

[00:04:26] [SPEAKER_00]: live band that specialized in a favorite genre. I asked if we could just give the DJ a longer

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_00]: list of her songs in a favorite genre and tell him to pick from the list often. As she said no

[00:04:36] [SPEAKER_00]: that a live band was going to be better. So we went with a live band.

[00:04:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Three, in my culture there's a few traditional wedding ceremonies that I wanted as the part taken.

[00:04:47] [SPEAKER_00]: That included a kind of parade that leads to the groom and his family to the brides house where

[00:04:51] [SPEAKER_00]: they present her and family gift, hair cutting ceremony. Make sure to tell her her actual hair

[00:04:57] [SPEAKER_00]: would not be cut. And finally, and not tying ceremony, are the guests wish us a long happy marriage.

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_00]: She wanted absolutely nothing to do with those ceremonies and said it would be too much time

[00:05:08] [SPEAKER_00]: and so it would be like having two weddings. I tried fighting for these more than the others but

[00:05:13] [SPEAKER_00]: she was firm on doing things traditionally. Or, do you want to the grooms who into wear bow ties

[00:05:18] [SPEAKER_00]: and blazes even though I wanted the neck tie and no blazer look? 5, do you change the colour scheme

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_00]: from here originally agreed upon black gold maroon and forest green to pink? Or I think it was

[00:05:30] [SPEAKER_00]: rose, yellow, white and pastel blue because the decorations would look better in the field.

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_00]: I said we already printed invitations for the previous colours on them. She said we could throw

[00:05:40] [SPEAKER_00]: those out and get reprints. And apparently we're going to be getting the other side of the

[00:05:45] [SPEAKER_00]: story, the bride's side in a moment but panic bread says you're the asshole. It's obvious that

[00:05:50] [SPEAKER_00]: you have a huge chip on your shoulder about your fiance's best friend just because he's a guy.

[00:05:55] [SPEAKER_00]: So now you're using this girl's only thing, get him out of the way. Also girls,

[00:06:00] [SPEAKER_00]: they're not in high school going to prom, we're getting married. Their women,

[00:06:05] [SPEAKER_00]: you're sexist and jealous and seem way too immature to be getting married. Hope she sees you

[00:06:09] [SPEAKER_00]: for what you are and gets away from you. Hope you're applying the difference is,

[00:06:14] [SPEAKER_00]: for having a legitimate family in my party. Somebody who, like I said, has practically raised me

[00:06:20] [SPEAKER_00]: has been there for me since birth, who are one by my side. And now you can argue that her

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_00]: best friend are technically family with how long they've known each other, but that doesn't

[00:06:29] [SPEAKER_00]: actually make them family. Girly terrified says in quotes, I really love her and I don't want to

[00:06:35] [SPEAKER_00]: lose her. I just don't want her best friend to be a part of our day. And then says, you only get to say

[00:06:40] [SPEAKER_00]: that have her best friend has done something bad, like stole money from you, or took a shit in the

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_00]: middle of the floor at the engagement party. You're being unreasonable. We're only reason for not

[00:06:51] [SPEAKER_00]: wanting to be there is that he's a guy and your jealous. That's not a good enough reason,

[00:06:56] [SPEAKER_00]: especially when you're having a woman in your wedding party. You are going to Lusa because

[00:07:01] [SPEAKER_00]: you wanted to be unhappy, have someone she loves excluded from her wedding, a selfish reason.

[00:07:07] [SPEAKER_00]: You're the asshole. Hope he responded to the answers, I would be jealous of him. I'm the one

[00:07:13] [SPEAKER_00]: she came home to every night and the one she agreed to marry. The woman I'm having in my

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_00]: party is my biological sister. I don't know why she's a natural deep bond with, but like I said,

[00:07:22] [SPEAKER_00]: he can't come to the wedding period. Song of insanity says, I wanted to give the benefit of

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_00]: the doubt, but the more I read the more confident I became of my opinion. You're the asshole.

[00:07:32] [SPEAKER_00]: No matter how I read this you come off as someone threatened by the fact that your fiance has a

[00:07:36] [SPEAKER_00]: close life-long friendship with a man who has never had romantic feelings for her. Gay or not.

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Who buy your own admission? You don't even find physically threatening.

[00:07:46] [SPEAKER_00]: What is there to be threatened by? Simply status for a fly saying, he gets worse with every response.

[00:07:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Arso, Oopie says, I'm not threatened by him. The bright side comes in and says,

[00:07:58] [SPEAKER_00]: I 24 female was recently engaged to my 26 male, the answer after six years together.

[00:08:05] [SPEAKER_00]: Got into a fight a couple of days ago because he wouldn't let me ask my

[00:08:08] [SPEAKER_00]: guy best friend 24 male, who I've known since we were kids at B. My Man of Honor.

[00:08:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Ended up walking out and went to stay with my parents for a few days. I told him what happened

[00:08:18] [SPEAKER_00]: and they agreed that he was way out of line. I went back earlier today after I thought he had

[00:08:24] [SPEAKER_00]: enough time to calm down and when I came home, he looked bad to see me. He apologized for

[00:08:29] [SPEAKER_00]: stepping out of line and I said it was fine and that we still had time to ask my best friend to be

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_00]: in the wedding. Kind of looked down and said that we should call everything off.

[00:08:38] [SPEAKER_00]: It's really surprised me and I immediately said no. He then admitted that while I was gone,

[00:08:44] [SPEAKER_00]: he posted to, am I the asshole about what happened? And even though he was deemed the controlling

[00:08:49] [SPEAKER_00]: asshole, he also realized that I was one because I'd basically hijacked the wedding planning.

[00:08:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked how he could think that and he pointed out how I chose to have the wedding in spring.

[00:08:59] [SPEAKER_00]: Even though that's a bad time for him, that I changed at the wedding colour scheme

[00:09:03] [SPEAKER_00]: and what his groom's moon would be wearing without talking to him first.

[00:09:07] [SPEAKER_00]: I said that those were practically minor things and we didn't have to call off the wedding for it.

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_00]: And he said I was insensitive reject as cultural traditional wedding ceremonies

[00:09:17] [SPEAKER_00]: and didn't even consider doing them. It brought my attention some traditional ceremonies people

[00:09:22] [SPEAKER_00]: do at weddings in his culture and while I appreciated him bringing it up to me,

[00:09:27] [SPEAKER_00]: I decided against doing it because it wouldn't fit the vibe as a traditional wedding I wanted.

[00:09:32] [SPEAKER_00]: I told him I only wanted to do a traditional American wedding.

[00:09:36] [SPEAKER_00]: And that he already agreed with me that that's what we were doing.

[00:09:40] [SPEAKER_00]: And he said that me having a guy best friend be my best man was untraditional.

[00:09:45] [SPEAKER_00]: I pointed out I let him have a sister be a part of the wedding party because he wanted some

[00:09:49] [SPEAKER_00]: part of his family included. In that sense he was breaking the tradition,

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_00]: so could I. He got really sad and looked like he was about to cry. And so that me breaking

[00:09:57] [SPEAKER_00]: the tradition was like a slap in the face after I rejected his traditions. And that I just didn't

[00:10:02] [SPEAKER_00]: respect this culture at all. And as not the case at all and I greatly respect this culture.

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I told him I understood how mean it sounded but it's my wedding too so I get a saying what we do.

[00:10:14] [SPEAKER_00]: He kind of laughed and got up and said he wanted to take a break and left.

[00:10:19] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know what to do. I don't want to call off the wedding at all.

[00:10:23] [SPEAKER_00]: I try to find his reddit post but I think he was using a throw away.

[00:10:26] [SPEAKER_00]: The granted I am too. I love him so much and I want to be with him for the rest of our lives.

[00:10:31] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know how we get through this.

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[00:10:54] [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, he brought a comment into that OP. The bride. Just the 7 says sounds like you're controlling

[00:10:59] [SPEAKER_00]: in you. Brushed off his complaints as no big deal.

[00:11:02] [SPEAKER_00]: As the date, rooms from an outfit and color scheme are minor details and they shouldn't have

[00:11:07] [SPEAKER_00]: been changed. This regardless family traditions is a major detail and if you're willing to

[00:11:12] [SPEAKER_00]: disregard them for a wedding, how does he know you won't do it for other events?

[00:11:16] [SPEAKER_00]: A wedding is one day. If you don't let him have a say in that, he's right to take a break and

[00:11:21] [SPEAKER_00]: reconsider. OP, the bride, responded, understands where you're coming from. I'll be honest and tell

[00:11:27] [SPEAKER_00]: you that I haven't celebrated a lot of his cultural events besides new years. He's Cambodian

[00:11:32] [SPEAKER_00]: and they celebrate their new years in April, I believe. The end is family had a falling out

[00:11:37] [SPEAKER_00]: after he started dating me. His family didn't approve of a foreigner. And only recently

[00:11:43] [SPEAKER_00]: have they reconnected. The sister was different. She didn't care I was American and she stuck

[00:11:49] [SPEAKER_00]: by his side as his only family member. I guess I disregard the traditions in the first place

[00:11:54] [SPEAKER_00]: because he never immersed me in his culture enough because he kind of cut ties with that side of

[00:11:59] [SPEAKER_00]: himself. I was uncomfortable with the idea of being surrounded by his family that doesn't particularly

[00:12:04] [SPEAKER_00]: like me during the ceremonies, as both parents and my parents would be involved. I didn't want

[00:12:10] [SPEAKER_00]: to feel like an outsider on our wedding day. 13 Ingers says, he doesn't want to feel like an outsider

[00:12:17] [SPEAKER_00]: at his wedding either. He's pretty selfish to disregard what he wants as his wedding too.

[00:12:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Then get to make all the decisions then say it's minor. If it's so minor what's the problem

[00:12:28] [SPEAKER_00]: is having them his way for his side of the wedding party. The wedding emirages for two people,

[00:12:34] [SPEAKER_00]: not just for the bride who has main character syndrome. Have you made the effort with his parents

[00:12:39] [SPEAKER_00]: to know them etc? This could have been your chance to find out about his culture and family but

[00:12:44] [SPEAKER_00]: you chose not to. There's such a thing as a traditional American wedding when the white dress was

[00:12:50] [SPEAKER_00]: popular by Queen Victoria as an English queen. You sound controlling and petty and you get to

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_00]: live with the consequences of being demanding and brushing off his wants for the wedding.

[00:13:01] [SPEAKER_00]: Elefus Gerald says, when I first started reading this, I was on your side and by the end,

[00:13:07] [SPEAKER_00]: not at all. It seems to me like he tried to veto your ideas the same way you vetoed his.

[00:13:13] [SPEAKER_00]: On this question, I should de-compromise his traditional values if you won't compromise

[00:13:18] [SPEAKER_00]: your non-traditional ones. In Chicago says, I think Direct says right,

[00:13:24] [SPEAKER_00]: haven't considered his preferences and in fact you minimise his requests, calling them practically

[00:13:28] [SPEAKER_00]: minor and aren't respecting his cultural traditions. It sounds like you're more interested in a wedding

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_00]: than an actual relationship of marriage. OP replies saying, of course I'm interested in the wedding.

[00:13:40] [SPEAKER_00]: I've been dreaming of my own since I was a child but I don't value it more than I value my

[00:13:46] [SPEAKER_00]: but didn't get that far into planning, but rather honeymoon I was going to suggest somewhere

[00:13:50] [SPEAKER_00]: he and I have always talked about going to. We would have eventually gotten to a place where

[00:13:55] [SPEAKER_00]: more of his ideas would be accepted. Just the board lurkers says, Bades, you literally chose

[00:14:01] [SPEAKER_00]: your wedding over your fiance. You broke up because of plans for the wedding. You broke up because

[00:14:06] [SPEAKER_00]: you couldn't compromise anything you wanted for anything he wanted. You chose the wedding over the marriage.

[00:14:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Always stuck in roles says, I read his post yesterday and yours today. You both suck.

[00:14:19] [SPEAKER_00]: I think you wouldn't have put up the stink about your male best friend being in your party

[00:14:23] [SPEAKER_00]: if you hadn't been so controlling. But that's a move because you're incredibly controlling and don't

[00:14:29] [SPEAKER_00]: understand or care. You are selfish and self-centered. You seem to think only your taste and

[00:14:34] [SPEAKER_00]: desire is mad if you're wedding. Forgetting that your groom is a person and not just a prop

[00:14:39] [SPEAKER_00]: at your wedding. Back there you even say, let him include his sister, this grounds the breakup with

[00:14:44] [SPEAKER_00]: you in my opinion. Neither of you are mature enough to marry from a little bit of each written,

[00:14:50] [SPEAKER_00]: and both your posts, both sound fairly unpleasant to be around, but you are definitely the harsh

[00:14:55] [SPEAKER_00]: of the two. He's a whiner and you are a tiller the hunt. Both of you need to grow up and learn

[00:15:00] [SPEAKER_00]: what's actually important in life. How to grow together. Don't get married. mature first.

[00:15:08] [SPEAKER_00]: Man. Is that double yor the asshole? I didn't like Eva, I was supposed to be quite honest.

[00:15:14] [SPEAKER_00]: The way the groom was rejected, her best friend being a part of the wedding. Because he was a man

[00:15:20] [SPEAKER_00]: but was allowed as sister and her not wanting his cultural tradition to be a part of the wedding

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_00]: at the same time. Her language in the second post that the lie not really stood out,

[00:15:30] [SPEAKER_00]: where she commented, we would have eventually gotten to a place where more of his ideas would

[00:15:35] [SPEAKER_00]: accept it. I was like, oh dear you me, I gotta just say I agree with that very last comment

[00:15:41] [SPEAKER_00]: there always stuck in roles as don't get married. mature first. The whole thing just sounds like

[00:15:47] [SPEAKER_00]: a resentment bomb waiting to explode. So, our next three comes from eight potatoes, 23 from

[00:15:56] [SPEAKER_00]: my the bottles I read it and says, I'm either about a hole for making my fiance drop her friends

[00:16:01] [SPEAKER_00]: before I were wedding or else I wouldn't marry her. I 24 female my fiance 24 female

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_00]: then planning out wedding for two years. Our friends never liked me in fact, they have

[00:16:15] [SPEAKER_00]: pranked me by stealing my car for three days, leading me to call the police and filling it with

[00:16:20] [SPEAKER_00]: packing peanuts and dropping it off outside mine and my fiance's apartment. Today my fiance was

[00:16:26] [SPEAKER_00]: talking about her friends and I said what about them? She told me they're planning something for

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_00]: wedding that we will love but they won't tell us what it is. Knowing them it's insane and

[00:16:37] [SPEAKER_00]: we're ruined the whole day. I told her to tell them not to but she said they wouldn't budge.

[00:16:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I said they are uninvited then because we can't have that stress on our wedding.

[00:16:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I feel I don't say told me that she wasn't going to uninvite them because whatever it is will be

[00:16:53] [SPEAKER_00]: fine and that I'm over dramatic. We go into a fight and I ended up saying, if you don't drop

[00:16:58] [SPEAKER_00]: them as friends we can call off the wedding because I'm not marrying someone who associates themselves

[00:17:02] [SPEAKER_00]: with the kind of people who still scars for pranks. She said I was being unreasonable and that

[00:17:08] [SPEAKER_00]: she has known them since middle school. I said I didn't care and that's either there more me

[00:17:14] [SPEAKER_00]: and I stormed out. I've been living in my parents' house and they think I'm being unreasonable.

[00:17:19] [SPEAKER_00]: So please tell me, am I the butthole for tell my fiance to choose her friends or me?

[00:17:26] [SPEAKER_00]: That my first thought on that one was like how did they steal your car? Like literally

[00:17:31] [SPEAKER_00]: hot wire it or did they get the keys? How did they get the keys? Was your fiance involved?

[00:17:37] [SPEAKER_00]: And I got her asked you, what does your future hold? Your fiance told you she wasn't going to

[00:17:42] [SPEAKER_00]: uninvite them so they're always going to be a part of your life right now and they told you

[00:17:46] [SPEAKER_00]: that you're being over dramatic. So they played down your thoughts on someone stealing your car.

[00:17:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Three days no less but someone in the comments says not the bar face but let's be realistic.

[00:17:58] [SPEAKER_00]: These people will always be in our life and she can tell you she had dropped them so

[00:18:02] [SPEAKER_00]: you'll go through with a wedding but they're suddenly popped back into her life again.

[00:18:06] [SPEAKER_00]: She has shitty friends. OPC says valid point, she never condone what they've done but

[00:18:12] [SPEAKER_00]: she hasn't shown any sympathy for me either. It's certainly one to think about.

[00:18:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Commenter says her she remained friends with them after this and wasn't sympathetic to you.

[00:18:21] [SPEAKER_00]: She absolutely condoned it. There's no way it would have done something this serious if they

[00:18:27] [SPEAKER_00]: weren't absolutely sure she would be fine with it and generously given another benefit of the

[00:18:32] [SPEAKER_00]: doubt. She was not actually in on the whole plan. Maybe says that is true and thought about that.

[00:18:38] [SPEAKER_00]: She wasn't against what they were doing. She never defended me or even tried. She has never really

[00:18:43] [SPEAKER_00]: supported me. I've supported her through the good and the bad. She's not what I thought she was.

[00:18:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Those rose to the glasses have been taken off and I can see her for what she is now.

[00:18:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so so much. And someone asked, they even helped you clean up all like the styrofoam

[00:19:00] [SPEAKER_00]: peanuts in the car and OPC says I had to clean it all myself. She laughed and said it wasn't

[00:19:06] [SPEAKER_00]: that big of a deal. Not big of a deal to clean that up. That's that's something I think

[00:19:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I've fucking ever to deal with. And what do you can't use a Hoover on that surely and mess up

[00:19:17] [SPEAKER_00]: the Hoover and tell me tell you no one likes a blocked Hoover. I once took a dice in a part and it

[00:19:22] [SPEAKER_00]: was a pain in my asshole. The OPC comes in with their first update. Yeah this too.

[00:19:28] [SPEAKER_00]: Update so I talked to my fiance for the sake of time that's called our M. I met M for coffee so

[00:19:34] [SPEAKER_00]: that we could talk. It happened a few hours ago and honestly I didn't know what to do or where I stand.

[00:19:40] [SPEAKER_00]: You met up around 9 a.m. I arrived about 20 minutes before she did. She sat down and we talked.

[00:19:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Bad and hour went by. I told her that I felt heard that she's prioritised their friends over me.

[00:19:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Especially before I was wedding. I told her that the car theft prank and how affected me

[00:19:58] [SPEAKER_00]: mentally and regarded my job when I was forced to be late because of this. I brought this up

[00:20:04] [SPEAKER_00]: before and her face looked as if she was bored. I told her this really affected me. I don't

[00:20:09] [SPEAKER_00]: appreciate her not taking me seriously. She rolled her eyes and told me what was being

[00:20:14] [SPEAKER_00]: melodramatic and that of friends are more supportive than I will ever be. That's why she

[00:20:18] [SPEAKER_00]: doesn't prioritise me. I told her I've supported her when she lost her job when she was kicked out

[00:20:24] [SPEAKER_00]: by a parent, when her phone keys and wallet were stolen by her own sister and so many other times.

[00:20:30] [SPEAKER_00]: She brushed me off and said I shouldn't be list in these off as if she owed me. I never meant to

[00:20:36] [SPEAKER_00]: that and I apologise next press that I just wanted her to be there for me. She said I am always.

[00:20:42] [SPEAKER_00]: You're not to why thought you were asking me to do everything for you like you're useless.

[00:20:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, it's pathetic. I finally snapped and told her. There are a viral person.

[00:20:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Can't sort of venue you don't deserve a wedding after everything you've done and can

[00:20:56] [SPEAKER_00]: don't. Who buy M? I walked out and called her telling her that we back in the morning to grab my

[00:21:02] [SPEAKER_00]: ring. What do I do now? I feel lost. I can tell you what to do straight away. You move on with your

[00:21:09] [SPEAKER_00]: life, enjoy your life knowing that you've just dodged a bullet-bill-sized bullet. But OP does

[00:21:16] [SPEAKER_00]: come in with an update too and says so I went back to get my stuff from mine and ends old house.

[00:21:22] [SPEAKER_00]: At a policeman come with me just in case anything happened. I'm so lucky I did that because the whole

[00:21:27] [SPEAKER_00]: place was trashed. My stuff was everywhere. What was once my home was now unrecognizable. The

[00:21:34] [SPEAKER_00]: living room TV was smashed everything from the kitchen had been thrown into the floor and half

[00:21:38] [SPEAKER_00]: my things were missing. I tried to gather everything I could and leave but when I was going to

[00:21:43] [SPEAKER_00]: the car there was spray paint on the side saying, fuck you. It's all M's car drive away. I found

[00:21:50] [SPEAKER_00]: a police report and then now trying to move on with my life and enjoy being my own person with my

[00:21:55] [SPEAKER_00]: friends and family. Thank you everyone for advice. I have no idea what would have happened if I

[00:22:00] [SPEAKER_00]: didn't post this originally. Thank you all. It's one of those situations that's going like 0 to

[00:22:08] [SPEAKER_00]: 60 so quick. More is like that wrong burgundy with like, oh that escalated quickly. I have

[00:22:12] [SPEAKER_00]: really got an at a hand. Someone that you're potentially going to marry very shortly down the line.

[00:22:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Suddenly reveals their true self like that and escalating goes crazy. Holy moly what do you guys

[00:22:26] [SPEAKER_00]: this situation? Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below. I just a huge thank you

[00:22:31] [SPEAKER_00]: from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories. You'll love your support

[00:22:35] [SPEAKER_00]: your time. Always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much and hopefully I'll

[00:22:40] [SPEAKER_00]: see you in the next one. Take care. Thank you so much love.