AITA For Blocking My Friend During Her Pregnancy r/Relationships

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[00:00:24] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm Ivy Arsol here to leave my ex best friend during her pregnancy

[00:00:29] [SPEAKER_00]: I 25 female have been with my best friend Jessica 24 female for over five years

[00:00:36] [SPEAKER_00]: We met while we were both working in McDonald's when we were both 18

[00:00:40] [SPEAKER_00]: Started the same day and became best friends ever since

[00:00:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Even though our lives turned out quite differently as I ended up finishing my degree and became an accountant

[00:00:49] [SPEAKER_00]: Just became a janitor at the university. I still loved her very, very much and we maintained to be

[00:00:56] [SPEAKER_00]: original self as when we were 18

[00:00:59] [SPEAKER_00]: All this until a year and a half ago

[00:01:01] [SPEAKER_00]: While she's working at the university, she met this fellow

[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_00]: Funnel who 69 years old, two years ago and started to see him romantically

[00:01:12] [SPEAKER_00]: At first I wasn't a fan of the relationship as there's such an age difference

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_00]: But just moved in with him and we started to accept their relationship and got to know this funnel guy

[00:01:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Funnel has two daughters in their late 40s and a son in his early 30s

[00:01:29] [SPEAKER_00]: As grandkids in their late teens in early 20s

[00:01:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Overall this guy makes me so uncomfortable as he is quite creepy

[00:01:37] [SPEAKER_00]: But hey, as long as Jess is happy I'm happy about half a year ago

[00:01:42] [SPEAKER_00]: I recognize that Jess's body changed and asked if she had a period

[00:01:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Johnson knows so we went and got some pregnancy tests

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_00]: Of course it all came back positive

[00:01:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Or three of them

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_00]: She stated that she hasn't had a period for over two months

[00:01:56] [SPEAKER_00]: When we found out I offered anything I could possibly think of

[00:02:00] [SPEAKER_00]: Driving her is she does not have a car or license offered her financial assistance as I make

[00:02:05] [SPEAKER_00]: Significantly more than she does and shelter as I own my own house and has spare bedrooms

[00:02:10] [SPEAKER_00]: As she never paid rent in her life

[00:02:13] [SPEAKER_00]: She lived with her mother before she moved in with the old fella

[00:02:16] [SPEAKER_00]: I basically told her that whatever she needs I will be there

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_00]: The first things first we need to go to see the object

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_00]: She said yes and I drove her home

[00:02:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Two days later I asked if she wanted to book an appointment and when she

[00:02:30] [SPEAKER_00]: I take some time off work to take her to these appointments

[00:02:32] [SPEAKER_00]: She basically told me that she had a period and she doesn't think she is pregnant

[00:02:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I stated okay, we will see a doctor and you can get a check since it may be a miscarriage

[00:02:42] [SPEAKER_00]: She then basically ghosted me

[00:02:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I tried reaching out multiple times and got zero answers or reply

[00:02:48] [SPEAKER_00]: A mother even reached out to me to see if I'd been in contact with her

[00:02:51] [SPEAKER_00]: She has not been in contact with her for a while

[00:02:54] [SPEAKER_00]: But it's just super unusual for her as we are constantly in contact

[00:02:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I was super worried about her well being as the old fella might be controlling and telling her that

[00:03:04] [SPEAKER_00]: She can't share her pregnancy with anyone as we live in a small town

[00:03:08] [SPEAKER_00]: After three weeks of trying to contact her I gave up and told her

[00:03:12] [SPEAKER_00]: She doesn't want my help or want me in her life anymore. I'll be happy to cut contact with her

[00:03:18] [SPEAKER_00]: They reply I blocked a number and a social media

[00:03:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Now half a year later

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_00]: I found out she is very pregnant

[00:03:26] [SPEAKER_00]: All living with the old fella that's probably gonna die sooner than later due to him being an alcoholic

[00:03:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Navinahistory of cancer

[00:03:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Leaving her with nothing she does not own anything and lives paycheck to paycheck

[00:03:38] [SPEAKER_00]: Am I the asshole here to just leave her knowing that her and her baby will

[00:03:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Scorvia says not the asshole she has what she looked for

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_00]: She also stopped talking to you she abandoned you and preferred to stay with an old man twice a

[00:03:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Rage she stopped talking to you

[00:03:55] [SPEAKER_00]: Why should you be the one to come back?

[00:03:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Op says I guess I just want to get through to her what she's signing up for

[00:04:02] [SPEAKER_00]: She does not have any support

[00:04:03] [SPEAKER_00]: She hates her mother and has no other friends

[00:04:07] [SPEAKER_00]: And says not your monkeys not your circus

[00:04:09] [SPEAKER_00]: You did all you could let your mind rest at peace you can't say anyone who doesn't want to be saved

[00:04:15] [SPEAKER_00]: If you think the child is in danger, you can contact CPS but she isn't adult who made their own choices and decisions

[00:04:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Chicken Larte says not the asshole let her struggle

[00:04:26] [SPEAKER_00]: And make a new friend and focus on enjoying that

[00:04:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Too violent needs says wait you thought she might be being controlled by a man who has an entire family behind him

[00:04:37] [SPEAKER_00]: So you called a few times and gave up them blockter

[00:04:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Kind of people doesn't make you the asshole but it sounds like you suspect in something was wrong

[00:04:44] [SPEAKER_00]: But made nearly no effort to check on her then very carelessly throw away

[00:04:49] [SPEAKER_00]: Like not going over there with maybe a mother as well and physically seeing her the morning to talk with her and find out if everything is okay for me

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Makes you the asshole

[00:04:58] [SPEAKER_00]: If he says she's 24

[00:05:00] [SPEAKER_00]: His family probably does not know about the pregnancy as he introduced her to them as his roommate

[00:05:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I text and call 10 times if not 20 times with no responses

[00:05:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Even with ultimatums but as she doesn't get back to me, we'll have to cut contact you to my own mental health

[00:05:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Who buying a kneeds reply set saying so you suspect he might be controlling her

[00:05:21] [SPEAKER_00]: You don't think maybe you took a phone

[00:05:23] [SPEAKER_00]: If you suspect someone is a problem, you'll see them physically in person

[00:05:28] [SPEAKER_00]: Also she wasn't cruel to you she didn't attack you she didn't bad mad you do anyone

[00:05:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Cut contact on someone you suspect might be in trouble, which kind of communication line if you ever reached out for help

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_00]: That zero reason to block her you didn't respond okay and

[00:05:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever you want but if you suspect someone is in trouble assuming they have access to their phone and

[00:05:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Couldn't go through a ability to ask for help makes you the asshole

[00:05:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Hope you respond again saying I guess I'm prioritizing my own mental health at the time as I offered and got cut off by her

[00:05:58] [SPEAKER_00]: For this point I'm waiting for the baby to be born and she would definitely need financial assistance

[00:06:03] [SPEAKER_00]: You may reach out by that time so you never sit down conversation

[00:06:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Condition to this point. I did go to a place of work, but could not locate her

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_00]: They drive by as a parliament no sign of her

[00:06:15] [SPEAKER_00]: Asked for her mother's last update. You lied about the whole situation to her mother

[00:06:19] [SPEAKER_00]: And the majority of the comments on this one were just like of mind-your-own business move on etc

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_00]: etc she's made her choices

[00:06:27] [SPEAKER_00]: But I gotta say I'm with two bionic knees on this one. I'm like the hell's going on here and breaking it down

[00:06:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Someone you've considered your best friend just starts dating some 69 year old dude

[00:06:39] [SPEAKER_00]: But grandkids is old as his older's her she gets pregnant and then just disappear without a trace

[00:06:47] [SPEAKER_00]: If any of my friends did something similar like this I'd be fucking concerned

[00:06:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Don't get me wrong. It sounds like OP's done a hell of a lot here

[00:06:56] [SPEAKER_00]: If done a lot the offering of financial assistance driving her to him from trying to be there to support her in any way she can

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_00]: But that the cutting off at the end there, right? I think like get it. I didn't understand why

[00:07:09] [SPEAKER_00]: OP did talk about you know to protect their mental health which I also get so I can only come at this from my point of view

[00:07:16] [SPEAKER_00]: And I would have definitely left that phone. I would have definitely sent a message with something like you know

[00:07:20] [SPEAKER_00]: If you ever need a talk if you ever need me

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm here just talk to me about it

[00:07:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Which is always I know is very easy for me to say being on the outside etc

[00:07:29] [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm just considering that from like my best friend's relationships and I know I would I would do anything for them

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_00]: OP comes in with the outdances. Here's the outdate

[00:07:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, 24 had the baby now for 10 months of no contact she reached out

[00:07:44] [SPEAKER_00]: We went for coffee and she updated me on what happened in those 10 months and admitted

[00:07:49] [SPEAKER_00]: She cut me off on purpose as she is jealous of my accomplishments

[00:07:55] [SPEAKER_00]: The 70 year old baby daddy is now 71 and has asked not to be on the birth certificate and he's not

[00:08:02] [SPEAKER_00]: He hid the baby from his family we had outkids in their 40s

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_00]: He was not there during the delivery and didn't even bother going to the hospital

[00:08:10] [SPEAKER_00]: You got kicked out of his apartment and living with a abusive mother where she desperately wants to move out

[00:08:16] [SPEAKER_00]: The reason why she reached out is due to she ran out of money due to a shopping addiction and she now needs support

[00:08:23] [SPEAKER_00]: She asked if she could stay at one of my rental properties for free or she can borrow some money from me

[00:08:29] [SPEAKER_00]: It was a pretty easy decision for me

[00:08:31] [SPEAKER_00]: As I told her straight up that I'm not an ATM machine

[00:08:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Actually would have kept me as a friend 10 months ago or would have considered to help her

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_00]: However, I'm still willing to be friends and work on our friendship

[00:08:42] [SPEAKER_00]: It's pretty upset about it and said that since I'm well off, I should help her

[00:08:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I told her no again and she will revisit this conversation again if we maintain friends

[00:08:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Well since that conversation I invited her to have lunch and coffee a few times and thought paying for things and driving her around like I did before

[00:09:01] [SPEAKER_00]: She pretty much stopped communicating with me immediately

[00:09:04] [SPEAKER_00]: I guess my question is am I the asshole here put her out on the streets

[00:09:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Edit we live at a pretty small town on the east coast so everyone is in everyone else's business

[00:09:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Since we probably know their parents or even grandparents

[00:09:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Real estate here is not as crazy as the mainland

[00:09:22] [SPEAKER_00]: The compurgest of relatively new townhouse for 250k and a mini house for 200k

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_00]: And now I'm gonna turn this one to you guys what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:09:35] [SPEAKER_00]: Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:09:38] [SPEAKER_00]: And let's move on to another story

[00:09:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Now next story is from a throw-aware count with later the wife responding to the post at the same time

[00:09:49] [SPEAKER_00]: This three posts to this this first one says I'm IVRs all being pissed at what my wife said to our niece

[00:09:55] [SPEAKER_00]: My sister and brother-in-law were abusive parents to my niece Charlotte

[00:10:00] [SPEAKER_00]: I always tried to protect her but my wife and I were only able to get custody three years ago

[00:10:05] [SPEAKER_00]: We adopted her and she's a good kid at heart

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_00]: But she still struggles a lot

[00:10:10] [SPEAKER_00]: She's still in therapy and has come so far but

[00:10:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Find it difficult to accept unconditional love that kids don't have to be perfect

[00:10:18] [SPEAKER_00]: All she's usually fine with my wife and I she's still sometimes tends to see our daughter

[00:10:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Chloe as ungrateful and spoiled

[00:10:26] [SPEAKER_00]: I've worked really hard on this and it's a lot better

[00:10:30] [SPEAKER_00]: But sometimes it comes up in their teenage squobbles

[00:10:33] [SPEAKER_00]: It's not perfect but the girls generally get along

[00:10:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Last Friday they had an issue

[00:10:38] [SPEAKER_00]: I was at work so this is based on what I was told after

[00:10:42] [SPEAKER_00]: While we was refusing to do any of her chores and arguing about it with my wife

[00:10:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Charlotte jumped in basically called Chloe lazy and said that she should be a better daughter like her

[00:10:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Apparently my wife got pissed off and told her off

[00:10:55] [SPEAKER_00]: She reminded her that she was lucky we were taking care of her and to stay out of it

[00:11:01] [SPEAKER_00]: From there it got bad

[00:11:02] [SPEAKER_00]: My wife says that Charlotte was extremely rude about Chloe

[00:11:06] [SPEAKER_00]: But she also had missed she told Chloe that we didn't have to take care of her

[00:11:11] [SPEAKER_00]: And that basically unlike Chloe we can send her back to a parent so she keeps it up

[00:11:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Ignore in the fact we legally cannot

[00:11:18] [SPEAKER_00]: That's just completely fucked up

[00:11:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Ended their fight with Charlotte just going to my parents for that night and she's been really upset and with drawn sense

[00:11:27] [SPEAKER_00]: When I got home my wife filled me in and I was honestly pretty furious

[00:11:32] [SPEAKER_00]: The first thing that came to my mind was what the fuck was wrong with you

[00:11:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Which admittedly was not productive response but it was honestly just flawed

[00:11:40] [SPEAKER_00]: This issue is that Charlotte doesn't get that a kid deserves unconditional love even if they're not perfect

[00:11:47] [SPEAKER_00]: So you fucking tell her that your kick around she doesn't behave

[00:11:51] [SPEAKER_00]: All the progress but work with her for is gonna be shut back again

[00:11:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I was mad and we thought about it. I get she can be difficult, but that was inappropriate

[00:12:02] [SPEAKER_00]: However, she still refused to apologize or anything

[00:12:04] [SPEAKER_00]: I've tried to talk to her and explain that we love her and that it wasn't meant the way it was said

[00:12:09] [SPEAKER_00]: But my wife is just accusing me of baby being unfavoring Charlotte

[00:12:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Apparently I'm being unreasonable thinking what she did was disgusting

[00:12:17] [SPEAKER_00]: But I should care more about Chloe as if this is a competition

[00:12:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm still honestly pretty pissed at her. Oh, she just claims I'm unreasonable

[00:12:25] [SPEAKER_00]: And being a shit dad to Chloe

[00:12:29] [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, a rack nids says on the back of this one saying not the asshole

[00:12:32] [SPEAKER_00]: The wife said a fucked up thing and really messed up with Charlotte

[00:12:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Your wife needs to apologize looks like you're gonna have to have individual long talks with everyone

[00:12:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Who appear a plysing that's exactly what I think

[00:12:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly don't know how she could say it and I'll even keep defending it

[00:12:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I've been keep trying to talk to the girls about it, but Charlotte is still icing me out other than apologizing repeatedly

[00:12:55] [SPEAKER_00]: The user says I hate to tell you this but I think your wife

[00:12:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I'd say a thing like that because that's how she actually feels about Charlotte

[00:13:02] [SPEAKER_00]: A charity case who should be grateful for scraps

[00:13:05] [SPEAKER_00]: That reaction wasn't a woman mediating a fight between two of her daughters

[00:13:09] [SPEAKER_00]: This was her defending her child against this hostile kid she took in

[00:13:14] [SPEAKER_00]: If she spoke in the heat of the moment, do you it would have been horrified afterwards? Not doubling down

[00:13:19] [SPEAKER_00]: It's possible she never wanted Charlotte

[00:13:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Oh Adam says not the asshole you are correct here

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Doesn't sound like you're favoring Charlotte at all

[00:13:28] [SPEAKER_00]: You aren't condoning or excusing her behavior

[00:13:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Your issue is with how your wife dealt with that behavior

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Which I agree was completely inappropriate

[00:13:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Your wife and you adopted the child

[00:13:40] [SPEAKER_00]: Is your child she can't be given back

[00:13:43] [SPEAKER_00]: And threatening to return it to an abusive situation is basically abuse in and over itself

[00:13:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Your wife should never suggest such a thing and should be ashamed that those words came out of her mouth

[00:13:54] [SPEAKER_00]: If you're sponsoring I agree thank you

[00:13:57] [SPEAKER_00]: There's no world where I'd ever give her back

[00:13:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I'd never way too much to ever do that

[00:14:01] [SPEAKER_00]: I honestly don't know why she doesn't see it like you said

[00:14:04] [SPEAKER_00]: A accomplished says the wife is only going through the motions with Charlotte

[00:14:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm sure she ain't Chloe have made sure that Charlotte knows her place

[00:14:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Hope you're sponsoring as far as I know this is the first time it's come up like this

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Charlotte definitely would have reacted obviously in the past

[00:14:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Chloe and her do get along mostly

[00:14:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I definitely don't think Chloe is a problem beyond being a typical teenager

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Lex says other comments from OP apparently shows

[00:14:29] [SPEAKER_00]: If friend of divorce her she didn't adopt Charlotte with him

[00:14:33] [SPEAKER_00]: He gazed you crime says oh and there it is

[00:14:36] [SPEAKER_00]: OP's wife is a bubbling cauldron of resentment

[00:14:39] [SPEAKER_00]: That finally came out in the open

[00:14:41] [SPEAKER_00]: The all the theories that she does in fact view this as a daughter

[00:14:45] [SPEAKER_00]: versus the charity case they took in our 100% accurate

[00:14:48] [SPEAKER_00]: It took Charlotte out of a blatantly toxic environment and broader into one with

[00:14:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Simmering toxicity beneath the surface

[00:14:55] [SPEAKER_00]: But that kind of ultimatum underlying Charlotte's adoption

[00:14:59] [SPEAKER_00]: A moment like this was inevitable

[00:15:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Lex replies again then

[00:15:03] [SPEAKER_00]: It feels like OP wants to be the savior but not do the work

[00:15:08] [SPEAKER_00]: The fact that he brought this child into a situation that started with an ultimatum is upsetting

[00:15:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Charlotte doesn't stand a chance if these are the adults in the situation

[00:15:17] [SPEAKER_00]: A shark either who found this pose put an editor's note in and said

[00:15:21] [SPEAKER_00]: In the wife's post Charlotte becomes Kelly and Chloe becomes Sarah

[00:15:27] [SPEAKER_00]: There is now also a son there are some age differences as well

[00:15:31] [SPEAKER_00]: And this is the wife's post which was titled MIVRs all here

[00:15:35] [SPEAKER_00]: But walking out on my adoptive daughter and telling her everything is her fault

[00:15:40] [SPEAKER_00]: 10 months later

[00:15:41] [SPEAKER_00]: So I 36 female a two kids a boy Tom five and Sarah a daughter 18

[00:15:48] [SPEAKER_00]: That's my husband's late brothers kid 16 female Kelly who lives with us

[00:15:54] [SPEAKER_00]: 14 months ago my husband came home with Kelly and said she would be staying with us for a while

[00:16:00] [SPEAKER_00]: I barely knew Kelly because since her father passed away 10 years ago a mum has been struggling with mental health in addiction

[00:16:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Apparently Kelly was in a bad situation at home due to her mother's new boyfriend being a must say not so nice person

[00:16:15] [SPEAKER_00]: He told me that it was only for three months while his parents who recently moved abroad got settled

[00:16:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Then it went to five lists his dad had a baby just excuse after excuse that I stopped asking

[00:16:26] [SPEAKER_00]: As time went on my husband just acted like she was our daughter even bringing up adoption a few times

[00:16:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Which I refused even when he threatened the horse

[00:16:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I know I sound like a monster you have to realize Kelly isn't easy to deal with my husband doesn't allow her to face any kind of consequences

[00:16:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Kelly acts like she's the golden child and my daughter is the black sheep

[00:16:48] [SPEAKER_00]: She has violent meltdowns

[00:16:50] [SPEAKER_00]: She's threatened our son that my husband will leave us she tells him because he loves her more which traumatized Tom

[00:16:57] [SPEAKER_00]: She has tried and failed her mind games with me pretending to be a saint a main target is my daughter

[00:17:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Is extremely cruel towards her verbally like she has slouch shame her for every little thing like wearing makeup or tell her

[00:17:10] [SPEAKER_00]: She's lazy slash good for nothing for stupid reasons like sleeping later the weekends

[00:17:15] [SPEAKER_00]: She'll take her things and will either lose them or destroy them and cry to my husband will excuse her behavior

[00:17:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Even though he spends 70% of his time at work

[00:17:25] [SPEAKER_00]: We're all in therapy which isn't working like group sessions and someone points out Kelly's behavior adoption usually ends up with everyone fighting

[00:17:33] [SPEAKER_00]: It all came to a head last month

[00:17:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Kelly was in a good mood all week

[00:17:37] [SPEAKER_00]: There had a big 18th party with all the attention on Sarah especially from my family Kelly mentioned in therapy

[00:17:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Myself and Sarah have an astupid fight over an honest you because Sarah used all my shampoo

[00:17:50] [SPEAKER_00]: But she didn't replace all let me know I was out of

[00:17:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Kelly came out of nowhere screaming at Sarah pulling her a moot ya lazy trash and spoiled

[00:17:58] [SPEAKER_00]: She then said Sarah was an adult now and she didn't pull her waist

[00:18:01] [SPEAKER_00]: She should get kicked out a lost it and I told Sarah was my daughter if she didn't change your attitude

[00:18:07] [SPEAKER_00]: She'd be the one kicked out

[00:18:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Kelly didn't say anything just went into her room

[00:18:11] [SPEAKER_00]: About an hour later my husband came back and started screaming literally in my face

[00:18:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Call me names tell me he wants to divorce so he can protect Kelly

[00:18:20] [SPEAKER_00]: But I said okay, I want to divorce and 50 50 custody

[00:18:23] [SPEAKER_00]: I get my son he gets his niece. I'll get the fuck out of my house with his niece

[00:18:28] [SPEAKER_00]: They left and have been staying with his brother since husband now has to deal with Kelly all the time

[00:18:33] [SPEAKER_00]: He wants more therapy to fix our issues so we can get back together and be a family again

[00:18:38] [SPEAKER_00]: It both came over yesterday to collect the last of their stuff and Kelly asked me if it was her fault

[00:18:43] [SPEAKER_00]: I said yes, it was just as much her fault as a run course husband

[00:18:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Has been told me I'm being unmatched during Kelly is my daughter whether I admitted or not

[00:18:53] [SPEAKER_00]: I've abandoned her when she finally had a stable home as she didn't mean to lash out

[00:18:57] [SPEAKER_00]: It's just due to a trauma that if we work together we can help her work through it

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly now, I don't know what to do and feel like an asshole

[00:19:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Harry Shares says on the back of that one not the asshole the husband only wants back with you to dump Kelly on you again

[00:19:13] [SPEAKER_00]: She's a troubled teen and need some serious help

[00:19:16] [SPEAKER_00]: The husband is more interested in a feeling like he's helping Kelly

[00:19:19] [SPEAKER_00]: What actually doing the real work involved in protecting his own kids?

[00:19:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Ira good divorce attorney ask about getting child support for your son and possibly to help your daughter with higher education cost if that's possible

[00:19:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Also ask about getting a call to order that your husband can't have Kelly around your son given her past threats against him

[00:19:38] [SPEAKER_00]: Who p says the wife are we pushing for supervised visits with Tom as of now it only had him with me or a sister in law present

[00:19:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Harry says says a specify that these would be supervised visits without Kelly present

[00:19:52] [SPEAKER_00]: The husband seems to have blinders on and can't be trusted to make good decisions without a specific court order

[00:19:59] [SPEAKER_00]: wife response saying in my country supervised visits happen in a center with a social worker and security present

[00:20:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I can call multiple witnesses to make sure she won't be allowed in

[00:20:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Little Jedi quotes at last comment OP said and says I'm glad you live somewhere where they take child safety seriously

[00:20:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Three days later, OP's wife replies again

[00:20:21] [SPEAKER_00]: So yes that of horses is going forward even though my husband has begged me to stay because he can't handle

[00:20:27] [SPEAKER_00]: The consequences of his actions and yes he is the user at we read on the first post did change a few details

[00:20:34] [SPEAKER_00]: And yes isn't our first fallout with me blowing up

[00:20:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Kelly isn't my daughter and I wanted her out due to their mistreatment of Sarah

[00:20:42] [SPEAKER_00]: We nearly got divorced last year but he used therapy in my emotional abuse as a tool to manipulate me to stay

[00:20:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Sarah hadn't spoken much to her father since the fallout because as people mentioned even on his post leaving a lot out about Kelly

[00:20:56] [SPEAKER_00]: And just putting down Sarah it was clear we only cares about

[00:21:00] [SPEAKER_00]: They're a said he wants nothing to do with him that's one family to bite out

[00:21:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm sick of his emotional and mental abuse towards us, Riznese and his threats are divorced to get his way

[00:21:12] [SPEAKER_00]: So I hope he makes us easy on everyone

[00:21:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Yes Kelly has had a bad childhood and has suffered but she isn't my problem anymore

[00:21:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Or on zero contact with her and will make sure do when I contact with my son

[00:21:25] [SPEAKER_00]: A plenty of evidence and witnesses to make it happen

[00:21:28] [SPEAKER_00]: I can sound cruel she can fuck right off

[00:21:31] [SPEAKER_00]: She isn't my kid so I don't owe her a relationship

[00:21:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Regardless of how bad a trauma is just no right to traumatize others

[00:21:38] [SPEAKER_00]: You get about a life in America with a grandparents but she refused to learn English

[00:21:42] [SPEAKER_00]: That's my husband being a real dad. That's irrelevant to me because I won't get the truth

[00:21:48] [SPEAKER_00]: What only cause more issues for my kids who've been through enough

[00:21:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks to everyone for the advice

[00:21:53] [SPEAKER_00]: I won't be logging in after tonight

[00:21:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I said in the comments English isn't my first language

[00:21:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Does it chef says your ex has been canal deal with Kelly in all the trauma

[00:22:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Good for Sarah for cutting off a father he clearly sucks at being one for his kids

[00:22:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Turner says so did you legally adopt her or not it's a critical detail

[00:22:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Why says no he claimed we did I didn't want to adopt even when he tried to force me

[00:22:19] [SPEAKER_00]: And a lot of people were quoting certain parts of both their stories saying they you know

[00:22:24] [SPEAKER_00]: They both left certain details at their own versions of the story and they're both unreliable narrators

[00:22:30] [SPEAKER_00]: What do you guys make of this situation let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:22:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories

[00:22:40] [SPEAKER_00]: Your love your support your time always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much for being involved truly

[00:22:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Hopefully I'll see you in the next one take care and much love