A Guy I Helped Do Homework Came Back Into My Life Offering To Buy Me A House r/Relationships

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[00:00:54] Now today's first story comes from the true off my chest subreddit and says,

[00:00:59] The guy I did homework for in high school reached out and now wants to buy me a house.

[00:01:06] I've 29 female, always been good with numbers and responsible.

[00:01:11] It was more noticeable in school because no one gave a fuck.

[00:01:15] But given that I have CP, cerebral palsy and walk with crutches plus being a nerd,

[00:01:20] you can imagine I was an extremely easy target for bullying.

[00:01:24] One year they mixed us so I had new classmates.

[00:01:27] The bullying was worse, but then one of the popular guys would defend me.

[00:01:31] At first I was confused, but when I saw that he would leave me his notebooks, I understood.

[00:01:37] And so began our symbiotic relationship.

[00:01:41] The bullying stopped and I would make his homework every day.

[00:01:44] We never talked about it and whenever he spoke to me, he sounded angry.

[00:01:49] It was like that for almost three years and his grades went up.

[00:01:53] I was just grateful I could be at peace in school.

[00:01:56] We graduated and never spoke again, nor did I see him again.

[00:02:00] But then a week ago he reached out on Instagram.

[00:02:04] He told me how good life had been for him.

[00:02:07] He offered to buy me a house and car.

[00:02:09] At first I thought it was a scam but we made video calls.

[00:02:13] He showed me things and it's legit.

[00:02:16] Long story short, he's a successful businessman worth millions living abroad.

[00:02:21] He said he always remembered me because I helped him get where he is now.

[00:02:25] He said he wanted to repay me because he knew how hard it is to be disabled

[00:02:29] and a woman in my country specifically.

[00:02:32] He's not wrong but I'm actually doing okay right now so I declined all his offers.

[00:02:37] But then I received a call from a medical center.

[00:02:40] The most expensive where I live mind you saying I have three years of physical therapy paid for.

[00:02:45] How he knew I did physical therapy, I don't know.

[00:02:49] I still thought it was a joke so I went there and it was true.

[00:02:53] I already did my first two sessions and my body feels so much better.

[00:02:57] I'm still confused because I saw our relationship as purely transactional

[00:03:03] and now he comes and he says he owes me.

[00:03:06] I'm so confused.

[00:03:09] I hope he then says edit one.

[00:03:11] Damn, I wasn't expecting this many replies.

[00:03:13] Thank you all for your kind words.

[00:03:15] It made me understand a little how he may feel.

[00:03:18] I already text him so we can talk a little bit more about his offers

[00:03:21] because even though I turned them down, he said it'd still be up

[00:03:25] and hopefully I can have a hand on the wheel to choose some less crazy expensive options.

[00:03:30] Thank you again.

[00:03:31] I feel less guilty now.

[00:03:33] Edit two.

[00:03:34] Thank you for your kind words.

[00:03:35] I'm trying to read all the comments and as for the creeps in my DMs, fuck off.

[00:03:40] Not some kind of freak show only because I have CP.

[00:03:43] A couple of relevant comments with OPs replies.

[00:03:46] Few stories says that's a nice gesture.

[00:03:48] You should take it and be thankful.

[00:03:50] Don't turn down on somebody who is trying to be kind.

[00:03:53] Seemingly with no ill intent.

[00:03:56] OPs says it's an amazing gesture but I don't really feel like

[00:03:59] I did something worthy of such gratitude.

[00:04:02] Data says only he knows how impactful your homework was on his life,

[00:04:06] even beyond grades.

[00:04:08] Bad to PT is helping already.

[00:04:10] I hope he extends it.

[00:04:12] I hope he says I mean I guess you could say we both impacted each other.

[00:04:15] It's thanks to him that the bullying stopped and school was nice again.

[00:04:19] But I never stopped to think how that impacted my life for the better.

[00:04:23] It's only now I realize how grateful I am for what he did.

[00:04:26] I'm so embarrassed it took this long to register.

[00:04:29] Nate Quarry says I had a friend offered to do something nice for me and I declined.

[00:04:33] His response changed my point of view forever.

[00:04:36] He said you don't get to decide whether or not I get to do things for people that make me happy.

[00:04:41] But I realized it wasn't just for me.

[00:04:44] It made him happy and feel like he's making the world a better place.

[00:04:48] OPs says thanks for the quote.

[00:04:50] It's very much true I guess.

[00:04:52] I just have a hard time accepting gifts.

[00:04:56] Paras says you did his homework for three years and he paid for three years of therapy.

[00:05:01] It sounds like he knows exactly what he's doing and he wants to say thank you now.

[00:05:06] Remember that for the really wealthy sometimes that seems crazy generous to us

[00:05:11] is the monetary equivalent of buying you lunch.

[00:05:14] Enjoy your therapy and may it continue to bring you relief.

[00:05:19] Paras says even back in high school it was a fair transaction in my book

[00:05:24] I'm sure him stopping the bullies prevented you from living in actual hell back then.

[00:05:28] He doesn't owe you but he knows gratitude.

[00:05:31] What a guy.

[00:05:33] And I'm glad there's people like you know said and they think it was like a fair transaction

[00:05:38] because I always feel like my view is kind of skewed with the whole bullying thing anyway.

[00:05:43] You know I've been bullied in my past and initially coming into this

[00:05:47] and I'm not saying I'm right I'm wrong I genuinely don't know.

[00:05:50] I kind of felt like he was taking advantage of that situation

[00:05:54] but I don't know this guy's background what he was going through at the same time.

[00:05:58] And like Opie said it made the high school life much better much easier

[00:06:03] so I think if casting myself back if I had that offer I would have taken that up at the same time as well

[00:06:09] and that's where I was really conflicted because the hell of that last year in school with being bullied

[00:06:14] it that year just felt like it went on forever and it was absolutely devastating.

[00:06:19] I can't tell you some of the dark thoughts that went through my mind back then

[00:06:22] and I remember one time one of someone that I knew noticed what was going on

[00:06:27] and they stopped it happening and the relief in that moment.

[00:06:31] So I think I would have accepted that offer as well

[00:06:34] and personally I think you should accept this offer.

[00:06:36] He clearly wants to give you something back so why not right?

[00:06:40] But Opie comes into the post with an update and says

[00:06:43] given all the support and kindness I received on the other post

[00:06:46] I'd like to let you guys know the resolution.

[00:06:48] We did another video call where I explained to him why I was hesitant to accept

[00:06:52] and told him all my doubts and fears about the whole ordeal.

[00:06:55] I was completely honest which surprised me to be honest.

[00:06:58] He also opened up to me and told me some sensitive stuff

[00:07:02] which I would have never imagined.

[00:07:04] At the end we agreed that he would finish paying the car

[00:07:07] it just started paying through a credit

[00:07:09] and also we found a nice little apartment in a good zone

[00:07:12] where I could be more comfortable.

[00:07:14] I have my own lawyer doing all the paperwork.

[00:07:16] Thanks all kind people for the suggestion.

[00:07:19] I tried to express all my gratitude

[00:07:21] and I hope you really understood how big this was for me.

[00:07:24] Also I got to thank him for protecting me in school

[00:07:27] and try to make him see how big of an impact it had on my life.

[00:07:30] I feel like this closed a chapter in my life

[00:07:33] and I think it's the same for him.

[00:07:35] I don't think we'll ever talk again nor do I think we are friends.

[00:07:39] He truly lives in another world

[00:07:41] and our realities are not compatible.

[00:07:43] He did say though if I ever go to his country

[00:07:46] not the US, LOL, I should call to meet him.

[00:07:49] I don't know if I would.

[00:07:51] At the end I'm just happy to see him so accomplished

[00:07:53] after all that happened in high school

[00:07:55] and I'm happy I could express all my feelings and thoughts.

[00:07:59] Thank you for all your supportive words.

[00:08:01] They meant a lot to me and helped me make a decision.

[00:08:05] You know all I can say after that is

[00:08:07] I'm glad OP did accept some form of offer

[00:08:10] but now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:08:13] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:08:16] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:08:19] and let's move on to another story.

[00:08:22] And this story also has an update from Able Accountant 7.626

[00:08:26] from the Am I the Arsell here subreddit and says

[00:08:29] Am I the Arsell here for cutting off my friends

[00:08:32] after they made fun of my boyfriend because they slept with me.

[00:08:36] So I have three guy friends.

[00:08:38] They're not my only friends but we are pretty close

[00:08:41] and I've had sex with all of them.

[00:08:44] Including some group sex.

[00:08:47] Just stopped some years ago.

[00:08:49] In fact two of them are in long term relationships

[00:08:52] with two of my best friends

[00:08:54] and they are aware of our history.

[00:08:57] Now my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year

[00:09:00] and it's been the best relationship I've had.

[00:09:03] The thing is my boyfriend is a bit insecure

[00:09:05] because I'm his first.

[00:09:07] He's also aware of my history with my friends.

[00:09:10] I've assured him that this is in the past

[00:09:12] and I have no sexual attraction to them at all now

[00:09:15] and that he's all I need.

[00:09:17] I actually asked my friends to never talk about this ever.

[00:09:20] However the other night we were all hanging out

[00:09:22] and I headed out with a friend to go get some stuff.

[00:09:25] When we get back my boyfriend's mood is much different.

[00:09:28] He plays it off but I can tell something was bothering him.

[00:09:31] When we get back to my place I press the issue

[00:09:34] and he says my guy friends kept making eskimo brother jokes

[00:09:38] and how he got the leftovers

[00:09:40] and told them how good he must be

[00:09:43] if he can satisfy me the same way all of them couldn't.

[00:09:46] I was furious and confronted my friends.

[00:09:49] They kept saying they were trying to man up

[00:09:52] my boyfriend since I told them he felt insecure about them.

[00:09:55] My boyfriend kept trying to save face

[00:09:58] saying things like the past is in the past

[00:10:00] but I can tell he's feeling down.

[00:10:02] I decided to cut off my friends because

[00:10:04] not only they disrespected my boyfriend

[00:10:06] but also me by calling me leftovers.

[00:10:09] My two best friends keep saying it's not a big deal

[00:10:12] and that me and my boyfriend are overreacting.

[00:10:15] Also how can I make this up to my boyfriend?

[00:10:17] I tried to show him how much I want him by initiating sex

[00:10:20] but he hasn't been in the mood.

[00:10:23] Now firstly I'll apologize for chuckling you away at the first bit there

[00:10:27] it was just the wording in that first paragraph

[00:10:30] where I hope you was talking about their friends

[00:10:32] and you know we're pretty close

[00:10:34] I've had sex with all of them

[00:10:36] I was like where did that come from?

[00:10:38] followed by including some group sex

[00:10:40] obviously no shame whatsoever

[00:10:42] but just the wording around it did make me chuckle

[00:10:45] a key requirement says not the arsehole

[00:10:47] for cutting off the three guy friends

[00:10:49] if your other two friends continue to make you feel in the wrong

[00:10:52] I'd cut ties with them too

[00:10:54] your the arsehole for telling any of them

[00:10:56] your boyfriend was insecure about your past

[00:10:58] you broke his trust and it's going to take more than initiating sex to gain that back

[00:11:03] Opie says I was trying to help

[00:11:05] I've heard stories about a girl's past being exposed because their friends let it slip

[00:11:09] I didn't want that to happen

[00:11:11] I really thought my guy friends would understand

[00:11:14] if famous anything says those are not great friends

[00:11:17] I think you're correct in cutting them off

[00:11:19] they show a distinct lack of empathy and emotional intelligence

[00:11:23] Apologize to your boyfriend for sharing his insecurities

[00:11:26] unless he specifically said that it was okay

[00:11:28] those were likely told you in confidence

[00:11:30] and you broke that confidence

[00:11:32] look after earned back his trust

[00:11:34] I don't know the best way to do that

[00:11:36] but it sounds like the two of you need to have a conversation

[00:11:40] Opie says he never said it was okay

[00:11:42] looking back I realized I really fucked up

[00:11:45] he says he's fine but he doesn't even want to touch me right now

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[00:12:47] good and technicality says if your boyfriend dumps you

[00:12:50] and he might you need to realize two things

[00:12:53] he's young inexperienced and this was traumatic for him

[00:12:56] it's not him being insecure

[00:12:59] it's you trusting shitty people that hurt him

[00:13:02] second if he leaves that's not a green light to go back to business as usual with his friend group

[00:13:06] they shit on your trust and behave like cruel children

[00:13:09] that's stuff you don't look past

[00:13:12] as for your best friends they need to understand exactly what sort of sleaze bags

[00:13:16] they're dating and if they can't appreciate your anger then let them know that

[00:13:20] when they become leftovers maybe they'll understand

[00:13:23] opi says I will never touch them again

[00:13:26] even if my boyfriend breaks up with me

[00:13:29] so opi comes in with their first update and says hello everyone

[00:13:32] it's been a long couple of days then my boyfriend has finally opened up

[00:13:35] he said he's glad I cut off my friends and that he wasn't going to ask me to do it

[00:13:39] but if I hadn't he would have left

[00:13:42] he said he doesn't want to break up over this as it wasn't something wrong I did

[00:13:45] he gets that most people have a past and that I didn't even know him back then

[00:13:49] he said it just became too real when my ex friends opened their mouth

[00:13:53] he's also mad at me because I told him his insecurities

[00:13:57] something that I know was a horrible mistake

[00:14:00] I apologized profusely and promised it was never going to happen again

[00:14:03] he also says he feels inadequate and inferior

[00:14:06] he said how the hell am I supposed to compare

[00:14:09] I'm just one guy

[00:14:11] I assured him that he's way better than them

[00:14:14] and that he's all I want from now on

[00:14:16] we kept talking for a while eventually hugged it out

[00:14:19] he says he doesn't feel ready to have sex again

[00:14:22] and asked me to respect that which I agreed to

[00:14:25] he also says he doesn't want to hang out with any other former partner

[00:14:28] he said he won't freak out of anything if we run into one like at a party or something

[00:14:32] but he won't hang out with them

[00:14:34] which is more than fair after what happened

[00:14:37] one of my best friends reached out and apologized for what she said

[00:14:40] she thought my former friends just mentioned our history

[00:14:43] and my boyfriend got all insecure

[00:14:45] but didn't realize just how horrible they were

[00:14:47] she said you broke up with him already

[00:14:49] haven't heard from the other friend

[00:14:51] as for me, I feel absolutely disgusting knowing I let those guys touch me

[00:14:56] and I know I fucked up when I told them about my boyfriend's insecurity

[00:15:00] still, that doesn't excuse just how horrible some of your comments were

[00:15:04] I take full responsibility for disclosing my boyfriend's insecurities

[00:15:08] but most of you just wanted to shame me for having sex in the first place

[00:15:11] I didn't hurt anyone just for having grouped sex

[00:15:14] but I did fuck up by calling the wrong people my friends

[00:15:17] to those of you who are more understanding

[00:15:20] but still rightfully called me out for my carelessness

[00:15:22] with my boyfriend's feelings

[00:15:24] thank you

[00:15:26] Hope he adds another update and says hello everyone

[00:15:28] it's been a few weeks since the whole incident happened

[00:15:31] while a lot of you were horrible in the comments

[00:15:33] I appreciate the few of you who are more supportive

[00:15:35] my boyfriend and I seem to be back on track now

[00:15:38] he's back to his old self and he's been very loving and sweet

[00:15:42] I've been as affectionate as possible

[00:15:44] without being sexual

[00:15:46] I've been making him meals, got him a couple of gifts and complimented him

[00:15:50] where Deep talks about boundaries and we talked out what happened

[00:15:54] he forgave me for talking about his insecurities to my friends

[00:15:57] I promised him that I won't do anything like that again

[00:16:00] he also talked about his insecurities

[00:16:03] by the way he's fully aware of my previous posts

[00:16:06] and say it's fine because no one knows who we are

[00:16:09] well after I assured him he's the best I've had

[00:16:12] which is true and that I don't want anyone else but him

[00:16:15] well he got his confidence back

[00:16:17] and he wasn't shy to show me

[00:16:19] so things are good now with us

[00:16:21] I've learned my mistake

[00:16:23] as for my former friends

[00:16:25] I've blocked them on everything

[00:16:27] and I have no desire to ever see them again

[00:16:29] I think this is going to be my last update

[00:16:31] and while I don't expect my relationship to never have problems again

[00:16:35] I think we've moved on from this now

[00:16:37] and now I'm going to turn this one to you guys

[00:16:40] what do you guys make of this situation

[00:16:43] let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:16:46] let's move on to another story from the MI the arsehole subreddit

[00:16:50] no update yet

[00:16:52] and this story comes from headline 8730

[00:16:55] and says MI the arsehole for telling my daughter

[00:16:58] that this activity is only for my biogran kids

[00:17:01] and I'm not going to change the tradition

[00:17:04] I'm just a force to step grandkids everywhere

[00:17:07] I will give some background

[00:17:09] I'm a pretty young grandmother

[00:17:11] my daughter Jenny has two kids

[00:17:13] nine and thirteen

[00:17:15] my daughter remarried to a man that has his own children

[00:17:18] so I have step grandkids eleven and ten

[00:17:21] so a total of four kids in this story

[00:17:24] I will refer to them as bio and step grandkids

[00:17:27] to make it as clear as possible

[00:17:29] the bio and step grandkids don't get along well

[00:17:32] and from the outside it is easy to see that the two parents are pushing them together

[00:17:36] I've heard so many complaints

[00:17:38] and informed the parents that the forced bonding wasn't helping

[00:17:42] they didn't take my advice and overall all the kids have to do everything basically together

[00:17:47] I've been teaching my biogran kids how to so for a while

[00:17:51] every year we'd been making a blanket over a few months

[00:17:54] the two kids love it and I enjoy the tradition

[00:17:57] I informed the bio kids who will start soon on the project

[00:18:01] they seemed excited

[00:18:03] I got a call from my daughter asking me to include the step grandkids

[00:18:06] the biogran kids were talking about the blankets

[00:18:09] and made the other grandkids upset they aren't invited

[00:18:12] so now my daughter called me to include them

[00:18:15] I told her no

[00:18:17] that this is just something I do with my biogran kids

[00:18:20] we've done this for years and I'm not changing it

[00:18:23] I also informed her that forcing them into a tradition will not help the kids

[00:18:27] they already dislike their step siblings

[00:18:30] she called me a jerk and according to my other daughter

[00:18:33] it has caused issues in her family

[00:18:35] edit, comments asked often

[00:18:38] they've been married for less than a year

[00:18:40] they have their own grandparents they didn't live close

[00:18:43] I've invited them to join when the biogran kids come over

[00:18:46] I've only seen them at holidays

[00:18:48] I don't even know if they want a relationship with me

[00:18:51] if they are interested in sewing I'd be willing to teach them

[00:18:54] but again I'm unsure they are

[00:18:57] I'm gonna start off with space Jesus who says

[00:18:59] I think I disagree with everyone

[00:19:01] no one's an asshole here for me

[00:19:03] Grandma is doing her best to maintain traditions

[00:19:05] and to protect the biogran kids from feeling like nothing will ever be just there as ever again

[00:19:10] I totally get it

[00:19:11] Mum is trying to create shared positive experiences

[00:19:14] hoping that it brings people together

[00:19:16] she doesn't want any kids under a roof to feel like second-class family members

[00:19:20] on the flip side both are pushing the boundaries of ideal behaviour

[00:19:24] ignoring the valid concerns of others in the situation

[00:19:27] none of you are the arseholes

[00:19:29] if you want something approaching a solution

[00:19:31] do a small project with all four kids

[00:19:33] and continue the larger one with a more experienced sewer separately

[00:19:37] Mum says not the arsehole

[00:19:39] but you have to accept that she may cut off contact with your grandkids

[00:19:43] try to be there for them

[00:19:45] you may have to go to court

[00:19:46] have you explained to D.D. that your grandkids are already getting the short end of the stick

[00:19:52] don't your step-grandkids have their own grandparents?

[00:19:55] who'd be responding edit?

[00:19:57] this response is about if the parents refuse to allow a relationship with the grandkids

[00:20:01] which is all hypothetical at the moment

[00:20:04] the kids already know

[00:20:06] I know for a fact that if she kept me away the oldest would lose her shit

[00:20:10] I'm also in walking distance from the school so it's not uncommon for them to just show up

[00:20:15] really would be the worst ideas for the parents to do

[00:20:18] they probably break the family completely

[00:20:20] I know I could go for grandparents' rights

[00:20:22] please remember that everywhere has different laws

[00:20:24] and we aren't making this a legal argument

[00:20:27] I doubt it would come to that anyways

[00:20:29] the step-kids' grandparents are not close

[00:20:31] but they are involved in my understanding

[00:20:34] apprehensive fans say oof

[00:20:36] once again I am enormously grateful

[00:20:38] my step-grandparents accepted 12 year old me

[00:20:41] and made me feel like I was welcome

[00:20:43] info, is this a recent marriage?

[00:20:45] is it still at a stage of culture shock as everyone makes new normal?

[00:20:49] did you disapprove of this marriage?

[00:20:52] my feelings from the way you phrased it is a soft yordy asshole

[00:20:55] your feelings of only wanting the biogran kids are your feelings

[00:20:58] but if you phrased it the same way to all of them

[00:21:01] that is likely to make it harder for everyone to reach a point of being more comfortable

[00:21:05] lifts for sunshine says this is a tough one

[00:21:07] as it seems the adults are not letting the kids guide their relationships

[00:21:11] forcing them together will not help

[00:21:13] but also not accepting the other two kids as part of the family

[00:21:16] will not help either

[00:21:18] have you made any attempts to welcome them into the family and get to know them?

[00:21:22] I agree you need to keep your blanket tradition

[00:21:25] but maybe see if there is something the other kids will enjoy too

[00:21:28] they're just kids who have been thrust into a situation they did not ask for

[00:21:33] help them all feel wanted and accepted

[00:21:37] and the comments were pretty varied on this one

[00:21:40] between all of the all of the verdicts

[00:21:42] no arseholes here, you're the arsehole, not the arsehole

[00:21:45] but what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:21:49] let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:21:52] just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories

[00:21:56] your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me

[00:22:00] so thank you so so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one

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