I Threw My Brothers Prison Trauma In His Face To Prove A Point r/Relationships

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[00:00:24] [SPEAKER_00]: 9497 from the MI the arsehole here subreddit and says am I the arsehole here for throwing my brother's prison trauma in his face

[00:00:31] [SPEAKER_00]: to prove a point

[00:00:33] [SPEAKER_00]: My brother has always been an angry hot-headed thug

[00:00:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Since he was a small kid. He showed violent behavior

[00:00:40] [SPEAKER_00]: Idolized gangs and would just generally be a prick to everyone

[00:00:44] [SPEAKER_00]: He's the kind of decent guy that goes on about respecting him and tries to intimidate everyone just because he can

[00:00:51] [SPEAKER_00]: When he was a teenager it escalated dramatically and our parents tried whatever they could to fix it

[00:00:56] [SPEAKER_00]: He started using drugs when he was 16 by the time he was 19. He went to prison for two years

[00:01:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Prison changed him

[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_00]: After he got out, he was not the same guy

[00:01:08] [SPEAKER_00]: He flinched when you touched him slept with the lights on and added an extra lock to the door of his room

[00:01:14] [SPEAKER_00]: When he stayed with my parents

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_00]: He was broken

[00:01:17] [SPEAKER_00]: He eventually had a full-blown mental breakdown where he started talking about what happened

[00:01:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Was about as bad as you expected

[00:01:25] [SPEAKER_00]: His combative nature isolated him day one and made him a target for all kinds of abuse his entire sentence

[00:01:32] [SPEAKER_00]: He's been in therapy for years

[00:01:34] [SPEAKER_00]: He's 32 now. He went back to school

[00:01:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Met a nice woman and is actually turning his life around

[00:01:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Our relationship isn't perfect and it will never be fully healed

[00:01:44] [SPEAKER_00]: But he's trying to actually be a human being the problem has been the last couple of months

[00:01:50] [SPEAKER_00]: You can see it on his face the way he acts

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_00]: He's slowly going back to his old ways. He acts aggressive around mum and dad

[00:01:58] [SPEAKER_00]: When he's out he tries to pick fights again

[00:02:00] [SPEAKER_00]: The people he hangs around with are known violent felons and suspected dealers

[00:02:05] [SPEAKER_00]: He had a girlfriend for about a year

[00:02:07] [SPEAKER_00]: But she left him because he started frequently screaming throwing things around their apartment and threatening to hurt her

[00:02:13] [SPEAKER_00]: It's obvious he's on drugs again. He's slowly unraveling and throwing away years of progress

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Our parents tried talking to him offered rehab

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Offered him to stay with them for some time

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_00]: He flipped out at our parents and after years of his crap. They simply walked away and blocked him for the time being

[00:02:32] [SPEAKER_00]: They spent years and countless dollars before and after his sentence to try and help him

[00:02:37] [SPEAKER_00]: They were done

[00:02:38] [SPEAKER_00]: I tried talking to him

[00:02:39] [SPEAKER_00]: His place was a mess and he had empty alcohol bottles and pill containers scattered around his place

[00:02:45] [SPEAKER_00]: He got hostile very quickly when I pointed out the obvious and threatened me

[00:02:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I snapped and brought up what he told us about his prison time and told him it would all be waiting for him again

[00:02:55] [SPEAKER_00]: If he doesn't fix his shit and that this time his family won't be waiting to help clean up his mess

[00:03:02] [SPEAKER_00]: It shut him down super quickly

[00:03:04] [SPEAKER_00]: And he just curled up on the couch and weakly told me to leave

[00:03:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I felt terrible since I brought it up

[00:03:10] [SPEAKER_00]: But he is gladly thrown away years of progress for the same crap that got him in trouble in the first place

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_00]: He knows what prison is like and he's doing everything he can to go back there

[00:03:19] [SPEAKER_00]: He's spitting in the face of everyone who went to bat for him chasing the same highs that almost destroyed his life

[00:03:27] [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes in life that tough love is absolutely needed and you gave him exactly that you've tried talking to him

[00:03:35] [SPEAKER_00]: Your parents have tried talking to him

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_00]: He's been in therapy

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_00]: And now he's going back to his old ways and you're just reminding him of the consequences of his old ways

[00:03:43] [SPEAKER_00]: And we've seen it time and time again in these stories and I'm incredibly sorry that your family's having to go through this

[00:03:51] [SPEAKER_00]: But it kind of feels like that's all you can do in this situation

[00:03:55] [SPEAKER_00]: He needs to help himself at the same time

[00:03:58] [SPEAKER_00]: And if he doesn't he's likely to end up back in prison again. But these are his choices that he's making

[00:04:05] [SPEAKER_00]: But electrical workers is not the arsehole for pointing out to your brother that drugs and violence will end them back in prison again

[00:04:11] [SPEAKER_00]: You can recommend to get help before he digs himself in further

[00:04:15] [SPEAKER_00]: Make sure he knows that the reason you told him what you said was that you were worried about him and care about him

[00:04:21] [SPEAKER_00]: And that you're not trying to hurt him

[00:04:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Another commenter says not the arsehole sometimes you just can't help the drowning man who's slapping you away from saving him

[00:04:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Even if their family they're not worth it

[00:04:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Despite the emotional connection

[00:04:35] [SPEAKER_00]: There are thousands of people who are in your brother's position

[00:04:38] [SPEAKER_00]: And they're actively trying their darkness to stay on course for their family friends and themselves

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Unpractice pagan says not the arseholes somewhere along the lines

[00:04:48] [SPEAKER_00]: He fell back in with bad people who had him relapsed and somehow he compartmentalized his past prison trauma

[00:04:55] [SPEAKER_00]: Probably to justify his relapse and tell himself it's okay

[00:04:59] [SPEAKER_00]: You're giving him a loud reminder to wake up if he doesn't want to go through all that again

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_00]: It may be tough. He may think you were the arsehole, but he probably 100% needed to hear it

[00:05:10] [SPEAKER_00]: I hope he reaches out to you

[00:05:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Then she seemed to still be open to contact and ask for help so he can get better again

[00:05:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Confusion knows there's not the arsehole sometimes someone needs to hear the hard truth

[00:05:21] [SPEAKER_00]: And realize they've hit rock bottom before it's too late

[00:05:25] [SPEAKER_00]: It might have sucked

[00:05:26] [SPEAKER_00]: But he needs to remember how scared and broken he was so he doesn't go back or something worse happens

[00:05:32] [SPEAKER_00]: And one more comment from weak assignment who says not the arsehole my little brother lived this cycle

[00:05:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Went to juvie at 12 and was in and out of jail until he was 28 years old

[00:05:42] [SPEAKER_00]: My dad and his mom were horrible parents and he was treated like no child should ever be

[00:05:48] [SPEAKER_00]: It took a long stint in penitentiary and and his child being born while he was behind bars to finally clean up and stay that way

[00:05:55] [SPEAKER_00]: The truth hurts

[00:05:56] [SPEAKER_00]: But it's the truth whether it's set out loud or in your mind and unfortunately

[00:06:00] [SPEAKER_00]: It's what he needs to hear and yeah, it hurts

[00:06:03] [SPEAKER_00]: But it doesn't hurt as much as going back to jail will

[00:06:07] [SPEAKER_00]: 10 times out of 10

[00:06:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I will risk my relationship and give my siblings a reality check before I let them put our family and themselves

[00:06:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Into another half decade of misery and a lifetime of PTSD

[00:06:19] [SPEAKER_00]: And i've mentioned someone I knew when I was younger who also like that comment said lived this kind of

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_00]: This cycle the parents weren't particularly great parents ended up associating with

[00:06:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Various people that were into drugs that lived across the river from us much older people as well

[00:06:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Who these people ended up influencing him to distill from local shops to bring them back food etc

[00:06:41] [SPEAKER_00]: He got caught he was in and out of like uh the equivalent of juvenile detention

[00:06:46] [SPEAKER_00]: He kept running away from home to be with these people getting arrested for more stealing

[00:06:52] [SPEAKER_00]: And it's incredibly sad to see and you know, I've seen this guy sort of online

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Uh probably about a year or so ago and you can see like on his face

[00:07:01] [SPEAKER_00]: It sounds horrible to say but you can see the hard life he's had

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_00]: And yes, he was a shit and i'm i'm not excusing that behavior

[00:07:07] [SPEAKER_00]: And he's turned himself around now

[00:07:09] [SPEAKER_00]: But like I said, you can still see the effects of his past life on him and you know like the brother in this situation

[00:07:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I hope that he does see the truth in this and starts to turn it around again because

[00:07:20] [SPEAKER_00]: The alternative is although this guy might be a shit now and as shit in his past

[00:07:26] [SPEAKER_00]: If he continues down this path ends up in jail and gets out again and continues this this cycle

[00:07:31] [SPEAKER_00]: We've just got another shithead walking around the streets, right?

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_00]: And nobody wants that the op came back in to update their posts and says last night my brother got high and trashed his apartment

[00:07:41] [SPEAKER_00]: He punched holes in the walls destroyed furniture and busted windows

[00:07:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Utterly destroyed his place

[00:07:48] [SPEAKER_00]: He tried kicking a neighbor's door in and throw rocks through their window when they yelled

[00:07:53] [SPEAKER_00]: They were calling the police and threatened to kill them

[00:07:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Police came and he tries fighting them and got his ass beat badly

[00:08:00] [SPEAKER_00]: They took him to the hospital. He calmed down for enough time to call me to the hospital

[00:08:05] [SPEAKER_00]: It was unintelligible, but I got the gist of it and yes, I shouldn't have gone to see him

[00:08:10] [SPEAKER_00]: But by the time I got there he'd lost his shit again. He was in four-point restraint

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_00]: He was screaming and practically feral

[00:08:18] [SPEAKER_00]: I couldn't even get any words in before I decided to leave

[00:08:21] [SPEAKER_00]: From what I can gather from the cops there. I talked to they found a ton of drugs

[00:08:25] [SPEAKER_00]: He assaulted a police officer destroyed his apartment and damaged the neighbor's front door and window

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Friend to kill the neighbor tried to escape arrest and punched a nurse

[00:08:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Bit of tech and to top it off was already in trouble for sending death threats to his ex

[00:08:38] [SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, he's going back to prison for a much longer time

[00:08:43] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm done with him. Our parents are done. Everyone is done with him and frankly

[00:08:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm very okay with that since I am finally free of the stress he brings

[00:08:51] [SPEAKER_00]: He didn't learn a damn thing

[00:08:54] [SPEAKER_00]: And a lot of the majority of the comments are saying you know, it's drug induced people saying he's got mental issues

[00:08:59] [SPEAKER_00]: Other people saying you know, it's best to cut him off

[00:09:02] [SPEAKER_00]: People can only receive help if they want that help and it doesn't seem like he's going down the right path

[00:09:08] [SPEAKER_00]: Many different comments on this one

[00:09:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Incredibly sad that you had to go through that that you had to live through this

[00:09:16] [SPEAKER_00]: But simply you can't force that help if they don't accept it

[00:09:21] [SPEAKER_00]: Ah

[00:09:22] [SPEAKER_00]: What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:09:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:09:28] [SPEAKER_00]: And let's move on to another story

[00:09:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Now our next story comes from

[00:09:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Investigator C1323 from the mi the arsehole here subreddit and says

[00:09:38] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm i the arsehole for snapping at my husband for repeatedly bringing up breast surgery

[00:09:45] [SPEAKER_00]: I 27 female have been married to my husband 34 male for over a year. We've been together for six years

[00:09:52] [SPEAKER_00]: He's a gym freak, which I don't have a problem with except for when he sometimes tries to impose his routine on me

[00:09:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Pressure me into adopting his dietary habits

[00:10:01] [SPEAKER_00]: I exercise too. I'm five foot six and 130 pounds, but I enjoy my food and nothing will change that

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_00]: That's not what i'm posting about that lately

[00:10:11] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't wear a dress without him telling me I look good

[00:10:14] [SPEAKER_00]: But that I would have looked better if I had that breast augmentation surgery

[00:10:18] [SPEAKER_00]: He never complained about my breast for six years and till the past four to five months

[00:10:23] [SPEAKER_00]: I told him before that I'm not against it, but not planning to get one

[00:10:27] [SPEAKER_00]: It took me years to regain my confidence because my mother used to make hurtful remarks about my chest

[00:10:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Like if it's something I didn't achieve

[00:10:36] [SPEAKER_00]: A few days ago we were having sex and he didn't hesitate to remind me again

[00:10:40] [SPEAKER_00]: That I would look 10 times better with the implants which turned me off instantly

[00:10:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't remember what I exactly said, but I said something along the lines of I know how it feels

[00:10:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Never mind. You're the perfect size. The big ones hurt anyway

[00:10:54] [SPEAKER_00]: He got mad and called me immature and all

[00:10:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Mind you, he's been pressuring me to have surgery for four months now and I never snapped at him

[00:11:02] [SPEAKER_00]: edit

[00:11:03] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm an a cup

[00:11:05] [SPEAKER_00]: Yesterday we were getting ready to go to his friend's wedding, but I ended up staying home

[00:11:09] [SPEAKER_00]: He brought up the surgery again. I snapped at him and reminded him that we dated for five years before we got married

[00:11:16] [SPEAKER_00]: He had plenty of time to realize that I'm not good enough for him and to break up with me to find a woman

[00:11:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Who has what he's looking for

[00:11:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I do have eyes. He's right that I'm flat chested, but have a nice body overall

[00:11:27] [SPEAKER_00]: He said he loves me and wants to be with me, but feels he could be more attracted to me with bigger breasts

[00:11:33] [SPEAKER_00]: I ended up telling him to go alone

[00:11:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't shake off the feeling that our recent arguments are taking us down a toxic path

[00:11:40] [SPEAKER_00]: It's not the kind of relationship I want for us

[00:11:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Is this worth considering the wars over other than this we do get along very well

[00:11:48] [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like he's taken me back to the days when I would stand in front of the mirror for minutes

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Think that I would never find a man who'd like me if I myself don't like what I'm seeing

[00:11:58] [SPEAKER_00]: edit for the weed-os asking slash going to for pics to see if they're a handful or not

[00:12:03] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm asking if this behavior is acceptable or not. Not if I'm really flat chested

[00:12:07] [SPEAKER_00]: I am I don't need to send any pics for you to judge

[00:12:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Man, there's some fucking weird people out there man sending messages like that Jesus

[00:12:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely not the asshole

[00:12:19] [SPEAKER_00]: The snapping at him he keeps on he's repeatedly doing this time and time again

[00:12:24] [SPEAKER_00]: You said about him trying to impose his routine on you pressuring into a doctor in his dietary habits

[00:12:29] [SPEAKER_00]: You know a lot of this felt very much like control and you said it that's not what you're posting about

[00:12:34] [SPEAKER_00]: But it felt like it's all a part of it at the same time

[00:12:38] [SPEAKER_00]: He's telling you this stuff whilst you're having sex

[00:12:41] [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm going to assume and I might be assuming wrongly that he knows about these hurtful remarks that your mother used to make to you

[00:12:51] [SPEAKER_00]: And the confidence issues you had because of that and he decides to make these comments

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_00]: He's got to be thick as mints to go down that path

[00:12:59] [SPEAKER_00]: But sunny sj says he tells you quite regularly that he finds you lacking

[00:13:03] [SPEAKER_00]: He even goes as far as to bring this up during sex. This is not the actions are a respectful loving spouse

[00:13:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Your world within your rights to make a mean comment to him

[00:13:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Funny how people who regularly dish out cruelty are the ones least able to take it

[00:13:18] [SPEAKER_00]: If you agree to the breast augmentation, I would willingly bet a large sum of money

[00:13:23] [SPEAKER_00]: There'll be something else who want you to fix you having bigger breasts won't fix whatever his issue is

[00:13:29] [SPEAKER_00]: Go get silver balls says my first husband talked to me about the same thing

[00:13:33] [SPEAKER_00]: I said no

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_00]: He then had his best friend call me at work

[00:13:37] [SPEAKER_00]: He asked why I wouldn't agree to it the force followed promptly not the arse off

[00:13:43] [SPEAKER_00]: What the hell is that?

[00:13:45] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm just trying to picture that scenario him going up to his best friend at work and saying

[00:13:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Mate, I need my wife to get breast surgery. Would you give her a call and and tell her that you need to agree to it because

[00:13:57] [SPEAKER_00]: For whatever reason

[00:13:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't think of a reason and then the best friend thinking

[00:14:01] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll do that and then call in the rap and actually saying this shit

[00:14:05] [SPEAKER_00]: That is wild

[00:14:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Another commenter says your husband shouldn't be nagging you to undergo an elective surgery for only his benefit

[00:14:13] [SPEAKER_00]: He's being immensely disrespectful

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Which is too nice of a description

[00:14:18] [SPEAKER_00]: But anyway, be proud of your body. Don't allow his behavior to affect your self-esteem

[00:14:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Does he know you might consider the force over this issue?

[00:14:27] [SPEAKER_00]: Tell him and base your decision upon his reaction

[00:14:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Roshi says I decided to have breast reduction surgery due to back and neck pain

[00:14:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I've been with my partner for over five years at the time

[00:14:39] [SPEAKER_00]: He was extremely upset that I was taking his toys away, which he started to remind me on a weekly basis leading up to my surgery

[00:14:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Needless to say the relationship ended just days before I had my surgery

[00:14:52] [SPEAKER_00]: All the pains including him are now gone

[00:14:56] [SPEAKER_00]: One more comment from lovely dany who says I do think this is grounds to consider the force

[00:15:00] [SPEAKER_00]: And i'm not one of those people on reddit who suggest a force for every issue

[00:15:04] [SPEAKER_00]: But my strong suspicion is that this is just the tip of the iceberg

[00:15:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't imagine how he'll treat you if you ever got pregnant slash delivered a child slash breastfed

[00:15:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Better to get out now while your body and self-esteem is relatively intact and find somebody who really loves you for you

[00:15:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Especially since you are still young

[00:15:22] [SPEAKER_00]: It'd be a lot harder to start over when you're older slash possibly a mother

[00:15:27] [SPEAKER_00]: The op comes in with their update and says I had no intention of mentioning divorce

[00:15:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Not until I get some answers that could help with my decision

[00:15:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I was hoping we would end up agreeing on counseling or something

[00:15:37] [SPEAKER_00]: I just wanted an honest conversation to know if there was a way to fill that void for him without ever getting the surgery

[00:15:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I sat him down last night and just like usual he tried to change the subject

[00:15:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I made it clear to him that is either we talk about it now or he never ever brings up breast surgery again

[00:15:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Well, that did it for him. I asked him why he suddenly after six years together wants me to get one

[00:16:02] [SPEAKER_00]: He wouldn't give me a straight answer

[00:16:03] [SPEAKER_00]: I told him if I'm to consider having one needs to be honest with me about what changed in the past few months

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_00]: He grabbed his phone and showed me some women's pictures on his phone

[00:16:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Let me tell you they weren't instagram models. They were 100% only fans models

[00:16:19] [SPEAKER_00]: He showed me more than five pictures with no shame or the slightest consideration of my feelings

[00:16:24] [SPEAKER_00]: With each pic he said things like see you would look 10 times hotter. She's not even as gorgeous as you are but

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked him if I decide to never get the surgery

[00:16:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Would he ever drop the idea like can we move past it?

[00:16:37] [SPEAKER_00]: He said it's something he can't stop thinking about because he really feels like he would be more attracted to me

[00:16:43] [SPEAKER_00]: And that I myself would feel more confident with the boob job

[00:16:46] [SPEAKER_00]: I do have eyes and just like I know how small my chest is. I know that I have a nice body figure

[00:16:53] [SPEAKER_00]: People see people compliment so they can't all be liars

[00:16:57] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked what he ever liked about me in general because from the pictures he showed me

[00:17:01] [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't see any women that resemble me even a bit. He said that I'm gorgeous and have a killer smile

[00:17:06] [SPEAKER_00]: And he likes my curvy hips

[00:17:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked him if there's anything else he likes about me in general

[00:17:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I was hoping he would mention something other than my body or anything

[00:17:15] [SPEAKER_00]: And all he said was your lips. I told him since I'm considering breast augmentation surgery

[00:17:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Is there anything else he thinks I could fix so he feels more attracted to me while we're at it

[00:17:25] [SPEAKER_00]: I hope that he would at least say other than my boobs. He loves everything about me

[00:17:30] [SPEAKER_00]: He said you're good from grammatical errors. You could tell I'm not a native English speaker and brazilian

[00:17:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I told him or think about it and said good night because I want to give him the satisfaction of seeing my tears

[00:17:42] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if I'm just naturally stupid and never paid attention to the red flag

[00:17:46] [SPEAKER_00]: Or he just decided to show me his true colors now that we're married

[00:17:50] [SPEAKER_00]: By the way since I'm asked yes, he does know about my history with my mother

[00:17:55] [SPEAKER_00]: Every woman in my family is a c cup and up including my younger sister. I'm the only one with an a cup

[00:18:01] [SPEAKER_00]: He initiated sex later and I told him there's a lot on my mind right now

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_00]: He didn't even argue and after like five minutes said I will pay for it. Don't worry about that

[00:18:11] [SPEAKER_00]: When we met he was around 230 pounds. He's five foot eight and he never went to the gym before he's 190 pounds now

[00:18:19] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm mentioning this because someone said I hooked up with him for his looks and physique

[00:18:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Physique wasn't on the table back then but it never slash would matter to me as long as the person in front of me cares about me

[00:18:30] [SPEAKER_00]: For who I am I myself and not perfect

[00:18:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, he was so insecure about his look and I never ever said a thing about them

[00:18:38] [SPEAKER_00]: A you slash still voice how I love this and that about him

[00:18:42] [SPEAKER_00]: I boosted his ego just for him to decide that he'd be more attracted to me if I get a boob job after six years together

[00:18:49] [SPEAKER_00]: And for those saying I'm lazy for not going to the gym with him and that he wants what's best for me

[00:18:53] [SPEAKER_00]: I said I do exercise. Yes, I'm an a cup and I know it's not for everyone and I respect that

[00:18:58] [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm fucking gorgeous

[00:19:01] [SPEAKER_00]: My mother slash him or anyone else wouldn't change that. I'm a babe. Here with it

[00:19:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Like it he himself used to mention how I get looks all the time when we're out

[00:19:10] [SPEAKER_00]: I felt hurt and cried because it hurts to not feel desired by the person you love the most and want to be desired by

[00:19:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Other than that, I'm perfectly happy with my body

[00:19:20] [SPEAKER_00]: If I ever decide to get the boob job I will get it for me

[00:19:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Not for someone who finishes in two minutes and can't even hit the spot

[00:19:27] [SPEAKER_00]: I need time to make a plan before I start the process

[00:19:31] [SPEAKER_00]: When everything is ready and I have a place lined up. I will serve him the papers

[00:19:35] [SPEAKER_00]: By the way, I will initiate sex tonight and every night until the day I serve him edit

[00:19:40] [SPEAKER_00]: I get it now. It's a bad idea. I will go with it for tonight at least

[00:19:45] [SPEAKER_00]: I bought a dildo today thrice his size and I'm using it after he finishes

[00:19:49] [SPEAKER_00]: If he goes lower I'm going lower until I have an exit plan ready

[00:19:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you to each and everyone who took the time to read my post and share their support and advice

[00:19:59] [SPEAKER_00]: Your words have really made a difference for me

[00:20:01] [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks to the men who offered their perspectives and advice. The honesty has been eye-opening

[00:20:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Edit I never knew reddit wasn't for such problems and I wasn't supposed to post on this sub

[00:20:11] [SPEAKER_00]: I tried another sub and they asked for an account starting with a throwaway

[00:20:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't talk about this with family and friends, especially not my mother. It's just embarrassing

[00:20:19] [SPEAKER_00]: The best option for me was people on the internet

[00:20:23] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm just trying to think how you can be so clueless in this situation though

[00:20:27] [SPEAKER_00]: You know, I think she made it clear that she wasn't keen on the breast surgery and he kept pushing for it time and time again

[00:20:34] [SPEAKER_00]: She has this discussion with him about it

[00:20:36] [SPEAKER_00]: She asked him about if she never got the surgery can they move past it

[00:20:40] [SPEAKER_00]: And he said he can't stop thinking about it and then and was showing her only fans pictures

[00:20:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, dear and this guy wasn't picking up any of the clues and later on tried to initiate sex and says oh, don't worry

[00:20:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll pay for it. Like I said about the money

[00:20:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, what a book anyway

[00:20:54] [SPEAKER_00]: What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:20:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved

[00:21:03] [SPEAKER_00]: In today's stories. You'll love your support your time always means the absolute world to me

[00:21:08] [SPEAKER_00]: So thank you so so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love