My Thread On Reddit To Tell My Husband We're Getting DIVORCED r/Relationships

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[00:00:21] Now, today's first story comes from the Am I The Arsehole Here subreddit and says, Am I The Arsehole Here for letting you know I'm divorcing you by sending you a thread on the website that you use to ignore me.

[00:00:34] This story is from HotFlan8325.

[00:00:37] Hi Stefan, maybe you'll finally listen. And if you're wondering if you can just speed home and stop me from doing this and leaving, it's too late.

[00:00:46] I'm sending you this after I've already loaded everything in the car and left.

[00:00:51] Don't worry. I spoke with our landlords and took my name off the lease.

[00:00:55] I set up a direct deposit for the next month's rent. After that, you're on your own, buddy.

[00:01:02] I guess you're wondering why. I'm guessing you act like you're completely blindsided, right?

[00:01:07] Because you've done absolutely nothing wrong and you're a great husband and father to be, aren't you?

[00:01:14] Well, buddy, let me break it down for you in a language you understand.

[00:01:19] I, 29 female, have been married to my husband, 35 male, for 5 years.

[00:01:25] And we've been together for nearly 10.

[00:01:27] On paper, everything seemed fine.

[00:01:30] But in reality, our marriage has been anything but.

[00:01:33] I've reached my breaking point and I need to know if I'm the one in the wrong here.

[00:01:37] From the beginning, my mother-in-law has been a nightmare.

[00:01:41] She made everything about her from day one.

[00:01:44] At our wedding, she wore white, claiming it was a family tradition.

[00:01:48] It wasn't.

[00:01:49] She constantly criticizes me.

[00:01:51] From my cooking to my appearance.

[00:01:54] I'll never forget the time she called me fat at a family gathering right in front of everyone.

[00:02:00] And what did my husband do?

[00:02:02] Nothing.

[00:02:03] Not a single word to defend me.

[00:02:05] It didn't stop there.

[00:02:07] She has accidentally destroyed my belongings, including my grandmother's necklace.

[00:02:12] Which she threw out because it looked like cheap costume jewelry.

[00:02:16] She's gone out of her way to make me feel small and unwelcome in my own home.

[00:02:20] But every time I tried to talk to my husband about it, he'd brush it off, saying I was overreacting or being too emotional.

[00:02:28] And then there's my husband.

[00:02:29] He's always on Reddit, constantly giving strangers relationship advice.

[00:02:34] Which is laughable considering how he treats me.

[00:02:38] He spends more time rating women's boobs on Reddit than talking to me.

[00:02:42] Literally.

[00:02:43] And just so you know, the last pair we rated weren't a 4 out of 10.

[00:02:47] They were a 10 out of 10.

[00:02:49] Yeah, he got plenty of time to do that, but can't be bothered to remember anything about my life.

[00:02:54] He'll forget my birthday, our anniversary, even simple things like what I'm working on or what's important to me.

[00:03:01] But he has a perfect memory for his work schedule and things that matter to him.

[00:03:06] When we fight, he becomes incredibly hostile and always throws in a sarcastic buddy at the end of his sentences.

[00:03:13] Like I'm some acquaintance he can barely tolerate.

[00:03:16] And he never cleans.

[00:03:18] The house, the dishes, the laundry, you name it, it's all on me.

[00:03:22] Just like he thinks being an adult is optional.

[00:03:26] As long as he's got his job in his Reddit account.

[00:03:29] The final straw came a few weeks ago.

[00:03:31] I'm 5 months pregnant with our first child, her daughter.

[00:03:35] My mother-in-law started making comments about how she'll have to whip the girl into shape.

[00:03:40] And how she'll raise her to be tough because I'm too soft.

[00:03:44] When I told my husband that I didn't want his mother to have too much influence on our daughter.

[00:03:48] Especially with the way she treats me.

[00:03:50] He just laughed it off.

[00:03:51] Saying his mother means well.

[00:03:54] And that I was overthinking it.

[00:03:56] But the moment that truly broke me was when we were talking about our future childcare.

[00:04:01] My husband suggested that his mother should watch our daughter while we work.

[00:04:05] I told him I wasn't comfortable with that.

[00:04:07] Especially considering how his mother treats me.

[00:04:10] And he snapped.

[00:04:11] He called me paranoid.

[00:04:13] And I should get over it.

[00:04:14] Because his mother was trying to be a big part of our daughter's life.

[00:04:17] Whether I liked it or not.

[00:04:19] This is the same woman who believes corporal punishment is okay.

[00:04:23] I've seen her hit my husband's nephew for the smallest things.

[00:04:27] And no one does anything about it.

[00:04:29] It's like they're all living in some kind of cult.

[00:04:31] And I'm finally waking up to the reality of what's going on.

[00:04:35] If he wouldn't stand up for me.

[00:04:37] How could I expect him to stand up for our child?

[00:04:39] I started to fear for what kind of environment our daughter would grow up in.

[00:04:44] A place where she might be belittled or bullied by her own grandmother.

[00:04:48] With a father who wouldn't do anything to stop it.

[00:04:51] Oh.

[00:04:51] And did I mention that he missed our first ultrasound?

[00:04:54] His mother needed him to help her with something urgent.

[00:04:58] It turned out to be fixing her wifi.

[00:05:01] Wifi.

[00:05:02] He chose that overseeing our daughter for the first time.

[00:05:06] That told me everything that I needed to know.

[00:05:08] And where I stand in his life.

[00:05:10] So I packed up and left.

[00:05:12] I'm done living like this.

[00:05:14] Oh.

[00:05:15] And in case you're wondering.

[00:05:16] I already contacted a lawyer.

[00:05:18] You can't scare me into complying anymore.

[00:05:20] Because I have all those texts.

[00:05:22] You know exactly which ones I'm talking about.

[00:05:25] So Stefan.

[00:05:26] I wish you all the best in your future marriage.

[00:05:29] With your mother and the women of Reddit.

[00:05:31] Whose boobs you don't even deserve.

[00:05:34] I the arsehole.

[00:05:35] For leaving my husband after he neglected me for years.

[00:05:38] Let his mother mistreat me.

[00:05:40] And made me fear for our future daughter's safety.

[00:05:44] Imagine if dude is actually on this subreddit.

[00:05:47] And he comes across this post.

[00:05:48] And Matt.

[00:05:49] You're slowly reading it.

[00:05:50] And recognizing that it's your life that's being read here.

[00:05:53] And you're like holy shit.

[00:05:53] But it's one of those typical mother-in-law stories.

[00:05:56] That we see time and time again.

[00:05:58] And seem to have control over their son's life.

[00:06:02] But I love the way that Opie explained it as well.

[00:06:04] Like they're living in some kind of cult.

[00:06:07] And Opie's waking up to the reality of what's going on.

[00:06:10] That like before.

[00:06:11] I guess it kind of felt like all normalized.

[00:06:14] But now she's waking up to the fact.

[00:06:16] And this could be the future for a child as well.

[00:06:19] And getting herself at that situation.

[00:06:21] Absolutely.

[00:06:23] But Sudden Magazine says.

[00:06:25] Not the arsehole.

[00:06:26] Question for Stefan.

[00:06:27] Did you scroll through Reddit comparing boobs to your mom's while she's breastfeeding you?

[00:06:34] Rambara says.

[00:06:35] And Stefan is Homelander.

[00:06:37] We're fucked.

[00:06:40] Acquaventa says.

[00:06:41] I wish I could give this post a gold.

[00:06:43] Because this was brilliant.

[00:06:44] F you.

[00:06:45] I'm leaving you note.

[00:06:47] Not only did Opie post the note where a soon to be ex will find it and read it.

[00:06:51] But also found a very clever way to make it public.

[00:06:54] Opie.

[00:06:54] Make sure all of the custody arrangements and the visitation agreements are done with your lawyer.

[00:06:59] And the judge.

[00:07:00] And without your former mother-in-law.

[00:07:01] I'm sorry it came to this.

[00:07:03] Your ex never deserved you.

[00:07:06] Obviously.

[00:07:07] Not the arsehole.

[00:07:08] Chuck says.

[00:07:09] Opie.

[00:07:10] That second paragraph is important.

[00:07:12] When you set up visitation.

[00:07:13] I'm not sure if you can arrange it so your mother-in-law can't be supervised around your child.

[00:07:18] But you can put in a first right of refusal.

[00:07:21] Athletic Nerd says.

[00:07:23] If he is dumb enough to post here.

[00:07:24] Everyone is going to eviscerate his post history.

[00:07:27] Nosferas says.

[00:07:29] Stefan versus Reddit's titties committee.

[00:07:31] Rating battle would be an awesome watch.

[00:07:34] Not gonna lie.

[00:07:35] Strange Loop says.

[00:07:36] Imagine bros sitting down and reading this at first.

[00:07:38] Like wow.

[00:07:40] Imagine if this was actually for me.

[00:07:42] Wait.

[00:07:43] Oh.

[00:07:43] That might be because.

[00:07:44] Oh my god.

[00:07:45] The necklace thing.

[00:07:46] The ultrasound.

[00:07:47] Mom!

[00:07:50] Ray one says.

[00:07:51] He sounds so disinterested in his wife.

[00:07:53] That he only realized when he gets home.

[00:07:55] And finds her gone.

[00:07:57] C Command says.

[00:07:58] And he still won't know why.

[00:08:00] Silver Twin says.

[00:08:01] He just throws his hands in the air.

[00:08:03] And says.

[00:08:04] This came out of nowhere.

[00:08:05] I wonder what happened.

[00:08:06] Everything was perfect.

[00:08:08] I had my mom.

[00:08:09] And my bang maid.

[00:08:11] Hopi came in a few hours later.

[00:08:13] With a little update.

[00:08:15] And says.

[00:08:15] Tiny update.

[00:08:16] Stefan has seen this.

[00:08:18] In this post.

[00:08:19] He is mad.

[00:08:19] That apparently one of you found him.

[00:08:21] Based on the rate my boobs thing.

[00:08:23] He's deleted his account.

[00:08:24] For any purposes.

[00:08:25] I want to clarify.

[00:08:26] That I left out.

[00:08:27] Any actual incriminating information.

[00:08:29] That could lead to doxing him.

[00:08:31] Any and all people.

[00:08:32] Who are pretending to know me.

[00:08:33] Or have any incriminating information.

[00:08:35] About me are lying.

[00:08:37] I'm not from South Carolina.

[00:08:39] I'm not moving in.

[00:08:40] With any other guy.

[00:08:41] And I'm also not sleeping around.

[00:08:44] Worker says.

[00:08:45] It stays like these.

[00:08:46] That I actually thank god.

[00:08:47] I was born during the time of the internet.

[00:08:50] Are you my personal hero?

[00:08:52] Absolutely yes.

[00:08:53] Are you the arsehole?

[00:08:55] Not remotely.

[00:08:56] Way to get rid of a deadbeat husband.

[00:08:58] This is an actual piece of art.

[00:09:01] Primary Afternoon says.

[00:09:02] I can't believe you came between him and his mom.

[00:09:04] You hussy.

[00:09:06] Hoopy says.

[00:09:07] I'm legit the side chick in my marriage.

[00:09:09] Strangely Unstranged says.

[00:09:11] Out of all the things I've seen on this thread.

[00:09:13] If this is real.

[00:09:14] It definitely takes the cake.

[00:09:16] And the baker too.

[00:09:17] 10 out of 10 post.

[00:09:19] A deleted user who was downvoted said to Hoopy.

[00:09:22] Yeah.

[00:09:23] The point is.

[00:09:24] You created an account.

[00:09:24] And wanted everyone on your side.

[00:09:26] So you can do a childish thing.

[00:09:27] Just to get at your husband.

[00:09:29] You've been with for 10 years.

[00:09:31] You're part of the problem.

[00:09:32] That is why everyone sucks here.

[00:09:34] Hoopy says.

[00:09:35] I don't know you guys.

[00:09:37] While it's nice to have people cheering.

[00:09:38] And telling me their stories.

[00:09:40] There is nothing to be gained.

[00:09:41] From unknown internet strangers.

[00:09:43] You have no real bearing in my life.

[00:09:45] So having you on my side.

[00:09:46] Makes no difference.

[00:09:48] The point of this is.

[00:09:50] Setting a loud statement.

[00:09:52] The only way my soon to be ex-husband cares about.

[00:09:55] Hoopy replying to another deleted comment.

[00:09:57] Saying baby no.

[00:09:59] If anyone treats you like Stefan treated me.

[00:10:01] Leave.

[00:10:02] This is not normal.

[00:10:04] A few months ago.

[00:10:05] I got to witness.

[00:10:05] What an actual healthy relationship is like.

[00:10:08] A partner should be attentive.

[00:10:09] Care about you.

[00:10:10] And want to do this for you.

[00:10:12] And with you.

[00:10:12] There should be fire and flame.

[00:10:14] When it comes to making relationship work.

[00:10:16] Not just let you carry all the burden.

[00:10:19] Marriage should not be hard.

[00:10:21] Only life and marriage.

[00:10:22] Should be what makes life manageable.

[00:10:24] This is not normal.

[00:10:26] Took me a few months to understand.

[00:10:27] But you will also understand.

[00:10:29] When you grow.

[00:10:31] Johnny Velvet replied to Hoopy.

[00:10:33] Saying what do you mean.

[00:10:34] A few months ago.

[00:10:34] You witnessed a healthy relationship.

[00:10:36] Like witnessed as a third party.

[00:10:38] Or are you agreeing with all the people.

[00:10:40] Pretending they know you.

[00:10:41] Saying you had a different partner.

[00:10:43] They claim that's.

[00:10:44] Who you're moving in with.

[00:10:45] I'm sure you saw.

[00:10:47] Hoopy says.

[00:10:48] I made a friend through work.

[00:10:49] Who invited me over for dinner.

[00:10:50] Her husband was there.

[00:10:52] I saw how they interacted.

[00:10:53] It was really small.

[00:10:55] But that was basically what triggered.

[00:10:56] The whole deconstruction.

[00:10:58] She has since also come to work.

[00:10:59] To surprise her.

[00:11:00] And she has dragged me along.

[00:11:01] To find tiny silly gifts for him.

[00:11:03] She is always so excited.

[00:11:05] To go home and see him.

[00:11:06] He always brings us something home.

[00:11:08] Last week.

[00:11:08] She came in with a shiny rock.

[00:11:10] He had found for her.

[00:11:11] And she proudly put it next to her desktop.

[00:11:14] Mountain Click replies.

[00:11:15] And says.

[00:11:16] This is couples goals.

[00:11:18] Hoopy says.

[00:11:18] They really are.

[00:11:19] And I have a lot to thank them.

[00:11:21] It's like the loving slap.

[00:11:23] I needed.

[00:11:23] To wake up from this nightmare.

[00:11:25] Especially one night.

[00:11:26] When we're out.

[00:11:27] Not even clubbing.

[00:11:28] But at a night museum tour.

[00:11:30] I was being bombarded by course.

[00:11:31] Because he was trying to make me feel bad.

[00:11:33] For being out.

[00:11:34] My friend looked at me concerned.

[00:11:35] And asked me if I noticed.

[00:11:37] That her husband had texted her only once.

[00:11:39] I was convinced.

[00:11:40] That going out was awful.

[00:11:42] For everyone.

[00:11:43] Hoopy replies in.

[00:11:44] With regards to getting off the lease.

[00:11:45] Hoopy says.

[00:11:46] You can.

[00:11:47] If both of you signed a document.

[00:11:48] And are over the minimum renting time.

[00:11:51] For us.

[00:11:51] It was three years.

[00:11:52] I needed notice.

[00:11:54] Plus.

[00:11:54] It's an individual.

[00:11:55] Non-agency.

[00:11:56] They have more leeway.

[00:11:58] I'm sure I'd been fucked.

[00:11:59] If we had done our leasing.

[00:12:00] Through an agency.

[00:12:01] Because.

[00:12:01] As I have heard.

[00:12:02] They tell you to go pound sand.

[00:12:04] I also didn't just call today.

[00:12:06] And get it done.

[00:12:07] It has been in the making.

[00:12:08] A little longer.

[00:12:09] Today.

[00:12:10] Is just D-Day.

[00:12:11] Hoopy also told everyone that.

[00:12:13] They're not from the US.

[00:12:15] And after this.

[00:12:16] Part of me really wants to know.

[00:12:17] What Stefan.

[00:12:18] And mother-in-law.

[00:12:20] Are doing on the back of this information.

[00:12:22] That Hoopy is leaving.

[00:12:23] You know.

[00:12:24] I know mother-in-law.

[00:12:24] Will probably be just this shitty.

[00:12:26] And so will Stefan.

[00:12:28] Because.

[00:12:28] You know.

[00:12:29] Because mother-in-law and him.

[00:12:30] I'm not going to see any other way.

[00:12:32] But.

[00:12:32] What do you guys make.

[00:12:34] Of this.

[00:12:35] Situation.

[00:12:36] Let us know your thoughts down.

[00:12:38] In the comments below.

[00:12:39] And let's move on.

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[00:12:41] Story.

[00:12:43] Now.

[00:12:43] Our next story comes from.

[00:12:44] The true off my chest.

[00:12:46] Subreddit.

[00:12:46] From Bad of Regret.

[00:12:47] Who says.

[00:12:48] I want to confess.

[00:12:49] To my best friend.

[00:12:50] Of 10 plus years.

[00:12:51] I also know that.

[00:12:53] He doesn't reciprocate.

[00:12:54] My feelings.

[00:12:56] My best friend.

[00:12:57] And I.

[00:12:57] Both late 20s.

[00:12:59] Have known each other.

[00:12:59] Since grade school.

[00:13:01] After middle school.

[00:13:02] We went off to different schools.

[00:13:03] And have lived different lives.

[00:13:05] In different states.

[00:13:06] But have still managed.

[00:13:07] To keep in contact.

[00:13:08] With one another.

[00:13:08] Over the years.

[00:13:10] Largely.

[00:13:10] We do this via phone calls.

[00:13:12] Or Skype.

[00:13:14] Usually about once.

[00:13:15] Or twice a week.

[00:13:16] It's scheduled.

[00:13:17] So at this point.

[00:13:18] It's our unspoken agreement.

[00:13:20] To call each other.

[00:13:20] On a particular day of the week.

[00:13:22] I'm not exactly sure.

[00:13:23] When I started feeling this way.

[00:13:24] For him.

[00:13:25] One day.

[00:13:26] About a year ago.

[00:13:27] He was talking about.

[00:13:27] Someone he was dating.

[00:13:29] I felt weirdly smug.

[00:13:31] That he preferred spending time with me.

[00:13:33] I chose not to think about it.

[00:13:35] But that might have been.

[00:13:36] One of the first signs.

[00:13:38] He's pretty amazing.

[00:13:39] Funny.

[00:13:40] Smart.

[00:13:41] Kind.

[00:13:41] Capable.

[00:13:42] And so incredibly knowledgeable.

[00:13:44] About the things he's passionate about.

[00:13:46] I love listening to him talk.

[00:13:48] Whether it's about his favorite video game.

[00:13:50] Or music history.

[00:13:51] Or gossip about people I've never met.

[00:13:53] Lol.

[00:13:53] On the one hand.

[00:13:55] I learned something new.

[00:13:56] And on the other.

[00:13:56] He always looks so jazzed.

[00:13:58] To share what he's passionate about.

[00:14:00] He's pursuing higher education.

[00:14:02] At the moment.

[00:14:02] And hearing about what he learns in class.

[00:14:04] Is always a treat too.

[00:14:05] And he's just as supportive of me.

[00:14:07] With my hobbies.

[00:14:08] And passions.

[00:14:09] And struggles.

[00:14:09] I couldn't ask for someone better in my life.

[00:14:12] I know that he sees me.

[00:14:14] As something like a sibling.

[00:14:16] We've talked about someone.

[00:14:17] He was interested in.

[00:14:18] From his school.

[00:14:19] And he cemented the fact.

[00:14:20] That he just doesn't see me that way.

[00:14:22] He mentioned not being able to date someone.

[00:14:24] With the same name as me.

[00:14:26] Or anyone.

[00:14:27] Who has the same names.

[00:14:28] As his family members.

[00:14:29] He mentioned not wanting to date someone.

[00:14:31] With the same eye color as me too.

[00:14:33] It's just a preference of his.

[00:14:35] That still stung a little.

[00:14:37] I know that this is going nowhere.

[00:14:39] I know that these feelings.

[00:14:41] Are roots in arid soil.

[00:14:42] And that this desire.

[00:14:44] To be his first priority in his life.

[00:14:45] Isn't realistic or fair to him.

[00:14:48] I know that this is something.

[00:14:49] That I should give up.

[00:14:51] Retrospect being 2020.

[00:14:53] I understand now.

[00:14:54] That I've always been the one.

[00:14:55] To reach out first over the years.

[00:14:57] I was the first.

[00:14:58] To suggest weekly calls.

[00:14:59] I don't think we'd still be talking.

[00:15:01] If I weren't the one.

[00:15:02] To take initiative.

[00:15:03] At this point.

[00:15:04] I just want to confess to him.

[00:15:05] And ask for space.

[00:15:07] I want to rip off this bandaid.

[00:15:08] And find someone else.

[00:15:09] Who will reciprocate these feelings.

[00:15:12] I just wish this process.

[00:15:13] Didn't require hurting our friendship.

[00:15:16] This school is starting.

[00:15:17] It's new semester soon.

[00:15:18] And I hate the idea.

[00:15:19] That I might become an added stressor for him.

[00:15:22] As opposed to support.

[00:15:24] Prior to this.

[00:15:25] I hadn't been in love for over a decade.

[00:15:27] But I guess the heart.

[00:15:28] Can be capricious.

[00:15:30] I'm in love with him.

[00:15:31] I want him to be happy.

[00:15:32] I want to be a guest.

[00:15:34] At his hypothetical wedding.

[00:15:35] And gush to his future partner.

[00:15:37] About what a lovely couple they make.

[00:15:39] And more than anything.

[00:15:40] I want that not to be a lie.

[00:15:42] I'm aware that my feelings.

[00:15:44] Are starting to affect this friendship.

[00:15:45] I know that confessing may be selfish.

[00:15:48] But it's something that I need to do.

[00:15:49] To get over this.

[00:15:51] Thank you for reading this post.

[00:15:53] Whoever you are.

[00:15:53] Internet stranger.

[00:15:54] I'm wishing you well.

[00:15:58] My kind of feeling on this.

[00:15:59] And I don't know whether it's right.

[00:16:01] Whether it's wrong.

[00:16:02] But I just kind of feel like.

[00:16:03] You should just get it over with.

[00:16:05] And tell him.

[00:16:06] Like you said.

[00:16:07] Rip the bandaid off.

[00:16:08] And do it.

[00:16:09] Because I don't think your feelings.

[00:16:10] Are going to change.

[00:16:11] Anytime soon.

[00:16:12] And they might just grow.

[00:16:14] You know.

[00:16:14] And it's just going to make things.

[00:16:15] More and more awkward.

[00:16:16] Sure.

[00:16:17] It could go horribly wrong.

[00:16:19] So you may have to prepare yourself.

[00:16:21] For that.

[00:16:21] But.

[00:16:23] I don't know.

[00:16:24] I'm struggling to see an alternative.

[00:16:25] To this.

[00:16:26] You can just pull away.

[00:16:27] But then again.

[00:16:28] You're left with more what ifs.

[00:16:31] But pretty a throwaway says.

[00:16:32] Honestly.

[00:16:33] You sound like the girl best friend.

[00:16:34] Every girlfriend fears.

[00:16:36] I don't mean it in a rude way.

[00:16:38] By the way.

[00:16:38] But.

[00:16:38] I got that vibe after reading.

[00:16:40] That you felt smug.

[00:16:41] After he chose you over his date.

[00:16:43] You should tell him.

[00:16:44] It's unfair to both of you.

[00:16:45] If you don't.

[00:16:46] You'll just start resenting.

[00:16:48] Both him and his girlfriends.

[00:16:49] If you don't.

[00:16:50] And who knows.

[00:16:51] Maybe he was only saying.

[00:16:52] That you're like a sibling.

[00:16:53] Because he's afraid.

[00:16:54] You wouldn't reciprocate.

[00:16:55] And it doesn't have to mean.

[00:16:56] The end of your friendships.

[00:16:57] If you're both willing.

[00:16:58] To put in the work.

[00:16:59] In case of rejection.

[00:17:01] Opie says.

[00:17:02] I hate to say that I agree.

[00:17:04] He's single right now.

[00:17:05] And I think it's just best.

[00:17:06] To get it out of the way.

[00:17:08] Sometimes truth is hard.

[00:17:09] But I appreciate it.

[00:17:12] Small Drama says.

[00:17:13] Confess.

[00:17:13] You never know.

[00:17:14] If you don't try.

[00:17:15] Maybe there's something there.

[00:17:17] That you don't know about.

[00:17:18] I've had situations like this before.

[00:17:20] Where I was so oblivious.

[00:17:21] To a friend having feelings.

[00:17:22] And secretly.

[00:17:23] I had them as well.

[00:17:25] And if he doesn't reciprocate.

[00:17:26] Then you can take action.

[00:17:27] On what you want to do.

[00:17:29] Take your space.

[00:17:30] If you need to.

[00:17:30] But you have to do it.

[00:17:32] Because if you don't.

[00:17:33] You'll regret it.

[00:17:34] So.

[00:17:35] Opie did.

[00:17:36] Come in.

[00:17:37] With her updates.

[00:17:38] And says.

[00:17:39] Hello.

[00:17:39] Some folks were asking for an update.

[00:17:41] And I decided.

[00:17:42] May as well get it off my chest.

[00:17:44] But um.

[00:17:45] In a nutshell.

[00:17:47] I got rejected.

[00:17:48] That was anticipated.

[00:17:50] So.

[00:17:50] I actually got over that part.

[00:17:51] Pretty quickly.

[00:17:52] Instead.

[00:17:53] What's been bothering me.

[00:17:54] Is the specifics.

[00:17:55] Of how it went down.

[00:17:56] He was talking about a reading.

[00:17:57] That he was doing.

[00:17:58] For one of his classes.

[00:17:59] I mentioned.

[00:18:00] Hey.

[00:18:01] I have something to say.

[00:18:02] Said a few apologies in advance.

[00:18:04] And admitted.

[00:18:05] That romantic feelings for him.

[00:18:07] His response was.

[00:18:08] Thanks for telling me.

[00:18:10] That takes courage.

[00:18:11] And then continued talking about his reading.

[00:18:14] And that was it.

[00:18:15] No questions.

[00:18:16] No concerns.

[00:18:18] Just continuing on from where he'd left off.

[00:18:20] As if it didn't happen.

[00:18:22] On the one hand.

[00:18:23] I'm grateful that he accepted it.

[00:18:24] And then let the conversation get awkward.

[00:18:27] That was kind of him.

[00:18:28] On the other.

[00:18:29] I don't know.

[00:18:30] Maybe this is just an issue of expectations.

[00:18:33] Not being anywhere close to reality.

[00:18:35] We've known each other since we were kids.

[00:18:37] How could he not have any questions.

[00:18:40] Not even a single comment about it.

[00:18:42] Just.

[00:18:42] I don't know.

[00:18:44] Dismissal I guess.

[00:18:45] Maybe he didn't know what to say.

[00:18:47] And just stuck with whatever he wanted to discuss.

[00:18:50] He went from talking about his readings.

[00:18:52] To lamenting about.

[00:18:53] How a game he really wants to play.

[00:18:55] Would be coming out.

[00:18:56] Smack in the middle of his midterms.

[00:18:58] Meanwhile.

[00:18:59] I was reeling.

[00:19:00] That was it.

[00:19:01] Nothing else.

[00:19:02] I ended the call early.

[00:19:04] After mentioning that.

[00:19:05] I want some distance.

[00:19:07] And how convenient it was.

[00:19:08] That our schedules.

[00:19:09] Wouldn't match this semester.

[00:19:10] And when I said my goodbyes.

[00:19:12] He said.

[00:19:12] Talk to you later.

[00:19:14] I'm not sure if he realized.

[00:19:15] The severity of that conversation.

[00:19:17] Had a quick cry about it.

[00:19:18] And discussed it with some other friends.

[00:19:20] Who've never met him.

[00:19:21] I didn't want to make these feelings.

[00:19:22] A problem for him.

[00:19:24] He's busy now.

[00:19:24] And it'd be petty of me.

[00:19:26] To tell him.

[00:19:26] That his underreaction.

[00:19:27] Was disappointing.

[00:19:28] To say the least.

[00:19:29] So now I'm telling the whole internet.

[00:19:31] About it instead.

[00:19:33] I've also been thinking about.

[00:19:34] The dynamics of our friendship.

[00:19:35] Over the years.

[00:19:36] If I weren't the one.

[00:19:37] Taking initiative.

[00:19:39] Who probably would have lost touch.

[00:19:40] My mind keeps returning.

[00:19:42] To the fact.

[00:19:43] That I was the one.

[00:19:44] Who would spend time.

[00:19:45] Making gifts for him.

[00:19:46] By hand.

[00:19:46] And he.

[00:19:47] Did not do that in return.

[00:19:49] I'd send him texts.

[00:19:50] And he wouldn't answer.

[00:19:51] Until it was time.

[00:19:52] For our weekly chat.

[00:19:53] Fun stuff.

[00:19:55] I know I have no real right.

[00:19:56] To be mad at him.

[00:19:57] He was just living his life.

[00:19:58] I was the one.

[00:19:59] With the unrealistic expectations.

[00:20:02] There was a time.

[00:20:03] When we were much closer.

[00:20:05] And he even made a little flash game.

[00:20:06] For my birthday.

[00:20:07] Full of inside jokes.

[00:20:09] But he's busy now.

[00:20:10] Life moves on.

[00:20:12] And so will I.

[00:20:13] Maybe he and I.

[00:20:14] Will speak again.

[00:20:15] Maybe not.

[00:20:16] If nothing else.

[00:20:17] I have plenty of other friends.

[00:20:18] And I'm pretty good at making new ones.

[00:20:21] If you've read this far.

[00:20:22] Thank you.

[00:20:23] Hope you have a nice day.

[00:20:25] So a commenter says to the OP.

[00:20:27] He had no questions.

[00:20:28] Because.

[00:20:28] He already knew I would guess.

[00:20:30] Another commenter says.

[00:20:31] That's what I thought.

[00:20:32] He knew it.

[00:20:33] Or suspected it.

[00:20:34] But OP.

[00:20:35] You've been brave enough to ask.

[00:20:36] And knowing that rejection.

[00:20:37] Would be the most probable answer.

[00:20:39] Give yourself time to heal.

[00:20:40] And let him be the one.

[00:20:42] Approach you first.

[00:20:43] If you want to know something of him.

[00:20:45] Because cutting ties.

[00:20:46] Would be the best thing to do.

[00:20:47] Good luck.

[00:20:48] OP said.

[00:20:49] Funnily enough.

[00:20:50] He said he had no idea.

[00:20:51] So.

[00:20:52] Hungry blood says.

[00:20:53] He doesn't have feelings for you at all.

[00:20:55] I don't blame you for wanting space.

[00:20:57] Stop your weekly calls.

[00:20:59] Because.

[00:20:59] You won't be able to get over this guy.

[00:21:01] If you talk weekly.

[00:21:02] Wish him the best in your heart.

[00:21:03] And do your best to cut out reminders of him.

[00:21:06] You sound like a lovely person.

[00:21:08] The guy should be pursuing you.

[00:21:10] The way you've been pursuing your male BFF.

[00:21:13] OP says that's the plan.

[00:21:14] And yeah.

[00:21:15] I've been re-evaluating a lot of this friendship.

[00:21:17] Thank you for the compliment by the way.

[00:21:20] Sale says.

[00:21:21] What I'm reading is this.

[00:21:23] Take it how you want.

[00:21:24] He is more your friend than you are his.

[00:21:27] His comments indicate to me that.

[00:21:29] He's just seen you as someone in his life.

[00:21:31] He can chat and hang out.

[00:21:32] And shoot the shit with.

[00:21:33] But he doesn't see you as close as you see him.

[00:21:36] You've held your friendship in a more meaningful light.

[00:21:39] Bottom line.

[00:21:40] You are not as close as you thought.

[00:21:42] And he isn't interested in anything beyond dynamic.

[00:21:45] You have slash.

[00:21:46] He thinks you have.

[00:21:47] If you still want to hang out with him.

[00:21:49] Let him come to you.

[00:21:50] And if he doesn't.

[00:21:51] He doesn't.

[00:21:52] It's okay to have misjudged the friendship.

[00:21:54] But this brings clarity.

[00:21:55] And you know how romantic feelings can cloud judgment in the future.

[00:21:59] OP says.

[00:22:00] That's a conclusion I've reached as well.

[00:22:02] Just not as eloquently.

[00:22:04] I appreciate your advice.

[00:22:06] And intend to take it.

[00:22:08] But now.

[00:22:09] I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:22:11] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:22:14] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:22:17] And just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[00:22:19] For getting involved in today's stories.

[00:22:22] Your love.

[00:22:22] Your support.

[00:22:23] Your time.

[00:22:23] Not towards me.

[00:22:24] But towards the OPs.

[00:22:26] Towards each other down in the comments.

[00:22:28] It's always fantastic and lovely to see.

[00:22:30] Thank you so much.

[00:22:31] Please keep doing you.

[00:22:32] And I will see you in the next one.

[00:22:34] Take care.

[00:22:35] And much love.