My Sister Said I HAVE NOT Met The Expectations Of Being A Godparent | r/BestOf

[00:00:02] [SPEAKER_00] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit stories. And if you do love a Reddit story, why not consider hitting that like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. And let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from traditional big 6808 from the am I the arsehole here subreddit. And it says am I the arsehole here for being a bad godparent.

[00:00:30] [SPEAKER_00] Me, 36 male and my husband Tom, 38 male were asked to be godparents when my sister Allison, 34 female and her husband Mark, 36 male were pregnant with their first child. Tom and I took that to mean that if anything happened to Mark and Allison, we would be the legal guardians. However, it appears that Mark and Allison had a different idea.

[00:00:54] [SPEAKER_00] Less than a year after their first child was born, Allison became pregnant with their second child. Allison and I grew up in the US but we're from an Indian background so the idea of a godparent is not common in our culture. I was asked ahead of time to babysit their firstborn during the birth of their second child. At this point I had moved for work and was about a two hour drive away. I initially agreed and I asked them to schedule sessions with me to teach me the basics of childcare because I've never been

[00:01:23] [SPEAKER_00] alone with an infant before. They agreed but never actually followed through to schedule those sessions. As the induction day grew closer, I became increasingly nervous and eventually reneged less than a week before the birth, saying I wasn't comfortable doing this alone if they weren't going to do test runs with me. Mark and Allison were understandably very upset but said they would figure something out. I've since apologized for this many times and I know I really messed up here.

[00:01:50] [SPEAKER_00] A few months after the birth, Mark and Allison started asking me to drive over to their house and babysit. They'd usually ask me one to two days in advance and they'd want me to babysit all day or overnight. On every one of these occasions, both parents were still in the house while I was babysitting. Despite their assurance that I'd be reimbursed for tolls and gas, I never was. As time went on, my work got busier and Tom started having health issues. My availability diminished more and more.

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_00] I also suffered a workplace injury which made driving for long periods very painful. Despite all this, I still went several times in an attempt to atone for my initial failure. But ultimately it got to a point where I had to tell them I was unavailable on several occasions. I offered an alternate date to babysit every time but they usually weren't available on those dates. This past weekend, Mark and Allison asked to meet up for dinner. They chose a place that was an hour drive from me since I'm still recovering from my injury.

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_00] My doctor advised me against long drives. I asked them if we could meet closer to my home but they said we'd have to take a rain check instead. Later that evening, they called me and explained that the reason they wanted to have dinner was because they were unhappy with my lack of involvement as a godparent. They said I had not met their expectations in helping out with their children. I acknowledged their concerns and apologized again for reneging on my initial agreement during the birth of their second child.

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_00] I also apologized for not being available to babysit on many occasions. I offered to pay for babysitting but my sister said she doesn't trust babysitters. She's heard many horror stories involving babysitting services. I then offered to watch the kids if Mark and Allison were willing to drop them off at our home. They thanked me for the offer but didn't accept. They told me that if I couldn't meet their expectations, they would have to dedicate their energy to finding help from their local community.

[00:03:43] [SPEAKER_00] Which would mean that they would also not be available to meet up with us for social events. They were very apologetic about this which I found strange. I told them that they didn't need to apologize and that Tom and I understood. We took no offense to them not being available. When we ended the conversation, I felt like we were mostly on the same page but they still seemed disappointed. I feel bad about not being available and not meeting their expectations. I know I was in the wrong for my initial reneging during the birth.

[00:04:11] [SPEAKER_00] But since then, I've tried my best and I've only refused to help when it was truly unfeasible. Am I the arsehole here for not meeting their expectations as a godparent? Thank you all for the kind words and validation and that I'm not being an arsehole to my sister and brother-in-law about this. Now, absolutely not the arsehole to me. It just seems to me in this situation, they don't want a godparent. They want a free on-call nanny with a two-hour commute just to add. And you said you already messed up once.

[00:04:40] [SPEAKER_00] Which, personally, I don't think you did anyway. They never followed through on preparing you. Which you specifically asked for. But you've been trying to make it up ever since. But at that point, they just seem to be putting on unrealistic expectations of you. Last-minute requests. No reimbursement. And expecting you to drive ridiculously long distances while injured, by the way. And then rejecting every compromise that you offer. And somehow you're the one who's falling short here. Yeah, no.

[00:05:11] [SPEAKER_00] That's not godparenting expectations. That's just entitlement, in my opinion. And the second-to-last paragraph where they said, you know, if you couldn't meet their expectations, they need to dedicate their energy to finding help from the local community. Which means they couldn't meet up with you. That felt like manipulation to me. They're trying to turn it around on you. Look what we have to do now. We can't meet up with you socially no more. Because, you know, you can't do this. Absolute bollocks. But commenter says, maybe it depends on where you live or your culture. But being a godparent is really about spiritual guidance.

[00:05:41] [SPEAKER_00] At least as a practicing Catholic, that's what it is to me. The idea that a godparent becomes a legal guardian maybe was a thing back in the day. But you still need to stipulate that in a will or legal document. I'm a godmother to three kids. And I asked what their expectations were. And I told them mine. And if expectations didn't match, I wouldn't have said yes. So on one hand, not the arsehole. Because it doesn't mean you're a free babysitter. And at the beck and call. But also, everyone sucks you. Because you all didn't discuss what was expected.

[00:06:10] [SPEAKER_00] And I guess, just assumed. Perhaps culture does play a big part in this particular one. And location and all sorts of things, really, right? For me, I'm a godparent to one of my nephews. And I've always understood it. And many people I know understand it as, you know, if something was to happen to their parents, you'd step in to look after the person, i.e. my nephew, at that moment in time. But OP also replied to that comment, saying, yeah, in hindsight, I should have pushed for sitting down

[00:06:38] [SPEAKER_00] and having a conversation about expectations before moving forward. I did know that all my friends never really knew their godparents to a greater extent. So I didn't think there would be such a high expectation placed on us when we were asked to be godparents. We also were not at the christening, so I don't even know if we'd even qualify to be godparents in the eyes of the church. Tom and I also aren't Christians, so we did not go through any of the conventional stuff that I heard godparents go through. Existence says, have you asked exactly what they're expecting of you as godparents

[00:07:07] [SPEAKER_00] and told them what you were expecting? I think it might be worthwhile to be explicit about it. OP says, unfortunately, I did not until our recent phone call. When they listed their expectations, I told them it was not feasible for me to live up to them and offered alternative solutions. I also listed my boundaries, which is why I think they were a bit disappointed by the end of the call. So OP came in with their first update 36 days later. And it said, a couple of weeks ago, Mark and Allison told me

[00:07:36] [SPEAKER_00] my brother-in-law Mark was having a tough time due to personal trauma from his past. I decided to send him a voice message letting him know I'm thinking of him and I'm there for him if he ever wants to talk. He responded saying thanks. A week later, I got a text from Mark that left me baffled and upset. He started as if we're already mid-conversation, which immediately threw me off and brought up a time when I had been homeless and hoped to stay with them. But he talked me out of it. He also brought up a time

[00:08:04] [SPEAKER_00] when I let my sister move across the country to stay with me for half a year for her work. Apparently, he hadn't wanted her to move at all, which came as a surprise because neither of them had ever mentioned that he felt that way. Both of these incidents happened close to 10 years ago, long before they had their kids, he then claimed he was in danger of losing his job and hinted that me not babysitting played a role in that. They're usually very private and had never mentioned to me previously that his job was at risk.

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_00] He ended his rant by referencing the incident from my previous post when I backed out of babysitting their firstborn during the birth of their second child. I was floored. I initially tried to call him, but he didn't pick up. I texted him expressing my confusion and where all this was coming from and offered to have a more in-depth conversation to air everything out so we could be on the same page. I explained again why I could not make the two-hour round trip to babysit due to my and my husband Tom's health issues.

[00:09:02] [SPEAKER_00] I once again offered to watch the kids at my place if Mark and Allison were willing to drop them off here. I even apologized again for everything that happened prior. Mark never responded. After processing the incident, I started feeling angry. I texted Allison about what happened and told her that I wanted an apology from Mark. Nearly a week later, she called me and told me to wait and that he would call me when he was ready. She apologized on his behalf and stressed that it was a rough time for them.

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_00] It turns out Mark had already lost his job. I still have no idea why, how, or exactly when that happened. She expressed that she was also upset about my lack of involvement with the kids. She mentioned that he hadn't shown her the text he sent me, but that he had told her he just said what was on his mind. Every time I tried to bring up specifics of what Mark said, she just told me I'd have to talk to him about it. She then asked if I could babysit that weekend. I refused telling her I wasn't comfortable babysitting until I talked to Mark

[00:09:59] [SPEAKER_00] and received an apology from him. Last night, Mark finally called me. He didn't apologize, but informed me that I would no longer be Godfather. He also mentioned that he'd blocked me after his initial text, so he never received any of my responses. I asked why he brought up incidents from almost 10 years ago, and he said that it just meant that it was impressive to see how far I'd come in life in the past 10 years. I responded that his texts were resentful rather than impressed, and he denied that was the case.

[00:10:27] [SPEAKER_00] He then launched into a list of grievances, most of which they'd never mentioned to me before. For example, he complained that I hadn't helped enough when I'd been over to babysit and had just watched TV. I tried to explain that I repeatedly asked for ways I could help out, but Allison had refused to give me anything to do and instead told me to make myself comfortable, so I just sat with the kids. I even mentioned that at one point, I had to repeatedly insist she go take a nap and that I would watch the kids. It took multiple times for her to be assured

[00:10:57] [SPEAKER_00] it was okay before she finally agreed. Every time I gave an explanation or rebuttal, he told me I'd just have to talk to my sister about it because he was asleep at the time and he was just hearing all this secondhand from her. The call ended with him telling me that if I wanted to be Godfather, I'd have to show them that I was going to step up to the plate. He told me that I'm still family and that he cared about me, so I thought that was at least a step in the right direction. I'm still baffled by this entire situation and how it got to this point.

[00:11:27] [SPEAKER_00] I guess I'll update if anything else happens, but I'm really hoping it'd be positive. A commenter simply says to OP, quoting, I tried to explain that I repeatedly asked for ways I could help out, saying, why? What is wrong with you? It's not your kid. OP says, that was when I was there babysitting, so this was him bringing up when I'd gone over there to help out for months ago and I wasn't really doing anything to help. So I explained to him that it was because when I was there to babysit, I was asking my sister what she wanted me to do to help.

[00:11:56] [SPEAKER_00] She kept telling me to not worry about it and to make myself comfortable. So seven days from that post, OP comes in again and says, yesterday was Mark's birthday. So I decided to send him a happy birthday text, which led to the following conversation. I think Mark was drunk at the time of this conversation because there was a lot of grammatical and spelling errors in his texts. I corrected them below to help with clarity. I said, happy birthday, hope you have a wonderful one. He said, thanks, I hope you and Tom are doing well.

[00:12:26] [SPEAKER_00] Barely a minute passed before he launched into the following bizarre tirade. He said, I love you, but we're not taking any bullshit anymore. Family helps one another. Regardless how I feel, if you have an emergency situation, we are always there. Outside of that, I wish you the best in your future endeavors. OP said, understood. I said this before, while I understand you were let down by the babysitting situation, I apologized and gave my reasoning. I get that's not good enough for you, but I don't equate that to say if you were in a car accident

[00:12:55] [SPEAKER_00] and needed someone ASAP for the kids. I stand by that. If something that severe were to happen, you will be able to count on me. There was also a lot of miscommunication on expectations of godparent. Allison and I never knew our godparent and nobody I know is this involved with their godkids. We also never fully discussed your expectations before. I never bullshit on you and Allison either. I've been upfront about my boundaries and expectations. If you want to cut us out of your lives, then fine, but I need to voice that the entire situation

[00:13:24] [SPEAKER_00] has been unfair to me. I wish you the best too. He replied, you failed us. You said you'd do something, then you backed out. Then when we asked for help, you said, fuck off. It's not my responsibility to unfuck your upbringing. Your godparents failed. It's life. Now you have a choice to follow the same path or if you want to change the layout your family provided. I made my choice. I just hope you choose differently than your relatives. Prove it to us. We'll be here waiting. Opie says, for context, my sister and I

[00:13:54] [SPEAKER_00] had an abusive upbringing along with South Asian cultural pressures. It really caused a lot of generational trauma. Both my sister and I have told Mark about this throughout the years. I'm not sure why Mark thinks not knowing your godparent is a symptom of that. Opie said, almost every time you asked me to come help, I did, despite me having previous issues or engagements. That is being completely ignored. If there was something specific I did or didn't do while I was there, it's because neither of you communicated it. I literally had to

[00:14:24] [SPEAKER_00] force Allison to take a nap last time I was there because she kept refusing to let me just handle things. Mark says, if your reasons for not helping were because of your side business, it's a selfish response. That's the truth. Imagine if your dreams come true. Is it worth your family? Opie says, I had started a hobby a couple of years ago which has grown into a second source of income. My dream for years has been to make this my career which has required a lot of my time and has made me less available to babysit. Opie also says, and I never told

[00:14:54] [SPEAKER_00] either of you to fuck off so I'm not sure where that's coming from. My point was never that you should have unfucked our childhoods. I never asked you to do anything like that. I never heard of godparents being this involved and nobody I know has godparents with this much responsibility. I'm telling you that you never told us what your expectations were from the beginning. No, it's not about my side business. It's about me taking care of my and my husband's health. Again, why were you so against dropping the kids off at our place if you desperately needed help? Why did it always

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_00] have to be I go over there? Mark replies saying, you are fucked in your upbringing. Godparents are a huge part and our parents if we're gone. Do some research and let's talk afterwards. Take initiative, be present, or focus on yourselves. I'm going to bed. Have a good night. Opie says, even if it was about my side business that has nothing to do with this. I don't get why we still can't be there for the big moments in the kids' lives. I have no idea why it has to be all on your terms. If I'm being honest,

[00:15:53] [SPEAKER_00] I don't appreciate how this has become a method of coercion for me to choose between you, Alison, and the kids or my own priorities in life. That's not fair to put on me. Sure, I want to be a good uncle for them, but they're not my kids either. That's not on me. I don't get why I have to choose between my career and dreams and being part of the kids' lives. My point is that you and Alison aren't gone. All the research I've done has never said that the godparents have to be babysitters. I don't think we're going to ever be on the same page for this.

[00:16:23] [SPEAKER_00] Have a good night. Mark replied saying, Mark is ex-military, so his threat held even more weight to me. He said, Jesus dude, seriously, threatening me? That's way out of line, man. I don't want either of you contacting me again, so don't worry about me complaining to Alison. After that, I blocked him. I have no intention

[00:16:53] [SPEAKER_00] of contacting him or Alison again. A few people commented on the previous post asking why I didn't just walk away sooner. All I can say is that my family is complicated and when South Asian culture comes in, there's even more layers of complication and pressure. Alison has always been the only family member with whom I am close, so I was hesitant to lose that connection. Furthermore, I'd hoped to be the uncle to their kids that I never had growing up. If I were to walk away, I wanted to first make sure I tried everything I could while upholding

[00:17:23] [SPEAKER_00] my boundaries so I could still be there as an uncle. Honestly, now I can say that I've done that and I can move on with peace of mind. I tried everything I could to maintain a healthy relationship without being a pushover. I'm done with them. And honestly, I don't blame OP one bit for being done with all of this, especially after that birthday threat. That was just another line in the sand, right? But I can't help but worry about Alison in all of this. You know, she's barely in the story.

[00:17:52] [SPEAKER_00] Every time OP tried to bring up what Mark actually said, she just told him to take it up with Mark. She was apologizing on his behalf but wouldn't actually hold him accountable. And you know, she's dealing with the kids at the same time. This husband who's lost his job and clearly the dude's a bit unhinged in my opinion. And it may not be the case but I can't help but feel like she may be a bit isolated in this situation. And you know, now the brother's being pushed out of the picture. It makes it even worse.

[00:18:22] [SPEAKER_00] Commenter also says I'm kind of worried about your sister. The guy is not alright. Something in him seems broken. Is he still unemployed? With two infants and this irrational anger and serious entitlement issues. I would worry about your sister and her children's safety. Are you not? OP says, oh I'm very worried for my sister. I've asked in the past if she ever felt unsafe around him and she laughed. She said there was nothing like that going on but I guess you never know. They were always pretty private about the dynamics

[00:18:52] [SPEAKER_00] of their marriage as well. In regard to the babysitting she's voiced before that she shares the same frustrations that have not been helping out as much so as far as I know it's not all just brother-in-law. In regards to his unemployment I'm not sure if he's still unemployed. Wardog says just stop with him all already. Mark is tedious and he blames you for his life choices maybe? And oh gosh if he is this bad with you imagine how insufferable he is for your sister. OP says oh yeah no I'm done with him at this point.

[00:19:22] [SPEAKER_00] I said everything I needed to say and he still doesn't get it spite my hands clean of their mess. Wisco says I didn't see it mentioned in the original poster updates. Maybe I missed it somewhere but what cultural background is the brother-in-law? I know OP and sister are South Asian but kept reading to see if his was mentioned. Does his culture go that deep for a godparent's involvement? All the ones I know and I know I don't know near all of them don't have that level of involvement or those expectations. It'd be interesting to find out

[00:19:52] [SPEAKER_00] from brother-in-law's family what his relationship was like with his godparents. OP says he's white American and I know his religious background is Christian but I'm not sure on the specific denomination. I want to say Presbyterian I don't know the full details on his upbringing but I do know he lost his parents at a young age and was raised by extended family. I don't think he talks to them anymore. But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Are you concerned for the sister

[00:20:21] [SPEAKER_00] at all in this? Would you just be done with it? Let us know your thoughts and let's move on to another story. Now our next story is from a deleted user who says would I be the asshole for skipping Sunday dinners with girlfriends family? Okay so I already know how this is going to sound but hear me out. I'm 28 male and I've been with Sienna 26 female for about a year. Maybe a bit longer. We were kind of on and off at the start so I never know how to count it.

[00:20:52] [SPEAKER_00] Things are good between us. Really good actually. Except for one thing. Her dad Neil, 58 male, hates my job. I'm a farrier. For anyone who doesn't know that means I do horse hoof care, trimming, shoeing, the whole thing. It's skilled work. I did a proper apprenticeship and honestly I make decent money. Like genuinely decent. More than a lot of office jobs. Not that it matters but I feel like I have to say that. Anyway, Sienna's

[00:21:21] [SPEAKER_00] family does Sunday dinners at her parents place in Galway. Big traditional thing. Her man cooks a roast, the whole family shows up nice in theory. Except every single time Neil makes comments about my job. So when are you going to get a real career then? Bit old to be playing with horses isn't it? Sienna's last boyfriend worked in finance. Just saying. And everyone laughs every time. Like this is a running joke. I've talked to Sienna about it and she says he's just like that and I

[00:21:51] [SPEAKER_00] need to learn to take a joke. But it doesn't feel like a joke after the 10th time or the 20th. Last Sunday he asked if I'm saving up to go back to school for something useful. And I just sat there and smiled because we what else am I supposed to do? I told Sienna this week that I don't want to go to Sunday dinner anymore. At least not every week. She got really upset and said I'm making her choose between me and her family. But I'm not. She can still go. I just don't want to sit there and get insulted over roast beef every

[00:22:21] [SPEAKER_00] weekend. Would I be the asshole if I actually stop going? Now of course everyone in the comment section was saying you know either the girlfriend is weak or she agrees with dad in this situation and doesn't blame OP one bit for not going because why the fuck would you turn up to dinner when someone's just gonna be disrespectful to you? You don't have to do that. It's not a joke. It's just taking the piss. But I couldn't help but be shocked and you know you might have to correct me if I'm wrong in any of this what I'm

[00:22:51] [SPEAKER_00] going to say but I'm not sure if I'm pronouncing Farrier or is it Farrier in the right way so again apologies for that before I get started but he's in Galway and as far as I know Ireland has one of the most deeply embedded horse cultures in the world. You know we're talking about racing, breeding, show jumping. Irish horses dominate internationally right? And I used to have a manager who used to go to Galway especially for the racing festivals. He was Irish too.

[00:23:21] [SPEAKER_00] So I find Neil taking the piss about this just incredibly stupid. It is such skilled work. And Opie says a decent income at the same time in a place where he's never going to struggle too much for a job either. I just find that incredibly wild. But it was a couple of days later that Opie came back in and said original post was a few days ago about my girlfriend Sienna's dad Neil constantly mocking my job as a Ferrier on Sunday dinners. I said I didn't want to go anymore. Sienna accused me of making

[00:23:50] [SPEAKER_00] her choose between me and her family. Well Sunday happened and I have an update. I decided to go one more time because of the comments telling me to stand up for myself instead of just avoiding it and partly because Sienna begged me to give it one more chance and promised she'd say something if her dad started. Spoiler she did not say something. We get there everything's normal at first. Roast is cooking her mam is lovely as always. Her brother's there with his wife. Nice enough.

[00:24:20] [SPEAKER_00] Then Neil walks in sees me and goes ah the horse whisperer is back. Sienna said you almost didn't come. Finally realize you need a real job to afford a woman like her. I didn't laugh this time. I just looked at him and said Neil I make 74,000 euros a year. I own my own business. I have clients across three counties who trust me with animals worth more than your car. What exactly about that isn't real to you? Good on ya son. Good on ya. Dead silence. His face went red.

[00:24:50] [SPEAKER_00] Sienna's mam was frozen with a serving spoon in her hand. Her brother actually snorted into his drink. Neil said no need to get defensive. It's just a bit of crack. I said it's not crack when it's every single week for a year. It's just insulting and I'm done laughing along. Dinner was awkward. Very quiet. Neil didn't say another word to me the whole meal. Sienna kept giving me looks like I'd done something wrong. In the car home she exploded said I humiliated her father that I made everyone

[00:25:20] [SPEAKER_00] uncomfortable. That I should have handled it privately instead of showing off about my salary. I said I've been handling it privately for a year and nothing changed. I said she promised she'd back me up and she didn't. I said I'm not apologizing for defending myself. She's been cold since. Sleeping on her side of the bed. One word answers. I think she's waiting for me to apologize. I'm not going to. I don't know where we go from here. I love her but I'm starting to realize she might never have my back against her family. And I don't know if

[00:25:49] [SPEAKER_00] I can live like that. Hope you had some more details in the comments saying after dinner when Sienna was in the bathroom her brother Killian pulled me aside. I thought he was going to have a go at me too. Instead he shook my hand and said about fucking time someone shut him up. He told me Neil does this to everyone. Did it to Killian's wife for years about her being a hairdresser until she stopped coming to dinners entirely. She only started again after they had kids and she had to. He said the whole family just lets Neil be Neil because that's how he's always been.

[00:26:19] [SPEAKER_00] So it's not just me. It's a pattern and Sienna knows. She's watched her dad do this to her own sister-in-law and she told me to learn to take a joke. I keep thinking about what Killian's wife went through. Years of mockery until she opted out and even then she only came back because of the kids. Is that my future? Just tolerating abuse because that's how he is. I don't know if this is fixable. I don't know if Sienna sees the problem and that might be the bigger issue. The commenter says it

[00:26:48] [SPEAKER_00] doesn't have to be your future if you don't want it to be. The commenter says most people see the dysfunctionality and toxicity in their family as this is just how it works. The biggest sin in these family groups is stepping out of your designated role. You've stepped out of your designated role and have disrupted the normal flow. I doubt you'll initiate change but knuckling under and continuing to put up with it should be unacceptable. And one more comment who says showing up at the end laws every single Sunday. No.

[00:27:18] [SPEAKER_00] Showing up to dinner with some guy who refuses to be civil for even an hour. No. Sacrificing hours of my life every week to eat dinner and be mocked for the sake of someone who not only doesn't care enough to be upset on my behalf but actively goes off on me if I dare stand up for myself. Have you lost your ever loving mind? You might see me in hell but you'll never see me at that dinner. And that is absolutely just too true. And honestly I can't see that relationship

[00:27:47] [SPEAKER_00] lasting. I mean what does your future look like already? She's not backing you up. She's not even apologetic for it. She's having a go at you because you clap back at him. That guy's an arsehole. He's clearly done this to the sister-in-law at the same time which is just bloody awful about what she's been through. Apparently her husband hasn't stuck up for her either. It seems it runs in the family. And again what does your future look like if you was to continue down this path? Imagine and I don't know if they ever would but if they had kids one day is

[00:28:17] [SPEAKER_00] he gonna start mocking the kids or anything like that? Just an awful person. And I don't know what it is if just reading these stories or just getting older in general I'm just like no can't be bothered with that kind of shit anymore. Doesn't matter who you are even if family treat me like that. Can't be arsed with it. Respecting someone isn't a difficult thing to do and if you don't respect me you simply don't get my time. It's that simple and I think that should be for everyone. But now I'm gonna turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of

[00:28:46] [SPEAKER_00] this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Now just a huge thank you for being here today getting involved in the stories, your love, your support, your time. It always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so so much for being here. Truly it's absolutely amazing and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love.