My Mom Sent Me Camera Footage Of My Boyfriend Peeing In The Kitchen Sink... | r/BestOf

[00:00:02] [SPEAKER_00] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit Stories. And if you do love a Reddit Story, why not consider? Hit the like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. Extra cheeky of you. And let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from the Am I Overreacting subreddit from Agitated Accountants and says, Am I Overreacting? I caught my boyfriend peeing in my sink.

[00:00:32] [SPEAKER_00] I, female 22, am a bit of a late bloomer. I started dating my boyfriend, male 26, around 6 months ago. This is my first relationship so I don't know if this is a normal thing that guys do. I live with my mom. She went away for a week on a business trip and I invited my boyfriend over to stay with me since I don't like being alone. We have a camera in the kitchen because our housekeeper once yoinked a few things from the fridge. My boyfriend and I both have remote jobs. We were set up in my bedroom and my boyfriend had a few things.

[00:01:01] [SPEAKER_00] My boyfriend excused himself to the bathroom. I don't think much of it. He came back a few minutes later, whatever, normal behavior. My mom sent me footage of him peeing in the kitchen sink a few hours ago. I'm stunned. There were plates and cups in the sink. He didn't even properly scrub it, just a quick rinse. I'm honestly disgusted and don't know what to do. Is this normal? I've never been around men much in my life. My dad isn't in the picture.

[00:01:30] [SPEAKER_00] So far our relationship is really good. He treats me well, is loving and caring and remembers small details about me. It's the type of relationship I dreamt about as a kid. But this just shattered that dream. I don't know if I can get past this. I haven't confronted him yet. I guess I just wanted a second opinion or third. My mom says it's nasty, but she's letting me decide what to do. So am I overreacting?

[00:01:54] [SPEAKER_00] An edit. Thank you to everyone who commented. Was not expecting to wake up to so many replies. Also wasn't expecting to learn there's a whole community and subreddit dedicated to peeing in the sink. Bloody hell. You learn something new every day, right? I'll confront him today. I just want to hear why he did it. I know it wasn't an emergency because the bathroom was open. Someone suggested sleepwalking. It was the middle of the day. We were both awake. I don't know. I'll see what he says. I'm more grossed out after realizing this isn't normal.

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_00] So why didn't he use the bathroom? I need to know why he didn't use the bathroom and why he went to the sink specifically with the dishes in it, plates, cups, and then just gives it a rinse like it's just something slightly inconvenient rather than that shit. And then we get told there's a whole community dedicated to this kind of shit. I'm not even looking at it. I don't need that on my timeline at all. I need to know why he's done it though. Is it some kind of like dominance thing or like marking his territory or something? Oh, bloody.

[00:02:52] [SPEAKER_00] Hell. Weird says, not overreacting. In the kitchen sink with dishes still in it. No. Kotai says, think of the splash. Nasty mother. Report him to the police or something, bro, and obviously break up. Make it hurt. Nasty bastard. Cheesy says, I thought it would be the bathroom sink, which is already a bit gross because why if you have a toilet and you brush your teeth there? But fucking kitchen sink with the dishes still in it. What the fuck?

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_00] So OP did come in with an update and said, this is an update to my previous post that you can find here. I'd like to thank everyone for your helpful comments. TLDR, I broke up with him. It wasn't a hard decision after reading all the comments. Being in a sink is disgusting behavior and it's extremely disrespectful, not just to me, but my mom as well. Everyone who said I'm overreacting and that that's normal behavior, you are weird. I decided to confront him to see what he would say about it anyway.

[00:03:52] [SPEAKER_00] I made some of us lunch and then went out to eat on the balcony. I had no idea how to bring this up. I'm not usually confrontational or blunt. Well, I can't move on. The plates are the plates. I know you can wash the pee off the dishes, but come on, I just can't. Anyway, let me start again. I'm not usually confrontational or blunt, so this was all new territory. I must have been acting strange because he asked me what's wrong, and that was as good as an opening as I'll ever get.

[00:04:19] [SPEAKER_00] I just flat out asked him if he peed in my sink. People mentioned he might get upset and lash out. I was fully preparing myself for that, ready to dip at the first sign of violence or something. I did not expect him to break down crying. Full body sobs curled in on himself, pulling his hair. I was speechless. I've never seen him like this before. He kept repeating, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. He was on the verge of like hyperventilating or something. I wasn't about to confront him until I got a proper explanation.

[00:04:48] [SPEAKER_00] I asked him why he did it. He calmed down after a while and started explaining. Guys, I don't even know how to type out what he said. I'm just stunned. Apparently, there's a whole community out there dedicated to getting in touch with your more primal, animalistic side. It's not like those toxic, misogynistic, alpha male gurus though. Well, I suppose it's still kind of toxic. Running through the forest barefoot, howling at the moon, that's fine, that's whatever.

[00:05:16] [SPEAKER_00] He asked one of these guys how to attract my primal side more. This guy gave him a list of things so insane. I don't know how he thought this was okay. He has never discussed any of this with me before. I didn't even know he was part of it. This guy recommended that after a long day of working, exercising and sweating, he rubs his body odor on some of my things. This counted as not only marking his territory, but me constantly inhaling his scent will strengthen our fated bond.

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_00] And the peeing on the plates and cutlery, apparently his pheromones will subconsciously make me want him more. It'd make me feral and have me jumping him every second of the day. Not only is this extremely gross, but it's also crossing my boundaries. I suppose I'm a bit of a prude because I haven't slept with him yet. Nothing against him. I was just exposed to really inappropriate things as a kid and I'm scared of intimacy. He told me he's okay with that. He'd wait as long as I needed to be comfortable. This guy is mentally ill.

[00:06:14] [SPEAKER_00] There are so many other things I can't even mention because I'd surely get this post removed. Holy shit. But at the end of the day, this guy was deliberately peeing on my plates to seduce me. I told him to get the fuck out of my house. I told him he should be ashamed of himself. I told him we were over and to never contact me again. He started crying, tried to apologize. I gave him 10 minutes to collect all of his things before I called my neighbor, police officer. He gathered his things, got in his car and left. I called my mom and cried for like a solid hour.

[00:06:44] [SPEAKER_00] She's coming home from a trip early and taking me to Build-A-Bear. Childish, I know. I don't care. It's comforting. But guys, I thought it would be the end there. I thought this nightmare was over. I got a phone call from his mom a few minutes ago. He went to his parents' house in tears, telling them that I broke his heart and calling him a disgusting pig. He was there acting like he's some victim. She luckily just wanted to hear my side of the story. He didn't even tell his mom why I dumped him. Safe to say, she was equally as grossed out and disappointed.

[00:07:14] [SPEAKER_00] She apologized and even offered to replace our plates. I just told her that I want them out of my life. Please keep your son away from me. I wish this wasn't true. I know how crazy and insane it sounds. I've cried myself red in the face. I want to wake up from this nightmare. I wish this wasn't my fucking life, but alas, who knows? Maybe one day he'll find a girl who's into that, but that girl is not me. That was so gross.

[00:07:38] [SPEAKER_00] I'm going to throw out everything that was in the sink, wash all my stuff three times, take a long shower, book myself a therapy session, and just, I'm going to bed. Sorry if this update is a bit all over the place. Thank you for reading, and I hope no one else has to go through this. First says, okay, so don't pee in the sink to seduce women. I'm adding that to my list of extremely obvious socially unacceptable behaviors. Confront says, proud of you.

[00:08:02] [SPEAKER_00] That behavior was genuinely unhinged, and a man that easily influenced into what sounds like genuinely concerning mumbo jumbo is scary. Adventurer says, I need to delete this app. I know this is a bit of an out there question, and you know, I usually come up with weird shit like this, but was the piss meant to stay on the plates? Like dry on them, or would you wash it off afterwards? Because surely that counters what he was trying to do?

[00:08:25] [SPEAKER_00] And then it was wild that he went to his parents' house telling them that OP broke his heart and called him a disgusting pig. And he didn't think that his side of the story wasn't going to come out in some way or form. That is absolutely wild, mate. She's going to call you out for pissing on the plates. I would have taken the offer of the parents buying the plates, though. Wow. What do you guys make of that one? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Let's move on to another story.

[00:08:56] [SPEAKER_00] Now, our next story, it comes from XOXODragonfly from the true off my chest subreddit. It says, my best friend says, I crossed the line. I thought I was doing the right thing by getting the receipts. I've been holding this in for weeks, and it's weighing on me. My best friend, 31 female, has been with her fiance, 33 male, for over seven years. He's the father of her youngest, and he's been nudging her to open their relationship and be poly,

[00:09:25] [SPEAKER_00] even though, to me, it always seemed more like a pass so he could sleep around with her permission. Years ago, he even managed her OnlyFans account, sending her news to friends and co-workers to get subscribers, and she went along with it because he seemed proud of her. She's a stay-at-home mom juggling three kids in college. She told me she's scared of ending up in government housing again, so she's doing what she can to make him happy, even after catching him sexting other women repeatedly.

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_00] He's always said that he can't stop his nature, so last year, they agreed to have a girlfriend, and 33 female, together, and are a Facebook official posting about family dinners, sleepovers, and date nights. So on social media, it looks like an open relationship. A few weeks ago, one of his longtime female gamer friends, I call her Emily, privately messaged my friend and confessed she'd been in an emotional and sexual affair with him for two years. She claimed they were planning to meet for a trip this summer,

[00:10:21] [SPEAKER_00] but she had told my friend was just a guy's trip. When I asked my friend why she didn't respond to Emily, she said she didn't want to spiral. She believed her fiancé's confession when she confronted him, and he said that Emily was just a delusional friend upset because he won't leave his family for her, and she became too jealous. That did not sit right with me, so I messaged Emily myself. Emily knew exactly who I was when I messaged her, and she gave me everything.

[00:10:47] [SPEAKER_00] Screenshots, screen recordings, photos of gifts and written, signed love letters, proof of video calls, snap streaks. It was not just a fling. It was a full-on emotional affair. I never planned to show this to my best friend, as she had already told me she didn't want to see Emily's twisted lies, but I thought he owed my best friend the truth. So at the last cookout, I told him I knew everything, that I had the proof, and that he needed to be honest and confess to my best friend the truth about his affair.

[00:11:17] [SPEAKER_00] He had a full-blown panic attack and fainted in the kitchen. I'm a nurse, and I'm not exaggerating. He passed out cold. When he regained consciousness, he told my best friend that I had spoken to Emily, and that I was blackmailing him. He admitted he liked flirting with Emily, but that she became obsessed with the idea that he would run away with her. My best friend, who I've known for 10 plus years, chose to believe him and wants nothing to do with Emily's obsessive proof. She said I crossed the line, that I betrayed her trust.

[00:11:45] [SPEAKER_00] I get that it's not typical for the uninvolved friend to talk to the other woman. I've never done anything like this before. I don't like confrontation, and I don't pick fights. I genuinely wanted to protect my friend, even if she didn't want to protect herself. I didn't throw screenshots in her face. I just wanted her fiancé to be truthful, and I wanted to hold him accountable for his actions, given that I had the proof to call out his lies. My best friend has made her peace with staying with him for the kids, and I've come to accept that.

[00:12:15] [SPEAKER_00] But I can't stand in manipulating her because his cheating has destroyed her time and time again, and I'm there babysitting their kids so they can talk things out. Since all of this, she and her girlfriend have pulled away from me, and don't react to my reels in the group chat. I wasn't invited to a recent birthday party for one of her kids, nor the upcoming 4th of July cookout that they host every year, where I help with a potluck. I don't know if I did the right thing. I just know I feel awful. I acted out of love, not revenge.

[00:12:43] [SPEAKER_00] I wasn't trying to ruin her life, but to make her fiancé accountable for once. I just couldn't stand watching someone I care about be lied to like that. But maybe that's not what a best friend should do. I don't blame Opie one bit for what she did in this situation. Watching your best friend get gaslit by this man, who, you know, distributed her nudes to get OnlyFans subscribers, was caught cheating repeatedly, and when actually gets confronted about this whole thing, suddenly faints and then reframes it as blackmail.

[00:13:12] [SPEAKER_00] But I think the hard truth in this situation is that there's not much you can do, apart from step back and be there when, or if, it does all go pear-shaped. Maybe one message, like you said, saying, I acted out of love, and I'm sorry it hurt you, and I'm here when you're ready, and just leaving that door slightly open. But a commenter says to Opie, Look, you didn't do anything crazy or wrong. You didn't stalk or harass Emily. You messaged her asking about the situation out of concern for your friend,

[00:13:41] [SPEAKER_00] and she eagerly and willingly responded and dumped all of her evidence to you. Unfortunately, it seems to have come down to a situation in which your friend simply does not want to accept the truth or be helped. It is safer, easier, and more familiar to force herself to buy her husband's lives and remain in her marriage than it is for her to accept the reality and pursue change. Be there to reckoning with hubby, couples counseling, divorce, etc. And if it came down to divorce,

[00:14:07] [SPEAKER_00] that would necessitate some very big and likely very negative changes considering that she is financially dependent on him, and they also have kids together. Based on your description of her current situation, she might not be able to win or maintain even partial custody over her children, and she may have no money, no home, no college degree, and no job, for example. Even if she managed to squeeze money out of her potential ex-hubby, she'd still have to find housing and a job that pays enough to support daily childcare costs for three kids.

[00:14:35] [SPEAKER_00] You keep challenging the delusion that she's desperately clinging to when it's becoming too difficult for her to continue rationalizing it and making excuses for her husband or you refuse to support that or do the same. And in her defense, you don't seem appropriately aware or considerate of the complexity of her situation or what is actually at risk for her should she actually accept her husband's scumminess and either put her foot down or confront him about it and it goes poorly. Of course you want to help her, and of course you're not a bad person for trying to do so.

[00:15:03] [SPEAKER_00] But she's already between a rock and a hard place in her life and marriage, and you are still a source of additional pressure. She straight up told you that she's not just accepting her husband's false version of events because she wants to. She's doing it because she feels she has no other choice, and you didn't actually offer her any other choices when you confronted her husband for her. Just added another layer of pressure and complexity, hence why she's at least temporarily cut you out. Opie says, There's really no win here. I just needed to vent. Opie then says,

[00:15:41] [SPEAKER_00] I did not do this thinking this was blackmailing him. All I did was confront him directly, told him I knew what was going on, and that as her fiancé, her life partner, the father figure in their home, he owed her the honest truth. That, and they also chose not to tell their girlfriend about the affair, but I advocated for her to know too, because she's just as involved and deserves to know as per their arrangement. She's expected to be exclusive to them and vice versa. Yes, my best friend is upset with me,

[00:16:10] [SPEAKER_00] but it feels like I've become the outlet for her resentment for her disgust with Emily. She's forgiven her fiancé, so I'm the scapegoat. In the past, I've stood there silent in their home, watching their kids during previous incidents, and only ever been supportive of their recovery. The situation was just so different than the others. In jest, he says that if he were ever to leave, he would take his biological daughter. No questions asked, and my best friend and her two kids would have a permanent sleepover at my house.

[00:16:38] [SPEAKER_00] But that is not something to joke about. Regardless, I wished him a happy Father's Day in our group chat yesterday. In the past week, he's been messaging me apologizing that my best friend is mad at me, and he has been defending me that all I was trying to do was be a good friend. I have a bunch of plans with her Saturday, which will most likely be as if nothing happened. Another commenter says, she already knows, but being without him scares her more than staying with him. For her, this is about securing housing and food above all else, and good meaning or not,

[00:17:08] [SPEAKER_00] you are jeopardizing that. Either accept that she's not going to leave and be there for her, or don't and take a step back from her. But she isn't going to leave no matter what you do. Hopey says, I know she's not going to leave him, and I never thought anything I did would break them up. That was never the goal. What really got to me was sitting there while he twisted the story and bashed Emily. Someone who's been in his life long before he even started dating my best friend. He was sugarcoating everything to protect himself, and I called his bluff.

[00:17:37] [SPEAKER_00] It's not my relationship, not my monkey, not my circus, but at the very least, I intervened to pressure him to be truthful, honest, own what he did, own what I did, and I understand I overstepped. Commenter says, your friend told you she didn't want to know and you stuck your nose in anyway. No wonder she doesn't like you anymore. Hopey replies saying, oh, the shade. She's hurt, overwhelmed, and I was the only one who didn't go along with a version of events that made it easier to cope. Sad situation all around.

[00:18:06] [SPEAKER_00] It was the first and probably only time I ever stepped into their dynamic and relationship or addressed his cheating. And yeah, I got burned for it. Someone reminded me, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. OP comes in with the additional information and says, met up with my best friend Saturday to talk things out. She'd already asked me to block his affair partner and to delete the proof. At the coffee shop, she told me she thought I was trying to break them up by blackmailing her fiance, but it was never my intention.

[00:18:36] [SPEAKER_00] I explained that I only reached out to collect the proof and hold him accountable for his actions. She told me she hated what you did and felt betrayed because I'm like a sister to her, which really hit hard. I apologize for going behind her back and talking to someone else about our relationship, but not sorry for confronting her fiance directly. She shared that he's been more open with her about details surrounding his emotional affair and that he ended things with Emily, which is what made her expose him. Reach out to my best friend in the first place.

[00:19:05] [SPEAKER_00] My friend didn't want me to compare notes nor confirm or deny what he's been telling her. In the end of all this, I learned my lesson and apologize to her, but I won't apologize to her fiance. She just wants us all to bury this and move on. She caught me up on the last few weeks and even added me to this year's July 4th group chat. I told her I understand boundaries moving forward and I will stay out of their relationship issues. I'm hoping their girlfriend can fill in those shoes as I'm stepping back. Thankfully, they also decided

[00:19:33] [SPEAKER_00] to tell their girlfriend what happened and she's totally fine since no physical intimacy happened. She was annoyed she had to find out so late in the game and talked to them about her expectations on mutual respect and emotional intimacy. But their girlfriend isn't happy with me, saying I'm distrustful, but I'm hoping things can eventually settle. They're all focused on rebuilding their relationship, being more transparent with their girlfriend and prioritizing the kids. I do plan to spend the 4th with them, but not sure what will happen this fall with the holidays.

[00:20:04] [SPEAKER_00] So it was one and a half months later that OP came in with an update and said, so he's still been talking to Emily behind her back and he's been applying to jobs in her town. Because of that, my friend and her fiance decided to call off their engagement and are breaking up. Trying to recover from all this hasn't been easy for them, understandably so. He refused couple's therapy and the thruple girlfriend decided to end things with them a few weeks ago. I've kept my distance, but still saw my friend a few times this summer. She confessed that they haven't been

[00:20:33] [SPEAKER_00] intimate at all since all the drama started and were basically trying to hold things together for the kids. He told my friend, he'll keep paying the bills to the end of the year if she agrees to give him full custody of his biological child. After that, if she doesn't find a job that covers the mortgage, then they're putting the house up for sale. Seven months later, OP comes in with another update, which said our friendship hasn't been the same since everything happened. He said, my best friend chose to think of her fiance, but it feels like the hurt and distrust got redirected at me instead.

[00:21:03] [SPEAKER_00] I became the scapegoat. She said she can't trust me anymore. We don't talk about her relationship anymore because I told her something she didn't want to hear, that she's been changing herself to keep her fiance happy because opening their relationship is the best way to keep him from leaving. She agreed to open their relationship and he found them a bisexual girlfriend with whom the fiance performs oral sex with but isn't allowed to kiss or have penetrative sex with her. It's been months now and the fiance wants to do more things and add more women to the mix, et cetera,

[00:21:33] [SPEAKER_00] causing my friend to have panic attacks as she wants him to slow down because she is not bisexual and demands to be involved in all conversations and interactions. With her juggling kids, quality time with her fiance, date nights, and dating her and their girlfriend with thruple dates, there's no real time for me as a friend in her life. I heard that she did absolutely nothing for my birthday last month and when I tried to make lunch plans, she makes excuses. Her birthday is this summer and I feel like I have to match her absent effort.

[00:22:02] [SPEAKER_00] I don't want anything to do with her fiance since the affair but have tried to sympathize that my friend doesn't want to break up their family. I was decent at the kid's recent birthday party but recently talking to her on the phone, he inserted himself in the conversation making suggestions on my relationship so I hung up. She said I needed to lose the attitude when I just don't want to interact with him. Because of that, she told me he has refused to watch their kids when I've asked to make plans because he says I'm not a real friend. At this point, I'm accepting that I'm not the enemy

[00:22:31] [SPEAKER_00] but I am being treated like one and I'm not drinking her fiance's Kool-Aid. A commenter says to AP, okay, what did you think would happen? Even telling the truth is gonna get you hate because humans are like that. I've been involved in three of these situations. Two ended in hate, the third was fine because dude had a history. I wasn't upset because I expected these reactions. You did a thing, shit happened, you have to accept you're a villain to her whilst doing the right thing. She may eventually come around or she might not. Being a decent person is expensive

[00:23:01] [SPEAKER_00] and often sucks. OP says first rodeo for me. Thought my best friend deserved the truth, even offered her fiance the chance to come clean but in the end, she never wanted to know the truth. She just wants to forgive and forget. A commenter replies saying you can't save a person from drowning when they willingly jump into the ocean time and time again. You'll just end up going under with her. Tell her that her toxic relationship is seeping into your friendship and you no longer want to be involved in the drama she has invited into her life.

[00:23:31] [SPEAKER_00] Though, find a nicer way to word this. That her life choices and whom she chooses to have in her life is up to her. But you also have a choice in who you let be in your life. So, you now have decided to cut her fiance from your own life. That you fully believe that he is a cheater, liar and is emotionally manipulative and not someone you want to associate with. So, you no longer will. You no longer want to be near him, hear about him or about their relationship. You realize that this may end your friendship since he requires full loyalty from her

[00:23:59] [SPEAKER_00] while giving her none in return. But, so be it. That she can call you for anything not related to him. That you'll be there for her in any other capacity if she ever needs help or just some girl time. Hope you replied saying, this is the reality she is choosing and they're trying out this grapple relationship. They have specific nights for each person and prioritize Sunday as their full family night. I used to help with babysitting unpaid on their date nights but given all that's happened I'm relieved that in the past six months I've not been asked to babysit.

[00:24:29] [SPEAKER_00] I know their girlfriend helps with that now as they reward her with flowers and gifts coming back from the date as they are, he is, constantly posting appreciation posts on social media now. They want to bury his mistake of what happened and not discuss any of it so any discussion won't be appreciated because then I'm not dropping the issue. I've never inserted myself into their relationship in all these years until that day but I've been there time and time again when she's beside herself crying because he cheats and sleeps around. This time was the worst affair yet.

[00:24:59] [SPEAKER_00] OP, she chose to lie to herself. All you can do is be there but you do not try to save her because you'll be blamed for everything. Unfortunately, it means a friendship that is less close also. She is sucked into the drama and she will drag everyone down with it when it explodes. Since you're already the bad guy, just let it lie. Commodore says friend is going to get herpes and blame everyone else but her fiancé. OP says wildest development is that fiancé wants to get a vasectomy and both my best friend and the girlfriend both already had a hysterectomy.

[00:25:29] [SPEAKER_00] My friend got pissed with me because I told her directly to her face. He wants to remove the consequences of pregnancy and not wear condoms when he sleeps around. And I think the saying that OP said or one of the commenters said that you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink is absolutely that situation and I think it's one that I'll be completely stepping back from. You know, I feel for her in that situation and I feel for the kids in that situation too. I wouldn't be hanging around to watch that. I would certainly leave the door open for her when it inevitably all goes tits up

[00:25:59] [SPEAKER_00] but I couldn't be around watching that shit go on daily. But what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and just a huge thank you for being here today getting involved in the stories you'll love your support your time it always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much for being here truly it's absolutely amazing and hopefully I'm gonna see you in the next one. Take care and much love.