My Mom Had Twins With MY HUSBAND And Our Lives Have EXPLODED

[00:00:01] [SPEAKER_01] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit stories. If you do love a Reddit story, why not consider hitting that like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. And let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys.

[00:00:18] [SPEAKER_01] Now, today's first story comes from the Reddit Updates, best of Redditor updates compiled by Garden Geo, who put a two-parter together, which they titled A Family Explodes Part 1 and there's part two as well. Also, just to add here as well, coming back to add this, we did cover this story four years ago, but apparently we missed a whole bunch of stuff that went on. It gets absolutely wild. So just to let you know.

[00:00:43] [SPEAKER_01] The story was originally titled, I Ruined My Mom's Life and Reputation. And it all started back in February 2022. It said my 40 female parents, dad, 63 male, and mom, 60 female, have been married for 43 years. I have six siblings, 42 female, 38 female, 34 female, 20 male, 20 male, 18 male.

[00:01:08] [SPEAKER_01] I've been with my husband, 39 male, since we were 15. I got pregnant at 17 and we moved in with my parents. I gave birth to my now 22-year-old daughter. We got married at 18 shortly after. My dad's father passed shortly after our wedding and left his ranch-style house to my father. My grandparents built a house next door to my parents when they retired.

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_01] My parents decided to let us live in this house and told us this would be my inheritance. My husband and I had no issues with this. We went on to have a 20 male, 14 female, 5 female, and I'm currently 7 months pregnant with my last child, a boy due in April. I thought I had a good marriage. We were intimate more than twice a week. We went on date nights. We bought each other gifts. We didn't fight.

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_01] My entire world was shattered on New Year's Eve when I returned early from a girls' trip I'd taken with some friends. I walked into the bedroom to find my mom having sex with my husband. My mother screamed at me to get out of their bedroom, which really shook me up even more. Unfortunately, my oldest daughter was also home in her bedroom across the house getting ready for a party. She ran out and witnessed my all-but-a-bedsheet naked mother run out of our house next door to her house and slam the door.

[00:02:21] [SPEAKER_01] My daughter was devastated and went to my sister's house. I asked him not to say anything until I first talked to my husband. I asked him for the truth. He told me that my mom seduced him when we were 18 and living in their house. They'd been having unprotected sex at least once a month for longer than we were married. I ran the math and was horrified because the timeline meant my twin brothers and youngest brother could be my husband's. I immediately called my dad and told him to come to my house without my mom.

[00:02:48] [SPEAKER_01] I made my husband confess and my dad was devastated. He and my mom were high school sweethearts too. Needless to say, we could hear my mother screaming from her house when he confronted her. I then told my oldest sister and she and I decided to have her throw a party for the whole extended family. We invited my ex's family as well. At the party, I had my 22 female daughter take all of the kids to the basement and put on a movie. Leaving only the adult children and siblings and I told them exactly what they'd been doing.

[00:03:18] [SPEAKER_01] Most of the family is on my side except my three youngest siblings. 38 female sister, ex's entire family. They all say I'm an asshole for dropping this publicly. Word got out of my mom's best friend who is on leadership at my mom's church, my childhood church, called me to verify. My mom has since been let go as the children's pastor there and she claimed I've essentially ruined their reputation and life. My dad kicked her out and now she's living with my 38 female sister.

[00:03:46] [SPEAKER_01] And lastly, my dad insisted on a DNA test for the three youngest boys before he considered anything to do with their marriage. The twins are my husband's bio children. I've since kicked him out and he's living with his parents. My father and I are discussing me moving in his much larger house and him selling my grandfather's house and him giving me the money to buy a new house somewhere else to get rid of the memories. My husband is appalled and furious that I proved he actually is about to have seven kids instead of five and I'm going to be taking half of his business away from him.

[00:04:16] [SPEAKER_01] My husband started his own HVAC company a few years back. Then for the first five years, I helped him get it set up, ran the office completely and took time away from my teaching career to help him get this established. In my state, all marital assets including businesses are split 50-50. Since the house was still in my father's name, my husband will get no money from the sale. Neither will my mother since inherited assets are not subject to be split in divorces. My mother is also likely to not get any alimony as our state is not a no-fault divorce state.

[00:04:46] [SPEAKER_01] I'm now over a month removed, still extremely bitter and angry at my mother, especially the hypocrisy of calling me a slur and shaming my family when she's done much worse. I also despise my ex with everything within me now, as he was fucking both my mom and me in some instances coming to our bed minutes later. He got my mother pregnant less than a week after getting me pregnant and while I thought it was so cute and fun that I shared a pregnancy experience with my mom, she was carrying my children's half-siblings.

[00:05:14] [SPEAKER_01] He has broken all the trust I had in men and being faithful. I had to procure a good lawyer from a firm that helped us in financial matters for both me and my dad and my dad is helping pay for it. My twin brothers, one of my sisters and my entire ex's family have gotten no contact with me and my minor children. And my children have essentially lost all of their grandparents but my dad, two uncles and an aunt on my side. And my husband's three brothers due to this mess. I've also developed ulcers and digestive issues because of this,

[00:05:43] [SPEAKER_01] so I'm visiting the doctor soon and have been in therapy since the first week of January. I've offered this for my two adult children if they need family therapy with all of us. But they're doing individual therapy right now. My 14-year-old knows we're getting divorced and why, and she's so angry at her dad that I struggle sending her to his house on the weekends. I feel like she's old enough to make a decision on that, but I don't want to damage her relationship with her dad. I've told all my kids it's okay to love their dad even if it hurts me, but the oldest two have cut him off 100%.

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_01] I won't tell my youngest two until they are teens why we got divorced, and everyone else has agreed to not spill anything until they're old enough to understand. As for how I had no idea this affair was ongoing, my husband confirmed to me that they would have sex at my mom's office at church, in their cars, at a motel. And when we built the business, they started having it routinely in his office once I went back to teaching. They also had it in our houses too, where my father would go away on business trips or I'd be out of town. It was pure happenstance that I came home a day early from a trip,

[00:06:42] [SPEAKER_01] because I was uncomfortable from being nearly 7 months pregnant, and just wanted my own bed, for me to find out. Knowing they'd be carrying on this full-blown affair still, if I hadn't caught them is what I'm still upset about. The fact that the grandmother and father of my children cared so little about destroying our families is what I can't get past. What's hardest for me is that my own mother would do this to me, and would continue to do this for years, and not caring when it all blew up in her face, that she'd be destroying her entire family. Edit. Also to add insult to injury.

[00:07:11] [SPEAKER_01] My husband confirmed in one of our mediated conversations, the affair started when I apparently made him angry. He didn't tell me, and instead vented to my mom when they were alone. She comforted him, and they had sex. He loved it, and then pursued her after that. He said he would have divorced me, but knew he'd get cut off from her, and she was so much better at sex than me, so stuck it out with me. He told me I was a placeholder. Of all the betrayal and low blows, that statement is what keeps me up at night. TLDR,

[00:07:41] [SPEAKER_01] my mom fucked my husband for 22 years, got pregnant with twins, continued the affair until I caught them in bed together on New Year's Eve, while I was nearly seven months pregnant. I publicly exposed it, and my mom lost her job, her marriage, and is homeless. The top commenter on this one simply said, this goes right into the true off my chest hall of fame. Quite frankly, it makes Oedipus Rex seem like a quaint little French comedy of manners. It makes Woody Allen look like a wet behind the ears little upstart at family disruption.

[00:08:09] [SPEAKER_01] My sympathy to all the innocent victims who experienced the fallout from this. The branches on this family tree probably look like a bunch of Mobius strips. So it was six days after this that OP came in and said, I had a phone conversation with my aunt today, my egg donor's sister, and she told me there is a family history of cheating in our family on their side of the family. My grandma cheated on my grandpa for years, but they reconciled. My aunt herself had multiple emotional affairs, but was still married to my uncle. She tried to blame genetics on my mom's affair.

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_01] I laughed out loud at the absurdity of that attempt to justify her affair, and my aunt is now mad at me for not hearing my egg donor out, and her explanations for cheating. My dad and lawyer both say that I should hear her out, so I'm still considering doing it right before we meet in early March to establish custody. Edit. I should mention that I asked my aunt if my mama inherited the slur gene. Which child did she pass it on to, and how did my grandma manage to pass it on to both her daughters?

[00:09:07] [SPEAKER_01] So that's probably why she's mad in retrospect. I've honestly lost all sympathy for cheaters after this. A commenter said, So it started with grandma and was normalized, is what she's saying. It's not genetics, lol. It's normalizing bad behavior. I'm glad you and your dad are talking about going together to hear her out. Just have each other's back and don't let either of you all be manipulated. Stay strong and record everything. So three days after that update, Opie came in with another one and says,

[00:09:35] [SPEAKER_01] I'm apparently banned from making new posts on True Off My Chest, so here is the latest update to anyone that's following me. I tried updating this on that post, but it won't let me add another edit, so here's the latest happenings. Update recaps. My ex accused me of also being unfaithful because he was and wants a DNA test when our son is born. My aunt exposed multiple affairs in my egg donor's side of the family and tried to claim its genetic and hereditary. My dad and I's lawyers encouraged us to meet with my egg donor for evidence and for closure,

[00:10:03] [SPEAKER_01] and this update deals with the answers we were given about our choices when we did meet. I met with my egg donor, dad, and our lawyers last evening. Essentially, my egg donor said she knew it was wrong, but enjoyed the attention. The sex was great, and she enjoyed the thrill of it. She kept sleeping with my dad because she enjoyed their financial stability and carefree life and wanted to stay married. She purposely slept with him after each sexual encounter with my ex to ensure if she got pregnant, she could pass the child off. She also admitted to enjoying the knowledge

[00:10:32] [SPEAKER_01] that my ex enjoyed sex with her more than me. She then said that she is moving in with my ex to his new place and that she invited the boys to live with them. The twins have visited once since the affair went public and told her they don't like my ex and refused to treat him like he's their father. She said eventually they'll come around once she's married to my ex and then she'll have her family back. I laughed out loud and told her she was delusional and needed psychiatric help. Then I told her I'd be taking out an order of protection against her so she'd have no access

[00:11:02] [SPEAKER_01] to my minor children. She called me a jealous and ungrateful cow but not appreciating that she didn't abort me and let me live. She said I should be happy that they didn't kick me out when I came home knocked up. She even had the nerve to say I should be thankful she kept my husband happy when I couldn't so he didn't divorce me and leave me a broken and damaged good single mother. She then told my dad she suffered from postpartum depression after my birth and my dad ignored it and her. I made her feel alone so she felt justified in hating me and to have affairs.

[00:11:31] [SPEAKER_01] She admitted to having multiple affairs from six months after I was born until New Year's Eve and said she'd still be doing it if I hadn't ruined everything. What in the Scooby-Doo? So my 38 female sister and 34 sister may not be my dad's either. My dad is even more heartbroken and angry but we did have both our lawyers present and we got it on record. My dad has already reached out to my siblings but to nobody's surprise I guess my 38 female sister already knew it was a possibility

[00:11:59] [SPEAKER_01] because my mom told her about both affairs when the twins were born and she knew they might not be my dad's and kept it from us. My dad is devastated by that even more than losing his relationship with my mom. I'm not sure their relationship will ever recover. I genuinely have no clue what is wrong with my 38 female sister. My 34 female sister doesn't want a paternity test and said our dad will always be her dad. My dad is fine with that. I sent a message to my ex through my lawyer that I'll be filing an order of protection tomorrow

[00:12:29] [SPEAKER_01] so that my kids won't have to go to my ex's house if my mother is there. Neither one has even attempted to find new housing either so I guess she's planning to move into my ex-in-law's house? I really don't want my kids around that mess. He has yet to respond but at this point I really don't care what he wants. P.S. My family knows about the social media posts as do the lawyers but my ex and egg donor have zero chance of a good outcome in a divorce so I'm going to be petty and enjoy their anger about being exposed so I'm leaving it up. They can stew in their filth

[00:12:58] [SPEAKER_01] and know that not only does our town think they're terrible so does the world and I have permission from my younger sister to share what happened last night. I don't really care what my 38 female sister thinks. TLDR, there were more affairs. My mom blames my dad for a pregnancy experience with me and she hates me because she had postpartum depression during pregnancy and my 38 female sister knew about the affairs and never told us. My mom wants to move in with my ex and take the twins with her to start a new family.

[00:13:26] [SPEAKER_01] I'm taking out an order of protection against her so she can't be around my minor kids. So two months later the final update came in and said hello thank you to everyone who sent me chats and messages supporting me and asking how I'm doing. I do have an update. I gave birth to my son in the beginning of April. He's healthy and I have no health complications. At the end of March my 14 year old daughter asked me if I'd be willing to do family therapy with her and her dad.

[00:13:56] [SPEAKER_01] I did not want to do it. I fought it but eventually I chose to do so for the sake of my daughter and her need to process everything and hopefully move on. I learned a lot more about the relationship between my ex and my egg donor due to homework the therapist gave us. My ex did reveal more things which I believe to be true. My mom had actually tried to seduce him well before we were of age. From my ex's reconciliation when my egg donor took over the youth group I was 15 and he was a few months from turning 15. The grooming began then.

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_01] She'd counsel him privately because he needed it. They kissed at some point when he was still 14 and that was all they did meaning they'd make out during these sessions until he turned 18. It was right around the time of the first kiss that my mom convinced him to ask me out and date me so they could keep seeing each other without suspicion. At this revelation I was both devastated my entire relationship was built on a lie and my husband never loved me and also a sense of relief knowing that I had absolutely nothing to do with their affair.

[00:14:55] [SPEAKER_01] The reason I believe this is true is that when he asked me out I'd get permission from my parents to date. At the time the rule was no one could date before age 16. My mom went to bat for me or so I thought. We started dating right after he turned 15. The timeline adds up. Edited My dad is currently looking into potential other cases of abuse and manipulation right now with the help of the church officials. Nothing has turned up and truthfully while I hate my egg donor I find it hard to believe she'd have the stamina to carry on multiple affairs

[00:15:25] [SPEAKER_01] with other boys. I think she seduced him knowing I liked him and wanted to feel superiority over me. Looking back all of this makes sense. The treatment of me and my children and the relationship to her other grandkids. I think all of this was a seriously fucked up case of her being narcissistic and punishing me for ruining her life. Ed did not have full sex until he turned 18 and I guess that was his birthday present from her. My 22 female and 20 male children are still not speaking to him which he has come to grips with and understands they'll likely

[00:15:55] [SPEAKER_01] never re-establish contact with him. The twins and I have reconciled fully. Now for the egg donor. After the last phone call with my aunt I cut off contact with her and my grandmother. I was tired of my aunt trying to guilt trip me into talking to my egg donor. My grandma is a whole other problem and is beginning to show signs of dementia and senility. She is still harassing my egg donor and calling her a slur of Babylon which I'm okay with but the other stuff she's doing and saying is not something I want to add to my life of stress.

[00:16:24] [SPEAKER_01] My 34 female and 42 female sister were the ones who helped me with labor and delivery plan. My ex knew what the plans were but also that I did not want him at the hospital until I had already given birth. It was in a better place for him to meet his son. He agreed to this. The day I went into labor my 34 female sister took my 14 female and 5 female children to a home while my 42 female sister was with me in the room. Apparently my 14 female child needed something from the school and reached out to my ex to pick it up as he was still on the official

[00:16:54] [SPEAKER_01] pickup list. He no longer is and dropped it off at my sister's house. My egg donor was with him when he took the call. He refused to let her come along as I didn't want my children around my egg donor. She apparently followed him in her car to the store and then my sister's house and threw a temper tantrum on the front lawn of my sister's house. My ex broke up with her and told her she was too much drama and it just isn't worth it anymore and she flew into a rage and physically attacked him and started destroying things in my sister's yard. The cops were called, my egg donor was arrested

[00:17:23] [SPEAKER_01] for domestic violence and at that point my sister and I took out orders of protection against her due to the instability and the situation. My ex moved into an apartment close to the HVAC company. My 14 year old daughter has decided not to forgive him and told him that she didn't want to be around him currently so only the 5 year old visits my ex. He comes to my dad's house and visits her one week night and one weekend evening when I take my other kids and twin brothers out for dinner. We've established contact through a custody app and we'll be revisiting the custody issue in June.

[00:17:53] [SPEAKER_01] I'll be pursuing full legal and physical custody until my ex can prove to me that he's done the necessary therapy and treatment he needs. I still hate my ex with everything in my being for what he did to me from the time I was 15 until recently but I hate my egg donor far more for what she did to us all. I do have some sympathy for him and I truly want him to be okay for the sake of my younger kids. Edited Yes, he has met his newborn son. He met him the night I gave birth. I also allowed his parents, my in-laws and his brothers to meet him as well. His parents,

[00:18:23] [SPEAKER_01] my in-laws and I are currently setting up plans for the 14 and 5 year old to have time with them as well as times they can come visit my newborn. My ex is allowed supervised visitation at this point. Not a court-ordered visitation but my wishes which he is adhering to as he does his therapy and rehab and he gets regular time with a 5 year old. He does get access to our newborn at least once a week if he comes with his parents if he wishes. He's seen his son at least 6 times since I gave birth and 3 in my presence for slowly rebuilding civilized communication.

[00:18:53] [SPEAKER_01] Like I said, I will allow him access to our 5 year old and infant once he does the necessary work on himself. I need to trust that he will make good judgment when he's with them and that he won't relapse and try to contact my egg donor again. He's been through trauma of his own that he needs help with and I want him to be able to focus on his own recovery before he tries to focus on being a good dad. As for the other divorce proceedings, he's agreed to a mediated uncontested divorce and I'll be getting half of everything including the business. I'm choosing to sell

[00:19:22] [SPEAKER_01] my shares to one of my ex's workers who'd like to become a partner. My ex is happy with this and I'll be happy to be completely rid of any ties to my ex. My dad was able to sell my old house. It didn't even get listed as our realtor knew a family looking and I began looking for houses about 45 minutes away from my dad. As for the egg donor, she's gone into hiding. Once the twins told her unequivocally they'd never live with her and they wanted nothing to do with her, especially after how she got arrested, she began a whole lot of guilt tripping and blaming them.

[00:19:51] [SPEAKER_01] She's now contesting the divorce from my dad and only speaking to him through a lawyer. As for my 38 female sister, she got a wake up call from this whole thing when my mother called her and berated her for 45 minutes for not bailing her out of jail. Apparently, my 38 female sister has been going through fertility issues. Like I said, I don't talk to her and had no idea and she's been stressed out and anxious and feeling bad about herself, which is why she let our egg donor manipulate her because she felt good about herself when she was getting all the positive attention.

[00:20:21] [SPEAKER_01] When she wasn't willing to pay the money to bail her out and she and her partner were saving up for another cycle of IVF, she realized that she was being manipulated and reached out to me. We have begun slowly talking again but she is on my side regarding this all. She is also talking to my dad again which for his sake, I'm happy that he is able to reconnect with her. Having my son, by the way, we did the DNA test a few weeks before his birth, he is definitely my ex's, has been a pleasure and joy and he and my other kids and my support system of my dad and siblings

[00:20:51] [SPEAKER_01] has gotten me through this and will continue to do so. I'm hopeful that at some point I'll be able to deal with my ex without anger and bitterness seeing as he has trauma from what my egg donor did to him. I'll be okay. Like I said, this will be my last update on this. So thank you for all the kindness, love and support. Bloody hell with bells on top. It just makes you appreciate having a boring life sometime because that is absolute chaos, isn't it? At first, it seemed like a horrific affair situation. By the end,

[00:21:21] [SPEAKER_01] you realize that the entire family dynamic had been like super unhealthy for years in ways OP never even understood. Like the mother's behavior, oh my word, she was unbelievably manipulative, cruel, grooming and she's openly admitting that she's enjoying the power and control that she had over everyone involved. OP really stood out at the same time. Like for all of this, the strength that she had despite having her entire world shattered, she still protected her kids, still supported her dad,

[00:21:51] [SPEAKER_01] rebuilt relationships with the siblings where it was possible and tried to move forward instead of letting this absolutely take over your life which could have been so easy to do. There was comments talking about the ex at the same time and how people viewed him because obviously it started off being groomed and then it carried on for years and years afterwards and how they feel about that but what do you guys make of this situation? Deary me. Let us know your thoughts down

[00:22:20] [SPEAKER_01] in the comments below and let's move on to another story. Now our next story is titled Am I the arsehole here for letting my boyfriend date his ex? So me, 31 male and my boyfriend 24 male have been together for about 8 months. He had told me that he wants to be in a polyamorous relationship. I let him know that I do not have any interest in being poly. He kept bringing up the topic and wanting the open relationship. Finally about 3 months ago I said I would try it. I said as long

[00:22:49] [SPEAKER_01] as there was communication and he let me know ahead of time that we can try it. My only thing was that I had Mondays and Tuesdays off so those are our days. Fast forward a couple of weeks and I found out he has a couple of hangouts planned and I asked about details of the hangout and it was this guy we were called Alec and he was going to take him out to breakfast and pay for everything. I told him that that was a date. My boyfriend told me no it wasn't and that it was just friends. He said that this was an old friend and they were going to catch up. Now here comes the kicker.

[00:23:19] [SPEAKER_01] This was planned on a Monday. I'm off Monday. I let him know this and he said he forgot and he thought I was going to be sleeping. Background I work overnight and I get up at 7.30am on Monday. I stay up all day Monday and go to bed at a normal time Monday night and this is every Monday. I let it go and told him to enjoy his day. A couple of weeks later was my birthday. I was super excited because one of my love languages is gifts. I love giving gifts and I love receiving gifts and my boyfriend knows this.

[00:23:49] [SPEAKER_01] I know this kind of sounds shallow but even if it's homemade and doesn't cost money I will love it regardless. My birthday fell on a Monday. I get off work and find out he has plans to meet up with another guy. I thought maybe this was a cover up so he can get a gift. I was wrong. He admitted to me later that he forgot until my roommate texted him letting them know that it was my birthday and if I was going to do something. Mind you this was already about 1pm that he realized it was my birthday. He ran out and got a store bought cake and some flowers.

[00:24:18] [SPEAKER_01] In my mind this was strike two but I let it slide. I was honestly very hurt. We had a big argument and I thought we had come to another understanding that Monday and Tuesdays are for us. A couple of weeks after that was Valentine's Day on a Saturday. I was really excited and I planned out a whole thing. I had a letter for each hour planned where he would open it and find a love message from me. There were some that had gift cards attached to them DoorDash, Steam, PlayStation Store, etc. His love language

[00:24:48] [SPEAKER_01] is words of affirmation. Some of the love letters were words of affirmation. I was super excited. The day before he lets me know he has a hangout with another guy planned. I was really hurt to be honest. I let him know this and he said that he'd be back by the time I was up sleeping. Background, on my work week I get home around 8am and go to bed until 12.30pm and then I take another nap around 6pm to 10pm. I said okay and waited for him. He didn't end up coming home until 4pm. I decided to sacrifice

[00:25:18] [SPEAKER_01] my sleep and stay up and have a valentine's day with my boyfriend. In the next month I found out he had reached out to two more of his exes. He wanted to go on a weekend trip with one of them and the other one he was talking to over Discord. Mind you the one he was talking to over Discord broke his heart and he's still in love with him. The one over Discord does not have feelings for him whatsoever. The one that he wanted to go on a weekend trip with we will call Eric. He stated that Eric was going to order an Uber for him to his house and he'll Uber him back at the end of the weekend trip. Mind you

[00:25:47] [SPEAKER_01] the Uber is about $110 one way. Eric was also going to pay for all of his food and of course weed for my boyfriend. I felt super uncomfortable with this. I'd asked to meet with Eric just to feel him out. I had another argument of where I let him know. I wasn't comfortable with Polly yet. He agreed to set up dinner so we can meet. My boyfriend asked me to drive him to Eric's house to see if that would calm me down. I said yes that would most likely calm me down and we can have that dinner with Eric. Fast forward to the day of and we get in the car

[00:26:17] [SPEAKER_01] to drive to Eric's house and he drops on me we'll just do a call and not a dinner. And so we do a phone call and Eric gangs up on me and starts asking me questions of why I need to meet his dates. I let him know that I wasn't comfortable and it made me feel more comfortable in theory. Eric stated that he has a husband and that I should not put myself through meeting these guys. This did not sit well with me and I got super quiet on the phone. My boyfriend asked if I was going to answer. I felt very good and I said no. I dropped him off this weekend and left. Eric paid for gas

[00:26:46] [SPEAKER_01] which was nice. In the next month he planned about two more dates with Alec and they were all on Monday. He used that same excuse for forgetting. A couple of weeks ago he came back from his date and he was wearing all new clothes and jewellery and showing off what his date got for him. I felt very uncomfortable and I told him I'm not comfortable with Polly anymore. I honestly tried it and it's not for me. My boyfriend has stated that I'm overreacting and I'm being unfair. I'm the asshole for this. Look personally for me I'm not someone who'd get into

[00:27:16] [SPEAKER_01] a Polly relationship personally but this doesn't even sound like healthy polyamory. It sounds like OP being slowly sidelined in his own relationship. It's just constant disrespect for him. You know you set boundaries to this. He seems to be forgetting boundaries that you set planning dates on the only days OP has asked for forgetting his birthday until someone reminded him ditching the Valentine's plans and saying OP's basically being unreasonable for being hurt for all this. Fuck this shit sack him off find someone better simple as

[00:27:46] [SPEAKER_01] a commenter says to OP you don't have a boyfriend drop his ass he's playing with your time and emotions that man doesn't care about you. Crystal says not the asshole this isn't polyamory this is him cheating with your reluctant permission ignored your boundaries forgot your birthday for a date let his ex-boyfriend gang up on you he's 24 looking for a provider and safety net you while he plays the field run Commodore says no you're not the asshole you tried communicated your boundaries and he repeatedly ignored them

[00:28:15] [SPEAKER_01] you're allowed to say poly isn't for you so a month later OP came back in and says so I broke up with him and I decided to continue with my move to Oregon we were supposed to move together with a roommate of ours but I told my now ex he couldn't go I called the leasing office and told them I want to take him off they stated that when I pick up the keys I can take him off some backstory on what I found when I snooped my ex was texting his friends and letting them know that he didn't love me but he was using me to get to Oregon he said

[00:28:45] [SPEAKER_01] he was just choosing to love me but he didn't see a long-term relationship with me Max got a train and went to downtown LA when my roommate dropped him at the train station I noticed that the times for the downtown LA train were later in the evening there was a train for Oregon arriving first I asked my roommate what train he was getting in and he said it was the one to LA and he saw him get on the train I said okay a couple of days later I made the 18 hour drive to Oregon with all my pets and stuff I went to pick up the keys and the leasing office said that my roommate

[00:29:15] [SPEAKER_01] already picked up the keys I let them know that that was impossible since we just got here from California they let me know it was Angel I saw red I was so mad and hurt I went to my roommate and asked if he knew he said oh so he is here he wasn't supposed to be here yet I was so mad I walked away I called some friends and asked for advice as well I called my roommate and asked him if he knew he came out and said he had lied and knew that my ex was coming to Oregon now I feel trapped in my own home and what was supposed

[00:29:45] [SPEAKER_01] to be a happy occasion turned into a stressful one my ex even ate the whole gift basket that was there to welcome us to our new apartment I'm still trying to figure out what to do because I don't feel comfortable with him here if anyone has any suggestions I would love to hear it for context since my ex picked up the keys a couple of days before I got here and signed everything I couldn't take them off the lease now since it's been 48 hours after move in since my ex picked up the keys there is a form that we can sign it voluntarily Commodore says not the arsehole

[00:30:14] [SPEAKER_01] call the leasing office now don't wait on this this is time sensitive don't get stuck on a lease with this guy Commodore says yep they told him to wait and he waited and he got shafted for it they need to take you off it ASAP Merdi says you need to talk to a tenants right attorney ASAP explain the situation state that this is a romantic ex partner you had broken up with before the keys

[00:30:45] [SPEAKER_01] stress that you no longer feel safe in the home with this person or the roommate who aided them in stalking you opie said I never thought of this I'm going to look know just a huge

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