My Girlfriend Set Me Up To Cheat On Her And It Has COMPLETELY BACKFIRED | r/AITAH

[00:00:02] [SPEAKER_00] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit stories. And if you do love a Reddit story, why not consider in the like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. And let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from a throwaway account from the Relationship Advice subreddit. And it says, my girlfriend set me up to cheat on her. And now she thinks I would actually cheat on her.

[00:00:33] [SPEAKER_00] Bloody hell. I, male 25, and my girlfriend, female 25, have been in a relationship for 4 years. Before that we were friends for more than 2 years so have known her for at least 6 years. We get along great and don't have many arguments or fights. Last Sunday, my girlfriend's friend, Susan, asked me to come to her place and told me that my girlfriend was there and we could all just hang out.

[00:00:58] [SPEAKER_00] We were at the local deli and Susan's apartment is just a block away so I went with her. Got there and saw my girlfriend and her friends calling me a cheater. She was crying. Honestly, at that point I didn't know what was going on. It was all very confusing. My girlfriend's other friend was saying break up with him. He is a cheat. After the things calmed down a little, I told her that Susan told me that she would be here so I don't understand what was going on.

[00:01:25] [SPEAKER_00] Apparently, Susan blew their plan and she wasn't supposed to tell me that my girlfriend would be there. I don't know why my girlfriend thinks that she has the right to be mad at me. It should be me who is mad at her. She literally tried to set me up and failed. Her narrative now is that I shouldn't have gone home with another woman and what if Susan was lying? Susan is her best friend and she told me that my girlfriend was there. I had no reason to suspect she was lying.

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_00] Right now, she thinks that I would actually cheat on her if I got a good opportunity. Basically, she thinks I would go to some random ass woman's house that I meet. How fucking realistic. I don't think she realizes how stupid that sounds. I love her and don't want to dump her over this but it is very stupid to set someone up to do something bad. I think I can't get past her stupid test but what is pissing me off is that she isn't talking to me.

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_00] It just says that she now knows that I have the potential to cheat. But every passing day, I'm honestly getting tired of her crap. What do you guys think? You've been in a relationship for four years with apparently no issues and she comes out with this. That is absolutely wild. I kind of wonder what her behavior was like in those four years at the same time. And for me, it's one of those ones where you just go, how do I look past that? You know, she's tried to do this to you.

[00:02:49] [SPEAKER_00] She's tried to set you up. Tried this loyalty test which she failed at majorly. How do you look past that in the end? Because this is her problem. She's the one with the trust problem because she's trying to set you up. And still, after she failed this test, she's trying to turn it around on you. Trying to make you the problem. And you need to put the focus back on what she's done. Because again, you've done nothing. They'll tell her, you know, I'm not discussing whether I would cheat.

[00:03:14] [SPEAKER_00] I want to know why you felt the need to test me by manipulation after four years together. That's the actual problem there. I mean, even if you want to go that far because I would seriously be reconsidering things after that kind of shit. But Peek says your girlfriend is 25 going on 15. I'd be done with anyone trying to catch me with stupid games like this. I'd be even more done at the fact that she's still fucking mad at you.

[00:03:42] [SPEAKER_00] Even though her friend blew the plan. Sounds like she's insistent on believing exactly what she wanted to believe. Opie says it's starting to look like that honestly. Another commenter says everyone has the potential to cheat. We just choose not to. If your girl is being like this now, it won't get better later. If anything, it'll get much, much worse. We don't always want to do what needs to be done. And you need to dump this crazy woman.

[00:04:10] [SPEAKER_00] She's toxic and so are her friends. Opie quoted the comment saying everyone has the potential to cheat. We just choose not to and says exactly what I tried to tell her. Not getting through a thick noggin probably because she is mad at me for something she made up. I can work with her if she apologizes and promises to work on it. But this is getting exhausting. Four days later, Opie came in with an update and said thank you to everyone who replied to my first post. Just a little update.

[00:04:40] [SPEAKER_00] It was really difficult but I broke up with her. The way she handled the situation at first gave me the impression that I was signing up for a lot more tests if I stay with her so I ended things. Only after she apologized and promised to never do anything like this again and said that this is something very minor which shouldn't cause a breakup. Part of me wanted to trust her and give it a go but I don't want to be in a relationship where I'm not certain about it.

[00:05:05] [SPEAKER_00] As for Susan, after this I ran into her at the deli daily and she confessed that she was not on board with her girlfriend's plan. Thus she partly messed up the plan without betraying her friends. I guess something is better than nothing and I thanked her for it. It still weirds me out a little that I can't go to my ex, girlfriend at the time, BFF's home when invited whom I have also known for a significant amount of time without being called a cheater. Personally, I don't know what was going through my ex's head.

[00:05:35] [SPEAKER_00] Susan told me that even though she was not on board with the plan, she was the one who brought up the YouTube video about testing partners to the group and the rest of the girlfriends decided it would be a good idea to test it on me. As my ex was the only one in a relationship with me at the time. According to her, it got out of hand from there and she was tasked with baiting me at the deli. Jeez Louise guys, I don't know if it was the right decision or not, but I guess I'll find out in a couple of years down the road.

[00:06:05] [SPEAKER_00] Under the floor again says to OP, OP, what the fuck did I just read in your original post? Lord almighty, that is such schemey fuckery. You did the absolute right thing. She's 25 for fuck's sake. I truly don't understand people sometimes and to put someone she's meant to love through this kind of shit, that's not love nor trust. I wish you all the best and I hope that in the future you find someone who doesn't cheat playing solitaire with themselves.

[00:06:32] [SPEAKER_00] OP quotes the what the fuck and says, this is me trying to comprehend what just happened to me from last Sunday to now. What I still don't understand is, if she would have caught me cheating, we would have broken up. She's deceived me and we still broke up. Like if her end goal wasn't breaking up, then all of this is just stupid. Zeno says, even if your ex-girlfriend hadn't been there, I don't get what is wrong with going to hang out with your girlfriend's best friend one on one.

[00:07:00] [SPEAKER_00] Was Susan supposed to not only ask to hang out, but to also seduce you? OP says, I don't see anything wrong with hanging out one on one. I've known Susan for years now. Personally, I don't get it either. Part of me is still struggling to get past the after four years together she comes up with this kind of shit. I mean, four years. She should be like talking about her insecurities, not testing him and not setting up traps.

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_00] It would have been really interesting to find out her end game on this because, you know, the test massively backfired on her in this situation. But even if she turned around to him and said, oh, you passed the test. He's still going to be stood there thinking, what the fuck she tested me for, right? Absolute wild ass logic. But what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Let's move on to another story.

[00:07:57] [SPEAKER_00] Our next story comes from TroubledFar4543 from the true off my chest subreddit. And it says, I regret believing everyone when they said don't date from work. It starts, everyone suddenly believes you don't date from work. Don't shit where you eat. You're a loser to do it. But swiping pictures for hours is totally normal. Apparently, the judging looks you get from friends and family for telling them that you like someone from work.

[00:08:27] [SPEAKER_00] We've been working together for one and a half years and I have liked her for that same amount. I believe she liked me too. When I started telling my friends, it was a total joke to them. You don't shit where you eat. Soon, even the folks at work started saying how terrible of an idea it was because I think it was obvious that I liked her. The older generation said that I should trust them and the female colleagues warned me about harassment.

[00:08:53] [SPEAKER_00] It terrified me that I would harass a co-worker so last Christmas party, some of us decided to continue the night after the office party. She looked amazing and she talked to me the whole evening. On our way to the bar, two of my colleagues warned me that this could end up very badly with her being all over me. She wasn't. She's very shy and polite so the effort it must have taken her to want to stay close to me in spite of everyone around us. Don't waste your energy.

[00:09:22] [SPEAKER_00] Don't do something stupid and ruin your work environment. Monday will be awkward if you did something stupid. I ended up avoiding her at the bar. She looked puzzled but she understood the gist and sat with the female workers instead. Then a couple of girls at the bar started to chat with us and my colleague encouraged it. He was the best wingman. I ended up leaving with one of the girls. I found my colleague's eyes on me when I left. She never talked to me again. She never looked at me once.

[00:09:51] [SPEAKER_00] She's been very polite and kind as usual when we work together but she never looks at me. A smile in the morning when she says good morning is not the same. Of course, it was for the best according to the believe me I know people. But why doesn't it feel that way? The work environment I was supposed to keep safe feels unbearable now. I should have never listened to anyone but my heart. I could always find another job but feelings like these are hard to come by.

[00:10:19] [SPEAKER_00] I just wanted to vent somewhere because I can't really blame my family, friends and colleagues for my actions. I'm just bitter. P.S. Excuse my grammar. I'm Swedish. When OP said everyone suddenly believes you don't date from work, I mean that's been like a saying ever since I started working. And of course, it's only based off the drama that you hear about when people have dated in the workplace. You're never going to hear about the success stories, right?

[00:10:47] [SPEAKER_00] And I'm sure there's many couples that's met in a workplace and continued on life and things have gone well. There's probably loads of horror stories at the same time as well. Personally, I don't think I would do it. But a commenter says to OP, until you've had a work relationship go bad, you can't have an opinion. And frankly, it sounds like you have nothing more than a strong crush on this woman and barely know her. Feelings actually aren't hard to come by if you're putting yourself out there. OP says it's not just a crush, unfortunately.

[00:11:15] [SPEAKER_00] I'm speaking about myself, of course. Maybe it's easier for some people than others, but having genuine feelings for someone are hard for me and don't really come easily. OP then responds to a downvoted commenter about, how can I have feelings for someone at work, but no need to go out on dates to fall for someone. Then says, yeah, not going to argue with people who come here all knowing. That's their opinion. I've spent 40 hours a week working with this woman. We talk about everything. Even our families and problems.

[00:11:46] [SPEAKER_00] Hobbies and adventures and plans or people at the office wouldn't have noticed that we are close. I haven't confessed my feelings, of course, because they're wrong according to society, but I regret it now. We could have always ever tried to find new jobs or something. I regret my stupidity. I come in as there's a huge number of successful and unsuccessful relationships start at work. That's relatively normal. Internet long ago lost perspective on the difference between. Something comes with risks, so be careful and mature about it.

[00:12:15] [SPEAKER_00] And ran straight to, that comes with risks. Don't ever do it. Jobs are temporary. If things go bad for whatever reason, you have the power to leave and find a new one. It's not fun, but it's also one of the better ways to get better pay. And your company owes you the same amount of loyalty you owe them. None. So like, go into a workplace relationship cautiously. Opie responds saying totally agree with you. Thanks for a nuanced response. Sorry for the downvotes you're going to get because of it.

[00:12:44] [SPEAKER_00] You are not guaranteed a successful relationship just because it's from your workplace. So there's no difference where you meet someone. Had it worked out or not, I'd have had to find another job anyway. This is only my opinion. If it worked, I'd have wanted the relationship to continue to succeed and therefore maybe find a new job so we didn't work together would have been my goal. If it didn't work, well, it would have been awkward to stay working at the same place. My point is that sometimes a woman is worth finding a new job, no matter the results.

[00:13:13] [SPEAKER_00] The commenter says, from what you describe, it does sound as though she may have hoped that something would happen between you two. Did you sleep with the other girl that you left with? Did she also work with you? If so, then why is it okay to sleep with her, but not to get close to the colleague that you actually like? Opie responds saying, yeah, I slept with the girl. No, she doesn't work with us, of course. She was just at the bar with her friends. The commenter says, you could, I don't know, talk to her? Have lunch together?

[00:13:41] [SPEAKER_00] You've been basically flirting and connecting for a long time. Then when it's finally off work hours, you leave with another girl in front of her. That screams I'm not interested in you. Just ask her to eat lunch together and tell her you've enjoyed her company for a long time, that everyone told you not to ask her out, and that Christmas party they were all over you about not asking her out. Just be honest, make it clear you were and are interested, but will completely honor her decision. Opie says, I contemplated doing it just to at least apologize to her,

[00:14:11] [SPEAKER_00] because I know she has too much self-respect to accept someone like me now. Commenter says, just ask her out for a drink. What's the issue if she likes you? She'll say yes. Opie says, I was just talking to one of the guys from her department, and he casually mentioned that my colleague who acted my wingman at the Christmas party asked her out right after the holidays. I've been so dumb, haven't I? Commenter replies, man, do whatever your heart tells you to do. I dated someone from work.

[00:14:39] [SPEAKER_00] I was attracted to her the minute I saw her on the first day at work when she joined our team. My desk was about 20 feet from hers. We became friends. Eventually started dating. Yes, we had some rough times, but that's because we were young and immature. I was 22 and she was 25, but we got along incredibly well. That was 25 years ago, and still together. Opie says, it was over for me the moment she smiled at me. We're 28.

[00:15:07] [SPEAKER_00] Commenter says, dude, you went home with someone else while your crush was there. You're an idiot. Opie said, yeah, a huge one. So Opie did come in with an update three days later and said hi again. So I'll just dive right into my update. I asked my colleague if we could take a walk on a lunch break because I needed to talk to her. It was the first time I talked to her since the party. She probably knew exactly what it was about. I just started by apologizing.

[00:15:35] [SPEAKER_00] I told her exactly what went through my mind that day and without making excuses for myself because, let's face it, I'm an adult. I didn't need to listen to others. I should have trusted my feelings and definitely nobody made me go home with that girl. I told her this. She said that she was hurt because she liked me and that she too thought about us being colleagues and what it would have meant. But she thought worst case that she would have to find a new job if we clicked as a couple. Telling me this was like knives in my chest.

[00:16:04] [SPEAKER_00] I wish I was less dramatic too and had a simple approach. And I told her that. Anyway, I told her what I did was stupid and it had nothing to do with her but my own insecurities. She accepted my apology. She is not interested in pursuing anything anymore. I kind of expected that because she's way better than settling for a mess like me. I probably showed her an ick side and I understand. I won't lie and say that it didn't break my heart a little and I think I teared up a little even though I tried to be cool.

[00:16:34] [SPEAKER_00] That must have been another ick for her. She said that she's also moving on with another job too because it felt awkward at the office now. This made me want to cry for real. I tried to avoid this woman because of a stupid job because it would be awkward to date someone I work with and now she's not going to be working with me anyway. I wish their luck. I hope it sounded like I meant it. That's all. Someone said to OP,

[00:16:59] [SPEAKER_00] Oh, it sucks but you did the grown up thing by admitting it and apologizing even if it didn't end the way you hoped. Learn your lesson, be kind to yourself and don't let a single wrong step convince you that you're not yourself. OP says, Thanks man. Commodore says, Learn from your mistakes. If you fall for someone else in the future, I guarantee insecurities will once again present themselves. It might not involve co-workers or you relying on others' opinions but something will cause doubt.

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_00] Learn to rely on your own instincts and face your own insecurities. If you don't, you will ruin another potential relationship in the future. OP replies saying, I've definitely learned from this. OP says, A commodore says, Advice from someone who dated at work. Don't do it. I met Merck's husband at work. In the beginning, it was not a problem but as the honeymoon phase fades, the challenges start to come up. In hierarchy, he was above me.

[00:17:55] [SPEAKER_00] I did not want to switch jobs as it was my first one and still had a lot to learn and that company was perfect for that. He was well liked there and was doing well, so he was not willing to change jobs. We were in the same team so it did not help. issues at work would get carried over in the relationship. It was only after he changed company that the relationship got better. So never again will I date someone at my job. OP says, I can always find a new job, not always find someone great.

[00:18:24] [SPEAKER_00] Since when do we value work over people? I'm not discussing other people's experiences anymore since I'm not interested in any more anecdotes. My experience left me full of regrets just because I followed advice of people with experience like yours. I've had tens of messages from people with successful experiences too. Why would your experience be worthier? And one more commenter says, you tried to avoid making things awkward at work and ended up making the situation so unbearable she has to quit.

[00:18:54] [SPEAKER_00] That is the ultimate irony. She was willing to risk her career to be with you while you were too scared to even ignore some bad advice. She didn't reject you because you were a mess. She rejected you because she realized she was playing for keeps while you were just playing it safe. And OP says, this is basically a summary of what happened. I regret it. But now, I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Maybe you have your own opinion on the matter.

[00:19:25] [SPEAKER_00] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story. Now, our next story comes from dark, pathetic lover from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit. It says, am I the arsehole for talking back to family members after they keep rubbing it in my face? The fact that I got pregnant early and a single mom. I live in a country where extended families living under one roof is common. My daughter, three female, and I, 23 female,

[00:19:54] [SPEAKER_00] are currently living with my grandmother, an uncle, and an aunt, with husband, and two kids. The reason why I haven't moved out yet is because of my grandmother. I have a high paying stable job and can move out anytime. But my uncle, the eldest, who's paying for the bills as well, pleaded for me to stay with my grandmother. She's 89 and I take care of her as well. Yesterday, I got into a fight with my aunt because I confronted her about them not buying fruits for their mother.

[00:20:23] [SPEAKER_00] I can do it myself, but because I have a sickly daughter, I won't risk going out. My grandmother receives a monthly stipend from the government and my aunt manages the finances. I don't even touch a single cent of that stipend. I buy my own groceries, but also includes my grandmother. I pay for the electricity of the entire household and sometimes the water bill. I also give weekly allowances to my aunt's two teenage kids. My uncle, my aunt, and her husband

[00:20:53] [SPEAKER_00] ganged up on me and said a lot of hurtful things about me in front of my daughter. They kept on rubbing it in my face that I got pregnant at 19 and a single mom at that. I got so fed up that I told them at least I didn't ask other people to pay for my family's needs. I added after that, I can move out of here anytime and won't worry about where to get food and where to get money to pay the bills. I don't know if I can say the same thing about you all. I never asked them for help financially and worked hard

[00:21:22] [SPEAKER_00] to where I am now. My statement resulted in another round of shouting and them constantly telling me how rude I was. I grabbed my daughter away from them and locked ourselves in my room. Since I'm paying for the full internet bill, out of anger I changed the password and they haven't connected since then. I feel like I was too harsh when I said those words to them. I'm I, the asshole. Edit, and I'm reading all your comments and I really appreciate the kind words. I haven't stopped crying

[00:21:51] [SPEAKER_00] from being overwhelmed from all your responses. I've never heard anything good come out from my family and hearing it from strangers just warms my heart. To answer some of the questions, they've been emotionally abusive since I can remember. My grandma and pops raised me because my parents went missing in action. But my grandma taught me from a young age to not fight back since they're older. So in this story, Opie's 23, financially independent already, paying for a whole bunch of bills for the household.

[00:22:21] [SPEAKER_00] I think it was electricity for the entire household, groceries for her, her child, and grandmother as well. And giving, what, the aunts, kids, weekly allowances at the same time. And then they're still treating you this way. So I don't blame you for snapping back in that situation. While they all stood there and abused you in front of your three-year-old daughter, you simply just turned around and gave them facts, pointing out who is actually supporting who in that house. And basically, the truth hurt. And,

[00:22:51] [SPEAKER_00] you know, from some of the wording in the post, I imagine there's some culture in this, but at the same time, you've built something for yourself at the moment. You know, as I said about the financial independence and your daughter, think about her. You need, she needs to see you standing up for yourself, not tolerating this bullshit because family, which I, again, I know is going to be easy for me to say. A commenter suggested this. They said, not the asshole and I'd move out. Maybe take grandma if you want to, but leave the rest

[00:23:20] [SPEAKER_00] to fend on their own. Opie replied saying, I really want to move out, but I'm afraid they'd get the notion that I'm bringing my grandma with me because of the monthly stipend she's receiving. A commenter replied saying, who cares what they think? If they can't or won't care for her, then it's irresponsible for your grandma to be left in their care. They don't treat you well now and you're staying in your own home. You and your daughter can have a life. How does this affect your daughter? Hearing how her being born causes so many problems. It's you, your daughter,

[00:23:50] [SPEAKER_00] and grandma that rest can take care of themselves. Besides, is them talking about grandma's stipend worse than what they say in front of your daughter now? Opie says, thank you so much for putting it that way. I think it's mostly my anxiety talking. In the 16 years that I've lived with them, I've avoided any type of confrontation or argument and this was the first that I actually got fed up. Revenant says, can I ask where your parents are? Can you live with them? Opie says, I haven't seen my parents since I was five and if they were around,

[00:24:20] [SPEAKER_00] they're no different from my aunt and uncle's. Big Meaning says, not the arsehole. I'm not sure you should care what they think. They already think bad of you, as shown by throwing your pregnancy in your face and I don't know you can fix that. If you move and take your grandma, that is your decision. That said, it may be a decent idea to stay around as I'm not sure how well your grandma would do in the move. I'll be upfront with the others that if they say anything like that to you again, you will leave and take grandma with you and mean it.

[00:24:50] [SPEAKER_00] If they can't respect you while you're helping to fund their life, they don't deserve your help. With that said, I will probably move out if the opportunity presents itself. As an aside, where is your grandma's stipend going? If you are buying her food, what does that money go towards? I hope he says, that's actually one thing that's taken me forever to work on. I've been told there was a pushover and I guess this is the reason why they get to do this to me easily. And I actually have no idea. I avoid any confrontation about the stipend because it might cause

[00:25:19] [SPEAKER_00] a lot of trouble. In US dollars, they only spend like $80 out of the $600 stipend my grandma receives. I don't want to assume anything about them pocketing the money. This is also the reason why I include my grandma in the budget when I do my own groceries. Mother commenter says, not the arsehole. You should not be giving your aunt's teenagers an allowance. That is her responsibility. Opie says, I know, but I pity my cousins. They didn't have enough money to go to school and I can't live with the guilt knowing that I have money

[00:25:49] [SPEAKER_00] and I didn't share it with them. I'm your only hope reply saying money to go to school. Opie says, sorry, like, um, fair. We live pretty far from school and we don't have buses so they have to commute. Opie also says, I live my whole life around these people. The reason why I'm afraid of confrontation because I live in an Asian Hispanic household where confronting your elders means disrespect. I'm severely anxious and I also avoid confrontations because I have a three-year-old. These so-called people are her children.

[00:26:19] [SPEAKER_00] By law, they have more say of my grandma's money over me. If I bring this to court, I'm most likely going to lose. I know it isn't right. That's why I try to compensate it by including my grandmother when I do my own groceries. So, it was five and a half months later that Opie came back in with an update and says, I couldn't believe my original post was five months ago. People have been messaging me since then and have been asking me about what happened after. A lot has happened since then and you guys,

[00:26:48] [SPEAKER_00] it took me five months before I was finally able to move out of my childhood home. Back to the incident. I kept my cool after that day and stopped talking to them all together up until now. A lot of things unfolded from there and plot twist, my aunt's daughters who I was given money to were just using me. Surprised, but not totally surprised. How I found out? One of my cousins, the older one, borrowed my laptop for schoolwork a couple of weeks after the incident and logged into Facebook. Her mom called out for her in the middle

[00:27:17] [SPEAKER_00] of working on my laptop and forgot to log out. The page was on her timeline and all her posts were set to exclude me. She was posting all sorts of shit posts about me, telling all her Facebook friends about how I was using my grandmother's money to buy all sorts of stuff, how I was physically and emotionally abusing them, how I was such a slur for being a single mom. I got pregnant at 19 and I'm 24 now. All my other cousins not living with us chimed in

[00:27:46] [SPEAKER_00] and all this time I was wondering why no one was talking to me anymore. I pretended I didn't see it and acted normal even though I wanted to confront them about it. But what I did was stop giving them allowances. I worked extra hard for the past five months, endured the nasty comments they tell me from time to time and was able to come up with enough money to add to my savings and I bought my first studio condo unit. I had a long talk with my grandmother that involves lots of tears and snot but in the end she decided to stay

[00:28:16] [SPEAKER_00] with her children. My daughter and I moved in two weeks ago with only three boxes of clothes and toys and my PC set up. I was emotional because I finally had the courage to get out there, breaking the cycle of emotional and physical abuse. I also just want to say I was never the arsehole. I should have known that from the start. I'm all settled in my new home right now with my four year old and a puppy. Something I wanted ever since I was a kid. I've also started to paint and play video games again. Stuff I stopped doing

[00:28:46] [SPEAKER_00] for years. And I also want to say thank you to all the kind words from my original post. Your kind words had a huge positive impact on me. TLDR, I'm happy now. And edit. Thanks all so much for the comments and awards though I have no idea how they work. Your well wishes are making me tear up in the middle of the day. I'll find time later tonight to reply to everyone's comments. I didn't do anything to my cousin's Facebook even though I'm very upset with what she did and that she's been doing. This is something I can never do.

[00:29:16] [SPEAKER_00] I've decided to just let them think whatever they want to think about me. The truth will come out eventually and nothing else matters except for what my daughter thinks about me. And oh my god, I didn't realize how nice it is to have a puppy. I hope I don't end up adopting 10 more. And there were some comments that Opie was replying to on the back of this. The first one, this was a deleted and a downvoted user I want to point out but Opie did reply to it. It said, I read the whole thing. I can't find one line of text that indicated she was being abused.

[00:29:46] [SPEAKER_00] I'll tell you what abuse is. My pops and me used to fist fight if I touched the thermostat one degree too high. If I ate good cold cuts and not the great value salami. It was basically a guarantee I'm getting something thrown at my head. I think everybody's family is critical of our shortcomings but that has no reason to just tune out and cut them off. She already made her child a half orphan. What now? She will grow up without extended family, aunts or cousins or uncles. It's like she's addicted to losing people

[00:30:16] [SPEAKER_00] that care about her. Being alone is long and a sad life. I hope this poor girl rekindles their relationship before her family is really broken up beyond repair. Opie replied saying, Hi, just want to clarify. I grew up in an Asian slash Hispanic household. I started working when I was 16 and did not ask even a single pay-off from my family when I got pregnant. You and your pops got into a fist fight. I never got the chance to fight back. I literally was living in a household of emotional and physical abuse my entire life and five months ago

[00:30:46] [SPEAKER_00] was the first time I blew up and lost my cool. Why would I stay in a household that never helped me in the first place? I'm not addicted to losing people that cared for me because they never cared at all. I may be alone but I'm happier alone with my daughter than being surrounded by fake, shameless, toxic family members. A commenter asks, How did your uncles, aunts, and cousins react to you moving out and no longer supporting them? Congrats on the big move and puppy. Opie says, They tried to guilt trip me about leaving

[00:31:15] [SPEAKER_00] my grandmother alone and not supporting her anymore. She's never going to be alone and she has monthly government pension. They said lots of nasty things, I hurt a little but I didn't say anything and left them fuming. One neither here or there says, So happy for you and your daughter. These shameless users will surely be on your doorstep sooner or later and try to manipulate you again. Please remember their behavior and remind them that after all you abused them, used the government's dip in buying stuff selfishly etc. So would that kind

[00:31:45] [SPEAKER_00] of person help them now? Hard no. Opie says, I definitely learned my lesson now. I've been a pushover my whole life and will not let them continue doing it. I will only help if it's for my grandma and I will never give them any money at all. And one more commenter says, Just gotta say, puppies are awesome. So are adult dogs but man, they just love you unconditionally. Plus, petting a dog has been shown to decrease your blood pressure. So they are good for your health. Good luck for you and your daughter. Opie says, the three of us sleep together so it helps

[00:32:15] [SPEAKER_00] with a lot of things definitely. Damn, that downvoted commenter absolutely rubbed me the wrong way in this situation and you know, don't get me wrong, I feel for that person at the same time because having your dad throw things at your head is just, you know, absolutely fucking brutal, right? But that doesn't sort of lower the threshold for what counts as abuse. That's not how it works. I mean, look what Opie went through years of emotional abuse, financial exploitation

[00:32:44] [SPEAKER_00] as well. She got family talking shit about her online while she didn't know about it for all these years. Well, she's literally funding their lives just because she didn't go through something physical doesn't make her abuse any less real. But turning it back to Opie, 24, thriving with a daughter and puppy in her own place that she earned both breaking the cycle of what's happened here. That's absolutely amazing.

[00:33:15] [SPEAKER_00] And your daughter gets to grow up watching her mum refuse to accept that kind of mistreatment. That's amazing. But, what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. And just a huge thank you for being here today, getting involved in the stories, your love, your support, your time. It always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so, so much for being here. Truly, it's absolutely amazing. And hopefully, I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love.