My Boyfriend Doesn't Want Me To Go To My Best Friends Wedding As My Ex Is There | r/Relationships

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[00:00:25] [SPEAKER_00] Now today's first story comes from the Relationship Advice subreddit from SorryParticular169 who says, My boyfriend, 23, doesn't want me, female 21, to go to my best friend's female 22 wedding. Okay, I don't know what to do because I'm really torn. And I understand where my boyfriend is coming from. My boyfriend, Jake, and I have been together for two years. We met during orientation for university.

[00:00:55] [SPEAKER_00] Everything is great between us. He met my best friend, Ella, who is getting married to her boyfriend of four years. They are high school sweethearts and I love the both of them. We were all friends during high school and grew up together. They were always together and perfect for each other. I only dated one other person during high school and his name was Sam. I really liked Sam. We dated for three years during school and spoke often about going to uni together and getting married.

[00:01:25] [SPEAKER_00] But it was young love and when acceptance letters came around, he ended up moving out of state so we broke up. My best friend asked me to be her maid of honor and I'm so excited. We've been wedding planning for the past couple of months while her fiancé was finalizing his groomsman. I was surprised when she told me. Sam would be the best man. I told my boyfriend about this and he wasn't happy with the idea of me attending the wedding

[00:01:50] [SPEAKER_00] as Ella expected each of the bridesmaids and groomsmen to be paired up for activities such as walking down the aisle and the first dance as well as photos. He didn't like the idea of me doing all those romantic things with an ex-boyfriend. I explained to him that Sam and I haven't seen each other for three years, but he said he still felt uncomfortable with it. Jake is invited to the wedding so I tried to say that I would still spend most of my time with him,

[00:02:17] [SPEAKER_00] but he said he still doesn't want to watch me walk down the aisle and have a first dance with someone else. Plus, he didn't want me to have to be reminded of this every time we go over to Ella and her fiancé's house, as all the official wedding pictures would be plastered all over the place. Does anyone have any advice on what to do? I love my boyfriend and I understand where he's coming from, but I want to go to my best friend's wedding. Edit I just want to clarify a few things that I've seen people talk about in the comments.

[00:02:46] [SPEAKER_00] Thank you for everyone's advice, I really appreciate it all. First of all, it wasn't a big surprise that Sam was chosen to be Ella's fiancé's best man. I'll also call Ella's fiancé Luke for clarity. Luke and Sam have remained in contact over the years and are still super close, but I didn't ask him about Sam too much, just because I'm not super interested in what's going on in his life. The most I ask about is, is he good? And that's about it.

[00:03:12] [SPEAKER_00] Secondly, I didn't make this super clear in my post, but when I say Ella and Luke will have pictures of Sam and I plastered all over the house, I meant that there will be pictures of the wedding party all together around the place. As for Jake, a lot of people are saying he's being controlling. I don't think he is. I'm not his first girlfriend. He's only my second other than Sam. And he doesn't like the idea of photos of the wedding party being around, because in the photos, it would have the whole wedding party together,

[00:03:41] [SPEAKER_00] and he wouldn't be in the photos which to him makes it seem like I wasn't there. I'm going to talk to him tomorrow about this and see what he says. I'll give an update soon. When I first came into this, like with the initial reaction, finding out your partner's paired up with an ex for, you know, the first dance, which I imagine is going to be like a slow dance to some romantic music, etc. You know, I kind of like myself, I'd have had like, oh, that's a bit weird for me.

[00:04:09] [SPEAKER_00] Maybe that makes me a bit insecure, but hey, that would feel weird to me. But at the same time, there's a way to communicate that, right? Just going up to OOP and saying, you know, this is making me uncomfortable. Is there a way around this, etc.? Instead of just turning around and going, don't go, and then seeming to double down with all kind of weird justifications, you know, talking about the photos on the wall. That's where it like felt, you know, controlling to me. But I don't want to be reminded every time we visit because there's photo,

[00:04:38] [SPEAKER_00] there will be photos on their walls. I mean, come on now. And then saying stuff like, it makes it seem like I wasn't there. It just seemed a bit nonsense to me. Because he is invited. He can be there. He just won't be in the formal wedding photo shots because, you know, he's not in the wedding party. It just feels like, and again, I might have read one too many Reddit stories, right? So always take what I say with a pinch of salt. But it just feels like that textbook escalation that we see in these stories.

[00:05:08] [SPEAKER_00] But I don't know. We'll see when we get to the update, I guess. But the first commenter says, My childhood best friend missed my wedding because her husband didn't want her to go. Our relationship never really recovered. Are you willing to damage your relationship with your best friend by pulling out of this commitment you've already made? If your boyfriend is this upset at watching you perform your bridesmaid's duties, maybe he doesn't go. That's a more reasonable solution since he's the one with the issue. River Song says,

[00:05:37] [SPEAKER_00] If he's going to be jealous of something so dumb and cause you to miss your best friend's wedding, he's not mature enough for a serious relationship. I've been in several weddings and nothing about walking down the aisle or even dancing with a groomsman is romantic. You'll be so busy with other bridesmaids duties that those will barely be a blip. But the fact that he thinks he can control you like this is concerning. Opie says, I tried to explain this to him originally and say that I would just be doing a job by walking down the aisle and dancing with Sam.

[00:06:07] [SPEAKER_00] But he said weddings are a naturally romantic scene. I feel like he thinks us dancing together is going to be like Damon and Elena at the Mystic Falls thing. Commodore says, Another commenter says,

[00:06:49] [SPEAKER_00] So it was 17 days later that Opie came in with an update and said, Okay, so I wanted to give you all an update since some people were asking. I'm not sure if this is the right way to do this. I've never made an update before. First of all, I read everyone's comments and wanted to say thank you. Even if I didn't respond, a lot of you gave me great advice. Excluding the usual Reddit, Breakup advice. Lol. I talked to my boyfriend23 about it after I made the post and read some of the comments.

[00:07:19] [SPEAKER_00] I took your advice as well and made sure to explain that there was nothing romantic about walking down the aisle with a guy I haven't spoke to in years and having a dance with him. I also told him I'm going to the wedding and I'm going to be Ella's maid of honor no matter what. We had a bit of an argument about it and he wasn't super excited, but ended up saying he would come to the wedding because he'd rather at least be there to celebrate Ella and Luke, Ella's fiance. And also, he didn't like the thought of me having fun without him and him being all alone.

[00:07:48] [SPEAKER_00] He has a bit of anxiety about that and doesn't like being left out of things. So I understand why he didn't just want to stay home. That conversation was two weeks ago and since then, things went downhill. After the conversation, he was initially really sweet, his usual caring self. Then he became overly sweet. It kind of felt like in the beginning, but when he started making comments and jokes about how he wanted to remember how amazing he was as a boyfriend, it started to feel weird.

[00:08:17] [SPEAKER_00] It kind of felt like he was guilting me. After reading the comments, I started to notice more things too. He always asked questions about where I was going and who I was seeing, which isn't new, but I started to see it differently now. Then he started asking more questions whenever I was on my phone, asking who I was texting and what I was saying. Then he started reading the messages over my shoulder. This wasn't that big of a deal before since he has my password and I have his.

[00:08:45] [SPEAKER_00] And I don't care if he reads my text since there isn't anything to hide. Now it kind of feels like he's monitoring me. After that, the worst of it came. Whenever I was going out, he asked me to update him. Not in a normal way. As in, if I was in the shopping center, he would ask me which stores I was going to, what I was eating. He asked me for photos of the food I was having. I thought it was because he wanted to be involved, but I was dumb. I'm kind of ashamed to say that I did send him all of those photos and all the proof

[00:09:14] [SPEAKER_00] he needed for a couple of days, but then I got sick of it. I asked him why does he need all that information and he told me just because I want to make sure. I asked, make sure of what? He didn't really give me an answer. Then the final straw was about two days ago. Another argument. This time about Ella. He said Ella was trying to manipulate me into getting back with Sam. That she always had a vendetta against him.

[00:09:39] [SPEAKER_00] I said he was being stupid because if that were true, she wouldn't invite him to the damn wedding. He said he didn't feel comfortable with me going. He said he didn't want me to go. And if I did, I was crossing his boundaries in that I wouldn't be his girlfriend anymore because what kind of girlfriend would purposely cross their boyfriend's boundaries? So I told him that's okay. I wouldn't want to cross his boundaries and broke up with him. You were all right. He was controlling me. I don't feel happy about it. I feel sad.

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_00] I feel like I wasted years of my life on someone I loved. I told Ella. She didn't celebrate. She was sad for me too. She said he was nice, but I could do better and I should be with someone who helps me grow my world. Not shrink it to being just them. I'm going to focus on looking forward to the wedding and helping Ella out. Thank you to everyone again. So the first comment on the update said, So sometimes the breakup advice is correct then.

[00:10:35] [SPEAKER_00] Basic says, quoting OP, excluding the usual Reddit breakup advice. And then says, also OP. So anyway, here's a long story about how Reddit was right and we broke up. Pixotron says, damn straight. It's insidious and like frog getting slowly boiled. We don't know if we should just jump out. You did everything right. I wish I had your self-awareness and reflection at 21. Now, if you experience those behaviors again, you'll know to anything sooner rather than later.

[00:11:04] [SPEAKER_00] You deserve a partner who will love, support and cheer lead you to widen your world rather than shrink it and you. Be aware of your surroundings and home in case your ex-boyfriend escalates. Enjoy the wedding and focus on your best friend's relationship and wedding as maid of honor. Nurse Hatchet says, speaking from experience, There may be a period of time when you're really angry at yourself for dating this guy. You'll overanalyze the past and all the choices you made.

[00:11:30] [SPEAKER_00] And all the time you should have advocated for yourself but quietly went along with his flow instead. Don't. Let all of the anger go. All of it. Angry at yourself, at him, the situation, etc. There's a reason everybody immediately told you to break up. We've all either been in the same situation or watched someone we're close to go through it. It's super common, especially around your age. Don't beat yourself up. Focus on the lessons you've learned in this relationship instead and be glad for them.

[00:11:59] [SPEAKER_00] That wisdom, if remembered and applied, will ensure your relationships get better and better each time. You know more about what you want in a relationship, what you don't, how to speak up and warning signs that should not be ignored. You've already proven you are smart and strong enough to leave a bad relationship. I wish that were more common. Now you have the experience to know when to do it sooner. You're in a much better position to recognize the truly good men from the snakes in the grass.

[00:12:26] [SPEAKER_00] Personally, my shitty relationship set me out to have an amazing one in the future. My husband and I got together a couple of years later and are now about 25 years down the road. He's still my best friend and makes my whole world spin in the best way. But our relationship would have 100% fallen apart from communication issues in the first few months had I not learned those hard lessons earlier. I'm almost grateful for that asshole in the end. Hope you have an amazing time at the wedding. Throw your hands up and dance free girl.

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_00] And now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. And let's move on to another story. Now our next story comes from a throwaway account from the relationship advice subreddit. Bloody hell, get this title.

[00:13:31] [SPEAKER_00] Throwaway account because my brother and a few in real life friends know my username. I've done a terrible, terrible thing. I've made a terrible, terrible mistake. I'm really not looking to be judged here, but I know it's going to come no matter what. I found out the same day about both of them being pregnant. I've been with my girlfriend for two years and her sister and I hooked up around three weeks ago. It only happened once and she told me because she was on birth control.

[00:14:00] [SPEAKER_00] Obviously not. My girlfriend and I have been trying so I know it's mine. Her sister says hers is definitely mine because she hasn't been with anyone else in two months. I convinced my girlfriend to wait to tell people for a couple of weeks and her sister said she's going to wait for me to tell the family. I need to come clean. I need them to both know early on so I can sleep at night. I'm aware I'm going to be hated by their entire family and possibly all of our friends. I'm trying to do the right thing if there even is an option.

[00:14:30] [SPEAKER_00] Any advice is appreciated. There isn't much advice you can really give to a story like that is there apart from just tell everyone you bloody burk. But Triple X says maybe sister told the girlfriend that you slept with her and they planned this fake pregnancy scare to get revenge on you before she dumps you. Or maybe they really are both pregnant and you're fucked. So fucked in fact. You may get pregnant this time.

[00:14:57] [SPEAKER_00] I'm going to just upvote your post to increase visibility for you to get feedback. I don't have any specific feedback other than come clean and deal with it. Exonerated says well for one be honest. Make sure they both know. Your girlfriend will hopefully leave you. Maybe they will both want an abortion. Or you might end up paying child support for both while everyone hates you for the rest of your life. Opie says I know she's going to leave me. I've accepted that and began to prepare silently.

[00:15:26] [SPEAKER_00] How could anyone stay? I don't think either will consider an abortion. But I'm willing to help with the payments or any child support payments. 100% up to them. Lucky Fern says this seems like a they found out about each other and are now trying to out you. Make sure they're both pregnant before telling everyone. Buy the test and have them do it with you there. Plus three weeks? Seems uncommon. Opie says I've seen only my girlfriend's test. I've had this thought as well.

[00:15:55] [SPEAKER_00] But my girlfriend's sister already knew about us. I'm Charm type says what made you sleep with a sister? Opie says temptation. Alcohol was involved but I'm not going to blame it. I'm Charm replies saying where was your girlfriend when this happened? Her sister is aware of you and your girlfriend's relationship, correct? Opie said yes she's aware. I don't remember where she was. I believe she went out with some work friends.

[00:16:18] [SPEAKER_00] So Opie did come back in to update the post after three days and says I debated on whether or not to post this. Since on the original post I was bombarded with hate and threatening PMs including a dox threat. However, a few people gave some really solid and helpful advice. So this update is for them. I posted last Friday afternoon. On Fridays my girlfriend gets off work at 10pm.

[00:16:44] [SPEAKER_00] I told her sister to come over around 9.45pm because we were going to tell her the truth. She agreed and I waited. The anxiety I felt was tremendous but I just kept reminding myself that this was all my fault and nobody else but me made that mistake. When sister didn't arrive by 10, I knew something was up. My suspicions were confirmed when they walked in the house together at 10.15. They sat me down and explained the situation. Sister had come clean to girlfriend.

[00:17:13] [SPEAKER_00] And after a brief quarrel and anger they decided to fuck with me to see how long I would keep the secret for. Props to them because I was completely blindsided. Girlfriend, now ex-girlfriend, was very calm and has sister pack her bag to stay with her. I told her my friends and I would bring her belongings and furniture anywhere they need me to. She told me she didn't want me touching her stuff and she would be moved out when I get home from work on Monday. Tl.dr, neither were pregnant.

[00:17:42] [SPEAKER_00] They found out about me cheating and fuck with me. And single now. Jay says to OP, surprise your ex isn't mad at her sister for fucking you. OP says they were briefly but sibling love is different than romantic love so it's easier to forgive her. A commenter says maybe not cheat next time bud. And another commenter says well good news you saved 40% of your income on two baby mamas. Use a condom. Fandango says justice best served cold.

[00:18:10] [SPEAKER_00] I was just left with my jaw hanging open at the end that the sisters you know just seemed to move on. I'm trying to imagine like one of my brothers in this situation. My brother done that to me. There's no way I'd be forgiven that kind of bullshit. Yeah OP is an absolute shit. But at the same time your own sibling doing that to you? Wild. But what do you guys make of that situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:18:39] [SPEAKER_00] Let's move on to another story. Now our next story comes from non-FGF from the am I the arsehole subreddit. And it says am I the arsehole for comparing girlfriend unfavorably with ex. I 26 male was hanging out with my girlfriend of almost a year. 25 female. The other night at my apartment. We were watching a movie marathon and had ordered some food off Grubhub.

[00:19:04] [SPEAKER_00] After the order arrived I looked in the bag and said damn it they forgot my blue cheese dressing for my wings. It wasn't a huge deal so I just shrugged and said ah well whatever and sat down to eat. My girlfriend said well call them back. Either get them to bring out the blue cheese or get some money off the order. I told her it was just a side of blue cheese and that it really wasn't a big deal. I actually had some blue cheese in my refrigerator anyway.

[00:19:30] [SPEAKER_00] But she insisted that both Grubhub and the restaurant had screwed up and that they needed to make it right. We went back and forth and I finally just said that I wasn't in the mood to go making a big deal out of blue cheese. And that if I didn't care she shouldn't care. She seemed to let it go at that. But maybe an hour later as we were watching our movie she suddenly said. You know I like that you're laid back easygoing sort of guy.

[00:19:55] [SPEAKER_00] My ex always made a huge deal out of everything and used to give anyone serving him a hard time if they didn't make everything perfect. But I do kind of miss the way he'd stand up for himself and me and sometimes I wish you were more that way. For context before we got together we had both recently gotten out of long term multi-year relationships. At first I didn't say much just something like well he's him and I'm me. However her comment bothered me.

[00:20:24] [SPEAKER_00] It seemed really snide and targeted and like she was saying that I was less of a man than her ex. Just because I didn't go throwing a tantrum anytime something didn't go my way. So maybe 15 minutes later. I admit I was stewing. I said you know as long as we're comparing exes I like that you are more down to earth and at ease with yourself than my ex. But sometimes I don't think it's all that cute when you just openly burp and fart in front of me and laugh about it.

[00:20:52] [SPEAKER_00] Or how you never like to dress up and don't like to wear makeup. I do kind of miss her sense of femininity that you don't seem to possess. This comment didn't go over well to say the least. In fact we got into a huge fight and the evening was ruined and we are still going back and forth about it. Admit that my comment was probably kind of passive aggressive but I was just trying to show her how bad it feels to be compared to an ex. Am I the arse on. Now firstly this has made me want to have bloody wings at 10am.

[00:21:22] [SPEAKER_00] And I can't see how this would be anything other than an everyone sucks here in this situation. I know people might go down the road of you know she started it so Opie's just doing it back. But you know if you look at it from the outside these are two people in a relationship. These are two people that are meant to love each other. Support each other and hopefully want to go into their future together right. So her having a dig at his masculinity and him snapping back. It just makes everyone an arsehole in this situation. I mean there's no other way around it right.

[00:21:52] [SPEAKER_00] And the first commenter says everyone sucks here. You both tried to hurt each other over some dip. Commodore says the worst kind of dip too. Another commenter says it's not just dip though. It's blue cheese. Commodore says I have to disagree. She tried to hurt him over dip. He tried to hurt her because she came at him for absolutely no reason and making a deliberately hurtful comment. While comparing him negatively to an ex which has no excuse and is a super low blow.

[00:22:19] [SPEAKER_00] If girlfriend couldn't take it she shouldn't dish it. Not the arsehole. Another commenter says everyone sucks here in honey. There was nothing passive about your aggression. Another commenter says everyone sucks here. It's a really immature way to handle it. Because you know how else you can handle it and say hey it's not cool that you're comparing me to your ex. And it makes me feel like crap. Commenter says everyone sucks here. While she initiated it you went overboard. She only suggested you stand up for yourself and her a little more.

[00:22:48] [SPEAKER_00] You jived at her appearance and bodily functions. Seriously if you're in a relationship and can't fart or burp in front of each other that's either new or just plain odd. You're in the wrong here as much as her. Commenter says everyone sucks here. You insulted each other over blue cheese. I can't imagine what will happen when you have a real disagreement. Oh no. So Opie comes in with an update and says thanks everyone who took the time to comment and also for those of you kind enough to leave awards.

[00:23:17] [SPEAKER_00] To be honest I felt completely justified in what I'd said to my girlfriend when I wrote this. I thought that she was completely out of line and that I was only giving back to her what she had given to me. However reading your comments has made me realize that I still have some growing up to do. I called my girlfriend yesterday and talked to her. I told her I was really sorry about what I'd said to her. I told her that I didn't mean it. That I just felt bad after what she had told me. And that I was trying to make her feel bad in return.

[00:23:43] [SPEAKER_00] I then said but please don't compare me to your ex in order to make a point again. It's really underhanded and it's not something I'm going to put up with. If you don't like something I do or have a problem just talk to me about it. Nothing good will ever come of bringing your ex into the discussion. She actually started crying and then apologized for comparing and said that it was wrong. She admitted that she was trying to shame me into being more assertive and that I really had hurt her with what I came back with.

[00:24:11] [SPEAKER_00] We agreed to some new boundaries and I think hope anyway that we are good for now. Some people have suggested that we're in a rebound situation. Maybe maybe not but I really love her and want things to work out with her. Which is why she had the power to hurt me to the point where I turned into a dumb child. Again thanks everyone and I agreed with your verdict. It would have been interesting to find out how the relationship went a bit further down the road. But unfortunately we didn't get that.

[00:24:41] [SPEAKER_00] But you know because the update was it was good up to a point for me. It was like oh great they're communicating to wait what. But when she said that I was trying to shame you into being more assertive. Because that's a fucking wild thing to admit out loud. It's not reactionary. That's a planned thing to say. Which for me is like oh. But I guess in some ways at the same time at least she admitted it. What do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:25:11] [SPEAKER_00] And let's move on to another story. Reading about those wings though my stomach is actually gurgling right now. Although that might be the IBS to be fair. But our next story is from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit from VividEyes13. I just saw this title and I was intrigued. So I thought let's get involved. It says Am I the Arsehole for rejecting my mother-in-law's challenge. And giving her instructions to learn how to knit. Just like the randomest title I've seen yet.

[00:25:41] [SPEAKER_00] I've seen for a while. It says I'm a knitter and enjoy making all kinds of things. But for the most part I knit things for me or my husband. I don't have the heart to buy nice yarn. A pattern and put hours into making something for someone. Just to watch it be treated like crap. I have no say over what others do with the things I give them. So I just don't. My mother-in-law said I have a challenge for you. If you're up to it. She pointed at a picture on her phone.

[00:26:10] [SPEAKER_00] And said that the challenge was for me to make her a Sophie scarf. That would match a dress. I asked her why is she framing it as a challenge. When it's just her asking me to knit something for her. She didn't have an answer. And just said if I'm up to the challenge. I can give it a try. I asked my husband what I should do. He said to just flat out tell her no. But I figured it'd be nice to at least meet her halfway. I asked her to send me a picture of the dress.

[00:26:37] [SPEAKER_00] And went to my yarn store to get yarn in a color I thought would be good. And a pair of needles for my own stash. I got her a learn to knit book. The next time I saw her I gave it all to her and said. Here is all the stuff she would need to make her Sophie scarf. Except the pattern she'd need to buy herself. She looked at it like what the heck. And said in this pity voice. Oh you couldn't figure it out. I said nope. I've made myself a few. But I thought it'd be better for her to learn how to knit.

[00:27:06] [SPEAKER_00] And she'd be able to challenge herself. She frowned at it. But didn't say anything else to me. And just set the yarn aside. She did however go to my husband and tell him that. All she had done was give me a challenge. But I hadn't even tried. He heard her out. But told her it was ultimately up to me. I've unfortunately seen her post on Facebook about how she doesn't get my generation. And why we have to make everything so difficult. I thought this would be an interesting question to pose to you all. So. Am I.

[00:27:36] [SPEAKER_00] The arsehole. First come when I say not the arsehole. I'm an experienced knitter. If I recall correctly. A Sophie scarf is like a first project beginner level scarf. So it wasn't like asking her to make a super intricate textured project. That said. My olive branch would have been. I don't knit for other people. But I'd be happy to teach you. Professional says. I'm saying you're the arsehole. Only because you dealt with this in an unnecessarily passive aggressive way. If this is a frequent thing she does.

[00:28:05] [SPEAKER_00] That would change my verdict. But otherwise. Just say no. Jenny from the block says you're the arsehole. This was so completely unnecessary and passive aggressively rude. You could have just said no. No is a full sentence. Just say you don't want to do it. But instead you got in your car. Drove to a store. Shopped all around. Bought a bunch of stuff. And gave it to your mother-in-law. As if it was some kind of gift. But all you had to say was no. You weren't being nice. So stop pretending. Even if your mother-in-law was also indirect about her request.

[00:28:35] [SPEAKER_00] And even if she is always asking you to do things you don't want to do. You were the arsehole here. You're humble. Says everyone sucks here. Except your husband. Mother-in-law played a stupid game. And won a stupid prize. You both were being passive aggressive. Your husband was right. You should have just said no. Or at most. Have turned it around on her right then and there. When she said it. And said I decline your challenge. And challenge you to learn how to knit instead. Gave her a wink. And went on your merry way. I would say you're more of a justified arsehole.

[00:29:05] [SPEAKER_00] Since she has asked more than once. And she knows you do not craft for others. But you went pretty far out of your way for the bit. And Chef Soda says not the arsehole. This is like someone challenging you to clean out their garage. She wants something and is trying to set up the situation. So your success is based on her getting what she wants. This is often successful in getting four-year-olds to clean. But not something adults should be trying. And the comments were literally all over the place. And there's everyone sucks here. Not the arseholes. You're the arseholes. For all different sorts of reasons.

[00:29:35] [SPEAKER_00] I was reading it. The way it's worded. It kind of gave me like. There's been some past drama here right. It seems odd the way that they're treating each other. But obviously I don't know that. But and for me it felt like an everyone sucks here. Simply because mother-in-law's challenge. Like one of the commenters saying. It did feel manipulative. Like saying oh I challenge you to do this. Just to get what you want etc. Of course there's the chance. She was just being playful. And it landed weird. But the part where it came in. If you're up to it.

[00:30:03] [SPEAKER_00] It feels a bit condescending. So you know. I feel like mother-in-law is being a bit manipulative with that. OP's response. Definitely passive aggressive. Here learn yourself. Felt like we were crossing into like malicious compliance territory. So simply mother-in-law for the weird challenge power play thing. And OP for being snarky over just saying no. But for me in the end. I definitely feel like there's more behind this story. But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:30:34] [SPEAKER_00] Not the arsehole. You're the arsehole. Everyone sucks here. There's a whole bunch of each on there. So let us know your verdict down below. And just a huge thank you for being here today. Getting involved in the stories. Your love. Your support. Your time. It always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so so much for being here today. And hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care. And much love.