Mother-In-Law Stole And Sold My Vintage Skeleton Keys r/Relationships

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[00:00:17] [SPEAKER_00]: story.

[00:00:19] [SPEAKER_00]: As always, I was lurking our own subreddit r slash mark narrations by the way when

[00:00:24] [SPEAKER_00]: I came across user general programmer 5 who says, hey Mark, remember the story when

[00:00:30] [SPEAKER_00]: an entitled Mother-In-Law stole OP Skeleton Keys? The latest update is absolutely wild.

[00:00:38] [SPEAKER_00]: And I was like what? So I thought we gotta get back involved in that as always, I'm gonna

[00:00:42] [SPEAKER_00]: read the original parts of the story then the new update as well so if you want to skip

[00:00:46] [SPEAKER_00]: certain parts of the story, as time sounds are always gonna be down in the description

[00:00:49] [SPEAKER_00]: and along the timeline below, thank you. This is from My Keys With Stolen and the

[00:01:00] [SPEAKER_00]: name of my collection of vintage skeleton keys to buy a new phone. This is somewhat urgent.

[00:01:07] [SPEAKER_00]: My Mother-In-Law is insanely entitled and my wife's enabling of her has made our marriage

[00:01:12] [SPEAKER_00]: very hard at times. Mother-In-Law has come to us for money many times because she keeps

[00:01:17] [SPEAKER_00]: spending herself into a hole because she's a hoarder. Recently she came to us wanting

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_00]: me specifically to buy her a new smartphone and she threw a massive fit when I refused.

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_00]: I had quite a collection of vintage skeleton keys and I mean good ones like ones to particular

[00:01:34] [SPEAKER_00]: hotels, the large ornate sergeants, brass railroad keys etc. My collection as a whole should

[00:01:40] [SPEAKER_00]: have easily been worth $2,000 to $3,000. I kept them in a locked display cabinet but

[00:01:46] [SPEAKER_00]: yesterday I came home to find my entire collection gone. The cabinet had been forced open.

[00:01:52] [SPEAKER_00]: I checked the CCTV for the living room and saw my Mother-In-Law force the cabinet with a small

[00:01:57] [SPEAKER_00]: crowbar. I called my Mother-In-Law and demanded she return my entire collection. She non-chalantly

[00:02:03] [SPEAKER_00]: told me she sold the entire collection at porn already and used the money for her new phone.

[00:02:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Then said it was my fault and she had to do it because I wouldn't give her the money.

[00:02:14] [SPEAKER_00]: My wife was seemingly on my side until I said I was going to call the police.

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Now she's begging me to just drop it and even suggested I just start a new collection.

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of those keys are irreplaceable and I spent 10 years building that collection.

[00:02:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Mother-In-Law has been in trouble in the past but this is the first time I know

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_00]: that she has stolen from us. I need help. Would I be the asshole if I went to the police?

[00:02:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Edit, it hasn't even been an hour and this has already been made pretty clear to me.

[00:02:45] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm calling the police. My wife is at work right now so she's not here to object.

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Update, text Mother-In-Law and goaded her into admitting everything she did,

[00:02:55] [SPEAKER_00]: which porn shops she went to and how much she sold my collection for. So now I've got plenty of

[00:03:00] [SPEAKER_00]: evidence. We'll update again on a separate post on my profile later.

[00:03:05] [SPEAKER_00]: Couple of the top comments just to give you a gist. Barron says you would be the

[00:03:08] [SPEAKER_00]: asshole if you didn't report her. I would seriously consider sending your wife to live

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_00]: with Mother-In-Law as she's basically enabling her. Opie says I love my wife and there have been

[00:03:19] [SPEAKER_00]: days where I considered saying something like that to her but somehow we've always managed

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_00]: to work things out till now. That collection was my pride and joy. Celtic Musebook says

[00:03:29] [SPEAKER_00]: this is the tipping point. The police should be able to get your collection back if you know

[00:03:33] [SPEAKER_00]: the porn shop. Present the idea that getting your collection back is the only thing that

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_00]: will keep her out of jail and make it clear that if you get most of your property back

[00:03:41] [SPEAKER_00]: and don't press charges your Mother-In-Law can never enter your home again under any circumstances.

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_00]: And the first time reading this that was my exact same thoughts that your wife is enabling

[00:03:51] [SPEAKER_00]: this behavior you need to press charges to get your collection back otherwise you're never

[00:03:55] [SPEAKER_00]: going to see it again but yeah always press charges. Opie came in with an update and says

[00:04:00] [SPEAKER_00]: my wife bailed out her mother with our shared money. She says this is just a small update.

[00:04:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I plan on a big one in roughly a week but I'm taking some time off work locking

[00:04:10] [SPEAKER_00]: down my credit and I've got an appointment for consultation with a divorce lawyer tomorrow.

[00:04:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm honestly surprised I got one this soon. No, I don't have the keys back yet.

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Police still have them but they'll be returned soon. I think they have enough to go through it all

[00:04:24] [SPEAKER_00]: and compare it to the documentation I provided. But my wife and I had a big fight because she

[00:04:29] [SPEAKER_00]: took the money to bail out her mother and pay off the porn shop from our joint bank account.

[00:04:33] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm removing any money I have in that account tomorrow. My wife can have what's left. That

[00:04:38] [SPEAKER_00]: was all hers. I haven't been sleeping well and the stress has given me migraines but I'm determined

[00:04:43] [SPEAKER_00]: to power through this. Main chocolate says your wife did you a tremendous favor. She exposed herself

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_00]: for the person she truly is. Consider yourself one lucky man to discover this relatively early in

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_00]: the relationship. The mother-in-law and her enabler will continue down this path but luckily

[00:05:01] [SPEAKER_00]: their actions will soon have zero effect on you. Sit back and watch the shit show their

[00:05:06] [SPEAKER_00]: lives become. Opie says I'd like to sit back but doing that won't give me a divorce. I relax and

[00:05:13] [SPEAKER_00]: enjoy the show once I've got things set in motion. Opie then says I got my key collection back from

[00:05:18] [SPEAKER_00]: the police and I try to post pictures of some of them and then shares a few pictures.

[00:05:23] [SPEAKER_00]: And as keys go there's some pretty fancy looking keys that has to be said.

[00:05:27] [SPEAKER_00]: Bookworm said on the back of that said great news. Did you get the bail money back

[00:05:32] [SPEAKER_00]: and change the locks? Did the divorce lawyer suggest anything regarding your home?

[00:05:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie says yeah I got the bail money back by removing everything I had in the joint account

[00:05:40] [SPEAKER_00]: so technically my wife has paid it out of her half and not realized it yet.

[00:05:45] [SPEAKER_00]: And yes I did change the locks. Bookworm responded to Opie and said good

[00:05:50] [SPEAKER_00]: she would have a fit when she finds out. I'm sure you realize that. You have a garage.

[00:05:55] [SPEAKER_00]: If so maybe you can pack up her belongings and put them there so you don't have to

[00:05:58] [SPEAKER_00]: let her in the house again or a front porch. Unity Bittford says how are things going? Is

[00:06:04] [SPEAKER_00]: your mother-in-law being charged with theft? Opie says as far as I know yes she was only bailed out

[00:06:10] [SPEAKER_00]: she'll eventually have to go to court. The Opie came in with her next update and says

[00:06:16] [SPEAKER_00]: this was originally supposed to just be a normal update however my original post was removed

[00:06:21] [SPEAKER_00]: and I provided a little updates before. Some posts in a big update that's also

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_00]: a bit of a compilation. I also had a character limit before but I can provide more detail now

[00:06:30] [SPEAKER_00]: though this got way longer than expected. I apologize for that. My mother-in-law is insanely

[00:06:36] [SPEAKER_00]: entitled and my wife's enabling of her has made our marriage very hard at times.

[00:06:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Mother-in-law has come to us for money a lot because she keeps spending herself into a hole

[00:06:46] [SPEAKER_00]: since she's a hoarder and a shopaholic. A house is full of garbage, junk and unopened

[00:06:51] [SPEAKER_00]: stuff she never uses. A house is rodent infested too. She has one semi-clean room in the whole

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_00]: building and it's the master bedroom. She's mocked it up to her like a little studio apartment

[00:07:02] [SPEAKER_00]: with a futon to sleep on and uses as a couch. An entertainment center with TV and streaming

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_00]: and a makeshift kitchen consisting of the adjoining bathroom, a mini fridge and a microwave.

[00:07:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Mother-in-law is also overweight because she eats out a lot. Recently Mother-in-law came

[00:07:18] [SPEAKER_00]: to us wanting me specifically to buy her a new smartphone as an unprompted gift

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_00]: and she threw a massive fit when I refused and I mean a child temper tantrum kind of fit.

[00:07:29] [SPEAKER_00]: Why did she want a new phone so suddenly? Hers was two years old that's literally it.

[00:07:34] [SPEAKER_00]: As far as I know it still worked fine even my wife has confirmed this

[00:07:38] [SPEAKER_00]: but my mother-in-law was resolute that she deserved a new phone

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_00]: and before leaving Mother-in-law yelled at us that we're supposed to be pampering her now

[00:07:46] [SPEAKER_00]: she's an old woman. She's 53. My wife also didn't want to buy a mother the phone because

[00:07:52] [SPEAKER_00]: she gave her money not long before to make sure her bills were paid.

[00:07:56] [SPEAKER_00]: I have quite a collection of vintage skeleton keys and I mean good ones like once a particular

[00:08:01] [SPEAKER_00]: hotel, the large ornate sergeants brass railroad keys, reading or reading hardware etc.

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_00]: My collection as a whole should easily be worth two to three thousand dollars.

[00:08:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Some of those keys are super rare. I kept them in a locked display cabinet but a few

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_00]: days ago I came home to find my entire collection gone. The cabinet had been forced open.

[00:08:20] [SPEAKER_00]: I checked the CCTV for the living room and saw my mother-in-law force open the cabinet with a small

[00:08:24] [SPEAKER_00]: crowbar. She then put all the keys in a couple of boxes she brought with her and left with them.

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_00]: I called Mother-in-law right away and demanded she return my collection.

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_00]: She nonchalantly told me that she sold the entire collection at porn already

[00:08:37] [SPEAKER_00]: and used the money for a new phone. Then said it was my fault and she had to do it

[00:08:41] [SPEAKER_00]: because I wouldn't give her the money. My wife was seemingly on my side until I said

[00:08:45] [SPEAKER_00]: I was going to call the police. She begged me to just drop it and even suggested I start a new

[00:08:49] [SPEAKER_00]: collection. I refused to let it go because a lot of the keys are also not only expensive,

[00:08:55] [SPEAKER_00]: they're irreplaceable. I spent ten years building that collection but my wife kept

[00:08:59] [SPEAKER_00]: blowing up at me then telling me to just let it go. So I slept in the guest room that night

[00:09:04] [SPEAKER_00]: and sought online help the next day and my best friend told me to try reddit.

[00:09:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I'd been a lurker before but making an account wasn't hard. My mother-in-law has been in trouble

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_00]: in the past but this was the first time I know of that she had stolen from us. I needed help so I

[00:09:19] [SPEAKER_00]: asked here. The resounding advice finally made me pull my head out of my bum to realise I was the

[00:09:24] [SPEAKER_00]: only one keeping my marriage afloat. I would likely never get better if my wife wasn't on my side

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_00]: when her own mother steals something irreplaceable from me. Now to answer some quick questions I

[00:09:35] [SPEAKER_00]: got before. 1. How did mother-in-law get into the house?

[00:09:40] [SPEAKER_00]: My wife unilaterally gave her a key when we moved in, that's why.

[00:09:43] [SPEAKER_00]: 2. Why did I have CCTV cameras in the living room?

[00:09:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Really? Wouldn't you do that if you had something valuable on display there?

[00:09:51] [SPEAKER_00]: 3. Is mother-in-law on drugs? No idea, she's always been crazy.

[00:09:57] [SPEAKER_00]: 4. Did mother-in-law steal from us before? Not that I've been able to tell,

[00:10:01] [SPEAKER_00]: I've checked everything I could think of. 5. What kind of phone did mother-in-law get?

[00:10:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Not a clue but probably one of the cheaper smartphones with the amount of money she got

[00:10:10] [SPEAKER_00]: for selling my stuff, unless she's on a payment plan. 6. Did my wife use my money to placate

[00:10:17] [SPEAKER_00]: her mother before? Yes she did. We primarily have separate accounts but we do have a joint

[00:10:22] [SPEAKER_00]: account we pay the bills with so it's not used for savings. In two years of marriage I'd

[00:10:27] [SPEAKER_00]: say it happened roughly five times. Every time my wife took money from the joint account for her

[00:10:32] [SPEAKER_00]: mother, she'd always replace it on her next payday. Though in hindsight, she only did so because she

[00:10:37] [SPEAKER_00]: knew I'd never let it go. Because she would always have an attitude with me a few days after.

[00:10:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Wasn't a bad marriage fog before, that this whole situation has snapped me right out of it.

[00:10:47] [SPEAKER_00]: 7. Will I lock down my credit? I already have, though I'm not sure my wife or

[00:10:52] [SPEAKER_00]: her mother would be so stupid to do something like that after mother-in-law was recently arrested.

[00:10:57] [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, jumping in here I wouldn't be surprised if she did. I mean, she went into your house with

[00:11:01] [SPEAKER_00]: a crowbar and stole keys out of your home with the entitled attitude that she deserves to do this

[00:11:07] [SPEAKER_00]: kind of thing. I mean, that's crazy arse behaviour in itself. But, I hope you continue saying

[00:11:11] [SPEAKER_00]: back to what happened that day. Please did come and take my statement a bit over an hour after

[00:11:16] [SPEAKER_00]: I called the non-emergency line. Add video footage in the documentation of my collection ready

[00:11:21] [SPEAKER_00]: and there were some texts I went out of my way to get from mother-in-law to bait her into a

[00:11:25] [SPEAKER_00]: confession. I wanted as much evidence as possible so she couldn't lie to police. When I texted her

[00:11:31] [SPEAKER_00]: demanding she get my collection back, she actually lulled and told me not a chance. And even boasted

[00:11:37] [SPEAKER_00]: that she thought I was a pathetic son-in-law and my key collection was tacky anyway. I thought

[00:11:43] [SPEAKER_00]: I'd at least tell me what pawn shops she sold the keys to so I could go buy them back and how

[00:11:47] [SPEAKER_00]: much they paid her for them. And then Dimwit admitted it all right away with glee and text.

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Add everything I needed for the police before they even showed up.

[00:11:56] [SPEAKER_00]: The cops took the whole matter more seriously than I thought. I was worried they'd call it a civil

[00:12:01] [SPEAKER_00]: matter since her thief was my mother-in-law and she had the key to the house. But they arrested

[00:12:06] [SPEAKER_00]: mother-in-law before long and police went to the pawn shop before it closed to retrieve my

[00:12:10] [SPEAKER_00]: collection. I got it all back from the police after a couple of days. And for the moment

[00:12:14] [SPEAKER_00]: I put the collection in a safe secure place that no one could get to. The pawn shop pretty

[00:12:19] [SPEAKER_00]: much gave up the entire collection to the police right away like it was a bag of hot potatoes.

[00:12:25] [SPEAKER_00]: So I screwed nice every important key brought back as far as I can tell it's all there.

[00:12:30] [SPEAKER_00]: There was a huge sigh of relief. I took time off work and barely slept for two days because

[00:12:35] [SPEAKER_00]: of this ordeal. Also the cabinet mother-in-law broke into is pretty much a loss since she

[00:12:40] [SPEAKER_00]: mangled the lock and the doors rang it open. Thankfully it wasn't an antique and just

[00:12:45] [SPEAKER_00]: something I got used for $50. I'm just going to take it to the dump sooner or later.

[00:12:50] [SPEAKER_00]: From her text before I found that mother-in-law sold the whole collection to the pawn shop for a

[00:12:54] [SPEAKER_00]: whopping total of $300. For a collection of hundreds of antique keys valued at 2-3 grand in total,

[00:13:01] [SPEAKER_00]: that low number felt like a punch in the gut to me. Likely the pawnbroker knew how valuable

[00:13:06] [SPEAKER_00]: a collection could be as a whole. I mean it's not like hitting a jackpot or anything but money

[00:13:10] [SPEAKER_00]: is still money. Especially when a dumb little lady walks in with a box of goodies.

[00:13:15] [SPEAKER_00]: Anyone else here Mr. Krabs laughing? Spongebob my boy.

[00:13:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Anyway the cost of repayments to the shop was supposed to be on mother-in-law but my wife

[00:13:27] [SPEAKER_00]: paid them back out of our joint account instead. From what the shop owner said,

[00:13:32] [SPEAKER_00]: mother-in-law told him the key collection belonged to her deceased husband and she

[00:13:35] [SPEAKER_00]: was sick of the whole collection sitting in storage so they believed her. But just to

[00:13:39] [SPEAKER_00]: be clear, she's not a widow. Her husband divorced her and left the state around 15 years ago.

[00:13:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Mother-in-law lives off social security and food stamps. She also holds garage sales every few months

[00:13:51] [SPEAKER_00]: and she often demanded our soda and beer cans so she could get the deposit money recycling them.

[00:13:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Mother-in-law doesn't drive. She gets around on an electric scooter that tows a bicycle

[00:14:01] [SPEAKER_00]: trader. Gives in a long paid off house and she would not be having money troubles if she

[00:14:05] [SPEAKER_00]: wasn't overspending every month. She always counts on my wife to pick up the slack when she comes up

[00:14:10] [SPEAKER_00]: short. My wife and I got into a huge fight when she got home because I had her mother arrested

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_00]: but I told her I'm done with her enabling of a toxic mother. I said I was changing the

[00:14:21] [SPEAKER_00]: locks ASAP and banning her mother from the house and also I said we either got marriage

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_00]: counseling or I'd be inquiring about my options for separation from an attorney.

[00:14:30] [SPEAKER_00]: I thought my wife would beg me not to do that but instead she just called me horrible.

[00:14:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Hacked the suitcase and walked out to go to a motel. I just sat on the couch and let her go.

[00:14:40] [SPEAKER_00]: She repeatedly looked like she was waiting for me to ask her to stay but I didn't. In the morning

[00:14:44] [SPEAKER_00]: she texted me she'd be bailing her mother out and wanted me to transfer the money to pay for

[00:14:49] [SPEAKER_00]: it since I was the one who got her mother arrested. When I said no all I got back was

[00:14:53] [SPEAKER_00]: a sarcastic. Wow and that was it. Not too long later I had a gut feeling and checked

[00:14:59] [SPEAKER_00]: bank account and my wife had taken out a lot of money. I wasn't sure if all that was needed for

[00:15:05] [SPEAKER_00]: bail so I called the pawn shop later. He only confirmed my wife had come in and paid him

[00:15:10] [SPEAKER_00]: back the 300 dollars that he'd paid her mother for the keys. He was also quite angry and said

[00:15:15] [SPEAKER_00]: he didn't want any of us in his shop ever again. I understood his anger and weirdly enough

[00:15:20] [SPEAKER_00]: had a fairly long talk with this guy and he understood I'm not part of the crazy.

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_00]: I tried to call and text my wife for hours but she didn't answer. That evening I managed to find

[00:15:30] [SPEAKER_00]: her. I knew which motel she'd likely go to and I was right. It was both cheap and not far away.

[00:15:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I found her car and then figured out which room she was in. She looked positively shocked to

[00:15:40] [SPEAKER_00]: see me when she opened the door. I confronted her about the money she used from our shared

[00:15:44] [SPEAKER_00]: account. She basically said that since I refused to pay her mother's bail after I was the one

[00:15:49] [SPEAKER_00]: who had her arrested she got the money from me another way. Then smugly stated she wasn't paying

[00:15:55] [SPEAKER_00]: that money back into the shared account this time and told me that's the calmer I get before

[00:15:59] [SPEAKER_00]: shutting the door in my face. Then said through the door she'd call the cops on me if I didn't

[00:16:04] [SPEAKER_00]: leave. The smug look she'd given me reminded me of the nasty teenage girls when they'd get

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_00]: their way. It really ticked me off. I already knew my marriage was pretty much over but that

[00:16:15] [SPEAKER_00]: night it really sank in. Had a long sit down with some old video games and cola to think about

[00:16:20] [SPEAKER_00]: my future. The house is rented so I'm not renewing my half of the lease and will soon be apartment

[00:16:25] [SPEAKER_00]: hunting. Last month the lease was in March but I may leave sooner depending on how soon I can

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_00]: find an apartment. We have no kids yet thank god that's another thing I currently have in

[00:16:36] [SPEAKER_00]: my favor. The next day I changed the locks on the house and removed all of my money from

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_00]: the joint bank account and stopped all automated payments to and from it. I made sure to take

[00:16:45] [SPEAKER_00]: only the amount of money I'd put into the account but still more than enough in it for me to break

[00:16:50] [SPEAKER_00]: even and still leave the minimum required balance on the account. Either way the cost of mother

[00:16:55] [SPEAKER_00]: and laws bail and paying back the pawn shop was now entirely out of my wife's pocket now

[00:17:00] [SPEAKER_00]: and I don't think she's noticed yet but it shouldn't be long. I've been to a couple

[00:17:05] [SPEAKER_00]: different divorce lawyers already and I picked the second one since the first seemed like they

[00:17:09] [SPEAKER_00]: were only there for a paycheck. I'll have the divorce papers served soon. I love my wife but

[00:17:14] [SPEAKER_00]: it's clear she didn't love me but can't stay with her anymore. She can have a thieving hoarder mummy

[00:17:20] [SPEAKER_00]: all to herself now. We both have very comparable incomes so I'll be pushing for a clean split

[00:17:25] [SPEAKER_00]: divorce. This woman didn't deserve me and I fell for her act. She didn't want a husband,

[00:17:31] [SPEAKER_00]: she wanted an insurance plan. I'll pursue any charges still possible against her mother.

[00:17:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll update again when more happens but I'll be clear on this. I won't be changing my mind.

[00:17:41] [SPEAKER_00]: I assume to be ex-wife can beg and love by more she wants if she even bothers to.

[00:17:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I've never been her number one and I'm not going to settle for being number two in my own marriage.

[00:17:51] [SPEAKER_00]: It is over. A comment has said,

[00:17:55] [SPEAKER_00]: what did you have to do to get your keys back? Opus says police returned them to me

[00:17:59] [SPEAKER_00]: at the station after a couple of days. Another comment has said I'm so sorry

[00:18:03] [SPEAKER_00]: for having justified it still hurts. Opus says I've become numb to the pain now

[00:18:07] [SPEAKER_00]: but it was bad when it hit. Opus came in with one more update which was titled

[00:18:13] [SPEAKER_00]: my key stealing crazy mother-in-law passed away and it's kind of my fault.

[00:18:18] [SPEAKER_00]: I've decided I will no longer be referring to my soon to be ex-wife as wifey even that feels

[00:18:23] [SPEAKER_00]: wrong now. I'll just be saying STB EXW soon to be ex-wife instead. A few months ago I

[00:18:30] [SPEAKER_00]: anonymously reported my mother-in-law as a serious hoarder. Someone here commented I should report

[00:18:35] [SPEAKER_00]: my mother-in-law's hoarding to the fire marshal and at the time I decided to do it because I was angry

[00:18:40] [SPEAKER_00]: and wanted to get back at her for stealing my collection from me and making my life hell.

[00:18:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Mother-in-law had been building a hoard in her house since my wife was a teenager.

[00:18:50] [SPEAKER_00]: The house was filled nearly to the brim with rotten garbage and was rodent infested.

[00:18:54] [SPEAKER_00]: I've actually seen rats there. I made a call to the city from a number I googled.

[00:18:59] [SPEAKER_00]: At first I felt nothing came of it as weeks went by. I guess someone looked into it because

[00:19:04] [SPEAKER_00]: mother-in-law's house was given an inspection. The house was found to be in even worse shape than

[00:19:09] [SPEAKER_00]: I thought. It was not only a serious fire hazard to itself and everything around it

[00:19:13] [SPEAKER_00]: and rodent infested but also some exposed electrical wires, a roof leak that's gone

[00:19:19] [SPEAKER_00]: unfixed for years that caused bad rock damage and black mould. The outside of the house

[00:19:24] [SPEAKER_00]: didn't look that bad and it was in a neighbourhood full of old houses that looked similar which is

[00:19:29] [SPEAKER_00]: likely why no one reported it till I did. My soon to be ex-wife figured out it was me who reported

[00:19:34] [SPEAKER_00]: her mother. What with the timing and all? She came home and ranted to me about all the things

[00:19:39] [SPEAKER_00]: her mother told her at the inspector found and how her mother was likely to lose her house now.

[00:19:44] [SPEAKER_00]: There was only a matter of time before something like that happened. If I didn't report her

[00:19:48] [SPEAKER_00]: someone else eventually would have. Soon to be ex screamed at me that I was a horrible deceitful person.

[00:19:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked her if she wanted to be the pot or the kettle and reminded her of all the reasons why we

[00:20:01] [SPEAKER_00]: were separating. I ended up losing my call and ranted at her saying that our enabling

[00:20:05] [SPEAKER_00]: mother caused this. Her acting like her mother stealing my irreplaceable skeleton key collection

[00:20:10] [SPEAKER_00]: I spent a decade building wasn't important caused this. And her selfish unilateral decision

[00:20:15] [SPEAKER_00]: and bratty behaviour ever since we got married caused this.

[00:20:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Couples are supposed to make decisions together instead she just kept making

[00:20:22] [SPEAKER_00]: them for the both of us without even asking my input. But I made a unilateral decision on

[00:20:27] [SPEAKER_00]: my own for once and reported her mother's hoarding which needed to be reported anyway because

[00:20:32] [SPEAKER_00]: it is a danger to her and the people around her. I told soon to be ex-wife I was

[00:20:37] [SPEAKER_00]: long sick of just sucking it all up all the time and just letting things pass while

[00:20:41] [SPEAKER_00]: they acted like I was the bad guy and walked all over me. Her mother would get nothing more from me

[00:20:46] [SPEAKER_00]: and maybe she wouldn't be as crazy once she no longer lived in a house filled with fumes of rotten

[00:20:51] [SPEAKER_00]: garbage, rodent excrement and black freaking mould. Soon to be ex-wife just walked away

[00:20:57] [SPEAKER_00]: sniffling and cursing me. Yeah I know I went too far. I've been reduced to just being as petty

[00:21:03] [SPEAKER_00]: as her. I made that call because I was angry but I had no choice but to stand by that decision

[00:21:07] [SPEAKER_00]: after I'd done it. Mother-in-law ended up demanding my soon to be ex foot the cost of

[00:21:12] [SPEAKER_00]: cleaning and restoring the house but she couldn't afford it. From what I heard mother-in-law went

[00:21:17] [SPEAKER_00]: off on her with her demands and told her to get the money any way she could. Even demanding

[00:21:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I paid for it since I was the one who reported the house. She even said to sue me but soon

[00:21:27] [SPEAKER_00]: to be ex-wife told her it wouldn't work. The house was in exceedingly poor shape,

[00:21:32] [SPEAKER_00]: rotten garbage, exposed wires, roof leaks, rotten black mould, no one should be living like

[00:21:37] [SPEAKER_00]: that. When soon to be ex-wife tried to tell her mother she couldn't afford to pay for the house to

[00:21:41] [SPEAKER_00]: be cleaned and renovated, the mother actually attacked her like a wild animal. She hid and

[00:21:47] [SPEAKER_00]: scratched her multiple times and tried to pull her hair out. That's when it happened. Mother-in-law

[00:21:51] [SPEAKER_00]: had a heart attack on the spot. Going ape on her daughter must have triggered it. Soon to be ex

[00:21:56] [SPEAKER_00]: called 911 were looking for aspirin in the house but by the time help had arrived

[00:22:01] [SPEAKER_00]: the mother had expired. Soon to be ex-wife came home with a police officer in tow for

[00:22:06] [SPEAKER_00]: some reason and was absolutely mad screaming at me about what just happened to her mother.

[00:22:11] [SPEAKER_00]: She said it was all my fault and in all of her ranting I found out her mother had a weak heart.

[00:22:17] [SPEAKER_00]: That's the real reason why she was on disability. The officer had to separate soon

[00:22:21] [SPEAKER_00]: to be ex-wife from me and she fell onto the couch sobbing. I hated mother-in-law with a passion

[00:22:26] [SPEAKER_00]: but I wasn't trying to end her life. I still feel great guilt over this.

[00:22:30] [SPEAKER_00]: From what the police officer said and from what my soon to be ex-wife said,

[00:22:34] [SPEAKER_00]: I pieced together the story and later typed it out. I just couldn't bring myself to post it.

[00:22:39] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm still wracked with guilt but had to take a serious break from Reddit.

[00:22:43] [SPEAKER_00]: At evening when I found out my mother-in-law had passed away, soon to be ex-wife managed

[00:22:47] [SPEAKER_00]: to calm down long enough to speak to the police officer more clearly about what happened

[00:22:51] [SPEAKER_00]: but she also kept shifting between blaming herself and blaming me.

[00:22:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked her from across the room why I was never told about her mother's heart condition

[00:22:59] [SPEAKER_00]: and she yelled it was none of my damn business. It explains why mother-in-law used her dramatically

[00:23:04] [SPEAKER_00]: put a hand on her chest and cried so many times when she wasn't getting her way. I soon to be

[00:23:09] [SPEAKER_00]: ex-wife ended up going crazy in the bathroom she had been using since we started sleeping separately.

[00:23:14] [SPEAKER_00]: She asked the police officer for a moment to herself then just went crazy after shutting

[00:23:18] [SPEAKER_00]: the door. She came out after a few minutes later looking angry but calm and told me I was

[00:23:24] [SPEAKER_00]: cleaning that mess up. She packed their bags again and left the house for the motel once more

[00:23:29] [SPEAKER_00]: and told me she wouldn't be coming back unless it was to get her stuff.

[00:23:33] [SPEAKER_00]: I was so guilt ridden that I was hardly able to function for days back then and had to

[00:23:37] [SPEAKER_00]: take a break from work because of the stress migraines. I basically spent three days on the couch

[00:23:42] [SPEAKER_00]: hopped up on meds but after I got my arse in gear again my friends all tell me it wasn't my fault.

[00:23:48] [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't know and mother-in-law was crazy either way what's done is done

[00:23:52] [SPEAKER_00]: and I have to live with it. Sadly there's more that's happened which I'll be telling in another

[00:23:55] [SPEAKER_00]: post. Edits I came back to find over 200 comments in my inbox and I want to thank everyone for the

[00:24:01] [SPEAKER_00]: support I've been given. It's too much for me to reply to all so I'll respond from here.

[00:24:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Did I move into that apartment in March? Yes I did. Events of this post happen before

[00:24:11] [SPEAKER_00]: that move. Is this post fake? I wish it was but this is the crap I've dealt with. Am I

[00:24:17] [SPEAKER_00]: therapy? Yes I am. Only for about a month now but it's helping. Very few were against me in the

[00:24:23] [SPEAKER_00]: comments but I don't blame those that were. Yeah mother-in-law's heart condition was

[00:24:27] [SPEAKER_00]: unknown to me and I set things in motion by calling the fire marshal. I understand hoarding

[00:24:32] [SPEAKER_00]: is a bad mental disorder. I'm guilty for that. I'm not made of stone but at the same time

[00:24:37] [SPEAKER_00]: my mother-in-law was a narcissist who loved walking all over me and anyone else. Even

[00:24:42] [SPEAKER_00]: her own daughter. Yes I understand it's a scary thing to lose one's home but if you don't

[00:24:47] [SPEAKER_00]: treat your home as a home and let it be turned into a moldy infested den then you've let your home

[00:24:52] [SPEAKER_00]: down. You're only able to live in one room of it because the rest was so bad. About a week ago

[00:24:58] [SPEAKER_00]: I drove by the property and saw mother-in-law's house had been torn down. There's nothing but

[00:25:03] [SPEAKER_00]: an empty lot now. Yes it was deemed as an unsavageable biohazard. And then OP came in

[00:25:10] [SPEAKER_00]: with another update. I actually recorded this episode a couple of days ago and an OP came

[00:25:15] [SPEAKER_00]: out with some new updates at the same time. So this update was called my soon-to-be ex-wife

[00:25:20] [SPEAKER_00]: tried to defame me and it backfired badly. A lot of people kept telling me to not divorce that my

[00:25:27] [SPEAKER_00]: wife loved me etc. Bill couldn't have been more wrong. I couldn't even tell who amongst you

[00:25:32] [SPEAKER_00]: were trolls or just naive fools. Some even brought religion into it. I couldn't care less about

[00:25:38] [SPEAKER_00]: someone's religious views on divorce. They're not me, they're not living my life. I remember

[00:25:43] [SPEAKER_00]: an old example of a rich man saying he knows how hard it is to pay for gas when he drives a million

[00:25:47] [SPEAKER_00]: dollar car. He can't know the struggle of paying for gas when he has enough wealth to buy an

[00:25:52] [SPEAKER_00]: obscenely expensive automobile. In the same way someone can't claim to know whether or not

[00:25:57] [SPEAKER_00]: my soon-to-be ex-wife loved me just because. They didn't live with her or mother-in-law,

[00:26:02] [SPEAKER_00]: they did not suffer at their hands. So they didn't have valid reasons to say they knew

[00:26:06] [SPEAKER_00]: better. I apologize for the length of this post but there's a lot to say. Edit. Just want

[00:26:12] [SPEAKER_00]: to make sure everyone reading knows this all happened months ago. I did have a break from Reddit

[00:26:16] [SPEAKER_00]: for some time for mental health reasons so if something seems like they're happening too quickly

[00:26:20] [SPEAKER_00]: it's because this is just speaking of things that already happened. I'm just posting the stories

[00:26:25] [SPEAKER_00]: of what happened quickly to get them out. I soon-to-be ex-wife pretty much admitted to my

[00:26:30] [SPEAKER_00]: face that she only married me for financial security. But yeah, I was exactly right.

[00:26:35] [SPEAKER_00]: She spent years grooming me so she could trap me in marriage and walk all over me.

[00:26:39] [SPEAKER_00]: And yes, she did have plans to baby trap me as well after I initiated a divorce.

[00:26:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I confirmed this but she dropped any act of wanting to save the marriage after her mother died.

[00:26:50] [SPEAKER_00]: In my last post I told how I reported my mother-in-law's hoarding and how her house

[00:26:54] [SPEAKER_00]: was inspected and scheduled to be condemned. She demanded my soon-to-be ex-wife to pay for

[00:26:58] [SPEAKER_00]: the house to be fixed. But when soon-to-be ex-wife said she couldn't pay,

[00:27:02] [SPEAKER_00]: her mother went ape on her and then died from a heart attack soon after.

[00:27:06] [SPEAKER_00]: She had a congenital heart condition, was completely unaware of till after she had kicked the bucket.

[00:27:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I was told for years she was on disability only for mental problems but she actually had a weak heart.

[00:27:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Her potentially being removed from the only home she lived in for decades put her stress

[00:27:21] [SPEAKER_00]: over the edge and her heart gave out when she attacked her own daughter for being unable to phone

[00:27:26] [SPEAKER_00]: a home restoration. Yes, I do still feel guilty about what happened but it's in the past now.

[00:27:32] [SPEAKER_00]: The mother-in-law's house was torn down. Not sure when but about a week before making my previous

[00:27:38] [SPEAKER_00]: post I drove over to where her house was and there was nothing but an empty lot now.

[00:27:43] [SPEAKER_00]: The house was likely declared a biohazard or something. Not sure if my soon-to-be ex-wife

[00:27:47] [SPEAKER_00]: owns the property now or if it was sold I don't know. I can't imagine my soon-to-be ex-wife

[00:27:52] [SPEAKER_00]: inherited much of anything good from her mother's hoarder den. The house was so bad

[00:27:57] [SPEAKER_00]: and even sent a rat scurry by across the top of the hoard once. Many past commenters were exactly

[00:28:03] [SPEAKER_00]: right about my soon-to-be ex-wife was likely aiming at trying to baby trap me with her love bombing

[00:28:07] [SPEAKER_00]: behavior. A few days after she left the motel when her mother died I went into the bathroom,

[00:28:13] [SPEAKER_00]: she tore up to clean it. She'd left it in quite a bit of a state the day she left having

[00:28:18] [SPEAKER_00]: a meltdown in there but thankfully nothing but her personal items were broken. She did

[00:28:26] [SPEAKER_00]: in the waste basket and noticed a bottle of pills with fertility support written on the label.

[00:28:32] [SPEAKER_00]: When I removed the cap from the bottle the paper seal had been torn out.

[00:28:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I googled this stuff and it was a common female fertility vitamin that anyone could buy online

[00:28:41] [SPEAKER_00]: or in store not prescription. I confronted my soon-to-be ex-wife when she came to get more

[00:28:46] [SPEAKER_00]: of her stuff. She admitted that she'd hoped to get pregnant so I wouldn't divorce her

[00:28:50] [SPEAKER_00]: but that was before her mother died. After that she said she'd never want to touch me again

[00:28:56] [SPEAKER_00]: and she scoffed when I said that I felt that way towards her for a while before she did me.

[00:29:01] [SPEAKER_00]: I never found out if my ex put anything in the food or open beer she tried to serve me though.

[00:29:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I searched the house top the bottom for anything else that might have been a clue

[00:29:09] [SPEAKER_00]: and came up with nothing so she may have just wanted to get me drunk. I can't express enough

[00:29:15] [SPEAKER_00]: though how glad that I am that I didn't have a child with this woman. I wasn't allowed to

[00:29:21] [SPEAKER_00]: mother-in-law's funeral though I didn't really want to go. My soon-to-be ex-wife specifically

[00:29:26] [SPEAKER_00]: told me that she didn't want me there and I responded that I understood why but then later

[00:29:32] [SPEAKER_00]: soon-to-be ex-wife posted online that she was furious barely anyone from her family showed up.

[00:29:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Not even after her father came and then she lied by saying I was invited but refused to come

[00:29:43] [SPEAKER_00]: which was blatantly false and I had screenshots of our text proving it.

[00:29:47] [SPEAKER_00]: When my soon-to-be ex-wife left the house after her mother died she went back to the

[00:29:51] [SPEAKER_00]: motel for an extended stay while she moved her stuff out bit by bit either to storage or a friend's

[00:29:57] [SPEAKER_00]: place. I didn't know since I didn't help. I heard from her friends she eventually found a studio

[00:30:03] [SPEAKER_00]: apartment that hated living in such a small space after previously having a house. She was also

[00:30:08] [SPEAKER_00]: seen looking miserable at the local laundromat. Our former landlord agreed to keep the extra

[00:30:14] [SPEAKER_00]: furniture neither of us could take as his new incoming renters were happy to use them.

[00:30:19] [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of you thought she would but my soon-to-be ex-wife did not try to sabotage the house in any

[00:30:23] [SPEAKER_00]: way other than her bathroom tantrum but she stubbornly refused to help pay for a cleaning

[00:30:29] [SPEAKER_00]: service. She made it more than obvious she was doing that despite me so rather than wasting

[00:30:34] [SPEAKER_00]: time fighting with her about it I had a cleaning crew myself then I left that house

[00:30:39] [SPEAKER_00]: spotless and I got back my half of the security deposit without issue.

[00:30:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I did later buy a used Kent Ridgeline bike and started riding again. The bike had a replacement

[00:30:50] [SPEAKER_00]: seat but is otherwise Bone Stock original. I only ride a little at a time these days,

[00:30:55] [SPEAKER_00]: currently once or twice a week at most. I just don't have the passion for it I used to.

[00:31:00] [SPEAKER_00]: I do enjoy my short cruises around town and while I could commute to work on a bike

[00:31:04] [SPEAKER_00]: the surprising amount of warnings I got from people here telling me that's a bad idea

[00:31:08] [SPEAKER_00]: made me reconsider doing it. Didn't help that I found out that some friend of a friend got hit

[00:31:14] [SPEAKER_00]: by a car while on his bike a couple of months ago. Though I'm just hobby riding instead of

[00:31:19] [SPEAKER_00]: commuting my best friend joins me sometimes too he got a red mongoose mountain bike he dusted off.

[00:31:25] [SPEAKER_00]: He needed tyres so I put some on for him and gave the bike a tune up and then we took to the

[00:31:30] [SPEAKER_00]: bike path. His bike has gears also is much heavier, winds a single speed but fairly nimble so it kind

[00:31:36] [SPEAKER_00]: of evens out. After a mother's funeral my soon to be ex-wife went into full hate mode. She started

[00:31:43] [SPEAKER_00]: a bad mouth in me on her social media and told multiple lies about me because she saw me responsible

[00:31:48] [SPEAKER_00]: for what happened to her mother. She claimed I was physically, emotionally and financially

[00:31:53] [SPEAKER_00]: abusive which I was not. If anything she was all that to me. She also played off the value

[00:31:59] [SPEAKER_00]: of my skeleton key collection but she still claimed was worthless. However there was already a fair

[00:32:04] [SPEAKER_00]: amount of word spread around through my friends and former mutual friends about what really happened

[00:32:09] [SPEAKER_00]: and I commented on her post about it to the point she took them down.

[00:32:13] [SPEAKER_00]: But I still got messages from angry flying monkeys. The most common thing them saying was that I

[00:32:18] [SPEAKER_00]: ended a sick old woman's life over keys. I told them all my side of what happened

[00:32:22] [SPEAKER_00]: and pointed out I had plenty of evidence including being told I wasn't invited to the funeral

[00:32:27] [SPEAKER_00]: and showing screenshots of the text. I was sorry mother in law died but I couldn't have foreseen

[00:32:33] [SPEAKER_00]: she had a heart attack and her house was so bad it was completely unlivable. A select few

[00:32:39] [SPEAKER_00]: apologized most just stopped talking and a good few persistently called me a liar so I had to block

[00:32:45] [SPEAKER_00]: them. I ended up contacting my soon to be ex-wife to tell her that I'd filed a defamation

[00:32:51] [SPEAKER_00]: lawsuit on top of the divorce if she didn't stop making posts about me which likely wouldn't

[00:32:56] [SPEAKER_00]: bow well for her career. I'd already screenshot everything I need from her profile before she

[00:33:00] [SPEAKER_00]: deleted the post. Well she tried to say I was blackmailing her but she stopped. Then she played

[00:33:07] [SPEAKER_00]: the whole situation of just being angry in the moment but her lying was still called out and

[00:33:12] [SPEAKER_00]: she lost her credibility. She soon shut down her social media entirely and called me afterwards

[00:33:18] [SPEAKER_00]: to blame before it then she mocked me and said she was glad I was divorcing her. She told

[00:33:23] [SPEAKER_00]: me I'd never satisfied her in bed as I was too vanilla and she wished she could have gone back

[00:33:28] [SPEAKER_00]: to her ex-boyfriend. That one actually stung a bit. To clarify though my soon to be ex-wife

[00:33:34] [SPEAKER_00]: never cheated on me. Many people figured she did including my friends but no she just spent

[00:33:40] [SPEAKER_00]: a lot of time with her mother. I've also spoken to the man who dated her before me.

[00:33:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Some of my soon to be ex-wife's former friends were still in touch with him

[00:33:48] [SPEAKER_00]: and gave me his number. He told me he dumped her because she and her mother treated him the

[00:33:53] [SPEAKER_00]: same way they treated me after I married my soon to be ex-wife. Which means their playing nice for

[00:33:59] [SPEAKER_00]: three years was one hell of a calculated move. I also learned from the guy that had found out

[00:34:04] [SPEAKER_00]: the guy who dated my soon to be ex before him also dumped her for the same reasons and he was

[00:34:09] [SPEAKER_00]: a high school sweetheart. I'm afraid there's still more to this and we'll make another

[00:34:13] [SPEAKER_00]: post soon. I will say that the divorce is underway and not going in soon to be ex-wife's favour.

[00:34:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Many people on the back of that one suggested an OP go no contact.

[00:34:24] [SPEAKER_00]: An OP came in with another post and says after the social media incident,

[00:34:28] [SPEAKER_00]: soon to be ex-wife tried one last desperate measure to get back at me.

[00:34:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Which was to track down my mother that I was no contact with. She probably found her through

[00:34:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Facebook because I know my mother has an active page there. My soon to be ex-wife

[00:34:41] [SPEAKER_00]: knew exactly why I'm no contact with this woman. I told her for years the things my narcissist mother

[00:34:46] [SPEAKER_00]: did to me. But she went to see her anyway. Either she was looking for a replacement maternal figure

[00:34:52] [SPEAKER_00]: or she did it entirely despite me. Or maybe even both. Either way we all know she's petty as fuck.

[00:34:59] [SPEAKER_00]: Despite being years no contact, my mother wasn't far away. I never really moved far from where

[00:35:04] [SPEAKER_00]: I was raised and my soon to be ex-wife had my mother a very embellished sob story. I got

[00:35:10] [SPEAKER_00]: a call from a number I didn't recognise and it turned out to be my mother.

[00:35:13] [SPEAKER_00]: First words out of her mouth were, how could you? She wouldn't even give me the time to speak.

[00:35:18] [SPEAKER_00]: I just sang. I didn't want to hear your excuses. Then she went on a rant about how the lies

[00:35:23] [SPEAKER_00]: soon to be ex-wife told her. I just ended the call about halfway through said rant and

[00:35:27] [SPEAKER_00]: then blocked the number. I remember thinking to myself at the time. Just great. The two people

[00:35:32] [SPEAKER_00]: I hate most in the world are now banding together. Soon to be ex-wife figured out where

[00:35:38] [SPEAKER_00]: I live. I don't know how but it doesn't really matter anymore. What did matter was she showed up

[00:35:43] [SPEAKER_00]: with my goddamn mother. This woman was just as bad as I remembered her except now she has bleach blonde

[00:35:49] [SPEAKER_00]: hair. She's still dressed as if in denial of outer rage and was still judgmental and narcissistic.

[00:35:55] [SPEAKER_00]: At the moment she started yelling at me, I snapped and lost it on her and soon to be ex-wife.

[00:36:01] [SPEAKER_00]: I started ranting about all the stuff soon to be ex-wife and her mother had put me through

[00:36:05] [SPEAKER_00]: and how I wasn't surprised that my own crazy mother would side with a toxic lie like her without

[00:36:10] [SPEAKER_00]: even questioning what my half of the story was. I ended up ranting about a whole lot of other

[00:36:15] [SPEAKER_00]: stuff that happened and for once my mother looked damned scared of me and didn't even try to counter.

[00:36:20] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know how long I was ranting at them. It was just word vomit and yell

[00:36:24] [SPEAKER_00]: explaining to the point I almost mentally checked out while my mouth did the work.

[00:36:29] [SPEAKER_00]: But I told my mother about all the things my soon to be ex-wife and mother in law did to me.

[00:36:33] [SPEAKER_00]: About the theft of my collection, about mother in law's hoarding and the condition of her house

[00:36:37] [SPEAKER_00]: and how she and soon to be ex-wife trapped me in a fake marriage. How soon to be ex-wife admitted to

[00:36:42] [SPEAKER_00]: trying to baby trap me and then bringing my own mother over to try and stick it to me. I looked

[00:36:47] [SPEAKER_00]: over at soon to be ex-wife and said if her big plan was thinking my mother had any power over

[00:36:51] [SPEAKER_00]: me she was dumber than I thought and yeah I ranted about how soon to be ex-wife thought

[00:36:56] [SPEAKER_00]: my skeleton key collection was worthless and exactly how and why it wasn't.

[00:37:01] [SPEAKER_00]: Police eventually showed up because neighbor had called them. I had a CCTV camera going inside my

[00:37:07] [SPEAKER_00]: apartment watching the door and it saw enough so there was video proof I never laid a finger on

[00:37:12] [SPEAKER_00]: either of them at least. The police broke things up and escorted soon to be ex-wife and mother away.

[00:37:18] [SPEAKER_00]: The cops thought I was the bad guy at first. A grown man yelling at two caring women

[00:37:22] [SPEAKER_00]: didn't exactly look good but they took the time to listen to me and I showed them the

[00:37:27] [SPEAKER_00]: camera footage. My mother looked down right scared of the cops and didn't even want to talk to them

[00:37:31] [SPEAKER_00]: and soon to be ex-wife knew exactly what I'd do if she'd lie to them so they fessed up as

[00:37:36] [SPEAKER_00]: to why they were there but claimed that giving me a talking to was all they intended to do.

[00:37:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Right and Zeus didn't throw lightning. Oh wait he did who knows what those two would have

[00:37:46] [SPEAKER_00]: tried were it not for the police and my temper. No one was arrested but I made it clear I

[00:37:52] [SPEAKER_00]: didn't want my mother or soon to be ex-wife coming back. Right after they left I went to

[00:37:56] [SPEAKER_00]: police station and filled out a report on the incident for a paper trail in case of future stalking

[00:38:02] [SPEAKER_00]: even though one of the officers tried to tell me that was too much for the situation

[00:38:06] [SPEAKER_00]: when all they did was show up at my door. They also seemed to take offense to

[00:38:10] [SPEAKER_00]: my making a report against my mother and soon to be ex-wife. I told him that he didn't know

[00:38:15] [SPEAKER_00]: those people and they were relentlessly narcissists. After making the report I called

[00:38:20] [SPEAKER_00]: up my best friend and told him what happened. He asked if I wanted to get right into clear

[00:38:24] [SPEAKER_00]: my head and I said yes and we went out biking till our legs were numb. The next day I texted

[00:38:30] [SPEAKER_00]: my mother from the number she called me from and explained some things in detail and even sent

[00:38:34] [SPEAKER_00]: screenshots of proof I had on some things and made sure to do all of this in text for two reasons.

[00:38:40] [SPEAKER_00]: One I wouldn't actually have to hear her voice and two because I could screenshot all the

[00:38:45] [SPEAKER_00]: texts and give them to my lawyer for divorce case against soon to be ex-wife. My mother and

[00:38:49] [SPEAKER_00]: soon to be ex-wife told her a very different story that had been abusive in various ways.

[00:38:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I told my mother she was free to have a relationship with soon to be ex-wife but I wanted nothing to do

[00:39:00] [SPEAKER_00]: with either of them and I called the police if either of them show up at my apartment or any

[00:39:04] [SPEAKER_00]: future one I may be living in again. She did not message me back for several days.

[00:39:09] [SPEAKER_00]: I also sent messages about what happened to other relatives and I'll say be passed around

[00:39:13] [SPEAKER_00]: just in case soon to be ex-wife went crying to them too which I guess she was smart enough

[00:39:17] [SPEAKER_00]: to not bother doing because none of them heard a peep from her. Soon to be ex-wife ended up having

[00:39:23] [SPEAKER_00]: a huge fight with my mother in which my mother kicked her out. My mother finally texted me back

[00:39:28] [SPEAKER_00]: and said she wasn't willing to risk staying on soon to be ex-wife's side when it meant being

[00:39:33] [SPEAKER_00]: dragged into the crossfire. Then she gave me a short source of apology which I accepted

[00:39:38] [SPEAKER_00]: as good enough because getting my mother to apologize for anything is like pulling teeth.

[00:39:43] [SPEAKER_00]: I stated I still don't want a relationship with her because I know she still defends

[00:39:46] [SPEAKER_00]: the way she raised me. She told me she understands and said to have a nice life

[00:39:51] [SPEAKER_00]: somewhat passive aggressively then I re-blocked the number. Soon to be ex-wife has not yet retained

[00:39:57] [SPEAKER_00]: the lawyer for our divorce then or now I'm pretty sure she realizes she can't win with

[00:40:01] [SPEAKER_00]: all the evidence I have against her. Every dumb thing she did gave my lawyer more ammunition

[00:40:06] [SPEAKER_00]: to work with. She hasn't been fighting back much at all what there's anything to fight over.

[00:40:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Our formerly shared bank account and rented house were our only joint assets.

[00:40:17] [SPEAKER_00]: But I took my name off the account and we both moved out of the house.

[00:40:20] [SPEAKER_00]: My credit is locked down and I have cameras and I'm taking no BS from her.

[00:40:24] [SPEAKER_00]: I think she may be scared of me now. Not long before I started posting again

[00:40:28] [SPEAKER_00]: she moved out of the state too. She apparently got a job transfer and notified my lawyer she

[00:40:33] [SPEAKER_00]: was leaving and where she was going but she'll be back whenever she needs to appear in court.

[00:40:37] [SPEAKER_00]: So unless something else crazy happens I won't be needing to update again until after the divorce.

[00:40:44] [SPEAKER_00]: What an absolute saga and the divorce is still to happen so I can imagine there's going to be

[00:40:51] [SPEAKER_00]: more drama there. Soon to be ex-wife seems to thrive on it. And after we get a saga like this

[00:40:57] [SPEAKER_00]: I always like to think about how it all started. It all started with those keys and a mother in

[00:41:04] [SPEAKER_00]: law thinking she's entitled to them and stealing them to buy a phone. You think bloody hell that

[00:41:11] [SPEAKER_00]: went crazy right? There was one more comment and reply from OP before we turn it to you guys.

[00:41:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Sandman said now I see what was going on although it's just a hunch. I think they wanted you

[00:41:23] [SPEAKER_00]: to get in trouble with the law. A man attacking two defenseless women didn't have to provide

[00:41:28] [SPEAKER_00]: evidence as police would believe them over you. If you didn't have evidence to back you up

[00:41:32] [SPEAKER_00]: they never expected you to have that so when you showed the footage to the police that was it.

[00:41:37] [SPEAKER_00]: They knew they couldn't catch you out. They'll be on your guard though and have cameras wherever you

[00:41:42] [SPEAKER_00]: can especially while riding your bike. OP says holy crap you may be right I don't know which

[00:41:49] [SPEAKER_00]: neighbor called the police if my mother and soon to be ex-wife called them so they'd show up

[00:41:54] [SPEAKER_00]: at just the right time. They might have been trying to frame me. I'm talking with my lawyer

[00:41:59] [SPEAKER_00]: about that right away. Chickas are peeing the phone records thank you for that info.

[00:42:04] [SPEAKER_00]: But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys what do you guys make of this one?

[00:42:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:42:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Now just a huge thank you for being here today getting involved in the stories as always.

[00:42:18] [SPEAKER_00]: This was a doozy and I love a doozy you know that one.

[00:42:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Always appreciate your time and hopefully I will see you in the next one. Take care.

[00:42:28] [SPEAKER_00]: And much love.