I Went On A "Date Night" With My Wife's Friend Whilst Wife Was Out Of Town r/Relationships

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[00:01:08] [SPEAKER_01]: I Went Out For Dinner With One Of My Wifes Friends Last Week When My Wife Was Out Of Town

[00:01:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I Wanted Some Honest Opinions On If I Did Something Wrong Here And How Big Of Trouble I'm In

[00:01:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Hope To Give Full Context, My Wife Was Away For A Week Visiting Her Parents

[00:01:26] [SPEAKER_01]: She Has A Friend Amanda Who She Has Been Friends With For Many Years

[00:01:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Amanda Has Had A Rough Patch Where She Broke Up With Her Boyfriend And Also Lost Her Job

[00:01:36] [SPEAKER_01]: My Wife Has Been Supportive Of Her Last Week Amanda Had An Interview And Asked My Wife

[00:01:41] [SPEAKER_01]: If She Could Give Her A Ride Home From The Airport

[00:01:44] [SPEAKER_01]: As My Wife Was Out Of Town And My Office Is Near The Airport

[00:01:47] [SPEAKER_01]: My Wife Asked Me If I Can Give Her A Ride On My Way Back From Work

[00:01:51] [SPEAKER_01]: I Did Not Have Any Plans And Agreed Amanda And I Are Not Really Friends

[00:01:56] [SPEAKER_01]: And I Only Interact With Her When We Meet Socially

[00:01:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I Told Amanda To Message Me When Her Flight Gets To The Airport And I Can Pick Her Up

[00:02:04] [SPEAKER_01]: I Picked Her Up Around 6pm And We Were Driving Home

[00:02:07] [SPEAKER_01]: We Were Just Having Small Talk About The New Company She Was Interviewing At And Her Work In General

[00:02:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Amanda Told Me She Does Not Have Any Food At Home And If We Can Stop By A Drive Through So She Can Pick Up Some Food

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_01]: I Was Also Hungry And I Suggested We Can Stop By Somewhere And Have A Quick Dinner Before I Drop Her Home

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_01]: She Agreed And Started Searching For Places On The Way

[00:02:28] [SPEAKER_01]: She Punched In An Address To A Restaurant On The Way And We Drove To That Place

[00:02:33] [SPEAKER_01]: We Did Not Know This But This Place Was A Pretty Fancy Italian Restaurant

[00:02:38] [SPEAKER_01]: She Said This Looks Too Fancy

[00:02:41] [SPEAKER_01]: I Said We Are Already Here So Let's Eat

[00:02:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I Messaged My Wife We Are Eating Dinner And She Said Okay

[00:02:48] [SPEAKER_01]: We Had A Pretty Fun Evening And A Nice Dinner

[00:02:51] [SPEAKER_01]: She Had A Few Drinks And I Did Not Since I Was Driving

[00:02:54] [SPEAKER_01]: We Generally Never Talked Much

[00:02:56] [SPEAKER_01]: But She Opened Up To Me And We Had A Very Nice Chat

[00:02:59] [SPEAKER_01]: I Never Knew Amanda And I Had So Much In Common In Like The Same Music And Movies

[00:03:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I Did Not Notice But We Are At The Restaurant For One And A Half Hours

[00:03:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Amanda Was Taking Pictures During Dinner And Also Asked The Server To Take Our Picture At The End Of The Meal

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I Dropped Amanda Home

[00:03:17] [SPEAKER_01]: She Gave Me A Quick Hug And Said Thanks For Such A Nice Evening

[00:03:21] [SPEAKER_01]: I Called My Wife Told Her I Dropped Amanda And I'm Heading Home

[00:03:25] [SPEAKER_01]: She Seemed Busy And I Just Let Her Know I Reached Home And Said Good Night

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_01]: This Is Where Things Got A Bit Weird

[00:03:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Amanda Messaged Me Around 11pm Saying Thanks For The Ride And She Had A Good Time

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_01]: She Sent Me Our Picture Together

[00:03:39] [SPEAKER_01]: I Saw The Message And Just Liked It To Acknowledge It

[00:03:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Later That Night Amanda Shared Some Of The Photos From Our Dinner On Our Instagram

[00:03:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Including Our Photo Together And Captioned It As Dinner With Friend

[00:03:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm Not Friends With Amanda On Instagram And Did Not See It

[00:03:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Next Morning My Wife Called Me And Asked Me How My Date Night With Amanda Was

[00:03:59] [SPEAKER_01]: I Laughed Alphan Thought She Was Teasing Me

[00:04:02] [SPEAKER_01]: But My Wife Sounded Pissed Off And Kept On Asking Me About All The Details Like When I Got Home

[00:04:07] [SPEAKER_01]: Which I Was Happy To Provide

[00:04:09] [SPEAKER_01]: At Night My Wife Called Me Again And Told Me That Amanda Told Her About The Night Before

[00:04:15] [SPEAKER_01]: The Issue Was Amanda Made The Dinner Sound Way Nicer Than It Was

[00:04:19] [SPEAKER_01]: She Kept On Praising Me For How I Was A Gentleman

[00:04:22] [SPEAKER_01]: And Treated Me Better Than Most Of Her Dates

[00:04:24] [SPEAKER_01]: How I'm A Good Listener, Paid For The Whole Thing Etc

[00:04:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I Feel Amanda Also Added Fuel To The Fire By Telling My Wife All The Wonderful Things I Did For Her During The Evening

[00:04:34] [SPEAKER_01]: My Wife Feels I Should Have Asked Her Before Inviting Amanda To Such A Fancy Place For A Romantic Dinner

[00:04:40] [SPEAKER_01]: She Was Also Pissed That Hundreds Of People Like Amanda Post On Instagram And She Feels Disrespected

[00:04:46] [SPEAKER_01]: That Her Husband Is Going Out On Date Night With A Single Friend When She Was Out Of Town

[00:04:51] [SPEAKER_01]: She Also Jokingly Asked Me How Our Good Night Kiss Was

[00:04:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I Told Her It Was Just A Hug

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_01]: That Seemed To Make Her Angrier

[00:04:59] [SPEAKER_01]: I've Not Even Told Her About The Late Night Message From Amanda And Me Like In The Picture With A Heart Emoji

[00:05:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Because I'm Too Scared At This Point

[00:05:07] [SPEAKER_01]: I Wanted To Ask If I Was Wrong To Invite Amanda For Dinner When Both Of Us Were Starving And It Was Dinner Time

[00:05:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Do You Think My Wife Is Wrong And Overreacting To All Of This

[00:05:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I Was Just Being Nice To Her Friend Who She Asked Me To Drive Home

[00:05:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I Also Communicated With My Wife All Through The Night And She Seemed Okay With It At The Time

[00:05:27] [SPEAKER_01]: She Only Got Offended After She Saw Amanda's Insta Post

[00:05:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Should I Call Amanda And Tell Her To Talk To My Wife And Explain It Was Just A Friendly Meal

[00:05:36] [SPEAKER_01]: And I Was Not Being Inappropriate

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_01]: Yuck, this is so messy but there was a couple of relevant comments with replies from Opieza

[00:05:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Significant Beyond Says You're The Arsehole

[00:05:45] [SPEAKER_01]: Would You Be Okay If Your Wife Went To A Nice Dinner Out And Had Drinks With A Single Male Friend Of Yours

[00:05:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Not Hers

[00:05:51] [SPEAKER_01]: UgDim took pictures all without asking you if it bothered you

[00:05:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Not Telling You What Happened And You Found Out From Social Media

[00:05:57] [SPEAKER_01]: The fact is casual observers interpret you going on a date with a woman that isn't your wife

[00:06:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Getting Drive Through Is One Thing, This Is Another

[00:06:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Opie Says I Just Went For Dinner With Her

[00:06:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Was Expecting To Go To A Diner Or Something But Was A Nice Meal Anyways

[00:06:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Yes, I Understand If My Wife Would Have Done All These Things It Would Have Bothered Me

[00:06:17] [SPEAKER_01]: However, I Was Messaging My Wife Through The Night And She Never Once Raised A Flag That She Was Uncomfortable

[00:06:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I Also Talked To My Wife After I Dropped Amanda

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I Think Her Problem Started The Next Morning After She Saw The Instagram Picks

[00:06:30] [SPEAKER_01]: IckRick Says Feels Like Arsehole And Not The Arsehole Or At The Same Time

[00:06:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Seems Like There Is A Level Of Naivety Around The Escalating Situation

[00:06:38] [SPEAKER_01]: The Early Portions Of Your Story Are Definitely Innocent And Honestly

[00:06:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Where A Lot Of People Would Do For A Close Friend Of Her S.O.

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_01]: But How Could You Not See This Escalated Into An Awkward Situation

[00:06:49] [SPEAKER_01]: And See Romantic Dinner Setting, Potentially Intimate Conversations

[00:06:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Hit A PDA Towards The End

[00:06:56] [SPEAKER_01]: At No Point In The Evening Did It Occur To You

[00:06:58] [SPEAKER_01]: This Feels Like A Date

[00:07:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Probably Oh Your Wife In Apology Regarding The Misunderstanding

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Opie Says I Will Be Honest Here

[00:07:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Was Slightly Annoyed Out To Pick Amanda At The Airport Because At My Whole Evening Blend Out

[00:07:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I Was Going To Go Home, Get Drunk And Play Sea Of Thieves With My Friends

[00:07:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I Really Did Not Notice We're In A Restaurant For Such A Long Time

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_01]: The Dinner Was Not Romantic At All But You Know How Pitchers On Insta Can Look

[00:07:22] [SPEAKER_01]: In Hindsight I Know Why My Wife Is Mad At Me

[00:07:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm Just Scared At This Point For The Fallout

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Help

[00:07:29] [SPEAKER_01]: So, Opie Adds On What Kind Of Restaurant It Was And Says

[00:07:32] [SPEAKER_01]: It Was Not One Of The Unlimited Breadsticks Places

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_01]: It Was More Like A Fancy Steakhouse But Amanda Picked It

[00:07:39] [SPEAKER_01]: My Wife Was Completely Fine With The Dinner Until She Saw Pitchers On Instagram

[00:07:43] [SPEAKER_01]: And Why He Paid For The Dinner

[00:07:45] [SPEAKER_01]: Opie Says So I Paid Because I Always Offer To Pay

[00:07:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm Lucky To Live A Comfortable Life And I Hate Splitting Bills

[00:07:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I Always Offer To Pay When I Go With My Friends Too

[00:07:56] [SPEAKER_01]: And I Kind Of Agree With The Comments On This One

[00:07:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I Was Back And Forth With It

[00:08:00] [SPEAKER_01]: But It Just Seems To Get Worse As It Goes On

[00:08:04] [SPEAKER_01]: The Start Of It Picking Her Up From The Airport

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_01]: You Know Maybe Finding Somewhere Quick To Eat Absolutely Makes Sense

[00:08:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm Not Sure I Do Believe Amanda In That She Didn't Know It Was A Pretty Fancy Place

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_01]: But It Just Seemed To Go Down Hill From That Point On

[00:08:19] [SPEAKER_01]: You Know The Instagram Photos The Hugging It's Like That Comment Said

[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_01]: At What Point Did It Not Sort Of Jump Into Your Mind That

[00:08:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Hold On This Is A Bit Inappropriate

[00:08:27] [SPEAKER_01]: And This Turned Into Not Just A Quick Bite To Eat

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Because You Said Yourself That You Did Not Notice

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_01]: You Was Losing Track Of Time Because You Had So Much In Common

[00:08:36] [SPEAKER_01]: And Like The Same Music And Movies That Just

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah Dodgy

[00:08:40] [SPEAKER_01]: Red Flags Are Waving

[00:08:42] [SPEAKER_01]: And Again When She Calls A Waiter Over And Gives Her A Camera And Says

[00:08:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Let's Get A Photo Of Us Together You're Just Like Yeah

[00:08:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Why Why Why

[00:08:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Complete Design Says Bro Why The Hell Would You Want Amanda To Talk To Your Wife

[00:08:55] [SPEAKER_01]: And Convince Her It Was An Innocent Friendly Meal

[00:08:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Amanda Is The One Asking For Pictures

[00:09:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Hugging You Late Night Messaging You

[00:09:02] [SPEAKER_01]: And Posting On Social Media

[00:09:04] [SPEAKER_01]: You Dense

[00:09:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh Dear

[00:09:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Amanda Is Staring The Pot And Not Acting Like A Friend To Your Wife

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Stop Talking To Amanda

[00:09:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Fuck Amanda

[00:09:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Figuratively

[00:09:18] [SPEAKER_01]: You Talk To Your Wife

[00:09:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Ugh And Side Note

[00:09:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Asking Waiters For Pictures Is So Cringey In My Opinion

[00:09:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Blair Jada Says Your Wife's Friend Played You Like A Fiddle

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Every Choice You Made Was Reasonable Given The Circumstances

[00:09:33] [SPEAKER_01]: However, Amanda Is Clearly Staring The Pot

[00:09:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Making Pictures, Posting Them Online And Drinking Heavily

[00:09:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Those Texts Afterwards

[00:09:41] [SPEAKER_01]: And You Should Never Ever Text Amanda

[00:09:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I Tell Your Wife That Amanda Is Text After Dinner And At Instagram Post Made You Uncomfortable

[00:09:48] [SPEAKER_01]: And Regretful For Doing Amanda A Favor

[00:09:51] [SPEAKER_01]: And You Should Block Her

[00:09:52] [SPEAKER_01]: In This Kid A Replace That And Says And Amanda Found The Restaurant And Sent Them There

[00:09:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Guaranteed She Could See How Fancy And Romantic It Was When She Was Doing That Google Search

[00:10:01] [SPEAKER_01]: Then Had The Server Take A Picture Of Them

[00:10:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, Amanda Played OP Hard

[00:10:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I Want To Believe OP Is Just A Naive Dense

[00:10:09] [SPEAKER_01]: But The Cinecomy Is Wondering If OP Is Backtracking Because He Got Caught Setting Out A Fishing Line

[00:10:14] [SPEAKER_01]: And Is Trying To Make It Look Like It Was All Amanda And He Did Nothing Wrong

[00:10:19] [SPEAKER_01]: And One More Comment From No Permit And Said Wait Wait Wait

[00:10:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Did You Say You Like The Picture With A Heart Emoji?

[00:10:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Lol

[00:10:27] [SPEAKER_01]: And That Was Clarified That Wasn't On Instagram It Was Actually The Text He Liked With A Heart Emoji

[00:10:33] [SPEAKER_01]: Someone Said At Least It Was In An Eggplant

[00:10:35] [SPEAKER_01]: And OP Replied Said That's The First Emoji That Popped Up

[00:10:39] [SPEAKER_01]: And I Know I'm An Idiot

[00:10:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Lordy Lord

[00:10:59] [SPEAKER_02]: Oh

[00:11:21] [SPEAKER_01]: The Anyway

[00:11:22] [SPEAKER_01]: OP Came In With An Update And Said I Made A Post Yesterday About Going Out For Dinner With My Wife's Friend

[00:11:27] [SPEAKER_01]: And My Wife Was Out Of Town Visiting Her Parents Last Week

[00:11:30] [SPEAKER_01]: She Posted Our Photos On Instagram And It Would Be An Understatement To Say That My Wife Was Not Happy About It

[00:11:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I've Been Getting The Cold Treatment From Her Since The Incident

[00:11:39] [SPEAKER_01]: A Lot Of The Comments Made Me Believe That I Did Something Really Horrible

[00:11:43] [SPEAKER_01]: However, I Knew In My Heart That I Did Not Have Any Wrong Intentions

[00:11:46] [SPEAKER_01]: And Decided To Just Be Honest With My Wife

[00:11:49] [SPEAKER_01]: She Came Home Yesterday Evening And I Went To Pick Her Up At The Airport

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I Went On My Charm Offensive And Got Some Flowers And Chocolates On My Way

[00:11:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Jumping In Here Please Don't Tell Me He's Going To Repeat The Date With His Wife

[00:12:00] [SPEAKER_01]: While My Wife Was Happy To See Me After Two Weeks

[00:12:03] [SPEAKER_01]: I Could See That She Was A Bit Annoyed By Me

[00:12:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I Asked Her If She Wanted To Stop By For Dinner At A Restaurant And She Gave Me A Look

[00:12:10] [SPEAKER_01]: And Told Me To Keep Driving And We Will Order Takeout

[00:12:13] [SPEAKER_01]: She Also Asked Me To Cut The Bullshit And Be Normal

[00:12:17] [SPEAKER_01]: After We Reached Home We Settled In And I Got The Dinner Ready

[00:12:20] [SPEAKER_01]: I Decided To Be Direct And Asked Her Why The Incident Is Really Bothering Her

[00:12:24] [SPEAKER_01]: I Told Her That I Knew She Is Not An Insecure Person

[00:12:27] [SPEAKER_01]: And She Also Knew That I Would Never Put Myself In An Inappropriate Position

[00:12:32] [SPEAKER_01]: While I Understood Why She Would Be Annoyed By The Situation

[00:12:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I Would Not Expect Her To Doubt Me

[00:12:37] [SPEAKER_01]: She Was The One Who Trusted Me To Pick Up Her Friend In The Evening From The Airport

[00:12:41] [SPEAKER_01]: As It Was Dinner Time And Her Friend Said She Was Hungry

[00:12:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I Would Have Been Rude Of Me Not To Offer To Get Food For Her

[00:12:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Also My Wife Knew That I Always Offered To Pay For Dinners

[00:12:51] [SPEAKER_01]: I Respect If It Is My Friends Or Hers

[00:12:53] [SPEAKER_01]: This Is Just The Way I Was Brought Up

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_01]: And We Have Had Fights During Family Gatherings On Who Gets To Pay

[00:12:59] [SPEAKER_01]: I Asked Her What Was The Thing That Was Exactly Bothering Her

[00:13:03] [SPEAKER_01]: And Why She Was Okay During The Night

[00:13:05] [SPEAKER_01]: When I Kept Updating Her About Everything

[00:13:06] [SPEAKER_01]: But Got Upset In The Morning

[00:13:08] [SPEAKER_01]: My Wife Told Me That The Whole Situation Smelled Funky To Her

[00:13:12] [SPEAKER_01]: She Told Me That She Does Not Doubt Me One Bit

[00:13:15] [SPEAKER_01]: That I Had Any Wrong Intentions

[00:13:17] [SPEAKER_01]: However, The Optics Of It All Was Really Bad For Her

[00:13:20] [SPEAKER_01]: She Said That She Is Not Upset At Me For Getting Dinner For Her Friend

[00:13:23] [SPEAKER_01]: She Would Expect Me To Do That

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_01]: And Amanda Also Appreciates It

[00:13:27] [SPEAKER_01]: She Said That The Issue Started Early Morning

[00:13:30] [SPEAKER_01]: When A Mum Barged Into Her Room To Show Her Amanda's Post

[00:13:33] [SPEAKER_01]: A Mum Thought I Was Going Out With Amanda Behind My Wife's Back

[00:13:36] [SPEAKER_01]: My Wife Told Her That She Knew I Took Her Out For Dinner

[00:13:39] [SPEAKER_01]: And Told Her About What Happened

[00:13:41] [SPEAKER_01]: She Then Got A Lecture From Her Mum About How Naive She Was

[00:13:44] [SPEAKER_01]: And This Is How Affairs Start

[00:13:47] [SPEAKER_01]: My Wife Said That It Annoyed Her A Lot

[00:13:49] [SPEAKER_01]: A Mum Also Looked Up A Restaurant And Told My Wife That It Was A Very Pricy Place

[00:13:53] [SPEAKER_01]: And Was Voted Best Place For Romantic Dates By Some Magazine

[00:13:58] [SPEAKER_01]: She Said Her Mum Completely Freaked Out After Seeing My Picture With Amanda

[00:14:02] [SPEAKER_01]: So My Wife Looked Up Our Credit Card Statement And Realised I Spent A LOT On The Meal

[00:14:07] [SPEAKER_01]: She Also Said That Amanda Has A Huge Social Media Following On Instagram

[00:14:12] [SPEAKER_01]: And Posts A Lot

[00:14:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I Think She Is Like A Fitness Influencer Or Something

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_01]: But I Don't Really Follow Her

[00:14:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Even Though Most Of The Pictures In Her Post Were Of Food

[00:14:21] [SPEAKER_01]: The Last Photo Of Me And Her Looked Like A Boyfriend Reveal

[00:14:24] [SPEAKER_01]: As We Were Sitting Next To Each Other

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_01]: She Told Me I Won't Understand As I'm Not On Instagram

[00:14:28] [SPEAKER_01]: But This Is How People Announce They Are Dating Someone Nowadays

[00:14:32] [SPEAKER_01]: As The Day Went On Amanda Got More Than 1k Likes On The Post

[00:14:36] [SPEAKER_01]: While A Lot Of People Commenting And Saying We Look Nice

[00:14:39] [SPEAKER_01]: She Was Annoyed Amanda Did Not Correct Any Of Them

[00:14:42] [SPEAKER_01]: So She Called Amanda In The Evening To Ask Her To Take The Last Picture Down

[00:14:46] [SPEAKER_01]: However Amanda Kept On Praising Me In How I Was Charming And Fun

[00:14:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Amanda Told Her For All These Years She Felt I Was Snobbish And Pretentious

[00:14:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm A Huge Introvert So I Come Off That Way

[00:14:58] [SPEAKER_01]: But She Was Wrong

[00:15:00] [SPEAKER_01]: My Wife Said This Was Annoying Because She Has Never Seen Me Be Charming With Any Of Her Friends Before When She Is Around

[00:15:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Amanda Was Talking About All My Favorite Band And How We Should All Go See A Concert Sometime

[00:15:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Amanda Told Her She Posted Our Photo Because She Has Never Been Treated To Such A Nice Place Before

[00:15:15] [SPEAKER_01]: And Wanted To Acknowledge Me In The Post

[00:15:18] [SPEAKER_01]: My Wife Never Asked Her To Take Down The Picture Because Of That

[00:15:21] [SPEAKER_01]: She Then Had A Lot Of Questions For Me As To When I Dropped Her Off

[00:15:25] [SPEAKER_01]: While I Walked Her To The Apartment Building Door And When I Got Home

[00:15:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I Told Her I Can Show You Exact Times And Receipts For Everything

[00:15:32] [SPEAKER_01]: But Do We Really Want To Be That Couple Who Questions Each Other About Every Detail

[00:15:36] [SPEAKER_01]: She Can Check When We Got The Credit Card Charge

[00:15:38] [SPEAKER_01]: The Messages I Sent Her After Dropping Amanda And Our Ring Camera In The Garage

[00:15:42] [SPEAKER_01]: And Come To Her Own Conclusions

[00:15:44] [SPEAKER_01]: She Asked Me If She Thought Amanda Was Flirting With Me During The Night

[00:15:47] [SPEAKER_01]: And I Told Her That Was Not The Case

[00:15:49] [SPEAKER_01]: In Fact, Amanda Messaged Me Our Photo At Night

[00:15:52] [SPEAKER_01]: And I Just Sent An Emoji Instead Of Engaging In A Conversation

[00:15:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Mostly Because I Was Busy With My Video Game

[00:15:59] [SPEAKER_01]: That Chapter Was Closed For Us And Neither Amanda Nor I Messaged Each Other After That

[00:16:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Amanda Is My Wife's Friend And I Do Not Intend To Be Close Friends With Her Anyways

[00:16:08] [SPEAKER_01]: As I Have My Own Friends

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_01]: I Also Insisted To Her That Amanda Was Not Inappropriate In Any Way During The Night

[00:16:15] [SPEAKER_01]: And Maintained Proper Boundaries

[00:16:16] [SPEAKER_01]: So This Incident Should Not Effect Their Friendship With Amanda

[00:16:20] [SPEAKER_01]: In Fact, If Amanda Had Any Bad Intentions

[00:16:23] [SPEAKER_01]: She Knew My Wife Was Out For The Rest Of The Week

[00:16:25] [SPEAKER_01]: And Would Have Tried To Message Me Again

[00:16:27] [SPEAKER_01]: But She Forgot About The Evening And So Should We

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Overall, My Wife Seems To Be Back To Normal After The Conversation

[00:16:34] [SPEAKER_01]: My Wife Is Not An Insecure Person

[00:16:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I Could See Why She Would Be Annoyed By The Situation

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_01]: However, I Know In My Heart That I Will Never Disrespect Our Marriage

[00:16:43] [SPEAKER_01]: And Had No Reason To Be Sneaky Or Lie About The Situation To Her

[00:16:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm Glad We Talked It Through

[00:16:48] [SPEAKER_01]: And I Was Able To Answer All Her Questions

[00:16:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Thanks Again For All Your Suggestions

[00:16:54] [SPEAKER_01]: So There Was A Couple More Comments Before The Post Ended With OP Replying

[00:16:58] [SPEAKER_01]: So Flynn Asked OP They Said How Much Was The Dinner

[00:17:01] [SPEAKER_01]: OP Said It Was Around $300 Overall With Tips And Stuff

[00:17:05] [SPEAKER_01]: The Food Was Pretty Good Though

[00:17:07] [SPEAKER_01]: Flynn Says $300 How Many Courses Did You Get?

[00:17:11] [SPEAKER_01]: OP Says $5 I Think

[00:17:12] [SPEAKER_01]: We Skipped The Dessert Though Cause It Was Too Much Food

[00:17:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I Remember The Song Because It Was One Of My Favorite Bands

[00:17:18] [SPEAKER_01]: It Was Every Little Thing By Police

[00:17:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Flynn Says $5 So An App, A Pasta, A Meat

[00:17:24] [SPEAKER_01]: What Else? Did She Keep Ordering Or Did You?

[00:17:28] [SPEAKER_01]: That's Definitely A Romantic Song

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_01]: No Wonder A Followers Think You're Her New Boyfriend

[00:17:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Lol And She's Just Letting Them Think That

[00:17:35] [SPEAKER_01]: When You Go To That Concert Get Ready For Her To Maneuver Some Pics With Just You

[00:17:39] [SPEAKER_01]: You Know The Fans

[00:17:42] [SPEAKER_01]: What Music When Over The Insta Post

[00:17:44] [SPEAKER_01]: And It Must Have Been That Police Song

[00:17:46] [SPEAKER_01]: There Was Some People Suggest In Below This That You Know Amanda

[00:17:50] [SPEAKER_01]: May Have Been Posting That Photo On Instagram To Get Back

[00:17:53] [SPEAKER_01]: At Her Ex Who Would Likely See Her Instagram

[00:17:57] [SPEAKER_01]: And Was Just Trying To Rub It Back In Her Ex's Face

[00:18:00] [SPEAKER_01]: That Just A Fancy Restaurant With A Man Who's Treating Her Well Etc

[00:18:04] [SPEAKER_01]: And There Was All sorts Of Comments You Know

[00:18:07] [SPEAKER_01]: People Saying That OP Is Just Oblivious One Commenter Said That He's Like

[00:18:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Sideshow Bob Continually Stepping On Rakes

[00:18:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Other Saying He Got Used For The Restaurant And A Free Date Kind Of Thing

[00:18:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Other Saying This Is A Normal Interaction

[00:18:21] [SPEAKER_01]: And You Know It's About The Wife Not Trusting Him

[00:18:24] [SPEAKER_01]: And Mother-In-Law Was Stirring The Pot In This Situation

[00:18:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Someone Compared It To OP Being Like The Dog In The

[00:18:31] [SPEAKER_01]: To The Meme Where This Is Fine And The Dog Sitting In The Room

[00:18:35] [SPEAKER_01]: And It's On Fire

[00:18:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Honestly, The Comments Were All Over The Place In This One

[00:18:39] [SPEAKER_01]: So, Watch Your Thoughts On It

[00:18:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Let Me Know Your Comments Down Below

[00:18:43] [SPEAKER_01]: And Let's Have One More Story

[00:18:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Holy Moly Indeed

[00:18:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Now, Our Next Story Is From The M.I.TheArsel Subreddit

[00:18:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Doesn't Have An Update Is Yet

[00:18:52] [SPEAKER_01]: It's From You Can Do It M.I.TheArsel And Says

[00:18:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm I.TheArsel For Not Agreeing To My Husband's New Chore List

[00:18:58] [SPEAKER_01]: After I Switched My Work Hours Without His Approval

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_01]: My Husband, 38 Male And I, 37 Female

[00:19:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Have Been Married For 9 Years And Have Two Kids

[00:19:09] [SPEAKER_01]: 8 And 6

[00:19:10] [SPEAKER_01]: He Works A Hybrid Schedule So He's Home 2-3 Days A Week

[00:19:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm A Nurse At An Understaffed Hospital

[00:19:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Due To That Staffing Shortage I Was Offered To

[00:19:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Temporarily Switched My Work Hours To The Overnight Shift

[00:19:23] [SPEAKER_01]: It Came With A Nice Bump In Pay Which Could Really Help Us Out Financially

[00:19:27] [SPEAKER_01]: My Husband Was Very Much Against It Because Of The Changes

[00:19:30] [SPEAKER_01]: It Would Make To Our Day-To-Day Lives

[00:19:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Initially Declined The Offer But They Counted With An Even Higher Pay Bump

[00:19:37] [SPEAKER_01]: So I Took It

[00:19:38] [SPEAKER_01]: It's Been 5 Months Since I Changed Hours And

[00:19:41] [SPEAKER_01]: My Husband Hates It

[00:19:42] [SPEAKER_01]: My Hours Are Now 10pm-8am Monday-Thursday

[00:19:47] [SPEAKER_01]: And Midnight-9am Sunday Morning

[00:19:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I Usually Make At Home Just In Time To See The Kids Off To School

[00:19:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Run Some errands Or Get Things Done At Home In The Morning

[00:19:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Then Sleep Until The Kids Bedtime And Head To Work

[00:19:59] [SPEAKER_01]: I Like To Think I've Got Them Pretty Efficient At It Since The Change

[00:20:03] [SPEAKER_01]: But My Husband Disagrees

[00:20:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I Won't Lie

[00:20:06] [SPEAKER_01]: He's Had To Pick Up A Lot Of The Kid Related Things That We Used To Share

[00:20:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Pretty Much Any Rides They Need Are Done By Him

[00:20:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Any Weekly Activities He Takes Care Of

[00:20:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Now That The Kids Are Done With School

[00:20:17] [SPEAKER_01]: We Have Them In A Summer Daycare Program

[00:20:19] [SPEAKER_01]: And He Does All The Drop-Offs And Pickups

[00:20:22] [SPEAKER_01]: He's Been Complaining To Me Ever Since The Kid's School Year Ended

[00:20:26] [SPEAKER_01]: That This Isn't Working For Him Anymore

[00:20:28] [SPEAKER_01]: He Keeps Asking When I Can Switch My Hours Back

[00:20:30] [SPEAKER_01]: I Told Him The Original Plan Was 6-8 Months So It Could Be Soon

[00:20:34] [SPEAKER_01]: But It's Only Been 5 Months

[00:20:36] [SPEAKER_01]: If I'm Being Honest

[00:20:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I Don't Know If I Want To Switch Back

[00:20:39] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm Making And Saving A Lot More Money

[00:20:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Once I've Adjusted To The Sleep Schedule

[00:20:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I Feel Like I Actually Have More Energy

[00:20:46] [SPEAKER_01]: And Can Get More Stuff Done When I Get Home From Work

[00:20:49] [SPEAKER_01]: This Past Weekend My Husband Practically Begged Me

[00:20:52] [SPEAKER_01]: To Ask My Supervisor When I Can Switch My Hours Back

[00:20:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I Finally Told Him I'm Not Sure If I Want To Do That

[00:20:57] [SPEAKER_01]: He Flipped Out On Me

[00:20:59] [SPEAKER_01]: He Told Me This Isn't What He Signed Up For When We Got Married

[00:21:02] [SPEAKER_01]: He Told Me He Feels Lied To Because

[00:21:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Not Only Did I Accept The Offer Without His

[00:21:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Final Approval But Now I'm Going Back On My Word

[00:21:09] [SPEAKER_01]: That It Would Be Temporary

[00:21:10] [SPEAKER_01]: He Said That If I'm Going To Keep My Current Night Shift

[00:21:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Then I Need To Do More Things At Home Since I Have A Whole Place To Myself During The

[00:21:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Day

[00:21:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I Asked Him What More He Thinks I Should Do

[00:21:20] [SPEAKER_01]: And He Actually Made A List

[00:21:22] [SPEAKER_01]: He Put Pretty Much All The Yard Work On There

[00:21:24] [SPEAKER_01]: Which Is Usually Stuff He Takes Care Of

[00:21:26] [SPEAKER_01]: And That I Don't Know How To Do

[00:21:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I Told Him I Don't Know How To Do All That Stuff

[00:21:30] [SPEAKER_01]: And He Told Me If I Can Learn How To Fold A Fitted Sheet

[00:21:34] [SPEAKER_01]: You Can Learn How To Mow The Lawn

[00:21:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I Told Him That Doesn't Seem Like A Fair Division Of Labour

[00:21:39] [SPEAKER_01]: And He Told Me He's Taken On All The Kid Stuff

[00:21:42] [SPEAKER_01]: So I Need To Do More Of Everything Else

[00:21:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I Told Him That Doing Manual Labour After I Worked All Night

[00:21:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Isn't Going To Work For Me

[00:21:49] [SPEAKER_01]: And He Told Me To Change My Hours Back Then

[00:21:51] [SPEAKER_01]: So, If You're Married

[00:21:53] [SPEAKER_01]: You Have A Family

[00:21:54] [SPEAKER_01]: These Things Need To Be Made Jointly

[00:21:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Or As A Family

[00:21:57] [SPEAKER_01]: With What You Did

[00:21:59] [SPEAKER_01]: You Totally Turned Everything Upside Down

[00:22:01] [SPEAKER_01]: It Wasn't About His Approval

[00:22:03] [SPEAKER_01]: It Was About Talking To Him

[00:22:04] [SPEAKER_01]: And Coming To An Agreement That Works For Your Family

[00:22:06] [SPEAKER_01]: And Using Excuses Like I Don't Know How To Do It

[00:22:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Is Bullshit

[00:22:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Like He Said

[00:22:11] [SPEAKER_01]: If He Can Learn How To Fold A Fitted Sheet

[00:22:14] [SPEAKER_01]: And Those Things Are A Right Pain In The Arse

[00:22:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Then You Can Certainly Learn To Mow The Lawn

[00:22:18] [SPEAKER_01]: And I Feel Like Opie Even Made It Sound Themselves

[00:22:21] [SPEAKER_01]: That They're Not There Most Of The Time

[00:22:23] [SPEAKER_01]: And When They Are There

[00:22:24] [SPEAKER_01]: They're Asleep

[00:22:25] [SPEAKER_01]: And Then You're Like

[00:22:26] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh Yeah, I've Got More Energy Now

[00:22:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Of Course You Do

[00:22:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Aggressive Says You're The Arsehole

[00:22:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Lol, Of Course You Have More Energy Now

[00:22:34] [SPEAKER_01]: It Sounds Like All You Do Is Sleep And Work

[00:22:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Your Husband Has To Take Over Every Single Other Task

[00:22:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Learning How To Mow The Lawn Isn't That Hard

[00:22:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Especially Since Google Is A Thing

[00:22:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Suck It Up Like He Has For The Last 5 Months

[00:22:46] [SPEAKER_01]: And Do The Yard Work

[00:22:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Don't Forget To Weedwack

[00:22:49] [SPEAKER_01]: Edge And Clean Up All The Clippings

[00:22:52] [SPEAKER_01]: Top Tips

[00:22:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Level 5 Us A Lot Quotes A Section

[00:22:57] [SPEAKER_01]: And Says Do You Hate Your Kids Or Just Love The Money

[00:23:00] [SPEAKER_01]: I Mean You Could Pay Someone To Do The Manual Labour

[00:23:03] [SPEAKER_01]: With All That You're Earning

[00:23:04] [SPEAKER_01]: But Your Kids Know You're Choosing A Schedule

[00:23:06] [SPEAKER_01]: That Lets You Avoid Them

[00:23:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Why The Fuck Are You Not Sleeping First

[00:23:10] [SPEAKER_01]: And Actually Being Awake When Your Family Is Home In The Evening

[00:23:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Jonsu Reply To That One

[00:23:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Quotes A Section Saying I'm Making And Saving A Lot More Money

[00:23:19] [SPEAKER_01]: And Then Says I'm A Little Worried About This

[00:23:22] [SPEAKER_01]: It's Not We're Saving A Lot More Money

[00:23:24] [SPEAKER_01]: Hopefully It's Just Wording

[00:23:25] [SPEAKER_01]: But If They Have Separate Finances

[00:23:27] [SPEAKER_01]: And The Hubby Has To Take On Nearly The Full Household Load

[00:23:30] [SPEAKER_01]: So That Obi Can Make Usself More Money

[00:23:33] [SPEAKER_01]: And A Final Comment From Bob Us Or Ranch

[00:23:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Who Says You're The Arsehole

[00:23:36] [SPEAKER_01]: You Basically Abandoned All Your Responsibilities

[00:23:39] [SPEAKER_01]: And Then Claimed You're Too Dumb To Learn How To Do Yard Work

[00:23:42] [SPEAKER_01]: My Neighbor Has One Arm And She Moes Her Own Lawn

[00:23:45] [SPEAKER_01]: I Can Give You A Number If You Need Tips

[00:23:47] [SPEAKER_01]: How Could You Possibly Say It Doesn't Sound Like A Fair Division Of Labour

[00:23:51] [SPEAKER_01]: It Sounds Like You Don't Do Anything At Home To Help With The Kids

[00:23:54] [SPEAKER_01]: What Do You Mean Division When It's Only Him Doing It All

[00:23:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Taking A Night Shift Seems To Be A Good Thing For You At The Expense Of Your Family

[00:24:01] [SPEAKER_01]: You're A Selfish Spouse

[00:24:04] [SPEAKER_01]: You're The Arsehole

[00:24:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Eerie, Dairy Me

[00:24:07] [SPEAKER_01]: But Now I'm Going To Turn This One To You Guys

[00:24:10] [SPEAKER_01]: What Do You Guys Make Of This Situation

[00:24:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Let Me Know Your Thoughts Down In The Comments Below

[00:24:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Now Just A Huge Thank You From The Bottom Of My Heart

[00:24:19] [SPEAKER_01]: For Getting Involved In Today's Stories

[00:24:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Your Love, Your Support, Your Time

[00:24:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Always Means The Absolute World To Me

[00:24:25] [SPEAKER_01]: So Thank You So So Much

[00:24:26] [SPEAKER_01]: And Hopefully I'll See You In The Next One

[00:24:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Be Bloody Cheeky So And So

[00:24:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Bye To You Love Guys

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