I Cut Off My Sister Financially Due To Her FREELOADING Boyfriend Who She Kept SECRET | r/BestOf
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I Cut Off My Sister Financially Due To Her FREELOADING Boyfriend Who She Kept SECRET | r/BestOf

In today's r/AITAH story, OP discovers that the financial help they've been giving their sister is also supporting her unemployed boyfriend. Feeling taken advantage of, OP cuts her off financially - and now the family drama is exploding.


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[00:00:02] [SPEAKER_00] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit stories. And if you do love a Reddit story, why not consider it a like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. And let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from previousganash8477 from the AmITheArseholeHere subreddit. And it says,

[00:00:26] [SPEAKER_00] AmITheArsehole for cutting off my sister financially after finding out her unemployed boyfriend is benefiting from my money. My sister, 23 female, works as a cashier and earns barely above the minimum wage in our state. So I, 30 male, have been supporting her financially. I pay half her rent and her utilities and regularly send extra money for things like groceries or hair appointments or whatever she needs money for. I never really mind it because I earn about four times what she does.

[00:00:53] [SPEAKER_00] About five months ago, she started asking for money much more often. She always had a reason and I sent her money without question because I want her to feel I will always help her out. Then last week, I ran into her at a club with a guy, Jake, 27 male. She introduced as her boyfriend. When I asked how long they had been together, she said a few months, which surprised me since I knew nothing about it. She got evasive and annoyed when I asked her more questions. That made me uneasy. I just wanted to make sure my sister was with someone decent, you know.

[00:01:23] [SPEAKER_00] So I called one of her friends the next day and asked about Jake. The friend didn't have a high opinion of Jake. She told me Jake has basically been unemployed for over two years because he can't keep a job. He moved in with my sister four months ago after they had only been dating for a month. He stays home while my sister goes to work and isn't really doing much to get a job. I knew nothing about this. I've been paying rent for an apartment he lives in without contributing anything.

[00:01:48] [SPEAKER_00] I also realized that my sister's increased request for money lined up with when he moved in with her, which means most of it has probably been going to him. I confronted my sister about it. She said she didn't tell me about the relationship because it was still developing. I told her I would stop covering half the rent going forward since she now has a roommate who should pay the other half. I will still pay the utilities, but I'm cutting back on any extra cash. She got upset and asked how she was supposed to manage on her income.

[00:02:15] [SPEAKER_00] I pointed out that she now has a partner. Surely he can subsidize. She told me he does not have a job. I responded maybe it was time he got serious about finding one. I made it clear I didn't trust the guy. Someone being comfortable depending on her so early in the relationship felt like he was taking advantage. She accused me of being judgmental, saying he's just going through a rough patch and needs her support until he can get back up.

[00:02:39] [SPEAKER_00] She also accused me of trying to control her life because I help her out financially and have no right to meddle in her personal life. We have not spoken in days and now I feel conflicted. I genuinely believe he is using her and she's using my support to enable it. I'm not trying to control her life, but I don't like her being taken advantage of. Am I the arsehole? Edits. Apparently people are shocked that I gave her so much support. My sister and I got closer following the death of our parents a few years ago and have taken care of her since.

[00:03:09] [SPEAKER_00] I've never minded until now, but perhaps it's time she learns to find her own footing. You know, Opie initially helping out his sister out of love after they lost their parents and he stepped up. I think that's a lovely thing and I think if one of my brothers was in a situation where I felt like I could help them, I absolutely would. But now it feels like it's gone so far that he's just being taken advantage of. And of course, Opie's absolutely right to be concerned about what's going on.

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_00] Jake enters into the picture who hasn't held a job for two years, moved in after a month of dating. And I mean, she must have known that Opie wasn't going to be happy about the situation. Hence, it's been kept a secret for months. But it also becomes difficult because if you want to maintain this relationship with your sister, if you push back on her, you're going to push her closer to Jake basically, aren't you? Now, I'm not suggesting that Opie suck it up and be taken advantage of further because that's absolutely not the way. But maybe there's a conversation to be had here. But then again, maybe not.

[00:04:06] [SPEAKER_00] But a commenter says, I wouldn't be paying utilities either. Affectionate Draw says, nope, Opie is being had. Jaylan 2004 says, absolutely. He doesn't make much money. Four times the minimum wage. He shouldn't have been helping so much even when it was just her. The problem with handouts is that nine times out of ten, the recipient isn't appreciative and begins to feel entitled. Classic ad says, your sister found herself a hobosexual. You need to be firm with her. No rent money, no extra money.

[00:04:36] [SPEAKER_00] And starting next month, no utility money. Restaurants, cleaning services, grocery stores and food delivery companies are always hiring. Jake could get a job if he wanted. He doesn't. I agree with you. She has a boyfriend slash roommate and he can pay his half of everything. I bet the increase in money requests wasn't just for food. They were also for his cell phone, gaming subscription and new clothes. Maybe even his car payments, gas and insurance. You weren't just helping her. You were outright paying for him. Your sister basically stole from you.

[00:05:06] [SPEAKER_00] Time to turn off the money tap. Permanently. Do you really think this is the first time she lied about supporting a deadbeat boyfriend? So it was two months later that OP did update the post and says, I don't know if anyone still cares but it's been almost two months since my first post and thought I would post an update after recent developments because a couple of people have been asking me about it. Following my post and your comments, I decided to follow through with my decision to stop paying half the rent for my sister as well as half the utilities.

[00:05:35] [SPEAKER_00] It was a terrible feeling honestly. I felt like I was failing the promise I made to her to always be there for her after our parents' death. I tried texting her a couple of times to check on her but her answers were always very cold and passive aggressive about just how happy she was with her homosexual boyfriend. Thanks Reddit. I resorted to getting updates from a friend, the one who told me about Jake, until my sister found out and crashed out on her and called her a traitor. Apparently Jake convinced her to cut her friend off for being toxic and she did.

[00:06:04] [SPEAKER_00] She called me and told me to stop trying to meddle in her life since I refused to help her anymore. I decided to give her the space she wanted and I didn't hear anything from her over the last three weeks or so. But a week ago, a friend called me and told me my sister was at her place and she needed me. She gave me a rundown of what had happened. My sister and Jake broke up after weeks of arguments over Jake's spending habits and the fact that he still didn't have a job. She found out he lied about applying to a few jobs and confronted him about it. During their fight, he shoved her to the ground.

[00:06:34] [SPEAKER_00] I would like to say at this point that she came back to her senses, but that's not what happened. She allowed him to sweet talk and guilt trip her until she returned from work to find him trying to sneak another woman out of the apartment. When she confronted him, he got aggressive towards her again and she finally told him to get out. Jake refused, but he apparently has occupant rights after having lived there for so long, seven months. So she left and went back to her friend's place, which was when she told her everything. I drove over there immediately. My sister could barely look at me because she was ashamed.

[00:07:04] [SPEAKER_00] She kept apologizing, not realizing I was only trying to protect her and I told her to stop. She brought up how Jake wouldn't leave and I told her we could file a restraining order against him for assault. She didn't want to do it at first, but we managed to convince her that that was the fastest way to get him out of the apartment. We went and had the order filed the next day and we were granted a temporary protective order. Thankfully, Jake didn't try to fight it after it was served to him. Though I suppose he didn't have a choice. It's been a calm few days and we've since had a conversation about what comes next.

[00:07:34] [SPEAKER_00] She's going to find a smaller place with her roommate which will cost her less than her current apartment. I'm not going to subsidize her monthly anymore, but I'm not abandoning her either. I'll help her out if it's something she's genuinely having difficulty handling herself, but she has to try and live within her means. I don't think she was happy about it, but she accepted. They also mentioned that if she would like to go back to school and better her job prospects, I would help her out. She says she'll consider it. Sorry for the long post, but writing this was very therapeutic for me.

[00:08:03] [SPEAKER_00] Thanks for all the advice on my first post. Hopefully my sister has matured a bit from this experience. Commodore says, Contribution says, Nope. Unless she actually and is truly no contact, plus file a police report, there will always be 99% of chances she goes back into the same cycle. Alpha Dog says, There is a difference between changing the help you provide and abandoning someone. Your sister is lucky with a brother like you.

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_00] And now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. And let's move on to another story. Now our next story comes from JustNoSO and AmIOverreacting subreddit. It's got a trigger warning on it of messing with someone's food and bullying and generally gross. So if you're eating on this one, you may want to skip it. Totally up to you. But just to say you've been warned.

[00:08:59] [SPEAKER_00] It's from WhoTheFDidIMarry who says, I lost respect for my SO after a disgusting prank at work that crossed the line. Keeping this vague for privacy and throw away account for obvious reasons. My SO, significant other, recently told me about a situation at their job. A co-worker accidentally left behind a food item and asked another co-worker to drop it off at their house. Not that it really matters, but thankfully the food item was still sealed and unopened.

[00:09:28] [SPEAKER_00] My SO suggested dunking the item in a public restroom toilet as a joke before returning it. The other co-worker actually did it and the item was given back without the person knowing. My SO told me the story like it was funny. I was disturbed. It feels immature at best and unethical at worst. Just because no one technically likes this co-worker that doesn't justify doing what they did. Since starting this job, I feel like my SO's maturity level has regressed significantly.

[00:09:56] [SPEAKER_00] I'm losing respect and questioning our future over the shift I'm seeing. Am I overreacting to see this as a serious character issue? OP adds, apparently this co-worker is secretly hated by everyone, doesn't make it any better. I could never fathom doing that to anyone, no matter how much I didn't like them. Another one questions, has he always had behavioral issues like this? OP says, it's annoying because he'd always come home and tell me how immature all of the employees are there, etc.

[00:10:25] [SPEAKER_00] But then he slowly started showing signs of the same immaturity he was describing. This absolutely floored me and completely changed the way I viewed him as a person. Hence the username. This is not the person I married. So the next day, OP came in with another post saying, my SO gave a co-worker the idea to dunk another employee's food in the public toilet as a prank and it was carried out. SO thought it was funny. I'm disturbed by the ethics, the risk to his job and what feels like a major decline in their maturity since starting this job.

[00:10:54] [SPEAKER_00] We have children and this behavior puts our financial stability at major risk. Update, hours after calmly explaining how this behavior could affect our family was acknowledged and hours later, they completely dismissed what I said in writing, sent a message to another co-worker higher up than them about wanting to knock that same co-worker's teeth out of their mouth. Immaturity is beyond repair. I plan on setting them down tonight and potentially discussing a trial separation until they can get their shit together. I am officially done.

[00:11:24] [SPEAKER_00] Hope he answers the comment, what really sucks is that you can be with a person for years and you think everything is great and then you have a kid and shit goes sideways. Electric Cookie says, that's not a prank, that's a poisoning. A prank is cutting up an apple and sticking it in an orange peel. Dipping someone's food in toilet water is an act that can reasonably lead to sickness. It's a violation of someone else's bodily autonomy. Do you want your children learning this is appropriate behavior? Hope he says, not at all. That's why there needs to be consequences

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_00] and I am seriously reconsidering my life choices. Another commenter says, or he could be like me. It's not good either way. But before I learn to stop, I would desire friendship and camaraderie so much. I'd become like the people who accepted me, even the awful ones. The difference here seems to be that he, they, participated instead of just standing by and letting it happen. I don't know. I just know the behavior is crap. Hope he says, what helped you stop the behavior?

[00:12:21] [SPEAKER_00] I'm proud of you for realizing it and doing something to stop it. The behavior is more than crap. It's embarrassing. We are well into our 30s and you would think that having children that you need to provide for would be the forefront of all your decisions, especially when you're in a professional setting. Another commenter says, are you going to report him to the co-worker that was abused or to his company? Hope you reply saying, seriously considering it after I get my finances in order. I'm morally outraged. Like the shock still hasn't worn off. Another little trigger warning because I'm just,

[00:12:51] [SPEAKER_00] I'm coming back after I've told my little section comment story thing and just giving you a trigger warning. I'm just about to tell something that's grim, maybe even more grim that happened in a workplace that I heard about, I heard a story about. So, you know, please feel free to skip it. It is disgusting. I'm sorry I have to relate to this story in some way, but I remember a story that I was told before. I started working at this warehouse. I'd been there for some time at this point and the manager was telling me what happened to him and this warehouse had a lot of delivery drivers

[00:13:20] [SPEAKER_00] from different companies turned up all the time. They would come in when they're, you know, being unloaded with a forklift or whatever and they would go and get a coffee and apparently this particular delivery driver and one of the warehouse men that was there didn't like the manager and basically this delivery driver and I feel disgusted in saying this and this is third-hand knowledge, but apparently this delivery driver rubbed a part of himself around the rim of the manager's glass, drinking glass, and basically the information got around from the warehouse man who witnessed it was telling another warehouse man about it

[00:13:50] [SPEAKER_00] and that warehouse man told the manager and it all escalated from there. The driver got sacked. The warehouse man got pushed out because he couldn't officially be a sack because he wasn't the one that did it, but he eventually got pushed out. I don't know if anything legal happened. I never asked that much because I was just like in shock when I was being told. I was like, what the fuck? But OP did come in with another update and said no amount of calmly explaining or simplifying how inappropriate his behavior has been since starting this new job has made him understand. I had a very blunt and direct conversation

[00:14:19] [SPEAKER_00] with my SO about how unacceptable his actions were at work. As expected, he deflected and made excuses. I shut that down immediately. For anyone who does not know the context, my SO suggested to a co-worker that they should dunk another co-worker's sealed food item into a public toilet. When I confronted him about how disgusting and serious that was, he doubled down and sent a written message joking about assaulting the same individual to his boss. The boss is equally immature, if not worse.

[00:14:48] [SPEAKER_00] Here are the excuses he gave. He was on the clock, but the co-worker who actually tampered with the food was off the clock. The co-worker who followed through has a mental disability and took the joke too seriously. The head boss talks like that all the time, so he did not see the harm in doing the same. The co-worker whose food was tampered with is an alleged drug user, so he feels no empathy towards them. Other co-workers were also suggesting ways to tamper with the food. None of that changes the fact that this happened at work.

[00:15:18] [SPEAKER_00] None of it changes the fact that he is the sole provider for our family and our children. None of it excuses risking our financial security over middle school level behavior. Since starting this job, this level of immaturity has come out of nowhere. What concerns me the most is that he does not fear consequences because he believes the co-worker will never find out. He does not believe there will be illegal or professional repercussions. He does not know that when I'm financially able to, I plan to inform the employee about what happened. I've sacrificed everything

[00:15:47] [SPEAKER_00] to be a stay-at-home mother. I do not have my own income. I do not have a village. So for him to claim the weight of being the sole provider while actively putting our livelihood at risk feels like a slap in the face. My focus is my children. I said what I needed to say. What he chooses to do from here will determine his own future. I made it clear that this behavior is divorce-worthy. I cannot leave immediately because I will not make my children homeless. But I'm done tolerating this. I find a way to create income and stability for myself one way or another.

[00:16:17] [SPEAKER_00] I am done. The way Bit says been following this. I think it's got to the point where you need to consult a lawyer and not Reddit keyboard lawyers if this is true. Opie says I'm hoping I can find a lawyer in my area that can give me a free consultation. And you can't blame Opie at all for feeling that way. You know, it's not just about the prank itself and the prank is bad enough don't get me wrong but it's all the excuses the deflection afterwards instead of stepping back and thinking geez that's fucked up. Just trying to excuse it. You know,

[00:16:47] [SPEAKER_00] my boss does it or the victim probably does drugs and it just sounds like Opie's seen enough and it's checked out. Which again, you cannot blame them for but what do you guys make of this situation? Bloody hell. Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story. Now our next story comes from PuppyProblems23 from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit. And it says Am I the Arsehole for getting our neighborhood dog Olympics cancelled? I understand

[00:17:15] [SPEAKER_00] that this is a silly issue to have but it's an issue we have and I need advice. Five to six years ago my HOA decided our neighborhood is boring and encouraged people to come up with ideas and activities to liven things up. This my pup Olympics was born. It's just the neighborhood dogs competing poorly in different silly events for two days and being rewarded with treats. Early on there would be prizes for the owners of whichever dog won each event and it really

[00:17:45] [SPEAKER_00] was all fun and games. After a couple of years we started doing a paid entry for each event and the money went towards cash prizes and a donation to a really great local animal shelter where lots of us got our pups. Might be worth it to know that most people in the neighborhood choose to donate their cash prize towards the shelter fund so we usually come up with a pretty great donation. People look forward to the Olympics every year it's ridiculous but it's fun and we all loved it. 18 months ago a new neighbor moved in and she has a poodle

[00:18:14] [SPEAKER_00] who frequently competes in and wins dog competitions. This dog has a million followers on Instagram. We all follow the page and obviously root for this dog in the competitions. No issue with the dog itself. However it ruined Pup Olympics last year. This dog swept every single competition. There is literally one event for senior dogs that it didn't qualify for and that's the only one that this poodle didn't win. We all just kind of stood there for two days and gave cash prizes to the same woman for every event.

[00:18:44] [SPEAKER_00] To make matters worse, she also didn't donate a single extra penny to the shelter fund. Bonus am I the arsehole or if I'm wrong for being judgy here. This has taken an event for families and kinds and turned it into something it was never meant to be. It's like having a professional athlete compete at a high school field day. So Pup Olympics are happening soon but this year my committee decided on no competition dogs rule to make it more fair to the other owners and families. The poodle owner got notice of this and has gone ballistic.

[00:19:13] [SPEAKER_00] Our HOA had a committee meeting and decided in her favor that we couldn't exclude her or a dog if you wanted to have the competition in the neighborhood. I thought about it and then just went ahead and sent a cancellation notice out. Somebody from the HOA board tried to pull it back together but it just isn't getting much interest. Now the poodle owner has sent me multiple vindictive messages implying that I did this to her to her personally and the neighborhood is split 50-50 on who was in the wrong. So am I the yasole? I think OP's comparison was

[00:19:43] [SPEAKER_00] absolutely right. It's like having a professional athlete compete at a high school field day and you know from the poodle owner's perspective I'd be embarrassed and don't get me wrong I understand that this person probably puts a lot into their dog, works for their dog every that kind of stuff and is very proud of their dog and wants to show it off. I get that and maybe like one competition you'd win but winning all of them, taking all the money for all of them and getting mad that people are upset with it?

[00:20:13] [SPEAKER_00] It's just come on read the fucking room man. Like OP said it's a fun event for the neighborhood families kids are involved and they wanted to show their dogs off too with a chance to possibly win. To take that away from them I just don't get it. The commenter said to OP not the arsehole. If you had a race for neighborhood kids and an Olympic gold medalist runner showed up to enter that'd be an arsehole move. This is no different and the fact that the owner can't understand why her precious shouldn't be allowed to dominate the amateur competitions shows

[00:20:42] [SPEAKER_00] a huge lack of awareness. Another commenter says you should change the event so that the show dog can't win. Event 1 pup missing the most teeth. Event 2 pup that gets the messiest while eating. Pie plate filled with peanut butter and whipped cream. Event 3 most overweight pup. Event 4 pup with biggest slash smallest footprint. Have pie tins with plaster in it so the pup can make an imprint that the owner can keep after the Olympics. Event 5

[00:21:12] [SPEAKER_00] bobbing for biscuits. Event 6 100 meter squirrel chase. Event 7 speed sniffing. Hide some small scented toys in the play area and time which dog finds the most in the shortest amount of time. Event 8 tug of war. Event 9 50 yard dog paddle. Event 10 wiggle but freestyle. Have the audience vote on the wildness of the wiggles or the most wiggles in one minute. Event 11 best tree hunter. Event 12 freestyle howling.

[00:21:42] [SPEAKER_00] You lot can have a lot of fun thinking up bizarre events that the poodle wouldn't be a shoe in. But the commenter says you are absolutely not the arsehole. I have a suggestion. 1 remove all the cash prizes to people. Have the cash prize for winning go to the shelter instead. This donation courtesy of Brutus Bumble Woof. Best in show. 2 Make a huge deal about second place winners. Another commenter says this person honestly sounds like the majority of people who participate in competition dog stuff of all forms. I have a show dog. He did the

[00:22:12] [SPEAKER_00] show circuits and dealing with the people was hands down the worst part of it. While it wasn't every single person, the vast majority of them were atrocious. The backstabbing was rampant. Constant stories about this person or that person. The awful things one person or another did. The worst part was that while a lot of it was made up, an uncomfortable amount of it was absolutely true. At the dog shows, the stuff people did to the dogs was awful. Someone shoe polished a white dog at one. Another one in Texas had someone going around unplugging a couple of

[00:22:42] [SPEAKER_00] the RVs with dogs in them to knock out their air conditioners. Throughout it, an unusual number of dogs just kept getting sick. My little guy was poisoned at least twice at dog shows. The first time he got the runs for a couple of days, the second time was so bad I had to take him to the vet, it was the one who clued me in on him probably having been fed laxatives. It just wasn't something I would ever have expected. I watched him like a hawk until he met his requirements at the show. He still does competitive stuff, there are rewards but I just do it with him because he enjoys it. Most of the people are

[00:23:11] [SPEAKER_00] still awful but I've been lucky to find enough people in different groups who actually like dogs. I cannot imagine trying to deal with a fun thing and having one of the bad ones show up. It would absolutely ruin it and I agree with you cancelling it. Not the arsehole. Holy shit, I'm kind of like shocked but not surprised at the same time. Like the commenter said, it's not going to be all people but from their experiences that sounds wild, right? The other commenter says not the arsehole, you're volunteers. She can organise her

[00:23:40] [SPEAKER_00] own dog Olympics if it's so important to her and she has so much support. Once something is not fun anymore, you have no obligation to volunteer your time to make it happen. People feel so entitled to volunteers energy and effort sometimes. I run a number of volunteers situations. The largest one is a farmer's market that happens on Sundays. There is one lady who complains ad nauseum that it should be on Saturdays instead so she can attend. However, the market is 15 years old and has always been on a Sunday.

[00:24:10] [SPEAKER_00] There is another local competing market that happens on Saturday. Most of our vendors attend both markets. Our volunteers prefer Sunday, etc, etc. There are countless reasons not to change it. Every time she brings it up I tell her warmly that I'd love it if she wants to organise a Saturday market. I cannot help her nor can our current team of volunteers but if there is a strong preference as she says, she'll have no trouble finding a team and vendors. Good luck to her. Opie starts adding some information and says, I didn't have space in the post but to

[00:24:39] [SPEAKER_00] clarify, deciding to cancel was more of a long story short after four days of meetings with this woman to try and come up with something agreeable. First, I offered to do a couple of categories for more serious competition dogs but was told by the HOA that I'm not allowed to host any kind of events that make it seem like any part of this is a real dog competition. Then I tried to restrict how many events each dog can enter and she wanted that number to be 8. out of 10 events, she wanted 8. That was the number she got the HOA board to agree with her on and they basically told me that if I couldn't

[00:25:09] [SPEAKER_00] let that happen, then I couldn't host a competition. Opie also says, to be clear, I'm only really upset that she didn't donate any of it back because if she hadn't swept the entire competition, others would have won and done so. Also not sure how relevant but the process to accept cash prizes and choose to donate back or not is completely anonymous. I built a website myself to do this, so there is no pressure. I only know that she chose not to because last year was the first year where absolutely none of it was donated back. Opie also says, to someone else,

[00:25:39] [SPEAKER_00] good question, the emails and flyers went out this year and last, definitely emphasize that this is for fun, just for laughs and not a serious dog competition. The benefits side of it also is clear. There's a paragraph about the shelter itself and how important it is to the community and how this time of year they need more supplies because donations start to fall off in the summer months because there is less volunteers to help with the animals. I can't imagine any reasonable person thinking that this was anything even remotely serious. It's just a bunch of

[00:26:08] [SPEAKER_00] dogs being doofy. And Opie comes in with their update and says, thanks for input everybody. Seems like most people agree. Others say that I took it too far was just cancelling. Oh well, I work a full-time job that has nothing to do with this and I have my own life. This was supposed to be a casual one weekend a year thing that was for fun for the neighborhood. Food Loaner made it not fun and when I tried to negotiate it just became exhausting. I spend a fair bit of my own money to decorate, set things

[00:26:37] [SPEAKER_00] up and feed people for this event. Instead, I'll be cutting a check to the animal shelter directly and adding a little more so it matches our typical yearly donation. There was a couple of people suggesting offering cash prizes causes this kind of thing. But still, there's a human behind this who's making these decisions, who's making it, you know, shit for everyone else basically. And I just find that incredibly sad. There just must be like no self-awareness. Someone's trying to do something lovely for your neighborhood to bring people together, to bring kids,

[00:27:07] [SPEAKER_00] families together. You know, you can turn up with your show dog and still be a part of it, maybe win an event and take a step back and realize, you know, there's other people here who's proud of their dogs too and maybe win. I really like the commenter about, you know, having special events like the older dogs, etc. The pie stuff, the biggest paw print. Trying to think of an event that Poppy would be good at, to be quite honest. But I can't think of much apart from falling asleep really fast. Bless her, she's a little menace, isn't she? But I turn this to you

[00:27:37] [SPEAKER_00] guys. What event would you add to this dog Olympics? What wild event do you think would be good? And would your dog be good at it? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Now just a huge thank you for being here today, getting involved in the stories, your love, your support, your time. It always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so, so much for being here. Truly, it's absolutely amazing and hopefully we're going to see you in the next one. Take care and much love.