Fiancee Wants Me To Return My DREAM WEDDING DRESS To Help Fund Her Sister

[00:00:02] [SPEAKER_00] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark B and today we're checking out some more Reddit stories. And if you do love a Reddit story, why not consider hitting that like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. And let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys.

[00:00:20] [SPEAKER_00] Now our first story comes from a throw away account and it says, am I the arsehole here, for refusing to return my dream wedding dress just so my fiance can pay for her sister to spend the night at the bed and breakfast for free. Bloody hell. I, 27 female, and my fiance Rose, 28 female, are due to get married in spring of 2027. She's the love of my life and my best friend and I can't think of anyone better than I am.

[00:00:50] [SPEAKER_00] It's better to marry than her. About a week ago, we found our dream venue. It comes with an outdoor venue and an indoor reception for an extra $1,096 per night. We can rent an entire bed and breakfast house for the wedding party as well. Rose and I fell in love with this venue instantly and we put $2,550 down payment on it for our date. For the bed and breakfast, as it was a little out of our price range, we asked our bridesmaids if they chose

[00:01:20] [SPEAKER_00] to stay overnight to chip in $100 for one night or $200 for two nights and if they couldn't afford it, that's alright and they didn't have to stay. We would be accommodating and see them at the rehearsal dinner and wedding preparation time. We have six bridesmaids total. Three for me and three for Rose. All of the bridesmaids who chose to stay said they're chipping for their nights there and agreed that was a fair deal.

[00:01:46] [SPEAKER_00] My parents are also staying and chipping in $200 as well. Fast forward to yesterday, I bought my dream wedding dress for $3,000 and $400 for the veil. My dress is completely covered in glitter with rhinestones attached to the sweetheart necklace bodice. The veil also had little rhinestones attached to it. I felt amazing and beautiful in it.

[00:02:09] [SPEAKER_00] I won't share the picture as I'm not married yet. I've been saving for my dress for 10 years and I had my dream dress in mind since I was 5 years old. Well this morning, Rose's sister and bridesmaid Lucy, 24 female, texted Rose and said that she couldn't afford to stay at the hotel. Lucy is a student in college and I understand for students money is tight. I was once a student myself.

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_00] Boy, do I know. Rose is also already buying Lucy's bridesmaid's dress and also buying her meal at our bridal party for our bridesmaids to meet. This is important. I asked Rose to remind Lucy that she doesn't have to stay if she can't afford it. Rose said, I know but my sister lives about 3 hours away. She'll need a place to stay. I told her, I understand. How about she stays at a cheaper hotel nearby? I found one for $86 a night.

[00:03:04] [SPEAKER_00] Rose didn't answer and then she texted Lucy, offering to pay for her stay at the bed and breakfast. I told Rose, Honey, we can't afford that. That is over our budget. You're already buying her dress and paying for her dinner for the bridal party. We can't afford to have her stay. Especially since I just bought my wedding dress for $3,000. Rose responded with, Spending that much on a dress is ridiculous. If you return it and bought a cheaper dress from Amazon,

[00:03:32] [SPEAKER_00] we can afford to let Lucy stay at the bed and breakfast. I was shocked. I sat there frozen for a good 2 minutes before I could get my next words out. I said, I've been saving up for this dress for 10 years. I will not be returning it for a bridesmaid who, 1. isn't even in my party and 2. not paying for a dress or bridal party meal. If she's saving $200 on her bridesmaid's dress and $40 on her meal because you're buying it,

[00:03:57] [SPEAKER_00] she can save $200 for 2 nights at the bed and breakfast that is over 1 year from now. She has time to save. Rose got mad and walked away. Now I feel like an arsehole, but I will not return my dress for someone who isn't chipping into the party at all. Sometimes I feel like Lucy is using Rose for money. It costs money to be a bridesmaid and me and Rose are spending so much on Lucy that we have to cut back on our wedding expenses just to help Lucy, which to me isn't fair.

[00:04:26] [SPEAKER_00] So am I the arsehole here for not returning my wedding dress so my fiancé's sister can stay at the bed and breakfast for free? P.S. I saved a total of $25,000 for my wedding. Rose saved $10,000. Our wedding itself costs $34,000. The spare $1,000 was meant to go towards our honeymoon in Greece, but is being used up on Lucy. Now, of course, not the arsehole for having to return your dream wedding dress. I think that's just absolutely ridiculous.

[00:04:55] [SPEAKER_00] But if we look at the bigger picture here, this isn't about the dress or the bed and breakfast as usual. This is like about Rose expecting you to get rid of your dream wedding dress because she can't set boundaries with her own sister. It sounds like you've already looked into alternatives, finding cheaper alternatives and, you know, being flexible about attendance and stuff like that. But I can't help but look at that line where Rose responded to you with spending that much on a dress is ridiculous.

[00:05:23] [SPEAKER_00] If you just return it and bought a cheap address from Amazon, we can afford to let Lucy stare at the bed and breakfast. And I'm like, ooh, you're getting married. Need to think here because you need to really have a chat about whether you're on the same page, about your money, your boundaries as well, and what your priorities are. Because rather than shutting your sister down, she'd rather you take back your dream wedding dress. That's wild in my opinion.

[00:05:54] [SPEAKER_00] I'm just thinking about putting myself in Opie's shoes. One of my brothers comes up to me. They can't afford to come to my wedding. You know, finances are tough, whatever. And for me in this position, I love my brothers to bits. They would do absolutely anything for me. So now if I wanted them at a special day, which would mean a lot to me and they genuinely couldn't afford it. They're great people. No other issues around it. And they were genuinely struggling, you know, not gold diggers or anything like that. You know, great people.

[00:06:21] [SPEAKER_00] I'd be talking to my partner to try and find a way to have them there because, you know, I love them to bits. Do I think that's what's happening in this situation? Probably not. But it'd be interesting to know what you think about this one as well. Artistic Tough says, If you can't figure this out before you get married, you should rethink what each of you wants and how you will work through disagreements. Opie says, Rose and I walk away when we get upset so we don't resort to yelling.

[00:06:50] [SPEAKER_00] When we calm down and get our head straight, we talk it out. We are both survivors of abusive parents and we're both in therapy. Both of our therapists suggested walking away. We always work it out in the end.

[00:07:31] [SPEAKER_00] Misty Sky says, No, this isn't usual at all. That's why I was so shocked. She's always been very supportive and helpful. I know that she loves this sister above her other siblings. But she's never said something like this before. I've been thinking it's wedding stress. Purple says, Specialist says, Everyone sucks here. No, you don't have to return the dress.

[00:08:01] [SPEAKER_00] But this is her sister and she's a student. $200 is a ton of money for a student. Find a way to help her. So Opie does come in with an update and says, So I spoke with my fiance and we talked it out. Rose says she texted her sister that she won't be paying for the stay at the hotel and that she can stay at grandma's if she can't afford it. Rose apologized to me and said she was just trying to be a good big sister,

[00:08:27] [SPEAKER_00] but she admitted she should have spoken to me about it before making a decision with her sister. She also told her sister that she can't afford to pay for the hotel and her sister would have to pay her back for the bridesmaid's dress. Lucy didn't like this. She was upset and threw a tantrum, screaming at Rose, I'm a student. I can't afford to be a bridesmaid. This is ridiculous. If you can spend $34k on a wedding, you can afford my dress and paying for the bed and breakfast. Rose started crying.

[00:08:57] [SPEAKER_00] Being yelled at triggers her, so I grabbed the phone and told Lucy off. I said the $34k is for our wedding. We saved it up for us, not you. If you knew you couldn't afford to be a bridesmaid, why did you even accept? It isn't our responsibility to buy your dress, dinner, or stay at the bed and breakfast. What about Rose's bachelorette party? Was she just going to leave the price to a maid of honor and other bridesmaids? Lucy hung up without saying anything, then text Rose, I don't like your fiance.

[00:09:27] [SPEAKER_00] I think you should leave her. Sad as when Rose lost it on her sister. I saw her vigorously typing back, her cheeks red with anger. So cute by the way. After she finished and sent it, I read the text. The text said, good thing you're not marrying her then. Thanks to my name, I've learned to stand up for myself. I'm not leaving her. I love her. She's been pointing out for a while how you only contact me when you need money, and it ends now.

[00:09:54] [SPEAKER_00] You chose to buy a house you can barely afford while being in school. If you can't afford to be a bridesmaid, then resign. Goodbye. It was a little aggressive, but she's still practicing healthy ways to respond when she's standing up for herself. I'm glad she realized her mistake. Also, I do want to clear some things up. One, just because it's only $200, and Rose and I could save that for one year as well, doesn't mean we should pay for Lucy.

[00:10:21] [SPEAKER_00] It is Lucy's responsibility to pay for her part as the bridesmaid. Two, she isn't the only one who wouldn't be staying at the bed and breakfast. One of my bridesmaids couldn't afford it and chose to stay at home and see us at the rehearsal and wedding dress-up time. It's funny how she didn't have an issue, but Lucy does. Three, we aren't buying the bed and breakfast if the bridesmaids can't afford to stay. It isn't in our budget, so we asked our bridesmaids to chip in if they wanted to stay overnight for two nights.

[00:10:51] [SPEAKER_00] Four, I also found a cheaper hotel in the area for $54 a night. Sister-in-law still doesn't want to spend that money, even though she can easily save for that. That is when Rose put her foot down with her sister and basically told her to pay for her share or resign as a bridesmaid. Five, I also found out that Rose has been sending about $200 a month to Lucy without my knowledge for the past year from our mutual friends. I make more than Rose does for our jobs.

[00:11:19] [SPEAKER_00] I also want to make it clear that when I talked to Rose, I only said that she should talk to her sister about saving $200 for the bed and breakfast. Had no idea Rose was going to take back buying the dress. Rose made that choice by herself. Hopey also added this comment below one of the others, saying, My partner changed her mind on buying the dress, not me. And she changed her mind based on me pointing out that her sister might be using her for money.

[00:11:46] [SPEAKER_00] Rose already sends about $200 a month to her sister out of our mutual fund, even though we rent a two-bedroom apartment and her sister owns a full house. Lucy seems to be a gold digger. We can't afford to pay for our lives and her sister. And I only highlighted that comment because I wanted to comment on the update when it said about Rose has been like secretly funneling $200 a month from your joint funds to Lucy for a year.

[00:12:16] [SPEAKER_00] Which is, again, I find absolutely wild that you find out. And what, you're just going to move past that? Because that seems pretty big in itself to me, especially seeing as you're about to get married. And to me, just comes across as a massive breach of trust. She'd been secretly doing so. Sure, in this update, she seemed to have stood up for herself and told her sister exactly where she stands. But, this still is a big thing to me.

[00:12:45] [SPEAKER_00] But what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. And let's move on to another story. Now our next story comes from a deleted user and says, am I the asshole for breaking up with my fiance over an ultimatum over my ring? This is my first time posting here. So, I'm sorry if I make any mistakes and throw away because my ex knows my main. For context, I, 34 female,

[00:13:15] [SPEAKER_00] was married before to my childhood sweetheart. We started dating at 16 and got married at 20. He passed away when we were 25. And I haven't dated anyone until two years ago when I met my ex-fiance, 38 male. Let's call him Matthew for the sake of the post. I told him about my late husband and made it clear for me, his family was still my family. And I visit the cemetery at least twice a month to clean and stuff. He agreed. And after he proposed,

[00:13:43] [SPEAKER_00] he wanted to go to the cemetery with me to pay his respects. Anyway, I still wore my wedding ring until my fiance proposed. And to be honest, I wasn't ready to part with my ring. And I was talking about it with my mother-in-law and she gave me a gold necklace and told me to put my wedding ring there. And I did. I was very happy with my new necklace. And when I got home, Matthew realized I only have his engagement ring on me. And was very happy and said, finally decided to get rid of the other one.

[00:14:13] [SPEAKER_00] And I said, of course not. And showed him the necklace. And he changed the subject. Fast forward 10 days ago. I was going to wash my hair. So I take off the necklace and put it on the nightstand. And after I got the bathroom, I realized Matthew wasn't home anymore. But I thought he went on a walk to the supermarket or something. And I dried my hair and I went to sleep. The next morning, I tried to put my necklace back on, but I couldn't find it. I panicked and started crying. And I made a mess everywhere trying to find it.

[00:14:42] [SPEAKER_00] I called Matthew and he didn't answer. I left voicemails. And after two hours, he came home and found me crying and our apartment a mess. He asked what happened. And I told him I lost my ring. He helped me look for it. And after a while, he told me where to eventually find it and made me some tea to calm me down. Well, Matthew's mom called me last Wednesday and asked if she could come visit. I said yes. After some small talk, she got quiet and then said, I came here to return something,

[00:15:12] [SPEAKER_00] but you must not tell Matthew about it. Then she took my ring out of her purse and handed it to me. Once again, I started sobbing, holding my ring and she just consoled me. After I calmed down a bit, she said Matthew went to her house a couple of days ago and asked if he could keep something at her house because it was a surprise and he didn't want me to find out. And she said yes and to put it in a drawer with her things. When she went to look for her reading glasses, in the drawer, she saw a little box

[00:15:41] [SPEAKER_00] and got curious and opened it. She said she immediately recognized my ring because it's unique and I showed her before, so she grabbed it and came to find me. She said she doesn't understand why he did that or what he wanted to do with the ring, but she knew it is not right and I'd be devastated. She asked me not to tell him. She gave me the ring back and said she'd support me with whatever I wanted to do. I didn't even have to think about it. I packed all my shit and went to my mom's house.

[00:16:10] [SPEAKER_00] I blocked him everywhere, although I thought about leaving a note or something, but I didn't think he deserves it after what he did. I only left his ring behind and left. I've been at my mom's since she lives in another city. Matthew's been trying to contact me ever since, calling every single person he knows who has my number, including my mom. My mom and my brother are full on my side and told him they didn't know about me but my friends are pressuring me into talking to him, but none of them knows what he did.

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_00] I'm planning on changing my phone number or something because I can't handle it anymore. My mother-in-law told me to go stay with her for a while because my ex would most likely come to look for me at my moms or brothers. I think I'll do that because I feel so tired but at the same time, I'm started to question if I handled it the right way or if I was being immature or something. I'll add a little edit here because some people are repeating the same thing. I think some of you try to relate losing a spouse and breaking up with somebody is not the same in a sense.

[00:17:09] [SPEAKER_00] I don't think any widow or widower out there ever stops loving their late spouse. Do I need therapy? Maybe, maybe, but don't we all. And for the people who think I never gave Matthew his place, I'll leave this here. I talked to him and told him to talk to me if something bothers him. When we moved in together, he asked me if I could not bring all the pictures I had with my late husband and I agreed. He asked if I could visit the cemetery less frequently and I did. He never asked me to take my ring off and when I showed him the ring

[00:17:38] [SPEAKER_00] in the little chain, he said, okay, five-minute crafts and said it's actually cute as a pendant. I don't know what else he wanted from me. I never dismissed or ridiculed any of his concerns or feelings. I was always willing to talk openly about anything if he decided not to talk to me about it. There's not really anything I can do. Nah, absolutely breakup worthy in my opinion and it's brutal at the same time. Matthew just didn't just take the ring.

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_00] He watched OP have a complete breakdown looking for it whilst pretending to help her look at the same time whilst he knew exactly where it was and let her keep suffering. That's just cruel. And you know, she's already tried to compromise everything for OP. Moved the ring to a necklace, fewer cemetery visits, removed photos and he's still not going to accept it and he would never be happy until your deceased husband

[00:18:34] [SPEAKER_00] is completely removed from your life which and the fact that his own mom is so horrified about this that she returned the ring in secret. You know, when a mother-in-law takes your side in these stories, you know that the other person's fucked up, right? The commenter says, not the arsehole. He's jealous of your deceased husband. He's insane. Please seek therapy to find the peace you deserve. If you value your friends, tell them what he did. If they are true friends, they will immediately understand

[00:19:03] [SPEAKER_00] and side with you. Or is there a reason you don't want to tell friends? OP says, I didn't want to make it an even bigger deal out of it because I'm tired and don't want to talk about it and deep down, I'm scared of listening to others' opinions. I love my friends but I just didn't want to risk them saying things about my late husband or something like that. I think I'm just overthinking everything but I didn't know. Long-winded Ogre says, some people could overlook a bad decision made in a bad moment due to insecurity.

[00:19:32] [SPEAKER_00] I don't know if I could. But then, he lied and helped you look for it. I think that's unforgivable personally. I'm not excusing the insecurity but it's common enough that we shouldn't be surprised when some weak-ass man finds themselves jealous of a dead ex. I don't know how spineless you have to be in order to feel threatened by happy memories and grief. I don't respect it but it is common enough that we have to accept that it happens and it's kind of normal. But lying and pretending to look and offering you empty reassurance when he literally knows

[00:20:02] [SPEAKER_00] you won't find it anywhere? Fucking gross. Not the arsehole. Humble says, dude, tell your friends. He doesn't deserve to get them on his side for his pressure campaign. And I 100% agree, just stay away. What a jealous weirdo and now you know he can just straight up lie to your face while pretending to be concerned and helping you look. Ew. That's just too gross and manipulative to come back from. BBC says, I'm a widower. I wore my wedding ring

[00:20:32] [SPEAKER_00] until I began a relationship. However, I wear my previous wedding ring on a chain around my neck. The new lady knows and accepts my choice. I haven't said all of that. You are not the arsehole. He is. You moved out. Now time to move on. Wishing you the best. One Way says, my mother is a widow. She was 45 when my dad passed away. It took her a long time to take her ring off. I have a friend who lost her childhood slash high school sweetheart in an accident last year.

[00:21:02] [SPEAKER_00] I don't think she will ever take the ring off. I want to first say how proud I am of you for being so courageous to date again. It's also a huge step that you were willing without conversation took your previous engagement ring off and decided to wear it as a necklace. What a beautiful sentiment to your late husband and a chapter of your life that will never be closed because we all know mourning lasts a lifetime. You are not the arse of. It sickens me that someone who wants to spend the rest of their life with you

[00:21:32] [SPEAKER_00] would steal something so important and light your face and help you look for it. He's an emotional terrorist. You walking away was the best choice you could have ever made. He wanted you upset and to pick you back up. He was either never going to give it back or give it back to be the hero. Either is messed up. His mother, bless her, knew how wrong and demented this was and saved you. She could have easily stood by her son and minded her business but she saved you from a lifetime of emotional pain.

[00:22:01] [SPEAKER_00] I'm so, so sorry. Another commenter says you have a right to miss your first husband. You have a right to cherish something from that relationship considering it ending in a tragic way. He has a right to some normalcy in your new relationship with him. He did not have a right to take something so important from you. You, however, have not gotten over the death of your childhood sweetheart. Maybe you never will but it is not fair to a new relationship to hold on to this memory of your first marriage with the strength

[00:22:31] [SPEAKER_00] that you appear to have been doing. Don't get me wrong. Your fiance slash ex seems like a douchebag. He royally fucked up but I surely wouldn't want to be in his shoes in that he fell in love with someone who is still so attached to your deceased loved one. So Opie comes in with an update. They first shared a link to the previous post and then says I wanted to clarify some things before giving the update. First, I miswrote the title the first time but I'm pretty sure I can't change it for the update so it stays like this. For the people saying

[00:23:01] [SPEAKER_00] I don't love my ex-fiance and that I didn't get over my late husband. I don't think you people know how dad's spouse works. He's not an ex. We didn't separate. Do you get over it after a parent or another loved one passed? And those saying I wasn't ready maybe things already happened and I was always honest and willing to compromise with him if he decided he wasn't okay with things he should have left or talked to me about it like adults. I first of all contacted all of my friends

[00:23:30] [SPEAKER_00] and told them what happened. They were obviously shocked and the majority of them backed off after that. I sent a text to everyone that said I didn't want to talk about this but since everyone needs to meddle I'll do it. Matthew decided to steal my ring and hide it from me and when he saw how distressed and heartbroken I was instead of coming clean he helped me look for it and that told me everything I needed to know about him. I'm not looking for advice nor opinions about this. I just wanted my choices to be respected

[00:23:59] [SPEAKER_00] and anybody who commented on it would be blocked. I also contacted Matthew's mom and she said he already knows so I can talk to him freely. I then made my brother contact Matthew to tell him I wanted the chain back and that I was willing to hear his side of the story just for closure because we weren't getting back together no matter what. We met on Thursday. I brought my brother with me for support. When Matthew arrived his eyes started to well up and he wanted to hug me but my brother told him not to even try

[00:24:28] [SPEAKER_00] and to just sit down. He gave me the chain and started to apologize over and over and tried to hold my hand over and over so I just put my hands under the table. I asked him what exactly he wanted to do with my ring and he said he wanted to get rid of it because I was basically still married to a dead man but he couldn't throw it away at the end so a friend of his suggested to make my new wedding ring out of it. He said he was going to get it melted and made a whole new ring out of it so it was some sort of loophole

[00:24:57] [SPEAKER_00] because I was only wearing our new ring but couldn't get mad because it was made out of the original. Not gonna lie I started to tear up because the thought and already coming up with excuses was heartbreaking. He also said that when he saw me panicking he wanted to tell me the truth but realized it would have been worse for him so he pretended to help me look instead. He also admitted that he wasn't okay with me wearing the ring or basically me not pretending like I was never married before.

[00:25:27] [SPEAKER_00] He said he knows I told him if he wasn't okay with things to talk to me or just break up and he said he didn't want to lose me so he kept quiet expecting me to just forget about my late husband and when I didn't he started to resent me even when I compromised with him he said it wasn't enough but he knew talking about it would have ended up in us splitting up so he never said anything. He once again apologized and said he wanted to change and promised to communicate better and he asked if we could get

[00:25:56] [SPEAKER_00] couples counseling before breaking up completely but I declined. I told him I didn't trust him anymore and that he spent a long time lying and pretending so I don't even know what else he was lying about and at this point both of us were crying and he said you really are going to choose a dead man over me. I told him that not really and that this has nothing to do with my late husband and that I was breaking up because he lied deceived manipulated and stole from me so this was about him and his actions

[00:26:26] [SPEAKER_00] not about anything else. My brother and I left and Matthew stayed at the restaurant. He is still blocked everywhere. I decided to go to my mother-in-law's my late husband's mom's house and I'm currently here. My family decided to spend Christmas with her and her family but they still have work so I'm the only one here for now. It feels healing. She has most of my pictures with her son and now I miss him more than ever. I tried to book an appointment with a therapist but she said the earliest appointment she has is early March

[00:26:55] [SPEAKER_00] so I'm still looking for something a little more early like January or early February. I think that it's nothing really dramatic happened but I feel tired and as much as I miss Matthew I don't think I'd be able to just forgive and forget and I feel he deserves someone with a more normal dating history like someone who hates her ex or something. For my part I'd be single for a long time. I don't think I can handle something like this again. I don't really mind being single though. I have an amazing family and great friends.

[00:27:25] [SPEAKER_00] Maybe marrying again is just not on the cards for me and that's okay. That's all. I'm actually excited about Christmas again after a long time. Merry Christmas to you all. And edit hey I just want to let you all know that I found a group therapy in a church. I thought I'd hate it but honestly it was really nice. That is absolutely mad. The audacity of this dude who wasn't just going to hide the ring and then surprise her and say I found it or just keep it away from her forever.

[00:27:54] [SPEAKER_00] He's planning to melt it down and remake it into their wedding ring in some twisted way. Like how did he actually think that was going to go? Like he turns up with this ring and surely if he was going to the effort of taking it away melting it down and having it remade he was going to reveal this information at some point. Do you know what? This is the ring that your deceased husband gave you. That is mad. And then he has the cheek to say so you're choosing the dead man over me. It's like no mate she's choosing just

[00:28:23] [SPEAKER_00] honesty and respect over you stealing from her and trying to manipulate her. Bloody hell. But sufficient ad says I'm glad you're with your mother-in-law and that you're healing. Matthew still doesn't get it. You're choosing a dead man over me. And then says he isn't mature enough to get married. I wish you all the holiday cheer. Beth replies saying he is an exceptionally selfish little boy. Not mature enough for a real relationship. He doesn't want to share his toys

[00:28:53] [SPEAKER_00] like a five-year-old and would rather destroy them. I'd recommend OP find a grief support group since they are more available than therapists. Just to talk it out with others who will understand that bond isn't broken just because the other person is gone. Another commenter says I truly hope grief therapy helps you heal and I agree 100% with your breaking up with Matthew. His feelings were not the issue. His actions based on them were lying, stealing and basically doing all kinds of shady stuff that were very solid

[00:29:22] [SPEAKER_00] red flags. What he should have done was seek a good counselor likely a couple's counselor to help him put his natural human feelings into perspective. What he did was lie to your face steal an irreplaceable item and plan to destroy said item. That is not forgivable. Grief doesn't ever fully go away. But a good therapist will help you put things into perspective. And one more commenter who says So your ex decided that instead of talking to you about how he felt about you keeping

[00:29:52] [SPEAKER_00] your old ring he'd rather A. steal your old wedding ring B. lied about not seeing it and pretended to help look for it C. melt it down to make the wedding ring for his marriage with you. This guy's a total moron and it's best you're shut of him. Therapy's a good idea at this point and I'm glad you're already trying to get some. Otherwise I'd just chill on getting into another relationship until you're ready to trust someone like this again.

[00:30:21] [SPEAKER_00] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? How would you have dealt with it if it was you? Maybe you got a different opinion on the matter. Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Just a huge thank you for being here today getting involved in the stories your love your support your time it always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much for being here it's really really appreciated and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care

[00:30:51] [SPEAKER_00] and much love.