Ex Tells Her Family She Still Owns Our House, Volunteers It For Funeral Guests

[00:00:02] [SPEAKER_00] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit Stories. And if you do love a Reddit Story, why not consider that like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. And let's jump into today's first story. Much love guys.

[00:00:21] [SPEAKER_00] Today's first story is titled, Am I the arsehole for telling my ex that she needs to figure it out when it comes to hosting people for a grandmother's funeral, even though I'm living in a grandmother's house. It starts, I have a two, almost three year old son with my ex. He's the best thing that has ever happened to me. Almost a year ago, I filed for divorce from my ex. We have split custody, 50-50.

[00:00:48] [SPEAKER_00] As child support, I pay $900 a month plus 100% of all healthcare and education related costs for our son. My ex was at home with our son until he was about 10 months old. At that time, she wanted to go to grad school. So we had planned to put our son in daycare. My mum, whom my siblings and I have been supporting, asked if she could watch our son rather than putting him in daycare.

[00:01:12] [SPEAKER_00] My ex was giddy at the idea, but I was a little hesitant because I wanted my mum to enjoy her retirement. But my mum and my ex very much wanted to do it. So I relented. Plus, my son absolutely loves every moment he gets to spend with his mimi. My mum has continued to be the primary caretaker of our son when my ex and I are working.

[00:01:35] [SPEAKER_00] My ex, whom I mostly co-parent well with, wants our son to go to daycare. But my ex cannot afford daycare at all. So she wants me to pay for it. I refuse. Our son still absolutely loves going to his mimi's house. My siblings have kids that our mum looks after. And so my son gets a lot of time with his cousins. My mum still loves doing it. Plus, she was an educator and is bilingual and is doing an amazing job in that department as well.

[00:02:03] [SPEAKER_00] I check in with her to make sure she still wants to do it because I do not want her to be overwhelmed. Plus, the daycare here would cost about $250 to $300 a week. So I refuse. My ex says this setup makes my family have undue influence over our son's development. If that was a concern, she has never expressed that until now.

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_00] Plus, why would our son being under the influence of strangers at daycare be better? This has been a point of contention for about the last month. From I, the Yarsol. I mean, the comment about the undue influence in professional childcare development kind of just feels like your ex has lost control over a big part of your son's life and is now feeling it.

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_00] Because I feel only from like my perspective and people that I know who have who had young children have young children. Many of them have grandparents that look after the kids and want to look after the kids at the same time. So it's a bit of like a bit of a dream setup for them. For these people anyway, I know some people that wouldn't work and it might be a bit of a nightmare for others as well. But the fact is, in this situation, your son seems to be thriving.

[00:03:17] [SPEAKER_00] He's, from what OP said, getting bilingual education, which is amazing in itself. He's getting to socialize with his cousins and your mom actively wants to do this. And you must be saving a hell of a lot of money at the same time. And there's a couple of updates on this. I'm sure something else is going to happen in it. But I wonder if a calm conversation can help this. Just to calm her worries about, you know, completely losing any control over your child, basically.

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_00] But Scoot X says, not the arsehole. Lots of people would kill for their kids to have daily time with grandparents and cousins in a safe environment. That sounds like a huge win for your child. Not some influence problem. Unexpectedly Tired says, both parents trust OP's mom. It's free. She was an educator. She can teach the children another language. It will be socialization. It's a perfect solution. House says,

[00:04:12] [SPEAKER_00] You are taking OP's word that both parents trust her and think this is a good environment. There was a similar setup with my in-laws and the cousins when my kids were little. And I insisted they go to a professional, licensed, fully staffed daycare. I would not be comfortable with my toddler being cared for by one elderly woman who is also caring for several other children full-time. It could also be other factors that the mother has concerns about. For example, perhaps the kid is not well supervised.

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_00] The grandmother is a religious fanatic. She spanks the kids, etc. Perhaps they badmouth the mother openly. Perhaps the cousins are violent or bad influences. There are many, many situations where licensed childcare is better than the free family alternative. OP responded to that one saying, My ex insisted that we utilize my mom for childcare. Throughout our marriage, she continued to insist we use my mom for childcare. From 10 months old until he was 25 months.

[00:05:12] [SPEAKER_00] My mom was our childcare and my ex expressed nothing but gratitude and appreciation for it. I was the one who had expressed any type of trepidation about it at any time. When I filed for divorce and my ex was trying to get me to reconsider, for us to go to counseling, etc., she never expressed any issues with my mom being childcare. She continued to express to me and to my mom how appreciative she was for my mom providing childcare for our son.

[00:05:36] [SPEAKER_00] It is only after the divorce was finalized a few months back that she first expressed any type of concern. And the only concern expressed to me is undue influence. And the only basis I have been given for that concern is the amount of time our son spends with my mom. Nevertheless, she continues to utilize my mom for childcare. In fact, she uses my mom for childcare more than I do. So, it was three months later that OP came in with another post, another Am I the Arsehole post,

[00:06:05] [SPEAKER_00] which was titled, Am I the Arsehole for telling my ex that she needs to figure it out when it comes to hosting people for a grandmother's funeral, even though I'm living in her grandmother's house. Max and I got divorced earlier this year. When we were married, we bought her grandmother's house. This house was built in the 1910s and has been in my ex's family since then. It is quite large. It was de facto the house where my ex's family would stay when they came into town for anything.

[00:06:34] [SPEAKER_00] This continued into our purchase of the house and was a part of my decision to divorce her. When we bought it, we primarily used my premarital savings and inheritance. That was five-ish years ago. When we got divorced, the court determined that the bulk of the house, 90% belonged to me in accordance with our post-nup agreement. My ex tried a number of scenarios where she would keep the house or it would go into a trust for our kid, so it would stay in the family. The only thing I would agree to is selling the house,

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_00] her buying me out or me buying her out. We went with the latter because my ex did not have the money to buy me out. The day after Christmas, my ex's grandmother died. She'd been sick for years and the reason we bought the house is because she could no longer live on her own and desperately needed money for end-of-life care. Anyway, yesterday afternoon, my ex's cousin showed up to the house with his family. He drove into town for the funeral on Thursday. Apparently, he and his sister texted my ex and said they would be staying at

[00:07:33] [SPEAKER_00] the house, inside a family term for my house, and she indicated she was okay with that. I called my ex and asked her why she volunteered my house for hosting people. She apologized and said she'd been running around getting things done for the funeral, but she asked if I'd be willing to host because they really do not have space for people without using the house. I told her no, and that they need to get hotels or whatever else arrangements. She said they do not have money to get everyone hotels and people are struggling financially.

[00:08:03] [SPEAKER_00] That there is plenty of extra room in the house. They could just be in the finished basement with their own bathroom, kitchen, entry and exit. I told her no. She got quite upset and hung up on me. I told the cousin and his family that they cannot stay. Am I the arsehole? Edit. People seem to be assuming the house was discounted to us when we bought it. It was not. It has been on the market for a year and the price had been decreased multiple times with no offers for the listed price at any point.

[00:08:34] [SPEAKER_00] We bought it for the initial price it was listed for, which was the appraisal price. Two. My personal preference was that my ex buy me out of the house. She did not have the money to do so. My next preference was to sell the house. My ex begged me to keep the house, so I agreed to do so. Three. The trust idea she had would mean putting the house in a trust with a life estate to me and the remainder to my son. This would effectively prohibit me from selling the house.

[00:09:01] [SPEAKER_00] I have no intentions of selling now, but I refuse to put myself in a position where I cannot sell in the future if I decide I need to do so. But I do have a trust for my son now, three years old, where he will inherit my assets at the time I die. Own Word says to OP, Info, why did hosting family contribute to the divorce? Also, was she a stay-at-home mom? OP says her family would show up whenever slash however they wanted. Generally would make a mess and generally were rude and mean to me.

[00:09:30] [SPEAKER_00] Because of this, when we bought the house, one of my conditions was that it would be treated like our home rather than the family house. We have a three-year-old son. While we were married, before our son was conceived or born, she was going to school and working part-time. I paid all expenses. After our son was born, she continued to go to school and work part-time. I continued to pay all expenses. We waited until he was 10 months old, until he started going full-time to my mom's house.

[00:09:58] [SPEAKER_00] My son was born October 2022. At that time, my ex was finishing out a second undergraduate degree with a graduation in May 2022. My ex finished the degree in May 2022. During my son's first 10 months, if my ex had class, had to work, etc. Either I would be home with our son, my mom would watch him, or we'd get a babysitter. A house had caused fights and threats of lawsuit between her family before we bought.

[00:10:25] [SPEAKER_00] And she was asking me to spend 70% plus of my share of the inheritance my father spent 45 years building for my siblings and I. So yes, I asked for a post-nup. Fakebot Simp says, Sounds like your wife has maybe not told her family that the house isn't owned by her anymore. Lane says, This is probably it right here. She may have thought if she could sneak this one by, no one would be visiting anymore with grandma gone, and they would never need to know that she lost their house. Commodore says,

[00:10:55] [SPEAKER_00] Well, the family can put the money together and buy it from OB collectively. The audacity of some people. Sammy says, She didn't even ask. People just showed up on your door that she already told could stay in your house. Not the arsehole. Radon says, Probably because she knew the answer. Maybe she hoped OB would buckle under the social pressure. A downvoted commenter says, Your post said cousin asked your wife and she said yes, they could stay.

[00:11:21] [SPEAKER_00] She would never have said that if she had told you that you were not invited. Unless she asked you to look after the baby and that is different than not invited. Nobody is dumb enough, no matter how dumb they are, to think that they would tell their ex they're not invited to her family funeral while asking them to host their family for said funeral. Nobody. So yes, I don't believe you. Clearly, you were told not invited after said episode, which is logical. The biggest issue for what you did, other than be a complete arsehole with zero empathy

[00:11:51] [SPEAKER_00] in a moment of great need, is you nuked your relationship with your son's mom's side of the family. Of course, you could be okay with that, but it will have repercussions on your relationship with your ex in the future, which will impact your son. OP responded saying, I'm not invited. You know my ex okayed people to stay at my house without checking with me at all, right? Like, not calling or texting whatsoever. Why would you think it would be a faux pas in her mind to invite them to stay if I'm not invited to the funeral?

[00:12:20] [SPEAKER_00] My ex does not care at all about the decorum here. You would think no one is dumb enough to invite family to stay with their ex for at least four nights without checking with their ex, but that is what happened and why I made this post. There is nothing logical about anything my ex did here. But you're free to believe what you want and ignore inconvenient facts. There is a lot of that going around. Still, Wafer says, I'm saying that in a shared property state, a judge doesn't just grant a postnup awarding

[00:12:48] [SPEAKER_00] all marital assets to one spouse. This guy sounds bitter and spiteful. OP says the house was not a marital asset. I used premarital assets, premarital savings and inheritance to buy, renovate, pay taxes, and pay HOA fees for the home throughout the marriage. In the postnuptial agreement, I granted her 10% of the home, but I paid for 100% of it with premarital assets. The postnup also clarified it was not a marital asset.

[00:13:17] [SPEAKER_00] The court did award her half of the marital assets, checking account, savings, mutual fund. I also gave her a car that I bought premarriage, but she had driven throughout the marriage. I was ordered to pay her $12,000 in alimony, $500 a month in alimony for two years. I paid her the full $12,000 up front. She also received the 10% of the home. All in all, she walked away with over $100,000 in cash, roughly around $130K, along with household goods and a car.

[00:13:47] [SPEAKER_00] So it was three weeks after that that OP came in again and said a number of people have asked for an update. Not much has happened until a few days ago. On Saturday, one of my ex's cousins, not the one who showed up at my door, we'll call him Dave, texted me. As you probably guessed from my original post, I do not have the best relationship with my ex's family. This was true while we were together. However, I did have a good rapport with this particular cousin.

[00:14:14] [SPEAKER_00] Apparently, my ex and a number of the other family members have been talking bad about me in the family group chat. Dave reached out to get my side of things, but understood if I did not want to talk. I called him and relayed much of what I said in my original post and comments to him. What I learned from my conversation with Dave is, my ex told her family, after the divorce, that she still co-owned the house with me, that I do not abide by the court's order regarding expenses for our son and that she cannot afford a lawyer to fight me on it.

[00:14:44] [SPEAKER_00] I set the record straight for him on both accounts. I owned 100% of the house and bought her out of her 10% share. I also pay 100% of the medical costs in childcare and education costs for our son as ordered by the court. I also pay more than the court ordered amount for child support. We talked a little bit more to catch up and I thought nothing of it. Apparently, Dave decided to share the details of our conversation in the family group chat.

[00:15:09] [SPEAKER_00] On Monday, I got an angry long text from my ex about what Dave said in the group chat and that she wanted to talk. We talked yesterday. She expressed how frustrated she is with everything, that she was and still is willing to do whatever it takes to make our relationship work. She said, If I'm not willing to try and make it work, the least I could do is work with her so she can pay me off over time for the house. Put the house in a trust for our son so it stays in the family and not badmouth her to her family.

[00:15:37] [SPEAKER_00] I reiterated that there are no circumstances under which I would want to be with her, the least of which is that she is actively lying about me and our divorce to her family. I also restated that I will not let her pay me off for the house because it will take her decades to even pay me back for how much money I've put into the house, even if there was no interest. I will not put it in a trust because the type of trust she wants is specifically designed to prevent me from selling the house in the future if I need to do so.

[00:16:04] [SPEAKER_00] I also stated that I did not ask Dave to share any of our conversation and everything I said to him was 100% factual. I told her, Moving forward, I'm doing no more than what I am legally obligated to do for her. We'll only pay the child support amount that is legally required and not a cent more. I will put the extra I was paying towards the money I was already setting aside for our son. If she wants to buy the house, she can at fair market value. But I will sell the house if or when

[00:16:33] [SPEAKER_00] I feel it is appropriate for myself and our son, regardless of what her or her family want. If or when I sell it, I will get the highest price possible, regardless of whether that person is part of my ex's family. And if her family keep being a problem about the house, it will probably be sooner rather than later. She left mad, but that is where things stand. Obasor Ranch simply says to Opie on the back of this one, Good for you. This was a nice update. I hope she felt embarrassed having her lies called out in the group chat like that.

[00:17:03] [SPEAKER_00] The Ninja Pixie says, She won't feel shame or embarrassment, just anger at being called out publicly. Trove of Catastrophe says, Wow, I can't believe she signed a post nuptial that only gave her 10%. Was it time slash condition based? Did you both have separate lawyers look over it? How long were you married? So many questions. Did she work? Did all her family take Dave's version over hers? Opie says,

[00:17:43] [SPEAKER_00] Bloody hell, that is absolutely wild. Your ex lied to her entire family about still owning the house and then volunteered your property for the funeral at some kind of Airbnb for the family. For free, by the way. And is now angry at you that you won't let her come up with some kind of long payment plan to buy this house or get trapped by putting the house in a trust of some sort where you can't sell it. And the fact is, you didn't bad mouth.

[00:18:12] [SPEAKER_00] Dave approached you about this, wanted to know what was going on and you just simply told the truth. What was happening? That's one of those situations where I hope it's over for Opie and they can move on with their lives. But I'd certainly be documenting everything going forward. Just in case other stuff comes up because you've still got a co-parent, right? But what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Let's move on to another story.

[00:18:40] [SPEAKER_00] Now our next story comes from a throwaway account from the Relationship Advice subreddit was also in the Am I Overreacting and the Am I the Arsehole here subreddit too. It's titled, I, male 21, I'm stuck between pregnant twin sister, female 21, and parents drama. What can I do? Temporary account. I'm not revealing too many details, but I'd appreciate honest opinions. I, male 21, have a twin sister. When we were 12,

[00:19:10] [SPEAKER_00] we immigrated to Canada. When we started university, our parents paid for all our expenses so we could focus on studying and not worry about working to pay the bills. At one condition, no having children before graduating, finding a job, and becoming financially independent. I've been with my girlfriend who is the same age as me for a year. My sister met Ed, male 42, last year. From the start, my parents were against her dating an older man.

[00:19:39] [SPEAKER_00] They had many talks with her, but she insisted she loved him. Later, she told my parents she was pregnant. They begged her to terminate the pregnancy, which upset her. She told them she did not need their help. She said she was quitting school anyway and went no contact. She messaged me yesterday, saying Ed broke up with her and kicked her out. They'd been having problems and he'd been seeing other women. She asked if she could live with me until she figures things out. She's due in March.

[00:20:09] [SPEAKER_00] Here is the problem. If my parents find out, they would probably cut me off financially too. I do not want to get involved in this drama. I'm doing really well in school because I can focus completely on studying without worrying about work. My girlfriend, and we do not live together, thinks I'm being an arsehole. She says my sister is leaving an abusive situation and I need to help her. Here are my options. Be a good brother and a decent person and help out my sister and lose everything.

[00:20:37] [SPEAKER_00] Or tell my sister that you made your bed so enjoy laying on it. What is the reasonable solution to this situation? How do I fix this without burning my future to the ground? TLDR, I'm a 21-year-old university student whose parents fully support me financially under strict conditions. My twin sister got pregnant by a 42-year-old man, went no contact with our parents and quit school. Now that he kicked her out, she wants to live with me while pregnant. If my parents find out, they will likely cut me off financially,

[00:21:06] [SPEAKER_00] which would hurt my education. My girlfriend thinks I'm wrong for hesitating and my sister is leaving an abusive situation. I'm torn between protecting my future and helping my sister. Added, My sister is keeping the baby. She's due soon. Perhaps I wasn't clear enough. When she first found out she was pregnant, she reached out to my parents. They begged her to get an abortion. She said no and told him she doesn't need them. She said she and Ed are fine without them. Then after a breakup,

[00:21:35] [SPEAKER_00] she reached out but this time my parents refused to even talk to her so she called me instead as a last resort. Ed is a deadbeat loser with a crappy job. He's still legally married, separated for years from his wife and had kids with his wife. There was a commenter who was downvoted asking why his parents would cut him off and Opie said, Because there is huge drama between my parents and my sister. They don't like the money they give goes to her. If I do, I'll get cut off too probably.

[00:22:05] [SPEAKER_00] Another commenter says, Look into women's shelters. Was she abused at all? Opie says, Well, she said he was emotionally and verbally abusive, so yes. Remember says, Who is also downvoted. Sorry but yeah, you're the arsehole here. It might not be easy but our moral strength is tested on whether we do the right thing in the face of adversity. Not just when it's the easy choice. If you leave your twin sister pregnant and homeless with nowhere to go but back to an abuser twice her age. When you had somewhere she could have stayed, yeah,

[00:22:34] [SPEAKER_00] that makes you an arsehole. Opie says, Then we will both be homeless. I have to find a job to provide for her. Me and her baby. My grades will suffer. Bill Dipp says, You can't set your future on fire to keep someone else warm today. The idea that you should sacrifice your education and financial help from your parents in order to help your sister is nuts. Look for alternative resources. Extended family who can help or tell your girlfriend to take in your sister.

[00:23:03] [SPEAKER_00] Also talk openly with your parents about your sister's situation and ask them if they think you should take her in or help her out. I realize you think they would cut off their assistance but you need to know for sure. Opie says, Unfortunately my girlfriend can't. She lives with a roommate too. I live in a studio apartment. All our relatives are back home. I'm going to call my parents and beg them to help her. My only option at this point. Penguin says, I suppose that by living in Canada you guys have strong laws

[00:23:32] [SPEAKER_00] that protect single parents and their children. She should fight that in court if able. You're in no obligation to help her. She kind of made her own bed and your life may be negatively affected if you let a baby move in with you. Opie says, That if she goes after Ed. I mentioned about him helping and she got upset and said forget about him. Penguin replies saying, Unless something bad happened, you know what I mean. She needs to act like a grown up because she is and go to court and not forget him.

[00:24:02] [SPEAKER_00] He's the father of his child. He needs to act like one. Opie says, I completely agree. He's the father and he should pull his weight. My sister wants nothing to do with Ed and expects me to help her. I get it. She's my sister but I don't want my grace to suffer either. Opie also says, Ed already has kids with his wife so I'm not sure if he even wants to be involved. He can't be involved and still help financially but my sister told me to forget about him. Lucy loves apples says, Surely you can help her

[00:24:31] [SPEAKER_00] in other ways such as helping her apply for housing and benefits and supporting her emotionally when the baby is born. The real assholes are your parents because what they did was rather callous. Opie says, The waiting list housing for low income families is years where I live. Yes, I agree. My parents are being unfair and cruel. Opie then replies to a downvoted commenter saying, Are you in Canada? What public service are you talking about? CCB starts after the baby is born. What magical support is out there that you know of and no one does?

[00:25:03] [SPEAKER_00] Someone asks about other siblings and where she is staying. Opie says, Yes, we do. We have an 11-year-old brother. She is for now staying at her friend but she has to leave by Friday. And then says, Well, I feel like an asshole but everyone warned her about this creep. Even when she got pregnant, my parents talked to her and she refused to listen. I agree it's my parents' job to support her but now I'm paying the price of her mistakes. Weekly Conversation says, It's a studio apartment. Her living there will probably be against his lease

[00:25:33] [SPEAKER_00] and seriously disrupt his life and education. Imagine trying to study with a crying baby and you have nowhere to go for a quiet place to study. Opie says, Oh my God, I haven't even considered that. I doubt my landlord even allowed her and her baby to stay with me. Weekly says, She's unable to take care of her baby. What's her plan? Live with you in your studio apartment for an unknown amount of time? Opie says, Yes, until she comes up with a plan. Figure out childcare, get a job and have enough money. Opie says, I know,

[00:26:02] [SPEAKER_00] when I asked her what her plan was, she had none. When is she planning to go back to work after birth? She has no clue. Is she going after Ed for support? Absolutely not. Then, it's a permanent thing. She said, No, but she has no one and wants my help. Someone asks about the sister's work and says, She now works part-time at Shoppers and apparently not getting along with her manager. I really wish my parents would help her. But Opie did come in with an update and said, I left multiple messages for them, the parents.

[00:26:32] [SPEAKER_00] They haven't called me back. Fingers crossed they will. Opie later that day comes in saying, I'm going to their place on Friday. Hopefully, they won't cut me off too. Who knows really? Two days later, Opie comes in and says, Probably my last update. I managed to get a hold of my parents. It turns out they didn't reject my sister. They're willing to help her but only under their conditions. She needs to go back to school when the baby is one. My parents will pay for her expenses

[00:27:02] [SPEAKER_00] and the baby's expenses. She is not allowed to party, date, or do anything like that. My parents basically said that if she has time to party or go on dates, she has time to take care of her baby. They will help with childcare if she wants to study, rest, or go to school. She can move in with them until she graduates and gets a job that can support herself and the baby. In other words, my sister did not tell me the whole story. I called her afterwards. She said she didn't mention that because this is extremely controlling,

[00:27:32] [SPEAKER_00] misogynistic, and toxic. She said they cannot control a grown woman or decide her love life. I told her this is pretty much her only option. She said she is disgusted that I abandoned her and put my own happiness first. I asked her what her plan was. She hung up. I know I probably deserve to be called an arsehole, but I really cannot afford to quit school right now to help her. A top commenter said to this one, you did the right thing, OP. Their conditions are fair considering she won't be able to pay for anything

[00:28:02] [SPEAKER_00] while her and her child lives there. I mean, considering the situation, I don't think what the parents were saying was unreasonable. You know, they'll pay for her expenses, the baby's expenses, she gets to go back to school, and they help with childcare when she wants to study, rest, or go to school. I mean, considering what's happened in her life so far, that's almost like a dream scenario, but only under the conditions that she's not allowed to party, date, or do anything like that, and she rejected it

[00:28:31] [SPEAKER_00] because of that. It kind of just felt to me like the parents wanted her to grow a bit, look after her kid a bit before she moves on and does anything else because up to this point, her life has been pretty wild. And the fact that she turned this on OP at the very end, saying that she's disgusted that you abandoned her and put your own happiness first, it's just really frustrating. And another of the top comments on this one was just saying you can't help someone

[00:29:00] [SPEAKER_00] who doesn't want to help themselves. And I think, unfortunately, that's absolutely true in this situation. She isn't going to take any responsibility. And a lot of this just sounds like self-sabotage in the end. I mean, she wasn't going for child support or anything like that. It's just, ugh, deary me. But now, I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Maybe you got a different opinion

[00:29:29] [SPEAKER_00] on the matter. Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. And just a huge thank you for being here today, getting involved in the stories, your love, your support, your time. It always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so, so much for being involved. Truly, it's absolutely amazing. And hopefully, I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love.