AITA For Throwing My INTROVERTED Daughter A Party - She BEGGED Me Not To | r/AmITheDevil

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[00:00:18] [SPEAKER_01] Now today's collection of stories is a special request from CanadianFrug and we're covering the AmITheDevil subreddit. It starts off with a post cross-posted from the AmITheArsehole subreddit titled, AmITheArsehole for Ruining My Daughter's Birthday. And this was a deleted user by the way. Throw away because my daughter uses Reddit. I, 45 male, have three kids. 16 male, 14 male and 12 female.

[00:00:47] [SPEAKER_01] This story concerns 12 female. Now my daughter's birthday falls on New Year's so it tends to be disregarded. Never on purpose. Because it's between two big holidays but we've always tried to make her feel special. My daughter is a known introvert and tends to spend a lot of time in her room and if we're at a family event she just sits in a corner on her phone. She is very unconventional in the sense that she doesn't desire a lot of things that are typical of girls her age. Me and my wife have been a lot of fun and she's a lot of fun.

[00:01:17] [SPEAKER_01] She tried to fix this and get her to open up more but to no avail. The issue arose because when me and my wife asked her how she wanted to spend her birthday. She said something along the lines of, alone with snacks in my room this request wasn't outlandish for her but spending your birthday alone doesn't seem like a good way to spend your birthday would also reflect poorly on us as the

[00:01:41] [SPEAKER_01] family likes big celebrations so instead we invited family over on her birthday for a birthday slash new year's celebration it was a barbecue with lots of snacks a projector that my brother brought in a rented bouncy castle i thought she would realize that this was better and a more productive way to spend her birthday but i was wrong she was miserable the whole time and just sat in the

[00:02:04] [SPEAKER_01] corner when everyone left late at night she started screaming at me and my wife about how we ruined her birthday my wife did most of the scolding and she was sent to her room how could we ruin her birthday if her plans were just bed rotting she was also mad because she didn't get the gift she wanted which was a hot chocolate machine she's the only family member who drinks hot chocolate and

[00:02:30] [SPEAKER_01] she's not 50 so we got us something else that we thought she would appreciate more this morning she ignored all of us including my sons who are on our side because they think she's being ungrateful since the party was great i was just trying to make her birthday special am i he asked oh my word your daughter told you exactly what would make her happy for her birthday which was alone time snacks and her

[00:02:58] [SPEAKER_01] room that's not air quotes bed rotting that's an introvert telling you her genuine needs and then you did the exact opposite of what she asked for a crowd noise and just extended socializing on what should have been her day you asked her what she wanted she told you and then you decided you knew better and gave her the exact opposite of what she wanted that's not making her birthday special for

[00:03:25] [SPEAKER_01] her that's making it special for you and everyone else who thought it was a good idea and it was the same with a hot chocolate machine i mean it was telling wasn't it that she's the only one who drinks hot chocolate so why wouldn't that be perfect for her instead you got her something you thought she would appreciate more again this isn't about her it's about your vision of who she should be just trust to her when she's telling you what she wants because otherwise you're going to end up like a lot of these

[00:03:52] [SPEAKER_01] stories that we see in this when they turn 18 that'll be it but in the comments happy banana says you're the arsehole i mean you cannot really be this obtuse you asked her what she wanted she told you you ignored her and did the exact opposite of course she's upset you have no business scolding her for a situation of your own making white rose's quote saying guys my daughter told me what she wanted for her birthday and instead i did the opposite of that i couldn't possibly be wrong could i then says

[00:04:21] [SPEAKER_01] like who gives a shit what your family thinks op he gave her what for an introvert is the equivalent of an orchestra tuning up for hours and now you're pissy she hated it best of luck seeing her again when she turns 18 you're the arsehole hook says i love the fact that her punishment is being sent to her room was what she actually wanted for her birthday even budget says you're the arsehole quoting she was also mad she didn't get the gift she wanted which was a hot chocolate machine saying she's the

[00:04:49] [SPEAKER_01] only family member who drinks hot chocolate and she's not 50 so we got her something else and then says gross what awful parenting quoting again my sons are on our side because they think she's been ungrateful since the party was great and then says nasty bullying family on our side that's so gross what parents pits kids against each other and claim kids are on our side quoting again she was miserable

[00:05:14] [SPEAKER_01] the whole time and just sat in the corner and says the party was not great for your daughter the party was a huge failure for your daughter the birthday girl which you don't care about such terrible parenting i struggle to believe this is real and one more comment who says you're the arsehole why would you ask her and then immediately proceed to disregard her wishes and throw her a huge party we introverts

[00:05:39] [SPEAKER_01] do exist no you do not need to fix us we don't like to be around a lot of people because it's obnoxious and draining for us and obviously we won't be happy when we're forced to do it next time listen to your daughter do something small in your family with no extended family and keep it short to acknowledge her birthday blow the candles eat the cake give her the gift and leave her alone if she wishes to be

[00:06:03] [SPEAKER_01] alone and as it was said this was from a deleted account so clearly didn't like the reaction but i certainly hope this person has learned from the comments because like people were saying when this daughter turns 18 and they've been treated this way for a long time yeah it's not going to end well is it but what do you guys make of this situation let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:06:30] [SPEAKER_01] and let's move on to another story now our next story was would i be the butt face if i demanded to know who reported me to hr and then says i'm in my early 30s and male in our office i'm known as a bit of a jokester nothing mean and i don't go out of my way to prank someone or hurt someone's feelings but i have plenty of jokes and give lots of silly nicknames there is a newer woman in our office

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_01] she's in her early 20s and she has a three-year-old they live in an rv park a few miles away from work and i've nicknamed her rv reba i didn't see the harm it's just a silly nickname i've given silly nicknames to most of my co-workers if anyone complains about it i just explain i don't mean anything by it it's just a silly thing i do and there was no reason for them to be offended RV Reba wasn't

[00:07:22] [SPEAKER_01] thrilled with the nickname said it was insulting but i explained it wasn't intended to be it was just something silly i came up with she asked me to stop using it i don't use it around her much anymore but i think it's a silly thing to get upset about so i still use it around others well someone reported me to hr i got called into a meeting this morning and given a written warning

[00:07:46] [SPEAKER_01] to stop harassing my co-workers i don't see how this is harassing at all they're silly nicknames i asked who reported me and they said it was not just one person but multiple complaints rv reba and a few others were getting coffee and i wanted to know who reported me rv reba said she didn't know but was glad that they spoke to me about it since i wasn't listening to them asking me to stop i think

[00:08:12] [SPEAKER_01] it was probably her and one of the two co-workers who can never take a joke i want to know exactly who it was though a few co-workers said i'm already the butt face and should let it go but i really want to know who reported me would i be the butt face if i demanded to know who it was as soon as op said that they were a jokester in this i was like oh my word this isn't going to end well straight away is it the the fact is multiple people have found your behavior uncomfortable enough to actually complain

[00:08:40] [SPEAKER_01] to hr about this and you still don't seem to be taking it seriously even to the very end of this post person told you the nickname was insulting and asked you to stop your response was well i don't think it's insulting so i'll just keep using it when you're not around that's not respecting this person that's just taking the piss basically and then you said what you explained that there was no reason to be offended you don't get to make that choice and hr has already told you to stop you've got a

[00:09:09] [SPEAKER_01] written warning this is past the point of let me investigate who's against me you just basically need to change your behavior and stop being an asshole to people or face the fact that you're probably going to get sacked very soon but sfb says i think you know you're the butt face your jokes aren't amusing to others this has been explicitly spelled out to you multiple times from the sounds of it therefore you should have already stopped if others aren't laughing it's not funny if it's not

[00:09:39] [SPEAKER_01] funny it's not a joke if it's not a joke your continued behavior is harassment stop it before you quite rightly lose your job wicked says you're the butt face massively you zero in on something that someone finds embarrassing and repeatedly pointed out to all and sundry you say it's just a laugh but plainly not for reba i'm glad your colleagues reported you you sound like a horrible person to have around another commenter says you're the arsehole and insulting what's wrong with you you're not

[00:10:07] [SPEAKER_01] funny you don't get to demand anything you can request you can be told no you do not get to decide what people want or like to be called you do not get to decide what someone feels about anything with multiple people complaining i'm shocked you're not in more trouble what you're doing is harassment and bullying you're at a place of work be more mature and professional glamour says jokesters

[00:10:32] [SPEAKER_01] and prank pullers are just another name for i'm an arsehole get it when someone says stop you freaking stop not i don't use it much anymore it's full stop never use it again you sound insufferable i'd hate to work with you now i'm going to turn this one to you guys what do you guys make of this situation let us know your thoughts down in the comments below let's have another story our next one says would i be the

[00:11:00] [SPEAKER_01] arsehole for putting a broken appliance back on someone's curb after taking it for free it said i saw an appliance on someone's curb with a free vibe it didn't have a sign but my city doesn't have curbside pickup for appliances so there was no mistaking that it was on offer for anyone who wanted it no sign saying it was broken or for parts so i loaded it up and took it home once i got it there

[00:11:27] [SPEAKER_01] i realized it's fully broken and now it's my problem i wasted time and gas hauling it and now i'm stuck either paying to dump it or fooling somebody else into taking it it's only been out for a couple of hours in good weather so there's no chance it was a working fridge that was ruined by the weather part of me wants to put it back on their curb since they're the ones who put broken junk out for strangers without saying anything it feels fair in a karmic sense since making people

[00:11:56] [SPEAKER_01] think that you're offering them a working fridge to save yourself a trip to the dump is an arsehole move on the other hand that also feels like i can't be dumping trash on their property even though they put it there in the first place so would i be the arsehole if i took the broken appliance back and left it where i found it instead of dealing with it myself absolutely i think you're the arsehole in this situation you took it without any knowledge about it you know had a vibe about it but

[00:12:25] [SPEAKER_01] that's that's again that's a you problem and i'm not sure what it's like in other places and even in the uk itself but i know from like local area people put appliances out on the curbside for you know because occasionally scrap metal people will come around and take them and if they don't take them then you deal with it yourself afterwards but generally the vibe is if something's out on the curb like that if it hasn't got a sign on it it's broken and you just don't take it but elk waffle

[00:12:53] [SPEAKER_01] says on this one you're the arsehole you took it your problem dumping it back would be fly tipping take this as a warning not to take random junk off the street because you think it might work they never claimed it was working and it didn't have a sign on it you took the risk all you know they paid a scrap service to collect it when someone dumps something out on the street to me the default is the default isn't this is a perfectly working appliance it's this is broke

[00:13:20] [SPEAKER_01] and they brought a new one so they dumped it outside they didn't trick you you took a shot and it didn't pan out that's just how it goes normal ad says you're the arsehole and the curb is for trash you took someone's trash and now you're mad that it's trash strange casual law says you're the arsehole this is honestly funny because people place things on the curb for bulk pickup that they pay for i've done this many times with appliances i wonder if you took something that was slotted for pickup

[00:13:49] [SPEAKER_01] it's not like they get a refund if it's not there you took it it's your responsibility now next time knock on the door and ask and gb says you're the arsehole for wanting to put it back why would you assume that anything put at the curb is functional they got rid of it for a reason probably because it's broken you took a chance it doesn't work now you have to figure out how to dispose of it you to blame them for not putting a description of the item working or not working is ridiculous

[00:14:18] [SPEAKER_01] saying it's an arsehole move on their part is even more ridiculous this just proves even more you're the arsehole i don't know anybody an explanation of the item's functionality if they put it on the curb suck it up buttercup and now you have to figure out how to dispose of it i do love it when people get sassy in a post but what do you guys make of this one let us know your

[00:14:42] [SPEAKER_01] thoughts down in the comments below let's move on to another story oh bloody hell check out this title this one's from a throwaway account and says i 33 male am developing a crush on my wife's 34 female cousin 33 female how long until these feelings fade i have a huge crush on my wife's cousin candice this is a terrible situation i found myself in i should say i genuinely think i have the greatest

[00:15:12] [SPEAKER_01] wife anna in the world and it's not even close she's an amazing woman mother and wife when i met her she approached me at the bar and i was flattered we hit it off almost instantly she was nervous but i found it cute and she said she doesn't normally approach guys but wanted to talk later that night her cousin slash best friend came and my jaw was on the ground candice is just a fucking gorgeous machine

[00:15:37] [SPEAKER_01] everything about her but it was too late i did wonder how different things would have been if i met candice first but 10 years later i would say things worked out we got married and have a great little girl the thought had completely left my head until recently about two months ago candice had to drop something off and i took off while my wife was at work she had borrowed my laptop because hers broke

[00:16:02] [SPEAKER_01] while she gets a new one we were just talking and drinking wine watching 90 day fiance and she confessed to me that when she showed up she thought i was handsome and it sucked i was already talking to anna my jaw was on the ground and i told her when i saw her i was like damn and wishing i saw you first and she said is that so i immediately changed the subject and my heart was pounding eventually she

[00:16:27] [SPEAKER_01] left and went home she later texted me later saying she wants to hook up one time and that she would text my wife that she needs help fixing a dishwasher and to reply yes or no and then delete the conversation she said she would understand either way i just said i will be over there and deleted the message i waited and my wife said she would take care of our daughter and that candice needs help with the dishwasher i went over there with zero intention to have sex with her and to just let her know we

[00:16:55] [SPEAKER_01] can't do this but unfortunately things went the other direction and had sex we agreed it was just a one time you only live once moment and that was that unfortunately that moment started bringing up old feelings i thought was gone she became much more flirty discreetly i started being distant towards my wife we both know we can't act on it but i kind of wish we could be together but it would hurt too many people

[00:17:21] [SPEAKER_01] and i can't do that but at events we became closer i had food on my face yesterday and she was wiping it off that annoyed my wife who said she can wipe off my husband's face she even complained about it in the car but i reassured her that she's overreacting yeah i'm in a sticky situation i just need help removing my feelings before things get out of control how can i lose these feelings so i can focus on my

[00:17:46] [SPEAKER_01] family edit and i get it i'm a piece of shit you don't have to tell me because no one feels more disgusted at myself than i am i just want actual advice on how to have these feelings fade so i can focus on my family i wouldn't respond to comments just attacking me and not giving genuine advice on how to make the best out of this really shitty situation it's the way that op plays it down throughout this post

[00:18:09] [SPEAKER_01] calling it a sticky situation you're not in a sticky situation you created an ongoing affair and you're asking how to feel better about it without actually facing any consequences when the truth is anna deserves the truth so she can make an actual informed decision about her life going forward because you betrayed her massively renee says bro this isn't a crush you cheated on your wife you need to

[00:18:34] [SPEAKER_01] tell her because eventually it's going to come out anyway better from you than her cousin worldly says this is why cheating is not just a mistake but a series of bad decisions and actions that lead up to the betrayal op if you truly want to stay with your wife you must tell her the complete truth and let her decide whether or not she wants to reconcile with you you must immediately cuddle contact and communication with your affair partner you must sign up for individual counseling to figure out why you're

[00:19:03] [SPEAKER_01] such a lying selfish cowardly arsehole who has no self-control and no respect for his wife to not only betray her but with someone who is a family you deserve every bit of vitriol and karma that is about to come your way congratulations on letting your lust ruin your wife's heart a commoner says you reassured her that she was overreacting she is unknowingly underreacting don't be a gaslighting dick step up and tell her what happened

[00:19:30] [SPEAKER_01] you cheated and now you're making your wife feel crazy because you're telling her any kind of feelings are all in her head though also it's surprising to me that you're using real names is this a fake story and judgment says you're a cheater you actively cheated on your wife you didn't just catch feelings and that is your wife's cousin and you're both gross you need to tell your wife this will eventually come out and you betrayed your wife

[00:19:55] [SPEAKER_01] and daughter because when you cheat you cheat on the whole family you need to cut contact with a cousin immediately and your wife needs to know what kind of family she picked you and has let into her life cousin good job and op never replied or never updated the post either but bloody hell what do you guys make of that one let us know your thoughts down in the comments below let's have another one again this one was cross posted

[00:20:25] [SPEAKER_01] from the amirong subreddit to the amithedevil subreddit from lastwing9135 and says am i wrong for accusing my girlfriend's sister of lying for attention i guess my male 20 now ex-girlfriend layla female 20 has a sister stephanie female 24 who works at a veterinary clinic and the very few stories i hear on what stephanie goes through

[00:20:49] [SPEAKER_01] at her workplace just sounds way too crazy to believe to be honest i don't know much details i can give because these stories are pretty violent this involves a current story where apparently she had a very scary experience with a client i'm embarrassed to admit i was proven wrong on this it started with layla and i planning to have a movie night together when she came over to my dorm room i immediately can tell she was upset so i asked her what's wrong and that's when she dropped the ball on me about stephanie's interaction with the angry client

[00:21:19] [SPEAKER_01] i said really and she told me yes and how the cops were involved and i guess i'm just over it with all stephanie's wild stories so i went no really come on layla and she was getting annoyed and i explained to her on how way too crazy her stories are that she has to be lying to get attention that i don't understand how you or anyone can believe her her defense is that she's her sister so she clearly

[00:21:45] [SPEAKER_01] knows her a lot more than me and she knows stephanie is not a liar and has always been a sufferer in silence kind of person and rarely talked about work i told her that when she does talk about work it's intense to the point of being unbelievable then she started coaxing me to go with her to the store to buy something which i was confused about because we got our favorite movie snack so there's no reason to go to the store eventually i was convinced to go with her

[00:22:11] [SPEAKER_01] it was the most tense ride ever i tried to have a conversation with her but she just remained silent when we got to the store she went in alone while i stayed in the car i was texting my friends about my confusion on what is happening with layla when she came back she bought two boxes of cookies and she drove us to the vet clinic where stephanie works at again now she's coaxing me to go inside with her and i just wanted to know what's going on and she told me you'll know when we go inside so we did

[00:22:40] [SPEAKER_01] we got to the front desk and two of the receptionists said hi layla i thought stephanie already cocked out layla said that stephanie did and that she was just here to draw off some cookies for everyone because of the incident that happened today receptionists were all like oh stephanie told you about that yeah that really scared us and other comments that confirmed that stephanie was telling the truth once we're outside layla just started power walking when she got to the car she

[00:23:07] [SPEAKER_01] turned around and looked at me like she's a mom waiting for a sarky kid a woman with a dog was staring at us and i felt even more embarrassed so i started power walking inside we just sat in silence with her just staring at me really angry and i said okay i was wrong i'm sorry layla asked do you still think she's a liar i didn't answer right away but i did say well i only know this one is

[00:23:31] [SPEAKER_01] true i don't know about the others she really hated that answer next thing i know she keeps repeating get out and get an uber well i tried to talk to her and calm her down but eventually i did get out and she drove off without me one of my friends picked me up and took me back to our dorm i text to layla just in case you care i made it back and she texts back i don't care and i'm done with you

[00:23:57] [SPEAKER_01] this happened a week ago she doesn't interact with me in our classes she's ignoring my texts and calls she hasn't joined me at our lunch date am i wrong now this one hit real close to home with me from like the people not believing side of things if you get what i mean but as someone who's had a hoover i've said this story before as someone who's had a hoover chucked it in from a mason at balcony

[00:24:24] [SPEAKER_01] yeah i get why this one stings because and this is something i'm learning in therapy when your normal is someone else's unbelievable you end up in this impossible spot where sharing your actual lived experience gets you labeled as a liar and in the end all i can think is that's rubbish because those experiences shape who you are they shaped whom who i am today but here's what

[00:24:50] [SPEAKER_01] this guy missed in this story layla wasn't asking him to believe every wild vet story she was asking him to trust her judgment about her sister that's the real issue when you love someone you give them the benefit of the doubt especially about their own family i've got to a point at myself now you know where people don't believe the wild stories that i got and you know you haven't heard the half of them

[00:25:17] [SPEAKER_01] to be quite honest there's some that i can't talk about because of doxing and legal stuff but i know in my heart they're 100 real and they happened and anyone worth keeping in my life will recognize that dismissing my past is dismissing a big part of me whilst at the same time understanding it is difficult for people to get their head round at certain situations that did happen to me because a lot of

[00:25:43] [SPEAKER_01] it is wild at the same time but woody wood says you are wrong bad and violent things happen to people in real life i used to think that the movie is exaggerated when fucked up things happen to people until it happened to me crazy things happen some people are crazy good people had bad things happen to them you can't accuse people about lying about serious things straight off the bat without proof he even admitted in the post that her sister is not a liar and that it's out of character for her

[00:26:11] [SPEAKER_01] so to assume someone is just attention seeking when you admitted that she isn't like that is crazy mila says you are wrong you are based on the fact that you doubled down when you were proven wrong also young and stupid just because you haven't seen things happen doesn't make them lies also you seem to really dislike stephanie is there a reason for that other than you just think she's an

[00:26:36] [SPEAKER_01] over dramatic liar piaville says yes you are wrong what evidence do you have that stephanie is a habitual liar you didn't cite any other examples i had a friend who worked at a vet clinic and she would tell me some pretty crazy stories don't accuse someone of lying unless you are damn sure they're lying jen says you were wrong here dude take it as a learning experience also don't double down after being

[00:27:02] [SPEAKER_01] proven wrong ever with anyone it's shitty and arrogant i'm not saying you are a bad person but you really need to learn a lesson here you're not the smartest person in the room about anything literally learn humility it sounds like you're in college take some sociology classes they're fun and you'll learn valuable skills no matter your chosen major and profession and hyena says mate my first day as a

[00:27:28] [SPEAKER_01] vet tech i had a man spit in my face and call me some very interesting names because i told him that no no you cannot put the kitten you showed up with into an ice cooler to drive it almost two hours home it had just been neutered we said bring something to take it home in like a box if not a carrier just needed to be something it could breathe in we put emphasis on the breathing side he treated it

[00:27:54] [SPEAKER_01] like a suggestion the police got called his wife came back later with an actual cat carrier a very distraught set of little kids who thought they lost their kitty forever and a nice bunch of chocolate cakes to apologize they also were the ones to bring that cat in from the day on not mr ice cooler people are fucking monsters we genuinely do love their animals though hence why we do tolerate a hell of a

[00:28:19] [SPEAKER_01] fucking lot most behavior shown towards us would get you banned from an er or a doctor's office but we do it for the animals not the owners and certainly not for the not so great pay and absolutely some of the comments absolutely nailed it just because it didn't happen to you doesn't mean it didn't happen as i mentioned before stories i've told in the past etc and i could tell more stories that would make

[00:28:47] [SPEAKER_01] people think i'm just making it up for you know shits and giggles basically from the hoover being thrown at someone to a woman that was murdered by a daughter and then she was just found sat opposite staring at the corpse of that person the following morning to eventually that home being completely torched another family whose father disappeared one day and was later found in the river under which was

[00:29:11] [SPEAKER_01] highly suspicious circumstances heights family drama you know as i keep saying i got like hundreds maybe thousands of stories i don't know they pop up all the time when i'm reading other people's experiences as well and i'm going off on one as usual but just to say there is a lot of wild shit out there of course you know there's always going to be some fake stories here and there but

[00:29:35] [SPEAKER_01] it's also a lot of wild shit too but what do you guys make of this situation these situations let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and just a huge thank you for being here today getting involved in the stories your love your support your time it always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much and hopefully see you in the next one take care and much love